Bitachon 48 - Facing Challenges with Bitachon

you're listening to the 48th edition of the bitaken podcast we continue on the base allevi der khayasha basar the name of this section is how does a person who is straight has a person who is a sadiq person who is righteous person who is striving for greatness in this area of bethan what does a person do in a situation of difficulty this is the way of a person this is the torah the instruction for a person who is straight which is a tire when a difficulty arises forbid from his might he doesn't have livelihood so what approach does a person take should i now put in every effort is the basically that's not the correct thing to do person needs to look at the source the reason if a person has everything that they need until now and suddenly things are not going his way so the first thing that we salivity says that we need to look at is our actions let's look at do we have enough various do we have any are we not doing what's right in the eyes of hashem which is causing us to have a have a problem have a challenge with me myself that if a person sees that difficulties are coming upon him a person should check his actions she needs to look at himself and do chuva repent from those ways that are negative person should pour out his conversation as it were with god meaning a person should pray he should have been spallow sham save me take me out of my troubles take me out of my my difficult circumstances bring me to a place which is wide where there's where i have everything that i need a place of abundance remember like the posix says when a poor person is the poor person has a prayer that he says pours out his heart pours out his conversation in front of god like our sages what can a person do in order to become rich follow me to the one to whom all the wealth and all of the property belongs sometimes a person hopes to hashem what does it have to say again strengthen your heart hope to hashem why isn't it just saying hope to hashem the end because sometimes a person has to be talking and either as we talk and it's not strong enough or it's a certain time when certain things for whatever reason is a decree or the person the person hashem is not ready to answer him it's not necessarily good for him or maybe it is good for him but she's not ready to answer him strengthen ourselves you're talking it's not just when times are good it's not just when hashem answers my prayers or when hashem seems to to acquiesce might be talking it means we trust in hashem vien period we also trust in him that the things that are challenging are also good believers needs to constantly reinforce within his heart i have no one else to depend on only hashem i have no one else to depend on i have no one else to ask for help only hashem can provide what i need sees himself in difficulties and challenges a very famous idea that retirement says and brisk used this idea his great grandson grandson of the best during world war ii he's able to get through the enemy lines through the germans with aina mulvade there's nothing besides hashem a mulvade it's been a discussion we've had in the talking group recently and our new members have been talking about the idea of if a challenge comes in front of me i know it's hashem if my kids are not getting up in the morning it's hashem immediately stockholmer called him the person has the correct attitude when a person recognizes the truth which is that all there is is hashem hashem is all there is everything that comes to a person good bad it's a wake-up call it's time to recognize that that recognition that hashem is all there is and then it's all from hashem takes away all of the challenges and all of the judgments remember kosov like the passage says in hashem isaiah the 46 4 i made these all i shall carry i'll be the one who rescues you takes you out of your challenge okay so that's the idea what does a person do when faced with a challenge strengthen our be talking where do we turn strengthen our be talking who's the one who gave us this challenge it's hashem why so that will turn back to him that's what the reason is for this challenge i like to say sometimes and i've said this before but it's important to remind ourselves sometimes hashem gives us a challenge of difficulty not because we've done anything wrong per se he's speaking about checking making sure that what a virus have done sometimes a person didn't do anything wrong but sometimes hashem wants to give a person something very good wants to give him great abundance but he doesn't deserve it so in order to bring that abundance hashem sometimes will send a challenge difficulty to the person so that by going through that challenge or difficulty you will then become opened up and able to receive the good thing that hashem has for him we become worthy through our challenges such a person who really has will be talking so the way of that person is that it's not just like it's not just talk it doesn't just mean that he doesn't work hard he doesn't do a lot of work uh you know because you could have someone who does a lot of work and uh or does not i'm sorry that does no work that doesn't know puts and no efforts but his heart is full of desires he wants a lot right so out there in the video spoke about the fact that you can get what you want through talking wanting a lot is not a meda it's not a character trait which is in consonance really with the media of bitaken putting on faith in god means that i also trust that everything that i have is what i need and my written sinus my desires are not larger than what i have believe when a person has a lot of desires so it means that he doesn't have a true bitaken in his heart they could be talking to believe the main be talking depends on a person's heart true the action sometimes a person can take an action he's going to say you know i'm going to be talking i'm not going to take any action i'm going to have faith in hashem i'm not going to do anything to show that that i really believe it so sometimes the outer action is it awakens the inside feeling of it sometimes but the main thing is the heart commandment like the passage says psalm chapter 28 verse 7 says i placed my my trust my heart trusted in him in hashem so something that depends on one's heart yeshua therefore the person's heart and his desires need to be quiet and they need to be to have equanimity you shouldn't have too many desires in his heart he really says you shouldn't have any desires in his heart a person needs to extremely strengthen himself in his faith in hashem yeah that hashem is going to give him anything that he needs he's going to have everything that he wants i don't i don't even have to want i just said better sean's not going to give me everything that i want he's going to give me everything that i really need i don't need to want more than i have why does a person want things because he says look i i only have this i want something more and part of what motivates a person sometimes they get that that additional thing is the desire that he is ruxin but sometimes the person will reach beyond what he's supposed to have says the base alleviate don't want limit your desires limit what you want and have me talking to have faith in hashem that he will give you everything that you that you really need achieved so this is a very high level obviously but it's an idea that we need to seek the idea is that we should have no desires we should have no desires we should nullify our desires and i shouldn't want anything except that which hashem wants i should want only that which hashem wants which is a theme in madrid madrigal's adam that i should make my will god's will we find this also because i'll say this hashem's will your will i should only want that which hashem wants i only want what the torah wants i only want that which that which i have remember acosta league says in tehillim chapter 131 verse 2. praises himself and he says i was quiet shivisi means shibisi means that i didn't have ups and downs i didn't have like oh i need that oh i need that there was no shivisi means equal all times i had the same feeling at all times equanimity i was quiet means my thoughts inside were quiet all those thoughts that pull on me i want this i want that i want this car i want that house i want this accomplishment you know all those things that pull at me my soul was like a a baby suckling at its mother like a baby you know what it has everything it needs baby cries because it's hungry but when a baby is satisfied and the baby is sucking and enjoying the milk of its mother so it doesn't need anything i don't need anything more the baby doesn't need anything more the nephesh says my soul was like a baby suckling at its mother so the word nephesh which means my soul also refers to a person's razon his desires says that he quieted down completely quieted down there was no noise from his desires like a like a baby he was dependent upon its mother yesterday and the way is that when a baby is suckling at its mother's breast it has no desire to eat anything else it's never tasted anything else this is how king david accustomed himself he nullified for himself any desire all he had all his desires where was whatever hashem wants me i just want whatever hashem wants from me i don't need anything more it's so easy to desire you see another person as a certain thing it's so easy to want that thing a person has a tesla a person has a mansion person has there's so many things that we want another you know another person in your business has more accomplishments than you another person if you're a banter has learned more massiftas than you is finished more more than you whatever it is but all the things that we see that we want nothing to do with us i need to want what hashem wants for me i need to have that peace which is that i have exactly what hashem wants for me nobody knows what's good for a person the way that hashem knows what's good for a person only hashem knows nobody has the ability to provide for a person's good provide for a person's benefit the way that hashem does only hashem knows what we really need only hashem knows how to give it to us again therefore a person who's striving for spiritual greatness what should that person do they should place their rats on they should place their desire into the hands of hashem who knows everything and can do everything anything that hashem does a person should accept with joy and you should have faith he should trust in hashem that certainly everything that hashem has done is for his good you say says the best this was the level of the sages of the mishnah everything that hashem does is for the good no matter what circumstances one finds themselves in maybe people would say this was done for my good this is also for my good it's a very high level obviously it's a very great level but we see here two approaches when it comes to challenges a person can say look the challenge is coming i want to get rid of the challenge which is fair it's normal we don't like to be uncomfortable we don't like to be in pain so one way is to look at various that we've done and strengthen our be talking like we saw before but here's another path this could be in good times as it can be and not so not such good times whatever hashem has given me is exactly what's right for me yes repeat whatever hashem has given me is exactly what's right for me if something's not working out it's not meant to be do i push my way through do i try to get something more maybe that ruts and maybe that desire that i have is planted in me because who wants me to have that thing or maybe not come on [Applause] this is what the pasek means the verse again king david speaking tests in psalms chapter 19 verse 39 take away my embarrassment that i was afraid because why what's the tool that i used to take away my embarrassment to take away the fact that i was afraid that i didn't have what i need i don't i'm not getting what i want i'm not getting what i think i deserve how do i get rid of that how do i get rid of that embarrassment by recognizing that you hashem your laws are good to forgive him of his embarrassment he was embarrassed that he was afraid because everything is for the good so i didn't need to be afraid at all that the one who trusts in hashem so there'll be a tremendous amount of goodness that will come to him and you know like we spoke about last week i mentioned the story mentioned the story that that i went to to drive into the parking lot and i'd be talking i would find a spot didn't find a spot came back out there was a spot at the you know five minute walk away from the hall and uh when i came out so there was a traffic jam getting in and out so you know we don't know we don't know why it is why is it that hashem today doesn't seem to have given me a job doesn't seem to have given me parnasso why is it that i don't have the thing that i want why is it that there's so many things that a person wants and desires but we don't know why it is at hashem doesn't give it you don't know why it is that a family can wait many years for a child and then finally be blessed with the child my bubby allah blessed memory she was one of two girls and her parents had waited 10 years more than 10 years until she was born and her sister was born not long after her why is it that people wait so long to have a child they lose the child they they don't they they have a child a child is born 10 after 10 years we don't understand why these kinds of things happen we don't know but the idea here is that we have to know what we have to know and strengthen ourselves is that everything that hashem does is for the good quran but everything is for the good even it seems like it's not that way it is you don't know hashem has a much bigger picture and he knows how everything works into the picture and so it's incumbent upon us yes we need to have faith that things are going to be good we're going to have immediate good we need to be talking but we need to also on the other side of it limit our sinus limit our desires and say whatever hashem wants for me that's what i want thanks so much for listening we'll see you again next time