Rabbi Yosef Viener - Timely Shailos relating to Bochurim and Yungerleit at Scheiner's Sukkos 2026

At 5 after 1, if we're not uh winding down, >> somebody give me a signal coming with the launch, right? >> Pizza will be here. That's really good. >> Okay. So, as always, there was a new set of Shilas and things to discuss that I sent in. Hope to get to some of them. First one actually is no gear to the shasers that we got in between and they're in different sugas. But I'm going to start off with the very common group of them which people think are but they're you have to know what Sak is and where the sugi is and then figure out how to apply it to your friends and the uh other people around. So let me take the first two and then we'll um we'll start trying to uh see what is my closest got into an argument and insulted another baka. thought this would never happen in theory. He'd ask him, "What are you doing?" He says, "I'm a mut when you're being attacked." All sorts of interesting favorites. And Devarm is a real Isra. It's a little bit under the radar. People think it's like it's not not so nice, but everybody does it. is a realist says that it's worse than m is often worse than hurting. So my he insulted and apparently the person shil shot stuff that uh it wasn't really u needed. It wasn't warranted. It wasn't mut and it was over the top. So the fellow this who is close to him was close to him wants to retain the uh the and as everybody does. So he told him you're my best friend you have to back me up on this. So apparently he's having some guilty feelings already. He wanted and the Shiloh is asking he thinks the other boy was right about whatever issue they're arguing about. Is he allowed to defend his friend? It's a very complicated Shiloh. That's a good at least being honest. There two issues over here. You can't if there's being spoken or anything is going on the anything that's going on the conversation which does take place various times various people says it comes to and the like even if you're not instigating and you're not really trying to listen and you rather not listen and you don't believe it but it's ongoing and it's a friend of yours or and they're looking for your husk. [laughter] So even being morame is the same is m you're encouraging them. What most people do, it takes a lot of guru. Most people do in this matz is they sort of smile. [cough] they half smile or they sit there and they uh they somehow making a m which is what the den is and we spoke about in previous years this mis misplaced priority and was quoted that the says you can't give today and we haven't been able to give and take a and take out that's all not true we're not as good at it you have to be careful and you have to loop and emus and you have to do it with disclaimers. I'm not any better and all the other things that'll uh help uh get the message across which still will be met probably not going to hug you and uh thank you very much for pointing out what he did wrong but if he's normal it'll sit in his head will make a maybe next time you should be more careful and then you've accomplished something if you it doesn't have to be it's there is a But that's way taken out of context or just misunderstood because people like to misunderstand it that if I'm not bravara says means that if you're car then you're not going to succeed and don't make it worse. That's just part and it's always taken the wrong way because it's very self- serving because people like to keep their friends and other likes to give to and if you're not giving active to you don't like to look like you're not happy with listening to this. So most people are part of the positive and they smile or they add something which is even worse obviously but he's looking for your approval. this particular whoever this was he actively asked him to defend him what they're arguing about they're arguing about something where there's clear do you don't know the answer well I'm not going to be let's go ask somebody if it's clear that he's wrong there's no to defend him just because he's a friend that's sounds part most people don't pass this design because it's difficult and you don't want to be they're going to turn their guns on you and then you're going to be the object of what's going on over here and nobody likes that. And so it takes takes a certain self-esteem that if you're working on any way to do things right and you make a ma without even saying a word just by slowly walking away or frowning or showing that you're not really appreciating the conversation and then he asks you for help so you say I'm not going to be my and I'm not the other side but insulting him and then talking lush her after he leaves is uh probably not the right thing to do or something to that effect. You cannot go and be moing for something that's uh that's an avla and it doesn't have to be the world's biggest avla and this happens all the time is people like to kick their friends [snorts] um similar just picking of the many proudly tells me that he cheated or fooled somebody into giving him money sounds like an fool somebody giving you money what does that mean maybe I'm missing the case what's the case the I he thought he claimed he owed you money and he didn't. >> I'm not sure exactly what the case is. >> He told him that he needed money maybe and he just decided >> he might. He asked him for an adult. You mean he asked him for a hand out? He really didn't need the money. It's just an easy way to make a dollar. Okay. I I I don't really even want to think of what the case is. But uh doesn't sound like it's too uh it's too good. And uh he uh he's telling over all his wonderful brilliance and everybody's laughing and they're laughing at the other guy for being such a nar and they called him an idi and then he turns to this good and he says it was a good move. No, similar to the first sh even worse the first time they're having maybe thought he was right. this deep down he so what do you say that was a horrible move and your and your Russian mush you have to stop calling him you can't be mas you can't look like you're being mas this happens I hope to lesser degrees but our people who sit around usually it's not the biggest masid it's not the fellow who's learning to shed or showing up to ma he's did something wrong and he got money he knows he shouldn't have or he cheated on something he's ever on other forms against he bad enough he did and he wouldn't be posting about it but people do matter of fact sometimes that's the whole kishmak doing something wrong tell your friends about it and what a what a genius you are so okay so he has issues everybody's growing lice you can't be uh party to it so to speak by uh watching it unfold as somebody's is getting embarrassed or somebody's getting talked about or or somebody's talking about our errors and everybody's smiling and say, "Yeah, that's a good there is no such thing." And then they're going to right away just be prepared. They say, "Well, you're not so perfect yourself and you do this [clears throat] also." And okay, so you can love is a great for that. And you could choose to not be beaten up and and walk away. And you know what? At the end of the day, they don't think about it twice. They have a lot of growing up to do. And if they really think this is a good mahalo, then you probably don't need such friends anyway. So then you just sped up the process. I believe everybody's good deep down. Sometimes they just have to learn a lesson and afterwards he'll thank you. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in a year from now. Maybe if you bump into him 10 years from now, maybe. But uh lice uh you have to do the right thing. And the fact that you're expected to be part of the doesn't mean you defend everything they do. Uh one more example of this. I uh spent my whole life in Yeshiva and growing up is all you did. So I remember all these cases even though I didn't write this up. These are very real and honest questions. And that's good. If if any of these examples gives you a little the next time you're sitting there at 12:00 at night in the dorm and you're uh you're about to start listening to something you probably shouldn't do. So either get away quickly or once you're there and they're looking for a can't be as if you can't do a full-fledged mak. Okay, that's uh just know that it's not so positive. I this morning two B came to me. They're going back to CR and um one asked me about this man on the planes taking a 9:00 flight 900 p.m. which is the you [clears throat] got to get there whatever flight's available. It's a difficult flight diving wise because you can sleep fast to the beginning of the flight before you get on and get a few hours in. And I said, "After it starts getting light, there's really no time to do it because the plane is flying east." I said, "Be careful because you could see 10 miles plus if you're looking out the window. The plane is flying east toward." So the sun's coming up and the visibility is great above the clouds and it's very light over there. So you could think it's a lighter or nine goes by what below you says that. and often below you it's pretty dark. See you can't have a shaka in the middle of the night. That's still true. All of us, you know, we struggle with this but uh still off limits. And um I told him just look out the window, but try to look down if you can get such a window. Most the windows are now black electronically. So go to the front of the plane and try to do it early but not that early. and then don't go to sleep because the plane's flying east. And I said, "When do you do to land?" And he said, "Like 12:1 in the afternoon, whatever it was. You're going to miss this man is very short." I said, "Uh, while we're discussing this, you're going to notice I I've taken flights of every uh time, duration, and pattern." So, I've seen this uh last time I was on there, this man came and I couldn't sleep. You have to be at for that. just that you have to you're not going to hear your alarm clock. Whatever you set, the engine's pretty loud. So either you stay up or you have wake you up and then the fall asleep. So I remember I was still up and it came time to shak the whole plane was asleep and one guy was up two rows of it. He came over to me as I'm ashila. I said, "What's your shila?" Obviously, he knew to stay up for Dominic. He said, "You see over there?" He says, "That's my share. Should I wake him up?" So, you think Shil 35,000 ft. Uh, how old is he? He says, "No, he's very healthy. He's 92, 93. Very healthy." I said, "He looks like a from guy." He said, "It's very from." I said, "Would he be annoyed if he miss Krishma?" He said, "He'd be annoyed." I said, "More annoyed than when you wake him up." That's not a Heather right there. You have a of So you say that's only for your close relatives of the second cousins. So I I told him I think that you should and ish woke up and he actually thanked him for wake him up because why would you want to miss the Krishna? He's going on vacation. Where are we going to? So then he turned to me and asked me what I was hoping he wouldn't ask. He said he starts looking around. And he says there are 150 people here is not Krishna. [laughter] It's a real problem. I don't have a great answer for this. This is uh I I worry about this heavy flight. And it's like toward the end of the flight people finally fell asleep. 150 people. He say okay not all them said there's some women there that says my grandma. Okay. Don't wake them up. And even if it's your sister and uh and then you got maybe a couple of I don't know not too many depending on the airline. And um I got 100 plus people. So he said uh what's the heter not to wake them up? I said I've struggled with this sh of years. I I don't really have a good uh they'll be slightly annoyed when you wake them up. But any normal from persons would wake me up. I just couldn't stand here and have you miss. So see he starts uh saying well I once heard I said I knew he's you know when they take the b they lift him out. [laughter] I go you do that once afterwards he'll catch on when he's sleeping as an honest you're not an honest if you're sleeping in a situation where you know the flight pattern and now they have this on the screen and you know is coming so you went to sleep. Not everybody some people are trying to stay up and they just fell asleep. Okay. So now we only have 80 people to wake up. Not that's not uh So uh my best answer is if you start waking people up the first 10 people you got and hopefully they'll understand why you did it and then the stewardist will arrest you. How else you you can't go through the whole I just call me a make I don't know. I'm not convinced that's a I don't know what it is. Maybe fly in the morning and avoid this issue. But it's not part like why you're watching somebody standing up and here we're talking about zil these are overt aus on many many level anyway so I told him this morning he said so what should I do I said you stay up and if you see my share your share or anybody else's share wake them up and everybody else if they're somewhat friendly I try your best I don't have I don't have a great Heather. So that was the first welcome and uh I'm extra busy man's mom as you see. So next welcome comes up and um he said I have a similar Shila. He said you're also flying at 9:00. He said no I have a different flight but he said usually when I get there in the neighborhood that he's in I sometimes I'm going to the mikvah. I have a guy waiting in the shadows. good people. They're trying to go to the mikvah. And as I go in, he sneaks up behind me and he wants to use the same payment and turn style. Most people go to mikvah do not start rumors are good people and they wouldn't do geneva. This is geneva. So I says, "What's your sh?" He says, "This is his." He told us I said, "What's your choice?" I you didn't invite him in. I assume he The guy talked to me was very, you know, it sounds like he get stuck. So he didn't invite him. Sounds like sh. But I said, "Did you ever happen to you? Were you asking if theory?" He said, "No, it happened a number of times. It bothered me." I said, "Yeah, what's your other choice? He jumps in with you. You're going to stop pushing him out, start hitting him like I said, I'd like to tell people this little but I don't know if that's going to that's going to work." And if you'd ask the guy, I'm hoping he would say that. I don't know. I did pay and I had to come out and get my towel or I will pay. Will pay is not an excuse usually unless the honows. Uh I did pay and I got out. That could happen maybe. So now you're asking to ask him why just be down in the these are not great. These are coolers. I'm not so convinced it's Perk asking. Maybe I should tell them in a nice way. Look sir, I apologize. I don't have an extra five shekele for you. I would invite you in. That's a nice way of saying I don't want to be party to your geneva. You can't uh you can't just let somebody do geneva on your on your back. Okay, that's a I hope a relatively rare shila. Most people don't make to not want to be involved. And I'm sure the guy himself either has a real good excuse or has imagined excuse. It's just interesting. He was listening to the first guy as the shila and then I guess it reminded him he had the shila a few months ago. So being in any form or fashion and not saying something and making some that might make a not that is not are real. It doesn't make you a lot of friends right away but the friends you're not making are probably not good for your anyway and you won't be left without any friends. you're just going to be at least a person won't freely sit around and be mazo and other people's feelings and insult people and push. the um you want to cultic example the hab all the people I just mentioned who are asking these shas and even the people who just have to put a little mus and the things that work on their midas uh somebody um somebody asked me is it mutter saying I had this had the shila something the middle of like an interview for a year ago. So, I'm not going to comment on that and it probably shouldn't be on video anyway. The sh then was if you have a son of terrorists who try to carry out a terrorist act and he didn't succeed and now he's injured is there a mitzvah just to get rid of him. I don't think they meant ship him somewhere else [snorts] and I know that's not remember there's a recording of this. So, uh, you have to do what's going to work with international standards because everything gets around and if the Minig and the governments have laws, you're supposed to just arrest him and let them deal with it. Then, uh, you have to do that. Even though normally these guys don't do Chuva and he's as a murderer and nothing you do. Rains if you just raise your hand raise hands and if it's already so of that it's not so that's not don't misquote me on that whatever is uh I found out that a few days ago I didn't know about it the uh the first day which is fine. One of the questions here always is how how much time buck have to spend or anybody keeping the news usually whatever you have to know about you'll find out about anyway you don't have to learn it and it's important there's something to learn from it and important to know the basics so what am I referring to what I'm about to bring up anything anything of significance happened in the last few days besides significance of besides that's the main thing. Anything else? Just in the in the regular news. >> Yeah. So, I want to point out something that uh I think is overlooked and I hope this is a Pella. It's not G to this. You're you're going to wonder why, but I want you wondering for very long. So, um so there's a you heard this. You know what I'm about to say? What? Yeah. You You learn to s this morning. uh there are a lot of people who don't like us and there are a lot of crazy people out there and a lot of there that's not that every time something like this happens or almost happens it's and just three times a day most people are very big on you start off with a brand first [clears throat] and the end we heard a lot of ra about m very important and uh sim shalom and I'll kind It's already on the spin. The middle sometimes suffers as you've noticed. So, one of the reasons is because it's the middle and you lost some of the steam. The other one is we really don't really understand what the are doing in there which is we should really learn them. So to point out there's like there like and so one of the things in there is we don't take seriously because This should continue. We live in a very secure peaceful existence and moshim on the side which is the original intent of the braha was Jewish moshim the early minim had a big problem with them we still have a problem with them and pascal has been around for a while and did a lot of damage still doing damage and there's plenty of typhus that seeps in from gym machinim is that kroma hashkov and chroma people shouldn't be influencing people and then you have the general machinim depending on your gear So you have everybody who should be insulted in that uh is mentioned usually and all the are included. So when you get to Minimum have in mind all the people are trying to harm and so it's a wakeup call and certainly was that landed that's not to be taken lightly damaged plane and that people need to go fly it and most [clears throat] people when you fly by the way are uh just regular civilians good people I don't know they don't get up with Krishma but generally good people and uh uh not they don't have pilots in reserve and uh that as was noted by everybody that's quite pelvic and all the other things that happen uh what I think is the strongest point matter of fact when I heard with somebody I it's hard to believe it's still hard to believe it just happened a few days ago it's hard to believe that this is just you like to understand humans even if they're not hidden and I say most if they're not getting them mostly because we're trying a lot of them are not all of them but I keep it as I miss just trying to earn earn a living one everybody know where where I'm going with this there was one one part of it which is a tremendous mus and that is they uh had about all happened in about a minute and a half they got in and they uh had um four or five people get to the Russian pusher who was trying to murder everybody including himself. Suicide is about it's across the board and uh and he's a strong guy and they uh finally got it somewhat under control and they finally found a use for those headsets. They were never broker. Anyways, they found the use for them and they wrapped him around as the story because he wasn't wasn't knocked out uh unfortunately for them at that point and uh they weren't trying to kill him necessarily as I referenced that shadow before that wasn't the over here and okay so you would figure the buckam they got that was a very close call doesn't get much closer than that and that four guys sitting on him and tying him up so far the story sounds familiar so the next part of the story which is uh beyond mudma is that the uh steward and the sturdices and the flight staff started screaming at them that they should untouch radio everything's fine I couldn't make this up now you say you know if they got a radio message from somebody in traffic control that you know everybody has rights some bleeding heart liberal who's a Russ himself I would half understand it these people on the plane. They just saw what happened and they're screaming at the boy yidden to release him. What? What? What's China? This is just you have to understand human reactions of so it was so mud that the four guys who were trying to get some control of what was going on immediately thought I would think so also that this is so bizarre. This is so strange. It defies any logic whatsoever that maybe this is a setup and they're in cahoots which makes sense. Unfortunately, they've had hijackings like that and it was pre-planned and why else would they say that? So they look into that. I'm out here to prove none if that was not the case. So if that's not the case, then what's the [snorts] answer is going to be a very important in in human thinking, human emotion and humans apply to yen and gim as well. we would never do something as crazy, say something as crazy as this. But they actually were demanding and they screamed back and they said, "You're not in charge here and you're not even once." They moved them back seven rows and put some big guys in front of them so they wouldn't move because they weren't sure whose side they're on. But they were they weren't part of the plot. So what was the mean? Just you have to learn everything. If you hear something, you have to learn the if it has something to teach. What's the shot? So, uh, they told it to me. I I said, "That doesn't make any sense. That can't be true." He said, "No, no, that's true. They interviewed a lot of people that they had a screaming match afterwards for another minute until they just got rid of them and sent them sent them further back." So, I said, "How these people are normal?" I didn't say they're the most brilliant, highest IQ, the normal people who are running the staff. They're running the the flight. They have normal jobs. I said were they uh related to our cousins in the Middle East theite other such he said no actually a couple of them are foreigners from other so so what's anybody know that's the say they got he told me they got very nervous I said these guys are trained for emergency situations they should have a step ahead they had a whole plane full of men women and children who were also very nervous screaming yelling they couldn't be more nervous They were they should be calmer son. They weren't calmer. Okay. But what does that do with untieing the guy who's trying who's still trying to kill everybody and he's still struggling? I'd like to get the dick from the most modern part of any mice that does that. What is the chance? So the answer is I believe again could be they were talking and we'll find out about that later. That would that would answer it. Not necessarily the case. The shot is these are people not working on the midas. They don't even know about Zion Mitsus. Sadly, I would hope this wouldn't happen to a yid. And a matter of fact, the yidden who were there did something about the matas even though not all of them were yet firm. Shot is I think that two things at least two things playing over here that completely didn't make their judgment misguided. It made it completely non-existent. This is not a little wrong. is the exact opposite of what any sane person could say. So one is the fact that this is our co-pilot. They felt they had over here and they were still in that mindset as part of even though he did something it looks like he did something very terrible even they didn't know that he tried to kill the pilot even if they didn't know that yet but they knew he was in a pretty nasty thing where they're beating each other up. So he's not a good guy. He's out of control. Lisa he's part of our staff and he's the co-pilot and we're just attendance and their mind we have to defend it. Now you understand why this has to do with the Abdullah fact that he's your good friend as part of the you want to be that doesn't condone that doesn't allow mater and any other that might be done just because you're part of the and you got to keep your but imagine normal people I'm assuming that they're normal flight attendants who have worked for years on airplanes at 30 40,000 ft and they're serving drinks and they're smiling they're not like a normal guy who has a 9 to5 well 9 to5 whatever whatever their job is the normal people how can you have such a reaction the answer is is that they looked at as okay you got him under control he's not trying to come down why don't you let him go but he's awake if you let him go he might try to get back not obvious painfully obvious but they lost it because they're just looking it's part of our crew we got to defend it which makes no sense but understand the human emotion I think the second thing playing over here was also the fact that There was a tremendous blow to their cupboard because basically they're supposed to be in control of the emergency and they were not the ones who rushed in and saved the day and now they're being told like we're in charge and goodbye and right away people come. What do you mean? I'm supposed to in charge we'll take care of that. I I appreciate what you did. just saved my life and don't worry I I can do the best so both covered and can and can have a human being say the strang it's the strangest reaction we've ever seen in an emergency situation. It's not like they didn't get it completely right. The the the worst thing you could possibly say or suggest is what they suggested. The absolute worst. So that's human emotion. You got to be careful. You have friends, you want to keep them. We should keep them. help each other grow. You can't be covering up for an AV that's being done when you're just doing it because you want to keep your and we're very big are very big in keeping a lot more on this topic but we'll go on okay before we move off the uh ga miden and the theim and what everybody has in common. So as you know there's an not as well known as it should be three ways doesn't mean giving him a promotional item business to get their business but to thank them is a compliment and with the which means you can't give him a foothold to throw which today could come up the first two and again to everybody here in America and sura and the drussa goes three ways all the same you shouldn't be doing things that have other people look up to them create a relationship and create a and it's just going to have a bad ash that's the dish of but it's clear that's the time of the crow here so over kamite interesting kamite chas So somebody uh came back um it's a after some trip and they told me that they went to a place which is uh again you have to know the alternatives there now ashader we have theme parks we take over completely there nobody around and taken over by phone people doesn't take care of all the tuous and all the uh sneez issues all the time but it's a badly alternative uh you have to be selective when you plan the trip. So, this fellow who's very mocked on not getting with a long crowd actually took his family to a place that wasn't that crowded. Um, and I'm not taining on this pick, although it could be um he's a they're good people. He went to You guys probably never even heard of it. He went to a certain place which is not a very large city. I'm not even sure where it is. Uh but they they have a it's like a museum and they um have a long history of uh this place baseball players who were very good at throwing things or catching things or hitting things the case may be and um it was a nice kosher day and they uh they had uh you assume I assume you know what I'm referring to and uh I don't want it on my video that I'm pushing this is the trip but it's pretty decent in terms of layout and They uh I couldn't understand but he started off saying I went to the baseball hall of fame. So I said okay he had a shila. He said um yeah I do have a shil is a pretty serious shah and it was an interesting shila but I told him afterwards there's a more serious shila you never imagine. So one of the things there you don't have to go do this next if you hear it over here you'll have the fun and you'll it's like he you did it. So apparently they have old um uniforms and jerseys of old famous players. And apparently I wasn't there. Somewhere uh about 50 60 70 years ago they changed all the uniforms into polyester and lightweight. And for whatever reason they did before then it was made of wool, >> lightweight wool. and he was um he was first kid I said let's try on one of the older ones that they claim was from the original this guy Mukushin and I mentioned when he mentioned the name he said you know it's interesting even the museum said that he was such a good guy [snorts] I said can you imagine the madrega up there making fun of him and he was considered baseball's greatest uh greatest greatest player you No, I have no lash on on him and there's no I'm insulting him. I'll get to after after Peter in a moment. So, he put it on and the um the sign or whatever they were explaining that this one's made out of he saw right away it was wool. It was a heavy uniform and he realized right away told he told the son take it off. They didn't check a mash which is a concern brings down if you have a wool garment that was not checked from a guy who was not mak them you can't just put it on which check for but can you imagine I never I said you know I never heard that shist people our people go there they're trying on these I never it's a great sh I just want he was like a little bit thrown off was that a or not I said no you did the right thing we should not take no risks just to wear that jersey. I said, and uh this wasn't your Shiloh. You bring it up, but I don't start a tumble or you're not going back next is a one time thing. I said the more serious Shila by far is putting that thing on and taking some pictures and having a t-shirt with anybody's name or a picture or anything like that because that's so he's somebody heard of he said that's when you compliment >> I said yeah and what are you doing here compliment we're just smiling very proud to be identifying with this guy with taking a picture of it and we paid money to get in. That's squared on steroids. No m you're pray you're walking around my guy's a t-shirt walk around with somebody's last name. I said over here I'll be mameus. If I would see you or him with the back of your shirt and it would say Ruth I would say it's about shuis and migillas everything you just want to identify. Why are you holding in the Soviet? But um but this this was the name by the way. I'm not making this up. This was the one. So I said uh I said okay maybe that's the thing but why would they start in English? He said that's I said I can't think of a better example it you're you're [snorts] taking. So um I that's not a that's not a and I once came across one chuva but it wasn't a chuva unfortunately. There was um contemporary person I'm sure he's a nice guy and somebody asked him is this he said it's not for it's not yes it's not that it's not you're talking about them I don't know what in the world he's saying all right that makes no sense whatsoever you can't if you can't even give a compliment you can't even say a a passing compliment here the biggest compliment you can have is you want to put on a shirt with their picture or name and you want to be photo in it because you want to identify with it. Classic it's much worse than this fact that it's famous. Is that also that also >> you want the holy is you're trying to comment them. Do you hold of them? You want to identify them and you're proud to wear would anybody would anybody put on a t-shirt or a picture of William Shim? The answer is no. We don't want to identify with him. We have big tinies to say the least, [laughter] >> right? >> Trump, [snorts] >> Trump, unless you're going to swing the election is down to one vote and and or 10 votes and you're very influential obviously and you're going to wear they're going to learn what your leanings are. That's Mut. >> You can't say I love Trump. >> You can't. That's I'm glad you mentioned that because the last four, eight, 12, it's going on a wall already. It's again he's done certain things and it's good for the trying even if you want down the cost it's not if that's all true you can't go around gushing and talking about the whole thing when it's not a gaya I pointed out to a few people they say no no it's not here but if we don't generally do this they're not going to know how to vote I said I don't think so usually they ask me the night before that's just not true so yeah that's a good you can't it's mutter for for business for politics whatever the gain is it's mutter But that's very situational and you can't increase it. >> You can't say it's the benefit you get from him like you're watching him and enjoying it. If >> no, but the only benefit here it's clear the culture here is push you have when you idolize a sports star or they you use that word >> not it's not your by the way it's not uh he told to take it off because the shot it wasn't I would have said I'm just pointing out if you do this because you're identifying with that person and it happens to be that person despite his very f sounding last name was Taka even there might he was of a noble uh thought I didn't you can't vouch for any of that to keep in business is that's not really a chef to walk around the picture to have use you're identifying with that. So he's saying no, you only want to identify that Haliv should have a great throwing arm or or batting ability like him. You're the Gamarra has examples. You're not you're talking about the whole Mench Mano just he's a handsome guy that that's also already. >> So I gave him a formula once. None ever liked this. I said if you say that this mukin has a great throwing arm and Hashem gave him a great throwing point out godless that's mut. Nobody talks like that. They always say hashem gave nobody talks like that. They get that's what's called an idol. They idolize it. See your name. I really and it's disappointing because people if you ever have a chuva in English as one of those popular question answer is no. This can't be why because it's very American. It can't be. I'm I've been here a long time. I was born in this country and I know what this is the classic uh the classic case. So um good people by the way just that he was I said the is also and I wouldn't wear that for another second but putting it on is really not uh really not partial. Yeah. >> What about the selling store sometimes cheaper these t-shirts that have the players names on them. >> Well that's what I'm talking about. It's the picture or or the name you're identifying. >> I much prefer Goldberg. some of these >> if he happens to be in the Hall of Fame >> then uh what >> some people buy these shirts they have no idea what these names are yet >> okay so if he doesn't know he's an honest I I agree with you if he doesn't know he's an honest but I don't know what he he thinks Rodriguez is the guy next to Mr. What is he? What is he? What? What didn't he know? [laughter] He knew it. He knew is not what >> you're saying. The guy didn't know. I'm saying if you buy some of these things, usually they're pretty boil. So what didn't he he thought he's buying with a name? What >> he thought his grandfather's a Yankees fan. He bought the Yankees logo. The back says >> Yeah. So it happens to be in the suggest the team. There's a about if it's a whole um we're less worried even though you you can follow the um it's more focused on when we on individuals the um is more of a he that's a cool I'm saying um like a team maybe maybe a team is too specific already but okay that's not bad but you're talking about you don't know what it is but he reads English maybe he doesn't but Rodriguez what what do you think that was he thought it was the name of the company okay maybe There's an artist name. >> Okay. That's that's Kabaldic. I think a lot of people would go to that rack and pick a name that they identify with so they could talk about him and show how much they know. Again, not to over here is a real Iser. Just interesting that uh he took him there again. Why go to the Hall of Fame? Okay. So, they thought it'd be interesting. It probably was an interesting tour. You don't have a Khan. You walk in and you just look at the interesting things that they did. But if you're already having a photo op with it, that could be >> how because you're getting more. So you have >> Yes. It's not saying I would have picked this as my first name, but person who asked is a very good guy. I just didn't think this kid wants to know. That's you know, I guess so. And he was such as soon as he saw it looked like wool. I said, "How do you know it was wool?" He said, "It didn't look like the other ones. I wasn't taking any chances." So then I couldn't let it go. I said I've just this is not a humra and anybody who said otherwise without deal needs to prove and I I've talked about the song at many venues I have haven't heard a thing in the other direction not not a not a key who's there it's it's worse not better you came to give a compliment on one thing deeper when the deba is gone here you you walk around with it pion time so every time you walk so every time you so why why shouldn't the same shell apply you get you get something that's like a sports logo like Nike or Under Armour. >> So Nike and those things have to be named after realars. By the way, I've been asked it's a good sh named after Greek that aren't around anymore and it's part of the header and that's a we don't normally use names of but but there there is an angle very good angle and and the meaning is you can start think have to now figure every time you buy a brand is this named after which Greek god is this named after You're not to do that and that's okay. You're not doing it because you hold to that Greek god you never heard of before. That's like your head. How would you know what it means? >> Also, these are all all what >> was a Nazi two Nazi brothers. >> Nah, they own the thing. And that's a heritage thing. It don't start up with anybody who went to the war has a father grandfather because they don't buy German goods but everything is Germans own half the American companies not half as a Gizmo it's Chinese and Japanese but uh they own things that that doesn't create a so certainly if it's not it's not nicer. >> Yeah. >> What if like you have a famous sports player and he has like his own brand or like his own shoes I say like Nike itself has a brand. So, I don't know how they do it because uh my tishabove sneakers aren't even sneakers, as you can imagine. They're like um they look almost almost like Shamba shoes. Uh so, I I don't know what's uh what's current. But if your momish can't buy anything and everything's being signed by somebody or other, if you have no choice and there's a little thing on the bottom and no one's hopefully looking at your shoes as you're uh as you're running around with them, that's not as bad. But a t-shirt is supposed to be everybody should see in the front and the back like a paid advertisement. >> What was like a logo on it that that that celebrity is known about. >> Yeah. So if you have a choice just get something. If you have anything that's just like generic like like black, green, blue, whatever it is without any they probably you can probably buy some. It's it's still a my love. Why should you get involved with talking about talking about serum? Why should you say oh I I hold this guy? They hold that the people buy because of that because that's why they paid him a lot of money to put his name on it. I understand that. So why should you be party to that whole uh >> it helps you like some of them are like made specifically for you. >> Yeah. So so there there there's room for that because it's it's the bottom it's this whole thing and even though people can identify it but if it's known to have a different quality that as you're trying to get the safe on the top shelf you could jump higher or whatever the case may be I assume there are there are mileers to these things. So then uh that would be uh that would be okay. Anyway, that was a shila, but it he didn't realize there was another Shila, but the sky is all his. Just bringing that to delight. Okay, it's greatly a clock. We're about 10% of the way through. So, we have to go to five minutes at one start of late. Um, okay. One more since we're talking about exercise. Uh, this is aim. We've discussed this before because people want to know talk about all my trips and other be very selective the most stick where you can and what to do with the gib when your parents want to go somewhere else and and the like this sha all year round but it's more the same. I'm just I picked this one because I'm a little surprised. I'm happy somebody asked it. So I never show surprise like what's the minute but and I'm assuming he won't see this video yet for another couple days. Must I pay more a travel father to go to a men's gym? I don't really the answer I'm glad he asked because I've received a shy many many times. That means for every one person that's asking there are 50 people who didn't ask. and of all areas. This is not going to a park where there's some pizzas or going to a muck where they they forgot to get that dressed in the morning and you're now paying the price and your this is not a one-off where you're there for a couple hours. you're choosing a place to be there for however many times a week you're going or and the says that if you have to get from point A to point B and it's you're allowed to go and you practice as much as you can but that's only when you have to go somewhere the which doesn't exist in 99.9% [snorts] of these cases would be if a doctor says you absolutely need to do this and it's unhealthy and it's and you have to do it and it's the only venue and you live out of town there's no nothing else and you can't afford a treadmill in your house and you can't invite the personal train out all this together is not that common but if that's the case then somebody should ask a sh if the sh is from my Brooklyn Lakewood they have one here they have a separate gym here >> or two okay at least one >> shiz where would they be making a pasa to have a mix gym in my who would be going [clears throat] I'm not even sure how they make a panosa but okay I'm not I can't worry about the panosa right now gyms of all places are known where people don't wear too much because you get very hot as you're working up a sweat as you're trying to keep in shape and run five miles or lift weights or whatever you're doing right that's [snorts] so what's the >> [clears throat] >> uh the only argument is so is probably not true because it ends up being because people talk to each other there and they end up having a kabur and a friend and it so the whole thing if they're gim it's very bad and if they yen it's even worse in this case you can't be now smoozing with somebody who's not properly it shouldn't be smoozing with her at all and it shouldn't be within your eyesight and it's creating an isan that you're not going to win so he said what's the you're going on the subway way to get to work and you have no choice and it's packed like sardines with people on the F train or the D train. These guys don't have trains around here but uh somebody here from Brooklyn. Uh so Ram says you have to get to work try your best and that's the issue of to put yourself in a m of a gym. Again there are exceptions maybe if they need it prescribed by the doctor and there's no other way to do it and they have no room in the house for the treadmill or for the weights. And um one child asked me a couple years ago, he said, "Itaka is in a smaller house and he can't get the weights on the treadmill." The doctor really says, "I'm looking at the guy's ass in the Shiloh. He's um quite tall and thin and looked very in great shape to me." Uh I didn't want that. I at the end of the conversation, I said, "By the way, just to uh happy to meet you and deal with the sha, what's the doctor claiming? What? What's wrong with what's wrong with I mean? He said, "No, you got to got to work out." I said, "Okay, I get that." So, you said the doctor is a medical reason. He said, "Yeah, if I don't do this for the next 90 years, I'm going to start feeling old." He said that to me half smiling. You really have to do something. You got to size up. What that means, have to. And I says, "What can you get in your house?" Tell me the house is small. So, then he tells me you hired a personal trainer for not a small amount of money. I said, "I think you can buy a bigger house first and get the treadmill." I was trying to point out to him that if you really want, you're gonna work this out and not be in this mat. So, but that's a sham happy. Yes. And there are maybe who absolutely need it for the to go to a mat like that. Uh remind everybody mixed swimming is not a den and being in the pool. I've heard that amaratas from people. It's not I don't go into the pool. I just sit in the side. I said that's worse. I'd rather your head be under the water for a long period of time and uh be sitting by the pool. It's not even per. So you're putting yourself in a mat. Everybody's above water and they're all saying that. [clears throat] So you have to prove that's so and the rest of the year. And I'm just a little surprised. When I started the sh you didn't look that surprised. You've heard that people sometimes don't take advantage of the separate pot. It's much cheaper. >> Everything's much cheaper. You know what? Non-coosher meats cheaper also. Like less than half the price. Get everybody's uh uh and basically everything that's non kosher is half the so they go to the front. They don't wear glasses. >> They don't wear glasses and they're going there. If they really need the glasses, that's a violation of them. And if they don't, they're not gaining anything. No, >> they stay they take over the glass on treadmill. Yeah, I got in on the corner. If they're going there already, I would tell them, okay, at least do that. But if you're if you're my you told me there is there is a kosher gym here. So, it's more expensive because you didn't have to pay to marry off the kids and buy kosher me and go to kosher gyms. >> That was expensive. So, >> what if married lady >> women is still an Indian? It's not as but it's still and it also is a [snorts] in the general mahav the depends on the nucas in mit till now. So even if it's not on the on the books the exact same is it's it's not uh not great. Okay we have time for two more. Anybody sending questions please keep sending them in because we get to all them. It just might be another band's man or two. So, um, I'm still working on listing before. >> Okay, this is an interesting one. Can one hit his little siblings if they miss anything [snorts] they say out of the press. So, um, right away anybody listen to this video, I get, "Oh, sham over here. You need a live audience." But there are a lot of people who who hear this afterwards and I get a lot of emails and all which is the purpose. So, [snorts] right away there people out there going to get upset. We got to say right away that's all I said here. anybody ever even parents and children and there are people who hold like that and they'll bring mirroris it's it's a different and we're less at the hitting than we are uh than we were and and it's probably to get less than we are now in the future for other reasons and the talk about um corporal punishment and talk about patch once in a while and it could still possibly be in order once in a while if the parent is calm and not getting out of hand and that's very pushed but maybe people get very excited about that statement a negative way or say we have to bend the tree the other way and it's out of hand okay so if you don't want to hit your kids and they're growing up to meet sadikim and everything else is working then that's if that works that's good and we do tone it down uh so I make that disclaimer because otherwise people are shocked like how can he think about hitting his younger sibling like we can't ever hit the kids so we don't hit as much and um for the Once one or two times I remember in my life as I was growing up that it was ever bad from the age of two to uh 22. Uh once in a while it comes looking back it's probably could die just to and it wasn't didn't hurt. It just I remember if my mother threatened that when my father comes home I'm going to patch that already was enough >> to have no >> siblings. What was that >> question was the parents or the siblings? No, I'm getting to the siblings. The question is the siblings, but there people are gonna be shocked by the sha like what's [snorts] the even parents? It's user. It's not user. It's it's tone down today and probably for good reason siblings. So I uh during I get a chance between our coffus and uh this year I have more of a chance I'm in. And uh I'm not really not really allowed to dance can because he's in charge of the mat. So I had more time to talk to some of the people and I had time to talk to some of the younger generation buffer but even younger and I had this happened twice over families can kind of walked in there were like six brothers the other one had five brothers very nice to see and they were all in you know pretty close in age so I usually just to have them start thinking about the sub I usually go over to the youngest one who could barely understand what I'm saying I say in front of his brothers I say on the an older brother. There's whether it means all the older brothers or the oldest. This six-year-old decided we should pass and it's only the oldest and still struggling with that. But there's a reason why I'm going into this. But uh and the other one started saying that they like that she also except for the oldest one somehow like to hear all the um what's the dinda of being an older sibling or the oldest point this already is that when a parent leaves and often the parents are working hard out in the field it was assumed when they're not there somebody's got to be in charge and somebody's got to get things done. Sometimes it was the whole day including supper and getting to sleep and learning and they people got to be in charge and that was a way of life. It's less true today because the parents brought more local even the people working a lot working at home and they're more accessible but it's still true sometimes I want to go go to know that you have an older brother here older sister and it applies to sisters also they like the other sheet as well over there and okay these are but the oldest brother is not so let's assume this is the oldest brother asking the sham and he wants to know I try to put him to sleep and it's out of control he's going to miss his shiva tomorrow this 10-year-old's not getting under control I It's going to be very light and no to come on. I'm in a very fine mood. At least I was till I started babysitting and everything is fine. Can I do it? I would advise against it. But now it's a good child. You understand the child and now he's taking as a parent. If it's good for the parent, I am with all due respect to our teenagers here. I think there's more of a risk that with kids it'll get out of control because with siblings he's he's going to hit back. A a child might hit back after age 23. what my husband what it is even a parent can't do at that point with a sibling a picture of a 14-year-old brother with his 10-year-old and 8-year-old brother and he says he just heard in a year that the hot me I can hit you so here it is at the pants are going to get home and they're going to be uh you know all over the place so practically it's not a good idea and I told them that lisa it's a good sha because the whole drussia comes the fact that they're supposed to be taking place to the parents. I don't want to end just on that one. We're out of time. So, we'll get one more minute because if you leave here thinking there was a havamina, you should go um beat up your siblings. I don't want you to uh go find Tom. They're going to ask what they did wrong. They said, "Miss, you did something wrong this morning." So, uh so I don't want to leave the sh with this. Um let's go to one more which is also it's here but somebody asked a sh yesterday in sh parents uh give him money from time to time and yonte they gave him money cash not the ability to use a credit card this is rare already most people don't have cash anymore around becoming a thing so I when the guy asked me yes the kid asked yes I said gave you actual cash he said yeah I actually got a hundred plus dollars I said where did you get it from this wasn't from the parents this was some lightsaber in the They give out dollar bills but they he he won a raffle also says [clears throat] he want to know push it does he have take off m this is already a 13-y old mitz had he been 11o the short answer is yes uh I said if you win something raffling off I don't know a shot or something else assess the value and then take a micer on that but you're talking about cash I I thought he was asking first in general about his parents. I said parents today give debit cards or credit cards. I don't have to take meer off from they're just letting you use it. He said no no it was cash and it was from here in the shore and it was from um kof of nighter. So I said yeah you should give meer. I said the only sha is should you give uh I have many shakanish is really not well known under the radar off the she is and everybody asked right away why they call it good sh I don't time to answer that now. the I said you're 13 years old with brave knew to ask because if you ask he's gonna follow the answer and most people don't like getting $10 out of $100 they they work they learned hard for and they worked hard for so I said you know start off a micer I'm just letting you know there's a but it wasn't kept for a couple thousand years because they couldn't even afford messer they have nothing to eat in Europe now I get a lot of out of the people want to get more there has six it says it's an isur But you're giving to terra and you're giving to pakuna. There are a lot of hate has for kapara then many I said start with meer now in a few years come back and I meant it seriously and ask me the and you'll reask it and then we'll see where you're holding but that's I didn't want to you can't be with I didn't want to lay it on too thick. So unfortunately I mean it's fortunate but um I try when somebody ask I pull them over to myender and we weren't talking particularly loud but there always people listening and right after he left um 15 16 year old comes and I said I I accidentally overheard the conversation accidentally on purpose uh did I he wants to clarify did I say that he shouldn't give kesh I said I said he shouldn't give kesh you should >> so if you're worried what to do with all your cash think about it and ask your own shus Okay, continue next time.