Bitachon 49 - Bitachon Saves from Sin

you're listening to the 49th edition of the bhitakhan podcast continuing the base of levy missus section is entitled that besides for the mitzvot and of course the person fulfills the obligation obligation to have faith in hashem also is saved a person you have secondary benefits from being a bobby talking you're saved from a number of sins you name immediately the character trait it's a character trait to to feel assured to feel trust in hashem besides for the mitzvah itself so there are other benefits of course besides for the physical benefits of having less anxiety having less depression somebody who fully has faith in hashem will be saved from a number of serious sins one sin is the average means that i'm busy flattering people i'm saying perhaps unwarranted flattery words that aren't even true nice things about others because i want to get on their good side but i don't have to get on anyone's good side if i know that so busy buttering people up they're among those among the four categories of people four groups of people who do not get to greet the divine presence it yes says over there that whoever is a flatterer and we can think about flattery in terms of i need this person to give me a benefit i need his oil i need his natural gas products i need his money i think about countries today that are busy flattering others and not standing up for the for what's right it brings in anger to the world and you know looking around what's going on today so clear to see how war can begin because of flattery but it's also true on a spiritual level on an individual level when i'm busy flattering people and i'm busy saying how great they are when the truth is number one that they're not and number two i'm busy depending on them instead of depending on hashem so it brings about a great anger in the world shenanigans those who flatter the hearts they bring about anger it's apostle 13. a person like this so he's busy trying to get favors from other people then he turns and he asks god for a favor he says god please answer my prayer but his prayer is not answered the the person the person who is a mechanic a person who's a flatterer should not call out luishavo because their pr their ki asaram here he transit translates it as you should not call out when he afflicts them hashem will not listen to their prayers hashem allah listen to the feeling the idea here is why is it such an intense thing why is it such a bad thing to be a flatterer because it's a sin of the mouth ain't he didn't she couple trilos he uses his mouth in the wrong way now he wants to use his mouth in the right way he wants to pray to god please god help me but his prayer will not be answered because he used his mouth in the wrong way you can't use a prosecuting attorney for your defense angel for a defense attorney you find that if you want to use a horn that's from a from a cow it's not permitted to use a bull's horn to to blow the shaipharan on rosh hashanah y because it's it represents the ego hazard it represents the sin of the golden calf something that's used for for something wrong can't then be used for something right left name without kane and even though the gemara there says in rosh hashanah that when do we say excuse me when we say that there's a problem of using a schaefer uh which which came a uh a horn that came from a bull from a cow it's because it's being blown and the sound is going up to to the highest heavens is going up to the highest heights to the holy of holies so to speak into god's presence so there you can't use it the shriven cave is the current cause dummy since the shove is coming to remind hashem of our good things it can't it can't be used it's considered like it's inside it's being blown inside of the palace inside of the throne room of hashem as it were that when it comes to tv when it comes to prayer this idea is also you can speak about it as well you're you're praying you're trying to get your prayers into god so to speak into his throne of glory one your prayers have an audience with the king and so if your mouth which produces the prayers is the same mouth that produces flattery and forbidden speech it's not going to help us says that when one prays a person needs to direct his heart that the prayer should be entering your thinking this is how you're supposed to think when you're davin i'm praying i want my prayers to enter into the holy of holies i wanted to get into the basa mikdash shalmala maybe the the upper temple or maybe it's talking about even we're imagining that artillerists are coming through the the kaido and the of a physical temple in this world that's the channel through which it enters up into the highest spheres it goes into the deepest places that's why this person's prayer will not be heard it says furthermore there is a person who has flattery a person who is a flatterer mcallen it's such a terrible thing it's such a bad thing to be involved in flattery we're talking about here about you know there's nothing wrong with giving a person a compliment right somebody does something good someone dives nicely from the almond compliment them it's not what we're talking about here we're talking about somebody who's trying to carry favor with someone else in order to get something that he wants and he's giving a false false flattery in order to get on his good side or to get the thing that he wants so such a person even the fetuses inside of their mothers they curse out that person they curse that person says the one who says to a wicked person that you are at sadiq right so that's a flatterer you're saying to someone who's evil that he's righteous so he will be he will be cursed by the nations and the the nations will be angry at him okay so somehow it's included in this verse remember lazar not exactly sure how the fetuses fit in here to the nations but that's how we're understanding it so you know the basic lady is trying to give us a sense of how bad it is to flatter how bad it is to tell someone that they're good when they're not in order to curry favor why does the person do it because he doesn't have to be talking he doesn't have faith that he's going to get what he needs without doing something wrong right so he wants us to understand how terrible this thing is it says that whoever does hanovi falls into again he falls into the fiery depths whoa says ushaya isaiah chapter 5 verses 20 and 24 woe unto those woe as in w-o-e it's a terrible thing that those there are those who say to someone who is evil that he is good. so the verse tells us it's a terrible thing they'll be it's like they're eating fiery straw straw that's on fire and they're letting they're letting loose flames their root their shiresh is going to shrivel it's going to be like nothing and and that which seemed to grow their pear off their flower it will be like dust okay so the the terror is very um serious in its description of the curse that comes upon a person who is of the russia the remember knife will be other the moses says whoever flatters someone evil in the end will fall into his hands it's a very important thing to understand if i give in to evil if i flatter evil in the end you know the people who think they're gonna be protected by making uh quote peace deals with uh ambivalent countries etc in the end they're the ones who will fall into their hands um says any congregation any group of people that has a flattery it's as disgusting as anita anita is someone who is is uh it's talking about a menstruating woman and it's referred to as disgusting of course women are not disgusting but it's referring to the fact that when a person and a woman is menstruating so she is removed from her husband she's considered she's not allowed to come in contact with him not have any physical contact they're not allowed to they're not even allowed to pass things to each other there's a certain aspect of i don't want to say the word rejection but this is something that's that's removed from me so someone who has kanufa is is rejected in that way shana marazza said that that when you have a congregation a group of people who are khanaifim they're flatterers they're separated says that any group of people that has is made of flattery in the end they will be exiled be sent out of their place is that whoever says things that are disgusting with his mouth profanities so they make the fiery furnace that a person goes to clean off his sins after death called gehenna they make it deeper for him even if a person hears it and he's quiet even if the person didn't actually say it himself right why would a person not say anything again because of flattery you hear somebody say something you don't want to feel bad you you perhaps want to benefit from them in some way so you don't say anything so he will be saved from all of these aviras all these sins you'll be saved from the ramifications of being involved in these sins of mother shall save because he's not afraid of people like the verse says in ishaiah gavin which means i gave over my body to being stricken to being hit and my cheek to those who would cause damage yes early those who would otherwise help me panic i made my face like a stone in my face like a stone i will not be affected i will not be hurt i will not be i don't need to flatter anybody i don't need to give in to anybody in order to get something from them because why because hashem i'm not embarrassed because hashem is going to give me all of my needs we find that as the gemara says in in the dharma pace that there are circumstances where it's permitted to say something a flattery in order to save your life right if you know for sure you're going to be caused damaged so like the ignorant adornment it could be one second here i'm going to read the english here because because i'm not sure what this means however this does not apply in a situation where there is a clear threat of harm if he voices criticism in which case he should not offer reprimand as it says in the gemara in massachusetts you save your life by not rebuking him the reason for this exception is as previously explained that wherever it is clear that he will suffer harm it is possible that he will not be saved from harm if he speaks up because of the concept of free will okay so the last last i'm not sure exactly what it means but there are circumstances it seems where one is permitted to speak up one is permitted to flatter he said earlier that you can't you shouldn't even do it you shouldn't even flatter in a place you should have full trust in hashem so it's not clear it seems to be perhaps a contradiction i'm not sure but the bottom line is generally speaking for sure and perhaps always one should make one's face like a stone not be afraid also another advantage that one has when a person has probably talked when the person has the the correct faith on hashem is that you won't be jealous you don't feel jealous i feel jealousy because someone else is succeeding and perhaps i'm not why because you know that what you have is yours you know that he can't touch anything that's yours and you know that what he has is his abita knows that what he has is his kennel says that the rotting of the bones is kena is jealousy after it's become clear and true in his heart every single thing that hashem does like we spoke about last time is for the good i know that it's good for me i know that what's happening it doesn't seem to be hey why is that person getting the good thing and i don't have that good thing no everything i have is for my good shuve no there's no more room for jealousy just like a person who's sick will not complain to the doctor hey why do you give him that medicine it's a sweet medicine you gave me a disgusting medicine i don't like the taste of this medicine you don't complain that way why yankee right the doctor knows exactly what you need and he knows what he needs it gives each person the medicine that they specifically need everything that happens in my life is medicine for me tailor-made everything is tailor-made for me i don't need what he has also by having me talking besides for the fact that i'm not going to flatter people besides for the fact that i'm not going to be jealous of people i'm going to be saved from average very sins between man and his fellow vineyard maman my gospel right now i'm not going to steal i'm not going to overcharge ancient chameles and the punishments that come when a person has weights that aren't honest a person charges interest which is forbidden by the torah i mean it also distances a person from being cheap the media of being cheap is a terrible terrible media says the basal lady person has been talking he's not cheap you need something spend the money it's important spend the money doesn't mean not to be completely loose with my money but i don't have to be cheap oh we don't have money hashem and vegas boy the person has to be talking and brings him to generosity and loving hashem and being connected to hashem what is the reason because a person who trusts in hashem he doesn't take away his thoughts from hashem he doesn't take away his thoughts from the one in whom he trusts i just want to say something small about the last point which is that we're connected to hashem so it's because i constantly think about hashem but also it's because being with damat hashem doesn't need anybody or anything else whenever i feel like i'm dependent on other people i'm very human of course human beings are dependent but the only one that i need to be dependent on is hashem to the extent that i make myself like hashem in spiritual terms i attach myself to hashem i come close to hashem hashem doesn't need anybody if i also don't need anybody all i need is hashem so then i have been missed i made myself similar to my creator god doesn't need anything or anyone i by placing my trust in him attach myself to him always thinking about hashem i'm always thinking about my connection and i make myself similar to him thank you so much for listening see you again next time