Bitachon 16 - Less Efforts, More Bitachon

you're listening to the sixteenth edition of the baton podcast and we're going to pick up where we left off we were speaking about the story of EAC fats addict and the moderator southern ones he says here at the end of the fourth chapter of dark a be talking about alienation modulus and McCoy on my Segway Mahut baton we mentioned this last time is very important and I actually mentioned it recently in a partial podcast that yoseef italic was on a very exalted level of be talking that being the case luckily in raga casita wish more it seems like a punishment it seems like Yosef italic he didn't have be talkin he trusted on a person instead of the trusting in a cottage beaucoup so therefore the result was that he was punished with two more years says the author in a verdict nothing could be further from the truth by the kalahari magical cycle - for who did not want him to lose his great level of bît-yakin blue low how a master guy said I know she'll show Nevada hate if not for the fact that he would have indeed had two more years to sit in jail because of his sin you talk and show you tell you laughter SaLuSa Illinois you could have made a mistake to think that his be talkin indeed helped him I'm sorry not his beat on his status helped him right that's a big danger the author of navarre dick feels that the the danger of falling into the belief that my atlas is what's accomplishing things for me and it's not a sham that danger is so great stay far far away from Estados at all but even we who are involved in your status right where me we may not be holding like we are not holding on this very very high level of be talking with a dashed atlas so we have to watch out we have to be careful any time we do a thoughtless there's a great danger we could fall into the fact you can fall into believing in our mind something which is not a fact that this is what's accomplishing it for us and it's not so at all Iraq Baca saucer shell came Jakarta negotiates any basis firm he could think that it was the request that he made of the Serra mask him that he should remember him that's what got him out I mean Nick Malloy leader McConnell Abba and he would set a new precedent for himself that from now on should royalist all the odds may be out on where the FINA schemes a heartening that is appropriate it's in fact not only is it appropriate you see it worked so obviously the schmuck who wants me to do if that was he wants me to put an effort this is what gets me what I need okay Amelia Blair minimalize a shaman wanted us safe to be on a very very high level of be talkin year it's a balk Uche sure gear ablution sorry chalet also shadows fear the cloth I needed to see experientially that not only didn't it help him at all it didn't do anything for him at all well you gonna show a little about you like the card said I'm a vodka shot erotic I say not only they did not help him get out of jail it made it even less likely that he would get out of jail it made it take another two years we'll have affability a Cebu and I'd like to point out that how would he know he's supposed to get out now it was no it was very clear to Yosef he saw that this guy came in and was clear that he was his ticket out this guy the SAR machine was his ticket out of the jail he was he saw power every single day the only one who could grant him the the freedom that he wished could only be power so this was his ticket out and indeed that's how it was in the end so he knew that this was this must be the time but then he languished in jail for another two years this was so it would be clear to him that he made a mistake we'll have affability I see Bonita merely the Moose coalition are shorter how human about soullow he needed to realize that it was the opposite being involved in that very high status that he thought would help him it only made it farther made his salvation farther away by the rabble McCarthy was giving me the shot him I did but my didn't line right so he could have made a mistake to believe that indeed it it would have helped him so I Shem therefore hurry let me know how your question are they smoked arm washed out of a scart Annie says the outer has a side which is don't think about tomorrow don't worry about tomorrow don't be so concerned stop trying to make sure that tomorrow you're gonna be okay are you okay today because well who's giving you what you need today that's all you need to know you don't need to worry about tomorrow to the extent that you focus on your connection to a college bar who when you recognize that he's providing me today you will get what you need tomorrow you don't need to think about you know do you worry about you don't have to push dad listen you have to put in so much efforts how much doubt of it okay he wouldn't have had to put in so much effort why you hate see me on ebay so sue me would have come out immediately from jail if he hadn't made that extra statement to the saaremaa him like anata it wasn't Sonia Kashuk harshly this Maharaja Machado he put in the efforts now mid nays any ties to Lucia shun him for this reason it was added on an extra two years and I'd like to mention something a few things here number one is I read recently in a safer I don't really want to mention which one but it was a safer Berbatov Unamuno he mentioned that a person needs to put in all efforts and leave the results a sham and that there is such a cheetah it's important to know that there is such an opinion but that is not necessarily the main opinion even if I wish Olive obvious who says that we need to put in efforts doesn't say you have to put in all efforts that you possibly can maybe reasonable efforts but there's always a danger in that thinking of all I have to do every effort and then leave the results - for who does not need me to do every effort action doesn't need me to do any effort that's the honest truth now shun can give me what I need without you can just drop a million dollars on if he wants to and he's willing to do that if I have the proper beat on him all right there is such a thing and it's important to know that I do not need to do every effort I do not even need even need to do any effort sometimes sometimes I could literally it's been my experience out of nowhere just for who will send me a job I didn't try to get the job I didn't I wasn't making any efforts to obtain that job it just comes so there is such a thing you do not need to do every effort that's for sure I don't believe that that's true and I don't believe personally that it's helpful any time that I put in every effort because trouble has shown me that yo chill back step back chill out you don't have to do so much this is not your job and then you get it's very hard to put in every effort and then not not have your you know your knuckles white trying to hold on to the results it's it's it's not the altar holds it that's a mistake don't go that way don't put in every effort don't put in any effort don't do if studless have you talking uncle - Miroku is a metallic was meant to not to anything he was meant to stand by him wait British was a sham his yacht Savile Row as issue as a sham stand by and watch the puck talking about its you Smith's rhyme stand by and watch a sham will save you it's important to know that Rosella occur with their habit often and and the alter said that this is a main point when it comes to their capital now I read this in the parsha podcast but I want to read it again it's so important sure the mother who should a lot Sartoris Maher person is must it's a must don't worry about tomorrow you don't give a Koosh see but because when a person is worried and he's looking what if status can I do but actually a vehicle ID off seed first of all it's not going to first of all he's not going to benefit from it he's going to lose out from it and now I just want to say something again from my experiences which I believe I've mentioned but sometimes I have found that if I do a minimal effort but a wholehearted effort minimal effort but wholehearted what I accomplish with that is a show Kodesh borhu that I'm not being lazy now that's a completely different thing than putting in every effort to try to get what I want try to get my needs met to try to get partner so that's different then I'm doing something which I know is not enough I'm doing it completely just to prove to myself to my heart which which is attached or Kodesh borhu to myself perhaps we could even say with a capital S the piece of me that's good work who's inside of me to prove to myself that I'm not just being lazy that's a different thing then putting in every effort to try to get what I want that's not what when the focus is I'm just doing it because I could just work who wants me to show I'm not lazy that's a different story okay keep a glassy board I can catch some of Lukasz when I'm chasing after the Estados I'm chasing after the thing that I think is going to be the cause for me to get what I want to get what I need what happens is it actually pushes away the result that I want as we saw by Asaph kikaha direction you read the paparazzi by Siva Barajas no manner there's a general principle that when I run after something the thing that I'm running after runs away from me alright if let's say I want my child to be at the Shabbos table I want my child to come and sing with me to sing at the Shabbos table the more that I try to get that the more I chase after it I I'm pushing the person away doesn't mean that I can't express that I would like that but I need to be careful how I do it need to be done to be small but Kyra Beeman I pulled in with the stronger hand I have to show my love I have to show my my understanding but it's also true when it comes dish status if I put too much effort into Atlas it pushes away the results that I want I've you had this experience myself many times I came before about grows a grudge says this Kikkoman column a Kazakh a lager do lago de barajas he manages that we find there's a concept that if you run after greatness you run after Fame you run after after covered honor it runs a Barajas women are good little ruffles me man who runs away from you but called Baretta like a doula go to Omaha there's a probe if you run away from grayness it runs after you came to call I mean dice so to this with all of the measures all matters you couldn't you know be tough and specifically says the garage true in regards to be talking the more I run after certain stat listen the more I will not get what I want it's counterintuitive but it's true commotion you say mayor I was in um I've actually there hush limits for be toughen this is something that experience proves to those people who are trying to behold trying to be to rise up in their spirituality trying to have it often in you know in posthumous production with the MS and and here I'd like to interject two points we'll see if we have enough time for both of them but the first point is something I had a discussion on Thursday with someone who I mentioned a few times in the podcast more hi Dimond rabbi mordechai Dimond who is of course my Russia she was about we talked on the door the Bob we talk on of our generation and I discuss with him what what is it like how does he approach me talk him what is his understanding I be talk on what's the how does it work for him why is it work for him and he said to me that the idea is what is be tough and be toughen is not just oh I get what I want from God it's not like this trick not like this you know I had trusting God and then I get what I want from God that's not it be talking is something which is an expression of avoid assertion it's an expression of my service of Hashem of my relationship with Hashem what does that mean it means that be talkin my trust in God is an outcropping of my relationship with Hashem if I love Hashem I have a relationship with Hashem Hashem is my loving father I'm always trying to and I recognize that everything that happens in my life is from him whether it's good things or bad things okay if if now I say talk oh there's more oh cool Hashem I really need this thing I want to feel close to you I want to feel like you are the God who provides for me I want to feel like you are the one who's in my life and I really need this particular thing whatever it might be I want my child to have success in his learning Torah I want my daughter to feel happy with the school at Cheesie and I want my kids to be joyous and and and and feel good and have good experiences in their lives that's to be talking to be definite about me and I could have all who me and I could wish for who so then that's what be talking is that goes wrong can't say no why can't he say no because he's our Father he wants to help us he wants to give us what what we want not because well because we wanted and we're playing a trick on God and we're getting what we want no it's because this has to do with our relationship if she wants to give us a kiss if I asked for a kiss as for a hug for Michael there's more cool and I have a relationship with him I love him he loves me so then it's all part of my letters of Shem it's all part of my service of God and and this is something I heard recently also on a sheer former brog which I highly recommend there's a few Scheuermann be talking he's a tremendous Bobby talking himself you can you can hear his amazing stories what he said what are the ways what are the ways to work on me talking has a person get into be talkin that it really works for him it's by constantly being aware because of shebar who constantly repeating sukham Marsha Sheba says this idea as well and I saw what else were brought down hashem Sivakasi manu Misgav learn allah here Casella hashem see vaca is a shred humble task but blessed is the one who trusts in you I shall my mouth any enemy information is going to save us in the data we call out for him repeating sukham but see that you might relate to whatever it is boarhog i received a push em there's so many pursue him there's a group of fifteen so to me says at the end of tsuki December before mismo decider there's a whole bunch of them there all of them express our faith in God our trust in him and he's going to help is he's gonna he's going to give us what we need so be talkin it's this sense it's this feeling that we have a real relationship with Akhilesh barkuloo and then he will provide what we need because we have that relationship with him that's that's one point and the second point I'd like to add is something that's very important to see how much time we have here the second point is something on my Sheba spoke about in this past weeks parsha which was not what I read what I read in my partial podcast was a few years ago but he said something this year he sends out a partial sheet every week he talks about the fact that there's a concept of of strengthening our be taller but often goes in waves he brings from the from the back of Evan Schlemmer that grew up from the student of the Guru of chuan malson writes that when it comes to be talking we find this to be true in regards even in avium the greatest study came there were times what they had she wanna be talking there were times where their baton was so strong it couldn't be broken and they accomplished awesome things with their be talking they were able to get whatever they needed times on a person that feels we can there be talking she wanna V that's the classic example he was afraid of shuttle why was he afraid where was his be talkin because he didn't really want to go to annoy interval hemella so therefore we felt he felt the weakness in his be talking whenever we felt that his shawls gonna know about he's gonna find out so we find that there's such a thing that are but be Tahara muna can waver can go up and down and so it's something that it has to do with our relationship with the Kurdish world with our relationship with Hashem sometimes we feel it from the who feel his love sometimes we feel connected to him I had a story just this past week on Wednesday night or Tuesday night where I went somewhere and I needed a certain thing and the the person who is behind the cash register wasn't sure how to do something for me and I he would need to call his boss and he said his boss wasn't picking over the phone I said I have been talking and I felt it really strong I just had a place that I often go to and he did something we've done immediately I have been talking that he's gonna pick up that phone and you did pick up the phone and he was able to brush and get me what I needed but it's something where sometimes you feel it sometimes you really you just feel it inside of you you have that beat up and sometimes you don't and it's that way and all of our relationships whether it's it's with our children whatever it is but it's something that we need to strengthen in ourselves avril lavigne oh that's where mr. Shiva points out it says that the schember made him a promise album album but he believed him what does mean he believed it means that he felt it he worked on himself so he should feel the coach broke loose promised would come true to him and also and are we talking it's something that we need to strengthen because we can be weakened as we see with the ice episodic us owner on an exalted level and yet you fell at this point so we need to know it's something that we need to watch out for like I mentioned in the partial podcasts we need to be careful not not to be pulled down in every talk and it's an emotional state is an emotional state sometimes we have and sometimes we don't if we don't have it at this moment we need to strengthen ourselves in it and we need to recognize that there are things that take away from are we talkin take away from our relationship with our College problem from our avoidance of shame from our feeling of connection that goes wrong who and we need to watch out from those things because those are poison it takes away from our baton to be continued thank you so much for listening