Ki Seitze - Absolute Forgiveness

you're listening to the weekly parsha podcast with our goldwag recorded with hashem's never-ending assistance in roma bishop 5780 2020. this week's parsha is parshas kiseitse and in our parsha we have the pasuk zakhar did to miriam as the jewish people were leaving egypt this is an obligation moshe rabino is reminding us of what happened 40 years before almost when miriam had spoken negatively of moshe rabeno and we have an obligation to remember to be careful right we're allowed to realize it's interesting we're speaking about something negative that she did and yet we're allowed to speak about something negative in order to learn what not to do miraman evil spoke negatively about her brother moshe rabino about moses we are obligated to remember that and remember the results of that which was that she was afflicted with saras she had leprosy for seven days as a result of that the jewish people waited for seven days in order to continue traveling cave and shira maisha says the major an amazing thing an important thing and it's important to understand this it's important to take to heart the message the lesson which is certainly pertinent to the times that we're in that now it's l where we're heading towards rosh hashanah heading towards yom kippur a time where we're going to ask hashem to forgive us the things that we've done wrong throughout the year came from we look back in the parshios where the story occurred so when we look at it we see that moshe saw what had happened to his sister so he was praying he was he was calling out he was yelling he was yelling and praying on on her behalf with all of his heart and all of his soul found allah the verse says over there god please cure her please so what is the idea and it's interesting that the measures brings us because the verse in our parachute speaks about the fact that we're to remember what happened to miriam but clearly the message is saying that it's not enough to remember what happened to miriam we need to also look at the whole context of the story this is a reminder of the story we need to understand what happened there we need to look at moshe albano's reaction to what happened to miriam his prayer on her behalf and and there's so much to learn from it rabban and ahmari there are sages say um said something very interesting he said you already made me hashem you already made me and gave me the abilities to cure people so if you are going to cure my sister of her taras of her leprosy good imla and if not i am going to cure her very interesting statement and then before she explained that because he said a double language he said kel na refon na la god please cure her please so this double language is saying please cure her and if you don't so then please maybe help me to cure her please i will cure her according to one of the other explanations in the before shim he said onna kel na refund allah anna in aramaic is anna means i i would like to cure her if you're not going to cure her very interesting what is the idea hashem if hashem doesn't cure her mushroom is going to cure her what is the idea behind that says what is this like it's like the student a person is apprenticed to a doctor a person is in his internship and he has a sister is a friend who became sick there's a certain affliction he comes to the the master who's teaching him to whom he's apprenticed and he says finally he says you my teacher have already taught me everything there is to know about curing people imagine i saw here if you cure her all the better but if you don't so then i'll do it you taught me all of the order of how a person goes about removing leprous uh afflictions as a result of we're talking about leprosy spiritual leprosy but saras the result of pridefulness or result of speaking of the same idea if you if you cure her great if not i'll do it again we need to understand what is the idea what is the idea that moshe is saying hashem if you don't do it i'm going to do it how did how is maisha amen going to be able to do something that qibla hashem perhaps refuses to do or is not able to do what is the idea here what is the major teaching us difficult to understand says the second point which is also very interesting says another aspect of this prayer of moshe albino master albin was praying on the behalf of miriam you know when i pray on someone else's behalf but i've never had that problem it's a different kind of prayer says the majors a person who was very powerful strong person who had he was he was chained and he was able with great difficulty to break out of the chains a few days later he saw a friend of his perhaps somebody else that he knew who was also chained with those same chains with the same difficult chains he started to yell people said what are you yelling about he said he said don't you know i know exactly what that person is going through so here it's not he's not helping in this muscle interestingly he's not helping to break out of the chains but rather he's saying i understand the pain of miriam because i've also had this kind of pain i've also gone through this type of affliction in the same way moshovindapasik says we saw at the beginning of the majority that moshe who screamed i know the pain i know the pain that she has measures tells us mushroom also had this affliction when back when hakusho was trying to convince him to go and save the jewish people bring them out of egypt russia said what if they don't believe me they're not going to believe me he took out his hand he had spoken allah about klaus he put his hand into into the his jacket he pulled it out his hand had saras he had leprosy and he knew what it felt like he knew that feeling of rejection that feeling of because was upset at me because i've spoken i spoke wrongly indeed he prayed for her not only did he pray for he he yelled for her he yelled why because he knew what it meant he understood what she was going through and as a result of that repair as a result of the prayer of mushroom as a result of this powerful prayer moshe was able to to convince god as it were hashem cured her meaning which says remember that's why the puzzle enjoins us remember what happened to to miriam as a result of her speaking lashon hara this message is extremely powerful what's what's the focus of the madrish what is the focus not just remember what happened to miriam which is how it ends off which is what our plastic in our parsha talks about but it's but the message brings all the things that happened with maisha abano an amazing thing and of course marsha albano was miriam's brother mushroom is also the one however who was affected by miriam's lashonhara how many times are we has someone spoken negatively about us how many times has someone wronged us how many times and and then amazing thing we s maisha rabeno is wronged and he sees that kadushpur who is upset at her she deserves what she got that's what misha could have easily said but that's not what my did it's an amazing thing it's such a it's such an incredible lee mood such a difficult mood such a difficult thing to understand and to relate to because we're human beings but maisha abano is our teacher and we have an obligation tell us a person is obligated to say almost when will i be able to emulate and become like those who are before me the terror tells us this madrush the message tells us this thing the tire tells us the story because we have an obligation to learn from it maisha rabino was wronged miriam was wrong who punished her for it i shouldn't take it personally i should he looked and he first of all amazing thing is it's just so it's so beautiful so beautiful he was willing to forgive her not only to forgive her he was willing to pray on her behalf to pray on her behalf completely i want to say i want to say a shout out here and i also want to bring you to gamma and rosh hashanah which speaks about the idea of not being makbid not being mocked but giving it up but before we get to that gamora i want to say that perhaps the shot in the first part of the major moisture albania is so strange you think hashem if you don't want to forgive her um if you don't want to cure her i'm sorry i'm going to cure her how does mysha have the the guts how does make sure i've been of the guts to say that but i think it's it's partial i think it's very simple it's very clear that maisha rabeno is the one who is wronged i'm sure ben was the one who was wronged and if maisha abano can forgive miriam for the thing that she's done wrong then miriam is clean miriam doesn't now there is against another person you know it's interesting every every single time we do an average so we know that there's a concept that yom kippur is if we do chufa so yom kippur according to some opinions even if we don't do chuva yom kippur is mahaprabhu it atones for our sins you will live through the day of yom kippur the 10th day of tishrei we're in shul we're praying we're asking for forgiveness you live through that day hashem cleans us off hashem cleanse us off of our views but it doesn't work for a mitsubishi if we've sinned against our fellow man if we've done something wrong against somebody else we have we we can't get forgiveness from because we have to get forgiveness from that person so in every mitsubi there's also been another right if i do in a verified sin against my fellow man the tyrant says i'm not allowed to cause another person anguish i'm not allowed to to steal from somebody else so many so many myths being so many prohibitions so many obligations have a truly fulfilled my obligation of loving my fellow like myself giving enough tadaka so many things so we can ask hashem we have to ask hashem for forgiveness for the things that we've done wrong but we also have to ask the person themselves and now this message i believe is saying the opposite side of it which is someone is wrong to me it's easy for me to get stuck on it and not give it up it's easy for me to say how many people have taken my music have stolen the music haven't paid for it enjoying it hundreds of times you know it's easy for me to be offended someone gives me a call and says hey i have your i i have all of your music on my on my mp3 player i didn't pay for it i have all your music could i get the pdf of the cover can i have a copy of the cover did you pay for it uh did you buy it uh you know it's easy to be mukpit and say hey i've been wronged i've been wronged people are enjoying my hard work they're not paying for it it's easy to make that mistake the kumara talks about the fact that if i cause somebody else to to be to to be judged you know they've done wrong it could be that i could get punished if someone is judged because of me oh they did something wrong to me what's the idea there's an obligation to be mad there's a mitzvah perhaps you could say it's not clear there's an obligation on a person to contemplate at least to contemplate i can't go into yom kippur asking hashem to forgive me if i can't forgive those who have wronged me of the rosh hashanah says we'll see it inside a person who is able to forgive others it's hard that person really wronged me can i give it up can i forgive them if i can forgive them hashem's gonna forgive me and i believe that that's what the sha'an and this mattress is maisha rabbenu is saying i forgive her if you're not willing to forgive her at least know that i forgive her because i can cure her how can i cure her by giving up on the part which is how i was wronged because saying you're standing up for my honor in a certain sense i'm michael on my cover i give it up i'm praying on her behalf and it's awesome i mean think about it we get upset at our siblings we get upset they've done something upsetting to us they've done something which we feel was not fair those who are close to each other can easily step on each other's toes maisha rabeno doesn't doesn't do that hashem what does he do i know what it's like i know what it's like i've done that too i made that same mistake and this is the awesome second part of the major so beautiful so powerful the person is wrong to us how many times have i done the same thing to somebody else how many times have i wronged somebody in the same way how many times did i speak i'm upset he spoke lush and heard about me how many times i speak about la shmoop about the next guy my shirt says i remember i spoke horror about cholesterol i was with saira i was a matsaira my hand was mitsura's kashelig i got leprosy on my hand because i spoke negatively i remember what that's like why yitzhak there's two parts of this one is being able to forgive somebody else because i understand what they're going through and another thing is being able to pray on the behalf i mean this is so awesome so so deep i'm going to pray mr robin who says i'm going to pray on urbia hashem forgive her she wrote me forgive her hashem forgive her forgive her hashem hashem forgive all the people who have wronged me i've taken my music and not paid for it forgive all those people i know parnassus in your hands how many times have i done something perhaps without intending it perhaps intentionally how many times have i done something to wrong somebody else maybe monetarily maybe being not giving a person a smile ignoring somebody not being sensitive enough to somebody not answering my phone not answering my emails how many times have i done things that hurt somebody else and if i could do that can i can i pray on behalf of somebody else that's wronged me hashem forgive them hashem forgive them hashem forgive them that's what i think is the chinese measure i think it's so powerful but you know coming back now to call my reality dice like mars says an amazing thing and you may have heard this from me before but what's going on says whoever gives it up you give up your me these your character traits say hey i was wronged we are programmed that if someone wrongs us we want to get them back or at least not gonna be so nice to them anymore you know it's it's so it's ingrained in us it's our nature calling but if you pass over your nature if you don't hold it you don't hold it against them and it's hard give it up give it up give it up if you're like kopp shove amazing probably will forgive you for all of your sins if you can give up somebody else's sins to you hashem will give up hashem will not look at your sins midaken you deserve it you don't really deserve it you've done things wrong you've sinned against hashem but if you can give up what someone else has done to you hashem says i'm going to give up what you've done to me says hashem passes over the sins he passes over the sins double lush and says it twice somebody why is it say it twice because it's saying if you pass over the sins of other people hashem says i will pass over your sins the governor says an awesome story raphuna brader of yeshua khalash rahuna the son of yeshua was sick he was so sick he was on his death bed allah bay where papa came to visit and see how he was doing he saw my gosh is about to die or he was or maybe he thought he had died so papa said bring out the death shrouds he's died what happened ravuna radio yeshua came back miraculously he came back to life he had it seemed like he had died and he was okay was extremely embarrassed he had to bring out the death shroud he is embarrassed so they said to to rev yeshua because he had had a near death experience and he had gone out to chime what did you see when you were there um so he said to them was right i was supposed to die i should have died but hashem was there at my judgment day hashem said to the tribunal do not do not bring him he's not going up to shamayim yet it's not his time to go yet because ravuna bread of yoshua is somebody who doesn't get upset he doesn't allow the wrongs of others that were done to him to affect him he forgives them his mother amid joseph he's not mukim emily he doesn't he doesn't demand what he deserves he deserves what do you mean this person wronged me i deserve i'm allowed to get them back i'm allowed to be upset at them himself spoke at this court case of ravenna and who do i give it up on i give up i let go of the wrongs of this person because he lets go of the wrongs of others amazing thing awesome thing it's a gemara it's a true story real near death experience in the gemara rosh hashanah and i think that is the shot in my shirabay no maisha was the anime called adam he spoke face to face with the kurdish borough so he knew better than anyone there any wrongs that happened to me it's not them this is harmful i meant to i'm meant to to have this bad feeling it's not this person the person is just a stick and the ham barking at the stick because doing it for whatever reasons i don't know why hashem is doing it perhaps it's to get me to understand that it's him but if i can give it up if i can let it go hashem lets it go and how do we do this one of the ways as we said is to remember that remember the things that we have done wrong i'm sorry remember the things that we have done wrong we've done this exact same thing perhaps we've done similar things to others we know what it feels like zacharias remember not just what was done to miriam but remember how mosh rabbenu her brother responded can we act that way can we move beyond it as we are in elo anila de vida de li we have a new a renewed opportunity a new opportunity to renew our relationship with lakota to to fall in love and love is blind love is blind i don't notice the things that are imperfect about the one who i love when i'm in a state of love i i just see the good because we want him to see our good we want to just be in love with us we want to be in love with him can we indeed i want to bless you and ask you to bless me hashem should help us indeed to think about to think about consider the possibility of giving up letting go of those things that others may have done to us throughout this year financial things whatever it is the things that happen in the course of normal human interactions and even the big things that aren't so common hashem should help us that we should be able to be moderate to say no give it up not just give it up but hashem us to pray for on their behalf arabian kipper filazaka to be able to say hashem forgive this person don't hold it against them i don't want to be the cause of someone else's downfall i don't want to be part of that even if it was incidental so to speak i don't want to be part of it it's their fault i don't want to think about it hashem i want to give it up hashem should help us to be able to say that and in that way hashem should help us that we should be our relationship with hashem should be one where he also doesn't look at the negative that we've done but instead only sees the positive thank you so much for listening have a wonderful show miss this podcast was made possible through the gracious 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