Behaaloscha-Shlach - Learning from Mistakes

you're listening to the weekly partial podcast with Ari Gold wag recorded with the Shems never-ending assistant assistance in ramappa sheemish Israel 5780 2020 this week in futsal arts you'll be reading participle of ska and if you are in Eric's Israel you'll be reading partial schlock and as I did last week I'd like to continue with a connection between the two parshas so we can enjoy something that can work at any Shabbos table at the end of partials below ska the Torah describes the conversation that Miriam anivia has with Arthur Cohen they are speaking about Moshe Rabbeinu and they as no VM as prophets themselves they knew that a prophet has to be married they have to be normal people even if they're on a very high level yes it's true that they need to sometimes abstain perhaps from being with their spouse but they knew that Moshe Rabbeinu not only was he abstaining from being with his with his wife he divorced her and so Miriam Hanna via says turns to her brother Aaron and says what is Moshe doing why has he divorced his wife to which I could assure Buraku when he sees what they've done that they're speaking negatively about Moshe Rabbeinu I spoke loshon Hara Hashem causes Miriam to become a Mets IRA she becomes leprosy has leprosy and indeed the Jewish people wait for her for seven days in a place called hot serous they wait there for her until she is cured from her leprosy and indeed the Jewish people learn the lesson what happens to somebody who speaks Russian harm who speaks negatively of others even though Miriam was speaking something which she felt was appropriate she's the older sister of Moshe Rabbeinu she felt that she knew better she felt she knew how things should be when she was saying it for a constructive reason nevertheless she spoke negatively and therefore she received this great punishment of terrassa the Jewish people experienced that seven days they waited for her and then they moved on until they got to the next location and what happens when they're in mid Barbara on which was the next location so they sent out the spice that's the beginning of partial schlaf these two things these two stories are juxtaposed number one because indeed as the Mijares Oh exclaimed they happened one after the other concurrently and indeed not just that but there was something in the spies that the mistake that they made was one that they should have learned not to make that mistake from Miriam and before I continue I just want to preface what I'm saying that it may be that many of the things that we're gonna speak about this week last week the next few weeks these connections between the parshas you may have heard the idea before but I hope to add a new dimension no it's easy at the beginning of a partial to talk about the first thing that they talk about on the parsha which is often a connection between this weekend last week's partial but Minister Shan I hope to bring a new dimension to something you may have learned before so just that preface is important okay so in the beginning of partial ah the the these great men they were tsadikim the twelve representatives of each of the tribes of the Jewish people were sent out to check out the Land of Israel indeed it was done with Hashem says , God agreed to this Moshe Rabbeinu agreed to this the people were chosen because their greatness but they came back on tsch above forty days later and they spoke negatively of the Land of Israel now it's important I want to mention that this story occurred exactly now this time in a calendar today is cops even and Huff's even according to and this is my understanding of the mehar's el marzo mentions there was seven days from when Miriam spoke loshon Hara until it's Arras went away then he traveled on to the mid bar Paran and the Moroccan were sent out there a few days later like you know depending on how long I'm not sure exactly how long it took to get to minbar Paran talking about a million and half people travelling but I think it's safe to say was a few days and the Marah glim left on hoof tests of the month of Sivan which was the month were now because it was forty days when they came back it was tisha buff and so if we make the calculation we'll see that the beginning of the story with Miriam speaking negatively her brother was actually it seems approximately coughs even it's exactly the day today and they're sent out in 40 days after they're sent out they return okay important some something interesting to note I hope to come back to that as we continue but the story happened in our Kufa from Huff's even until tisha Bob that's the story the end of partials below ska is a approximately Huff's Yvonne and the story of the spies is from cuff tests even all the way through tissue buff okay so that's did cool for the time that we're entering into now as important to note and perhaps like I said I hope to expand on this but it's important to note that just like from Pesach until she was you have fifty days seven weeks from coughs even until Tish above is also seven weeks okay we'll come back to that point I hope now let's see so what happens in the beginning of partial slop the spies they do not heed they do not recognize we'll see I'd like to be dimensioned inside but they don't recognize the lesson that the the impactful lesson there was a shock the Jewish people waited for the greatest sudeikis the greatest righteous woman of the generation marry money via mirror the prophetess sister of my Sherman who preyed on his behalf who took care of him made sure as a baby that he would be saved who convinced her father that she should that he should meet remarry her mother so that the children would be born Moshe was born because of that mere man avea she sang she led the Jewish people in song after the splitting of the sea the women and the shock she received such a punishment of saros the entire Jewish people a million and a half people waited for her a week they didn't get the message they didn't get the message and they went on and they spoke loshon hora that's the problem and thence the magic points out this connection I'd like to read that inside and I to try to understand it in a deeper way exactly what is the idea and how is it connected also to us and to the COO for that we are entering into now from cops even until tissue buff here we go Deborah Rakesh la flaca an awesome yasuru so the puss success this is in the this is in practice Zion of the manish in section 6 Slava finishing a suru I'm gonna want you to send out these people and I want them to check out the line of Israel measures brings a puzzle but that the bear Miriam varam Benicia Miriam and Aaron spoke about Moshe so interesting there's a discussion in the Gemara ciamis about the fact that our own daughter be Kiba says that Aaron also received leprosy not just Miriam they both they both became leprous because I'm speaking about motion Africa schläfli ha and immediately after that meant immediately after the story of Aaron and Miriam speaking Russian army Moshe they're told to send out the spies session recursively odubel a Aveeno keep top layers in him the verse says in Isaiah chapter 44 verse 18 they do not know they do not understand that they have been covered over they've covered over that which their eyes see okay it's a pus akin your Shia speaking of those who sin my real emmerich are my samarium schlock Allah notion what is the idea of this plastic it's as follows why do we have the story you know the Torah sometimes speaks chronologically but other times it doesn't so why does yes it's true that chronologically this is the next story but why does it tire place these two stories next to each other there's a reason Allah Shah had suffered the finish work of shimmer lotion holla or it's a collage for who knew that they were going to speak negatively of the Land of Israel they were going to bring back a bad report about the Land of Israel so a miraculous world crucial oh you are Mila how you need an honest Russian Oracle who says I don't want them to say I want I want them to claim that they didn't know what does the punishment is for Russian are now serious it is how essential it is not this big Russian Hara the Phoenix I'm a hugger - were who were Indians ellezi Hashem placed these two ideas next to each other so we should know that the spies were not missing any forewarning about what they were about to do the mistake that they made had already been made and they didn't learn from the mistake be sure they were merry enough he ever look so it's harass me and spoke negatively amazing thing and she received Sarah asked initiated I call on Shoshanna Shannara why did that story happen and why did that story happen at this point in time right before the answer is says the message because they needed to learn from this in other words we could even ask like it doesn't even llama team la it's not appropriate it doesn't seem like it's something that fits in with the character of a Miriam anivia the greatest of all the prophetess is that ever lived my shrub a new sister doesn't fit in it doesn't seem a team la that she should speak negatively I'm adding a little bit of a husband into the mesh and saying that perhaps the reason that it happened the very reason that she was Nick Shaw that she made this mistake was so that the Jewish people could learn a lesson and so that they would be forewarned not to make this mistake that the spies shouldn't make this mistake and the Jewish people in accepting or hearing the false statements of the spies they shouldn't give in and listen to it either it was an opportunity for them to learn okay Kadesh a democracy lucien bhikshu learn russian how are you miss Tucker - I mean if they would think this illusionary they should just take a look at what just happened to Miriam it's not a coincidence yeah papi faintly rustling boy nevertheless they did not want to learn the caffeine mr lo uwv no that's why the verse says they did not know they didn't understand katha me release a name they covered up their eyes they didn't want to look they didn't want to see they closed her eyes to the reality and that was the root of their mistake and that was the root of the mistake of Claro and the result was destruction of the best hammock - Tish above a time of crying all generations if we don't learn the key lessons that are right in front of us if we don't see what's right in front of us we don't see why cuz Rahu is saying to us every single moment there's a message every single moment something is going on in front of us that we need to learn from we need to understand what is I could as well who sang to me the the MIRR Adam didn't see they didn't understand if a Miriam could make such a mistake if a Miriam anivia the greatest of all the prophetess is the greatest woman of her generation that said the caja door the leader of a maestro she could make such a mistake they were not on her level they could also make such a mistake and they needed to learn this and they didn't they failed and as a result on Easter all remain in the desert for forty years I mean sorrow would not have motion of man to lead them into air to swell and to be something there's the first basically the second make something which would be destroyed the Inquisition would occur on the ninth of of so many tragedies throughout history would occur because that lesson was not learned from me reminder via the mistake that she made which was to teach us so we shouldn't make that mistake was not learned was not recognized and I want to teach you something very deep I won't teach you something that's so awesome and it's connected to what we said before I mentioned that from Hough Sivan which it seems it's safe to say it's I'm conjecturing but it's safe to say that that's when Mary made the mistake from cops even until tisha Bob it's a series of fifty days forty nine fifty days seven weeks was the idea of a series of seven weeks the idea is as follows we see from Pesach until shrews from Pesach Joshua's is also seven weeks fifty days what is the concept Pesach Oh was when Chloe's rel was redeemed from Egypt we ceased to be slaves to Paro and we became slaves to Kurdish more who became God's people we were redeemed but what was the purpose of the redemption and just that we should be free it was so that we should receive the tire on our scene I meaning the culmination the climax obviously s monstrum of the exodus from Egypt was on shoes shoes was the entire purpose of the receiving of the tire was the entire purpose of the Exodus so the completion of paisa was unsure there was a developing seven times seven we have seven weeks seven times seven there's a developing that's occurring growing growing growing until it reaches the climax the thing that was was conceived let us say on the first day but they have Pesach is completed and born so to speak on the fiftieth day and that's what we have also from Hoffs even until tisha buff from Huff's even interestingly if you look in your sitter you will find that in some su Durham that there are special sleeveless there are to be Santa cops even cuffs even was the day in history that was used as a commemoration of the tremendous massacres that occurred in the years talked and taught and there was a tremendous amount of Jewish people that were murdered and as the Crusaders came through Europe and now is the day that was chosen as the as the day of commemoration of that terrible time and what is interesting about Huff's even is that it's the day when the fruits the fruits begin to be completed if I'm not mistaken I'm pretty sure that this is correct the fruits begin to be completed and the idea is that we start to see something that's coming to a completion there's a development and I'm saying that there's something that's going to develop from cops even until tisha Bluff okay what is it that develops here so you see that in in this context it's important to understand that what Miriam did was a small mistake it was a small mistake on her part but just like we spoke about last week with the Naseem and the sium have to be people who represent Thomas Roe the greatest possible thing they raise on Easter oh they are the examples from Israel and we need to follow after our leaders they raise up that flag for us to see who we should be so the same thing is also true in the opposite sense if we see a mere man if he are making a mistake it means that there's something a mistake that could be bound to happen to us if our leader has a has a has something that's going on that is negative it could be that that leader has that you saw because we have athletes Iran could also be as we said earlier that the leader Hashem places that mistake into the leader so that not because they actually have that problem but because I mean Cyril has that problem or that problem is bound to occur so we could say that the mistake that Meera made on cops even of speaking negatively and Aaron heard it and he therefore also had sorrows that mistake was the seed was the beginning a cuffs even of that which would develop over the next seven weeks by tisha bhav you would see the the results of that see just like Mike from pace after shoes you saw the exodus resulted in the receiving of the Taira so to this small mistake of a Miriam it grew and grew and grew until the spies made their mistake they didn't learn from that which was in front of them and how many still didn't realize the message or they didn't take it to heart enough not to speak negatively not to speak falsely not to believe a false report what you know and we think about it if we think about it what was the problem what is the idea of Lashon Hara what is the mistake that Miriam made was a mistake that the maragua made Mira's mistake was a different mistake Miriam was truly concerned about Moshe and what was right indeed she was saying something because it was a constructive criticism but still Miriam and Aaron didn't understand Moshe I mean that's what a Shem says to them you don't understand what Charmaine was a different level wasn't a much higher level Moshe could receive neva spontaneously at any moment an avi couldn't received spontaneously navoo there was only at certain times ma she could receive it at any time therefore he had to remain pure and he couldn't be with his wife he couldn't be married anymore they didn't understand that that's a that's the the crux the root of the mistake of Lashon Hara is I don't know that other person I'll tell Dana severe hutch the yellow climber I don't know that person I don't know what challenges they're going through I don't know exactly what's going on in that person's life I remember I had a one time I had an interaction with somebody very negative interaction a person yelled at me whatever this story was where the situation was and a while later I had another interaction with him where I where I came back to him and I said I apologize I apologize for judging him and he said to me that yeah he was going through a very difficult time in his life when that whole situation occurred and once I heard that I felt complete compassion for him we don't understand another person we don't know what's going on in their life someone lashes out at us we don't really know what that person is going through or what they've gone through throughout their life that's led them to this point and so the message of the end of parshas Velasco in the beginning of partial sloth is I'll talk discover how to heal my coma don't judge that person you don't know Miriam and iron didn't know that Moshe they didn't understand the level that he was on and the and the this the spies as well what was their mistake their mistake was hey they really saw they made a mistake it was because of their their bias their fear if they would come into our to stir they would lose their grip positions but Mohammed where they saw what they saw they saw that era was a place of incredible danger Giants people who were in a natural way was in a place that was easy to conquer yet the mistake was that they didn't have a place they spoke not in their place they didn't have a right to say that ami Stroh wouldn't get help from my coach Mark Luke who didn't know what he was doing bringing ami sterling to Artie Strauss Cousteau who took care of us you're gonna continue to take care of us they spoke in an inappropriate place if they would have just said the facts without giving any advice without stating their own personal conclusions it would have been fine it's a land awesome fruits very tall inhabitants it's a great challenge stop if they would have stopped they're not spoken out of place not spoken out of turn not spoken about something that they didn't know anything about they couldn't see the higher reality which was what is it me when I cook who is with us just like Miriam and Aaron couldn't see the high reality what is my Shura banal a prophet who is on a higher level of what Kurdish war who is with him that's the essence of Lashon Hara is when we don't understand who that person is that we're speaking about we don't get it we don't know what's really going on we don't really appreciate the challenges that the person might be having the the the difficulties that might be in their lives the situation that surrounds what went on we don't we just don't know and that's the mistake that the that Miriam made which resulted in the mistake of the spies because they didn't learn a lesson and it resulted in the sin of Amy's Roe believing the russian of the spies which has its effect until today through tisha while we still mourn we don't ever be szymek gosh we don't have a place to truly connect or Kodesh bahu because of that little disconnect from the reality not not being willing to understand perhaps that there could be a higher reality that there could be a mushroom and was on a higher level who's more connected to a goodness for who that there's an that that army Sorrell is could be on a higher level we're so connected to about who that doesn't matter all the dangers not having that understanding created a disconnect from a kodesh bar who that resulted in a destruction of a base some English where we stand today still disconnected still even though we're back in there Cicero we've returned we have you shall I'm amazing miracles but still we don't have a basa mikdash still we don't have the open revelation of a kodesh baku that he's promised us and so we need to understand as we watch things develop in the world as we watch things develop in our lives that there are seeds that are planted from one moment that that are revealed in a later time there seeds that are planted in time whether it's coming from pace after schwas and and watching the the things that have gone on in the world we watched as as this amazing plague took hold and created devastation where there was physical devastation or economic devastation acaba who does things and we watch as these things develop and what are we talking about what's going on in in in current events the things that go on we need to understand that there's a development there's there are seeds that are planted and they develop and we watch them unfold and there's an unfolding in time and it's true from pace off the shores is true from cops even to tactician above there are other points in the calendar that are connected whether it's from you know Rosh Hashanah through the end of Circus which is a 21-day period or whether it's from each of the days of circus until Hanukkah each of those days is a 70 day period but all these points in time are connected and the point here is that we can watch in our lives we can choose to learn the lessons from those who made mistakes and not repeat those mistakes and we can also choose to grow to grow to composer Kadesh boy who just like Pesach was a time where we left miss Ryan we had an exodus and we grew when we grew and grew and developed and the seed that was planted we saw the the result which was the receiving of the Taira so I could walk would help us I'd want to bless you and I ask you to bless me I should help us that we should be able to use this time who is the time to be something that was destroyed because of sinners cleaning because of Lashon Hara because of negativity she um she happens to use this time to learn a lesson from Miriam to learn a lesson of despise the great havoc that results from speaking negatively I could for who should help us during this time to raise the level of love there's so much separation in the world there's so much physical separation between us and also the hearts are separated because problems should help us to come close closer to each other closer together despite the physical distance that we might have some we should help us to come closer some should help us to speak lush and tell you not to speak loshon Hara shrim should help us we should be Zeta to see the seed which she planted is semi-double aftercoma harris at smith the seed which he planted which has been growing and growing growing over the last three thousand years we should be zakat to see that seed develop into a beautiful summer Beautif or plant with the coming of messiah thank you so much for listening a wonderful Shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.carmensognonvi.com/newsletter [Music]