Ari Goldwag - Ki Seitze - Avoiding Gossip

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with our old wag recorded with a Shems never-ending assistance in Robin wishes real 5778 2018 this week's purchase part is key states say I'd like to focus on the concept of Lashon Hara which is the prohibition against speaking gossip which is mentioned in our parsha it says in chapter 24 verse 9 the car is a share assertion look at hello Miriam remember that which a shame your God did to Miriam but definitely miss rhyme when you are on the way out of Egypt that's always referring to a story which is told earlier in the in the in the Torah in regards to Miriam that she and Aaron had spoken negatively about Moshe Rabbeinu about the fact it's cause I'll tell us that he had separated from his wife Zipporah and he was not being a kind period of review of the obligation of a man to have children and to be Miss America's wife to cause his wife to rejoice and as a result of that so Miriam had leprosy she had sorrows and she had to be sequestered for seven days the Jewish people had to wait for her as a result of her speaking negatively about Moshe Rabbeinu so Torah now parsha is in joining us to remember that which happened to her and to take heed to learn the lesson and not repeat the mistake the mere amount of VO who obviously she was on a great exalted level she was a great sudeikis she was very righteous individual but on her level she spoke negatively and for a constructive purpose nevertheless she spoke negatively of Moshe and therefore she received leprosy so we're going to speak about the we're gonna see some beautiful Madras and speak about the concept of Lashon Hara and the negative as when his leprosy come comes sometimes for Lashon Hara but it also comes in other circumstances let's see this inside there's a horse a sharksucker me remember that which a shimmer God did to Maryam Holika I'll change my Negev oh yeah coin crime ouchie a motor load eraser very interesting halakhah the question that the price or the measures wants to understand is if say person as a negative as so the obligation is that needs to be looked at by a coin by a priest the priest needs to determine if it's a type of negative as that would cause him to need to be sequestered to be sent out of a camp to be sent out of the city as the case may be in order for it to have time to heal from to do chuva to repent so look at the coin has to come and look at it but is this like a type of a dose a type of testimony or narrowly testimony you can't have performed by someone who's a Korell who's a relative let's say the person who has has contracted leprosy was contracted surahs' is a Cohen as a priest and he has a cousin or a brother who's a coin who can check him what is the halacha caption of ha ha mom : a grandmother Mariah puts me negates my very interesting sages say that a person is allowed to look at anyone's indigo and a priest can look at his brothers Nega and his brothers leprosy but he can't look at his own he can't look at his own and determine the halacha regards to himself interestingly colloquially we used the this phrase and in Worcester thought covering a gun when the radicals meaning adds my person it has the inability to see his own defects it's very hard for a person to recognize his character flaws often a person needs someone else to determine that and we use this as a muscle as an analogy that a person can't determine that the nega the as is Saros or not remain roughly crave of Ramirez opinion is that when it comes to a person's relative as well a priest is not able to determine if it's if it's a Nega if it's considered surahs' okay so that's the first point in the mesh which is an interesting point and and it talks about the fact that a person you know in the Muslim way of thinking of it I talked about the fact that a person is unable to see his own negative character traits we have a certain politeness in regards to ourselves well you they manic going boom holiday I in Hara when why does the nega come according to the first shot I'm a Jewish it comes because a person has a negative view he is Sarah sighing he doesn't he doesn't want to share he doesn't view himself as part of a greater whole he sees himself as something separate from others what is the case I remember you suck obviously except tonight Shalom I'm Monica very Tosh Elena Cardone closure FK hates is it the way of the world is someone goes his friend he says can I borrow your axe can I borrow your tools whatever it is I would like to borrow relating Lea mean right he says I don't have it it's not cuz he doesn't have it he does have it doesn't want to lend it because he doesn't want to share Kakaako Lane Jakub Voracek oh eh like we're aim Lee man Ron another another circumstance could happen same guy strain comes and says I want to borrow your sieve I want to use a pot perhaps uh can I have some milk whatever it is the person comes and he asks for to borrow one of his Calum he says no he doesn't want to share his Terrace I and he doesn't he doesn't want to share me add by negeb a sequela as a result of this so what happens that sir a celebrity comes upon his home he nine how do we know shinai mother says in value Crow and Leviticus chapter 14 verse 37 Russ a Negev êáñäéá Negev Akira's you shall see that the nega the blemish of sir ass is on the walls whom are you in line what would they do final commercial abit survey said how lucky is that you need to clear out everything from inside of the house because the moment of the coing declares it to be leprosy to be surahs' so everything that's inside of the house becomes impure so they would first take out everything so that they wouldn't become impure you know and she remembered Seva quite a few so buys the verse says take out everything cash a mite Seco ma sha Allah basic or the my super nice of you guys to take everything out of the house and then everyone can see very clearly that he had an axe you had a Sophia and everything that he had been asked to borrow are you I'm a recent Mayan Raj how you be are they so people oh do you see the the sorry Sian the lack of willingness to share with others Mahara Marshall hiya light Roetzel a show that would she add he didn't want to lend out so it's very interesting the first point we said in the message is that a person doesn't see his own neg guy doesn't see his own negative character trait and in this case person tries to hide his negativity it tries to hide his unwillingness to share with others to be a part of a greater whole what happens the Torah reveals it not only to himself but to everyone around him me garland upon I sell you the choice of iron Rob what cause it is because he had this negative view okay so that's the first reason why why surahs' comes it's because of iron hora de boracay Murphy Nina aina haina going by Malala Shannara another reason according to be funny 'no the only reason that it comes is because of uh Shannara for speaking negative negative thoughts negative sorry not having negative thoughts speaking negative words about others Robyn and I meet a little question ago in violation are you should know say the sages that the negative as comes as a result of loshon Hara Hara meri month sudeikis are you they should demolition every mafia Carmona going we know that Miriam received leprosy why because she spoke negatively about Moshe so this is what we are referring to you nineteen emma is of course a sure social economy like it says in our verse remember that which I meant your God did to Miriam that's a reminder to us to be careful not to speak negatively of others when we develop a negative attitude when we develop a negative view and when we share that and when we concretize it with our speech speech is very powerful it makes it real it's not just the thought makes a real so the effect is that something and you know in the times of the Torah so a person would have a physical manifestation on his negativity which you could see on his skin so it would manifest in that way we would need to be sent out of the camp in order to do chuva to recover from his spiritual illness okay that's the first part of the madras very beautiful very interesting now let's see another part of the measure which is important - our consultation ba Quixote da bear the van Inka t10 Davi you speak about your brother the verse refers to two different speakings and it's talking about negative speech the first speaking it just refers to him as your brother and then the second speaking is refers them as the son of your mother armored vehicle nun vehicle and says what does it mean why does it have these two references in the Torah so Amir Agha solution holiday Balki for Shana been in Moscow says of EF Kaname have to be careful about speaking gossip about anyone whether it's about a Jew whether it's about a non Jew Gentile if a person speaks negatively even about a Gentile you're not someone who's not one of us so to speak not even somebody who's not one of our people right so save event must go to ten Duyck in the and a person a custom some stuff - speaking negatively the result is that he'll speak negatively about somebody who he considers his close one and we get an even deeper aspect of this review who didn't leave a mark a solution overlap the table a akiko show me I've made a view cover let me aim fo right in those times so man we have more than one wife and the person actually felt closer to to the brother or sister sibling who is from both his mother and his father so let's say a person has a brother who's only from his father and it could be today as well it's a person has a half-brother father remarried for whatever reason so it's easier to say something negative about someone who is just my brother for my father and not for my mother but says to be who the man lady if a person accustomed himself is speaking negatively about someone who's only his brother from his father so have I been in court and I feel he will end up saying something negative even about the one who's his his brother from both his father and his mother even someone who's even very close to him so when we feels beloved - she called me she megasis Lila DiMeo God only Meno grandad sir she Karva by s Hannah whoever has a haughty heart and speaks negatively about someone who's greater than him interesting measures so it will bring upon him the niganda bring upon him leprosy maybe that's a mom in and if you don't believe this to be so hurry merriment Sudeikis similar called Bali lush Inara Mehmet Sudeikis is a is a a prime example that teaches us not to speak negatively of others heavies of course Asher sonically Miriam this is what the Tories are frankly when it says a reminder don't speak negatively Mary money via spoke of her about her own brother so we need to learn from this not to speak negatively and the results of speaking negative speech all right I want to share with you two more pieces in the message both beautiful pieces is a shock cost of all TT and I speak a lot ESP Soraka do not allow your mouth to cause a sin upon your flesh was that mean Roberto Maria Mia I'm a terrible - Nora the common the sages said that this verse is referring to speak people who speak Russian horror speak gossip case LT tenet speak our marcaine what does it mean when it says don't allow your mouth came a sharp out re-election Hara look like a goof she currently lies when a person speaks negatively so it causes a sin it's sinning against the body because it causes the body to contract this spiritual illness I mean like a theater official I tell Abbas are the mouth is sinning against the flesh mouth timer I live near Maliki Chicago he the the verse also says there in Ecclesiastes in chapter 5 verse 5 that don't say in front of the angel that it's a mistake should I tell my rainy - bottom election are arriving really does measure says don't think that if you're gonna go insane lation ara no one who's gonna know about it just me and the guy who I spoke to I suppose said something negative but who knows no one will know what's keep it a secret I'm like oh - borrow who God says to such a person any idea you should know shiny she laughs my law I am sending an angel woohoo I mean that's the heart he's gonna stand there right next to next to you but Christ of commercial madaba rock America he's gonna write down everything that you say about your friend he's gonna become recording with an mp3 player or with an iPhone mention mr as a verse says Gombe maja Malak Alta Kahlo also when you make it known camera da Camela alt account curse sure exactly the verse is referring to in the push-up shop at the managers understanding that when you make something known which is negative you're saying something you're saying some kind of curse don't think that you get off scot-free LaMacchia show mine you leave us a call because the bird in that in the heavens will bring the sound so what cut was this bird in the heavens is referring to an angel mal Bala can I find out get over Laila i'ma lock him sure cause behind me shaking a fine she she found out what it refers to the Angels is having six wings each one so the they're the ones who are going to bring that voice they record it and they bring it let me accept either came out correctly versus why should God get angry at your voice always suck all she has me pika as a result of the voice that came out the sound that came out of your mouth he lost my sale deco and cause destruction should I say you should like him in a guy a person who speaks negatively of others so the result is that he receives leprosy receives Negus or us I mean it's a mommy and again we bring this verse that we have an hour putt in our parsha our puss up I remain alienation reduction are all Michele he Alexa Mary because she spoke negatively of her brother she she received leprosy she contracted leprosy his efforts assure us of the glamour Mitaka clock so you to remember what she did she spoke negatively and as a result she got leprosy okay so we need to keep this idea in mind those times the person we could track the physical illness but but we need to know that as we said before a person there the physical illness that a person could tracks today or it's more of an emotional illness which is an attitude of negativity and it infects the person and causes them to speak negatively about someone who he wouldn't have dreams of speaking negatively originally as you said in the middle piece of the mesh now I'd like to share with you one final piece of the mesh which speaks about Lashon Hara and it also gives us a wrap-up it's the final piece in our partial gives us a wrap-up in a positive sense of how it's going to be when when this desire to speak negatively is removed from us arrive at CA Nodame re-election Hara I should cry from a college boy who he says an amazing thing a person who speaks Lashon Hara can only do so if he is denying that God exists Shanaya Marshall our lucian in august Jose Antonio de llano the verse says in Psalms chapter 12 verse 5 they said they said about their tongues we're going to strengthen our lips we're gonna speak negatively who is the master over us okay so a person who speaks negatively so in essence what he's doing is he's showing they doesn't care that's what that's that's the posture trial he's showing he doesn't care that there's a god who's listening as it were the ACS has a slightly different understanding there's a safe cry for being a person who speaks negatively of others and the end he's going to deny God okay so we could try to understand perhaps by saying again that there's a certain negativity there's a negativity that comes out and a person speaks negatively of others he causes causes the negativity to grow inside of him actually all speak negatively of his brother from his mother and eventually it'll speak negatively Hashem say me oh darling who is the master for us I can do whatever I want person who throws off starts to throw off the yoke doesn't realize he's throwing off the positivity it's so important is that the tour is teaching us here an amazing thing it's so important to be positive right we can speak loshon Hara if we speak gossip about others so then we end up speaking gossip about God as and when we say hey I don't see God God is not involved in my life right that's the result the negativity breeds more negativity I'm Shimon rebbi shimon says Zumaya marry matzah dickish Lena's Cavalera Shannara derivative Olivia cocky guy I saw Sherman says I believe the submission verify that if we see that Miriam spoke negatively and she did it for a positive purpose she was concerned that Moshe Rabbeinu was not he had separated from his wife Zipporah so if she did it for positive purpose but nevertheless she receives leprosy surahs' her I'm Scarlett O'Hara have RAM take ask I am so on who speaks negatively of others in order to destroy them to cut off their life that's kind of a harsh a - Marcus - I know certainly God will cut off their tongues and and there it says it says it's who they're from elite so it's it doesn't mean literally but the point is that it's gonna cause them their tongues they only cause I'm a tremendous amount of evil and oppression general acquisition costs of sackalo case the verse says in salem also chapter 4 chapter 12 verse 4 that a person who speaks negatively I shall cut off the lips of all those who speak thusly slick lips those who are busy speaking negatively of others okay so that's that's the sum up of the idea of it's not speaking Russian are negatively not getting into negative thoughts not speaking negative things of others and the result is all of the different you know person who's negative what happens we find out in the end everyone finds out in the end not only does he find out his true nature but we all find out his true nature as we saw at the beginning so I'm gonna Kodesh barkal now here's where we get positive God says why don't my zeal you they show you been named Kamali loshon Hara see lack dashiki not even beneath him because of the fact there were those who spoke loshon Hara I removed my screen of my divine presence from you the base ammunition was destroyed for what for synonym for one based hatred people were speaking negatively of each other they were data ayan Sara they they weren't willing to share with others the old story with Kamsa bar Kamsa which I think more and getting she never room I'll show my Emil Hakeem it says that God went up to heaven as a result of our negativity our last lava when the future dumped shiny I care Yeates the Haram you mean mmm what's going to happen God is going to remove the it Sara from us she never a seriously bad amoeba Sakhalin verses in Ezekiel chapter 36 verse 26 I shall remove the heart of stone from your flesh and your masters cannot see beneath him then a Shannon says I will return my divine presence to you once we we remove that heart of stone and we allow ourselves to feel wheel hours of Terrenas were part of a greater whole so now Shem will come and manifest amongst us you know I mean I had an audition Emma's verse says and in Joel chapter 3 verse 1 oh yeah hurricane ish Bertha's Ruthie I'll call buster I shall pour out my spirit upon all flesh right so here uses where Buster and here we used the word bus started speaking about removing the heart of stone replacing it with a heart of flesh Shem pours out his Spirit upon flesh all flesh definitely masters cannot see I laid him and as a result of the fact that I could who places his divine presence upon us cool comes and LaToya VHT mashaallah eylem interesting way that the measure Shen's that you will merit to torah you'll have a merit to be able to understand the depths of the Torah and you will have peace amongst you you will sit and you will live in peace in the whole world shenana ever says in Isaiah chapter 54 verse 13 Alba nightly Maria Shem Rav Schlemmer nya all of your children will be learning in the ways of God they will learn the Torah the focus as the Rambam says in the in the purpose Menachem the focus of the Jewish people will be upon studying the Torah will be able to say without any disturbances will be able to focus on studying the way of God which is embodied in the Torah and and there'll be a tremendous amount of peace in the world so here we have what happens when a person is negative and it creates rifts between himself and others whether it's through Soros I am by being negative and not willing to share whether it's by speaking negatively causes himself to be exposed he ends up speaking negatively about others the negativity spreads he ends up receiving leprosy etc all of the negative things that happen when a person hardens his heart but the message is telling us in the future time it's gonna be different I shall remove that the heart of stone and I want to say that the message is telling us that we can do it today we can recognize how how terrible how destructive the the power of negativity is it can cause us to speak negatively of those we love it can causes speak negatively of God himself heaven forbid the tour is asking us to be positive to be optimistic to look for the good to find where our friends are doing good things and speak about the positive to have have an int viva to be able to share with others to recognize that were part of a greater whole by doing so when we are positive when we speak positively about when we speak positively of Hashem and recognize all the good that we've received whether it's from others or whether it's from God himself so then we developed within ourselves a heart of flesh and we merit to have the shayna we merit to have the divine presence gosh um help us I want to bless you and ask you to bless me back I should help us then we should be able to recognize and and fulfill the qivana of this verse remember that which happened to Miriam so that we don't walk down the path of negativity negativity but rather walk down the path of positivity focusing on the good having gratitude and thankfulness to those around us and to a Shem and we will be Zeta Shem should help us to be safe and we should merit to see that day when He pours out his divine presence his spirit upon all flesh thank you so much for listening wonderful Shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.gfi.com/webmonitor [Music] you