Aseres Yemei Teshuva: CHUMROS

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Schwartz for his amazing dedication in sending out the summoning the shiram literally 24 hours a day I don't know when he sleeps okay but Hashem should give him rest in whatever little sleep time he has um okay we have a very important shirt tonight we also have very little juice on the zoom so here we go the tour brings an archaim cement the torquotes you xiaomi that commanded RAV if you could eat the whole year Hulen bit tahara you should eat but if you can eat the whole year then at least seven days a year you should do so now what does it mean to eatahara uh in the times of and RAV there was no way samikdash there was no concept of tamavatahara so what does it mean to eat but it was an extra Pious practice and this is what rabriya encouraged RAV to eatahara for seven days what are these seven days says the Torah that aviasri says there's a tradition these are the seven days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur and they're called seven days why are they called seven days why are they called ten days because Roshana doesn't count and Yom Kipper doesn't count so therefore Rosh Hashanah you don't have to tell someone even though why because one is obligated to purify themselves before yamtif like the statement of the Regal so all you have basically is seven weekdays therefore based on this you shami is that even someone who is not careful in past akum the whole year during the Assassin they are supposed to be careful on pasta right so no entenmanns no Drakes for even even if it's not Hall of uh akam still let's say uh Arnold's Bread English muffins all that you know how to eat during the assets you made chuva again the usami doesn't say that the xiaomi says seven days a year predicated on that it was extrapolated that seven days a year one should be careful with pass akam now you're never allowed to eat the bread of a guy it's never permitted that's pass um paltar in other words that's the bread of an individual guy the bread of an individual guy you're not eat the whole year but if he's a commercial Baker you're allowed to eat it the whole year just not a serious by the way the mission Brewer says that Shabbos is like this so therefore like on Shabbos you don't have pasakum you don't have entammins Drakes or stelladoro cookies same way you don't have it during a certain Mission Brew says Shabbos as well okay is a baker so that you're allowed to have it you now to have of an individual individual Baker you can't commercial Baker powder of a baker official bake you're right you're you're uh you're allowed to have okay so this is interesting because there are a lot of hormones out there there's actually a book a thousand and one hamrah's no I'm just joking but but there could be a book like that there are many things and for some reason when it comes to serious what humra are we supposed to like abide by there and says don't eat pasakum what about uh I don't know it doesn't say what about a million other humras that you could probably come up with what about um you know what about being on did anybody ever say you know wake up earlier for this or keep Shabbos there's seems to be an emphasis on however the elf homogene writes and for those of you uh listening on Zoom uh I'm not sure how much longer the zoom is going to last tonight but um the LF we will maybe we'll try it with the with the sound but the LF hammergan writes any every God-fearing person should learn out from here that it's not just pasta that you should be careful about but anything whether it's the pass of a guy anything that someplace can allow and others do not allow even though during the course of the year a person is lenient during that series he made chuba you should be careful you should be sorry I mean don't say okay good fine I'll uh eliminate Drake's from my menu for seven days anyway I'll probably lose a few pounds if I do that you know it's good for dieting no extrapolate it's not just pasakum but any type of humra that it's possible to observe one should try to observe during this so you shouldn't purchase something that has or the meat that you purchased during this time of the year should be on a higher level supervision and even if you can't Accord yourself so you say come on you know I can't do that the whole year it's okay at the very least during these days of the year you should be careful but yeah but there are different levels of their their you know so even a haksha you would rely on the whole year but you know that might be a bit iffy don't rely on it during a system that's in other words the specific example given is pasakum but from there we should extrapolate that when it comes to other kumaras this is the time of the year to to be more careful so the few things we have to address number one but why is it that of all the kumras it's pasta akum that we're focusing on and secondly isn't it hypocrisy either you keep it or you don't keep it now I only I only eat kosher in the house you know I only eat kosher during a sesame chuva I'm only careful I mean are you allowed to do it you know I'll do it if you're allowed to do it then I should be able to do it now from now how to do it then you can't do it the whole year what is this no during that Sesame chuva I'm on my best behavior because hashem's watching but as soon as Yom Kipper's over what hashem's not watching anymore what you do doesn't matter as much you know what what's the rationale of being careful at a specific time of the year and not being careful another time you don't plan the person says I don't plan on keeping this you know it's one thing you're doing to you're doing chuva if you're going to do too but you have to really tell Hashem you know I'm serious about this imagine a guy on Yom Kippur says I really feel sorry and I'm never going to do it again until after Yom Kippur I mean is that a chuva you say I'm never going to do it again until after I'm careful we know that's not chuva so what exactly is the value of observing these for just this period of the year so I want to suggest um four approaches okay approach number one should we try that the camera's working it works okay okay so wait until this goes about two minutes um approach number one we know that we make different insertions we say is what's the idea of adding these insertions to Schwann essay what's this all about why do we make these Editions he says something very beautiful he says it's a very beautiful custom to me he says human nature is to be stirred when there's something new when uh when there's a newsman or something new happens as opposed to the regular ordinary types of things therefore Sesame Erie during this time of the year where a person really has to be aware and awake have more Cabana yeah but I'm I'm sitting there I'm looking at the same words I say the entire year it's very hard to stir myself to have more kavana saying the same words I say the whole year so you know khaza have this great idea you know what the idea is they stick in additions in the schwanna essay meaning the the real Point here is to say the first brother with more Cabana but if they just say say the first Cabana then people are gonna try they're gonna be staring at the words and they're gonna say same old same old but now that's in the first what's the difference it's not that it's important to say it's important to have more kabulary but the only way to do so is we need something new to be stuck in you know what I call I call it a speed bump right in other words you need people to slow down during a sesame tuna so if we just say slow down I would like to slow but I'm already on autopilot so we put in speed bumps in the answering [Applause] them again don't get too fast you might forget and then you really got to slow down because if you blow a Keller colors you're gonna have to start all over again so basically what's the point it's a speed bump it's but it's not there what's a speed bump for so that you should have a nice ride when you drive over the speed bump the speed bump is so the rest of the ride you should do it carefully so the reason we make insertions it's not oh I need hayam so I better say no it's so I better say no like hey avraham so I would humbly suggest the purpose of kumras during assertive they're speed bumps there we go it's a speed bump in other words really I have to be careful during a sesame chuva I have to make bracos with cabana and you know like this Farm tell us before every meal we learned about this the racist says before every meal you should do chuva and even on Shabbos during the rest of the year you say before you start a meal before you sit down you say and during Shabbos before you start a meal you should say um is an opportunity so if we just tell you you know slow down you know eating is a very important thing you have to make sure you say brajos properly you have to make sure you eat properly you have to make sure you have the proper thoughts when you eat no no I'm too busy so we give you speed bump the speed bump is I sit down to my meal I open up my my bag of Arnold's oh I can't eat the Arnolds I have to eat um Jewish bread yeah but the Jewish bread it might not be as soft as the Arnold's okay but for 10 days though you'll have to have the the Jewish bread oh it's a speed bump I have to eat differently during that service it's like and now I have to be um whatever kumrah is a person takes upon themselves whether it's eating whether it's davening whether it's in any uh form of conduct during that sarsume chuva these humras serve perhaps were suggesting as a sort of reminder that you take upon yourself these extra stringent practices it's not for the extra stringent practice whether or not you eat the past powder whether you eat the pastacum I mean if that's not the deal or not that's not the big deal the big deal is you need to eat differently you need to Daven differently you need to behave differently the extra kumrahs that are only during this time of year even though you have no plan on keeping it after is sort of to alert you not to just go through things in a routine manner but rather to stop and think that's the first approach the kids says sorry the kids does a different approach he says in similar base that good okay could you hear this well I might speak my blue I'm not sorry okay could you hear now could you hear okay we'll try it okay the second approach the kitchen says that is why because we ask Hashem Hashem deal with us piously meaning basically give us a break cut us some slack deal with us because during this time of the year okay here go the next batteries [Music] okay we asked during this time of the year that he should be basically we say Hashem whatever whatever normal protocol you have the rest of the year however you're usually going to look at us whatever however you're usually going to analyze us please deal with us the hasidos during this time of the year we say during this time of the year Hashem Acts piously so if we're asking asking Hashem act piously with us we need to respond in kind so even though we have no plan on doing this later at a different point in the year but in order to give some credibility to our request Hashem we need to also be negative says similarly that it's proper to be noyeg not just but all kinds of even though you're not knowing them the whole year because since we should likewise by the way this comes from now that's a little bit of a different point than we just said first point is how do you have a face to go to Hashem God you know bend over backwards for us you can't ask that unless you're we're doing it ourselves so we sort of in order to give credibility to our request deal with us piously we need to show Hashem we're we're also acting the hasidos so now we have more of a a leg to stand on when we ask Hashem deal with us sing a little differently it's not that it's to give credibility to our claim the reality is Hashem is acting the hasidos therefore our responsibility is always to emulate Hashem so since this time of the year is sitting the uh the ramak says look at number six the I love ham again and the mate of rhyme says that the Russian it's correct even if you're not going to do it the whole year why Le Fisher so we need to emulate the mode of Hashem it's a different nakuda than the kitsar the kids says it's in order to ask Hashem please deal with us piously we need to yeah what kind of audacity is it to make the request if we're not acting that way is saying that it's just proper to emulate the media which this time of the year he is so then it comes out so what are the most important not eating Arnold's or dealing with other people in other words the purpose of all of these cameras are not don't eat English muffins I didn't need anything I'm going to have a good year because I didn't eat any English muffins during that starts to mechuva I didn't eat intimacy the point of not eating the pasakum is to stir your heart to deal with other people because you know you have a fight over a dollar fifty with a guy so be Michael it's not a big deal don't know your thousand dollars he owes you a few bucks or he stepped on your toe be Michael him the Iker hasidos is interpersonal I want to share with you another idea this past um Purim my friend from nothing Wilder came to visit me he made a long trip so I said you know what you made you came all the way let's learn a little bit about puram so we learned from ravianas and irishness the arist of Ash and I saw then on Purim he said this would be perfect for Yom Kippur you want to hear a miracle even though I didn't remember to bring the computer and I remember to charge my phone and I don't have and uh and have good batteries but I did remember had said and I had a you know stored away that would come before Yom Kippur I have to say over this to be honest in hypersons the gemara says in Magilla dafied the students of the rashvi asked him Ravi why did the Jews in the times of Purim deserve to be destroyed so he said no you tell me so whether they say they said because they were Nana from the suda of akashviraj says that's nonsense if that's the case then only the Jews and shushan should have been threatened with Annihilation not the Jews all over the world yeah we never thought of that question you tell us so he said because they bowed down to the selam in the time of Nebuchadnezzar so they asked him but rebe if they bow down to Zara that's terrible why were they saved they asked why did God show them favoritism so the rash we said ah they didn't really bow down they just bowed down outwardly so Hashem threatened them outwardly this is one of the most difficult gamaras you'll ever come across because everybody's always familiar you know why do they deserve to be destroyed in time of Purim because they aid from the Surah question number one is what's wrong with eating at this it was kosher food well I mean imagine the guy said you know why the Jews deserve to be destroyed because uh some Jews they eat hot dogs in Yankee Stadium why someone would go to Yankee Stadium just to watch an overplayed an overpaid team be worse than teams that are a tenth of their salary I mean for that kind of record you might as well sell if 290 million dollars you know people want to go to Yankee Stadium they haven't learned their lesson for 20 years already now next year they'll be good next year they'll be I mean okay but it's kosher food what's wrong what's wrong with the fact that the Jews Aid at the suit of that's the first question and anyway that's not even the reason why do they deserve to be destroyed because they bow down to the Salem in the time in the like how do these two things fit together they bow down to the selam so then if that's the real reason the threat should have been in the times I mean if the rajbi is right that the reason why they deserve to be destroyed is because they bow down should have came a hundred years earlier why didn't they ask him that question foreign it was not really a big deal you know why because they probably dechuva no what do you think the Jews stood there in Babylon they all bow down and then the next day they had a guilty conscience and they went to shove or they said and they did chuva so what's the big deal they bow down tablets are they did chuva says is called showing favoritism when does God accept archuva so let's look in the gamara says you don't show favoritism you don't take bribes but what do you mean it but the pasig also says you do show favoritism that's what the angel said to God God why do you show favor to the Jewish people I'll tell you why because I told them you'll eat you'll be satiated and you'll bench on Abella on a bay I said excuse me that you'll eat you'll be satisfied in your bench what does satisfied mean I mean a Jewish guy is satisfied when he eats a big hero sandwich he has to eat like you know a big thing and only then you bench and then on themselves they bench even if they eat a kazaiya so if you want to know why I show them favoritism tremendous meal and they bench if they eat even a kazai sura Cabello what's I'm saying what were the Angels asking the Angels were asking God why do you accept their chuva and you know what hashem's answer is because I tell them to bench if they eat could they SVA if they're satisfied and their mahmir and they bench even if they eat a kazais or a cabea so Savannah says from here we learn that in order for chuva to be accepted you need to you need Hashem to show you favoritism and God's only going to show you favoritism if you're mahmer on things instead of innocent Irish says when the gemara says that Angels ask God why do you show them favoritism their question is why do you accept their chuva that's like really cutting them slack why do you imagine a judge you know a judge convicts a criminal but the guy said well I'm sorry I'm sorry I'll never do it again yeah no kidding behind the bars you'll never do it again in the real world a guy kills someone he said I'm sorry I won't do it again yeah when we electrocute you you won't do it again so so the question is why does God accept our children the answer is because it's not only access favor from Hashem in order to allow chuva to work so he says like this that's the Rashmi why were the Jews deserving of being destroyed so the Rashmi said because they were Nana from the what's wrong with eating at this it was kosher yeah it was kosher but it wasn't pass Israel said well but if that's the case then only the Jews and shushan should have been destroyed so they said what was it I'll tell you what it was it was they bowed down to that so the students so they should have been destroyed then no they weren't destroyed then because they did chuva but then when they stopped being in the times of God said I can't give you two but it doesn't work anymore without the pious practice of stringent practice in some measure then I can't show you the favoritism that's her abundance and ivishits explains the Gemar megala that the real Sin in the times of Purim was that they served avoidazara but even avoid the Zara you could cleanse with what with chuva the problem is chuva only works if you show extra practice extra carefulness in certain areas Hashem basically give an opening for Hashem to accept repentance so when I saw this on Purim said I never really fully understood why hamrahs are important this time of year I mean if I'm not keeping it the rest of the year so why should I keep it now but apparently you see from this gemara 's are not necessarily valuable inherently but they allow for a certain they sort of open the door to allow chuva to be accepted that's where we'll be honest and ambition says about Purim so it could be that's the concept of extra Pious practices during our it's not that eating pasty swirl is so important it's important but it's not I wouldn't say it's one of the fundamentals it says the heroes there are many things that are let's say ancillary of course they can't be overlooked we're not undermining them but this gives you an appreciation for exactly what the role is during assessment says allows and opens the door for Hashem to accept chuva I think that's a very uh very important and beautiful approach and now we want to add a very important no there's a posse in this week's parasha the posix says if you look at number 10. friends how does chuva work could Gentiles do chuva no actually I I I've said this many times over the years we're going to take another battery break because they don't like to last no who says the medicine says God will show you favoritism and not the nations of the world so the million dollar question is we spoke about this many times over the years why either repentance works or it doesn't work either you could either God accepts and forgives or he doesn't forgive why would he only forgive Jews and not Gentiles so we said many times over the years because our relationship with God is we're his children father could forego his honor you come home from work your kids sitting in your seat he says hey how dare you sit in my seat could you allow your kid to send your seat yeah how about a king could a king is the nations of the world are not the children of God maybe they say they are but they're not they only the Jewish people are the children of God therefore God could forgive us because he's our father he does not forgive the nations of the world they cannot do chuva so it's a great we're children so he could always forgive us question are we always children of Hashem so we've spoke about this many many times mayor is of the opinion yesterday we're always the children of Hashem and I would like to adapt everybody huda's opinion for I think it'd be very convenient for your own children holds when we act like God's children then we're his children when we don't act like his children we're his servants we're his slaves right you take your kids shopping which is a bad first mistake you made and they misbehave so people who are who are these kids so according to be here that you could say I don't know I don't know their mother asked me to watch them for the day you know I'm doing their mother a favor I rented them I don't know not sure who they belong to that's where abhouda says that when we don't do the will of Hashem we are not his children we're his servants who are we poskin like we've spoken about this many times of the year even though we never passed in like Webbie Mayer when it comes to this the rajba says like it's the one time in shastri passing like Ramirez right you've heard that over the years remember that this is the one what the only time the only time we pass like a man Even though one exception is and if you want to know more about the subject there's a book coming out we hope with our scroll on uhness where this whole topic will be explicated but the Raja says we passing like Ramirez we're always the children of Hashem which then means we could always do chuva right here's the problem there's a posse in this week's Parsha the pakistak says foreign to read when corruption is his there are two ways of reading this passage ready [Applause] corruption never affects God banov the imperfection lies in his children when there's corruption in this world his children are corrupt which would be indicating that even when work even when we're corrupt we're still his children but the ramban reads it when we act with corruption we're not his children I can't believe it I always knew the rajbap Haskins like Ravi Mayer were always the children of Hashem the ramban says obviously poskins that we're not always the children of Hashem now how does that make you feel that's not very warm and fuzzy rashita is much more comforting we're always the children but the ramban interprets the public when there's corruption we're not his children so I'm wondering according to the ramban if we're not his children always and we're not doing the world of Hashem so how could we do chuva because the same way the Gentiles can't do chuva because they're God's servants and he's the king and he can't forgive them so how does God forgive us so that's a problem according to avihuda how do we do chuva so ask you a general question really only juice could do chuva could you think of a story where even Gentiles do chuva maybe a story that we're going to be reading very soon let's say I mean what's the story of Jonah right Yona comes he tells the people of ninvee they're no Jews in Envy he says in 40 days you're going down the tubes God's overturning the city and they do chuva so apparently Gentiles kaduchova so one answer so this is a question of the ramami Pano um one of the Italian so he says well they didn't do real really do chuva God just deferred their punishment in fact the Malibu says 40. in fact in 120 years ninvee was overturned they didn't their tuba was not accepted or the ramami panel says you know they were like 1.2 million so many people God had mercy on them it's not like he they did chuva but God had mercy on the multitude but he gives another answer he gives an answer they did chuva and it was accepted you know why it was accepted the words he uses is because they were made atira what does that mean s said you guys are robbers you're still we turn the gazella what's that look if you steal a brick and you build it into a building we have to like destroy the whole building to return the brick submit their eyes so you need to or let's say you steal a thread and you make a sweater out of it now you have to unravel the whole sweater to return the thread biblically you have to the ravanan said nobody's gonna do chuva then you know yeah you tell somebody yeah go do chuva return the brick yeah I just built the the World Trade Center now you want me to build a brick so the rabbi say pay for it biblically you have to return it so says because they went and they observed the law of the Torah God allowed them to do chuva like it says in the Torah because they kept the Torah when they didn't have to God applied to them the laws of the Torah but the way I understand it is really they shouldn't be able to access chuva but because they were mahamir and they went beyond the law beyond the letter of the law so God was said okay I guess I also have to go beyond the letter of the law and accept your tuva so what do we learn from here that even when you're not the children of Hashem but if you act above and beyond the requirement God acts with you quid pro quo and he also Acts above and beyond his requirement so maybe the idea of kumrah's during the Assassin is if we're not doing the will of God and you can't access chuva because God's our father and he's Michael us and then we don't really have a halachic claim to chuva so we say hey God we're not worse than the people of ninvee they also they went above and beyond the letter of the law so maybe if we go above and beyond the other law you'll deal with us above and beyond the letter of the law which is very similar to what the elephant said that we're um what the kids look we're asking God to deal with us so we only have a leg to stand on if we similarly act that way I'm going to share with you a fourth approach this uh my friend in France rep Rafal Ansel sent me this week this is a very interesting approach and this explains what it specifically has to do with pasako in other words if you took out the mission of Brewer I guarantee you you could come up with a thousand cameras like where do we come up with pasa akum maybe during a system or two you should put your negle Vassar within your dalaramas you know why don't we just once we're at it keep the first how do we come up with pasakum if you look in safer Daniel a So Daniel was jailed with Azaria and the steward was bringing them food and Danielle said come on um We're not gonna eat this food so if you don't eat the food you're not going to be able to serve the King Daniel said test us give us seeds and test us for 10 days to see if we could subsist on seeds test us for 10 days give us from the seeds water and we'll drink and you look at the people who eat the bread of the king meaning though we don't have to eat the king's bread we're going to make an experiment give those have those give them bread give us seeds and if we look less healthy than them then we'll start eating the bread also but give us 10 days so they gave Daniel and his friends 10 days and they passed the test it says you're going what were these 10 days Saturday God says we have a tradition Connecticut rava Victor Miller studied by revised he says even though when you look at the lushan of the tour it seems like the reason not to eat pasta during that Cersei made shuva is it stems from what rabriya told RAV for 10 days but it could be there's another reason for it you know why we specifically choose this why don't we pick something else because we're trying to remind that it was during this time of the year they risked their life and they said to the steward now we're not going to eat that bread we'll eat seeds and you'll see if we're less healthy than the other Servants of the king and they did not eat for 10 days and Hashem gave them to pass their test so by us refraining from pasta akum during these 10 days of the year it's a silent way of evoking and invoking the Merit of Azaria and it's a way of saying so it's not a random humra we're emulating the ways of our early prophets who during this time of the year they risked their life specifically to observe this camera so basically here's the executive summary what is the purpose of observing stringent practices during this time of the year the first approach is that's just an example but really it applies to all modes of behavior why speed bump it's like remember diving differently so the hummus are behaved differently during that Sesame too approach number two how could you ask Hashem act with us because unless we ourself are acting that way it gives us more of a leg to present our claim number three since the reality is Hashem is acting because with us this time of the year it's appropriate to emulate him approach number four so we have five approaches actually we see from the gemara Magilla that in order for Hashem to accept chuva chuva is Hashem going above and beyond Hashem will only accept our chuva if we observe kumras that's why Hashem Show's favoritism to cloudy so because we bench in situations where we're not technically required and that's the reason why in the times of akashvirus when we were Neneh from the sudha that precluded archuva so this time of the year when we want to do chuva by observing humraaz that sort of opens the door specifically for Hashem to be macabel our chuva and then finally with Isaac share reveals to us that this is specifically to commemorate and reenact the carefulness of Daniel who risked their life they said don't give us the bread of the king we'll just eat seeds and their sacrifice in this area is something we want to emulate and invoke their Merit so these all of the above are reasons for the extra carefulness we display in chuva thank you you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you byctoranytime.com