Rabbi Yossie Jakubovics speaking at Mishmar Parshas Chayei Sarah at Scheiner's Shul

No problem. >> We're very official here. >> USB. [clears throat] Are you ready? >> Kim, you ready? >> Okay. This week's par. We learn about the life of Abramovu. Continuing the legacy of Abrainu and the delves in to two parts of the life of Abrainu. We see again the gabaldic of the first part of the para deals with the surah as he buys the plat and there's an interesting medish the medish says And the the each part of the P and the P says as follows [clears throat] those that chase after you say of the people that chase they find life of a So on the word the ised buried. And the question is when we look at the life of Abraino the Abra was a whole entire life of servicing or and all the did. This is how the view used the that he buried. Senu what does the medish mean he was the because he buried s that's one question another question I'd like to ask is that further on in the par we see when goes to find a fork he has one tonight one contingency that the girl must be aid she must be as a matter of fact he goes to the family, his family. He goes to and he must find that this girl has to be aid and the show is why why and not only that he comes to the house of and he comes to the house of which they were they were [clears throat] and instead he wants to do a of a family that attends church attends that he's fine with as whom is that this question is already asked by the Rani asked the question in Josh and the Ran says the reason for that is is because if somebody has a beard character trait a mid that goes be from one door to the next door if somebody's a and they do big but their children can grow up they can go to they can go to they can go to seminary and they can learn their own path in life. But still we see that it was so important for was so important for it was so important for to find that the compatible the girl must be >> saying are what passed down. >> Midas is what passes down. Very good. Good point. And we see that as well invoy are ostracized from Israel. They can never ever come into CL. Even if the great great great great great grandchildren want to become Gim they can never ever come and the says why not cuz when is passing by their border they didn't come out they didn't they didn't greet Israel with water and bread >> also shs >> yeah who killed him >> okay >> from coming into as well >> right so this the Torah says a reason And says cuz they should have had a to because went and he saved was his grandchildren and they should have gone out and had the to his grandchildren and they lacked that mida. Therefore they can never ever come Israel the ostracize Israel. So we see that the mid of like you made a very good point goes goes but let's focus on this mid this quality of what is this mid of so let's [snorts] go back to last week's para let's go back just for a moment is recuperating from and he feels very bad that he can't be bach and helps him out he he keeps the Hey, there's a sun, there's a heat wave, nobody's coming. And feels very very bad. He feels terrible. To the point that he's mish, he's he's down. He's balic. So what does do he sends? And he sends the come and is come by the tent of andab tells listen I got to go greet the I got to go greet the bigger isnosis from actually having a giggling of now the very very a couple very simple questions. I know we're asking a lot of questions. Hopefully we'll come out a big sorry then we'll wrap everything up. My question is like this. Why was Abra so upset that he couldn't do? There's no Is anybody in this room upset that they can't take a wester today? I don't think so. It's not sukus. So knew there's no is upset and he's down. He's despondent. >> We we we could always certain time of the year. isn't working. They don't exist. >> You can still get his best ability. >> But but why are you upset? >> I can't do little of an >> I wouldn't get a mitzvah. >> I get But if then I can't do it. >> But the not here. Nobody needs food. >> Well, he was upset. >> Why? He doesn't have the mitzvah. >> But he doesn't have the mitzvah. Mitzvah is not here. Are you upset on Tuesday that you can't make kish? >> Yeah. Yeah. I have the opportunity to do the mitzvah >> and I'm going have the [laughter] I'm I'm sick. I can't run out. I can understand that if there's if there's if there's a guest outside and you can't get to the door because you're in a wheelchair, I understand. I'm upset, but there's no Everybody has what they need. Imagine everybody in S is rich. Everybody had millions of dollars would be upset you can't do. >> I still have the opportunity said this is unbelievable. Wow. >> I still have the opportunity. He still can do but he is not he's not able to. He wants to show he wants to show other people about how to do it and now he can't >> was the first Jew and tora the thera stands on first without you cannot have the Torah has no foundation. >> Okay. So let's let's get to that. We're going to get to in a minute. We're going to develop it. So that's question number one. Question number two is a question that big asked Mahimman asked this question in his cyher in the back in in a letter in the in the in the he doesn't understand something we have a cloud called if somebody is engaged in a mitzvah he is not allowed to stop the mitzvah to do another mitzvah for instance if somebody say and and comes in wants a donation he solicits money According to certain you don't have a right to stop doing the mitzvah that you're engaged in to perform another mitzvah. So here how can go away from he's middle of doing a tremendous he's being he's being so how can he stop the mitzv to go to the he's being so I already hear the tumbling and there's a big ramban there's a big ramban and says that the that wasn't a mitzvah. It was like an extra credit. So maybe one can say like that it wasn't a mitzvah, but they seem to assume and the one who wrote the letter to that it was indeed a mitzvah. So how can time out? I got to go to the mitzvah. And thirdly, I know we're asking a lot of questions, but we're all going to wrap it all up in one minute. Third question is Abrain was called my beloved one. There were three obvious. What what was the character trait? What was the essence of Abrau that he was called Ayavi? My loved one. Why was Abra called my loved one was an AB? Why was Abra Why was he called? What made why was why did love him so much that he called him? [laughter] So maybe we can say like this and maybe we can wrap all the questions up with one you site there's a pelic of med in says that meets up with shame and he meets shame and he says to shame you know what you were in the tell me what happened in the what did it look like what was life in the ta tell me I go on record it what did life look back in the table and tells I'll tell you we were very very busy by day by night. There were animals that were up by day slept by night up by night slept by day up 24 hours slept 24 hours and we my family we are to continuously being involved with with animals. So now if in order to save the world we had to do and his family have to do with animals. So I have to go out and do with human beings and that's why right away went and he built himself an asel and medel is an acronym for and therefore he created a hotel that anybody wanted to come and enjoy refreshments and enjoy a good and eat together with it was Open. It was open. No, I have a question. Here's the question. He was engaged in because he wanted to save the remaining people in this world which was himself and his family. But why did need to be what was the world wasn't coming to an end? When he heard this from about what happened in the metab didn't have to save the world that wasn't mission had to save the remaining people in the world the six seven people that were still alive had to save them so he had to be so what was so said we see we see which he what's his name >> Ruben started alluding which was that the Busim say which really comes from the which is as follows created a world of says why did create this world he created this world because the nature of is and it's in a good nature to share with other people and since Therefore created the world in order that there should be beneficiaries that he can share his withinu was the first of and abrau's mission in life was to create and to share this is that the world was created to be mive with others to benefit and help other people and that's why Abrainu who built himself in there the mindboggling in Brazil in last week's par invites in the and take yourself some bread says to Benil take yourself some bread and bench hey who said anything about this is a scam I invite you in for a meal and I make him say so he says You know what was he invited you in gave you a lavish meal and then the would say you know what thank you very much would say no don't thank me thanks he did a lot more what what au did was he would sit his orim down and say listen I found the abisha and the aisha created the world you know why he created the world to help others that's what you're going to do, you're going to help other people. And then this person would go out and he'd meet another person and he and this is where created a world to do with others. And that's what wants from us wants from all of us to be mive of other people to find people that need our help. And there by giving to other people we are going in the ways of the says there's a for each and every one of us to emulate and go in the ways of and where do we learn this from was the one who took that not message but he took this and he created a world and the Rambam says that Aramino reached over 10,000 PEOPLE 10,000 PEOPLE in the life of Noak couldn't reach one person and au reached over 10,000 people because the mission of au was he was extroverted so no lived a life that's says he was introverted you want to come to me you can come to me a went out and He shared this big just one second I'll get it to you our life is built on a premise of everything that we do in life could could have a component of says even if we have a business and he says a beautiful mush he says a commercial he says a man comes on a train in the morning the man comes into a a train station and he's looking for a horse and buggy and he finds a driver and he says says, "Do me a favor. Take me to the nearest hotel, but it should be a cheap hotel. I I can't afford it, but it should be nice." And the wagon driver says, "You know something? I had this wonderful idea. There's a wonderful hotel on the other side of town, and they have a they have a beautiful accommodation. It's pretty cheap." And he engages him in the conversation. Where you from? And he says, you know, I work the night shift because I need to support my family. A back and forth. And and it brings him to his destination. He bets him off. He he gives him uh he gives him his fear. He says, "Thank you so much. It's going to help me support my family." And that's it. He never sees him ever again. Similar scenario. Guy pulls in 3:00 in the morning and he's looking for a cab. He's looking for a horse and buggy. And this guy comes up and says, he comes and he's cursing. He says, "I GOT TO WORK THE NIGHT SHIFT TO SUPPORT MY FAMILY. IT'S TERRIBLE." HE SAYS, "You know something? Just get me into hotel. Cheap hotel. Nice accommodations." and the cabbage and the horse and buggy driver is thinking the whole time, let me think of a hotel where I can get a kickback from the hotel. Let me go somewhere. They're going to give me some money. So says, the guy comes to the hotel and he tries to pay him. He doesn't even want to take a thank you from him. Just give him the money. He's gone. So the first one was such a he helped the person out. He's nice to him. the other one doing the same exact job but he's missing the component of so we have to look in our lives for ways to emulate no matter what we're doing if we're involved in business we're involved we have to look at ways to help every single person because that's the that's the the job of aid is to and that's what our was teaching us in these parishes so therefore is talking to he is giving him a you can't get bigger than but knows that it's a stealer to be talking to if at the same time you can be emulating and going out and doing what wants most which is helping other people that answers question number one question number two is why was that he didn't haveim He's because that was mission in life was to help other people. So even though there were no and he didn't have a mitzvah but he was upset. Why was he upset? He was upset because he wanted to be a mive to others because THAT'S WHY CREATED THE WORLD. And that maybe is why is called my beloved one because he loved so much took that that and he spread it around the whole entire world. Now let's come to this week's para. Is there a bigger in this world of where you do a for somebody that can't reciprocate? Many times when we do it's because we have SOMETHING IN MIND. OH, I'll take this guy here because he'll be back. OH, I'LL BE FRIEND with him in sh so he'll say something nice to me. I'll give something to the so maybe they'll give me finally or maybe they'll give me maybe they'll give me hag maybe they'll mention my name. Maybe the will say something nice about me when I make a sh for one of my children is like rabbi Ruben mentioned is we do something Mr. Reuben, we do something entirely for a person and you don't get anything back. That is and now we can understand why it's so important in the I saw something beautiful from this morning. Beautiful. What was the sign that Elzar says Elzar says I need the girl to come. I'm going to ask her for a little water and she's going to give me water and then she's going to feed the camels. She's going to give the camels to drink. Ces of he didn't ask her to run a organization. He didn't he didn't ask that she should be the entry. He asked that when she brings her own water to drink, she should pour a little bit for me. She should pour something for the camels. Somebody when they're doing an act and they have somebody else in mind at the same time. That is what is. You don't have to do heroism. You don't have to do big heroics. The mere fact that somebody is thinking about somebody else when they're thinking about themselves. Oh yeah, I'm taking something to drink. Let me give something to my I I I read recently in one of Rabbi Bender's books. Um wonderful thing he said when he was growing up he attended Mala. It's probably over 65 years ago. And he said the first speaker was >> excuse me. I'm sorry. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The first the first time it was Ramb if I'm not mistaken and and the first speaker is Belowki was talking to a bunch of yeshiva boys and he said boys you got to be my on other people. You got to reach out to other and the next speaker was and he says a has to sit in the seat and he can't get out of his seat and he has to run. And the third speaker was a fifel which was always very involved very he said it's not a steer that alone that is learning is such a big ash on others and our whole entire life whatever we do there always people looking at us for direction and always learning from us and that is the concept of look at the flip side of where you don't have what was the town that didn't Everybody was into self-saturating themselves and look what happened to it went down as a place that the calls. So when we engage in and we involve other people when we have a bigger circle there's and there's but when we don't involve other people it becomes now I want to just finish with one story that somebody told me um mish last week told me he I asked him if I can tell the story but I didn't give permission to say his name I believe that this individual in 25 years from now will be from the mai Israel if he's not yet a god He's a tremendous tremendous. I happen to know him because I have a child that attends camp or attended campa and I met him many times in campa and his child whatever has an issue. I don't know exactly what his child issue is but he told me not that long ago recently he told me that at one point of his child's life the child needed a kidney transplant. Need a kidney transplant and it was very hard for him to find a donor. He couldn't find a donor for his child and finally it was decided that his wife was going to be a donor for his child. His wife was going to be a donor. So he told me that before the procedure they needed dialysis for months and if the procedure they needed dialysis for months as well. Don't know why but this is what he told me. And he told me he picked a particular Thursday or the hospital told them in in Boston a particular Thursday of when the transplant was going to take place. So he said he made he was a young family at the time he made all the arrangements of his family know it is to farm all the kids out and he lives somewhere in the tri-state area and they were going to go to Boston and this child's going yeah this child he's a large family 10 children can he farmed all the kids out and he called up all the yeshivas to say tone for his child and for his wife on that particular day of when they're going to have the transplant and everything was set and now his wife went up to Boston on Monday to have a workup Tuesday night, he gets a phone call and he says, "This is Children's Hospital of Boston. We have a tremendous favor to ask of you. There's a child that was supposed to have a transplant on Wednesday morning and Mea Tom Shia, the kidney that was supposed to be transplanted to this child went bad. But there's another donor who was also supposed to give to somebody else and another donor couldn't be a recipient. So the only way that that child who was supposed to have the transplant on Wednesday would be able to get the kidney is if you switch and instead of Thursday, you come on Wednesday and the child that supposed to be on Wednesday will go on Thursday. But the child that's supposed to go on Wednesday can't have the transplant a day later than Thursday and will not be available a day before Thursday. So they said, "But it's your slot. It's your decision and whatever you decide to do, it's perfectly fine. we respect and we wish you good luck. Now he's in Brooklyn. It's late Tuesday night. He's think it's at 10:00. He has no idea how in the world he's going to make all these accommodations. Men are not very good at this making accommodations. Anytime I go away, my wife has to come with me. She's kid I'm going to leave kids in Brooklyn. So anyway, so he's very nervous that you two, right? Anyways, no, for sure not. Right. And so anyways, he said, "No, no way." Anyways, so he says he says that he had no idea what to do. So he called up his father. His father's a very big and he says to his father, "Daddy, do I have to do it?" Not only that, I found out I don't know how he found out. He said, "The other parties are good." So as far as I don't know, we got to quote on this. >> Wow. >> Say Kamki, this is years ago. And Kamki tells him, "Listen, you're going into such a delicate procedure. what's wrong if you do a for somebody else and get your act together. So he tells so he tells me what I said it's in the says knew that the wereim he KNEW NOT YET I don't even know why was he giving them food because is in the hands of the even if the is not deriving a pleasure or deriving benefit still we have to be givers and that's the lesson of the life of Abraino and Abramino in order to have a continuity in order for somebody to perpetuate Abra's legacy he needs a daughter-in-law that's a and that was so important to take a daughter-in-law that would perpetuate and and and and be this unbelievable legacy of and it's only witham is that should help that we all come together. We should all take the lessons from these couple of parases to keep on ending and that's