PARSHAS YISROI: LOI SACHMOID - IS IT REALLY POSSIBLE?

para in the last of not to be jealous not of your friend's house not of his car. The question is the obvious question. How could you not be jealous? I mean there are people that are under Madrega that are not jealous. You could tell a person sign one of the he might be tempted and want to steal but signify says you're now to eat. You're now to eat. You pass by a traer restaurant. Some people are very tempted and they want to go in but they understand the says you don't go in but when it comes to call it that's emotion that's something that's in the mind what does it mean not to be jealous I see this beautiful house I'm jealous I want the house and thera says says you're not allowed to do something. Obviously it means it's possible the in the beginning of all the way in the beginning he brings the zer says that if somebody walks amus for without and then the asks so why doesn't the bv bring it why is it not brought and he says because it's something that people can't be A lot of people that is written that everybody can be. It's not only if you for sure the any of the mitzvah is not just for certain people. It's for everybody. So how could the say don't be jealous? What do you mean I'm jealous? I'm jealous. No. So the MS is that like it's the garb the says I'm just going to quote in the middle of the words of the garra the garra says of Dr. People think that to be is only if you convince the guy to give to give you what he has without paying for it. But if you pay for it then you're not even if you pay for it. Meaning to say is you see the person as a very nice thing. People think you only if you convince him to give it to you without giving money if you make the guy give him what he has even if you pay for it >> there's only is you convince him you for you you convince him to give it >> he's going through a financial hardship right and you want something he has so you convince him to tell him that thing >> good we'll leave that we'll leave that on the died, but I'll call upon him. That's in this week's paras in par like the spells out clearly a person's even if he doesn't take the and that's why I want to leave your discussion on the side because they're not really going into the schmoo of with money not with money in the second time that says that a person's even if He doesn't get the no hardship. Hardship. He's just jealous of what the person has. He's over and that's why the R asks on the Rambam. The Rambam says that you don't get malus on because it's which we understand being jealous. You're not doing anything so you don't get malus. What do you mean it's a sha? It's of course it's a ma. It's a ma. you take the however that's the para but in par even without doing anything just being jealous. So is there a difference if you're jealous because you don't want him to have it or >> Oh, very good. Very good. Brought that up as well. Also, we're going to get to it of the but being jealous. You're jealous. How could a person how could you tell a person not to be jealous? So the the addresses this question and the says yeah yeah the says not to be jealous. So then you're not supposed to be jealous. You can't be jealous. Tyra says not to be jealous. Just going to read a little bit of the because it's it's interesting. It's he doesn't really give a how not to be jealous. He says the says so to speak you have to control your emotion to refrain to hold hold back from what somebody else has tell us to refrain from something. How could the Tory tell us to refrain from something that we can't withstand? So, he says to refrain to hold himself back of his mind. The answer is yes. The answer is yes. A person could control his mind and his heart to hold back from being jealous. of him. Not speaking about particularly but in general how a person could hold back from having and over there he says he asked how could the give on a person that has bad a person can't control his mind and if his mind goes to bad places why should he get he can't control himself here already. He gives a little bit more of a and then we'll go to different as well. But this is still like along the lines of the Yeah. The Tory says control yourself how think positive. Person has to refrain from hold. Person has to prepare himself. He should clear out his mind, his heart from bad. The firstb says the mitzvah say of loving how do you it's also the same question you could be to love the so he sayshat is yeah a person has to work he has to do to love the but all of this the saf says says the free says you want to be here. He's not talking about learn that'll bring you to be buton from all this a bit more. The Tory tells us yes do not be do not be jealous. How do you do it? You work on yourself. You learn muser. You have to work on yourself. A person has to work on himself not to be jealous. But let us move on through a couple of to expand a bit more of how taka could a person be the last of Deris not to be jealous a person it's the of a person that a person sees something else many times he's jealous the Evan Ezra right here in this week's paranzra asks this question like everybody else like many people have the question how could he how could there be a person that shouldn't be jealous so Dean Ezra answers the follow following the Ezra says which is a bit famous meaning to say is we all understand that a village person is not jealous to want to marry the daughter of the king it's no sh it's no sh it's like me and you at least I think so we don't have any jealousy to be in the white house it's just no It's no shas. That house is for the president. We're not becoming president anytime soon. It's no shas. It's no shas. We're jealous. We're not jealous. Even no matter what could be the most exciting thing in the world, it's no shas. A person's not jealous. He sees a bird and I'm jealous. I'm jealous of a bird cuz I want to fly also. It's no shas. A bird has wings. A person doesn't have wings. Next zenezar. A person has to understand that what you have from the a that has sh to you and what you don't have not the is I would have liked to have it what you don't have the decided that it's not for you it should be and how he says it and even more is no shas just like this person this village person this farmer has no shikas to the king's daughter no Sh he's not jealous while it's not major sh a person has to understand that what he doesn't have has no has no sha gave you that's what the decided you should have what the didn't give you is like the didn't give you wings so the didn't give you your friend's house and your friend's car if a person of course you have to work on it but if a person understands that ma he won't be jealous of what his friend has this in this week's para says a different heritz the actually begins by bringing the abanzra and he answers the following he says yeah a person we can understand that a person would have a tya to be to be jealous not a tya His he is a person would be jealous. Debzra says there's no sh not when it's no sh you're not jealous. A person would be jealous. However, if a person has a bigger enjoyment, a bigger tya, obviously we understand that overrides the smaller enjoyment, the smaller tya. And ma he says like this a person should have just work on himself. He should have a bigger chuka a bigger tya a bigger excitement to be in hashem more more than any. And therefore true true that when a person sees his friend has something good something better bigger do be would be jealousy. However a person has to override it with working on himself to be excited for to do mitzvah and one of the mitzvah of course is says you should be more excited. not to be over the from that should override the jealousy. It's somebody once asked he said he has an issue with eating. He's overeing and it's not healthy. He's gaining weight and he can't control himself. He asked the Kaz what to do. I didn't see this inside but this is what people say over Kazesh said I don't have an answer for you to slow you down on your eating habit however I have a for you he says find something else that's a bigger enjoyment than you eating and get involved with that enjoyment obviously if a person I'm sure he must probably wanted to direct them into enjoyment But even if it's not a even if he has to have a certain outlet something else something that you're more excited than eating you'll get busy with that in the same lines the of what the says find something bigger than the of jealousy which the says is go to the says that would be a more of an enjoyment an excitement and that'll override they'll take out take away the the jealousy. It's like if a person eats all day every day, but then he has a day that he's marrying off his child, he has that excitement that he's busy that everything should work out. He's not going to even have time to eat. So the person is jealous. But if a person can work and understand that ah the Tyra says not to be jealous and every time I'm about to be jealous I want to be what Hashem wants to love that person has to work on himself but that excitement should override the jealousy but more let's call it the says A person has a tya and it's burning the zahara. It's on fire. Person has a tya. He's on the way to go do an ara and he's walking over a frozen lake. Yeah, it's bitter cold outside now. He's walking over a frozen lake and then he slips and he hears noise with the cracking of the ice. I guess it wasn't as cold a little bit. He starts to get afraid that could be the the it's going to crack. It's a sak nerve is going to fall in. No question about it. And that's made in the that he loses his whole ta. If a person is afraid that's what made and and how he says is that even if a person has a small takes away a ta the me says like this a person would be jealous not like we started from the says the says not to be jealous don't be jealous a person would be jealous a person would be jealous however Ever even though a person would be jealous that jealousy could be you could override the jealousy with which the of not being over one of and even if a person's not on the maj of a person could get himself to a little bit of not to be that would dismantle would make that there should be no more ty of no more kina jealousy. He explains with this the says the only thing I'm asking from you is you want to know why because if a person has won't be a person because he has a he has an puts him to task but if a person has from the shim he's not going to be a Also the if you have you're not going to be why because if you have that little even a little bit a little bit of makes that a person he doesn't get carried away with his so a person can refrain from being unlike Smid initi says that this what the med says that the 10 of daseris is brought in the beginning of harsh and if you go through the where ism is explains the just like a person as say if a person has a son that's wealthy he's not jealous why is he not jealous because because he loves his child so much it's like he has it he's not jealous the me if a person works You like your friend so much like you like you like your son like you when your son is very wealthy whatever he has you're not m you won't be m on somebody else as well also that's his eight son the says in beginning of that when the says that's referring to referring of a loves his he won't be another he says person has to understand that if it's not for you to have what has you're not going to have the enjoyment from it person sees if only I would have had a better car would have been gashmak says to a person has gishmach from what the it's for you to have and from what you have that's what the gives you that's you have gishmach not only if it's not for you to have what you're not supposed to have so a person's jealous if I would have that if only if I would have that I would be in a better place I would be more relaxed I would have more enjoyment if it's not basher for you to have it. You're not going to get anything out of it. And this also this should help a person not to be jealous. Person is jealous because he would like to have it. Even if the person's going to have it, it's not going to give him anything. He brings from he says the following. There are more. I thought I made a copy. I'll say it outside. The Ramos says in the beginning of person shouldn't when he does avoid this Hashem he shouldn't be embarrassed from the people that are looking that are laughing at him. So the shil is what do you mean he shouldn't be embarrassed? If I'm a shy person I'm doing mitzvah and everybody looks at me that it's funny so I'm embarrassed. What does it mean not to be embarrassed? So he says and that's what he says over here also it's a if a person is the first nine of it's a that a person's going to be not to be jealous if a person does a person's going to be that a person's not going to be embarrassed. So that's another another how not to be on the last of the if a person works properly. If a person works on the first nine of the it's that a person's not going to be jealous. The erit continues on to say it could be others say it as well also that the of is when a person is jealous that why does that person have it? Meaning to say if that person wouldn't have a fancy house I would be okay. It's because that person has it that's why I'm jealous. However, if a person drives up the block and he sees a big huge house and he's mitar I would like to have it not because y has it even if let's say it's nobody it's not even sh to him but says a person's not over. So this would also obviously make it easier. There's one thing okay you see a big house like if only I could have a big house I could live in I could have a little bit more space is one thing you have to be more about it but he says if a person where the says is referring to is when a person sees that somebody else has it and you jealous that has it and I don't have it. Is it that you don't want that guy to have it or you don't care if he has it? You just want it also. >> What' you say? >> You pass by the guy's house and you're like, I don't want him to have the house. I want it instead. Or is it just like his house? I also want one. >> So if you if you want it, if you don't want Why does he have it, you want it? That's But if you just you want the house, doesn't make a difference. You don't even know who has it. You don't even It's nobody's. It's a fake house. >> Meaning doesn't make a difference if you care that he has it or no. Meaning do you want that I want it. I don't want him to have it also or >> I don't know if a dafa I don't know if means so vital that he's so doesn't that I don't want him to have it I want to have it or it could mean even again it could mean that is is that why does he have it and I don't have it I also want it I also want it could be as opposed to nothing to do with them I see this idea now I'm at star that I don't have it lastly Even though the says you're not to be jealous. However, there is a jealousy that's which jealousy from here. You are allowed to be jealous. You're allowed to be jealous. And not only that says that a person has of course it has to be in a healthy way has to be something that'll encourage a person somebody just made a so you think to yourself where am I holding I also want to make a and it drives a person he adds more time more time to learning so desire says it's very interesting this week's para if you look in knife. What does it mean? So the zya says that a person should yeah kill a person should of the other ones as well lost and he explains let's say if there's a person that's he's a person that's he was so then by killing the person the same thing is also there happens to Maybe it's not because over there are the explains of but these places a person shouldn't be shouldn't be jealous but there are times that you could be jealous and that's the of somebody else's or in a healthy way just to conclude it's said in the name of the I didn't see inside. I I looked for it, but it said in the name of the person's jealous, but a person is jealous of somebody else. So he says, you're jealous of the person you see has a fancy house, a fancy car, you're jealous of what he has. But you have to understand it comes with a package as much as it looks and of course the is that everybody should have only only good but the mitsus is that every person has has things that are unfortunately he doesn't want. You see, you only see that the person has a beautiful house. But you know why? If you want to have his house, you also have to take the other things. And usually the case is if a person knows what the other person has, he says, you know what? I'm good. I want to have what I want to have what I want and what gave me. That's how not to be given understand that it comes it's a full package. He has good things but these other things also included with it and it's pretty clear that you're not going to want to have the good things together with the other things that come together with it. We should be on have a wonderful Shabas. 5%.