Ki Seitze - Push Away Negativity

you're listening to the weekly pressure podcast with Ari goldwag recorded with the show's never-ending assistance in um Israel 5783 2023. this week's version of purchase case towards the end of our partial right before SRI we have a possible Miriam remember that which Hashem your god did to Miriam on the way as you were leaving Egypt what did Hashem do to Miriam so we know from the previous sukim from a few swarm ago a few months ago that Miriam spoke negatively of Moshe Rabino and she did a little Ellis for constructive purpose but Hashem held her to a very high level she was a great sadakis she was very righteous and her criticism of Moshe was unjustified even though she was concerned he's a navi I'm also a Nivea she was a prophetess he was a prophet and yet he had separated from his wife she thought he was doing something wrong as a result of her speaking negatively Hashem berated her and she had Saras she had leprosy notoro wants us to remember what happened the entire Jewish people waited for seven days before they moved on from that encampment in deference to in respect for Miriam but nevertheless it was a great lesson for her and for all of us the importance of not speaking negatively of others in the wrong context there are places where we're allowed to speak negatively for constructive purpose specifically for example a negative business situation a business partner we need to learn those laws very well to understand when it's permitted it's very the the lines are very important to know it's very fine but Miriam was punished and we are enjoined to remember that we have too much Russian one is in our Parsha one is in last week's varsha I'd like to read them to you they both center around the importance of being careful about lashinara of speaking negatively of others of gossip America says something very strong it says that when a person speaks negatively of somebody else it's a result of denying Hashem denying that who is part of our world should emmer um in Psalms chapter 12 verse 5. we said to our tongue we will strengthen our speech with us meaning we'll say things to strengthen ourselves who is the master over us so in a partial it's expressing the fact that a person speaks and acts in a strong way through his speech through his actions because no he doesn't want anyone to Lord over him but in another sense the magic is explaining that when I speak negatively of others I show that I don't understand that Hashem is in charge of the world why did that person do a negative thing to me why did that driver drive slow in front of me these types of focusing on the negative these types of mentioning strengthening the negative situations that we might be part of involved with that might occur to us in that type of um in that type of response to things that go on in our lives we're saying who's in charge of us we're denying that Hashem that Hashem is intimately involved in every single thing that happens to us in our lives so lushanhara by its very definition this other magician and speak about it at length talking about the knockash the snake the primordial snake that caused to sin but in its essence when we speak heaven forbid when we speak gossip of others when we speak negatively generally speaking when we speak negatively about our situations about life we're speaking negatively really about Hashem we're denying that Hashem is part of our lives and that he cares about us that even the negative things in our life have a purpose usually um Miriam matadakis when she spoke negatively we need to learn from her right she didn't mean to even say la chinar she didn't mean to speak negatively Ella different she was trying to help she felt that most Charmaine was doing something wrong she felt it was a constructive purpose and nevertheless she had this situation she had leprosy the entire Jewish people waited for her Harris if that's what happened to her nevertheless so what's going to be for those who are wicked and they intend to speak negatively of others to gossip about others they want to cut their lives they want to cause people damage certainly Hashem will cut their tongues they're in that same that same context in Thailand Psalms chapter 12 the verse before which says that Hashem will cut off the tongues that speak smoothly they speak smoothly they try to they try to uh you know weasel their way through life by speaking negatively of others right having that negative outlook speaking negatively of others speaking negatively I'm adding about our situations in life this gives power this gives power to the side of evil as we'll see and this takes away power from the spiritual Realms this takes away power from Hashem as it were expressing himself in the world America who says the majors as is its way at the end of aparsha something which is encouraging Hashem says as a result of the Bali Lashana we know the base amigdush the temple the second temple was destroyed because of cineskina because of negative speech because of people who couldn't see the positive in situations through their anger they caused the destruction of the Temple Machina was removed from amongst you because of your lashina says as opposite says and we'll see more about this plastic in the other Majors from last week's Parsha Miami says go up to heaven go up to the skies God right as a result of the Goss of the negative speech of those who spoke negatively says that that is divine presence doesn't belong among us when we speak negatively but in the future I'm going to remove the itsahara from you the Messiah arrives when he when we reach a state of redemption so Hashem removed talks about it at length towards the end of the message assemble remove the evil inclination that inclination that we have inside of ourselves to do wrong to look at things negatively which by the way is what all the news is based on just seeing the negative in the world right it's not it's not really healthy it's very unhealthy I would say to read the news the news just makes us have a negative outlook on life negative outlook about others they're mahasik they strengthen all the things that are negative in the world and so they solve that's how they sell their news so but in the future Hashem will remove the news so we'll remove the negative outlook remove that negative inclination inside of us and everybody see racism suppose it says I shall remove the Heart of Stone that stonehearted way of being at that moment in time rashem removes the Atara that's when the shrina will return in Joel chapter 3 verse and it shall be after this I shall pour out my spirit upon All Flesh right so the opposite of lashinare La shanara destroys causes based on English to be destroyed causes hashem's divine presence to go up to shemaim and leave us but Hashem promises us he will remove Sarah and our job by the way obviously is to work on removing it ourselves we're going to talk about that more but at that point what happens when a person stops seeing the world in a negative light hashem's divine presence returns to us in a in a large sense in a broad sense mashiach comes when the world has changed when the world has something has changed intrinsically in the human being Hashem promises that that will happen but we all have an obligation and an opportunity to work on this ourselves to remove the eight Sahara to stop looking at the negative to look at the positive [Music] that brings Upon Us hashem's divine presence the greatest joy um and once I place my divine presence you married what happens at that point when we have divine presence think about what happened in our C9 a college world who brought his skin upon us there was no barriers between humans some barriers between Brothers all the children of of Israel stood there as one with one heart you receive the Torah and there's peace in the world Hashem the message doesn't explain too much about this and I'm not going to get too too much into it maybe one day we will there's a beautiful majors and shirashir and it talks about this idea that at harsinai when we received the Torah and Sahara was removed the evil inclination was taken away from us the tire was given to us in a way that we didn't forget it we weren't ready to receive it in that way we weren't ready to live in a state like that but Hashem promises that in in the end with the Google with the Redemption we'll get this the state back but we understand the importance of steering away from steering away from negativity staring away from looking at people negatively recognizing that Hashem is intimately involved in every aspect of Our Lives even the things that seem like hey it's that person who did it step back reinforcing ourselves positivity reinforcing ourselves positivity so here's another major I'd like to read to you from last expression speaks about the Jewish people we had a king we had destroyed a Malik and there was an opportunity to build a basement we didn't we didn't build the base of English we weren't able yet to build a temple which that represents that represents Redemption why did it happen however below yeah there were three things that the Jewish people were commanded to do consecutively meaning one after another we're supposed to do these three things they're connected to destroy the memory voluminous to appoint a king and to build a temple [Music] um the Jewish people did this we appointed a king and the Jewish people went and we destroyed our Malik we did the mitzvah well so why didn't they build the base Summit because there was Russian horror amongst them [Music] what does this mean Halloween Halloween we find that in the generation of akhav he was a king it was a very evil King he was a wicked King they served idolatry in his times nevertheless they would go out to war and they would win my name is it was because that they were exceptional in not speaking lashinara they didn't tattletail on each other brings the example it says that akha was trying to kill the Nivea Hashem is trying to kill the prophets of God had hidden them but nobody told nobody revealed even though it was known nobody revealed the whereabouts of these Prophets so they were careful not speaking in a way that would cause damage to anybody else as a result of that they were successful in battle meaning they had Hashem was on their side to be successful in battle you need God to be giving you see out to the Shema should show cool on a utilitarian but in the times of Saul King Saul there were those many he says everyone there were so many instances where people were speaking negatively of others the show when David when King David was running away from King Saul everyone was saying what was going on everyone's revealing where David was Charlotte everyone was talking about Davina malach what's the result and that's why they would fall at War another aspect of this because we spoke about war which I said has to do with hashem's presence but another aspect number of Muno called it's really the same idea whenever someone speaks lotion or when we talk negatively think about this it's so important when we look at the world negatively or when we have itsaurus iron we we it doesn't bother us to cause damage to somebody else if that's what happens so then the Sheena leaves the divine presence leaves and that means that our seat is the natural result of Hashem being in our lives is that we have we have Divine assistance when we don't care about others when we cause damage to others when we look at the world negatively we push away the shrina and we push push away our push away our divine assistance it causes the Sheena to go from below to above David circus King David says I was around people and I saw how people they they use their tongue like a sword they use their tongue in a destructive way that we saw earlier says as a result of people speaking negatively of causing damage to others the divine presence is pushed away is pushed up to heaven hashan doesn't want to be around God doesn't want to be present when we are looking at things negatively when we are trying to cause damage to others recognized when we're doing what's wrong when we're gossiping when we're looking at things negatively he says to the screen it says he can't be here another another aspect of it lashinara negative speech is also called besides being called lushinara which means evil tongue or evil speech it's also referred to as third speech it's because the person who speaks negatively and I will add per the person who has a negative attitude about life they cause damage to three three people the person who speaks is damaged person who speaks negatively has now a negative look on life she removes himself from that person Obama Cobble the person who received the person who heard the Lush Nara the person who he was talking to he also loses out of and the person we've spoken about is also adversely affected so it causes damage to three people and I'll add when we think negatively when we think negatively about who or about our lives when we focus on the on the negative in life we focus on all the problems not for constructive purposes but because it's it's somehow uh masochistically enjoyable to know to focus on the negative there's a reason that the news is negative it's because it sells but focusing on the negative has the effect of destroying ourselves and inside of our minds we are the speaker and we are the receiver so we doubly cause damage to ourselves and because damage because he removes the shrina from us heaven forbid I'm just skipping to the end of this magic see how terrible Parable is the power of lushinara of negative species since that will leave nice base on Magnus the Jewish people were ready they were ready to build base they were ready to build the temple they had the king they destroyed our Malik Next Step build the base foreign it couldn't happen in their times it couldn't happen why because they spoke negatively as a little bit perhaps of understanding of it if they wouldn't have if they wouldn't have spoken negatively of David perhaps David and troll could have reconciled David was close with seoul's son having married Sean's daughter they were meant to be a team the base of English was not built in their time it wouldn't even be built even in David's time not until the times King Solomon that's for a different reason we spoke about that last week but the bottom line is you want to know how you get to the base I make Dash what are we waiting for we have seven million Jews here in Earth's Israel we want everyone to come here but we have a tremendous presence in arts Israel why don't we have a basement on the Holy Mountain of Hashem why can't we go there why can't we build it we could build it why can't we build it it's the negativity is the negativity that we have I would say I'm sorry to be strong about this if you watch me you know you listen to me you know I talk about this very strong we have a negativity towards there at Cicero we think that we can't make it in our Cicero I can't live there I have so many responsibilities here where I am Etc but these are all terrorism these are all just the answers don't really explain the truth that we belong in arts Israel we need to figure it out somehow but it's these are negative thoughts that prevent based on English the more Jews are here if all of the Jews were in Earth is relative to all the other seven million or 8 million however many Jews there are in the world besides herites Israel they all came here do you think who wouldn't give us based on meghdash it really has to do with us and it has to do with our relationships with each other because do you think that who wants to give us a base of English we can't figure out how to love each other the reason to be something that was destroyed was because we we had Sinners Kingdom like we saw out but he wants to bring the Sheena back in how can we do it we have power in our hands each and every one of us we think well who am I but we we all have the power at least in our individual lives to bring more Shina in and we affect those around us there's no question we affect those around us and we need to know that we can change the world we have to start with ourselves but I want to share with you a thought that I just heard again from Irish repair on some some old recordings from 2017 speaking about the way we think about others and I and I add again the way that we think about our situations generally often is very shallow and negative for no reason he did an exercise with the bakram he had them write an obituary or HASfit a eulogy for somebody who they don't like and the purpose of the wasn't you know we weren't we're trying to we're not trying to kill the person the point of it is that you can find positive things and a eulogy only say positive things even if the guy wasn't so great it's possible to find positivity and focus on the positivity it's easy it's very easy to see things negatively to walk into Shula and see all the problems to walk into our work to walk into our social situations and to our families and only see the negative because it sticks out and and we're naturally we're human we we focus on the negative offered us and I offer you you know for myself that we can look at that same guy who bothers us and we can find good things about them in fact we can even find something about that which bothers us which is also good and the moment that I start looking for positivity stop listening to the news stop hearing all the negativity look at the positive look at the amazing things that are going on in our lives yes there are challenges yes there are difficulties but look at all the good that we have I'm breathing I'm alive I have my health I have my family my parents my siblings I have my kids everyone has something everyone has something good to look at I have my talents I have my abilities there's so much good in our lives we need to focus we need to focus on the good in our lives that's how we get shrina we're heading into Rosh Hashanah soon we're in ello Hashem is as we as we say the king is in the field he's here he's available but he's not available to us if we're always seeing everything negatively and we don't recognize that he's already here he's available to us and he comes into our life when we focus on the positive and we remember and we know and we remind ourselves that there's so much good and everything is from him and when the guy bothers us or in the car goes slow in front of me instead of me saying hey move your car what if I say thank you Hashem for this challenge thank you Hashem for whatever the situation is thank you Hashem for the things I don't like thank you Hashem for the things that I do like focusing in on the positive this changes the whole story this this brings shrina into our life this brings the divine presence into our life this brings a personal Redemption to us I want to bless you ask you to bless me Hashem should help us to move away from negativity to move away from seeing all the problems and to move towards shrina to move towards divine presence to move towards positivity to move towards letting Hashem into our lives thank you so much for listening have a wonderful Shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.regoldwag.com or search on iTunes Ari goldwag foreign thank you