Breishis - Intuiting Hashem's Hand

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with Ari goldwag recorded with's never ending assistance in R Israel 5784 2023 this week's Paras Paras braas We Begin from the beginning of the Torah it's a new beginning and in times of challenge it's especially important to remind ourselves that there's always room for a new beginning we spoke about last time how we're always in the middle until we're at the end we're always in the middle we spoke about the fact that mosha Ru died didn't fulfill his final dream and yet we returned to the beginning of the Torah and we remind ourselves that Hashem has a gift for am is even if mosu didn't bring us to that Final Destination that he wanted to we're still on the road we're still beginning over and we have that destination and that's an important thing to think about especially with what's been going on I'd like to read to you a medish in pares Braes there's so much in pares braus and I want to preface it by saying that as I'm sure many of you have been I have I have been this week very distracted and very uh emotionally distraught over what's been going on here in Israel and so I don't feel like usually usually when I teach and I go over the midan that I've learned and I share them with you so I usually feel like I know them on a deep level I feel like I I have some deep message to to impart with it and I must say that this week I don't feel as confident as I usually feel I was definitely it was it's a it was a hard week it was a hard week but still I want to share with you and I'm doing this late in the day on Friday I usually try to do much early ear but uh I still want to share with you some some something from the medish the med that I studied with my son it says in the it teaches us the PK says to us that Hashem when he created when he created Adam's wife Eve Hashem built the sa different explanations as to exactly what the say is it could be the back took a piece of the back of Adar of of the first man he took a a bone but he but he built her now the measure says that the word v the word ven which means to build there's another the the root of the word is related to another word b also means it's a language of intuition of understanding an incredible thing doesn't just mean that that built that he built her it can also mean that he gave her a special level of understanding of beina of intuition women's intuition right we find the PK tells us uh in in Proverbs the wisdom of women is what builds the house a simple level that means that women they're naturally naturally they're the ones who stay in the home they're the ones who raise the children they're the ones who the children run to when they they need mommy they need their mommy they need the Comfort they need the love they need the attention soem perhaps we could say I don't you know doesn't say in the why Hashem gave them more understanding in Bina but we could definitely conjecture that Hashem gave women this extra measure this extra mocom of understanding and wisdom so that they would be able to raise the children properly be able to guide the house guide the home we'll see in a moment that the the role of the man the role of the man and the role of The woman there are two different roles and the role of the man is to go out and to be involved in the world and the role of the woman is to be in the home and that being the case she needs this extra beish she needs this extra intuition says the mes we find that this is the case how do we of D we all know that a girl's B Mitzvah at the age of 12 a boy's Bar Mitzvah at the age of 13 but there's another aspect of their maturity which begins a year earlier and that has to do with vows if a young girl between the age of 11 and 12 makes a vow so does it take effect and we need to know what is her level of understanding what is her level of understanding does she have an understanding that she made a vow a promise to God she invoked the name of God does she understand what that means when she made this vow so we check from the age of 11 already we do check and it can take effect because she already has a certain level of understanding a certain depth so from the age of 11 to 12 we check from the age of 12 and on meaning we check to see if she understands what she did if she does then it takes effect the age of 12 and on already it automatically takes effect we don't even need to check we assume that she does when it comes to a male the age of 12 is when we check for if he knows what he was vowing to whom he was vowing when he reaches age of 13 that's when he has the understanding and the wisdom to know that when he makes this vow it takes effect it has meaning it's it's uh it's a serious story that's going on but what do we see we see that women already start earlier to have right they have to be the numbers that we're talking about with a girl are 11 and 12 the numbers that we're talking about with a boy with a male are 12 and 13 so we see that a girl already at an earlier age has a certain level of wisdom and I would say um a depth of connection and understanding as to the spiritual Realms and the fact that there's a God and the things that we say that have to do with God are important and they're effectual a boy takes a little longer to get that the woman has that deeper understanding and this is something according to the mes which is imbued into her in the very Creation in the very first moment when Hashem created the first female it was embedded into her this deeper understanding this deeper wisdom this deeper awareness this deeper spiritual awareness now as is the way of the magish and as the is the way of our sages this isn't something that uh is so simply uh simple and straightforward I never heard this before but there's a different opinion and says it's exact opposite so it's the way of a woman to sit in her home to stay at home as we said he says that since the man goes out as we said to goes out into the market and he interacts with people the man has more of an opportunity to develop his intuition than a woman does according to he actually says that the man is the one who has a higher level or a more developed sense of intuition and the woman who stays at home she has less of an opportunity to develop her intuition and asfor explain therefore there's a reversal of the ages you thought and this is me talking okay you thought that a bar mitzvah for a boy should be a 13 and a b mitzvah for a girl should be a 12 according it would seem according to bar mitzvah for a boy he gets intuition earlier since he's going out and therefore his bar mitvah would be at 12 and the girls b Mitzvah would be at interesting right but to me what's more interesting as I read this Mish is that it's clear that there's two different points is talking really to a different point of what intuition means is intuition a natural talent that a person has a natural inclination perhaps we could say or is it something that develops as I interact with others Ria seems to say that men have more potential to develop their intuition because of their increased interactions with the outside world they their life experience their experience out there whereas women do not have as much of a chance to develop their intuition because they stay in their dalar they stay in their in their small uh world but it seems that what if I would ask your beia who has naturally more intuition I don't know if he would argue that women have a greater natural sense of intuition only question is who has a greater chance to develop the intuition perhaps either way what I take out of this mes what I take out of what this is saying is that there's a certain propensity that women have as we said to spirituality to intuitive understanding and that propensity is something which is a gift that they have that's not to say that men can't also acquire that gift it's not to say that men can also develop a a sense of spirituality a sense of intuition a sense of recognition that there's a higher force that exists within reality it's something that man a man naturally there are differences between men and women right and this is one of them but it's something that men need to work on and they have more perhaps opportunities to work on because they're more out in the world but I think it's important to understand that the Mish is teaching us that it's something that we can learn it's something that we can develop the recognition or the awareness of Hashem I'm taking the word beina here a little bit out of its simple understanding out of the context that drop because we did use it to talk about awareness of Hashem in the context of a of a nether but that's not the whole meaning of beina of understanding but what I'm saying is that men also have the ability and the more that we you know the the each person has to use their abilities in the way that that uh Hashem specifically are made for them so women who stay in the house they and the women who raise their families they have a more natural sense of understanding and that's fine and of course that doesn't mean that they're completely limited they can still develop it women still interact with other women but men have to use the opportunities that they have which is that they go out into the world and as they go out into the [Music] world they also have to develop this sense a sense of awareness of Hashem and you know I'll just make a little comment here connected to what's going on here in Israel you know it's very interesting that um there's a television station in Israel called Channel 14 and it's a many of the people there are religious many of the newscasters and those who are not religious are clearly Pro religion clearly believe in God clearly believe that Israel is supposed to be a Jewish state that we need to strengthen our Traditions it's very interesting if you watch this station so it's been saying the entire time which means with God's help we will succeed we will win and those are actually the words that prime minister Nan used those very words are the words that he used in his initial speeches and and throughout the shem's help we will succeed and now it's interesting CU it's flashing on the screen the whole time but we don't hear any mention as the people are talking they're just talking about the situation and they're not per se hitting directly on the issue of with hashem's help we will succeed and so I want to actually use what we just learned together as a as a springboard to to inspire us to look at the situation that's going on and to look on a deeper level and I don't want and I want to point out some of us are more intuitive and we see and we can or we can think about the fact that clearly Hashem is behind everything in this world even the most terrible terrible situations and I don't think that we've had you know everyone is saying we've never had such a situation like this this depth of of of horror in Earth Israel this type of death I remember um 9/11 many of you may remember it as well the shock the horror it was two days after I got married 911 the shock the horror it was intense and just like with 9/11 it brought the American people to a great sense of unity and solidarity so to in Israel and throughout the world this terrible situation has brought about an incredible solidarity an incredible sense of unity my daughter just now was involved in getting I think 350 kalas she had baked some herself many other people baked getting it together in order to help out families from the south of Israel who have been displaced and they're they need they need Kal I saw that in there's over 100 soldiers who are are uh here in the in the Matas a certain public area here in be shames and they're they needed food they need stuff they need they need food for shamas it's incredible how everyone is coming to their aid so of course it doesn't take away from the incredible loss it doesn't take away from the intense pain that we feel but we know that K is in charge we know that Hashem is in charge and it's especially important to engage our intuition and some of us might naturally like I was saying have a sense of intuition that Hashem is here Hashem is doing this hasem is behind this and some of us might might need to look deeper and it's very easy to listen to the news to watch the news to to read the news and to get caught up with information and miss the thing that's flashing flashing flashing flashing in front of our eyes which is with hm's help we will succeed the situation is Hashem the situation Hashem put us in for some reason hashem's infinite love is still there hashem's infinite wisdom is still there we don't understand him we don't understand why these things occur but we do understand we do know that hem has a promise to USM promises am Israel that everything he does is for our good everything that hasm does is for our good and so we also need to keep looking notice the Flash is if we're going to win it's going to be because Hashem is helping us if we're going to win it's going to be because Hashem is helping us my son was in Yeshiva last shabas during hakus and in y and there were aak there were sirens and his rashash said to the boys is the thing that we need to focus on right now there's nothing else besides herem we've spoken about B here we have our B this week instead of doing podcast I put up a m podcast but the podcast will continue every week it's a time of it's only hasem if I can remember if I can have the beina the intuition right what does beina mean beina means I understand one thing from another it means I'm I'm be also is a l of ban which means between I'm reading between the lines I can't only look at the information that's there I need to go out to gather information and look for Hashem in the story and we're going to have we're going to have challenges over the next few weeks few months that are intense that are great and we need to continue to look for Hashem in midst the story and I would add this is how hasm created us women naturally have a deeper sense of intuition Hashem built us the word build and the word intuition are the same word Hashem built us this way but I would add the word ven also the word Ben which means a son also is the same root as beina so it's not to say that boys don't have be that boys that men don't have wisdom we also have wisdom we also have intuitive understanding and as we saw in the medish there's different opinions as to who has a greater depth of wisdom or understanding or who has potential to develop it more be that as a may we all have the ability to employ our intuition to see between the lines and to be able to apply that for ourselves to see to and to develop that and to see that hem is the one who's doing everything hem is the one is the one we can look for the fact as we have matured spiritually as we are mature spiritually as we've worked together on so many different topics and and so many other discussions that we've had so so many times over the years doing this over 16 years as you know but here is where we put the pedal to the metal this is where the the depth the depth that we've developed needs to become manifest the the depth of understanding we need to work on that we need to continue to work on that and not just see flashing on the screen as the Talking Heads say all of The Superficial reality but we need to talk to ourselves to our children to our families about Hashem just end off with one last thing that really anybody can do maybe you'll like this idea maybe you'll do it in your house but this past summer there's a family visiting from from West Hempstead New York and the family is a family that we met me myself and two of my daughters we were we stayed at their house during a s ma Chua of last year we ate at their house and they came to so they visited we we got to meet up with them they came into our house and the end us on the wall there was a big sign that said a thousand thank you Hashem a thousand thank you Hashem we we had during it was a little bit before Corona or during Corona I don't remember exactly we had put up a sign we had put up a big sheet of of paper on our wall and we started writing thank you Hashem for my family thank you Hashem for my house thank you Hashem for my health thank you Hashem for I'm breathing thank you Hashem that I succeeded in whatever test kids get to write on the walls thank you Hashem now the Benares who were visiting they came and they saw this and they loved the idea and just this week they sent me a picture of the of the sheet that's on their wall and it says a thousand Mitzvah a thousand mitzvas they are going to do a thousand Mitzvah in this that it should be a merit for the Jewish people people here in Israel for our for our soldiers not just for the soldiers I'm adding not just for the soldiers what about our soldiers on the front lines in the Torah world my son who's sitting and learning giving that spiritual energy so that our soldiers can succeed on the battlefield we need your mitzvas we need your support of course send send all the food send all of the all of the different things for our soldiers but also send us mitzah make a sheet on your wall a thousand mitv a thousand things that you can do to help us and recognize over and over again that it's hasem who decides who wins but only with hm's help will we succeed only with hashem's help will we succeed and that's something that requires Bea it requires a depth of understanding and all all of us have it and all of us can develop it I want to bless you and ask you to bless me hasm should help us we should be able to develop this depth of understanding whether it came naturally or whether it's something that we need to work harder on help us to be able to develop this Bea to recognize that it's something intrinsic to who we are as a human being should help us to the understanding that he is the one standing behind everything involved in everything behind the scenes he's waiting for us he's waiting for our Unity for our he's waiting for our Mitzvah he's waiting for us to perform these amazing spiritual acts and bring about an incredible Yeshua salvation for all of the Jewish people thank you so much for listening a wonderful shamas this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.wag.com or search on iTunes Ari goldwag