PARSHAS VAYECHI : TARGETING ONE'S FOCUS CORRECTLY

Sukum of the para try to find something not just a ver on the para something a limud a takeaway from the para for every other day throughout the year in the story of mak and then theatim eventually together with yakov came down to mitsim yakov He went back. They brought Jacob up to on the way down the says very interesting. The brothers saw that something's a little bit different with Ysef and they were afraid that could be now Ysef is going to take revenge. What was what do they see? What what made them think now? So Rashi says cuz when Jacob was alive he used to give the to eat. They used to eat together. Says Rashi they used to eat together after that that all stopped. So therefore they saw and that's why uh they said on please forgive us. The question however is is the following. What happened right then after the kura of Yakov? When was Jacob au nifter? >> Months earlier. Months earlier was [clears throat] 30 days, >> right? 70 days. Jacobu was nif sukus the first day sukus. The kur of yakavinu was around. So what took till after the kur on the way down that they started being nervous. Why were they nervous? I mean, uh, a week later, how Rashi says that they stopped eating together with, why weren't they nervous right away? What took so long for the Now, it's months later. Yeah, it's months later. >> It's a separate discussion about the dates, but but it's clear like that. I mean the the say the 30 days and the 40 days but what happened only on the way back that's when the started getting nervous medish and the medish asked this question why now the medish asked this question why now what happened right now zish on the way back down from the they passed the boy was buried was thrown in. So the med says the born in the gar they make a nest for he passed a boy and he made the so they saw make the bra and therefore they were nervous that's why that's what happened right then after the whole after the on the way back down they passed the board the shila is I hear made the shel nest for maz. But why were they afraid? Meaning to say is you passed by where the nest was. You make a bra. What happened now? What was he made the he passed by he made the says the Manchester the following and he says a many of us are used to we make a [clears throat] you make a come out of the bathroom. But he says the proper way to make a is to be present. When you make the to be present not just because we say it to be present to have a mind when could you imagine what does it mean? He brings out you say like this when a person has a nest. A few weeks ago I was driving upstate and it was snowing. I wasn't on the main on the throughway on a quieter highway and my car started skidding and it spun around. I remember Vasha driving afterwards. Thank you Hashem. It was a nest. Nothing happened. Didn't bang it. No cars. really if I pass by again do I make a but as time passes on you remember you remember what happened you remember I remember what happened but you don't have that herish even if I would drive by I don't know if I would literally relive it when he passed by the boer not because He passed by the boy, but because he made the to be able to make a to be able to be there, he had to relive it. You know what it means to relive to relive? He relived it. When he passed by, he remembered when the brothers threw him down. He pleaded that he shouldn't. They put him into a boy when was a sak and they they even saw how he felt that and he was saved and immediately made a oh that's why the brothers the were afraid now that he made the next time because he made the butiness was m a person is m a person to relive it that nest that the nest happened. They felt his >> they saw they saw the way he says is they saw him they saw that he he went into >> they felt it they saw how he was in he was afraid and then he lit up he was saved saved him >> so even though the story happened when they threw him into the bar was 39 years before very good very good and tak The had no reason really to think that was busy with it and it could be taken busy with it. However, when passed through the boy and he when he to make he needed to relive it to relive it he goes on to explain the manchester that that's how really a person is supposed to make a make that the gave us the person has to think any that a person makes says that it's not only a do you know these are [clears throat] that a person shouldn't lose focus that you should be able to as is it very hard before you realize already a few it's very hard for all of us but the first thing the first thing is these now to hold things during ding but a person these things a person you're dinging Learning when a person learns person should think that you're learning you're connecting with this concept is not only a concept of making when you make the it's dinging it's learning and the em is being focused being focused I [clears throat] think the right words being focused is relev relevant even not by davening and learning it's any dayto day being focused to be present to be present in what you're doing being present when he made the he didn't just make the nest he relived it he was present of the nest sounds like they saw the pain on his face they really felt it he says such words yeah that they saw they saw that he had a he had a if he relived it had a he says this in general in the tells a come up on the mountain and then the says and you should be here. So he asks, "Of course you come up to the mountain to haram." Yeah, of course you come up to the mountain then you'll be on the mountain. What does it mean? So he says because you could go up on the mountain you can get very distracted. You could be all over the place. When you go up to the mountain be there be present. Be present. He brings the famous that it's said over from the bal that a person could be in one place and he's really somewhere else. It's where his mind is to be present. I think I want to say over I was by the wedding of our dear friend Alzar's daughter's wedding and um I remember wishing Maztov sometimes you go to and while you're giving maz it's hard the is looking over his shoulder who's the next person you know doesn't want to miss somebody I remember giving maz I remember the the focus the being present we see over here you saw this not just the by by the by the theatic made anytime a person dins a person learns a person anything in life to be focused to be present I want to conclude tonight's talk with a a brief video from the manchester of Shashiva I said over this is the vert that he says I just said over his ver that's all I did tonight of being focused when you Say a bra when you d and when you learn if you could focus for 3 minutes so about 3 minutes how we make savda if it works out I didn't do this before we'll see if it works out but it's kadai to see first rabbiation after got to change it up a little bit make it exciting everybody >> oh wow >> just understand understand the musk Like if you realize when he was making Adala, he wasn't on the way out to get pizza or anything. He was present. He was focused fully. Fully. You want to know what focus mean? Let's take a look over here together. Turn around. I'm going to turn around. Yeah. Just waiting. [clears throat] I don't know. >> [music] >> Hey Ashley. So she Never love. >> [music] >> Never Hey, don't for you. Oh I don't know how they called as the wow. So you see over here how talking about being focused and making a see each word saying it. that we make >> anything ding learning. We're going into Shabases tomorrow to be focused. Shabas have a wonderful Shabas. You can see.