Vayechi - Forgiveness and Consolation

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with ari goldwag recorded with hashem's never-ending assistance in roman bishops israel 57 81 2021. this week's parasha's purchased and in our parsha we have the death of yaakov avinu and yosef and his brothers go back to arts israel back to land of kanan in order to bury him and they returned to egypt the torah tells us the description of events of what occurred when they came back they came back he and his brothers and all those who had gone with him like boris aviv all those who had gone with him as well to bury his father they all returned after doing so by your achievement jose's brother saw after this whole story after 22 years after their betrayal of him after they're finally meeting up again with him after 22 years after his supporting them for 17 years until the death of yaakov avinu his brothers saw that now that their father was dead foreign they were afraid perhaps yosef will be angry at us perhaps he was waiting for this opportunity to get us back he's going to return the evil that we've done to him or they sent the following instruction the following will to yosef of the name your father left a will a final will and testament question yay this is what you should say to yosef lift off of your brothers the sin that they have done the great sins that their brother your brothers have done against you that's a son not lefesha i've i've i can't read this son of faith take away the the sin those who serve the god of your father it's a very moving very moving uh interaction they bring him this letter as stating that their father said it that he should forgive them and yosef cries jesus christ and they speak his brothers came and they said to him they fell in front and they said we are slaves what was yosef's response don't be afraid am i in place of god you think i'm going to judge you like god judges i don't i don't judge i tell myself you may have had negative intent but god had a positive intent he had something he wanted to accomplish which was he wanted to save a tremendous amount of people all the people of egypt he had a plan he was going to be a famine he wanted there to be a salvation and that was why hashem sent me to egypt i had to go through all my trials and tribulations said yosef i don't see it as the event that you see it you saw it as something bad that you did to me and i could easily see it that way too but i choose not to see it that way said yosef i choose to see it as god working behind the scenes in order to get me here so that because i wouldn't have ever come to egypt you were just part of hashem's plan we don't always understand the difficult situations that hashem puts us through yosef was able to see from the outcome that that was hashem's intent all along and that's what he told his brothers i'd like to share with you a madrish annie's okin um did i even read this pasta one second i'm sorry no it's the next puzzle important puzzle he says to them don't worry i'm going to take care of you and your children i'm going to give you food i'm going to give you your sustenance he consoled them and he spoke to their heart so it's an amazing thing this this is so touching so moving yosef had every right to be upset you know every right to bear a grudge people bear grudges for a long time no it was some 39 years since the story had occurred since they had sold him to slavery but he could he could bear a grudge human beings had been known to do that for 39 years the brothers were afraid that he did not only did he choose not to hold it against them he did an amazing thing and this is what's so moving about the kim he spoke on their hearts he consoled them he cried and cried when they when they when he understood that he felt negativity towards them because he had so completely forgiven them it was such an amazing story such a deep lesson such a difficult lesson listen to the magister what does it mean to speak on their heart what does it mean he spoke words that would console their hearts they were all nervous they were afraid they thought that yosef had animosity towards them still in their hearts in his heart against them um and this is what he said listen listen to the genius of a yosef not only was he able to forgive them but he also knew what to say to them to to help them to know that besides the fact that he forgives them with a full heart it didn't even make sense it wouldn't even make sense for him to cause any harm to them it would be impossible for them to cause harm to them listen to what he says hashem compared the jewish people to the dust of the earth mahaprabhu arts miyakuli cyphus of our hearts who can who can take a knife and and destroy the the earth you take a knife you can can maybe cut a hole in the earth but the earth remains you the jewish people you the children of yaakov were compared you were the analogy was that some of you are compared to the animals yahudah is considered he's a lion benyamin so you see that we are compared to animals we have certain fish who can succeed in a battle against all the animals of the field god says that the jewish people are going to be like the stars in the heavens who can with his sword who can who can slice through the stars and then he says another beautiful thing you 10 you 10 stars you tried to to cause my one star to fall [Music] you didn't succeed in what do you think that i one star against the 10 stars or the all the 12 stars all together you think that i can bring down all 12 stars you couldn't even all 10 of you can bring down one star and all of you are stars he said to them it's an amazing thing he was saying to them look how how great you are you are claustro you have all of the miles hashem all the blessings that hashem gave to the jewish people you have them all you need not fear from me measures continues and one of them before explains that the 12 stars also represent besides the 12 tribes they represent the 12 constellations because the jewish people correspond to all the constellations because just like in a certain sense the constellations the masalas the zodiac hashem sends down his shepherd through those he sends down the influx through those those constellations so hashem sends down the good things to the world those who bless us are blessed they receive blessings through the jewish people so he says you can't start up with this with the zodiac you can't start up with the constellations you can't start up with the jewish people with the twelve tribes of the jewish people the is people 12 tribes correspond to the 12 hours of the day the 12 masalas 12 constellations in the heavens says another shot another thing that he said another way of consoling them another way of convincing them that he would have no ill will towards them nor would it be good for him personally to do anything towards them jesus said to them you are the body and i'm the head i'm the leader of the jewish people do you think that the leader would go and hurt his body said the pastor refers to yosef says the head in goofy if the body is missing what is that what is the head worth if you chop off a head from the body it's not worth anything notice he understood it's an amazing thing first of all he says to them i can't start up with you i don't the spiritual power but second of all he says that would deny and defy the entire purpose of who i am and what i'm supposed to be i'm the head of the jewish people i couldn't i couldn't do anything adverse to the body of the jewish people actually now he starts to tell them advantages that he has by them being around why he wouldn't want to get rid of them actually write him the khan how you call him i see evid until you guys came i was referred to as a slave they didn't know where i was from they didn't know my egos they didn't know my family [Music] so once you guys all came everybody knew wow the yosef is part of a very prestigious family the family of yaakov look at all his brothers look at all these amazing special people you know what do you think i'm going to kill you yes furthermore if i kill you so then people will say we can't trust joseph anymore he will lose his name on us he would lose his integrity if he can't get along with his brothers and me who shall ramadan who can he get along with who how can we trust him they will say that his brothers were just a group of of bakram young people not significant people radhakars and they weren't really his brothers they were just a group of random people that he called his brothers everyone will say that because look in the end he just killed them all so he was explaining to them and explained to them i can't do anything against you i can't do anything against you because of your spiritual power i can't do anything against you because that would define my very purpose i can't do anything against you because it will look bad for me um he said what i'm going to be the judge of my father my father had these children he had 12 sons my father will give birth to them i'm going to bury them money nothing today blessings to the jewish people to the 12 tribes of israel i'm going to subtract from that that's what it means the puzzle says that he consoled them he consoled them such a godless such an amazing thing so inspiring not only does he bear no animosity towards his brothers he furthermore convinces them why he would never never ever cause them harm says the magistrate beautiful ending and i feel like this really is a take home for us besides the amazing lesson of a yosef and what it means to really forgive which is of course difficult and perhaps we'll talk about that more shortly but what a beautiful ending of the major fight dwarf kabbahamer the manner is a carbohydrate we can we can deduce something amazing from here um [Music] is a human being he could have animosity he could he could bear a grudge but he didn't he spoke soft words to them he said whatever he could to convince his brothers that he bore no animosity towards them he was not interested in hurting them it would not be to his benefit it would only be his detriment hashem comes and this is an important thing to understand because you again as we've mentioned so many times whenever a medici has two things connected there's always a deeper connection there's a deeper reason why the magic is just placing those two things together the measure is saying that just like you say his brothers yosef consoled his brothers spoke on their hearts spoke to their emotions told them not to fear so to hashem in the future when it will come time for the nikon the consolation of jerusalem certainly says be consoled be consoled right it's a double language that's why it's it's certainly true i'll leave you somebody says speak on the heart of jerusalem consolation is needed think about it think about it claudius syrah has been through so many difficult times so many difficult times inquisitions holocausts destruction first base on may their second base of english exiled thrown out of someone thrown out of spain thrown out of france throne rejected by everyone so much pain looks like hashem doesn't love us just like yosef it seemed his brothers he didn't love them that he was that he was perhaps he had been trying to get them back perhaps he was trying to get revenge against him it wasn't so clear what he had done when they when they came down to egypt it wasn't so clear but yosef reassured them through all of this that that wasn't his intent there was no vengeance in his heart it wasn't that he came to hurt them he he was their leader they were powerful they were like the dust of the earth they were like the stars of the heavens they were powerful people they were blessed but in order to have those blessings they had to endure a difficult time that even even this is a big kurdish but they had to even go through the pain of selling their brother think about it 22 years they had to bear on their hearts the guilt the guilt for having done such a terrible thing they still felt the guilt 39 years later to the point that they couldn't believe that that joseph would forgive them they couldn't forgive themselves and joseph said no you you don't understand all that you've been through the guilt the difficulties the challenges even the very challenges that i put you through yosef say says to them this is all because of the greatness of who you are this is all because of the greatness of who you are meant to be this is all in order for you to become the great people you're supposed to become and in the same way who says to the jewish people at the end of time hashem says to us so soon you think that all the things all the animosity of the nations what have we done wrong why did they kill us in the holocaust what did we do wrong why do they treat us like we're the aggressors in a land that we're just returning to because it's our it's our inheritance and if if the the nations around us will put down their guns there will be no more wars we're just defending ourselves why do they paint us as the bad guys why do they hate us so much why why do we seem to be the scapegoat why we endured so much pain and so much challenge maybe maybe hashem maybe we're not good maybe it's because of all of our sins maybe it's because we didn't find favor in your eyes our god maybe it's because you don't love us maybe it's because we're bad to this hashem says the same way that yosef spoke to his brothers and convinced them with every argument that you don't have to worry this is the end of the story this is the end of the story of yosef and it lines up with the end of the story of claudius throw when kleisaro steps in when yaakov dies it represents as you see in the parasha it represents the times of meshiach the advent of meshiach [Music] represents but there's an interaction that takes place it seems like we've done so much wrong and we deserve maybe we deserve it because of so so much so so many wrong things that we've done maybe we don't deserve hashem's love and we don't deserve a basic temple a holy temple to be standing on the harabayas on the temple mount maybe really the arabs are right maybe we really did steal this land from them maybe we're really not good maybe we really don't deserve hashem's love to this hashem will say no hashem just like yosef said to them you are compared to the dust of the earth no one can destroy the dust of the earth you're compared to the stars no one can destroy the stars you're like these powerful animals no one can destroy these animals on your head sparkle is going to say to us i am the one who is leading you claudia israel you thought that all of the trials and tribulations that you went through all the difficulties and even all the sins that you committed you thought that all of those things were because of something wrong with you but no it's because of who you needed to be i'm going to speak to your heart i want to bless you and ask you to bless me hashem should help us that we should be able to recognize that all that we've gone through all that we've been through all the challenge challenges of our lives all the things that we've done that we think we've disappointed hashem or disappointed ourselves all of that all of that is all part of hashem's plan for us and all of it is opportunities for us to grow and in the end i'm sure and i bless you and ask you to bless me that we will see the day when hashem will be most when he will console us and help us to see everything that occurred in our lives was indeed to get us to that awesome place which we'll find in the end thank you so much for listening have a wonderful shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.ariegoldwag.com or search on itunes ari goldwag