Rav Perr - Bitachon - Don't Put Your Trust in People

they both begin their chapters about beethoven in extolling the myla of the turkey as opposed to other things [Music] because i think it's not enough to say to a person who talks a mitzvah and that you're a godly person if you have a token like it does say over here if you you have to sell better not when people need it when people need it it's late salvatore guy's about to go into an operation all of a sudden he decides to have to talk maybe he can casually so maybe he can talk has to be learned and thought about before you before it comes crunch time before crunch time it's one of the things that you said is that you have to create when you still have them the ability to make a difference because vetochan is overcoming your own ability to make a difference not that you shouldn't but you shouldn't think it's me one of the one of the great battles it goes on beneath the surface it's not in beneath the surface against zionism for example so what is the uh battle against zionism what hap what has and what is it because so that ticks off the front belt of course because what do you mean questions denying your body shouldn't even taxi drivers say you know taxi drivers know that but if a guy if a colonel or somebody a high officer before the operation um in in gaza recently so he gave a schmooze to them to the soldiers and he lost not one of them by telling the banishment is going with you and helping you so he was disciplined by superiors what are you talking about so the big objection is contributing now i'm not changing the subject what i'm trying to tell you is that the talking is to know that there's a bunch of running the world that's what it means it isn't me and that primarily is an assailant when you can do it yourself if the israeli army is very capable to say to banish them does it that is their messiah that is the messiah they have to say their buddhism does it but there's a little bit deeper than that because it happens to not just say it but you have to mean it it's not just lip service at least lip service i'll call it boxing lip service there should be no just saying the words like boy hashem what does that mean to me it means i can't do it the russian will if he wants he will do it okay is it just an expression that's used about something that didn't occur yet or is it something that you really believe in yourself hashem that's what we're talking about so i think that both of these approaches to be talking they begin with why what the benefits are so that the person who's in a position to really make a difference for himself by himself will understand that nevertheless nevertheless he should have been talking because his mind is in between for him but of course to speak to a person who has no choices anymore about beethoven it's very easy for him he has no choices anyway what's he going to do and this as i said it fits together with the issue of kaiser yet is it me or is the bunishly and naturally even from people ascribe to themselves that it was them who did it i was smart i thought of the idea i was gutsy how much i'm risk taker you see a pace off so now he turns having spoken about the miles that the token has so he turns out to speak about um people who trust other people not they trust other people they're fools trust in other people or you you go to a person with a problem and the person will take care of it for you we all do that don't worry about it chill out calm down i do it also it was a time when we were in virginia street and the business department was going to close us down and i went to see the head of the inspectors his name is frank turtletalb takshit and i said to him you know they're going to issue a court order to close the issue but i have nowhere to go he said rabbi i'm in charge of enforcement you're not going to close the issue i said but this frank you're going to get a court order to do it he said i get a lot of court orders he said what are you going to do someone put on the bottom of the pile he said frank what happens when you go through the pile he says it's going to be the bottom drill where i can't find it the window i was so relieved frank told i was going to take care of me it's so natural to do that a wonderful jew the question is if at that time i went in there believing that the british will take care of it he has to take care of it it's his problem and i'm just going through the motions making it look as if i'm doing it the martial is given is maybe i can modernize it slightly a guy sitting on a train and he wants he's impatient to get to a certain place so he pushes on the seat in front of him he's going to make the train go faster he's pushing if you have that view that i just have to go through the motions but the russian is going to run what he wants and that is the site of what it's about so then you really have acquired what we're talking about and i'm wearing this with you in order to learn it myself again um [Music] even when you trust another person you always have doubts about it i'm sure people as i mentioned to you before that jews were involved in various activities that they don't do today but at that time they couldn't survive without doing illegal activities and to do such things [Music] a bullet through them if they find out you did it and because of his efforts what he has to do he has to butter people up you spoke about always before i don't know why it's repeated here with and to bow full length the homeowner toy he enemy man he has a bowel full length in front of a person that he thinks is going to help him he's the beam of atlas himself to those people he thinks he's going to get a gain from [Music] and not available i uh just come to the story the shiva has a water meter and we kept getting summonses because the water meter doesn't have a seal on it it was years ago in the other building stood here didn't have a seal it has to have a special seal on it that you can't change the numbers it wasn't sealed as a standard in new york that the plumbers at that time they probably take more now they asked me something called a licensed plumber not a plumber's time to vote and he's licensed by the city or the state and he's the only one who put a seal on he comes in just puts a little led seal ceiling charge for 400 dollars at that time it's probably like 4 000 today for nothing so uh i called the police department the department of i don't know what it was the department of water and sewers or building department and of course somebody answers the phone and i say i hear i want to speak to somebody you know listen and i hear that you know i'm talking to him talk to some some lower level person so i say can i speak to your superior oh hold on a second we move up to another office so yellow i hear another voice that doesn't interest me so can i speak to your superior i went up two three levels until finally a guy picks up the phone if i remember correctly he said josh finkelstein i know i had the guy the right guy he said mr finkelstein i have a problem so what's the problem i said we have a water meter a yeshiva and it's not sealed he says 400 i said i know but my question is he said let me tell you a question rabbi the question is this since the shiva doesn't pay for the water anyway because it's free to shivers so why do you have to put a seal on for 400 dollars there's no use might doesn't matter if you're monkey around with the meter you don't pay by the meter anyway is that your question or am i it says part of it the other part is every month they get a summons for a hundred dollars or something that's all stacked up because they don't have a seal on the meter he said rabbi i'm to take you off the list and i'm going to cancel your sentences is that okay nice to show you so you have to get i don't remember this fingerless thing but right away you heard from his voices for his name was a jewish name good story yeah i told you so there's only somebody in charge of somebody else if you can get to that person it's very good many times i've had to you know call the president of some corporation because i think was just like going through a presence of this whatever it is a person who is in fear a person trusts in people he's afraid that this guy won't be able to do it he's afraid the guy above him will stop him or the guy above him might fire him who knows we need a we're going through all kinds of uh paperwork and hassle she was perfectly safe and fine but somebody has to sign off on something that is okay the guy has to sign up is a very old man and the papers haven't come to him yet so i think to myself you know who says he'll live long enough to sign it and we finally got the guys waiting to sign it apartheid if you have to talk and you say the boston's gonna say it gets signed by him by somebody else and it's gonna go away how can i speed up the papers to come to this guy's side he's an old man who knows it's all kinds of fears um yeah so maybe these people depend on other people but i feel ya and even when he does achieve something where does he get something who daughter cotton however caught in him it's a small thing it just happens to be it came across for him but who says it would be constantly getting it omar because of this it says again boris supposed to go what is it [Music] he turns his heart away from the british i know because all the things that come to him depend on just accidents because the bursar's not involved in them yes maybe someone has ratted out rather than that there's a cause of my great damage so all his life he suffers from which means anger it also means aggravation his life is not alive he has no way of going through life it's many needs his nervous heart is all the things the fearful that he lives under god called me up about a month ago so i know very well and uh the government inspectors had come down to his place and he was sick the first thing he did was to away 150 000 from it okay didn't want to take away everything from him she says to me is not criminal it's not criminal not how to put him in he's just civil as he said to me and i knew it from this fear in his voice that it was criminal because similarly you don't get so scared clearly get very scared the guy was very very scared it wasn't just money he's afraid they're going to put him away and i just will the guy's been leaving this thing over his head the whole time and now they came down and caught him and they stopped him but it seems he got out of it people are involved in all kinds of dreadlocks they get ahead they have a constant fear that they're going to get caught anxiety he doesn't see any way of doing it without he can't see anyone making it that doesn't cause anxiety that doesn't it wasn't to be afraid of being arrested and tried um i know a guy that married a girl from the daughter of a big whose brothers he was a businessman a fine young woman by the way she's not younger which is a grandma he was a businessman since he wasn't such a giant in learning and he's in business he has to be successful businessman he wasn't becoming successful she began to today because he has to be a successful businessman because everybody else you know he's there for shabbos everybody else's uh you know beginning to today he became also finally one of the people in the hattiesville very fine guy by the way i want you to know but you know he has to have this he has to have this level he wants to have a certain amount of respect in his wife's eyes it's a good thing it's not a small thing and he ended up because he was relish for a minute instead of bringing cover to himself for being a success he brought his genius on himself and on the family he removed had he been able to accept that whatever happens is good he would have put himself in such a position he would have suffered all the agonies of being in such a position and he wouldn't have been caught because he didn't know anything to get caught on and he wouldn't go through the trial and everything else he went through and they would have to set knives for anybody for the rest of his life what his role him is that he's got to be a big guy and he's a finer guy by the way but you know has an inner urge to become very important or very big very rich what else could he become and in front of how shell shocked the front of that is from all these stories they haven't gotten used to it yet and they still ask questions should we treat them nicely should we not treat them nicely is it grown in our adult anyway i know all the circles i can't tell you in some circles uh they don't care maybe but in our circles they still are concerned and these are he's in our circles the missouri is tremendous the pain that you have when you know people think lowly of you is terrible you try to come and smile to everybody and they smile back it's only on your mind what's what are they thinking and your wife goes through the same thing and you know she's going through it too and your kids and your grandchildren and all the same thing and you know and everybody doesn't say a word about it to each other you suffer the rest of your life from such a thing and then once a while you come across the idea of hashem evolved it's not worth to be born if you're going to make a delicious i take that over no the other one the guy said he's gonna put the evacuation about never he never kicked us out the judge said we have to evacuate the judge said out of here in 30 days that i had gone to see this guy first he said i'll never enforce it they don't judge doesn't enforce it he sends an order to the people to kick you out then ballistic nevertheless it's nerve-wracking to go through that because how do you know he's gonna gonna keep his word how do you know that his boss won't find out and he's gonna be afraid how do you know this hiding or that so you there's there's no end to nervousness so you can have over such a mice how do you know okay that's what happened and by the way we had a big parade in may we marched to the sephora tour down reed's lane to this building not to this building building for this musical marching that's what the end of the story was kicked the side of that building that we would have had endless agmus in order to put us in a beautiful building of course it was scary i was looking for a rockaway for a house in 1971. we were then in that building on virginia street i couldn't find a house near the virginia street so i bought a resort court i'm a guy five hundred dollars forty three pennies i bought the house on virginia street they were living there happily brought up it was a big move for us a big financial was hard and everything else but it was uh for me uh i'm not the first walker it's a 10-minute walk from virginia street to from virginia street to roosevelt court back or sometimes shabbos or three times a day sometimes you can take a car and sometimes you can't take a car sometimes it's raining sometimes it's snowing as long as pouring buckets and then all of a sudden she was kicked out and moved to frisco what up he who plans out the future plan that i should be in a convenient location for the building that's going to be it's not to be believed he knew we're coming here he planned on it and that was the only house available at that time just wanted to know that's why that house was available i had no choice i lived in i couldn't come from brooklyn every day i was i was in brooklyn and doing that back and forth it was too much but that house but he haven't been here but i bought the house we'll walk the right we'll walk and walk and walk wife likes to go to show well i'll walk have little kids [Music] there's no air from town rachel said no you're not gonna walk i'll tell you another little thing that happened just in case mrs stein came over to me and she used to be around by bear would you walk through my backyard for a shortcut said mrs stein you know sometimes i have somebody with me and i he will have no permission to go through your backyard she said i'm giving permission to anybody you want to take what do you say today that's nice of her part it's even nicer from the muslim's part what he wants from us is to remember that when we get into another tight spot so i'm telling you this because i haven't been in a tight spot right now where my tight spot my wife was saying well i have to choose a doctor after this after that you know i i i feel it's overwhelming to make the choice i'm not making myself to make the choice would you go to dr coleman should we go to this place i think she's going to send us to the right place all right from virginia straight to here that's the riot that's what he wants to learn how you don't feel strong enough to trust him sit down a little bit and get back to it [Music] okay they won't lose on it i'm not going to lose anything and i'll gain i believe with that whether i need to finish it basically because you know things are moving don't think i'll deserve you in the middle but we'll see i've said enough for today