Asking For Forgiveness Before Rosh Hashanah

Forgiveness. Forgiveness is a is a is a uh important thing. If a person is alive regular person uh and you did uh bad by him, if you took money from him, you have to give it back simply. Uh but if it's something like you insulted him, you hurt him in some way or you hurt her in some way, then you have to try to uh ask for their forgiveness three times. Three times. If they do not uh forgive you after three times, you fulfilled your obligation. You don't you're okay. You did your job. You you you ask for forgiveness. They don't want to forgive you. They don't want to forgive you. There's nothing you can do about it. You did it three times. Three times. You've uh humbled yourself and ask for forgiveness. But not the type of forgiveness where you go to the guys like, "Hey, listen. I'm sorry about what happened." But you know you were wrong, too. That's not saying I'm sorry. You know, listen, listen. you know what happened? It's my bad. I'm sorry about it. But by the way, you're not exactly so right yourself. That's not asking I'm sorry. That's in essence, you're just starting the argument even making even worse. Saying I'm sorry means listen, I'm really sorry. I was wrong. Even though you were right, even though you were think you're right, whatever it is, I'm sorry. My bad. I did bad. I'm wrong. Oh, no. No, it wasn't. No, no, it was. It was. No, it was. I'm sorry. I'm wrong. Here, I'm sorry. I love you. Please forgive me. Sorry means in essence you have to pretty much remove your pride and say I'm sorry. You were wrong. Even if you weren't 100, you're wrong. That's I'm sorry. You try to do that three times. If the person is difficult, it doesn't sorry doesn't want to forgive you after three times. There's nothing you could do. But that's only if he's a common person. If he's a then even if it's a thousand times he says no you have to keep going >> thousand times thousand times he says no I don't want to forgive you you have to keep going you have to keep asking for sorry why you hurt one of Hashem's soldiers you have a very very serious problem do whatever you can to get his forgiveness normally it doesn't uh doesn't require that many times. But the says even if it does, even if this some they have a little bit of gava, they have a little bit of a uh you know uh um you know uh anger in them, fire in them that they don't want to forgive you. And there actually is a says that if somebody goes against him and he doesn't take revenge, he's not. If somebody took advantage of him because of money, then forgive him. But if somebody embarrassed him in public, said don't let it go. Like it says in the don't let it go. Take revenge. Not yourself. If something happens to them in the world, let it happen. Why? Because when he when he went against he went against the Torah. It's not about the himself. The Torah is that he represents. So if you offended, if you wrote a comment on the internet against some or uh for example, one guy that was watching my shim for a while and uh one day I said something about uh Zionists being this guy didn't like it even though he was watching my shim already for like a year, two years, helped him do chuva, but he didn't like the what what I said about the Zionist being even though True. And he sent me an email cursing my wife out and all types of names. Now, if you curse me out, you say whatever you say to me, doesn't really make a difference to me. You've mentioned my wife into it, you mention my kid, you mention anything about it, most likely if you die a strange death, I'm going to laugh. Why? What does she have to do with it? What does she have to do with it? What she do to you? So a person like this most likely, even if you apologize a thousand times, most likely won't accept it. But you cross the line. You want to curse me out, you want to insult me, you don't like what I said, you don't agree with me, no problem. But why? Why'd you cross the line? Why'd you go there? So everybody's got that line. Everybody's got that line. Everybody's got a line. Don't cross that line. Sometimes people cross the line. So it depends. Does that mean that it's that person not forgiving means that they're bad? No, it doesn't mean that they're bad. It means you crossed the line. You crossed the line. There's something. But that's assuming again that's it's it's it's normal under normal circumstances. Either way, it's a uh a person that went against they made a comment on the internet. Uh they said they caused the lecture to be cancelled. Things like that. They have to do everything possible to get forgiveness. Now everyone knows the book by written almost 800 years ago. What very few people don't know is that the entire book which is one of the most important Musar books ever written since the history of the world. That book is very deep. It's something m He must have written it with some type some level of he was one of the of the I believe. But anyway, was one of the people that went against the Rambam went against the Rambam. And when he found out that the Rambam really is right and he's really the Gdola and he realized that he went against the biggest rabbi in the world, he decided to spend the rest of his life going from community to community to publicize his apology to the Rambam just in case his words against the Rambam reached that community. But you don't know where it's reached. You said one word over here. Somebody was here but he moved back to somewhere else. And then he told somebody else. Then he told somebody else. You know where he spent the rest of his life going from community to community telling publicizing that he's wrong. The Rambam is the biggest rabbi in the world. He's the keshim. And his whole life this whole period of what he did from that he wrote Shouva. Shuva is the culmination of his two decades of chuva for saying one thing against the Ramb and if you see what he writes in just the first few chapters already of you already scared to death what he says about if you don't do cha and what you have to do in order to do chva. So point is is that if a person went against somebody uh they have to do whatever they can to uh undo it. They have to do whatever they can to undo it. And by the way just to finalize everything that's actually the that says that um onulus onulus that uh before he converted he did a seance and uh he brought back three nesote that uh to ask him if he should convert and what's happening in the next world. One of the namote was his uncle Titus. He asked him, "Should I convert?" He said, "No, it's too hard to be a Jew." He says, "But who's in control in the real world where you are?" He says, "The Jews, the righteous Jews." He says, "What's happening to you?" Titus says, "Uh, I'm getting punished where they're burning me to ashes every day." spread me around all the oceans of the world and then they put me back together and then they burned me all over again. So then after that's my punishment that's what the Titus says then he brought back Bam said Bam who what should I convert? He says, "Don't convert. It's too hard. It's too hard to convert. It's too hard to be a Jew. Just torture the Jews in this world. At least you'll benefit from one world." He says, "But who runs the world over there? Who's benefits over there?" He goes, "The righteous Jews." Says, "Uh, where are you?" He goes, "Oh, I'm being boiled every day in uh in uh in semen. They're boiling me in semen." Why? Cuz I wasted seed with my donkey. So then he brought back Jesus and he asked Jesus uh should I uh convert? He says yes convert. He goes who runs the world over there? He goes the righteous Jews. The righteous Jews are the ones that benefit on top in the real world. And uh he says to him uh so where are you? He says I am in the seventh level of gay and they're boiling me in feces every day. says, "Why come?" He says, "Because I went against I went against the rabbis, my punishment is eternity." So even though he was a Jew, even though he actually told him the truth that he should convert cuz that's you could be a righteous Jew and so on, that didn't help his case. Why? He went against. That's the whole thing with him. That's the whole thing with him. So some of these foolish people that make comments on the internet, don't listen to this rabbi, don't listen to Rabbi, don't listen to Rabbi Mizrai, don't listen to Rabbi or whatever it is, whatever other you make a comment on the internet, you send an email to somebody, you send a text message to somebody, or you even make a comment saying, "Yeah, I guess some people like him, but I don't really like him. He's not my taste." And that stupid comment influences another person not to listen to our you have a very very serious you have a very serious sham you pretty much have to become that rabbi's uh employee for free in order for him to forgive you because you have no idea the level of damage that that caused. So that's some of the things that people do nonchalantly and lose their without even knowing it. They're just, you know, walking corpses. And a lot of people do it. A lot of people do it. Many times you see it with people that want to convert, but strangely it never works. Strangely, the bed never wants to talk to them. Strangely, no one ever wants to sponsor them. 10 years already. They're in a conversion process, but nothing happens. Why? Cuz they probably did something like this. They did something like this. They say about and so on. People like that say uh danger to society and most importantly danger to themsel. So during this a person should take the initiative and taking on the commitment to change. Pick one thing that you're going to change. If you are smart, you'll pick even more because there's certain things that are easy. One thing I would recommend for everybody to do is that if there is a and it's a real unless it's a positive comment, don't comment at all on the internet ever. Unless it's a positive comment that's going to influence other people to watch it, don't comment at all. Sometimes people comment on the thread of the live feed and just talk to each other. It's a mistake. You're influencing other people to stop watching the show and look at your comments. It's a mistake. You shouldn't do it. You shouldn't even watch the show if you're going to do that. Or some people say, "Oh yeah, I don't really like that." You shouldn't do it. Don't watch the show if you don't like it. Why? Because you're influencing other people to stay. Go away from the sh. You can influence your people to go away from. So unless it's a positive comment, don't make a comment at all. That shouldn't be too difficult. You don't have something good to say, don't say anything at all. That probably heard this when you're growing up. Two, do everything you possibly can to evaluate yourself fairly and pick one thing that you're going to become an expert in. One thing that you're going to be this is your baby. You're going to be the best at this mitzvah. But that doesn't mean that you don't have you could ignore everything else. 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