Bitachon 19 - Keeping The Bitachon

hey you're listening to the 19th be talking podcast and I'm excited to share with you all that percussion this past Sunday the men met we had 10 people on a meeting very nice meeting or Hashem and I encourage you all to join women our meeting tonight on Tuesday am i correct yes it's Tuesday and Bar Hashem we are growing together working on be talkin I'll just mention somebody asked on the meeting somebody asked what can we do to actually work on actively work on B toughen and something which I mentioned in the past I heard from you be strong raagh and suggested working on having a puss look at your fingertips whether it's bar Kagera shave tapash my Yoshimi of staff lee roth brog recommends shem Sivakasi mono miss goblin autoclaves Yaakov Selassie Michelle Bachman Shyam L see an enemy I'm Kirino the sukham that remind us what we know to be true when we repeat them so qiyam when we repeat it's like a mantra when we repeat it over and over again it it's called a la llave it gets into our hearts and as my Russia Shiva said when it comes to be talking it's an emotional thing it's emotional feeling so in order to get that emotional feeling yet to understand what is it that works for our heart I'm also mentioned this this is in the safe orbit Akash M he brings down I believe it was from ruff Destler if I'm not mistaken we mentioned in previous podcast but it's this idea excuse me saying them over and over again helps us remember what it's about so I encourage you we're gonna work on it this week saying sue Kim I've been trying to do it I have another suggestion here in session for next week and you're welcome to send me an email saying how it's going for you what's working for you what's strengthening every talkin mappy to share with the group share with the I was watching this year we can work on this together when we work on together it's so different than if we work on it by ourselves I have to tell you I just on this idea of working on it together and saw an amazing story there's a new safer for my Russia she drove a pair it's called Shoshanna I'm Hakeem you can find it actually on amazon.com and in the safer he mentions the story that happened with rabbi nish I forget the last name but it was real binding she was certain very wealthy man grandfather actually of robot room time foyer and he was a very wealthy man and he was one of the main it sounded like one of the main donors for the Navarre takeshiba and he would give a tremendous amount of money to Navarre to alter for yeshivas and one time some some collectors for the Ashima of slow but became and this very wealthy man gave them 100 roubles and they said in 100 rubles we know that with all due respect but we all know we know that you gave a thousand roubles to the altar of Navarre turkeys are you Sheva any less than the you know Slovakia is also a cost of yeshiva Zin any less than a verdict and rabbi nish said to him something very profound he said to them when the outer of Nevada quacks in it's never very different from you when you walked in when you walked in before you walked in the door you wiped your feet you wiped your feet from the dirt so you shouldn't get my house dirty when the altar of Nevada quacks in he doesn't like his feet he comes right in he's not much of my wealth at all he doesn't consider the fact that I'm wealthy to be something important and because he's not much of my wealth he's not much of my money and not much of my status so I feel the same I feel the same it rubs off on me so when it comes to giving him money it's not a big deal for me to give him more money because at the moment that he comes in I don't feel like the money is so precious or important but when you guys came in you wiped your feet before you came in you were showing that my house is cost you of my the floors in my house are cost you of my wealth is important and so because you came in with that feeling so I have that feeling also if my money is important to me so then I'm not gonna give it away as much very powerful I mean there's lots of lessons to learn from it but what I take out of it is that that's how important it is to be around people who have the right values who have the value of bît-yakin so important how important it is for us to listen to Abby talk on podcast to join together with others who are working on be talking when we do that it rubs off on us because this is what's really important this is what's when we see that it's working for somebody else it helps us to believe that it can work for us as well and like I said it's very much an emotional feeling be talking works it's a fact Akhilesh bro who does for a person provides for them whatever they need it's a fact but it depends on us I'm sure she would told him eisah I heard this morning on older vad from about two years ago told him I said that had happened that that day yet heard that day from my friend and Lakewood Mordecai diamond his wife has said to him they had been looking for it for a house a place to live and they had been interested in a certain place at the last minute it fell through they didn't have a place they were very cramped in the place where they were and Mordecai diamond his wife says to him that's it we gotta get out of here we have to do something so Mordecai was like all right I have be talkin that we're going to find a place within one minutes the phone rang one minute the phone rang and somebody got on the phone he said I heard you I know that you're looking from a place there's a guy who's about to put his put his house on the market he hasn't yet produced my house in the market if you get it now you can get a great deal and call him call him up so they called him up they went over to see the house and they signed they signed a contract right away that's real be talking that's real be talking it really can work it really can work if a person is in the right emotional space the right mental space there's a lot of things we've been discussing but certainly it's extremely helpful to be part of a group working on it and I'm excited that we're starting this back up again for the guys and that the girls the women have been you know can more consistently involved and doing it every single week so if you want to know more information if you're interested please do contact me all right go like at gmail.com or the betoken group at gmail.com both of those emails get to me and I will send you if you're a woman to those who are in charge there and if your man I shall respond all right let's read some some more physic inside of my draga Sodom the altar of Navarre Tech became him at Varley regularly assalam wa suleman Schlemmer special are you talking about a person who you know like all of us goes back and forth between having trust knuckle - for who realizing and knowing that it's important to be involved in ruckus and going to the other extreme of thinking I all I need to do everything myself because for who's not gonna do for me having that false belief became a twirl a rock when I Galilee of the mystical Moshlings MacLeod this is true not not just in regards the fact that a person flips from one side to another is not only in regards to rising up on the ladder of seeking spiritual greatness alone and the come Mike Hanlon Haga Sodom Allegheny to Yosemite Veeam the fraud also in regards to the way that a person acts when it comes his natural inclinations beef Raksha autumn have maven van Maki specifically a person who understands and he recognizes because she meaning he knows the truth because she Yaga shvartsman shown not to be a selenium haqqani firm person who is self-awareness he knows what he's doing he notices that when I deal with this particular person I flatter them a lot I knew Sham McNiff Liholiho whom asking the coulomb person recognizes inside himself that his until his inclination is to flatter people and to try to get on a good side and to say whatever needs to be said in order for them to like him I called over my car called i david acraman a docile awesome I thought I saw a motto in my email of anybody who's trying to get in good with him so he tries to get in good with them or maybe he's afraid of the other person whatever it is but that person this person was speaking of is always he recognizes he's always flattering somebody else he doesn't really stand strong to his own true opinions he's busy trying to make other people like him via her cocktail vastly across a the saber gonna be me beliefs not him but the person recognizes it it feels bad about it what do I do it's hard to stop myself I'm aware of it I'm asking Lashon is dark I think this says you know I'm changing my ways let's say spear or Cossack I'm gonna go out with a strong decision loss is called a Baraka be attire of a darkish Lemos I I'm gonna do what's right I'm gonna do where the Tyrus says I'm going to do what's going to help me in my spiritual growth Mabley a classroom they call not can be afraid of anyone blah with classical diet with a lack of ability lots of cloud a cop so that person decides I'm going to stand strong I'm not gonna flatter anybody I'm not gonna change my opinions for anybody usually Spalla got my me I Peter shall I tell us a miles shows a lot so I'm not going to be affected by anybody who might I might be afraid of he any option I may be deaf says ma ma person might be able to hold on to that decision for some time but Hosea you know I love the other day sure but to me this qfe eskimo saying the person we're talking about doesn't have the ability to really remain with his decision las américas is not to change not to go off of his decided path the pocke dagger saw said he's afraid of the future which it was a crime the questions of life which a point normal of all the needs that he has they were working on him Lavater man at madness come on slowly slowly let go of his decision and and this reminds me of something that brog said also that that the biggest mistake a person can make is when they're when they're challenged with whatever situation it looks like something is gonna go wrong it looks like something is going bad looks like something Michael bad to start to fall into the fear its allow himself to be afraid that's the first mistake because a person at that moment needs to turn around and say no I I'm Amish believe Cocula the schmuck who can can help me that it's gonna be okay that's going to not just be okay it's gonna be great it's important not to fall into the fear but but that's what happens a person thinks about tomorrow and thinks about what's going to be etc that's the danger maskull motley economy tequila booyah kid pacific pessimist circus tarp i there's somebody gives no opportunity to get where he needs in his food he needs money and he opens it up he says maybe i'll be nice to this guy bangkok bangkok palma loved him you know serve love kiddo so his imagination creates all kinds of scenarios what's gonna be you know makes him afraid she may not korea happen in the planning be she will she a seat i was i he thinks that i must be I must say whatever I need to say in order to get this favor the flemish feels is this person as the guys gonna give it to me with plenty who honestly twice Nasik me olive I have no choice I have to say something nice so that I don't get damaged whatever the situation might be the kite garland is kind of God Elohim Aeneas at my motto die to issue collective effort and in this way a person causes himself to just give in he lowers himself whatever another person holds he says oh yeah you're right etc arts called Internet era he's willing to destroy his own opinion about the truth of the tyramine name Daniela Hanif oh because of his inclination towards flattery let's just you theory so called yamagishi loco moco's okay this whole day I'm sorry his whole life he has a constant battle but if he keeps going from one extreme to the other jumping from one side to the other if I'm gonna be other than a atella Mila hanabishi got tired sometimes he's able to overcome himself overcome his fears and he doesn't flatter because he knows it's not the right thing he knows that this person is saying something which is against the Tyra ah the red poem Huma cut some insight I was feeling to us and a half inflamed near them but most of the time he he doesn't do as much mitzvot she holds back from doing what he knows his right because of his inclination to flatter others because he wants what flattery meaning means I want people to like me I'm more concerned about what other people will think of me then I am will think of me I shall feed dies with me a nice of whom ooh Hawk was a he thinks that he has no choice but they live - it's a kind of chaos that you like in order to take care of his future come I can catch arepa essence United Lovato is coulomb when a person sees that he's inclined to be move at all them all the hot old Davy Banshee a milah nobody want to do he wants to say that the people who are great are not really so great they're not really doing what's right just talking about the other extreme maxilla hotle email kaveri you ask me my Island - ask me the garnish Abajo some as you can also have it in a person doesn't want to admit that those who are doing what's right I really are really right Church mean that's a huge issue but they are you there Nagas are let's not say Javier of what is the reason it's because I want to feel better about myself I'm not doing that so I got a I got her somehow rationalize the fact I'm not doing what's right so you have to knock them down lera uh call she mildly I secured under him I'm doing what's better I'm focused on something else that's important right he national upon me miss car Billy Wilder you know sometimes I'll have regret in his hearts about his path we get best naturally like the men are a bit much spoon of he'll he'll he'll save himself on it's not right what I'm doing his conscience will bother him eh Paco's pamita's nice choice because the person is not hasn't worked on his character he doesn't have he's a lowly person his bad meatus comic mechanics olive Lahav live darkly it's very hard for the person to overcome this way Kimmy tommy bahama blog yeah they had a cause if I smoke I'm gonna how come he thinks that by by speaking this way maybe other people will think that he's smart and wise be a collab is illustration listen I'm Shelley vinegar sauces it all comes back to why is the person doing it because he thinks that if I do this if I if I knock them down pick myself up these people will think I'm amazing then I'll get my needs this person who's rich will think that I'm smart I'll get my needs well as M is happy bday pumpka pumpka and and this way person flips from one extreme to the other because she Africa Lee ha Cara amethyst and when the true recognition is is clarified to him and when the truth when he thinks about the truth yeah that's I need a shortcut service super Shabazz oolacile Aslam a him and there is his conscience pulls at him sometimes I'll say oh wow look at the amazing thing that the people who are good are doing and he'll try to learn from them but he keeps flipping back and forth I'm Nam ki chef Vito I say to me a nice self when his imaginary thoughts scare him surely there's a you smite my Lhasa paintings who loves new things all know people are not gonna think of me highly you talk in the sabe of lately I spoke was Mahavira by massive essentially and he thinks he's going to be less than other people in his situation lot circle ami connect them so he doesn't strengthen himself I'm sorry to stand up against him Claire's earlier gala Apophis the viola school in Lavaca Mumma Azula so it's got a person for sometimes he'll say oh wow the people who are doing what's right amazing sometimes I'll say that they're not so good he flips this way in that because all he cares about is that people like him culture came in you know me talking now he comes back to be talking and here we finish off this chapter certainly when it comes to the idea of eating salami no doc I in order to stand firm on this path for the law sir and not to turn away with it from it so I called him the ice beer man is a person has to be very stately has to be very strong she with helium starts maybe signal coma Kazakh know there's a there's a internal struggle there's an internal battle that a person has to face off with so my diction all of last year die team otaku lies BC that's a crime she lied to keep trying to figure it out it's the normal way of thinking oh my gosh I need a sword I'm at the money back sir certain day what can I do how can I make that money which magazine can I read it will tell me the way that that person got rich and then I'll do that thing and which PR do I need to do and if I do this thing then if every if I make the hit video the hit song everyone will know me and I'll get all the concerts and all the weddings and all and I'll be rich right so he's busy thinking about all of these cars - I kick shot of last year tight it's very hard to stop thinking that way you see this lesser crime shall I ran especially if that's what everyone's saying that's when all if the magazines are saying this is what you have to do you have to put in foolish tablo's maximum hashas not sure like garment a leaf is a geyser and it's very hard to give oneself over completely taco - Burcu the one who makes the real decrease fps a corrosive in a bitonic are burrow by meatus yeah you just heard the story about Ramona high diamond we just heard the story about the Alderaan the verdict just heard this story that's the way it sits I know it's true but it's hard to get off it it's hard to get off of my the way I'm used to you have to give us awesome I don't know Union Matt to the icer and even though all of these things all these types of calculations how can I make the money what can I do better all of these things are there are the way of the world so it's something which really can cause a person to stumble all Allah from of a cashless Caribou claim easy chaotic foam is just natural exerts a sham it's very easy to lose one's hope to lose one's focus someone who's above a quiche we're talking about here we're talking about somebody who really wants a relationship with a Kurdish bar who but it's easy to fall make mistakes and end up thinking in the way that all world thinks we're going against the stream here we're going against the tide and in such a color it's alike Gilliam Alice L Uranus it comes out that if you want to reach the highest levels of be talking me Cole chicane on my drag Abbott a fish I'm the MS and certainly if you want to reach the level of somebody who really trust in a coach merical not flipping from one side to the other but focused real gems the one who's taking care of me it's not this person who might sponsor my video it's not that person who might sponsor my video it's not that person it's not the people who everyone's gonna give me money all people are gonna buy it it's not all these kinds of thoughts hooba MS Patek Maha Maha Zuko so getting to this real level of betoken is a tremendous panel missus make us focus it's unclear who's gonna win it's horri or us bravo Bravo in its early autumn it requires a tremendous amount of strength there's an exact to win to succeed Al Capone Obinna Gaelic cunning darker largish MS and for a person to indeed prepare the path to feel the truth about the awesome women are not to turn away from it so he gives us here he gives us like this is how you do it how do you do it honey darkly prepare the path Harish PMS you have to feel the truth you have to feel it it's a feeling don't turn away from it right you come to play see I'd be talking you're gonna have a spot you come there there's no spot no don't give up turn around come back there's gonna be a spot you didn't have a spot don't give up on the next time strengthen yourself anyway my be talking wasn't strong enough maybe more who said no whatever the reason is we don't know the husband is about kodesh for who but that's the that's the you said here that's the foundation watch out don't fall off the path don't go to this extreme we have to in order to have real be talkin real be talking with talking about here it's something that requires disguise strengthening come be part of our group listen to the shear send an email call-in be part of people working on baton thank you so much for listening