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Developing Eye Contact with Hashem | Rabbi Avrum Mordche Malach

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I had a Rosh Yeshiva that once a month, he used to say a big Drasha for the whole Yeshiva, a few hundred boys. I had a friend that I always realized that the Rosh Yeshiva, during his Drasha, is looking at that Bochur the whole time, specifically at this Bochur, the whole time. I once asked my friend, the Bochur, Tell me, what's going on? Why is the Rosh Yeshiva focusing mainly the Drasha on you? He tells me: R’ Mordche, you don’t understand why? I look at him the whole time, and because I look at him, it doesn't take long and I grab his attention and that's the way eye contact works. Hashem made it that way. If you do contact with your eye with someone else, it wouldn't take long and the other one is going to look and stare at you the whole time. I decided: You know what? I'll have to do it. And I did it. By the next Drasha, I was continuously looking at the Rosh Yeshiva, not like all other Drashas that were, I was daydreaming at the ceiling or whatever else. I looked at him, looked at him, but it did not work. It didn't work. After the Drasha, I’m going over to my friend. I tell him: Listen, it didn't work. The Rosh Yeshiva still was looking at you, not at me. He tells me: Malach, you didn't get it. It's not only looking at him, no. You have to really decide by the Drasha, I'm not looking somewhere else. I'm only looking at him. And once you only look at him and you're being Mevater to look at all other stuff, only him, you're going to get his attention. Rabosai, there's a pasuk, The Ribono shel Olam כביכול looks on His יראים, He looks on יראי השם. You know how does it feel? Wherever you go, whatever you do, you have Hashem looking at you, watching over you, caring about you, doing for you. whatever you need, He's here for you. You're under His surveillance the whole time. It's amazing, no? But how could we grab this look? How do we build this eye contact? It's not enough just, you know, you look on Hashem some, no. How much, my friend taught me, how much you’re going to be ready to be Mevater on different looks, not to look on somewhere else and only look at Him. This is when you gain the look of Hashem to yourself. We tell Ribono shel Olam, We are not looking on all those stuff, all this immodest stuff. You know why? Because You told us so. So we're looking at You. The way that we connect to You, Hashem, is through being Mevater on looking at other stuff. Hashem sometimes sees bad stuff on a person. There are sometimes מקטרגים that come to tell Hashem about a person and Hashem tells all these מקטרגים, Listen, that person looks away from all of the stuff that he would like to see, because I told him so, I’m going to look away from all these stuff that you're telling Me because this person looks away from his things. If we really want to get Hashem to look at us and look away from all other stuff that we wouldn't want He should see, we will look away from other stuff, with a gevaldige Simcha, and we're going to be zoche on Rosh Hashanah to a כתיבה וחתימה טובה, Amen.