INTRODUCTION TO HILCHOS TZEDAKAH: THE TORAH PERSPECTIVE ON GIVING Shiur by Rabbi Nachum Scheiner

just started now the night. I think the best place to start the would be from this week's para [snorts] the says what's the says the week's parish to Sedaka Rashi says what was the that the had because he did the init person has to be careful with the mitzvah more than any other mitzvah more than Lul more than more than any why why is more than any other for the kids the grandchildren of and the Ramba brings the Pik in this week's parad of the essence the core of was. So we should talk going into learning learning it before starting this year. I want to wish together with the whole dear who added so much and personally in [applause] he ALWAYS [applause] he always kept me on my toes I had to make sure triple check every continue to do it and he's going We wish him. >> I would like to I left out the the also added a lot. We're very market. >> I would like to start [laughter] I would like to start with the Shaya on the core of the mitzvah of Nina the of we're going to learn and where is and how you give and when you give and if you don't give and say to give we're holding a person is ready to give to Daka the excit's pretty simple but say do you where to give and you're giving I want to try to be if we're doing the mitzvah to do it correctly the beginning of the par the the Tory goes in saying that there's a if you don't give you should give Then a few later the says goes into not lending because you shouldn't refrain from don't hold back from lending because then the says you should give it shouldn't bother you when you give saddaka shouldn't bother you past the PK saying that it would bother a person giving saddaka it's hard you worked hard to earn the money it would bother you so thera says it shouldn't bother you why shouldn't it bother you why not giving it's going to bother me I'm losing the money so thera says don't worry is going to make sure that you don't lose that's how you learn you could Learn the Picas and the emmesis. The emmesis >> otherwise why should I not be there >> you're asking good you're asking good it is a guarantee it is a guarantee it is a guarantee and I want to add this I was going to say but to bring out the says if you gift a ducky is going to bench you but on that note Theom says, so first of all, the says I'm going to bench you says the raom spells it out. A po person does not get poor from giving. There were those that wanted to learn that the Rambam's referring that you're not going to lose other money but that's notes the is even the money that you're giving to for is not going to be you. So yeah says it's a guarantee. It's a guarantee says the says no sorry says the if you read the other way back it also says venosu says the balatur when a person gets stuck or whatever he gives he gets back. So that's clear when the toyra says it shouldn't bother you. Yes, because it's guaranteed whatever money you're giving, you're not losing. Lisa, it's more than that. It's more than that. The Ramban in mitzvah of the Rambam. The Ramban has a few mitzvah. I say that the Ramban says that the Rambam left out and a few lavin. One of the lavan actually the last of the lavan that the raman records that the raam left out says the raman is this theory says you're already giving you're already giving you can't be bittered you're not going to be disappointed and down from giving the is call it we have to elaborate a little bit to makes it hard and then person's in these people coming around collecting you over here. upg came already. You're giving it's you're trying to you're giving but like okay here let me live you're disappointed at least you think you're giving so much so much money out it bothers you a person they shouldn't give [clears throat] you they shouldn't give at all or they should give if you don't give I'm not going particular to this if could be you don't have to give because we're going to learn but the person. So I don't know what you gain of not giving lice then you're gonna be over on the live of not giving to >> at least if you give ma say >> you could give you what >> you're asking it's a good shan should you refrain from giving stalker what No, that's upgraded that he's going to give but in his heart even if he fakes a smile he gives it with a smile but inside he's he's very disappointed it's a nice sh should you refrain we have to be but just talking and learning I would think that maybe you should give if you don't give and but we're going to see I want to answer the shab of hashir that a person will be able to we're going to go through that a person will be able to give tak and you should be happy to give let's continue on over here but the sh is a good sh the [snorts] when speaking about the mitzvah of towards the end you should do the mitzvah of with the ones who need it. The mitzvah of you should do it. It's very interesting. Every mitzvah you're supposed to do the says that if a person does a mitzvah not comes so every mitzvah you're supposed to do but saying that it's that when you give you have to give if not like the ambes so so we know we We know how not to give. We know how not to give. Not to give royale being disappointed. How should you? Yes. Give. So the maral in the spirit says the following in the end of parro there are three. Rash brings it three. Even though is you have to. There's three times in the means if not that you have to, but there's still three times that the means invala inva doesn't mean if you want to lend your friend money to. So why taka does the toyra sayith that would sound that that you want to do like if you want to do it says the maral because the one of them is which is also sedaka says the moral that thera is saying in of willing to do it why that you're willing to do this because the doesn't want that you should give sodaka because you have to do it you you have to you have to give. No, you should do it. So again, the Ramban says that it's [clears throat] to give in a way that you're disappointed. But if you're giving already, you're not disappointed. But don't just do it because that's a little bit more and says that by mitzvah a person shouldn't say that I don't want bosser you should say you want it but I'm not eating it because the issa that's the morale that when you give a person has to give in a way that he wants to give that he wants to give. If a person says would give because the says you have to give because you're forced. If you do it like that, it will not last. And let's get this clear. What you shouldn't do is when you're giving the dollar, it's such a pain. But then you could just give it because the tora says to give sodaka. No, you're supposed to give it with a to because you want to because you want it. You want to you want to give to you want to be a miff. You want to be a miff. So I believe he's someone that doesn't give away. If you're being typing, even if he gives him the mice, if you filled out the amount that you're supposed to give, if you're not giving it the s you're typing, then he wasn't >> you're asking how could you force >> then how could you force the you're not you might be getting your >> So let's leave the sh on the side because how could you force it's good the sh is how could you force even when you force a person he still doesn't want the said that he not going to be giving. >> It's a good child. We'll leave it on the side for now. >> Is the not simple or is it to be in angry way? >> The love is that you're not going to give it in an angry way. Now you're right. Says to give it that's a that's a good point. That's not the if you're not being not >> Exactly. Exactly. Very good. And that's what we're bringing out now. Exactly. Clearly you're right. So when I said the doesn't the says more than what the says thean says you now be angry. says, "So that's what we're going through right now." That really with the you could just give. You're not you're not angry. You're just giving because the says to give you maybe have because any mitzvah you do, but we don't see it that you should give says that says their moral and that it has to be that you you're excited, you want to do it, that the person has that he wants to give. It's not the definition of sim but it's a person's giving because he wants to give. We're going to be on a bit more. Also just to expand on this concept that you shouldn't just give the says the first me is a person that says what I have is mine and what yours is yours. So what's yours is yours. Okay, that's a fine. He doesn't steal. He doesn't even take gifts from people. That's beautiful. But Mishna says that and so what's yours is yours. That we could understand. Okay. He's not he's not stealing. He's not taking but Shali means he's not giving saddaka. If somebody doesn't give sodak he's over. So what does it mean? It's me. He's a rashmer says what it means doesn't mean that he's not giving of course he's giving saddaka but he's giving saddaka in a way that that is that he it's hard for him to part with the money doesn't mean that he's angry when he's giving because that mean then he's a rush he's means this middle category that was saying that he's just giving because he's giving and you know why it's it's like what we saw for that if a person doesn't give s to because he wants to be a native it's not going to last and you need today it's not really my money anyways that would be that it's not natural very good we're going to >> the reason why I'm I'm I'm giving it but I'm still feeling That was really mine. >> Right. >> That's the wrong attitude. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Very very close. Shal very clever. It brings it out. Thehat is shal. It's really mine. It's really mine. It's hard for him to part. Not the bond that he's, you know, he's angry about it, but at least you know it's hard to part. He's doing it. He's the says to do it. I'm listening to the Tyra. That's still me. style if he's a drop the words meaning to say he's a he's not giving out money. Yeah. Shali. Very good. Lisa Lisa is like this. The etsim it's not so easy this a person has money worked hard it's not easy side their it's not easy not to be disappointed when you have to give let alone to give it mish to to be happy to give to give >> what it say >> so leisa was saying now that it's not supposed to hurt maybe some things >> because if you give it because it doesn't mean anything what's the point >> uh oh we're going to See, we're going to see how a person should give. We're going to see that you should give because you says on that same inval if like a shus he says like this says that a person may have the following question. Why is it a that there are people that don't have what to eat? Every single bree in the world. So what's the there are people that have to go around collecting B a person might might ask there are people that are so wealthy that they don't have what to do with their money even for their great grandchildren have so much money. So why is it like that? Why is it like that? It couldn't be figured out that the everybody should have like this the reason why for the he for everybody the gives chef on the world is enough food for everybody to live. However, there are people for whatever reason they have to get the of going through the bazion and not have the food. So the aisha doesn't take away the food. He keeps it in the world. However, he just puts it by somebody else and this has to come and he has to collect the food. But when when the comes the what does it mean? the money the money that you have that extra money her it belongs to it's with you. So when you give it, don't think you're this you're giving it. It's his money. Unfortunately, he has to have the to go collect for whatever reason. So he has to go get it. But he's coming to pick up his money. His money is not in his house. It's in someone else's. So this already should make easier for a person to be able to give the is like what you said before. Very good. Shal is he has a hard time partying because it's mine. It's not the money is not doesn't belong to the has the money also the has a to be able to give but it shouldn't be that he's parting with his own money. Furthermore, in the medish, and I'm going to quote the more than what the balabayas, the wealthy person that's giving money, more than what he's doing to give to the poor person is doing with the balabias. It's you do a bashm desire. I couldn't find it that maybe it's elsewhere that when the wants to be mash to a person the way how the is he sends an to the door person has to be careful I'm all this is the is coming it's not a good time it's this is where is it wants to be like the medish says the explain the he explains that the chhat is that when a person gives to the by him being to the he makes that is to him how much of it is money. >> Oh so good. So that's we're learning now t how much you have to give and we're going to learn and but I do want to answer asking how much you have to give. I do want to answer in a moment how much you have to give. I'm I'm going to answer that yet another and this is from the he says a lot of times when a person gives sodaka a person gives he touches it also it's a he touches in the pekk a lot of times when a person gives saddaka he hears the story and he pionis So he says he's supposed to give it the reason he gives is because the said and and we're going to see soon is if you only give it because then okay so one time you have one time not a person has to give not because he's forced but because he wants to be a for person only because it's a he has a story. So if you go thinking you're here in the shul and every day neb unfortunately is another story. So eventually like the story is okay and then once it comes the story then you give person has to give because to get to be a nice another pointer in let's call it in of right this what we're saying now is all in the heart it's not how you give it it's in the le zakra moa in in My father I told him speaking he told me this I looked it up the says that the the way you gift to the army should be you should be it should be in a way to open that it's not the is sometimes when the comes like the at least you feel that you're the one that's giving to the ani it's supposed to be in a way that you're giving think that the is that the when you're giving it you don't feel that you're giving to that's you should give it in a way that you that you don't feel that you're giving I don't know if it's possible to but the says it is the garra says the kuba says that if somebody gives so the garra says I raise so rashi says says don't mistake that if you you're giving because you want it's okay tonight's the yard of the also negated to the whole discussion what we're speaking about in the belie in your heart how you give mitzvah is you have to have kavana when you do a mitzvah but if a person has a side kavana even that that's the main kavana if you have kavana to do a mitzvah you the mitzvah he he says if somebody is in sh he's he has in mind that he's taking the mitzvah but 95% of what he's doing here is he wants everybody to see his beautiful doesn't mean it's not different. As long as you have a mind for the so when you give that you're giving you're giving you you're doing you're also doing it because you want the name on the building saying this still it's okay if there's any positive emotion invoked through via giving sedaka even if it's not because oh I'm helping this poor person out it would still be guilt according to >> you have to but what we're saying is is that as even if you have an other thing in mind when giving the it's still the mitzvah like what the says however one second maybe I will finish and then the the rest of the sh afterwards please however I I this I also don't have the mara mochum yet inside but this gamorra the terror says it's fine cuz he had kavana but what's the shilmer what's saymer he's okay he did a mitzvah he's gmer the terret says somebody says he's g because when he's giving sodaka he's making the feel as if the is doing him the favor someone gives the he says I'm giving I'm ask you're doing me the favor thank Thank you for taking this. But when you give first of all we said that you should give to be but on top of this is that you should you should give in a way that is the is doing you the favor one more mile and for now when I mean mila I meant to say in the one more in the in the mitzvah up until now we spoke about up until now we spoke about in your heart how it should be you shouldn't be alive you shouldn't just do it because you should do it to be we just saw now also when you give you should also give in a way that as of the is doing the favor from taking one more nuda which this is already a little bit more even in the myanina how the nina should look This is also for motion. He asks the following question. You'll look in every other mitzvah in that the Tory should get technical how to give how to do the mitzvah. When the Tyra says to take, does the Tyra say with your hand building the suka, you should cut the wood. However you're going to get a suka, figure it out. Does the says when you give the open to open your hand so what happens I mean if the money is under the ground so I mean you tell him to take the money in the hand so the of how you're supposed to give saddaka is that the money should be ready. You're already giving and you're doing it what we spoke up until now the past 25 minutes the right way. You're not not only you're not bothered. You know that the money that you're giving is not even your money. It's moik. But even when you're giving already it should be in a way that it's open. It's ready. Not when the money comes and they have to start figuring out and looking. Some people would translate it to have right by their seat to have money ready. But it should be ready. They bring from my father brings in in the mic in in in dark. He says that people made in in Manhattan in yeshiva when anam came. He was the first person to go right away to go over to the give instead of the coming. This is even to go over. So so this we understand is how to do it. your hand and also your heart. How do you open up your heart to be prepared that when the money comes right away to give physically that we understand how you could do it? You have a you have a lot of singles, of quarters, of dollars, whatever. You have a ma card, however you do it, you have it prepared. But how do you do it that right away your heart should snap in to be ready to give that we just spoke now to be happy to give? How do you do that? How do you do that? We spoke when you give how your heart should be. We also spoke in the money should be ready and but but it should be in a way that it's ready your hands when you give it you should be ready but it's also be ready in your heart how you're ready in office I'm just going to say an outside it's better to give a thousand people one zuz and you asking how much money this is the answer. It's better to give a thousand people each person a zuz you have $1,000 to give. You can either give one person, it's a crazy, it's very important, you give them the whole thousand dollars or you give it piece by piece to a thousand people exactly the amount and today how it's going to translate doesn't mean everybody a dime, everybody a dollar, everybody $5. But to break it up a thousand people, a thousand zoo. Why that is is because when a person gives one time is a little bit in this he says person gives it one time. First of all, you don't train yourself and like says it could be you. You had an emotional moment that you gave $1,000. If a person works on himself, every time money comes, it's another dollar, another dollar. So he's training himself to be a noisen to be annoyed. That's how you train yourself. I just want to conclude. I'm sorry to drop over time, but just to conclude like this. We spoke today how to gift saddaka properly should be ready right away. But I just want to end off with a from the cipher says over here in pars that he starts off that thera says when you do a certain shouldn't bother you. It's very interesting but the says you don't find it anywhere else. Okay says it's alive but the is saying like this this is important to understand we get to this mad that a person gives fullhearted like this says with all you get you see it inside even if a person does the mitzvah now I don't think he's saying that a person's giving it in a way that he's angry cuz that the Raans is alive. But if you don't have these madus that we spoke about, you're still the is saying that's what says the Torah is saying shouldn't bother you cuz the body because at the end of the day you gave him you were native you helped out. So again, if it's in a way that it bothers him, he's over past. Let's see. He's just doing it without emotions without because he wants to be a mive even like he says but we should all be to be able to kind of like we said the part we went through and also that it should be in a way that a person can give easily maybe that's why it says not just when you look it says you should give it what's the Need