Ari Goldwag - Tazria-Metzora - Love vs. Gossip

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with Ari Gold Wegg recorded with a shamans neverending assistance in remission wish israel 5778 2018 this week's parsha and in the outside of Israel is Caesarea and Mansoura to parshas together and in our partial we speak about the concept of the Matsuura the menorah is the leprous person we're not speaking about the leprosy of today but rather a spiritual illness which was manifest on them on the body and the targets all description of how it's recognized how its treated how it's taken care of and it's very clear from the Pacific from the verses that we're speaking about a spiritual illness it's not brought to a doctor it's brought to a coin to a priest and our sages tell us our cause I'll say that what is the reason there's a number of different reasons why person gets spiritual leprosy why he gets are us but the main reason that we we are aware of that we speak about is for lush and Harper speaking gossip I'd like to share with you a beautiful piece and we'll see how much of it we can get through because it's rather long from replying Freelander on the parsha loshon hora what is the concept of lush in heart we're gonna speak about two ideas we're gonna speak about loshon hora which is speaking gossip negative speech of others and I'm going to speak about the the contrast between that and the after LaRocca moja which is loving our fellow as ourself having a positive attitude about others what is the we have a minute quartz la cosa from one extreme to the other when we speak about these two ideas to Torah expects greatness of us so let's speak about let's understand and speak about the concept of gossip of lush Inara and why what are their special and unique concepts that coincide with gossip with speaking loshon Hara initial madam relational what is the punishment for someone who speaks Russian horses reclaim freedom in their matsuri washer boy Anita the girl w Poonam rashia para soviet ever tommy tommy okra so somebody who is it sir he has saris he has the spiritual leprosy if it's found upon him the malady so his clothes have to become undone his his hair has to be para is to get wild he calls that as he walks through the streets he calls out impure impure speaking of himself calling me our Nagappa you tomorrow Tommy who buddy a shoe who some economist shoulder he has to be sent out of the encampment of the Jewish people and when that's when the Jews were in Allah as they were wandering in the wilderness but certainly when they got to Israel as well it was necessary for me to be sent out of the city Harvey poem F sure lumoid Villa dass's comer hey Peter Claver honish media Koenig Amida many times we can understand sister prime Freelander the depth of the sin or what's involved in the sin by understanding the punishment for this sin came into a clever how English of shock on Canada's church I hate we can understand the essence the root of the sin by looking at the punishment Charlie there's an oven gunky in a star Katie Cunha because we understand through the punishment how this sin is rectified commission or Robison is from Caracas our sages say it's ignore in AIRC in daftest Vavoom abase i reveai stevens Imre calm sovereign and a gun by my love whoever speaks gossip speaks negatively of others so the blemish has come upon him surahs' member melash my sister really adds me someone who speaks negatively of his friend in in a hidden way in secret I'm going to bring him a punishment our Adina I met Sarah knit new comedic Anna get me that we see that Sarah's is me to connect Amina measure for measure can I get above in russian because of the sin of loshon hora a meme would have arena notices camera hey so we need to understand the depth of the sinner question oh is this the autonomous area as our sages say is a steer tire recession might see shamrock the word Matsuura is a contraction that sora means someone who has Sarah Smith Sarah is a contraction of might see shamrock somebody who speaks negatively of others maligned somebody else climber's it Tyra of or a little my comic eight that's my house I hate this is the tire I in order to understand the essence of the sin okay so we see Sarah's it's caused by speaking gossip and again gossip here doesn't just mean making up stories per se it could be something something that's not true certainly included but even saying something that's true which is- is lush and harlot it's a- speech forbidden by the torah asthma various acrimony loshon hora inshaallah dates are us one of the very very stringent holocaust the laws this is a big one a biggie is gossip I'm it's Eric Landis his coalition mouth nice Tommy Tommy a corona chef somebody needs to leave the three encampments of the Jewish people Cohen levees rally needs to go out instance it alone call out I'm impure and pure and somebody does he had his knuckles Nicola Seaver service to say going in being alone is a disconnect from his surroundings maybe I said Chevis Ahmad smile this is cause this has caught has caused him to sit by himself refreshment nephesh in order to create to think about that to take stock to make an accounting if the second is of of sugar Amalia de loshon Hara how to fix the negativity that it costs through speaking loshon Hara well Helen is first Amita can I give me the shakes - eh we'll see later on what is the measure for measure involved in this sin and in this punishment there are claim Freelander tells us an amazing thing that has all say in regards to Russian hora and we need to understand the depth of it I'm gonna show a tarnish nice element our relation are there's another punishment house I'll say that a person incurs when he speaks gossip and this is heavy so hold on to your seats cough cos of klaris helluva voice sure aki-nee appearing but any number solution or this is what the clevis helluva boys rights harriet rahamallah sphere circa have compassion on yourself my friend have compassion on your merits should i type denim in public target that you shouldn't lose them and not realize it for never elected americium Shizuku or sailor oh it was said about a certain righteous individual who is mentioned in a negative way so much published in hora about him Kamisha giri had over and when the matter got him when he found out that negative words were spoken about him Shalom Adama by Klee male Museum so art sorry so he sent a vessel to the person who spoke about him and the vessel was full of different branches and different kinds of produce of his land the casa milà VG initial after Lehman from his clear Safa de montijo buzzer so he sent him a message saying that I heard that you sent me yours who is your merits so I wanted to send you back something in return Barack America's helium herb a Bonet Adami of oil in my husband one of the calcium said that many people will come to the day of judgment but come after they've lived one hundred and twenty years in this earth remember I must say means to be severe some square should I also assume but come to get to heaven and they'll find in the book of their merits certain things that they didn't do why do I have a merit for something I didn't do I didn't do this Mitzvah you ever lost you know excuse me below your senior something to say I didn't do this yeah Merle ahem they will say to them I saw eastern Russia deeper behind a suburban new scam you know why you have this merit it's because someone else spoke negative speech here about you he had done a positive deed before that and you got the merit of the positive deed it was transferred to you thank you sure you have services me safer we have some staffing some evac sure I said but you say hey and similarly the person who spoke negatively it's gonna be like hey where's my merit for this particular Mitzvah that I did this this good deed I did when I'm Optima cameras should he backed him with plenty of planning and they're gonna say it was lost to you when you spoke negatively of so-and-so okay so that's the idea commission mr it brings a verse well sure the second edition was I'm ok come that merits can be transferred from one person to his neighbor and how does it happen happens through this so but Serbian sisters are plain freely that we need to understand this article just what Stewart Aunt Polly got is perfect God gives out measure for measure well why is it how can it be behaves like for nourishment I'm a Southern Ocean hora officially also he's gonna end up with a virus as I didn't read every every single line here but he also ends up without various of the person that he spoke about then the the bad deeds the the demerits he ends up with he gets those demerits from the person he spoke negatively about it transferred to the masaf relish and hora the one who spoke gossip but how is that mean that can I give me the how is that a proper a proper thing how can it be transferred in this way wait Sophie mi do DAF can be a solution horn mmm show me some reminders for yourself and I suddenly voiceover char there's why is it specifically when it comes to the Avera of Lashon Hara why does this occur okay now I'm gonna skip the piece in here sure SH the doubt lead over Dabra loshon Hara Ali - boss Javier my clothes ask me what is the idea the depth why does a person speak negative view of others what do I gain if I gossip and I say something negative about somebody else what do I get for a diminished who knows tuna shake a sailor who might add that's my my list because - of the FAMAS who near a beanie azula's the human being has a unique quality when it comes to evaluating himself trying to understand his value so sometimes there are different ways of evaluating yourself personally and say look I'm good because I do good things or I'm bad because I do bad things whatever it is but another way of evaluating oneself is as a yak I see as a relation in its in comparison to others around him collected I says Maravich that's what my mom says I mean have a look it's it's human nature to want to find favor in the eyes of others to want to be seen by others in a positive way schibetta Monsieur Lefevre here kvass when it's a shoe so the way that he determines his own personality his own value is based on how others think of him she named in sunbae never called to Nuala his now goes for Hall de Boer when he is amongst others every single action that he does every word that he speaks every act that he does a feel oh I forgot him even the clothes that he wears a Cornish movin movin ba din' Abidin here's the near bonini azula's whether person realizes it or not it's all because he cares about what others will think of him hey Rico I say I'm gonna wear these clothes because I'm worried what are you gonna think about me Milo himself a man named what's going to find favor what's not gonna find favor in the eyes of others to commercial Kosovar I'm Carl as the rum Kyle writes Clara shall divert I covered who I don't think it's labor automation called hachoo cossack emulation malayalam honor is something which has to do with our relationship with others honor is something which pushes a person in all kinds of directions in the world of Elul Asia where high autumn starts left home I show you home without the honor without caring about others think of me so I would have been ready to eat whatever I can little Bush mushy house ever say wear whatever will cover I'll just walk around with a loincloth what do I care foolish gonna miss why should I see we made up a crime well I need such a beautiful house and it's a big house what's the difference was a pronounced collar we'd have to make so much money well it certainly Lucia gala hash of clout you won't have to get rich I shall LSU Laville tea rose that's my shot a little pocket smirre of but in order the person that he doesn't want to feel less than his friends not gonna tell me but boy you via courier has this way in case the car morally he puts himself in a challenging spot there's no end to the work that he has to do other show is sober so that's the end of the quote from the rom-com oliver sham allah so he cut sure kuvira mocking about my loss a person thinks that he's good when when someone else thinks he's good come here Manaslu boy okoma suzhou and if somebody makes fun of him someone sees him as lowly lowly ain't no other my dear assessment of him a super a mess he doesn't a valued himself based on what he actually is there's my loss of an MS based on his own understanding of his greatness because very nice if you have EOS I'm sure they were a masala bahattin let's see about coverage in him so ye bases it on those who are around him and how they think of him Navin in Canaan some ashika soon on the sovereign loshon Hara azules will try to understand what is what is the reason why somebody has such a desire to speak negatively of others and the answer is because I care so much about what others think of me I'm a solution or a toy a toaster oh this is the foundation what's the mistake of the one who speaks Russian armor speaks into gossip the admonish me Asheville is kuvira initially suffered loshon Hara love he thinks that by knocking down somebody else by speaking negatively of him saying a juicy piece and knock down another person I'll he a Who am I you know so he lowers the other person who asked me I love America say and thereby he raises himself up ahead to macaque Kakashi much worse off camera how she was a good deal of Allah according to how much he knocked somebody else down he perceives himself as being much greater Shuman sovereign is a brown shade from xavier rizona haben shot it's light in clapping um if he saw yet when he says this other person has this terrible character trait he wants us to understand that he doesn't have that character character trait who Xiaomi takashima some house he wants us to think that he's perfect he's got all of the advantages I yell at a carton miss Appa Rao kuvira a young child speaks negatively of someone else he says look what that person it look at that kid is doing right so Leonard was the irony lion second of our thing was to say I'm not doing that a new actor Tommy man I'm better than him voice auto sky gamma mu huger an adult lives with that same mistake gamma may know I'm receive a metathesis about Cara even if he doesn't say it explicitly but just at the very edge of his conscious mind commercial discography clinic aver he's just trying to be picked up by knocking somebody else down the after Larry America now we come to the concept of you have to learn how come alle hacker Mahavira what does it mean to love somebody else like oneself it means to recognize the other person's positive traits the Burmese borrow up you different harem ban we can understand this idea based on the RAM bond in vehicle you test in Leviticus chapter 19 verse eighteen Bevere minsu Seattle how come when she have a comida Malaysia Hara loving one's neighbors himself is the opposite of speaking gossip at Catco so he says like this listen carefully to this Italia hostile Rock America have flogger the the reasoning for vehicle Arabic amethyst is false Keeley Kabbalah for Adam she I was kuvira kvass a is not sure a person naturally does not want to love somebody else as himself he wants to split he wants to make a distinction between himself and others a chick a fireball rebbi akiva believe in America we find there be Akiva says interesting lyric he is the very person who says we have to his main teaching was love your neighbor as yourself but he also said that if there's a choice between your life and somebody else's life you don't have to give up your life for somebody else you need to live yourself first elements of tarisha how variable hole in your neck uh sure yeah but it's not sure but I type the midst of the tire is that I need to love my friend I need to treat him the same level as myself ritika virtually America s become a club issue a some mueslix raha rahman comes to explain a little deal little nuance and all in the universe doesn't say you should love s raya watch this lyrica to your friend there's there's a hash of uh there's an equalization that's going on here can we have to like a mica de Guerre she appear Sheila ha she's Amish name and I say also in regards to loving the proselyte somebody who's a stranger someone who became part of the Jewish people he chose to become a Jew he was an Andrea chose to become a Jew so by both of them there's an idea that we need to love them equally in one's mind keep her arm she has I'm Estrella wid for him you do I'm not evil but I sure whatever Kaufman okay so missus sometimes a person will do a favor for his friend maybe we'll give him some money but he won't do something that has to do with wisdom we'll see what that means me yeah I'm a backhaul yeah quite sure he's killed ray area of Lloyd but I sure gonna cost me a covered that's for hokhmah if a person who truly loves his friend in every way right the way a person loves his child so he will want to do good things to him the one he truly loves with money he wants him to be rich he wants to have possessions he wants him to have are he wants them to be Wow to be smart oh sure yeah yeah sure I love but still not as smart as me not as rich as me yeah covets believe milam Shia who yes remember cult over the person will always have in his heart I still want to be better than him it's a Vikas - like the epiclesis arcane Aziz believe when the tour is commanding us the Torah is is in joining us is asking of us to be greater than that not to allow any kin of jealousy in our hearts oh yeah better voice ha ha very a person is enjoined by the Taira tor is asking of us to be happy when another person is rich to be happy when he has it just as much as us if not more because your are the ways to learn actually thinks you were in bahasa just like I want for myself I should want my friend there shouldn't be differences there shouldn't be different levels of love there's one love the same love I have for myself tor asks me to have for others and by the way this is not in the book but an amazing thing to do when a person feels jealousy is to pray for that person to Davin I asked a shim sham please give that person all the things that I want for myself and enumerate them make a list and pray for that person and at the beginning it might feel fake but doing it a bunch of times it starts to be real it's amazing the schmuck who expects us he enjoins us God shows us it's possible to change to change our attitude autumn clay sheesh so refined Frieden explains based on the run bond that a person thing shouldn t have a release on my lash like if somebody else has something that I have the machina smile or so he takes away from me okay right Susheela Javier Acosta's me man he wants his friend to have a little bit less name to the ministry after like how come well Co it comes out that the concept of loving one's neighbor as oneself two years selearis Escala types Baraka Yavin Shayne's never mind me Ouma as a type Shayla the tour is telling us understand something when someone else has something positive it does not take away from you at all what he has does not take away from you hello adorama yeah very versatile ha very easy with SATA type Hashem wants us it's like a parent I look at my kids when I see Cosmodrome if they were fighting as kids do I say to them I want you to want good for the other one I want you to love your sister I want you to love your brother I want you two to be happy that the other person has something good and it's not an easy thing to do I'm jealous why did she get a candy I didn't get a candy crush on the children share but not always so that's what the tire is telling us that it's possible to be happy when someone else has something the Capcom etc now looking at it from the other side from the side of bad crash and Haro who cares D maybe I'll have to let her come off of the power of gossip is the opposite of loving our neighbors of summer capture right Siliguri I'm ashamed I want to take away from somebody else Monica she needs clock estrellas and the person who speaks session our wants to find all of the faults in the other person Kevin should suffer who shame me acting Alaska Veeru if I knock him down picks me up access checker but it's absolutely false cackling Nikki Phillippi I'm Alice Hartmann shall I we don't judge a person based on other people this pro quo doesn't judge me based on the people around me God judges me based on myself [Music] the feet I'm sorry after the shag icky Erica Nikki Phillippi ha - hats Machado it's based on the person's own advantages the the person's own accomplishments lack any anima ruthenium shallow his own spiritual acquisitions these gyrus the strengthen the other person has inside of himself a Nutella cloud via the osseous the Xavier it doesn't depend at all on comparisons his friend if he's a maverick Gamora now so this explains the Gamora which I didn't read inside before which talks about to show us a nosh Oh Kane is polishing our mom our pizza what do you what's your advantage what do you gain what is the Bala Shannara gained from it it's like a snake who bites somebody it doesn't even eat it's not like a lion who who comes and he hunts an animal because he's hungry but the bow motion are the snake he just bites kills a person doesn't end up or kills an animal it doesn't eat it it's not what does he benefit from it but we see here that there is a benefit Charlie Deborah who alkane mazak Venetia has a through speaking so he's causing damage to the other person he's biting the other person of Olli with the MS English room to Ellis Ausmus because the truth however is that he doesn't really have any personal benefit the Zeva Emma's chuhwa son Akash the Shalem I used to own a bowel motion and that's what the snake says what does he have anymore IRA gumball illusion a.m. our vehicle calls is made ablution hora the snake is saying that the person who speaks Russian heart doesn't really have any advantage to - - speaking negatively of others now we're going to finish off with explaining the question that we asked earlier under the Emma's Amica hard on the hospital's kuvira bluegrass my loss to the truth is that a person cannot knock down his friend and can't bring up his own self that way between I have a cookie cutter so me I suppose however any Alcala de bellas artes my he can't raise himself up it doesn't make him any better by knocking someone else down - how the main entities Makabe ray the person's positivity the good things about a person are not dependent upon anyone else kiyoharu beautiness Yahud sheepishly never item each person is an individual for whom the world was created you know a lot about that that's called eka Dunham k Somalis have a kid Olivia Kurdish alloy each person is judged based on how he's fulfilling his own purpose in life but later his lamellas Orchestra Nisha Xavier without comparing him to anybody else even as from Verisign everybody we've added a hakama item Anya Shem the verse says Venus explains why is the posix a at the end gothic America a nation we should love your neighbor as yourself I am a Shem Daniel iike a iabourer she has come I am one God who created you Cavanaugh Salima replied field on there explains that his intent is porous Hakuna Matata aha Sasha cool hem shoot often bah I created you all for one purpose that you're all partners in now that's key any action lecithin to know that I am a shame your God cut of a Neriah kima kima's hi Xavier - kuvira Kagame I'm a mess I said shoot of the car oh it's to know what is the idea Seamus has one purpose you have all one purpose you are all involved in the same you are you're all partners if you're partners in a business so your true partners so you're all all you care about is that the business should succeed what's the business you all need to know the the businesses that you all need to know that Hashem is god you're all partners in this don't see yourselves as as competitors hello - kuvira he got my ribs I said could shootable Kleiser all seeing the positive in other people is what raises us all up and raises him that raises the person himself the Fiza of our marina Rev a governor of Destler since our deaths or explains like this if she do she shall Clarisse hello vote yes why is the reason why the positive things pass over to the side of the to the one who was spoken about and the negative things that the person was spoken about is passed over to the person who spoke gossip what's the reason baba you lamb device I'm interconnected me though it's it is me to connect namida it's perfect its its measure for measure because I'm not gonna read us inside but the idea is that the person who speaks the Shannara has a mistake he thinks that by knocking down somebody else he gets lifted up so in einem how brothers show him the truth that that is that's completely untrue that by knocking down someone else you don't get picked up that the you have the wrong guy of the wrong approach to life you misunderstand what happens and so the punishment he receives is that something else which is in line with the fact that he thinks that knocking someone else down picks him up the media can give me that is he ends up with the negative the negative aspects of that person come to him that's meter connected me de knock on Shane's a shia claw it's true that it doesn't really have to do with him he doesn't he doesn't really deserve the punishment for those sins of allure atlas carlos remit their chakra Marama alpha very but what did he do he tried to say that person's negativity knock him down so that I can have something positive now you will see me in a good way so he was already me octase he already was saying that the negativity of that person he can use for himself in a positive way so he ends up the punishment is that he ends up with the negativity of that person in a negative way which is the truth are they owners I use borrow I'm a Koosh Koosh leonardo loshon Hara through this punishment so he sees the depth of the mistake of the a Sahara of lush and horror speaking gossip you can you see cannot hate and this is how he rectifies it looking dark abyss lush and harlots you know intersect it's specifically in this is ER of loshon Hara that we find this type of punishment yes you're the app has a check of our most readable ocean are so that he understand the depth of the lie the foolishness okay so I just wanted off on a positive note here that the idea and the punishments all signify and give him an opportunity to recognize that he has had by speaking negatively of others he doesn't really bring them down he brings that himself that's why he ends up as what kind of free under there explains that's why he ends up in a all alone by himself without any access to others without any relationship to others he ends up in a place by himself and yes the quote taught me tell me you grow please have compassion on me please I'm impure pray for me that I should that I shouldn't have this impurity I shouldn't stay on me anymore he is nice cochlear akame Haran you must have the compassion of others he recognizes he is forced to recognize that the negativity that he was sure that he was using the try raised himself up now he needs the positivity of others to help him he needs to recognize that we are all interconnected I need the compassion of others I need the love of others and in the same way I need to love others I need to recognize that we are all one goof we are all one body we are all one soul we are all one people the Jewish people and so I mean I need to see myself as you mentioned I need to see myself as part of that whole as part of that team the bring got into the world team the Jewish team the team of the people of Israel and by doing by recognizing that so that's how we focus on if you have to learn how come oh ho the opposite election on the opposite of gossip loving our neighbors our self recognizing that no not just that I want him to have good I want to have the same good as me recognizing that we are truly brothers that we are truly part of the same team Shem should help us Hashem should bless you and please bless me back Shem should bless us all that we should be able to steer away from the negative of gossip of trying to of the of the falsehood we should recognize the falsehood of knocking down others to pick ourselves up a Shem should help us to recognize that we don't need that that Hashem should help us see our our true Milas the true positives within ourselves the true good accomplishments that we are accomplishing throughout our lives a sham Shabbos to see that Shem showed up is to see the positive in our friends and to speak the positive to love others as ourselves and to wish only good upon all those around us thank you so much for listening shabbos this podcast was 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