Tazria - Lashon Hara and Bitachon

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with Ari Gold wag recorded with a show never-ending assistance in the Roma vision which Israel at least 779 2019 this week's parsha is parshas Taz RIA and we have the description of the laws in regards to son who has Sarah's spiritual leprosy which is a special disease which comes for a number of different sins among them Lashon Hara which is speaking gossip negative speech about others whether it's true whether it's not true either way it's considered gossip it's a nivara it's a sin and the punishment and the times of the base hamikdash and the times of the temple was leprosy one would get a physical sickness sickness which manifested as a result of the spiritual sickness which has to do with speaking gossip I'd like to share with you some text from the hobbits time from schmear solution from the safer which has to do with all of the laws inertia kapha around avoiding negative speech and specifically I'd like to share with you something that has to do with the constant of Batak on which we've been focusing on for the last few weeks last few months personally I've been focused on and that is the idea of faith in Hashem and how it applies to to Lashon Hara speaking gossip because when we speak Russian I always speak gossip so often it comes out of our upset for something that someone has done to us I was wronged us and the Havas crime demonstrates that if a person has true be toughen belief and trust in God then there's a recognition that comes with that which is the every single thing that happens to us every single thing in our life whether it's a result of a natural thing or it's a result of those who are around us our social interactions every single thing whether positive or negative is from a chef and if we can incorporate that belief and that trust and that faith so then we can have a higher outlook we can have a higher perspective when it comes to our relationships with others and speaking negatively of others so he says here like this we'll see how much we can get into here I'd like to get in he talks about be tough in terms myself one is patience and we'll see how much we can we can do too together so this is in chapter 9 of Charlotte's Luna and schmira solution oh it's a serious classic Tom minutes outside Venus up you talkin since the cove it's time it's important to constantly strengthen one's me the ones attribute of trusting God kimmel vada shakey me the kid - omec raha their family that a Khaleesi besides with the fact that it's an essential way of serving God it's an essential character trait to develop oh it's recommended immunization your solution it's also extremely necessary and important when it comes to guarding one's tongue Kea duo who it's known she came upon a year Alabama AHA very that many times person will be extremely upset at somebody else it's a meseta little afar Smith is Rob Leal and the ATR would convince the person to go around and say negative things about that person say that person is a no-good person he's a person or she's a person who is evil etc I'll never shall if he died no girl abs clay Negro let me avoid a your day when it comes to let's say that person had done something let's take names okay Reuven and shim ohn Ruben is very upset at shim ohn Ruben wants to tell the whole world about the terrible thing that Shimon did because Shimon did something to roofing that affected his parnassia his livelihood or it affected his honor so the customer this Gabrielle gets opinions it's very hard for roofing to overcome is it Sahara is evil inclination Akasha is yeah shiva de medicina my shaman kazow and a person thinks about the fact that which our sages say sukumaran human da flamenco so my base which 38b Shana 9 KO mook on Mojave I feel like I'm like Nemo it's not possible for one person to touch another person's things to affect that which another person is supposed to get even a hair's breadth how could you not say machinings eleven Ostrom i am every single person receives exactly what heaven has decreed upon him Haley an inconvenient moment this is true whether we're speaking about the honor that's due a person or or whether we're speaking about the money that a person supposed to get cause I'll be yama like our sages say also Nakamura mechana organize a mission Kakaako from here been as I said that in your name they will call you over Macomb kashiyuka in your place they shall place you we shall call you in a little cool a so and that which is yours they will give you a person needs to know and he needs to trust in a shell trusting God that exactly what he's supposed to get is exactly what he's going to get if he's supposed to have a certain amount of honor in the world if he's supposed to have a certain amount of recognition in the world he's supposed to have a certain amount of livelihood of par NASA nobody can touch that even if it looks that way it looks like somebody offends shamone stole from roving it looks like or Shimon took away his honor whatever it is it's not possible for anybody to affect anybody else and it's our nature that we we are jealous of others who perhaps are in our position or our similar types of worker working in the same kind of field and that person has recognition I don't have recognition nobody can touch anybody else's thing so when a person has that be talkin as a true trust in Hashem and a recognition that exactly what he has is exactly what he's going to get no one can take away from it I was here every minute I ate sir so then the ate Sahara the evil inclination which would like him to say negative things about that person that evil inclination will leave him skipping a chat to chapter 11 here Vida then it's your solution hora que la Chimere Michal quelque Adam Schuler Liholiho Konoha Vera we need to know that when it comes to the prohibition of speaking negative speech just talking about somebody else saying something negative about them saying that person did this to me this negative thing to me whatever it is where that person is a Russia is evil whatever when it comes to speaking negatively about others putting the person down keep going wash and Harvick he listened well I guess all kinds of different negative speeches speech and creating arguments of closed valve on Espinoza forum cursing somebody embarrassing somebody saying things that hurt someone's feelings when we should so that's all included in in what we need to protect ourselves from because it it stains our souls and in times of the best I make - in times of the temple so you would see a physical stain on the human body let me show you it still is Chris lachemann solution somebody who wants to merit to guard his speech somebody wants to be protected from that spiritual sting it's classic money - I'll be talking with her now so person needs to strengthen himself like we said in the media in a character trait of trusting God Kadisha llegará lay in math code legal opinion of person shouldn't be upset person needs to develop the awareness that everything that happens them is from God and it looks like it may look like it's bad or it looks like it's bad but everything is for a person's good Villalba this a big new civil or evil a person should not come to speak negatively about someone else and to argue with them well the Kalalau haben part of lockni tie to curse them to embarrass them to put them down give that bash em person needs to trust in God Shehu Yasmin lemme maka maka it's a cluster Leo day that Hashem will provide for him whatever was lost as a result of what happened that particular person I'm gonna get it back I can't lose out because of somebody else exactly what I'm supposed to get is exactly what I'm going to get a Shem will provide for me you know our Cazale our sages say it's a tomorrow maracas DAF cop test I'm amazed page 29 B Claude Tyler between my couch bar who anybody who places his trust in God I ring my cerebellum has a Aloha bar so a sham watches over him protects him in this world and in the world to come Milas Cole Tyler what does it mean that whoever places their trust in God cuz I feel in a nod ever has then again let have to show mine this includes not just things that are spiritual things let's say I'm trusting in God about my spiritual matters it doesn't just include that it includes trusting in God vocal up shaking foreclosure commission my mother last name in the meal Arlene Kaveri Shinagawa minion of right so a person needs to trust in God in all of his matters in physical matters in spiritual matters and certainly a person needs to prevent themselves from getting involved in an argument with another person when they question my team because this is a an honor to heaven sure I shall you call this a big basic-ass the Dhamma the vermicelli cannot be deemed because the person needs to be afraid that perhaps as a result of their upset they may say things that are inappropriate that are not permitted to be said they might say a curse they might say some negative thing which is prohibition okay and who Muhammad ISIF therefore a person needs to overcome his natural inclination uberta wash em trusting God lavake shri mataji as Melanie Malcolm after and a person needs to pray to God that he should get what he needs whatever was lost as a result of this person's geneva or this person taking away from him his honor I'm gonna get it from another place person needs to trust and God that that's going to happen by the Yakka - Burcu like God about 7 amazi if a person has that focus why am i avoiding the argument why am i voiding avoiding speaking negatively but others in order to be Markovic remind to to bring up the honor of heaven so she almost certainly helped him in this world and of course in the next world and it gives us a beautiful muscle in order to understand it's a beautiful analogy which is so beautiful so perfect with my 11 I'm really shy shabanam soon I'll show homie it's like a person who has a number of children who are sitting around his table if you look - look or act let me ask my dad if he gave up portions to each of his children the quarterback had me aver one of his sons took the portion of his brother was sitting next to him halakhah been an exile it's a loveth now the son who had been taken from who lost his portion his brothers stole his portion he came to his father why Merlin he said ah fie Bokashi me ups Miyake shocks really fell qibla rod so I asked my brother to return my portion he refused an ear - in return fashion a courageous octave I've flown Rav AHA I know dear father I know that you don't want us to argue another you don't want us to get in fights and punch each other out I came about common core Tenley monarch Harris so the son who was wise he said please ABBA instead of getting in a fight trying to get back my portion for my brother please give me a different portion fresh way of inves a dollar when the father heard this know Shaka is he kissed him innocently Menaka asked Adela and he gave him an even larger portion then he had received originally but I'm early and he said item what sauce of any fame and I have were me the Scott Ava my dear son you have found favor in my eyes as a result of your good character as a result of the good thing that you've done he thought I say to ya seiga kaku calm your foolish brother he's gonna hold on to your portion looks like he has more for now well he others who thought Harris attained the quality flame and a different meal I'm gonna give you double besides for giving you more now I'm gonna give you double next time with Loyola at 10 o'clock but to your brother who stole your portion now I'm not gonna give him anything at all next time of a Lima Bean earnings Elias Akane so that's the right approach that's the right approach when it comes to someone has done something hard to me has taken always something from you so recognize this person is also a trial of a sham I don't want to get in a fight with them I'm just gonna turn to God have Batak on a trusting God and pray to God a sham please give me back what I lost about name have been hunting selasa King but I'm sorry I'm bein hunting so I asked him if let's say the son was stolen from didn't do this okay I'll aim octave instead he gets in a fight with his brother Yakub is a sailor any other watching it's a bill mep and he punches him out until the food comes out of his mouth off Amonson abandoning Zaza even though the truth is that the son who was stolen from his correct he's right it's justified is every right to punch him out I fell P claim I've either yeah da Brazil I'm rice in a obviously useless Shan Mei cut the father will be very upset his children after fighting with each other and I'll hate them both and descent in the same in the same measure bomb right because the father will say are you local evacuation many monarch Harris you should have asked me for another portion oh you see nice in the hub arrived simple I would have given you with great joy a new portion but little Hawk is other TV shows I'll give I don't want you to be fighting each other Lena in front of me I've were different Ivanka Ella for such foolishness for such silly things Kanan uber has em how much manage that how much time tells us that this is exactly the same concept when it comes to lush and hora kiraku Omaha like Mozilla brew of God is the one who provides for every single one of his creations good to conceive it versus nice and economical Mercer Hashem gives bread to every single to all flesh who eventually throughout the Haim bond of he is the father the people of Israel they are his children kid if see the recessed one over town you are my son's rights official I'm Hashem wants the best for his children he narrates Mohammed looked on he doesn't want them to be arguing with each other over the ecbatana Davila raba pair Kafka's le shining like it says in terms of a Leo in the majors are micro Sparkle is real bona Hoover God says the people of Israel my dear beloved sons class Rd - avocation Clem I'm not missing anything that that I would like to I have not withheld anything that I ask of you my name is Akash am what do I ask of you what is the little thing that I ask you Vela - I have him says McCallum zillah's all I ask is one small thing you love each other and then you honor each other really matzah became a very big uhso don't don't sin against each other don't steal from each other okay McCain should automatically give a section of a ray now when somebody takes away from another person's business ooh big as me she's a kameez devil a rod so and he wanted to stop him and he didn't want to both nations birth Mosconi love she eats and I'm Anna Faris now this person Reuven and Shimon rush him and took away some business from roofing and roofing said please don't take away my business and Shimon didn't listen and now moving comes Tammany praise God please give me what I need I don't want to fight with my friend providing him sad words if a minion is Berg I've warned me the secretary when a person does this thing does this type of thing it will certainly find favor in God's eyes because of this holy character that he's incorporated into himself came Amorim as our sages safe so come on cool enough pate s90 save Tyler Aircel blima what does it mean and the first in a of in job chapter 26 verse 7 it says that God hangs the world he hangs that what the earth on blima which means nothingness what does it mean I'll Misha Oh mija LM Khayyam who upholds the world who gives a queue to the world Alicia Bynum SP wishes Meriva somebody who closes his mouth at the time of a fights for between wash em because of his trust in God but you tell us up I mean doesn't get angry at the other person he doesn't get angry the other person amazing thing okay so that's that's the ideal situation there's a hug girl you're a note me how very Goethe more as a as a result so the other person will lose out okay do Asha Misha I shake Lacovara Iraq shaked in Russia a person who takes away business or takes away money from somebody else he's just considered an evil person he's a fool - but also lawyers Rama my chandelier Shoshanna of rosacea or a virus is so important to hear because it's it's important for it we might even know this intellectually but communicated to our heart we need to hear it over and over again it's such an important idea the person who stole from his friend Shimon who took away business from moving he won't get one iota more then the decree - M decreed upon him on Rosh Hashanah it's more session /ba Shiva Austin lovingly naka verily so in in exchange for what Shimon took from roving you not only manoj positioning so the restriction is going to be taken away from him that which she had originally been decreed on rosh hashanah he grabbed something which wasn't much yellow she didn't deserve he's going to lose it in the end the safety Aman Havel a hologram I see Ezra Plato the money that he got in a way which was dishonest it's going to actually cause destruction so all of his other money spark share Ashish lemme acquire anything that he had received in a kosher way from before key memoriam like our sages say sukumaran suka of testimonies excuse me our Budvar necks a valley bottom your leukemia there are four reasons why the awesome that the property of a person gets destroying it's taken away kakashi of fai militia parking all mouths mail at least not happen because they take away their own responsibility and give it to somebody else so that's exactly this idea instead of being responsible and making the money themselves they're stealing from somebody else they lose it out they lose out because of it and he goes through this at length and I'm going to now just cut back into the text the main text of schmear solution here sharp una Avila as a king but if a person doesn't do this if a person does not turn Tosh em but instead fights with the person you're aware of was a it's like it's like biting at the stick it's like a dog that bites at the stick instead of recognizing that it's a person behind the stick Hashem is the one who does everything to us puts us in every situation where they're positive or negative and God is testing us guys giving us an opportunity for growth whether we will recognize that everything comes from him so if a person fights with a person I feel it in her Emma see so even if he's right even if he's correct I'll be keenly Heydar Zell and not has roughly I miss Bora this is not going to be something that gives God pleasure option misguided in one of eight social Haleakala games honestly I'm with her now just like a father who sees his children arguing over the portions that were given father's not gonna be so happy about it she can at least I'm sorry okay she's not Haig came I mean it'll be talking but rather when a person goes with Amida with a character trait of trusting Hashem and and here clearly the maqams time is including and be talking prayer is I recognize what does be talking it means that I recognize I have faith that every single thing that happens to me number one is from God and number two that every single thing that I'm meant to get I will get every penny that's due me every penny that I need a Shem will take care of me no one can take it away from me it seems that way on the surface it looks like that but it's not true so if I develop that Batak and I trust in Hashem these can liras Picasa whatever social ecology Buraku to the extent that I have the spiritual outlook I will be able to see that Hashem is going to provide me with his method his kindness Wakasa like the verse says in two Hillerman Psalms chapter 34 verse 9 Tom wookie Teversham taste and see that God is good sure I gave her you said boy praiseworthy is the one who trusts in God who makes God into his master into his protection mashallah Mortimer amazing thing why does it say taste and see the highest Lana this is to teach us to ameesha time never be feve who mock restaurant on item 8 who a person who tastes something with their mouth they can they develop a very very experiential in interaction I would say an experience your interaction with the thing they really understand they really have a taste for it I said we say something they have a taste for it cainy she should Emma's minister be talkin when a person truly has the character traitor be talking of trust in God who matters girl to Ashley Cooper who sue then a person has a taste of the goodness of God and I've mentioned to be talking podcast and I would like to mention here again that when a person is working on me talk one person is working on his trusting God looking for God's hand in his life Hashem constantly shows the person time after time another another interaction another place of CIT - man he realizes that God is in his life if a person is looking for God God says Here I am Tommo root taste it and you will see that it's good if a person it's it's mama SH in the in the way that person goes like we just discussed in the in the be talkin podcast Hashem Hashem is our shade if we recognize if we want to recognize if we're looking for the fact Shem is the one who is providing for us who's giving to us hashem starts showing us constantly that he's in our lives we see see a tradition we see unusual coincidences quote-unquote things that's that that it's it's just too much for to be a coincidence it's obvious Hashem is doing it for so she um is providing for us to the extent that we turn Tosh I mean we recognize that everything that's happening is from him then that Hashem will start showing us more and more will see more and more that everything is from him so it's an opportunity it's an amazing opportunity when we speak about Lashon Hara we speak about the concept of negative speech it's so easy to fall into the trap when something negative happens someone does a real avila someone does something terrible to us and it happens it happens to everybody that someone else does something wrong to them it's so easy to fall into legend arts to speak negatively it's so easy to to be muff arsim to try to make the person into a bad person in front of others how this time is sharing with us an amazing secret an amazing opportunity that when something like that happens instead turn to a Shem instead say Hashem it seems like I'm losing out my honor my reputation is being affected Hashem I trust you that nobody can touch one can affect my reputation I turn to you and I ask you to continue no one can touch my partners on my livelihood no one can take away anything from me please Hashem continue to provide for me in the way that you've always provided for me with with an open hand and with a with a Rothko's with an amazing amount of generosity with me so I want to bless you and ask you to bless me I should help us to be able to develop this awareness develop to be talking to trust in him the recognition that everything is from him ashram should help us that if we have situations where someone does something negative to us we should be able to forgive to look past it and to trust in our Shem that everything that we deserve Hashem will give us thank you so much for listening have a wonderful Shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.rkphotomagictrix.com you