Bitachon 47 - Seeing it in Hindsight

you're listening to the 47th edition of the bittoken podcast and if you're watching this so you may notice that the background is not a natural background which i haven't done in a long time just filmed this inside of my office but yesterday i did go out to film the 47th podcast of bitahn in nature beautiful location beautiful flowers excuse me all around and uh i had my camera i had my my wireless microphone i had the stand however i forgot the sd card the card was not inside of my camera so i couldn't film and so when something like this happens and happens to us all the time some inconvenience something we forgot we spaced out on whatever it is we didn't get exactly what we wanted from things didn't go as smoothly as we would have liked so we're bound to ask the question why did this happen and i want to share with you something that happened in our very group in the be talking group which in hindsight you know sometimes it's very easy to see very quickly but sometimes you don't notice that the mistakes or the annoying things that happen are actually something which hashem designed for a good reason just as a quick example last night i was at a simcha or two nights ago i was at a simcha and i went and i drove somewhere uh a wedding and in order to get into the it was a little bit of a bottleneck to get into the parking lot and i could have parked on the outside of the parking lot a little bit far away from the hall but i said i'm going to be talking i'm going to go in i'm going to find a spot right next to the hall so i drove in and um there with my daughters i had a little bit of pressure to have proper butachen which i did i felt like i did and um didn't find a spot there drove back out ended up parking in the very spot the first spot that i saw which was outside a little disappointed but we talking didn't work anyway spent some time there about an hour beautiful beautiful wedding of a cousin of mine and when i came out of the hall so there was a tremendous bottleneck to get out of the parking lot all the cars were lined up to go out and there was only really one the same road to get in was the same road to get out it was only really enough room for one car so all the cars were stuck nothing was moving no one was directing traffic and when i went out to my car which was right at the very entrance of that area i was able to pull out quickly and get out so even though we might be talking i thought what was going to be good for me was that i would have a spot close inside but in the end it turned out that it worked out for the best now here's another story like that the um as i mentioned we have our group our talking group is besides for these shiorim we have a women's group that meets on wednesdays we have a men's group that meets on sundays working on me talking together reading from riper is safer faith over fear and sharing about pitakan working on me talking thinking about be talking one of the members of the women's group as i heard from my sister one of the members of the women's group of hashem recently her son got engaged and during the process of her son going out so she had actually emailed me and asked me some questions about it asking if i could offer some ideas i said listen to rabbi brag on torah anytime he has some very strong views about bitakam when it comes to shidduchim that there really is no hishtadlus when it comes to sudukum everything is pre-ordained very strong shita so during that time this particular person so her son was an artistra learning and she she was debating a particular girl had been read to him but she was in america this girl it had been read previously and they had said no previously didn't seem like the right the right fit but then a family member of hers recommended the same girl again so she was debating what to do whether her son should come in from artsy straw and and whether or not uh this was the right the right thing for him to do to to go out with this particular girl so she decided to go with her husband and meet with the girl when when she came out of the meeting she was she uh was not yet sure if if it was the right idea for her son to come and indeed go out with this girl so she says to her husband i just or she says perhaps hashem i don't know the exact details of the story she said i'd like to have some recognition from akushboku that this is the right place to put abitaken we should have been talking that our son will come and that this is the right thing for him to go out with her so they put on the be talking podcast number 42. and in that vitacon podcast they heard me tell a story i told a story actually about them and his very son about the fact that he had been inside of the room and give out zev when the bleachers fell and nebuch unfortunately some people passed away but he had held on to his mother's bitaken and they had had an argument who's it was the mother she hears this story and her husband says to her that sounds like a similar we can have be talking about our our son and indeed she went out i'm sorry the the the son went out with the door with this girl and they ended up for hashem getting engaged and it's that's beautiful now what she didn't know and what i see in hindsight was that that very day when i filmed that be talking podcast number 42. you can go back and listen to it so when i filmed it so i was out in nature beautiful place beautiful surroundings and i started to say maybe talking podcasts and i went through the entire brazilian podcast it was about 18 minutes long 20 minutes long and when i when i finished it i went over to the camera to turn off the camera and i realized that i had not started the camera so i said this year again i turned it on i said this year again a little frustrating it happens you know now i remember that i had done this i you know when i heard when my sister tells me the story about how they went and they listened to the 40 second podcast and how it it had that story and i'm like thinking you know i don't think i told the story the first time around so i have a recording because i use these special wireless microphones so i have the the microphone itself was recording the whole time even though the film wasn't filming so i went back to the tape and i heard i went back through the spots and i did not say this story the first time the first time that i filmed that i wasn't filming the first time around i did not say the story it came into my mind to say the second time around when i was filming when the camera was rolling so it was unpleasant but hashem because it didn't film the first time i said the story the second time and that was the sign that they needed hashem lined up everything just right for the outcome that he desired that he wanted so sometimes in life things happen and we don't know why they happen of course it's not always as open it's not always as blatant as these two stories that i just told you but it's important to know we have be talking about works are we talking works and akulesh por who is there sometimes things don't go our way but like i say in my song loan of sickler code we still keep dancing even when things yavomachevo whatever comes learn of sicler code we keep on dancing we keep on being happy we keep on being optimistic and positive when we're optimistic and positive changes what happens in our lives i'd like to continue on the basilevi he talks about what happens why does a person put in efforts that are prohibited that are forbidden that are against the torah and we speak about when we say you've on what we've been speaking about until now we can understand the idea of what's going on we said last time we spoke about the fact that our efforts do not produce the results akadesh baruch wants its niggs on us it was the creed upon us that we're going to receive a certain thing a certain amount of money a certain paranasa hashem also puts it in our heads to do a particular action now we can try to grab the money in a different way which is against the torah but it's such a waste trying to squeeze it out by by stealing right you understand says the base i leave the mistake of those who put in efforts that are now piatera that are forbidden by the torah benidorm by stealing or by overcharging shari dwarmasuram other things which are prohibited ribbos taking interest it's funny like we saw the idea of that verse which says that sometimes there are eggs that a person develops the eggs and what comes out of them is snakes and it bites the person right here too when a person puts in a status in a forbidden way so they end up destroying themselves when a person doesn't have that faith doesn't have that be taken the money is going to come in a kosher way so then they end up getting destroyed because when a person is involved in non-kosher ways number one they don't have the benefit of relying on hashem they don't develop that be talking that connection and number two they are they become muslim they destroy their own medics they destroy their own character traits if you ask the person why is he doing it he knows that it's not good what he's doing that person has a conscience feels like it's too heavy for me the burden of paranasa the burden of livelihood so many people thousands and thousands of jews their offspring in the millions were lost because they said i gotta work on shabbos i have to provide for my family the truth is that this is a stolen response what is the reason why he doesn't have paranasta it's because he chooses to make the money in a non-kosher way right like we saw in madriga's adam we saw that if a person trusts in hashem so he gets the money in from hashem in a more direct way sometimes in a miraculous way if a person doesn't trust hashem he puts his his faith into his own curse into his own efforts into his own stateless and in this case he puts it into a forbidden ishtadlis that's why he doesn't get it in a kosher way it's because he chose to grab it in a non-kosher way is if he hadn't tried to grab it in this way hashem would give it to him in a kosher way this is what pasik means this is the intention of the verse kishtein they left me i was the source of life [Music] i was the ever so everlasting source of life you want to get water you go to a myanmas garber you go to an ever strengthening font a fountain what do they do they they dug pits they put water into those pits but the pits had cracks in them the water wasn't held properly by those pizzas it wouldn't contain the water the gum etc so when a person puts his efforts into something like a stateless at all but certainly an installation that's a crack to stateless something which is evil something which is wrong something which is forbidden so then what happens is that you you're leaving god and when you leave god so you don't get shema you don't get the divine providence why are you going in the path of egypt egypt they have their water so to speak but they're disconnected from hashem they have their disconnect from god who places us in our israel a land which is dependent on rain why because he wants us to pray hashem gives us the parnosa of music why why because he wants us to pray he wants us to depend on him he doesn't want us to depend on our own efforts he doesn't want us to depend on our boss why are you going to egypt the you have to drink dirty water there the water of egypt is dirty it's disgusting don't go there and don't drink that kind of water the verse there in uh verse 19 says you will be pained you will have difficulties because of your evil because of this that you're doing islam verse is coming to take away from us don't think this like time i can't assume don't think that the fact that i don't have money that's what's causing that i have to go and steal and that's what's causing me not to have stuff it's your evil it's the stealing it's the opposite of what you think it's the fact that you think that you need to grab the money that's what causes these difficulties these pains questions it's not the lack of livelihood that causes a person to do something wrong stealing uh overcharging other things raka paslone's the fact that they're doing wrong things is what causes that they will not attain their livelihood rock but even most because without something disgusting this choice this way of thinking thinking that i can't get what i need without doing something wrong i can't get the money without stealing without going i can't get it without a status you know you take it a step a drop step further or ending you know all these styles until the end commercial yes says the base i'll leave it to the extent that i purify my actions and i strengthen my be talking so too it will minimize from him his efforts in attaining his needs boyfriend kosher usher so he won't have to do so much the more a person has to be talking the more person has faith more person doesn't mean that you know depending on our level doesn't mean that we're not going to do anything doesn't mean we don't have to you know put in any ishtadlis but i have to do less ishtadlas less efforts are needed the more be talking i have the more faith in god i have the less efforts i need and certainly i don't need to do anything in a way which is not kosher the usher a way that's not absolutely perf perfectly according in accordance with the guidelines of the torah zelbera this is what the magis means when it says based on the verse shall i give us one who places god is his trust [Music] don't turn towards [Music] the wrong means right yosef he's a person of he's about he trusts in hashem he remains optimistic despite all his incredible challenges his difficulties being in jail for 10 years but he makes a mistake in turning to someone who's not the right person to turn to he's only supposed to turn to hashem the bishops since he said to the wine the cup bearer of paro you please remember me he said a double language remember me don't forget me on him two years were added on for him for yosef asadi on his lofty level asking a person to help him when he already saw that it's obvious that this is the guy and it was going to be him in the end but you know making too much of an effort was considered a sin for him it was like us if we would be stealing because yosef on this exalted level of faith in hashem you should have recognized that his salvation does not need to come from a person who is a lowly person a person like this cup bearer it's not the one that should have been dependent upon but rather yosef should have placed his faith and trust in hashem completely and so too we need to learn from this idea that it's hashem who does it it's hashem who gives it we don't need to do anything illegal we don't need to do anything that's not illegal but it's against the torah the torah doesn't want us to do it this way just because i could get away with it doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do but rather strengthen strengthen your heart more and more are we talking sometimes it doesn't work like we saw in those stories or it seems like it's not working or something negative happens to us and says hey i'm about to talk talking i'm working i might be talking maybe i'll be talking i'm working i might be talking someone should be helping me why is this i'm not answering my video why is i'm not giving me what i asked for why did it come out that the sd card wasn't in the camera i i spent 15 minutes to get to this location 15 minutes to get home why did this happen why is it going to say that there is telling us sometimes we have erythrium we hope to hashem it didn't work seems like it didn't work strengthen your heart even more and hope once again hashem remember it's not my hairstylist it's not my efforts it's not me hashem is doing it and sometimes it doesn't necessarily work out but it's always going to work out in the end in the long run thanks so much for listening we'll see you again next time