Rabbi Daniel Staum Mishmar at Scheiner's Shiur on Yom Kippur 2026

Shalom to everyone. First of all, I'm grateful again for the opportunity even though it's a new location ousted by the Limro but to have the opportunity especially hopefully to share some before. I want to thank Torah anytime as always for recording spreading Torah. the in discussing the whenever he says he's telling you not the reason but a understanding of the mitzvah this to set aside one day in the year to to do to do chuva if I would pile up. It would fill up after two or three years. The whole world would have to be destroyed. I just read a story. The best stories. You want to know what the best news stories is? It's in the uh the kids section of of all the Jewish magazines, the AIM of the Amy and all the kids parts. The best stories. So, my kids, I was open. And I saw this story in the in the there was a there's a book called the antiquities of Athens, history of of of Greece, of ancient Greece, published in 1858. It was uh part of the I think if I'm pronouncing it correctly, the Kyama Public Library, which opened in 1872, it was book number 506 of a thousand. A fellow named Ross Simmons was doing renovations in his home recently. He found the book inside a tea crate which was bricked into the fireplace. >> Wow. >> He returned it to the library 150 years overdue. Ros suspects said it was his great-grandfather who originally owned this little house um before that it was he who took it out and forgot to return it. >> So what second? So the fine um was three British pence per week. I think this is in Australia actually. um it would come out to approximately just under $20,000 today. What? $19,500. That is the of the overdue fees, the late fees. We would be we would be swamped. We would be finished. We wouldn't be able to catch up gave us a chance to wipe the wipe the slate clean every single year. There's a a stunning lion in the ton of in the very beginning towards towards one of the first uh first pieces in the beginning which I I only came across this year. I never heard it before but it's so beautiful he's quoting on the created days but he only has one. So first says it's referring to Shabas. Then he says this is for listen to this. These words are are just so beautiful tremendous in front of that he gave with tremendous love to Israel. And he continues he says marshall to a king who tells his servants to empty out the waste. And the waste probably doesn't mean the regular garbage. which means like the chamber bots and everything else and to put it opposite his the entrance to the palace. That's that's the mosh that he gives explain that just like on just like we have the triplicate where the enters the kadash the holiest man in the holiest place on the holiest day. So to every one of us has a certain of coming in front of every one of us but we don't go on the outside we go inside inwards says we don't make a on our talis before we put it on before because on the night of it's not our talis is wrapping us in in so to speak in his talis >> what's that make a >> what's that >> the make the garra has a whole question >> yeah yeah >> about if you come late can you make after. So what do you mean? >> I don't know. This is what he says. Ra says says make >> we do make the braha. >> I don't know what he's referring to. You're right. Okay, scratch that from the video. Um >> No, no, it's all good. >> We're learning. We're learning. >> It's good. It's good. It's good. For those who I don't know. I I You're right. We do make a I don't know. >> I guess so. Right. >> The tono continues. It's says the best the best the best the best in this world is you have a little bit of so it's good. Not only this but you think a person comes to somebody else and he asks for okay you know the way is not sad in his heart. declares he calls on the entire world to join me in my that I'm being that's a tremendous we're not we're not coming in front of you know like people have this image sometimes in their head this angry face that is waiting you know is waiting to be moas he's looking to be moas it's tremendous in camp this summer. I still work in camp. So, um the two teams the color war teams were AU and Malcu. So, someone someone showed me actually that that uh you know everybody I think the common thing we understand is Aino is AA and Malcu is Europe. But someone showed me in um the the what's his name? Forgot his name. the the tila ones, the ones that have every single line explained. Um, see he has in there. I forgot the name. >> No, not art scroll. The the things that every single line is explained to the >> No, no, forgot his name. Okay. >> It's word for word right underneath. >> Yeah. No, but it came out the last few years. Actually, I'm just drawing a blank on his name. It came out in English also. >> I forgot. No. >> Um, so he he brings down and actually sent an email through art school to find out what his source was. Didn't know what his source was. I'll tell you in a second what he says. >> What? >> I'll tell you in a second what he says. But then I saw on Roshasho that Kany says I'm sure it's an earlier source as well, but he says fascinating. He saysu is our father who loves us. Malcano is the king who has the ability. He has the power to do anything. So not the Malcu the way commonly understood it's like it's Euro pathways for prayer. That's what it's called I think. Um so Malcu is is the king who has the power to grant us everything. So we're coming before Alu who loves us and Malcu has the ability to to act on that love. I once u I was once bothered by it said we say in the good the one who's good because he his run out the one who has because his his doesn't run out. Isn't it backwards? Shouldn't it be um says no because a person can can want to do good but they don't have the ability to do good. They don't they don't they don't have the ability to do good. He never runs out of that's what he says. He says a person wants to do good but eventually okay enough ready leave me alone. Also the comes always before the >> that's true too but he's saying he's never runs out this is the point that I was saying before but yeah but I want to do but I I don't have the ability never runs out so the fact that they they work together loves us and he has the power to do everything it's fascinating the only time in the Torah where is referred to as an av only time is in parazi where the says the iss that you were going to do this a disgusting nation I think says because when it's a lack of manuval is a person who's lacking not wise is he not your father who acquired you he made you he formed you so this the only place is referred to as a as a as our father. Something that we always we always talk about in in one of his books Spiro has a story about a about a a young man named Anatoli um who was born and he grew up in Odessa. Eventually he came to LA. He became from and years later he was going back to visit Odessa and he met in an elderly man who had been there for years and years and the elderly man told him he said I want to give you a m that from here from our town and he handed him a maker the pages were very afraid very old old maker and he looks in the m and he sees that the word the word malenu is crossed out and it says the zar then it's crossed out again because you see It's crossed out and it says Stalin and then that's crossed out as well. >> It's like the graffiti >> he changes with the times. So this was obviously a person who was very you know uh you know didn't want to get in trouble. So he said oh he knew you know that uh and each Ray Wine said over that a woman told him a woman who had who had lived in communist Russia that um how do they erase religion? He said that they would say to the when she was a young child in school they would say everybody who wants ice cream I want ice cream. I want ice cream. Okay, now we're going to ask God for ice cream. Anybody want ice cream? Let's I'm God, could you give us ice cream, please? God, are they screaming and yelling, "God, give us ice cream." Nothing happens. Okay, let's ask I don't know if it was Stalin or Brev, let's ask Brev if we can have ice cream. Please, can we have ice cream? Minute later, they come out with ice cream and everybody gets ice cream, you know, to to eradicate religion. So, Malcano each time it was crossed out. But Rav Arendo Friedman who was the person who was Mariv Anatoli when when he heard this when he saw the max he said it's interesting Malcu was crossed out and was you know all those mistakes he said but was never crossed out there's never another that we have another father but but there's there's no one else except for but he's not only an aba in the sense that he has this says not just a natural a father a natural father that gives you know that he that he gives over the genes to the child. He gave us to raise us up to be to be so that we could be that we could be the great people that that we are. There was a this story came out in the last uh last few years, maybe it was last year even. Um there was a father who was driving with his 16-year-old son to Kiryat Ata near near Kyifa. I think they were going for the weekend and there was a siren during the war. So they pulled off and they stopped under a bridge. There was a direct hit to the bridge and both of them were seriously injured and the father his upper body was hit but the the the son had two pieces of shrapnel in his neck and he was gushing blood and they were both like you know lying there and the father hears his son calling aba abba like very weakly. So the father jumps up to help his son and son looks at his father and he says you're much much worse shape than me. He says you got to get to the hospital. They got them they they they were evacuated to Rambam hospital in Kyifa and Bash and both of them were saved. They interviewed the father afterwards told him you're you're a hero saved your son and he said and these are the words I saw the I don't have written down the name but you know these this not just the story that was out there. He said I'm not a hero. He said I'm an aba. He my son was calling out aba. So I became an aba. That was it. that gave me the strength. There's also there's a a very powerful story also. It's a it's a well-known story. His name was Rashardiki and um he lived in >> lived in I forgot where in up in in Europe or in Russia and he he wanted to move to Israel. His wife went ahead. It was it was dirt poor. I think it's late 1800s and she came to she set up an apartment dirt poor but she told her husband come. He came with their two of their young children and Leila and they were on a boat with like uh I think 12 other people and it was a terrible terrible storm and um the boat broke in half and they were swept overboard. Um and he's holding on. He was a good swimmer. He was over 50. He wasn't a young man but he was a he was a good swimmer and he's holding his two children and how long can you swim holding two children against the ocean currents. And so he made a heartbreaking he makes a what should he do? Who should he let go? his daughter or his son can only if if he holds on then they're all going to die. So if he lets one go then he has a chance that at least two of them will survive. So he makes a I don't remember all the he's going to let his daughter go and he says to her he says come say vid he says what is a what does a 10-year-old girl say vidy for but he says voy with her teary eyed they say is and then he says okay I'm going to I'm going to let you go now and he and he and he you know lets her go and she screams as she's drifting away she screams aba aba and he pulls his hand out and he grabs her back and he says hold on to my hand and he it goes with with both of them somehow against the current and they end up on uh some sort of the dry land and uh and he's he's lying there out and they thought they thought he died. They thought they were trying to wake him. They couldn't rouse him. Finally, after uh after a while, you know, he he opened his eyes. He says, "I'm alive." He says, "I'm just exhausted. I just need a few minutes. Give me some time." He says, "And then we'll go." But he said also he said the story also I think he spoke and he said over the story also he said he said I couldn't I did not have the strength. I could not carry both of my children. It wasn't possible. I was I was I was I was done. He says when she screamed Aba, he said that that that that aroused me that I had strength that I didn't know I had. He said I was able to to continue to bring them in. And he said the story with the lady with the car. >> Yeah. With ideas. She screamed within him. I have to be and he said we are children of what? >> Hold on. What? Wait one second. So he said this is he still is he said over he said the problem is quoting in this week's para the rock that bore you you forgot we forget about so he says when aid screams we sing it throughout we are fulfilling he says amazing thing give strength give strength to hashem it's it sounds like hypocrisy not hypocrisy you know But giving strength to Hashem said we give strength to Hashem who wants to do good. When we call out we call out he says in we say that whether actively or in our minds we say don't let go of us. He says so to speak strength is looking to be mo with and with an incredible concept I want to share. I just heard this week I was listening to Ryman. He said over this perv it's always good crying out to Hashem which by the way itself is a fascinating 10 days between is not true there aren't 10 days between unless you learn you know oh it's 10 days from whenashana starts until yum kiper ends it's seven days so I saw from r soduk this is a sidebar I think he says I'm not uh uh I don't know know fully what he means but he says that there's there's there's 10 midos you know the the three on the top he said we have to work on seven we have to work on seven will gift us the other three don't ask me to explain to you the amus of that but it's a it's an incredible concept he says so it's the 10 days between we have to work on only seven but gives us as if we have all 10 anyway so the is so it says 10 days it's even more beautiful and it's accepted immediately that we just landed on seek out when he could be found which is so he asked I don't understand what is this lion that that is chuva ever not accepted right away what does that mean if a person does sincere chuva no matter when no matter what person can always do chuva so what does it mean during that it's so he said over that that uh the Rambam himself says that what is chuva gimulo real chuva then a person is in the exact same situation the he has the same strength and same vitality and he withholds and he does not do the a second time he says that's I once heard salmon said that sometimes a person says you know finds himself in in the same situation again and he says why are you doing this to me he says you asked me I'm giving you the opportunity said on a different occasion If a person puts safeguards in in place, you know, a person protects himself, he does things to protect himself and he's in the exact same situation, but now he has protections. So you you think that, oh, that's not really in the same situation because now no, he says he says that you protected yourself. So you're in the same situation, but you put in place, you know, that uh that you shouldn't you shouldn't be that that's that's called. But anyway, chua normally means >> it's Yeah. Yeah. It's it's it's Yeah. to make sure the person's not again. Second time. So, um so he says that that that so chuva says the ram real chuvas and the person's in the exact same situation. It's not because he's too weak or he doesn't have the he has the ability. He doesn't do it. So, it's it's it's it has to be a mis that a person holds himself back. He says during our muva an amazing kadesh and he quotes you share in a second it really comes from I'm sure it comes from earlier than that also but he says that that um during chuva a person wants he really really wants even without being in the same situation he says he's chuva if it's a real anatom normally that's not enough person has to be in the same situation again in order for for there to be chuva During a serious he made chuva a roton gum or a genuine sincere rot is enough for a person to achieve chuva. It's an amazing it's an amazing idea. And he says and that's why the Rambam says why it's always immediately just from the you don't even you don't even have to come onto the he says and that also explains also it often bothered me. I often wondered in the we say and I think the RA says the same that it's it's a for say it's it's the Kates it's the end. It's the end is not the end. What do you mean? Could you ch again tomorrow? side point is says everybody knows we say seven times why so the I think everybody knows that through the seven heavens he's going back so to speak classic of pinkis he says that's not what I'm thinking when I say I'm saying I'm thinking this is his lion you're not going nowhere of the I'm holding on I'm not letting go I'm holding on to you I won't Let go. I'm holding on to you. But getting back to this, why is why is Kates? What's at the end of it's not Kates to do Chuv? You could do Chuva always. It's Kates of this incredible opportunity that a person can attain Chuva from a zone from a from a very strong zone. says this idea. He says with a little bit of a he says we know it's we say we said today's the the birth of the world it's the creation of but uh it seems that that that's only ask me to explain these concepts either but it was only speaking about it right and >> so he says that means if if we're reexperiencing on some level the bas am. So that's why a person can do chuva during this time period because that's what this time period of the year is. It's a time of recreation and therefore instance in front wants the heart right say that um that um better it's a very important thing to remember during if you can't finish all the words once said that's a classic quip it's better to say a little bit without cavan than a lot without kavanao But the rel of kazal is better to say a little bit with kavan and to say a lot with wi with without kavan. Um there's a story I've said this over quite a few times since I heard it. My son was bar mitzvah last week. So I went with him to to thank you. So I went with with him to Yeshu Valley to to Davin to get his first aliyah. So afterwards I was the assistant man there. So he he said oh he spoke for like two minutes. I really had to get get going to get to my yeshiva. I'm happy I stayed. It was worth it. It was worth ding you just for the story. Um he said there was a woman she was 38 years old living in the south and she was French actually and she was she had family in the south of she was crying to her family and she's 38 she doesn't have a so they told her someone told her you have to go to was big there you have to go to so she comes to there's a family member someone in the family who translated who knew French so um she's crying her eyes out to him and he says to her okay I want you to say to I wrote it down for 30 days. She says, "Okay." She comes back 30 days later and she says, "I need to speak to he's not feeling well. He can't he's not he's not coming out today." She said, "I'm going to make him feel better. I I need to see." So he comes out and she says, "I'm a 30th day was the day before I became a so he was very excited and he made a with her." Beautiful. After he he goes back to his room, he wasn't feeling well. off. He goes back to his room. So the woman who was the translator between them, the woman who spoke French said to her, "You you you followed the rashiva's advice?" He said, "I followed it exactly." He said, "If you don't mind my asking, you you told me you don't know how to read Hebrew." She said, "I don't. Every day I took the I held it close to my heart. I said, that's what happened." Tell this over to my students. They're like, "Perfect. That's what we'll do. We'll say done." No, it doesn't work for us cuz we can do more. But for for her, she she meant it sincerely. It's about the It's about the desire to come close to a classic story, a great story. A Mendel Futas who was a great Mashia. But he was a very sharp, witty, great person. So the story from when he he was when he was in the gulak, he was with non-Jews also. And uh one of the rules they try to make their life miserable, miserable for the sake of being miserable. And one of the rules against the rules to play cards and uh they were they were professional thieves like real like you know real professional pickpockets. And uh these guys they they would they would the guards would would they would either hear them they would come bursting in cuz they they heard them playing cards. They heard you know they come bursting in. As soon as they came in no cards, couldn't find the cards. They they and they got more frustrated and more frustrated every night. They would ransack the place. they would look here ear whatever and they would just sit there with whatever we know you have them we heard you whatever they could not they could not find the cards sort of mental himself also was a little bit uh you know couldn't couldn't figure it out either so one time he asked one of them he's like I'm not ratting you out he's like I just I want to know for myself he's like where are the cars he says the guard comes in as he comes he says we're real professionals we know what we're doing as the guard comes in slip it into his pocket so he looks everywhere screams and yells turns he didn't dream to look at his own pocket. It was in his own pocket and as he's walking out grab back out they could never find it. So if Mendele said everybody's looking for happiness, fulfillment, everybody's but everybody's looking in someone else's pocket. >> You want happiness, you want connection you you what the guard's pocket. Yeah >> or whatever until he finished till he finished uh searching the room. >> He didn't see that. >> No, these guys were real, right? These guys are were professional. They were very professional. But Amedel said that we do the same thing where everybody's busy looking in everyone else's pocket. You want to feel fulfillment. You want to you have to yeah you have to look inward that doesn't only mean is the only king over the world over me and the only way that is the king over me. Right. They say that it's easier to be on the entire world not myself. That's the hardest thing to myself. The part of the problem is that we don't have patience. We don't this time period. This is a big mistake that that many of us make because the is so good. He's so good at what he does. He's been, you know, people like have a son, you know, you know, selling bagels since 1962. Sometimes they taste that way, right? But, uh, you know, uh, you know, been in business, you know, doing mortgages since 1834, right? It's the Sutton's tagline has been messing people up since the year zero. And he does such a good job. So, he tells us to come more kabalas and more cababolis. He comes, he doesn't always come like a party animal. sometimes it comes like a rasha the long white beard or the reba and he says that's your kabala really that that's that's so we take on more we take on more take on more once said oh my gosh this is such a it gives me chills it's so true he said the he's very patient says I'll give you I'll give you mine allows us good to be inspired now I'll wait I'll b my time you want something that lasts it has to be a kabala that a person can can take on we have to have patience we don't we're not looking to do chuva in the sense that I fixed everything and now I'm good. We're starting a process. It's a it's a process. It's the trajectory. That's the goal right now. Not to not to overhaul my entire personality which is not shy anyway. He said will never let that happen. My body won't let that happen. I'll rebel against such such heavy change. I have to do something that I'm stepping in the right direction. I'm moving in the right direction. Feinstein said such a beautiful we start before even he said a beautiful idea why we say that it's planted you plant something you plant it in the ground and it rots and you don't see any fruit from it for a while till slowly slowly slowly it starts to grow that's the way it's sadic is not you're not born at sadic it doesn't happen overnight is real and then there's come from the heart. >> Yeah. Yeah. So, but or that that that that we're looking to plant, we're not looking to to to you're not looking to to grow a tree in one day. It doesn't happen anyway. It's not possible. I saw from I think the name is a um he's a Rashisha inherit my son introduced me to the safer beautiful safer. So, he has on Chuva and he says such a fascinating idea. He says, "Sometimes people take on too many cabalis." He says, "It comes from laziness." Whoa. Why? He says, "Because I I don't have the the patience for the process." So, I take on everything at once. That that's that's that's lazy. If you really if it feels it feels the opposite, but it's if a person really wants to grow, you take on a little bit and you have to be ready for the long haul. A pretty a person has to be ready for the for the for the long trip. the I saw so from Alter that he quotes that there was the balt in G by the Imra wasul I hope I'm pronouncing it correctly >> that's the problem with litox try to tell over can't get the name right >> good so he said so he by mistake on oniper he said instead of saying he said you know he you could imagine the mistake the god and the god of so he was he was mortified he was so embarrassed after he went to wish to to the and smiled he said a person becomes the god of our aes he collects our and makes them into so I I let me let me just end off by saying something that I saw tonight Someone sent me this. I was blown away and it builds on what we said before from from the he says normally you do's famous statement himself was one of the most greatest polyuva says that that person does person he said he said that's true the rest of the person even doing just writes in he says that the difference there's a difference between done out of when the garra says there's a difference between what I just said he said that's the rest of the year but during the chuva when is he's he's close to every single one of us even can transform so it's such a for us to know that we're trying to do chuva to who is who his hand is outstretched. He's it's not just who says fine I'll be mo because I don't want to destroy the world I don't want to destroy you says I'm waiting it brings the greatest and the greatest so the ideas of focusing on the great gift of it's not an easy gift great gifts come with a lot of work it's it's it's difficult but it's a great gift that's given with love and with joy and we calling out to Aba to bu who's our ultimate aba and uh thank my aba for being here I forgot to say that at the beginning um and uh he taught me what it means to be an aba Um and also have a true ans for growth and realize that it's up to us. It's up to us and to have patience for the process and use this man Hashem for true aliyah lasting aliyah not just you know that as soon as over the will jump in. We'll be able to to keep them at bay and keep working and slowly slowly building on ourselves constantly with all of a year of aliyah of and I need it.