Attaining Real Simchas Hachaim - Rabbi Paysach Krohn

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Yahveh joram it just dries up the marrow of the bones and we know that this is a medical fact that two people could have the exact same illness and one person has a happy and a positive approach to life and he finds what's good in life he'll heal much quicker than that person who has the exact same illness who's a negative person and it's always looking down never so I just want to share with you something that I always mentioned when I speak to groups about marriage this is a very interesting Gomorrah and myself the tiniest called vase of an olive and the Gomorrah tells us that Elio and Navi was once walking with Rebecca and they saw two people and Eleana nobody whispers Tara break and it says you see these two guys coming towards us they got a straight ticket they're going straight to the Isle of Man Emmis they're wonderful very special people IRA break I was surprised who were these guys he didn't know that there's such big subdeacon that they have a straight ticket to the other my MS so he waited until Elio I know he left it's not their hardest to speak to somebody and Nellie you are never you standing next to you but whenever you are nothing left a breaker goes over to these people and he says to them my habitat I go what do you guys do I didn't know you're such a big sigh thinking me got a straight ticket to the other my MS on relay they said to him in chiba DC on on we are happy people maybelline on at cv we have the capacity to make those people that are said we know how to make people happy and it's very interesting so if you have that capacity to speak and to make a person feel good when they don't feel well when they are down and you're able to build them up that's that's a tremendous thing a person goes straight to the island madness for that lately i've been talking about people underlining phrases that they see in this scissor and darling so that every time you underline it you'll see it and the city is talking to you and one of the things that I talk about is that it's Russian in the hollow Lukas hurry Fay the shoe relief the a barista has that capacity to heal the broken heart that's a great phrase under Abunda shillelagh think about it for a moment what are the first letters of those three words a roof a literal a hollow praise that's the biggest praise you could say on somebody that's exactly what early all nobody was talking about these guys they were going straight to the other - why because they had the capacity to be her faithless Shruti leave me buddy no not CV they make people that are unhappy then make them happy but let's watch now a great insight that the mom Louise rights on this Gomorrah then me I'm Louise isn't varam Kafka's from Zion and he says like this what did they answer they didn't just answer they make people happy first they said in chiba d thean and we are happy people owners to make them over something my favorite we are happy and we make other people happy dr. Mann Louise Bothell I'm Daniel this comes to teach us share in autumn writes Ellis America favorite you want to make somebody else happy you want to make your spouse happy you want to make your children happy you want to make your co-workers happy so who wants my dear Samia you have to learn how to be a happy person and he writes you him aim odds mum how you I'd save him if they would have been negative depressed people I feel how you writes him what somebody if I hate him while you're them even if they wanted to make other people happy never could do it so if your spouse is not happy you have to realize you have to think about it maybe it's because of you because you're not happy so you can't make anybody else happy if you're always looking at the negative and you're always criticizing whether it's the wrong whether it's your boss whether it's the president wherever you're doing and it's always negative there's no way you can make anybody happy we have to learn how to be happy then honest about them that's what they said in CBN and we are happy people and then we can go and make others happy so how we're gonna do that we live in such a difficult time there's so many problems every family is besieged with problems some with children some of the marriage itself some with finances some with health and someone should do him as a matter of fact right now on the way here I'm involved we're gonna try to start a program I found that on the way here I didn't realize that somebody actually did it last year already but on this tube of tube of that's a day when hospitals were made we're gonna try to make it that everyone we're gonna suggest that everyone should say three keep it locked Ilham I think that the ideal time is 12 o'clock New York time because it's still before she and Eretz Israel and then it's only nine o'clock in California so we're gonna try to get people all around the world just three or four per octave up till them for this your different problem everybody should be miss following them we have certain program I feel good from Zion Cooper guests that talk about marriage and family it's a lot of problems out there and if there's so many problems how in the world could a person be happy and I'll tell you something very interesting you know rough Schwab says something so remarkable about the Haggadah in the Haggadah right before we talk about the dollar Birnam we say this introduction borrow Homolka Umberto ho he benches the a burst Roberto who Davis has blessed borrow she knows internal America and then we talked about the Arbor Bonin Arab Schwab it's a very interesting question he says every time you ever think about this every time we save the word hummock I'm it's something said for example when we go to be Menachem Lovell so what do we say to the availab I'm looking Menachem Davis chair should comfort if somebody lost money it says it should honor of what he's supposed to say to them I'm not going your molokai straight enough to a be sure should fill your loss again that something said the person lost money now when we'd have enough a no and we talk about all those people that are stuck in many many places what do we say I'm Mark O'Meara Himalayan maybe she should have Romanus so first of all why in all these said places are we saying how mocking and the second thing what's doing at the Seder sir I've Schwab says like this the reason that we say hum welcome in all these three places by availeth if somebody lost money or somebody's stuck in a foreign land because a person might say Jim where are you where are you how come we're not taking care of me they lost a family member they lost money they're stuck in a foreign place so we say how long can they was just all over the place just know he's all over he's protecting you he's looking out for you maybe you can't understand why it had to happen what had to happen but I'm walking him to a Brewster's there for you so that's why we say I'm walking but what's he got to do at the Seder Schwab says something remarkable and painful he says sometimes a father or mother or a grandfather grandmother sitting at the Seder and they look around at the table and they see the children and they're thinking or your punishment what happened here how did this kid turn out this way this is not what I thought this is not what I thought my children gonna look like I did not think my son was gonna be wearing an earring I did not know that my daughter would be on drugs I didn't know that all these terrible things would be going on with my children I thought it was just gonna be hey look at kinder so somebody could look around at the Seder and he says for when Shawn what happened so the bomber gotta wants to reassure him every child is a blessing don't give up borrow four times every child borrow her McCain borrow ho borrow a nurse and certainly a morale barraco every child is a you can't give up on any boy any girl it's not easy it's not easy that's for sure but you have to try to hang in there because many of them do come back many of them once they reach the bottom level then they come back yeah neshama could go out from them before they do but if you could hang in there that's what they was just telling you that's what rough swab is telling you borrow hamakom the a blister is there and he can watch you and he can protect you so if that's the case if Hashem is always there that's a reason to have confidence and that's a reason to have some huh and I'll tell you I believe one of the ways that we could become people of simcha is if we begin looking for approaches and we begin telling stories about how Chicago protests and we read about them and we tell about them and then we begin to realize that every single second Hashem is there every conversation every person that you saw everything that happens happens for a reason and sometimes it seems almost nonsensical why is this happening and then you find out either a month later or a year later or five years later why it had to happen and all of a sudden then you realize that our Shem is there and if you know that our Shem is there every second that's a reason to have simcha and I'll give you example something that happened in our neighborhood just a few months ago many of you may remember that this year Purim in New York we had a tremendous snowstorm the day before Purim and so what happened was that many many people could not give it as much or as many shallows Mona says they wanted to you just couldn't get around the streets because of all the snow and of course at least in Queens it was that there was no sanitation collection you know when the snow was all over the place so now it's two days after poram it's two o'clock in the morning and in our neighborhood we have a yeshiva called yeshiva shouts IRA DeRosa she was up Coleman Epstein design assumes his father was Rob zelich and I'm coming I've seen his up two o'clock in the morning he's learning in his house and all of a sudden he hears the sanitation people outside now the sanitation hadn't been collected in two days so he's a good husband he knew that he had there were bags of garbage so he takes it out of the kitchen and he runs outside and he gives it you know in the cold - this guy theater who's among the many guys they're caught in garbage theater looks at him and he says excuse me are you a rabbi that's not what he was expecting a question two o'clock in the morning he said yes I happened to be a rabbi he said can I ask you a question rabbi he's trying to think what Schuyler does this guy who's collecting sanitation have two o'clock in the morning he says yeah of course he says you know my mother died a few hours ago now I'm not religious and she was not religious but she lived candles every Friday night and now my brother and sister they want to have her cremated they don't even know she died yet the hospital just called me and rabbi what should I do I want her to have a Jewish burial they want a cremate her how am I gonna get out of this what should I do sir I'll come and everything things for a second he says I'll tell you what to do don't call them yet call a Jewish funeral home tomorrow morning make sure they get the body arrange the whole funeral and then after everything's arranged call them up and say mom died a few hours ago the funeral is all set coming a few hours it's all gonna be taken care of he said okay I hope it works and sure enough he calls him later that morning he said rabbi you're a genius that's what happened they got the body everything's arranged and my brother sister didn't complain they said okay if you got it arranged it's arranged it was amazing so he thanks simony says rabbi you're the only graboid I know could you come speak at the funeral I mean what were you saying right so if you ever of common Epstein what do you say yeah of course I'll be there listen to what he said at the Lavanya amazing he sent up a fire like this he said people reap in death that which they sowed in life because your mother felt a connection to God and she with candles every Friday night Hashem orchestrated that your brother Theodore should be able to arrange that she should have a Jewish funeral because she felt a closeness to Hashem and she thought I had a Jewish burial he didn't go to the l'viyah I mean he didn't go to the CRU a was that the Laviolette I can't get over this he told me that he went the next day he had to be in Lakewood and then he went to be Renata mauville this guy now you can't believe this from Lakewood to Suffolk County so it was a hundred and fifteen miles now this guy wasn't even sitting Shiva he just stayed home from work but he felt if guys home from work should go Bremen offal mobile unbelievable I asked her Commons did you keep up with him he says you know I tell you the truth I tried I called him a couple times he never responded and then two weeks after this incident I hear the sanitation people outside my house again so I run outside I say it's zero here you know the guy was here two weeks ago they said--they know whose theater he said what do you mean he was here two weeks ago you know at night Thursday night he said ah that's the only time he ever came to Queens he works in Suffolk County he never comes here that night we needed extra guys he came here could you imagine it's unbelievable just the only time the guy ever worked in Queens because they needed guys for overtime and because of that his mother was like huh - are you the sheriff funeral are you - a burial but now I want to tell you something I was in camp among despair Shabbos and I told this story and only Rob David Cohen could come up with this I've doubled listen to the story and afterwards he says don't you understand what happened here I said no what do you mean and other God all things on a different level he said because she lit candles every Friday night that Ash saved her from having the age of being burned after she was died then a grapeshot what's unbeliever get the chills when I tell it to you what oh you like my brother thank you I like you too okay but anyway but the point is it's amazing right yeah let me tell you one more story about go high no you're not gonna believe this it's amazing there's a fellow in Silver Springs Maryland his name is Dan Kershner dan Kirchner's about Trouville for many many years he was involved in an organization a time in Baltimore that's where he first became from and he was inspired to go to a place called he took off a year and he went to a place called Mahon and there was a rabbi rosenberg who had a tremendous asha on him now we know the rama tells us that in the bursar machine is there are many many different people gravitate to different mitzvahs everyone of us has a mitzvah that we love and we favor so to speak so rabbi Rosenberg spoke a lot that summer about citizen and he spoke that since this is no machi 600 and then you have the eight strings and the five knots so at six thirteen and he had a tremendous aswan then krishna in general but specifically about citrus and dan made up his mind between either he will never ever ever miss wearing citizen he came back to silver springs he got married he has children and everyday his routine is the same he gets up early in the morning he goes to a certain share and then he Dobyns ready after doffing he gets into his car who travels 15 minutes to work and that's where he has his first coffee so he told me this story himself he said one day he's driving and he just has this craving for a coffee he like he can't believe it like you know he's gonna have a coffee in five minutes he's gonna be at work in five minutes right so like what's the big deal but somehow he just had to get off the highway and they just have to have that coffee okay he goes into a place on the corner gets a coffee and it gets back into the car now Dan drives a stick shift now I don't know if you ever drove a stick shift I tried it for 20 minutes I almost went through the windshield wiper you know if you're not used to driving a stick shift you know you can just fly right through the window so it's very hard when you're driving a stick shift to hold a cup of coffee right so he's holding a cup of coffee right he drives two blocks and of course the coffee spills all over him now he surely can't go to work this way he's got this big block you know brown coffee on his shirt right so he makes a u-turn and he goes back home he takes off a shirt I can't believe it he told me he stopped and he just bailed Hashem thank you thank you thank you for making coffee I could have gone a whole day with that wind I wouldn't have known thank you now I know you're not gonna believe this but you could look it up he goes back he's getting on the highway and he has a red light at the place where he stopped for the coffee you could look it up it's University Boulevard and Route 29 in Silver Springs it's a Green Sun he never noticed it before you know what this corner is called four corners could you believe that I could get over that and he was laughing and he was telling it to me now I don't know how it just happens tonight that robbed of it is a vault in both stories but the next morning I had a brassiere flapper and I'm covered with sondik so by the suit I said sir I'm done I gotta tell you this great story you know this has got a processor you know that I tell the whole thing you know that the place is called four corners sir I've done it in his unbelievable wit says I got the best title for that story I said what's the title he said fringe benefits so when you got a review like that you're always in a good mood here's another reason that we should all have simple hi there's a project that we're gonna read an April April gimel plastic llama tests except maybe it Spock was here tonight he would say we hope that mushiya will come first and if a chef is not hit by tissue above then we're gonna read this post again a huh I'm going to the Ukraine you're all involved you're all involved you all invited and I'm learning all about the city sure of aim oblivia talking about Shemer I'm not when I'm telling you I'm gonna come back with his trial but but he said I believe he gets by his own daughter's engagements he ripped up that annoy him he ripped up the to know him because it said that they were gonna get married so what do you mean you're gonna get married and this in this date if mushiya doesn't come and we're not you should lie and then we'll get married you know at this date so that's what he would have said if we're not we don't have a up here by tisha Bob we're gonna blame this plastic listen to this plastic it'll get more climate test my assigning autumn hoy how could a person who is a live complain the fact that you're alive should make you happy gather I'll cut off can anybody say that they have mastered all there are various that they don't deserve any punishment they're lucky to be alive every one of us should feel so happy that we're alive and Rashi and tradition brings this plastic the Gemara of course tradition pay brings the plastic player morale of me assigning autumn high why should a person who's a live complain kolakozhi Chani I made emo Shanna santaville hi him and David didn't bring us Mesa the mere fact that we here tonight the mere fact that we could come and listen to a shear and go home and see relatives and go to work tomorrow and see friends think about that if you think about it in the last few months hey we get people have passed away wonderful people who live great lives and how does seem questa high him but they would all give anything to be what we are here tonight I'm talking about Robin yeoman kamenetsky I'm talking about Rob listen whooping they revved-up Reverend of a groaner mrs. márcia share a share Rebbetzin Shara Debbie Shara they would do anything that weight should be able to be alive so the mere fact that we're alive you have to think about that we take life for granted that's the reason alone that we should be so happy that we're alive so I want to ask you a question I am sure that most of you have never been asked this question before so before I give you my answer I want you to stop for a minute and think about the answer to this question what is your favorite bra what bra do you like to make most anybody got an answer what is that she'll also be called turkey that's some and I was in camp Monken this big heavy guy says Birmingham is anus but you know what a woman told me I couldn't get out with shosanna kids I know you another woman said hot dog national Shabbos to me sheffy oh no is I would have said before I thought about this what I'm about to tell you and Fiona or lationship Masuka nerds Israel when you're sitting with Family Circus inerrancy show there's nothing like it in the world but I must tell you of all the places that I've asked this question only moussaka okay with the answer that I was looking for and that's a shiatsu that's really the braja that should become our favorite bra and I want to show you something so amazing there's a wonderful you can't even call it a book it's a safer ruff schwab on prayer if you get that safer it's written by oral wrap Schwab on prayer and also robbed of rum hi I'm Roy you're on Sherman Ezra you will never Davin the same but I would just want to read to you what Rush wob as only he can write what he writes about Ashiatsu when we contemplate the miraculous workings of our various coluan the cavities in the body such as the trachea the esophagus the windpipe the food pipe the entire digestive system the respiratory system the circulatory system all these things are then cost-efficient is an unexpected rupture the person's life is in danger I would like to propose tonight and I'm would never tell anybody to do anything unless I've been doing it and I've started doing this and that is from now on when you say Asiata just stand in one place don't be texting don't be emailing don't be getting dressed I'll be getting into your car the most it'll take is nine seconds but I tell you when you stop and you become a Regulus you'll see after two weeks you won't be able to say oh she gets on while you're running you just stop for a minute and just think what's going on in your body now I'm gonna tell you something that it maybe you've never thought about it but the Vilna going thought about it and the Vilna going in the city huh girl you take a look at it you will not believe she ever think about this ah she yachts at is the only bra that we mentioned the Kazakh weight could you imagine gold we do all I think you see I covered we don't say buy any no magic is they are covered by such a mundane thing listen to what they wrote of course they're going didn't write The Sitter the going probably said it and then they mentioned it Masha mask um can you say caballo paprika sauce es Rojo this comes to teach you that even in the highest echelon where the kissy are covered by all the halacha mala I feel of Michelle Moore much gear held warm Raylan Kayla even from there to a burst of rules and takes care of us on these simple mundane things speak to somebody who ever had colitis speak to somebody who ever had illy itis speak to somebody who had to have a spleen removed and all these terrible diseases that people have in the stomach and in the digestive system we should never ever know from them when did we get to thank us Jim we can do that numerous times numerous times a day numerous times at night depending how old you are and right we all know right and and what happens you stop no matter what if it's two three o'clock in the morning you just stop and you think about it how grateful you have to be for that it's something that we don't think about and we have to make that Heyliger Cibola should be as close for a kegerator its cause for all those never that are ill I just heard tonight the time westwoods never had a stroke you should have a reforged leymah such a noisy but circuits he was such a wonderful person han-klein been awful thank you very much I'm Barack oh I can tell you a story I have very close friends they don't want to mention their name of course you could understand as you'll see in a second they had a baby a number of years ago and the mother the young mother told me that literally about three hours after the baby was born she was in a room and some doctors and nurses come in and she looked at their face she knew in a second something is terribly wrong with their child and they told her that the child doesn't know how to swallow they never saw anything like that narrow now they weren't sure if it was a physical blockage in the neck and that's why all the water was dribbling out on the sides of the mouth or it was mentally a physical thing you could operate what did the kid doesn't know how to swallow how do you teach a kid out of swallow I didn't teach you get out of breathe and you should know that for a month he didn't have his bris I'm not high can he have skip asking that they should have him for the T night bus the mother eventually he said that they shouldn't give him a name because he felt that they would have the Bruce sooner than later and he did have his bris and he grew but he grew in a way much shorter than all his brothers and sisters I know the family very well all his younger brothers and sisters are all taller than him but four months ago I was at his husana nobody thought this kid who's gonna who's gonna marry him he's so short he looks a little different but he's a genius he's tremendous Thomas Holcomb and a wonderful wonderful person and the reason that I tell you the stories for two reasons one never ever give up about your children finding shidou him you never know you sure it's a sham terrifying and especially let's try to obey Miss Powell on this tube of and second of all second of all look at my godson you know what his father did at the PD and I've been you won't believe it his father at the pity not been the boy didn't have a name yet they didn't have a bris he got up and he said I want to give Abraha Tosh em and everybody was wondering what Brock was he gonna give that to me as a child again swallow and he said the broschi oughta call of your jewels in a physical machine but they affected me him oh yes I me of course he was crying and everybody was crying did anybody ever think that this kid could get married at the age of 22 it's unbelievable again you sure soshim kara fine but tonight we have to make a dog a Kazakh on that aspect of our lives of Asiata and stand in one place when we make that Brokaw this past year on my birthday somebody called me and told me the most invigorating inspirational thought now the truth is this person could have said it to every single one of you sitting here everyone because it's not only negate to me it's Nagaya to every single one of us listen to what this person said the person said today is the day that the rahbaniya shall island decided years ago that the world can no longer exist without you is that a great thing to tell somebody on their birthday amazing today is the day that I shall decided years ago the world can't go on without you and that's to every single one of you hashem needs every single person here now i want to tell you something I always say that every one of us every one of us can change the world and I just want to tell you this whole idea I didn't know that another organization was doing it but this whole idea of my getting involved in having people davin on to what office should do him a 20 year old girl for Milwaukee who's looking for I shoulda called me up and said wouldn't it be a great idea if we could get Claudia all to davon for the problem of she do come on Suvorov and I said that's great and I called Michael Rothschild I said you know we got to do it with a big organization there's nobody who has email for the whole clock Israel I figured either goodness you Cheryl and then occurred to me over time Heritage Foundation so I call the whole time Heritage Foundation I call Michael Rothschild and you know 15,000 people are gonna see the video mister Shem on Tisch above so he says to me we can't talk about that issue because people will forget by to Bob but if you call up she won't come a netsuke and he says it's a good idea then we'll do something I call option mall who's always accessible and he says it's a very good idea so I called this girl back in Milwaukee I said you know you're such a hit with your child and if you get engaged before - Bob you're gonna be my next book that's what I told her but let's see what happens but anyway but in all seriousness I said look at you you're 20 years old and you came up with such a brilliant idea and it could be we don't know yet mr. Shem there could be twenty to thirty thousand people that will be saying three or four keep it locked Ilham twelve o'clock until we're off that's amazing it's one child one twenty year old every person can do something that's what what this person told me it's so important the a bashad decided at one point that the world can no longer exist without you every one of us can do something special so over the years I had the great scores many many times to speak on the same program as Robertson young guys a lot showing and once I really got to know her I really saw that she was a Heyliger person and that she meant it so sincerely and I always whenever I had to introduce I called her the Bobbie of Claudius Hall and she loved it and she wrote a book the name of the book is called life as a test and in there she writes something that is so phenomenal listen to this a long life is not good enough but a good life is long enough now you know where she got that she told me she was so close with her husband and her husband passed away many many years ago and when he died she was so broken she could not lift any of his farm she couldn't touch his farm she couldn't open up his notebooks because it brought her too much pain and one night one of her daughters saw an index card fell out of his safer and she said to her mother my read this and this is what it said on this index card a long life is not good enough but a good life is long enough and she told me from then on she was able to go on with her life and she was able to get back to doing everything that she wanted to do and that's really what we have to do it's a famous story every time we go to Poland and we're at the fiduciary man this famous escape I always tell the people this story this fuss EMAS died he was 58 years old and the Emory a mess the one who would be the mm as his son said to one of his brothers they said at least our Father had a real-ass youngin they said what are you talking about me I really ami had lived to be only 58 he said I didn't say he had a real harsh on him I said he had a real shaman no one no one no doctor no love no one can guarantee I riccoshot him nobody knows what tomorrow brings but every single one of us can have a refill on them every day we can do something special you make every day count that's what it's all about that's real SEO mom is all about and listen what the rabbiting writes the goodness cannot be measured by the length of our years but by how we live those years the goodness is not about what we amassed but what we give it's not about having more but being more for in the end our lives are judged not by the businesses and the houses and the portfolio's rebuild but by the lives we touched and made better and when you understand that every day you can do something for another year you will be so happy with life because you're not living for yourself one of the reasons that we are so unhappy is because everything evolves around us and not everything evolves around us is good as I said before family finances health should know from kids so many problems but when you're not thinking about yourself you're thinking what can I do for that other person how can I make that person feel special what can I do and I'm telling you I believe believe showing that if every single one of us would make another cup Allah besides Asha your turn to stand in one place from tonight on no matter where you are listening to this every man woman and child get a notebook and write down a festa that you do for another year not a husband for a wife a wife or husband that you got to do if you know it's good for you but I'm telling you you write down you write down every day at least one cousin I tell you in 40 days you'll be a different person and you know why how I know this because I sham Davis just your shadow that's what it says until them you do for others that shams gonna do for you and what I've started doing and mr. Shyam I hope eventually we'll be able to make a book out of it three times a week I make a first recording and anyone who has email can get it I'll give you the number to register for it about the importance of doing as I said a day three times a week you can get it if you want to write down the number at six four one seven one five zero seven oh nine again six four one seven one five oh seven or nine it's put out by your Shiva terrorist shipment from Far Rockaway let me give you an example what does it mean tacit a number of months ago I had the opportunity to be in suffer in New York which is their Muncie to be their Shabbos for a Shabbos bris I come in Friday night I don't know where to sit you know it's a crowded show everybody run by Chester show so I don't want to sit in somebody's place everybody's got a mahkum cavora they wanted that wherever they wanted oven a guy comes over to me says rabbi chrome we have a seat for you I said oh really thank you where he said I'll we have a guest table in the show I said oh that's so nice and I'm looking in the back of the show probably you know where that guest table is he says no it's right behind about trailer right up front here I said are you serious yeah there's a white tablecloth on this table five seats and you know just for the guests wow I was so impressed two minutes lady comes over to the table stunned then he gives me a table stand up I said excuse me you know you're so kind you've got me a table you know I see you'd have to give me your standard said it's bystander what you talking about I think I'll get it you know what it says on top of it our guests do that in every show in the world is there reason why every show ramaa girlfriend what do you think every show gotta make a movie of it every show your what every show should have a guest table and a guest stander why not two or three gasps that's beautiful makes the person feel so at home so wanted it's such a beautiful thing tell you another thing just amazing in our shul I'm sure that they have it in many many shows across the country all over the world they have you shiver smarter that's how to comport them right so what happens Minister let's say it's two o'clock so one o'clock all the fathers or grandfather's come with to all the kids and all the crazy costumes and they're learning with the kids for an hour and then there's Mensa then the Rob sits and it gives out it gives out a port of guilt so we have a guy in our shul only an English guy could have a name like this Nigel right Nigel Collins okay so Nigel consul is a great photographer you know what he did well nobody asked him but right after minister he planted himself right next to the roof and every single child with all those crazy customs that got money from the road he took a picture by the sue that everybody in the show had an email with all the pictures of all the kids that's beautiful who doesn't want a picture of their kids especially a mother who couldn't go there with a child and didn't have maybe somebody to learn with the child but the child was there that's a special thing each one of us has talents try to think what talent do you have that you could do something for somebody else that's what the best set is all about I'll tell you recently a very special woman passed away one of the last Tommy days of Sirach today her name was peril Bennish I went to be Menaka model she's a very very special person and disclose to know her quite well and the children told me she once said a great thing living is giving as long as you give your live when you're not thinking about yourself and think about this I don't know if you ever thought about this the entire ship - era the whole middle part of Sherman s along with diamond it's all the Russian Robin horn a new give us wisdom Swan Oh forgive us Bora Helene Oh bless us with Vanessa riff on ain't no heal us Schumacher Lane you ever think about that Oh weird oddly is thinking about ourselves that's that what darling is about darling of course is about yourself what it's about others as well and that's the dog of closet that we have to make in two three weeks it's not only simple sahayam but it's obviously know and when you make up your mind you're not gonna go to sleep until you're help another year dance time we're gonna get the base on Victor's back because we know what the club's claim says I want to tell you something I would never ever have the guts or the courage to say this but I'm gonna read it to you from the father crying the second part listen to this the first and second I have a special favor kid bass oh my sorrows Lazar a person has to be careful Sheila yes Ally me that's a pheasant after the guy method now one day should be missing that you don't do a favor commercial Turkish a Israeli literally any curious eating whatever every person I saw wants something everyday men and women obviously women are not gonna Gomorrah but take it learnt enough they could learn Musa they could learn a market story they can whatever there's so much that they can learn all the whole office my son has a chrome Bourne was over 400 sheer macho anytime many of them have to do with her office for women every person every every man should learn something everything and you know what's and this is the fail of Shanee I can't believe this Ava's Russell Taylor Cheney pair of Donald listen to this from the Heyliger courts claim Kisha our Secretary of Avadh if somebody is learning Tyra Oh Camilla sky sodium Mario Sakurai lawyer but he didn't do rest at the way it was supposed to be lightness or air a yodel a mile on me that's a hazard then cluster show him he's not gonna get to me this sucks I said don't we all need a sham stress and every time we get on the highway every time you get on a plane every time you cross the street you need that jump I said but if a person is only learning he's gonna love my boy he's got a straight ticket as well he's not gonna get that crash said because he didn't do press it for other people I'm not saying this the Comets crime is saying this well Cain in this diamond little automatic uh phase it's our dough Caspar's column somebody's got it Sarah who missed a mediation of Oslo my logon ki nazar did and nobody scot-free we all have a virus well you only not some economy not gonna be saved because that's a dinner you're not gonna be saved that's terrible we must do interested we must I said it's our own protection you know I told you I'm going through the Ukraine sorry I'm learning all these considerations wrong with city up shots and it's amazing so I just saw that bear them is richer market the first talmud of the main town would at the Baal Shem Tov he says such an unbelievable shot now I find all the cities ship shot them the same you say this as Latricia the same they just get it for the circum in different ways listen to this amazing me and Marlo divorce a sham yeah she's me I'm cold see law say what's a simple meaning me and my lover who could possibly say all the strength and all the wonderful things about them yeah she me I call today who could possibly say all those wonderful things that I said that he said that he does Sam does so listen how there was richer market I just he says the Lila means to crumble something malleolus he says me Molly somebody wants to crumble up the giris Hashem to me this unleash but the only to have that said it's simple yes me occult unless I say all of tell them me and Moloch birth you know something everybody should have a say didn't tell him yourself every day tonight on we got a start I know I'm giving you a lot of homework but it's worth it will be better people stand in one place rushing yards I'll make that table Allah do i press it every day make that Kabbalah start saying till them I can tell you you start saying till them yes such a connection touch them I'll tell you what I do I've been doing it again I would never ask anybody to do anything that I don't do I've been doing it for more than thirty years I say five could pull off a day five times 30 150 so you gotta you say tell them once a month I have my own tiller my have an underlying that have it rebound leather because what's falling apart get in the hospital till them get it into Linea tell them you know you're making a connection that for yourself besides for coiling me and Moloch boots are Shemesh me I'll call to you on site again we have to learn how to do facet now I want to tell you another thing I know you're gonna think this is strange how to become a happy person and that is to take control of your life and that is I know most people can't do this it's unbelievable you can't shut your cell phone do you know there used to be a time when everybody when they went into a hospital hall what was the first thing that they look for where they sitting who they're sitting next to now nobody cares cuz you're not talking to anybody anyway you're on the phone it's true now if the women would know how their husbands behave in sure during her shots they wouldn't serve them breakfast anybody who texts intial does not deserve breakfast you should be mindful me and if you're not Michael go by Kellogg's I don't care but it's a disgrace Michonne but you gotta see this staple send me an ED and it's not good enough it's not good enough to put it on vibrate because you know very when you hear it on vibrate you're gonna try to see who it is you want to get your life back you want to be happy learn to shut that phone learn to shut that phone during meals how do you like that when you're eating with your children shut the phone in front of them so they see Tati mommy they care about us not all wash up tonight there was no five calls during supper how did he manage ten years ago 12 years ago somehow we all managed you want to become a happy person get control of your life not that the iPhones and the texting and the emails are just totally and I'll tell you an amazing thing you know I just read a story recently why women live longer than men you know why because they have more face-to-face contact with other people men have shut off everybody I see people in the airport they're just walking they're talking now Michigan who they talking to because they got such long hair can't even see that they got the ear phones I'm just ready taste what's your mother's name let me down for you it's just crazy we have mama she lost control you have to learn to shut your phones and this is this is the study this is why woman who spend more time with their friends than men do they live an average of six years longer could you believe that it's amazing it's not enough to email or text the actual health benefits of socializing are achieved by in person contact when was the last time you know that I know people it's hard to believe a mother and a daughter in the same house they're texting you ever see an Ocean Parkway the husbands and wives walking the Bowflex they who they texting each other I can tell you I'm not gonna tell you what you love course everybody knows that I'm a Moyle so you know by Vemma I once came up to a Beemer and showed you would not believe you all know the show I'm not gonna tell you where I'm getting ready to save a horse remember so guys texting I tell you to took all my self-control not to smack it out of his hand I couldn't be mastic I was gonna say who you texting there oh boy did she love them we've Amish lost control here's another way that a person can get some pasta hi I'm and that is to have love of mrs. if you would do a mitzvah brush like Musa and you would do mitzvahs with happiness and that's really all the city should have let's talk about that it's not only learning but it's Mitsos and you do it with the gift she mock and your children see it all of a sudden you become a different person I can just tell you I've told the story many many times there was a fellow Mikkel good Farben Errol he never missed a minion ever he would not go on a vacation if he knew that he couldn't get a minion someplace so what happened one time he came on three o'clock in the morning and he realizes I really didn't have Myra for the minion was he gonna get a minion so they told him in Ezra's Tyrel he could get a minion 24/7 he comes to register is 3:30 in the morning and he says excuse me you think well that Meijer tonight I said what are you crazy in an hours were seeking he said what I haven't missed a minion the thirty years I gotta have a minion no were you gonna get a minion listen what the guy does he calls an Israeli camp company and he says there's two guys here I need eight Israeli drivers send over eight Israeli drivers was he gonna do it in an Arab right so he says who's got eight Israeli drivers you know three o'clock in the morning I've got five okay cause another place 3.53 they come everybody wanted wisdom I mix it with asana what are we doing here and he says ruble tight I don't care what it costs me put on your meters everybody I'm gonna pay you on the meter while we die for my earth so some guys were Froome so they had their own yarmulkes but i don't have to tell you certain Israeli drivers so they put on you know they keep bolt or whatever he gave them yarmulkes took 20 minutes and they went through my earth he goes over to the first guy of room guy he's gonna pay a cab drivers I should pay you now you should pay me I wouldn't take a penny so it goes over to the remaining here me figured for sure he's gonna take money he goes oh he says how much do I owe you he says sir I haven't been in a synagogue in seven years I don't even yom kippur tonight you forced me to come here I should pay you now you should pay me and that one of those guys took money why because they knew this guy loves a mitzvah now I want to tell you a mitzvah that goes on right here in Flatbush many of you know rabbis every train a wonderful person a tremendous Sadiq so you know what he does after every Muslim if he goes to every single show and he takes all the homeless people to his house he once told me if you have a bris and flappers on Chavez stay by me you'll see you won't believe what goes on by the pseudo Shabbos an attacker came it's unbelievable tables long so I once heard I once heard this story that he once went into a wrinkled store he said some place in Borough Park and he said I need a wrinkle so the guy said what sides he said I need all sizes because you know I got some guests that at all short fat skinny every size I couldn't believe such a story I called his wife I said Rebbetzin tell me the truth did that really happen she says I don't know but I'll tell you this we're at a size 42 when he has such a brave guidance such an open heart for necessary from what do you think his children are gonna do so I want to tell you one more thing that I think is so important in life and that will make us happy and that is to make goals and keep them set yourself a goal and keep it don't make big goals that you'll never be able to meet makeup I'm gonna finish this peyrac I'm gonna learn one peyrac of Tanaka day even in the arts role in English but every day I'll learn a parent or nah I'm not gonna ask a raise of hands what was the last time here anybody looked at Shinhwa or Milan or you Shia forget about your Tesco or your Mia or Trejo sir we don't even know what's doing in those sukham trails that's not so hard Trey y'all says 12 little sifrit anak there's no reason why we shouldn't know it how many people look at a whole or eight huh before tisha buff unless Michelle comes first as we said shouldn't we be doing that make a goal and keep it and I want to show you something you will not believe what the hover time says about goals it is so amazing to me the park isn't left over yay to the left us arts Arcanine I've Rama and his family went out there to kanawa your boy that's a con they came checking on the next posse mihika Tara huzzah from beneath nothing excess skin gracious Udall of Ramadan from precious Noah Terah took Abram his son be asleep and Korriban Horan via Sarai Colossae took his daughter Lois all right the yurts are eaten mayor custome went out from more customer let us answer karate also we're gonna go to come on and what happens why you ever had horror on various gun shop they came to Carlin and they didn't get come on so nice is what's going on here why is it turret telling us this I've roma divina was gonna go to canal and it got sick man Horan terracotta was gonna go to come on any under popcorn like a guys gonna go to wake where he ends up to stand down then he moves there what happened you made up your mind you go to Lakewood what are you doing a Staten Island joke the puppets find shallow old Amla letters but I probably know you have to be like I've wrong being the kabbala odds my letters are choking on if you made up you're going to cannot move always jump you gotta get there below the shiny to my house or they sure be I'm sad era you can't stop in the middle you know why we feel frustrated because we want to do things that we don't do them it used to be so many times nobody nobody males today so many times people would meet me you know hi rabbi could I meant to write you a letter I've got it I just didn't mail it yet what I mean he didn't mail it you what you write it for people star things and they stop in the middle and you become frustrated you want to have simple so high-end make up your mind you're gonna do something and do it make yourself a schedule keep a notebook and mark off every day I just want to tell you that when I was writing the most recent market book that's when I did that's what I've done for all the books I've had between ninety and a hundred stories so I take a sheet of paper and I write down from a hundred down to one and every time did you see the front of you feel better but if you don't write it down the front of you you know you're all your number here someplace you have no idea where you're holding you get frustrated the job feels so big and then when you got the only 35 left you can't believe it oh my gosh 35 we used to have 75 left and it makes you feel good it's an impetus now I want to tell you an amazing story now many of us know here robbery Sheriff a photonic LaRocco was probably one of the greatest thoughts Gonen the cloister i'll ever had so he was very very sick in May 1998 and the 76 dinner was coming up and he desperately wants her live to be at that dinner to give his final speech he knew that would be the last speech of his life but he didn't write it he didn't write it because the doctors you know weren't giving him hope that he was gonna make it there and finally about two weeks before a doctor comes in says rabbi Shara I'm telling you you're gonna make it you're gonna make it write your speech so he started writing the speech he had in his shaky handwriting I've seen it and unfortunately the morning of the dinner that morning Sunday morning he passed away so of course tremendous service and his son Rob Simpson was travelling all around the country giving drugs about his father and then they asked me I should give a speech and Rabbi Reisman churlish Lucia because my father Oliver Shalom unless you share a once-in-a so they were very friendly and Moshe sharing many times would tell me a story as a matter of fact he told me one story about him and Henry Kissinger he said you can't print it while I'm alive so now that he passed away so I printed it was there tremendous story you could read it then illuminations at a market he had a hard cover not to so cover but whatever but the point is it's a great great story and you could see why it was politically sensitive but shimshi said to me you know what you're gonna speak about my father let me give you his last speech I said what are you talking about I should take his last but you should take it he said I have so much to say and he liked you anyway just take the speech listen to this final speech enough Cheryl was gonna give and it's not only good as you saw it's really to the whole world to all of us tonight listen to how a person thinks and he writes like this he's writing his quoting Apothic in history Shea Moisture test prosecute vase vahik Volta as the arms of Eve take the nation and circle it around her scene I tell them lemur he's Shambhala how my legs Behar be careful when you go on the mountain or nogepa could say if you touch even a touch a little bit of that mountain come on a game of Hormuz you must anybody who dares touch the mountains gonna die that's what the passage says right let's remember everybody's around icy night the mountain is so holy calling a gay bar anybody who touches it mice you must now have a share of quotes the COTS car ever again such a brilliant custody ship shop which is not the shot in the plastic but what a lesson listen how the cuts could touch the plastic and he said like this sometimes a person has a goal in life and they want to reach the top of the mountain and what happens they go on top of the mountain and the gamble could say the only touch part of it but they get burned out they don't finish it so that's what he's saying he's Shambhala and my voice before you decided you're gonna do a certain thing and you're trying to climb that mountain or in a gay book I'd say you're just touch it and you say I'm too tired let somebody else let the youngest-ever do it I'm out of here no no no come on a gaya Bihar if you only touch the mountain you decide you're gonna do something and you just get burned out Oh voice you must that's not what life is all about and listen to the final words that Rabbi Shara wrote on that paper it was a piece of Valley Simba if you were safer to climb that mountain out to you man Aloha Mustafa confirm or don't be satisfied with a little bit Ella esta blue Lalas Milo Milo go to the top that's how you get some cussing I am make up your mind you're gonna do something and do it even if it's a small thing to it take a look at this fellow right here take a look at rabbi bald you know rabbi boulders doing this since he's 27 I don't know to me he never gets bigger than 27 I didn't even know where he is now he's probably in Australia I mean we saw me before he went to where the other showings in Bartow Park how old is that guy 32 maybe he's all 35 right what's the difference he's not sixty this guy arranges a thousand more than a thousand she ramier how many chew him does he arrange a year how many more than a thousand right he's a young man but he has a goal he wants to change claw each other wants to inspire people so he goes out he does it wouldn't be Gish much for him to be here tonight he's got to see what they did over there that's how you accomplish you make up your mind you're gonna do something and do it and that's what we want to get simpler so high him let's review everything that we said and we'll end with a great great thought let's remember we live in a difficult time Bob told us machine if us other Marvin Basim Commission Nikolas Arvin Martin to simcha but always similar we minimize it simple but the simple always has to be there why do we say hamako him because the a B is always with us even in the difficult times by availeth by a loss of finances being stuck in a foreign country and that's why this for Barros never give up on a child Borja mocking borracho boorish innocent turtle armies roberto ho let's remember if you think of stories of Oscar protests that story of common Epstein with that fellow in the sanitation that story with Dan Newman then Kirchner with four corners everything is much car approaches let's remember my assignment autumn a high if the fact that we're alive we should be dancing if it wasn't the three weeks we should get out music and we should dance we're alive we're gonna see family we could go to sim because you're gonna go to the bungalows you could be stuck in traffic isn't that wonderful and listen to this year over and over again all the other ones right let's remember how she got sir let's make a couple of lean nether from tonight on we're gonna stand in one place and how grateful that we have to be that we have a heart than a colon and a intestines and a spleen and a lungs and a windpipe and a food pipe every single time I go to doctor I take a look at the chart on the wall I chop the nose job to each other I think that's going on in my body I can't believe it you could believe it that's why rabbi tats is a genius once said that's why skin is called Iver or rather why is skin called or I involve race cuz Iver comes from the word blind you're blind to what's going on inside your body cuz you don't see what's going on and if you don't see what's going on you have a lack of appreciation let's remember to do a hasit every day and as the head of your hover time told us Toyotas not enough we need a sham stress that we have to do press it like nigel Collins with this camera or that sure that gives people agenda that says our guests you can dial six four one seven one five or seven or nine to get three recordings I said a week let's remember take control of your life not that you're texting and email should be in control of you when you come to show automatically shut it you come to sit down at a meal automatically shut it let's remember to love Mitch's like that fellow did ready to pay eight guys for Mitzvah of dancing with a minion I find that let's remember to have goals at the cover time said I've Rama Vina was gonna go to Kanaan and he got taken on it's a simple plastic but it's a great lesson and let's remember what the courts got told us if we circuit to climb the mountain let's reach the top of the mountain I just want to end with this fabulous story last winter I was in Boca Raton there's a Rob from Goldberg they celebrated ten years and they wanted to give him like a Shabbos of my curse I tell you but he has mass courts and wherever I go today Brougham people are always telling me stories and I appreciate it so rabbi Moskowitz told me about a cousin of his that's not from a distant distant cousin and that's you strong and he said the fellow went through high school didn't even have my Marty Dottie know you the Shah High School at all very second with school in Israel he knew that there's such a thing as Shabbos he knew there's such a thing as a Gomorrah as dabbling he knew schmeyer oh but he didn't know anything else what happens with these guys when they finish ice well they go to the army and unfortunately today the pressure on an Israeli soldier is so great that after the army they go to alle fire up the blood sack they go to Thailand they go to India they go to all kinds of crazy places and his cousin went to India and the longer he was away from her cheese trial the less shroom he became I mean it wasn't from to begin with but less - she had to hear this kite finally he lost it all one night he's sitting in a bar in Mumbai with a whole bunch of Indian friends girlfriends and all of a sudden he hears the sound of a chauffeur now Schafer's frightening but Shafer at night in Mumbai who's Warren Shafer he runs out of the bar and he runs out to the street and the street is so crowded because it's a whole Street of bars he's trying to look around who blows Schaefer he's waiting there two minutes what was it down the block he's again to chauffer why is somebody blowing Schaefer what's going on he's so shaken he sucks at race old he runs to his house he opens up his calendar and he sees that that day was Yom Kippur and he made a few calls and he found that it was the hibachi Lea who was long chauffeured to tell everybody that the fast was over that they could eat or go back to work or whatever when he realized that he didn't even know that was Yom Kippur he sat down and he started crying he could not stop crying how could I have fallen so far kipper now this is hard to believe the next morning he packed his bags didn't tell anyone packed everything got on a plane and one packed charity Shirl he goes home he says to his parents I'm enrolling in a yeshiva they said what are you crazy you just got back from India you never were nice to me I'm going to a yeshiva he enrolled in he shivered the next 10 years he was in that year shiver and that you should have an other you shivers he became a Coover he got married he just had his fifth kid and listen to what rabbi Moskowitz his cousin tells me he said when I heard this story it occurred to me that this Lubavitch a guy who grew Schaefer will never meet my cousin he'll never realize how much ash born he had on him and my cousin will never get to meet this guy he said but now I have a new shot in a sonnet a gift you will never understand I take if the same if they hear this listen to what he said rabbi Moskowitz from Boca Raton this seefs not a safe house a car noise the Hamish is gonna open up the safe and pretty soon my a Levite car it's it's cleaner physical Lane it's gonna read by itself before some yard call Adam boy every person is gonna sign it so rabbi Maskull said why does it say for question me I'd call Adam but it should have said you're gonna watch this a presentation by Olivia Carter you're not sure I'm not gonna watch it and replacing me other than the person's gonna sign what's called autumn boy he says you know what the caller's anybody that had our eye on you they are gonna be signing your book that's for hosting me I'd call on them anybody 1-1 and anybody that you had a spawn you're gonna be signing their book that's for Christian me out cold autumn boy and he said that's the role of each and every one of us every one of us has to go out and try to be Makara hidden to make sure that we sign their books and we have to become close to gray simply great to mention so tell me - humming - Monhegan and listen to them and then they will sign our books and that's what you can shoot at us all about we may not be able to get to all the Cadell them around the world but when you listen to those CDs or mp3s or cassettes whatever you listen to and you become close in a way to those could tell them that are on those recordings they are signing your books that's releasing me I'd call Adam boy you want to be a happy person get close to great people let them sign your book so to speak and even more important you go out there don't be embarrassed we could all do it go out inspire people and sign their books and then you'll be happy then you'll have a wonderful year and a wonderful life and that's the Brock of all of us during the three weeks when we're so sad because we think of all the negative that happened to Claudia so there's a lot of positive that we can encourage and we can foster and we can create make sure you do that make sure we do all these things that we spoke about tonight let's make these couples of Ashley Garza and and and dress it and all the things that we spoke about and if we do them it's a sham we'll 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