ROSH HASHANA - 2025 #whatapod EP. 7

You're building Hasham's ego when you say kurdesh kurdesh kesh >> when somebody calls you out on the street you could take it so many ways >> how come they wish to allow us to have a relationship with him >> the end of the day a lot of Ingalat are mentioning all year round and they know it's this day or die welcome back to another episode >> we discussed last time that we want to do a whole series on The basics >> basics of basics of your discretet. >> There was five kinds. >> Something like that. >> There was >> Let me see if you remember. >> Avoid >> number four. That's right. >> How do you get it right every time? >> Did I do the That's what I do. >> You got the mics correct. >> That's right. >> And the letter doesn't say. Yeah. Okay. That's number five. You always need to remember >> I'm missing number two. >> All we know is a company that takes you to >> pay that. >> Yeah. No, they're not paid yet. Okay. Leo, which means >> to fear the relationship, to miss the relationship, >> fear of missing out. >> Fear of missing out the relationship. >> Making sure we have a deep relationship with Hashem. And therefore this guy is going to be based on Hashem that we're always afraid of of messing up. We always want to make sure we're doing it properly. Not cuz I'm trembling. I'm not afraid of Hashem and the punishment. >> Cuz I love him so much. I >> love I don't want to mess up. >> What if I don't love him yet? >> You obviously don't know who he is, >> right? >> Yeah. >> How do we get to know then we got to know who he is? So we've got to first believe, as we said last time, believe that that's what we're here for. to get to have a relationship and it's the greatest pleasure. It's two steps we have to remember. A we're here to have a relationship with Hashem and everything we do is to build a relationship and there's no greater pleasure than having a relationship with Hashem. Then you're going to work in it. How you going to do that? By making sure you know who he is. That's going to be a complete different topic. Not one of the five which is which is a knowing who he is. Therefore, and therefore rely on him. >> How do I find out who he is? And he wrote a book. >> Nissen Black says he found out the people of the book don't read the book. >> I mean very sad. >> It was a harsh one for him when he came. >> Yeah. He thought we all know it. >> Yeah. >> And the truth is I've been learning so much more lately. Um it's fascinating. Everything's in it. >> So it's the more you learn to >> the more you understand who he is. >> It's endless. >> And strictly to see him you'll find out who he is. And then you'll see how much he took care of us, how much he loves us. And we will naturally fall in love with him. We'll have real beten because I'm trying to get what I need. So I'm going to have to you know mean it's going to be based on a minute because I know who he is. I'm going to rely on him. >> That's for another time I think because it's it's a whole like I think last time we stopped by in mid-sentence. >> Yes. >> So mid-sentence ben not for now unless we want to go there. No, the the thing that we think is is past past fat. How do you say that in English? >> It's I think it's a universal word. >> Yes. For past is >> appropriate time. >> Appropriate time. And people are very nervous about they're going to write. Listen to me very carefully. >> Okay. We've been there. We've been over the last that goes on in the head even in my head. and I need to fight it out every year from scratch. So, I'm here to fight it out with you. Hopefully, >> by all means, please >> help a few people realize that is not a scary >> yo. They're going to write if I'm going to live or die. They're going to they're going to write how I'm going to live and die. I mean, exactly right. We die every day. >> We don't die the last day of our lives. We die every day and then we stop dying. >> Okay. >> Right. So what happens? >> Exactly. Um they're they're going to write down exactly which punishments if and they're going to write down the exact amount of incense, diamonds, nickels, cents, how much you're going to make this year. So you better shape up. >> Okay. It's one way of viewing. >> So you have you have suggested another way. >> Yeah. I mean, if I'd be your guard, I wouldn't want you to feel that about me. further. >> Right. >> I'm supposed to be I'm supposed to be your loving god and I'm supposed to like we spoke this whole thing about building relationship with him >> and suddenly >> you're fearing that I'm going to beat the living daylights out of you like why are you thinking that about me? Don't I love you? >> Cuz we call it finding me in the to the >> doesn't say >> not in the Yeah. certainly the speaks about it. Absolutely. What is what what's the term in in >> when I say I mean find me the words >> so what is it it it just says it says you know is it doesn't say >> is not >> no it's >> really yeah >> so why do we scream much before >> cuz it's cuz it's yeah I'm not saying it's a bad puss I'm just saying that is not the puss where the tora says. >> So what is it? >> Um the says >> that's it. >> That's all the to says. Yeah. >> And if I remember correctly is which means crying, weeping. >> Yeah. Am I going the right direction or I'm >> cuz I know where you're coming from. But I wouldn't I wouldn't focus on that. >> But that's the >> Okay. >> Y we said we're going to fight it out. I'm not trying to fight you. I'm trying to understand. >> This is on my mind. This is it. >> So y or day of crying? >> Day of crying. >> I hear you. Yeah. >> So we're going to cry. >> That's that's fun. >> It doesn't sound like a yam to me. >> That's right. It's a yam. In fact, the puss in I knew I'm going to get this wrong. Is it so as a says about >> that's a feast. >> That's a feast. Today is the day. go eat drink. It's >> a day of praying. So first of all again doesn't say in the Torah and I'm not saying it's not also a >> okay >> it's not the essence of the day essence all the Torah says is so what is the day first before the essence historically what happens you know gave us what happened >> also good but that's not go a little further back what's the day >> day of creation >> thank you hashm created what? >> I don't know because he was he created created the world. >> Thank you. >> The he didn't create the world. >> I'm such an you see you see the the rabbis when they speak and if they would um miss a cut it out. I need to know everything and I'm here the exact opposite. I don't know nothing. >> No because look Hashem created udam. That means it's interesting creation of the world which was five six days earlier. Yeah. >> Five days earlier doesn't mean anything. That's right. So we celebrate. So it happens to be it's a new year. Now just like p a mistake which people have um remind me to come back to because it's all it's all a buildup. A mistake which people have that we um it's a day to remember something which happened like you know July 4th is that because something happened in 1776 so we you know we celebrate we don't thank Hashem on to remember today the day Hashem took us out of it goes it's the other way around it's because it's and that's why Hashem took us out of that day. So >> that means the day every day has a certain power which we could tap into. There's a spiritual energy to every day. >> How do I know this? It says they gave they gave matzah to the mal when they came to vis gave them was 2,000 years before. So why wasn't 2,000 or was a thousand years >> a day. So they always knew that was a power to go free. How was it done through matzah? So they did it then. >> That's why the took us out of that was the the the perfect day. >> What you're saying is the gil day is already in existence >> for sure. Now every day of the year has a certain energy. So that we could tap into the spiritual energy of cha on. That's the day which Hashem designated. There is a folk that has a separate name for every single day in the year. You know about this? >> I don't know about this. It's interesting. But I think the Jewish people have too. We just don't yet know like it took much later till we found out. They felt they always felt the 25th of the something that they didn't know what it was until that year. Oh, now now we could a year later they felt it in the in the in the day. >> Right. That's why I don't mean mean to be ultra firm and to hacken or anything because I'm not that type. But people who use the English birthdays or English anniversaries is a little silly because there's nothing in the day you know of December 13th >> to you, >> right? >> But the day you got married, that means it's the day which Hashem says that the two of you are getting together. So each year has a power that the husband and wife could come close to each other on that day. >> Otherwise, it's just a reactant day in the calendar. So we should celebrate. >> We should celebrate the >> not because I don't care about that. Celebrate them both. But I'm saying when your birthday is there something about the day which Hashem says this day brings you into the world every year. Every year this day brings you back into the world >> but only that has a spiritual energy to that day. >> Here and there I remember beautiful. >> No I like I like how >> where's that Where's that >> in capital Bison? >> Bison. Very good. That's great. >> That's right. >> It's two separate seeking but it's a play on it. It's a it's not that's right. It's it's a it's a play on the words. Anyway, having said all of that, so what is what's the spiritual energy we can tap into the power >> creation >> of creation of mankind more than creation? Creation of man, >> right? the creation of >> so I hear this from from Burkwitz um who's the biggest of >> yeah and he he always speaks about this that what does when we d when we dash we want to live everyone's afraid we're going to die this year >> right so we die when we want to live for one second living the the birds have to live too correct fish have to live. >> They also need probably well they they need they all need that >> right >> the power of giving life and sustenance was a day before Hashem created what does Hashem create on the fifth day life >> right >> so when he created what was not just regular life meaningful life meaningful life >> so when we We want to live, not just survive. You want to live human life. >> So the din is are we going to live this coming year or die this coming year like he died last year. For the last 20 years, we've been dead. >> We've been It doesn't mean physically living or dying. >> Yeah. Or or somebody that already made progress and was alive this year >> will continue being alive or even more alive. >> Even more even more. So the dead and alive compared to where he can. >> For sure. For sure. So it happens to be a heavy day cuz I don't want to just survive. I want to live and beaten and den I want to live this year. >> So it's not heavy because we're scared. It's heavy because I want to utilize the >> There's a question which on the show ask when the Rambam says there's a the Rambam says there's a vual. Yeah. The vual. What happened to that? >> So the so the Rambam makes it very literal. You know if it's if if last year you did a virus you'll die this year and all the plat they say don't make it so it's not true we see that with the year we see we see it that die >> so what's the >> so there's different answers but I think is no what he's saying is if you were that means last year you died says oh you want to die you'll die next year again but those who want to live will live >> so we beg we want to live this year you meaningful life. >> You created this a world for a relationship, not just to survive. We want to live this year. >> Yeah. So when we say it's not just leave me alive and not in the hospital. >> That's right. >> It's it's get my potential. Help me be. Yeah. >> Because that's what's the difference between a human and an animal. If you think about it, it sounds a little scary, but there's not much of a difference cuz what we do most of the day is we do animalistic. I don't mean in a bad way. >> We eat, we sleep, whatever animals do. So, what makes you different? >> Godliness, >> which is I'm choosing to to to to have a relationship with Hashem. >> And that's what makes you as in life. I'm saying so is the day which Hashem decides because the spiritual energy of the day is the day which is created. Again, a day before if you're asking for is a day ask for pus. I mean to say he put in the spiritual energy of the day a day before to survive to have to gaz all that animals need but created the next day he created a human life and human life is so much more meaningful >> but he's going to write on the day how much dollars you're going to have in your account. >> Yes I know. Yes. But that's not the essence of the day. Okay. The essence of is how much you'll have versus how much one would have. Are you going to live with this year or you just going to survive? >> So, okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. >> Come back to the deal. >> We'll get back to that soon. Just remember that we still need to go. >> Okay. So, you you first of all, what you were just saying is this fear of missing out. It's the same fear of missing out. >> Indeed. It's not a fear of oh he's gonna kill people and >> in a way it's much worse. Worst case you die everyone dies eventually but this is much worse. If you're going to live your life without having a relationship with Hashem is worse than dying. >> Not everybody can understand what you're saying. >> I think everyone can understand if you take it any example that um you can utilize a machine until it ends. Okay. But if you don't utilize it it was worse that you never had it. Everyone's going to die eventually. >> What kind of machine? Give me >> any machine. Anything you want. Anything you have and you don't utilize it. It's a shame that you had it. It's worse. >> If a car is sitting in the garage and I didn't utilize it, >> that's right. It's worse in a way that then your car eventually dies. Okay. But I I I I had a car for 10 years for 20 years. If you had if you have a good car for 20 years and you utilize it, eventually it it breaks it. You know, there's a expiration date to everything. Then at a certain point it's over. That's that's that's life. But having a beautiful good car in your garage and you never use it, isn't that big a tragedy? Then eventually the car died. >> It's more painful, right? >> It's a tragedy. >> And even better, you didn't even know you have it. >> You had full access to it. For for example, somebody had a somewhere for billions of dollars and he's a homeless. >> Yeah. >> Maybe that's a good mushul. >> Very good. would give would say that the says how beloved it is that we're called even more than that that he told us that we're why is it a bigger love than actual so he would give an example that homeless person you know standing in the lives on the street >> well hence the name homeless person and he has in his you know van and his trolley in his wagon he like blankets and whatever and stuff. Someone one day someone let's say wins a lottery and he wants to do ultra estic act and um goes and he takes a million dollars cash and puts it under, you know, the whole pile of blankets in his trolley. Amazing. He wants to he shouldn't even get a thank you. So now this homeless person is walking around Manhattan pushing a trolley with a million dollars cash underneath. He doesn't know what >> so we're but that if Hashem wouldn't have told us you would have been the regular go. >> Wow. >> So the fact that we know so beautiful now utilize it. It's a tragedy if we don't utilize. >> Uhhuh. >> So we beg the whole it's a beautiful day. I'm begging. I want to live this year. Not to die. We've died enough. >> Okay. So now what you were saying and the the dollars the dollars go put your effort into the end of the day a lot of are mentioning all year round and they know it's this day or die. >> I agree. So there's two ways to look at it again. Of course we should ask for absolutely but here's the two scenarios. You either ask for pan on this day and don't have a relationship with Hashem or have a relationship with Hashem and not so much money. Who's going to be happier? >> So you're suggesting >> I'm not saying we shouldn't have pun. You should absolutely have him for but when you say you know I mean >> you're better off >> you you're good. No I'm saying you put it into two words. There's plenty of small words in which you're asking from you have so much give me. But the mean to fill it. >> Would you say that when he davs for the relationship with Hashem and he should be alive? Alive as in alive. >> Yeah. Human life. Yeah. >> Yeah. Like what do you call that? What do you call that in English? >> And then just having a relationship with Hashem. Living the way we would utilize your your your being as much as you could. >> Okay. That would include already a good budget cuz otherwise it would take him away from the relationship and from everything else. >> No, that's also bad but again I don't mind if you also ask for other things but that's not what we're here for. >> It's a cheaper version doning only for panosa. >> It's you you we're missing out on understanding that there's something more. Why should we only ask for that when you can ask for something so much more? >> So >> and you you must agree you can be a millionaire and depressed. >> Yes. You cannot be have a deep meaningful relationship with Abish and be depressed. >> Wow. >> So it's just not worth your while spending all day asking for pan. Now again if you have pus and your gazint it's easier to build a relationship with Hashem. So you ask for it. That's not what the essence of the day is. And the fear is certainly not the fear may die this year. It's the fear of not of >> not utilizing the machine the the godliness the potential the kas. How do you say the kas the the midest the the what you have your your your um your essence? >> Yeah. >> So that's what you're asking for? You're asking for an upgrade or just to utilize it better? >> To utilize I have a tremendous machine which has so much potential and we're on 5%. >> Because we don't even realize what potential we have. >> If we would only know. >> If we would only know. Why don't we know? You you just said he didn't let us know of our potential. >> He did. I said the book. I told you he wrote a book. >> It's a bestseller. >> Read the book. >> So much. >> Where in the book does it say my potential? >> Um first of all it says last week's para. >> Okay. So as a son >> what would be as a son of God? Thank you. >> You probably have a good potential. And and it it it says it it says Hashem is there serving us like all the time like what he did for us and I don't need anything from you. Just know that I'm I'm going to be your God. You'll be my nation. Isn't that the potential is not what you could do. The potential is what you could receive. I'll tell you a good line used to say you know me and you are both not American. I don't know if you know a line from Kennedy. Ask not >> what you can do for the country. Ask not what what ask not what the country could do for you. Ask what you could do for the country. >> Isn't that a Russian line? >> It's a great line and I think it's important line every stable any organization and it's like don't stop asking what they can do for you. Roll up your sleeves and do something. >> So should we ask what we can do for God? >> So is to say with the other guy just the opposite. Ask not what you could do for God. He's fine. Ask what would you allow Hashem to do for you? He's giving us just allow. So you're asking about potential. Forget about potential which we do have tremendous potential. putting that aside. Ask not to be used to have this line a lot. Ask not what you could do for God. Ask what would you allow Hashem to do for you? Just Hashem wants to give us and we're blocking it. We're fighting him. You know, we want to be our own. Let him give you. He's got so much to offer. You have to be vulnerable and allow him to give you. >> By default, we're fighting his flow. How do we stop ourselves from fighting his flow? by giving up >> the the you >> yeah he's giving us allow him to give you stop running the show >> so it's the ego that gets in the way of us and the ego is called >> whatever you want to call >> I just summarized for myself a few things that click while you're talking things are clicking in my >> everything makes sense it's pretty simple we've confused it it's pretty simple if you take the entire says I created you I'll take care of you and I love All you have to do is allow yourself to be vulnerable and let me love you. Let me give you No, no, no. I want to do this. I want to do that. I'll take care of you. Stop. >> Sounds like all we have to do is sit on a mountain and and and sing. >> Yeah. >> That's right. And that's the we're heading there. There's a mashia. It's just going to do that. >> That's so simple. But but it's so difficult to let go. Have you ever gone Have you ever gone um skydiving? >> Not yet. I'm afraid of heights, but um they I've never gone, but they say the fall is just so beautiful >> after after that first jump. >> But you don't jump once. >> You don't jump. They push you out. It's almost impossible. That's my point. It's so difficult to let go, >> right? >> But once you do, it's beautiful. >> It's beautiful. >> And that's the lesson of life that he's here to love you. >> Okay. Now you go back to Yamrio, >> the day of crying. >> So >> that's what it's called. >> And I get it. I get it. >> Literal translation. >> No, some people say translate it differently. It says um to means it'll be blowing chauffeur, right? Yeah. >> You took it to the detailed which one? The y. >> Yeah. >> But translation is a day of of blowing chauffeers. So some people say it's a tou everyone's in a bad mood. >> I know a few people. >> Anyway, in pash bulak you're thinking bulock. You go back to bulak. >> Yeah. When Bulock sent Bam to Kalis and we know the story he didn't and Hashem didn't allow he tried Hashem didn't allow him he started benching one of the he said he says we should say during which is so we all know doesn't see anything bad in us we say doesn't see anything. Hashem doesn't see any problems. >> That's another way of getting out of ourselves. It's we that see the problem in us. It's not him that sees the problem in us. >> It's also true. >> Is like trumpets like a king is coming. >> But what's the um what's the continuation? It has to be in the >> It's a little difficult simple translation. the the medish tried to explain that that >> okay >> there and also says the medish was they were very good generation the next generation had the power of as we know >> um walked around the walls of so is a cha okay >> um look rashi which we know rashi is >> rashi however deep it is it's also So he likes to go and he brings a friendship. >> Wow. >> Which means we have a deep relationship with him. Where did I took it from Rashi and therefore I said if that's in that puss why isn't a day of friendship why isn't it after we blow what's the first gets up [Music] knows how to build a relationship with >> what no way >> you know how to build a relationship with not that knows how to blow what would you turn to knows how to cry >> you are so lucky to sit with me not knowing all this and getting excited about this information because if you would sit here with the rabbi that knows all this [Music] >> I'm actually I can't believe it you took it from a crying day >> to a friendship >> you might you might cry from excitement from from from uh >> longing it is a day of the month of longing I'm gonna we're heading to the day of yo It's all the tora says you >> we should go meditate for 30 days now >> we should that's what because we're together with him we're not in if you're in the business we are this month we're all meditating looking forward we just blew and everyone's like in a interesting mood whatever you're thinking that you know how to sha well or maybe it means You know the you know the of I think they know how to build a relationship. >> Is this what you just said? The whole is >> is the day which friendship with Hashem. >> Wow. >> That is a whole new right there. >> There's a butt. The butt is it can't just focus as a day of friendship. We need to remember what we spoke about the previous episodes which is the the power of the day. It's known that the day of and then sikas we're gonna have a half of if you remember what we spoke about then means it's it's the the knowledge that this is the this is the real this is reality so being bel >> being serious >> so it used to bother me is a very heavy day in bells now fakeet used to bother me if it's all about extra dollar that is why that is why they spend in shield all day such heaviness so >> I would say the opposite said that's when I would understand. Oh, so the reason that our he knows what he's doing, right? >> Cuz today is it's it's this day we're going to make sure we have it a relationship, >> right? Then we have a better even better relationship, >> meaningful relationship. Now, now again, like I said last time, everyone in the individual doesn't mean you need to copy your then it would be it would be false. It wouldn't be authentic. It's certainly a sim certainly a happy day but but it's also about the so that is why just to take it to the next step of what is if I may because it's not just a it's also we know the essence of the day has been >> meaning why does he need us >> so there's so many question why does he need to ask the other question is um means like you're making him king as if what would happen without it I always like to ask a question imagine we're all on strike nobody says melik is he He's is he not going to become Sounds like a wicked elections. He's going to win anyway. He's been winning the last 5,785 years. Don't tell me there's elections and we're voting for Hashem. Who then or or to rephrase it? Who's that candidate? Who's running against him? Like Putin Putin's been winning the democratically elect, you know, elections for the last for >> There's nothing else going on. Why does he have That's right. There's nothing going on. The answer is that you and me are running against them. Because every time we upset about something, oh, why did this happen? In essence, we're saying, had I been the one running the show, I would have never have done this to me. Oh, so you know how to do things better. So my taking upon yourself, you recognizing that you did a fabulous job up until now, and I trust you that you're going to do a good job. means I'm not fighting. It means I am not >> getting in the way. >> I'm not the candidate. I'm not the opposing team. I'm on your team, which means I trust that you'll do a good job. >> So that's what means because if you're upset, that means you don't like my plan. >> Wow. Wow. Never thought of that. >> That's why it's >> Yeah, that's what that's why it's >> Yeah. Because if you're upset, meaning oh, you have a better plan than me. Oh, you don't believe me. You don't trust Don't think I'm doing this. >> That's right. >> So, what's it got to do with friendship? It's all one thing. It's the ultimate day of friendship. Meaning to say, today's the day we're going to start all over again to recognize and acknowledge you created the world. You know best. You're going to do a fabulous job. >> I'm going to trust you more. >> I'm going to trust you more this year. By saying that, you're letting go. By letting go, you free fall into his embrace >> and you allow allow more space. So therefore it's because it's a time when we preparing to have that embrace which is sikas entering the embrace of hashem >> and the yadin is like you said life and death for the the the real the meaningful >> wow >> but the way you do it through making him king what does it mean making him king acknowledging that he did a great job and he'll continue that's why it's this day the day which he started 5,78 >> 56 >> years ago this year. >> Oh. >> Okay. So 5,786 years ago today. What was today? 5,786 years ago. >> I mean in oh today nothing >> today like in lol whatever whatever day of lol it is nothing. But why is it called you may >> because what did hashem do before creating the world? >> He was planning >> wanted to create a world. >> What did he want? He wanted to give us a relationship. So now's the day we can tap into it. This the month before the is getting excited. He's going to do something. What's he going to do? He's going to create a world. Why? In order to give us the pleasure of having a relationship, we will be. How will we tap into by saying yes, you did it. You've been doing a fantastic job up until now. I trust you. You'll do a good job this year. >> So basically what you're saying is there's no need to add any to whatever is in the just >> That's right. People think the is like missing out on things, >> right? It's missing out on >> by the way. It's a >> there's like a a 1% >> I could have started with that. Not just pun living. If we're so into living >> health >> health and just alive, not dying physically. >> Yeah, there's nothing. >> Where is it? So, everyone zooms into one one chapter of Nanaf, >> right, >> which was added later. >> By the way, I say it quick because it gets me too nervous. >> Me, too. Um but people make the entire out of the one chapter which is added later. In fact if you forget to say and all that what's you have to repeat >> yes >> no but one second. Yes. Why? If it's all about >> cuz that's okay. Fine. We add those things. >> But the essence of >> Now again, if it's a yadin, why shouldn't the essence be I need to be healthy this year? It's not. It's all about time covered. The world should see that you do a fabulous job. >> Why? Why? What is how does no meal is that thing? See, I'm I'm such a good student. >> You're a great student. >> No, if you needed to teach someone, it should be me in the chair. >> It is. I'm so glad you're sitting here. Right. So, if you didn't mly, you missed the point. >> And you have to d the whole Ding. I If you didn't, you know, for >> you, it's not for him. It's not that he didn't hear about. But it's also not about >> right. >> Again, if if the way people view it, it's a Muslim. We don't know. That's why we cry about the if you would only know what you're saying like where am I where's my money you don't find it in aing or health >> right >> cuz it's irrelevant but if you don't say I'm you missed the whole >> I would soo a little the irrelevancy of it because a lot of people are looking forward for these days oh now we're going to make our budget >> I'll say it's irrelevant because when you're focused on the higher purpose you're automatically going to have everything I >> and that's something that I didn't understand really until you just spelled it out so well. >> You just said you're right. >> Let's do >> then then we're excited for the >> Yes. So again, the whole is not just me be my king but the whole world should see the entire world. Your name should be famous in the world. What does that mean? That imagine a world It's been emotional all day. Imagine a world the whole world knows that Hashem is doing a great job and nobody would have darkness. That's called days of mash. >> That's all we want cuz then everything will fall into place. So historically it happened 5,76 56 years ago. That's what's happening every year. Do it again. Start again the process. >> I heard a beautiful va today. I don't know if you saw the today's said that is >> okay >> and it has to go together. Why is together to get you need a preparation just like you're going to prepare for a wedding. You're not going to land the day of the wedding and going to run into the hole. For me it's very relevant because I'm so it's very exciting for me. You're not going to roll in and start looking for a hole the day of. Not the day before. And you're not going to call the musician and you're gonna start you're preparing a few a few months before. >> That's the reason the minimum is like 30 days before. >> Yeah. >> Now that V is is beautiful. It's relevant. Now everyone could use that V wherever they look at >> right. >> But all the more so if you're planning to have a good year as in relationship with Hashem, you can't just fall into relationship. And that is why speaks about we're preparing for we're preparing to start again a new new life. That means Hashem created us and said after he created animals and he says I'm going to make sure animal kingdom survives. He added another thing the next day. Human beings will have the ability to have a relationship with Hashem. And each year a new he gives us that to zoom into that to tap into that so that we can have a relationship. So it's a year to wow you the bun the creator of the entire universe would lower yourself down so that we could be one with you. Yeah. How does it work? I don't know. And if you have any questions that should be how come allows himself to have to allow us to have a relationship with him. So it's unbelievable. Unbelievable. But the way to do that is to recognize it. It doesn't go with just eating and and then sleeping and having fun. It has to means make sure you're on good terms with them. Make sure you have a good relationship with them. Make sure you don't mess up. Make sure you don't have anything just he wants something from you do it. That's and it's not just about you. It's about everyone together. So we beg over that the should be known over the world. So everyone should have should take part in this relationship. Hashem feels bad for every other every year we're not connected to him. Not cuz he needs it because we need it. People are just hanging around not connected and it's sad. That's why we ded and not just a survival year with a lot of money and health which help we should all have it. Not just a real meaningful life, >> quality. >> That's right. >> One of the things you said before I asked you about people who don't know what a relationship is and you asked how would you build any relationship. >> Yeah. >> Do you have a good tip of how to start any relationship which of course in our topic includes Hashem? >> Yeah. So the it's a very good question. Um, one of the most difficult things in people who have been hurt in relationships is to be vulnerable, to be open, to be um, to trust the relationship. Okay? So, I think one of the first things it's difficult, but we have to you have to allow yourself to trust that does love you cuz I'm not going to build a relationship yet with someone like I don't know. It's a standoff. >> How how do you know that Hashem loves you? So we have to back up to and that's why part of it is happening again we the bug and it's happening because why did he create the world >> to offer you that relationship. So it always comes back to today's the day which as if nothing again today he's going to judge me by the way the first was what the original first one >> was not a yadin maybe >> that's my question it's a yadin what did he do then he was born comes into the world and then imagine he starts off his life with it's yadin today I was terrible last year you were nothing last year you didn't exist >> didn't that happened the first >> it could be but it was later it was in the afternoon. I'm talking about entering the >> day start with the it can't be the essence is essence is oh you just came into the world do you recognize who just created you >> hashem so when we go back to our first original day like hashem put us here in the world why what's what's in it for him seriously you're going to keep shabas for him and he's going to be happy now you know you're building's ego when you say kuresh kesh kesh he's fine >> it doesn't his ego can't go is it doesn't need. >> Yeah. I always I give the example. Imagine you're walking in the street and there's a bunch of ants, you know, running around on the floor doing their thing. And as you go by, all the ants stop and bow their head in awe. They say, "Woo! A human being. >> I hope that doesn't make you feel good. If yeah, you need, you know, you should seek professional help." Now, we think we do is absolutely fine. Now, of course, you're going to hear in which is true that you know, Hashem needs our mitzvah, but it's part of it. Hashem put himself in a situation to need our mitzvah because that's how you're going to build a relationship, right? Because if the other party doesn't doesn't give it, then you're not going to build a relationship. >> So, why does enjoy a relationship of ants? >> He doesn't enjoy relationship. He wants us to enjoy the relationship. >> That's it. See, he's putting himself in a situation to be needy in order for us to receive the relationship. that's going through too much. It is >> it's because he loves us so much. >> But on the other hand, there is something in it for him. I can't say for him, but the fact that we are we're part of him. So it's not ant. It's not really ants. It's it's it's him. We're him. You know, you said before B. >> Yeah. Um there's a awesome if I may give a compliment to doesn't need my he says the asking like who are they that you're always thinking of them the asking them said like do you want to leave those Jews alone like who are they you going crazy over them who are they so what was his answer what's his They're a little less than I lines. >> Wow. >> How powerful. You know who we are. Little We're all little godlets. >> We're a little less than the starlight. >> We should be so embarrassed of ourselves of how limited we think of ourselves. >> Yeah. We are so we're huge. So, how come Hashem would allow I'm opening a bunch of topics. How come Hashem would allow parts of him to think so little of themselves? >> There's a very good question. Then you go into because you can't force anything as soon as we The greatest gift gave us was free will because otherwise you're a robot >> and are not part of that. They're not >> they don't have they don't have they don't have you don't get to details because this means hashem is everywhere >> right >> hashem is but that part that essence that we have free will even don't >> so it's the greatest gift if the would would would would make us do anything we're robot the downside of having free will is we can think very little of ourselves the downside of having free will is you can think you are nothing. There's a downside to free will. >> We could create atom bombs because we have free will. Animals, >> but that's not even all of it. I mean, because if we're infinite, we're infinite. >> But on the other hand, we're infinite. We have the tools of creation in our hands. >> Wow. >> Soon is the time you get back into that. So you wonder how do you build your relationship? Know all of this. Know who theisha is. Know he doesn't need anything from you. He's your loving father in heaven. He has absolutely everything. is fine. He wants you to have a awesome life. That's all he wants. >> And for that reason, he created once a year that we should >> time to remind to remind yourself why he created the world. And therefore, tell yourself and tell the world that he did a great job. He'll do again a great job again. Let go. We're telling ourselves and we're telling the world just let go. Allow him to be king. Stop fighting him. We are the other candidate fighting him. >> Wow. >> Allow him to be the king. Then then life is just so great. That was the most beautiful shot I heard about Roshashuna. >> Thank you. >> I'm grateful and thankful for you coming. >> I'm thankful for giving me an a platform to to share with my friends. The >> beauty of there's so many that could benefit. >> The truth is I want to share with you something interesting. My entire speaking career I mean not not public speaking but um small and speaking to people happened started this time of the year. Some of some of those in Bham now Yinglat may be embarrassed. They're not. They're proud of it. Years ago, I tell you how it all began. It was this time of the year. And it was one Thursday night. I was walking in the street late at night, probably 11:30, 12:00, and I heard a noise from a um upstairs on a on a on a balcony, someone's um porch was like that was a typical, you know, stuff. And someone was like leaning over the porch. He saw me walking past. I was a quilling man. This was >> Come closer to the mic. This was probably probably 18 years ago. I was a colleague and I don't know why he doesn't he didn't know me. He just he saw me walk past and he goes n you excited the shashun is coming. He was like being cynical. So I don't know why Hashem gave me the guts to say um do you want to answer? Can I come up? >> Ah >> we smooed for about an hour two hours. >> Wow. >> And we established then a weekly sh from that thing from >> it still exists. It doesn't because people have moved on life but it was 10 year that that year >> lasted 10 years every single Thursday night they called it the happy Jews. >> Wow. >> They had a website even the happy jersey went on there and I was like they were my like my guinea pigs. I was like learning my on them as a young man. I just met the first time I started learning and on them I taught it. It was this time of the year because people I recogn we we all recognize this this time of the year where people are not happy people are afraid of and how sad is it when people say you know out of shabas you know let me go to sleep and wake up sikas people say that I'm sure you've heard that line >> I used to say that >> it's it's so >> they would only know >> if they would only listen to this episode >> so that's why I went up there and I like wow that's >> wow And as I said, a weekly Shia for 10 years, 10 every single week, just >> that shows you >> when somebody calls you out on the street, you could take it so many ways. >> That's right. I I I wasn't that type. I don't know why sent it on you, you should take it the right way. And you created a 10 years. You know what that is? That's generations. >> A lot of ying went through it. >> So again, it's this time of the year. people because they don't know what it is, >> right? >> I think it's like tishab also we don't know how how to eat it. It's some some things are very similar for for people in >> if you would only know what it is, you can utilize it. You're allowed to allow yourself to cry if you know what >> it's like a sticky time. Shalashidas, by the way, is another example. >> It's funny that Yeah. Yeah. >> We don't know what it is. Like the tuna smell, you know, it's it's a sticky time only because we know our shumer knows it's huge >> and we we don't know what it is, >> right? We want to do something with it. It's a year. We want we don't know what >> it's funny that seems to be right with the acts with the fasting with the white clothes it seems to be much more holy and intense but it's feels lighter than >> it happens to me it's the happiest day of the year >> see maybe we should do another episode says it's a beautiful day is absolutely beautiful day but um I don't think it's for today >> every day could be a beautiful day >> thank you so Well, >> everyone makes that mistake. It's fine. >> Why? >> Because um there's a lot of people name that. >> Yeah. >> That's right. >> Yeah. >> Maybe you can still flip it. >> No, I'm more more than happy. More than happy with the name I was given. Relationship. Amen.