Rabbi Doniel Staum Mishmar Parshas Mishpatim at Scheiner's

That's the rabbis. Goodbye. >> Okay. Thank you for giving me this opportunity again. I want to give a big shout out to Torah anytime always for uh recording particularly now because Torah anytime is having their annual campaign. I don't think a day goes by besides maybe Shabas but even Matz Shabas you know that uh I'm not on to any time so I know I gain tremendously from it. Besides that they are gracious enough to post my shirim. So, please give and please give a lot to continue their great work and maybe give to my page um to help me meet my pledge. But, uh they should continue to to give us all the so many millions millions millions of hours of limarra and thousands and thousands and thousands of of shirum that are posted. >> What's your page? >> It'll be above the link when this is posted [laughter] right above the video if it's uh during the next week. Um there's a little bit of a har for somebody who's for him who are giving a shir onious um I should say we should call it's just my father um that there's a sahara because the para there are hundreds hundreds and hundreds of pages of gimra that are based on the medicics para basra parts of kajim parts of there's so much in these sukim and they're you know we spent years in yeshiva learning these uh these inanim so it's hard to go to the end of thank you very much to go to the end of the para and to talk about kabala satur because the end of the parro people don't always realize goes back to kabala satur I think anyone who has little kids you know so they come home nasma with the big crowns parasro but the truth is that paras is only nas it's this week's par we have another nasa and then we have nasa vanisha in this week's para but I'm not going and what's that? >> Okay. But I'm not I'm not going to do that. I mean, we'll touch on it a little bit, but I want to try to talk about the at least the beginning of the par. We'll see how far we get and hopefully try to tie it into as we begin the journey towards PM and PES. There's no women here. So, we could say that Pes is coming also. Um, the gula, the gula. So I want to start not just with the first mitzvah in the paran not just with the first not just with the first word. I want to start with the first letter because we know every letter in the Torah is so precious but here's one letter that is a gamecher. It doesn't say it but says and as Rashi says if it says it means to show that it's starting a new. It's a break from what was before. And here in lies part of the the secret of what makes halah special and different and unique from the rest of the world. The rest of the world I mean the world the general the way of the world is that a person has a new country. You have a country. So the first thing you have to make a constitution in this country they tried the articles of confederation. They failed. There wasn't enough power in the uh there was too much power in the states not enough power in the central government. So then they wrote the constitution as we have it. the French revolution. Russian re every revolution there's there's a constitution after the Israeli Israel became a state 1948 they wrote wrote a constitution which is still debated about you know parts and parts of it which makes things a little confusing but the Torah was given before Israel entered Israel because the Torah is not just a constitution and the sados is they're no more holy than any of the other mitzvah of the Torah it's not a about what makes a person you have to come to understand. So why are there was unique? But as far as what there was no different than the other 603 mitzvah all the in the in the in the para throughout the para all the interpersonal relationships it's all mi no different than we know that morals change over time ethics change over time and um laws change over time but the Torah's laws and the Torah's morals and the Torah's ethics never change and that's why the The rabb says the beginning of it's very strange in the middle of a whole history lesson you start why don't you why don't you give this history lesson beginning and then you know switch over to talk about so the says because a person might think ethics morals this is something that you know it's a p a person's wisdom a person's knowledge what a person thinks is is correct no our morals our ethics, our values is something that's made up. It's all comes back to harina. And this first letter of the Torah connects all of the in in to to to Hari. The um it's really the first time in the entire Torah since the beginning of the Torah that you don't have wild stories, miracles, wild things happening, crazy things happening, wars being fought, especially the last few weeks. And all of a sudden, and this is also this is part of how how would you act particularly well when it comes to money of all of money on this week's par and asked why is it there's a min there's a very strong by many >> of oh very good >> okay um but why why do children there's a meaning by many that children Start gumarra by learning alumits. I start in alums. That's what we started in fifth grade. I I wondered at the back of my mind why why don't we start with the beginning of bra. Some people do and many yeshivists that's the minute. So first of all I heard from Feinstein he said over that he's rashish in Staten Island Ireland. So it goes back years ago to the time when there was cassette tapes and uh someone borrowed a cassette tape a a tape recorder from someone else and it broke and he the borrower and the I was about to say the borrowe the lender came to Abu and they asked him what's said he's a show you're a borrower even if it's a even if it's a mistake but was so bothered they were learning they were learning these he went to his father. He said I don't understand. He went to I don't understand. So Mosha said ask him ask him if he started learning Gmorra what he started with. He says Mosha said I don't think said I'm willing to bet. Mosha said I have a feeling he started with he didn't start with he started with so went to went to the bakar and asked him tell me where did you what did you start with? He said we started with goes back to his father he says he says no. He said why is there a min that we start with? He said because in there there it talks about one of the things it talks about is a that the proper way to d is to give a most people don't give a so the message that unwittingly unhandedly that a person that a kid gets is that the it's important it's important to learn but we don't really hold that way it's not really so then when he gets to hemorrh but you don't really hold that so he said that's why the minuses start with is universal. So that was what what is the said we know we start with it's to teach children that not everything you find especially money you're allowed to keep just because you pick it up and you find it it's not yours I read a story once pam one of his sons came home with a $5 bill you get $5 bill said I found it so pam said to him put it aside he didn't want him to use it for like two weeks I think if I remember correctly he said it can't be somebody's money is you're allowed to keep it no simmon on it. There's a picture of Lincoln that was no simmon on it, you know. So, so uh you're allowed to keep it. But but Tom said somebody is right. >> Yeah. No, I'm saying it wasn't there was nothing like that. No, but there was no no idea who you're going to >> it's not it wasn't it wasn't in was nowhere. It was on the street. >> Yeah. No, but even so, but there's no one to return it to. It's in the street in Brooklyn. Who you where you going to go? What are you going to do? So Ram said he said somebody is mitar that they lost $5. It's not against just he waited two weeks after two weeks he said the guy probably forgot about it these now now you can use it just a sensitivity it wasn't it was a sensitivity that was yeah that was sensitivity but but the idea that that money it's it's not you have to be careful with the person has to be careful with money used to say that of with money you can't be alone with someone else's money because the temptation is very very strong what do we say today with uh with unfiltered internet and things like that the cuts >> what's The Kutsker whose great site was also this week Katskar was a couple of days ago. So the Katskar was known to say he said it all in like one line. He said it's it's a shame that we have not because if was nobody would do it [laughter] but I'm saying yeah I'm saying but my family doesn't steal. We don't steal but it's not it's you know but people lose themselves. We know the GMAR says that the three ways you could test a person is microso, bikis, bicasso, in his anger, in his drunkness and when it comes to money. If people become crazy when it comes to money and I heard that you can add two more. You can add carpool, how people act by carpool. [laughter] And my wife told me also cleaning ladies before pes. >> You could test how a woman acts with the cleaning lady before pes. >> If the woman is grumpy, then it's on the men too because you're going to have problems. >> That's why the men How dare you steal my cleaning lady? That's right. That's right. That's right. >> Serious. This is serious business. >> Um that's the line that they say in God we trust >> all others pay cash. [laughter] But we know that uh money blinds people. The says in turn says it doesn't just mean that he ruled over everything that house. He ruled over everything that was his. What was his didn't rule over him cuz there are many people like that. They get money they get lost. I heard I just heard a story a revi yeshiva by in in yeshiva by lunch told me a story that someone told him and he didn't know that he told me he told him. And I said, "Oh, that's that's my brother-in-law's brother Rabari North." And it was it's a fascinating mar. It's a story from Rabiel Gold. But he but ra gold in a dafomish. It's on Torah anytime. Please donate. Um it's a it's but it's a Rabiel Gold on in a dafomish. It's a fascinating story. Ruby Shron is very well known philanthropist of tremendous bouter. Tremendous. >> Um yeah. So his son runs a a shabaton every year for teenage boys, teenage bakim. Actually said this over in one of my classes and one of the bakham came over very excited afterwards. He said said you know I'm yum. He said I I I go to that uh that event but he wasn't at this one that I'm talking about. He said so y goldold says over that he was invited Ruby son invited him to come to the shabaton y gold. Yeah. So y goldold is there. He said in Shabas afternoon, Ruby Shron gets up and he says to the boys, question answer session, anything you want to ask me. So one of the boys says to him, you know, you're you're a person of means. He says, you know, you you don't really drive a fancy car. Your house is not too impressive. Said, you don't dress particularly well. He said, like, what's the shot? I don't know if he said you dress badly, but like you don't you know. So Yo Gold says I'm sitting there and I'm thinking to myself, you didn't just ask that, did you? You know, but that's the advantage of being a 14-year-old bucker, you know? you just rubon says he says I want to tell you something and and Rubishron's son who was sitting next to the old gold rabbi gold says over that he turned to him and he said I never heard this before from my father he said that when he was in colum in the mir so his rebi was father and in the afternoons things were tight so he started dabbling in business and he said he started to be successful he was just very successful right away like what happened to me you I'm saying um just kidding. Um so he he he um [laughter] so he he he was he was uh [laughter] >> that's true. That's true. >> Um but he was being very successful with in business and uh things were going very well and he bought a car. He had money for a car and he used to drive small Britney every day. Oh wow. >> And one day he turned to his rebi and he said Rebby what's my avid? He says I see that I'm starting to be successful. >> What's my what's my avoid? What's my place? Brun had very piercing eyes and he said Ruv pull over pulls over to the side and he said I want to tell you something. This Gar and that there was a flute that they had from the time of Mosher Rabenu and passed down Midor to the Bikto and the Levian loved this flute. It made the most beautiful sound and they would blow it. They would use it all the time. He said they loved it so much they decided to cover it in gold. As soon as they covered it in gold sound didn't work. Remember he said as long as you don't cover yourself in gold it'll be if you cover yourself in gold he says then all the sounds the music is going to stop and Ruby his eyes he started to he got teary I think he started to cry and he said I think he said 60 years I never forgot what my rebi told him I want to tell you that's an amazing thing because because sometimes 20 years later you know a person starts to dre starts to say to themselves you know I could really this 60 years later he held strong. That's an amazing thing. But that's what the para begins with talking not begins with the the Torah. It's connected to so it begins with the question is why you starting with an of all things had just been freed from it. They just left Sha. They know what slavery was about. Now you have to tell them that they shouldn't that they that they have to treat slaves properly. That's the message they need to hear. It's the the the time there there is so much in the para of values at the and lessons and messages tucked away beneath all the there is so much of the life of a Jew of says the Torah but have like a laser beam straightened like an X-ray deep into our into our into our makeup into our into our thought process. And he says the words are He had such a bitter time. He had such a bitter experience. AND HE SPOKE ABOUT EQUALITY. EVERYONE SHOULD GET ALONG. He preaches about THESE THINGS ON SOAP BOXES. WE HAVE TO MAKE A REVOLUTION. We have to change things. He's the one that can be turned around as soon as he gets into power. The day after he's freed becomes a tyrant. He goes against everything that he stood for. He forgets everything and suddenly he sees it from the other point. He becomes it's it's a concept in psychology that the that the that the victim becomes the aggressor >> that the abused becomes the abuser. It's not always of course but sometimes that happens and and Torah says that's why the Torah warns us now remember what it's like to be in Evid. Oh of course we're going to never going to forget but we forget. We forget very quickly. You know I was thinking about this after co um he says that uh the ma they ate ma the night they left they left mitz that night they ate at their s why really they need they just worked 86 years was mis they didn't you know >> they just experienced >> they just experienced it they need to remember it we need to remember it >> so he says 6 months >> 6 months is plenty of time to forget >> and I I was thinking about it after co after after the the pandemic was over and everything else how quickly we forget that's the way it is that's the way it is what about nebal nebal said but it's it's it's the way we are my rabbi wines would say this quote was god pays back all revolutions for being successful by making them the establishment now let's see how you do you you were all against the establishment now you're the establishment he was talking about he said that's what happened but he says it's in every it's in every movement the revolution becomes the establishment And now they have to adapt. Now they have to >> throughout history. >> Yeah. Throughout history. Correct. Always. >> They say it's going to especially Africa. They say, "Oh, we're going to do this change." They're like upside down. >> It's it's it's it's always the way it is. >> So part of the of the evid part of the the Torah is not uh you know, the prison system. It's not uh it's not so ideal. A lot of times criminals learn a lot of things in prison and not good things. A lot of times they end up back there. But the Torah is is a rehabilitation. So what's the idea of the evid being sold? We know that it could be that he didn't have money but more prominently is that he stole and he couldn't pay back. Who is a person who steals? A person who doesn't have much selfrespect, a person who doesn't think very highly of himself and this person who very likely maybe he was on the streets his whole life, maybe he was underprivileged. [snorts] For the first time in his life, he's being taken care of. If there's one mattress, there's always the same examples everyone gives with ane the mattress and then the steak. It's always a steak. If the master eats a steak, I never heard anyone say like uh if he's eating like a cheesecake, you know, it's always a steak. If the master has a steak and you have chicken, even if it's very good chicken, has to be a steak. It's always a steak. No, I know what I'm talking about. Always steak. But that's but that's uh but that's but the every So who always bothered me like who would take it in every crazy says he's a master. The answer is a person who wants to give. There are people that work in K people that work in all sorts of things. People give sodaka. This is an incredible seduck. You take an ev take an evani it's much easier. No taking an ev because I I want to help someone. So you take a person you of him and you have to take care of his wife and his children. So by the time the six years are over for the first time this person feels a sense of always bothered me why is it that in the seventh year if he doesn't want to go free then we pierce his ear. Why the ear that hurt? So the question is so why you piercing now? Why didn't you pierce his ear when he first came who was an incredible me in the book is a book of Schlommo. It's a beautiful book. So it says that he says that uh on one occasion there was a bakar that didn't show up new bakar to the didn't show up for shak morning. So be fryel said to him very sensitively he said I missed you this morning. So the buck turned got flustered and he said I wasn't feeling well or whatever. Okay 6 months later Rafold was very close with him now developed a catch with him and Rafel said to him do you remember 6 months ago when I you know I mentioned to you that you were and I alluded to the fact that you weren't here and you said to me something that was untrue. That's the way he worded it. He said there was silence. The bakar turned pale and he said revi if you knew I lied. Why don't you say anything? But Fifel said, "Because then you didn't have ears. >> You didn't have ears. Now you grew ears. You couldn't hear it. You weren't ready to hear it. He wasn't he wasn't comfortable with himself. He wasn't comfortable with the yeshiva." >> Evan I comes in at the beginning. You're going to give him mus. The guy feels like a piece of garbage. He stole. He was caught. Likely he stole because like we said like he's a person that doesn't have much sense of self in the first place. He nothing. He doesn't have a sense of what it means independence. would was a sense of a sense of uh taking care of anyone. But now after 6 years you were taken care of somebody they were mach of you you never never treated you mistreated you now now you should be able to hear the message in fact if hers says I don't know if anybody who's around kids is aware starting it's finally starting to fade but I'm sure anyone who's a rebi knows about 67 and this this this craziness that's been going on >> there's no sense to it nothing but I'll tell you shout from cuz you can't hear >> I can't even explain ask any teenager coming home 67 six it's it started from a dumb thing there's no sense to it it's like a lot of things in our society but it's all over Iish and everyone go every stems from I that's what her told >> I don't think so maybe I don't think it comes comes from probably everything starts from a Tik Tok or or a YouTube video or something like everything starts from a video >> yeah it's something to do with a rap there's no there's no like we're used to in this religion everything has a mur this it doesn't have a mar it's stupidity it just catches on and just like fire anyway raers says I'm just saying cuz I'm going to say 67 now it's it's stuck in my head [laughter] it's finally starting to fade I hope I'm not bringing it back now but he says six >> he says good he said six is a is a world of material and the physical six days a week the seven number seven is a world of one everything coming together but seven is the highest number within it's a world of one kadusha it's the mat it's the goal he says and ev is only sold for six years when it comes to the 78 say go free go back into becoming who you're supposed to be in his words quote six enslaves you seven makes you a free man that's what they mean when they say 67 they mean don't stay in six go to seven for sure that's what they mean overcome over the message to the to the is overcome your ty overcome your become liberated if at that point he still says He didn't get the message >> two times. >> That's a tragedy. >> Say it twice. >> That's a tragedy. What? >> He has to say it twice. >> Who does? >> Evan has to say it twice. One time is lip service. >> We have to know he means it. >> Okay. But but Lisa, he didn't he didn't get the message in in being able to in being able to go. Rabian uncle Golinsky Rabian Golinsky tells a story. He said there was uh in Russia these trains he said and there were these like three tears I guess he said and they were trying to sleep. I don't know. I don't know where they were going. I don't not sure if it was on the way to Siberia. Yeah, it seems like that. So, there was some Russian peasant. I don't think it was on the way to Siberia. I think it was just the train. And there was some peasant that was on the top bunk bed screaming, "I'm so thirsty. I'm so thirsty. I can't. I'm so thirsty. I can't. I'm going crazy. I'm so young. They're trying to sleep on the floor over there." So, he says he goes to get the guy a drink. Finally, just keep him alone. He goes and brings him a drink. Good. Finally, he settles back into his bed. He feels the guy got his drink. Leave me alone. Minute later, I WAS SO THIRSTY. YOU CAN'T IMAGINE. I COULDN'T YOU NEVER I NEVER WAS SO THIRSTY IN MY LIFE. IT WAS CRAZY. SO THIRSTY. Golinsky says soky says he says that's the idea of a person that can't get past they can't move on. Gets stuck where you are. That's I can't move on. Move on. Go back. Go become a free person, you know, become go back to he can't move on. He's stuck there. That's the the great tragedy of the says that that where does it come from you know the I tell my I tell people all the time so the he's not so interested in getting us into a it's like it's like a that's like a it's like a 100 bucks that's good nice what he's really interested in is what happens after the a what he really wants is the the machine that makes the hundred so you get 100 but then you have a machine that spits it out that's what he wants when we do an a he takes us and he slams us down on the floor and then he runs with it that's why we say every night we dive also Not just before but after because it's much more sinister, much more dangerous. The makes us feel like we're worthless. Now you're going to go d Now you're going to go learn. So says comes from a person similar to what we said before who has who's lowly who has who has who has no self-dignity. Like you know women many times they say the women are not they don't have a sense of they don't appreciate who they are that they have to try to get attention in such a way. It's sad. It's sad for them. We we look for for for when a person doesn't feel like they're a good person. Right? Is it with kids who who misbehave? Sometimes kid misbehaves. Okay. Sometimes it happens. Not in my house, but other kids, you know, but [laughter] but but but when a person but when a person when the kid starts to feel I am a bad kid and he tightens himself up or someone says that to him or her that's much more toxic. It's very very a person rights Dr. Torski would often say that that the difference between guilt and shame is that guilt is a person says I'm better than that. Shame is a person says I'm worthless. It's it's I I am you know guilt is I'm ashame I'm I feel bad about what I did. Shame is I feel bad about what I am. And that's much more toxic. And that's the the great danger of you know you have teams at risk. It's it's a person doesn't feel they don't feel like they're anything. I don't feel like I'm nobody. I feel like I mean I don't mean anything to anybody. And that's why many times someone who somebody who loves them and shows them you know uh shows that they care about them and they show that they're they're valuable not because they make them their project. They genuinely care about them could save their life definitely emotionally and spiritually. Sometimes even physically, you know, because because a person sins when they feel like they're nothing says what we said before that that's the idea of the of rehabilitating him of giving him a sense of and this ties so beautifully to so asks three questions on that opening not the opening the second opening when you williso I'm saying this week is >> Yeah. Yeah. We're we're we're getting we're getting there. [laughter] We're on the way. A lot of snow outside, but spring is coming. So, it's a very funny throughout. Why does it say it's a funny? Question two, what's the heads? You're only lifting up the head. What about the rest of the back? He doesn't come with the And also, what's the word is just not necessary. He says even you say why you have to say what's why do you need this word of so he says [snorts] makes a person feel ashamed makes a person feel low it's the toxic the toxic shame of a person this was after theel it's out of order we know says this was but really happened after the this is the theap for the and therefore The is saying when a person does a mitzvah when a person is I don't have in front of me it's very beautiful it lifts a person up person feels connected to when you will raise up like the says by not just that it'll give you back your job he'll lift you up you not just that he'll spare your life that you'll get your job back he'll lift you up you're given back your position it's it raises you up that nobody will be missing means that you have a you have a purpose that every single person feels that they matter. It's a it's only a half because we need each other. Every one of us is a is is a vital part. So it's it's this idea also of feeling that we matter. There's a theme in the para that runs through a lot of the para of empathy that yid feels for somebody else. Not just sensitivity but even a higher level to be empathetic. Take care of because you were just don't don't afflict you knew what it was like take care of don't hurt an alman or rashi says really it's every person but the is talking about them they are very weak in strength so we have so much we have person has to be sensitive tell you very very quickly I heard a story once at the satba berish called aid of his in Florida. I think he was working on a shik for ina. So he asked this who lived there lived in the neighborhood. One of his he asked him about about her some information and he said I don't really know her. He said but uh I'll find out what the Reb wants and there was like a silence and then he hears like sobbing on the other end and the saidbas what did I what did I say? The reb wants information tomorrow. I I'll get it now. I'll call back the Reb in a half hour. The Reb said, "You can't be my He said, "There's an almon in your neighbor and you don't know her. You never invited her for Shabas. You never your wife never nothing. You don't know anything about her. Where's the where's the where's the love? Where's the caring about somebody who's underprivileged?" Um, beautiful story also that I heard the vision of the rabbi. No, I think the current one of I think that um there was an alman a widowerower who made a his daughter or son and after [clears throat] the rebates after the you know it's 1:00 in the morning the rebba tells his gab go bring the bim the father you know so the fellow comes he sits down the rebba wants to speak to him after 1:00 in the morning the rebba says to him you know how was the how was the band the flowers the food everything worked out good yeah for like five minutes and the guy so he leaves >> afterwards the I guess the guy turns to the reb he says he said someone comes home from a from a sim they first thing they do is they sit down with their spouse and they smoo about it that's what they do 1:00 in the morning they sit there and smoo about the about the simka they reminisce they reflect a little bit they say he's an alman he's going home to a quiet house I want to about the that's a reb that's a person who thinks about others that's the where Where do we get that from? Where does that sensitivity come from? It's at the end of the par actually in the part about the there's a few that are very difficult to understand what they mean. The pic says over there it says they saw they they got a glimpse of whatever that means. They saw the god of there was a brick says what's this brick? He says it was from the it was a brick from when they were in servitude in to remember the sh of what does that do for us? What does it do for a person? We underestimate it all the time. What does it do for a person in a difficult moment that somebody sits with them have nothing to say, nothing to do? Sit there. God forbid a person's sitting shiva. God forbid this person's in the hospital. Just means something. So somebody stops calls pes says that there was a fellow who used to see him every Friday night in shul a person older single used to invite him all the time I never wanted to come one week said to him come on yeah just come you know he says you really you really want me to answer you really want me to tell you why I don't come says yeah tell me to Ron's credit he says so he said why do you come and invite me on Friday night he says what am I like I'm nobody you don't think about me you see me in ch you come and invite me why don't you think about me on Tuesday Why don't you think about me on Wednesday night? Here comes Friday night, you see me in show, so you feel bad for me, so you invite me. So Mron said he was right. And to be able to to to think about to think about other people. Um, let me let me share two more thoughts. One, just because I I love this idea. Everybody knows it's one of the famous laws of the Torah. >> What about the clock? [laughter] >> Oh, it's already 11:30. >> No. >> Oh, he said the clock is wrong. So an eye for an I. So we know the says it's not you know it's it's really money. The go a classic only the go sees these things. The word tas literally means under. So the letter is look at the next look at the letter that's underin. Under is a under is a under is a scramble it a little bit you get is under the letters of isf. That's that's really what it's talking about. So everybody knows we don't actually poke an eye for an eye. I saw once uh >> uh was reading somewhere. It was pretty hard to read that some Muslim some some mus some Muslim kid who stole and they ran over his hand with a truck, >> you know, not going to steal again. >> But uh they do. >> Yeah. Yeah. But we of course we don't do that. So why does the Torah word it that way? Why does the ter say if uh if it means in 2021 if I have the name right. Yuri Andred ran onto the field during the Super Bowl. Some my students told me that he did it this year again. I don't know. But he ran onto the field during the Super Bowl. I don't know. That's what they told me just now. >> He bet the the background to the story was that he had bet cuz now there's a big there's a big no >> big you there's a big problem though. There's betting stuff. sports betting, betting everywhere, gambling. It's a It's a very big problem. But anyway, this guy had bet $50,000 that somebody was going to streak across the field during the Super Bowl. So, he did it and he made $370,000. $369 cuz he had to pay $1,000 fine. That's a pretty good deal of material. >> It's a pretty good deal. [laughter] Yeah. So, I think he had there was a there was a a I'll give you a couple of examples of this. There was a daycare in Kyifa that uh this is there's a famous book of freconomics. They have this story in there. The parents the the daycare was very frustrated because parents were late in picking up their kids from the daycare. So they decided they're going to do something a little drastic. They're going to impose a fine. Anybody who comes late, they're going to impose a fine. Instead of the numbers going down, the numbers went up. Why? Because parents said to themselves, "It's worth it. I'll pay the fine." Before they felt bad. Now I don't feel bad. I paid the fine. >> CHEAP BABY. >> THAT'S YEAH, EXACTLY. We have another half hour where I go little elevator. It's worth it [laughter] for me. It's worth it for me. Mania announces >> no one's angry at you. >> No. Well, the daycare was was angry, but they realized it was such a it was such a muser. No, but but they wanted to finish. Manal announces Manal announces the beginning of this man. It's not a true story, although it probably is. Manal announced the beginning of this man. He says, "That's it. No more. No more coming late to shak. You come late to shakus. You miss shakas. $10. $10." Everyone walks out. Everyone's uh whoa. You know, one kid comes up to the front, slams down 200 bucks, says to them, "Now, see you in 3 weeks." [laughter] Finally, one last story. I had when I was I was a fifth grade Revy and I was very frustrated at one point and I said to the class, I said, "That's it. That's it. Anybody who says anything, whatever you say, you make a comment, you can write it 50 times." I don't know how to believe in that type of stuff. And I was very annoyed. And um 2 minutes later, another I said, "I'm warning you. you say anything I'm I'm gonna you're gonna write it 50 times and a kid goes that stupid and I said you know what write it 50 times and he hands me the paper he wrote it 50 times and then he said it [laughter] so I laughed I said that's a but that's funny so you know what's the common denominator of all these stories [laughter] sometimes a person feels it's worth the punishment it's worth the punishment you know what so I'll get arrested I'll pay $1,000 and I'm making $369,000. You know, I'll pay the, you know, the 200 bucks to get will leave me alone. You know, I'll write it 50 times. That's fine. It's worth it to me. I'LL I'LL PAY THE and I'll leave my kid for a little bit longer. Someone might think to themselves, you know what? I you know, poke I can't stand that guy. I'll poke at his eye. I'll pay whatever it costs $10,000, whatever it is on the slave market. It's worth it for me. The Torah tells you, you should know. Don't think that it's like, oh, it's just a matter of money. really really it should be an eye for an eye tish will come and tell you that you don't pay it but just be mach the seriousness of it don't think that it's just like something it's a it's a money issue very powerful >> with it >> powerful idea and finally one last thought to conclude in maybe to bring it together on the from is say for a beautiful idea that he says that we know it's only a half and the message to the user is very clear don't think You're all that. Don't think you're you're ashamed of on your own. You're only a half. Every needs another half. He says, "So it seems that the message is only for the Ash. But the he just has to pay because he has to pay in order to have a sib they have to be given by everybody. No, there's a message to the as well. And it really connects to what we spoke about a lot tonight. And that is the uni should never feel that I'm worthless. What do I have to contribute already? He's no you're also a mis you're also a part that your contribution is also vital we don't have any dispensable people in kalis I I heard said said over that he said in the in the 1950s he said uh everyone felt every single Jewish shama was so precious he said that we there's no one is coming after the holocaust we lost 6 million he said a kid could have spat you know spitballs at his reby's face and he wouldn't have gotten thrown out of the yeshiva because we need every he said unfortunately today sometimes unwittingly what kids are made to feel or people are made to feel or people you know we don't need you we have other people we don't need you no one means that on purpose but sometimes that's the underhanded message that we get [clears throat] and that's a tragedy because every single year is so precious in the eyes of our and that is undoubtedly inex undoubtedly inextricably connected to the game you be silly that's not There's a lot of ideas on the barbim. But one of the ideas maybe one of the most important ideas is the re of is feeling that I matter has a purpose for me here. He wants me here and not just extra space. Why wanted to kill me? Not just the Jews outeared. Hamas wants to kill me. Wants to kill me. Iran wants to kill me. They're after me. Who am I? I'm just a loser. Like whatever. What am I? If they want to kill you, that means there's something special about you. Ed Cotch, the mayor, once met uh Rael Laauo, a former chief rabbi of Israel. And he said to him, he said, a survivor. I'm also a survivor. And was so funny because he wasn't he wasn't in Europe. [laughter] And he tells him, he said they found a globe that belonged to Hitler. In every country, there was a number. And on the number, and the number was how many Jews were in that country. He said on USA it said 6 million. He said that was the number there. Hitler wanted me as well. He said God spared me. He said but he wanted me and therefore I'm also a survivor. Now of course that doesn't minimize those who really truly survived. But the point is a strong point. We are all survivors. We're survivors of Hammon. We're survivors of of of the Holocaust. We're survivors. They want to kill us. That means we're special. It means we're kashv. That means I'm not more than a maxis. I can't get a get to my head, but I am a max. I am a vital contributor to Israel. Help us all to the boy of carry with us not only to the gulas of Purim and Pes, but the great gulas that are coming undoubtedly for all of Kalisur very very soon. Thank you again. Uh tremendous.