Father and Son: The 13 Principles of JEWISH HASHKAFA

I wasn't always a good student. >> I could have told the rabbis that most positive and mutual relationship with the creator of the world. >> They're coming to shul for Hashem. They're not really giving him something. >> That's one of the biggest issues. God didn't have any need to create the world. >> That's why cookie cutting programs of people all being the same is not longlasting. The fact that we have a wife, is that just so we understand how to have a relationship with Hashem? I wish this would have been a a for you, a test for you in here. You're not going to like this. I didn't like it either. So, I'm going to discuss it on air and if Rebelli wants, he can message me because it seems to me like my approach is right. It's right for you. We're going to stay in touch. Hashem, I love you too. We have the honor of sitting again with myat. We were Zoe to sit one night at Koratos. Uh my father and I after having seen the what a day from were very inspired and we said we have to spend one night together in that happens to be we sat there for 4 hours straight from 1:30 to 4:30 our number and was >> credit for you that you stayed up. >> Yeah. Somehow I made it through but it was very interesting. how do you say uh material and because I saw how wowed I was I told my father we have to sit down and do this on air there's so many more yen that could be to gain from this material and this material is one of the reasons it's so hidden and and it took so long like I was asking you in the middle of doing this I was asking you why is it that each one you found in a different siphon different place and different Why is it so hard to bring it all together? I think the answer was that came down and they broke the so that all the the the cause paused dispersion fragmentation of the toy. >> Right? So you can't find it all in one book. And even if one would try to do a book like we're trying to do now, it would be extremely hard for him. You have to go through a lot in order to piece it together. And each person needs to do it from scratch. You can't just like for for example, if you would try to do the book like what we learned, it might not be because it's designed to be hidden for somebody to work hard for the information. >> I I would say no. Once you know this summary that we're going to go over now, there's hashem. >> Yeah. >> It becomes like a a a puzzle that's put together and it can be very helpful for everyone in life. >> Amazing. >> So, I'm very looking forward very much. I don't think I need to introduce my father again. But uh for those of you who don't know my father lives in and throughout the years you've been dealing with uh many many and was a few other one of them was my father was to um do from scratch and uh many more titles. You can go back in our uh previous episode, episode number one to watch the history if you want. We're going to dive right into the 14 rules. What are we going to call this? >> 13. >> The 13 or 13 like the 13 rules of that apply to everyone that are not so well known. Okay. If you know what's good for you, >> different words, what our Jewish lifestyle is really all about. >> Amazing. So I was very blown away. I'm excited to do for this and I did have questions in the middle which I believe are going to come up again. So let's try dive into it. Please before we start I want to say such to be here again to be able to speak in a way that we can view life from the perspective of two different generations. >> Yeah. And I have to say that we are in the midst of to make and two days. >> Okay. The first podcast we did, it was shortly after we had married off our youngest child. >> Wow. >> Which was sort of like a full circle and sort of ending of a generation, so to speak, >> right? >> Ready to start a new generation. And now >> you're at a place where you're marrying off your first child. >> It's crazy. >> Which is for us marrying our first grandchild, >> right? >> It's like a new era, >> new in life. >> It is. It is >> the next level of life. >> Yes. So I'm still in in in awe. I I don't know yet how to take it. And we're two days before. So it's not the perfect timing, but there is no perfect timing. I learned in life there is no perfect timing. There's when you can do something good, jump into it, do it right away. >> Okay. But I do want to say at a very special time. One of the things we give over at Yakip seminar, my ribbit gives over to the mamas, I give over to the >> is that you need >> before you make before you marry off a child, you need to be in touch with your feelings. In order to feel the kaduca, the the experience of the kasa, you need to be in touch with your feelings. And for me right now, it's a little bit similar. I don't know if it's exactly similar, but you're marrying off your first child. I'm marrying with my first grandchild. A lot of feelings come up. >> Wow. >> And what I'm finding is that probably the main feeling that comes up for me is gratitude. Thank you to Hashem. Because look, we we're used to thanking Hashem for every small thing. We get up in the morning, we thank Hashem for every small thing that goes on in our lives. Imagine what it means when we could thank Hashem when we get to the end of a whole time in life, a period of life where a person invested himself in a relationship, 18 years, 20 years, and now you see the fruit of that child. So many emotions come up. >> Wow. and and just thanks to Hashem. You know, it reminds me of the story of they say, he's a medical networker in a big organization. He was one night by the >> in the middle of the night with a philanthropist probably to raise money for his organization and they saw aid, let's say it was about 3:00 in the morning, a yid crying profusely by the kisel. It was it looked like it was broken. So, they made a deal between themselves. Said, "Let's go over to him. We'll find out what his issue is. If it's a medical issue, I'll take care of him. If it's a money issue, financial issue, you'll take care of him. >> Oh, wow. >> Agreed. They both agreed. >> That sounds that sounds like two people that people would want to be finding when they ding for something. Can you imagine? >> That's a big >> Yeah. Can you imagine as as thatim that's their job like okay, he's dinging if it's a financial is going to take care of. >> So they went over to him. He was in the middle of crying rabbid is everything okay said everything's okay maybe someone in your family someone isn't well you need a yes you need a says no say maybe it's money you know you can't pay your you can't pay your rent he says no so now they're dumbfounded they don't know so what I was going to be. >> Yeah. What? So why are you crying? He said, I'll tell you. I just came from marrying off my youngest child. >> Wow. >> And the way that I feel that I can't explain how Hashem helped me marry off all these children. I just felt I had to come to the right now after the and thank Hashem. >> Wow. >> Did you do that? Did you do that by the last by when >> I have to say to Emis I wasn't on that level >> but this Yid was able to do that because that's what it means to be in touch with your feelings >> and we need to thank Hashem every day I'll share something else was very strong on this point of course and he suggested thanking Hashem maybe once a day in any case I remember taking it upon myself there's already a number of years to thank Hashem once a day for something very specific for me. I could tell you it's changed my life profusely. >> By the way, the word profusely is used the second time. So, I need to know what it is. >> Profusely means tremendously. >> Tremendously like profound. >> No. Okay. Profound. You could say profounds a lot of knowledge. But, uh, profusely means a lot. A lot. >> Okay. Um, how does it change? Like because you used to thank or is it the same thing you're thanking for every day? >> I thank for something every day. Yeah. >> The same thing or it keeps upgrading. It keeps changing. >> It's the same thing for me >> for how many years? >> I'm I'm not I'm not getting into details of how many things I thank for. I'm just saying the >> behaviorism of thanking for something once a day has changed my life. what I've added to that or what that's >> in the morning at night when >> I do it in the morning. Yeah. >> So gratitude to start the day with gratitude is what you're saying is a really powerful thing. >> It's a game changer >> and it should be >> so to be in touch with these feelings that's what it's about. And especially now, like you say, we were at the and we learned and the whole idea of the hashkafa, as we'll see, is the goal of a ye in this world really, if you boil it down to one sentence, is to build the closest, most positive and mutual relationship with the creator of the world. Wow. It's all about relationship. Usually, when that sentence is said, it sounds mhat. How would you explain? >> We're gonna we're gonna try and get means abstract. We're going to try and get it more down to earth. True. Yeah. It's hard to grab it. >> And that and that's the whole point of these >> me the creator of the world. Mutual. It's it's like a >> Okay. Okay. >> It's like words that don't really belong together. >> Okay. But the word relationship you got. >> Yeah. >> That's the most important. >> Yeah. >> So that's why I want to say that having the gratitude is so important because we're so focused a lot of times on doning for that person who needs the Yeshua. Mhm. >> You know, it's the one person there probably 40 other people in the family who are okay today, >> right? >> But we don't necessarily focus on that >> because that's obvious. Obvious Hashem gives us life. He should give us a good life. >> Yeah. >> But the one person who needs the Yesh. So we're constantly focusing ourselves again >> on the negative. Now really >> so we keep forget >> look how much positive Hashem is giving us. >> Yeah. >> Same thing for us for for us. We're also sometimes focused on what we're missing. And we don't we forget to look at so so much we have >> and that's what training yourself in gratitude is. We appreciate what we have and you know what maybe then we won't even need so many terrible things to take place because it says we mentioned this last week in our conversation that Hashem created the world in such a way where the way you can appreciate good is because there's bad in the world. >> Yeah. I heard it's about the like if it would be general normal good. So it's it's one level of good. So it's but to to to to wow it you you put the rah you put the other side now you learn how to appreciate. >> Oh he said watch this. Maybe we don't need so much rah to learn how much the is worth if we would just wow it >> right? Just wow it right away. >> And I think our generation is holding there. Imm with everything that's going on and all the difficulties. We're raising a generation that I've heard from some people is even greater than the last few generations because the ideas and the desire of people to want to have the true relationship is very great no matter where they're holding or what they're doing. And let it be said that it's a big for them that they're honest. >> Yeah. >> Right. >> It's also probably the most to since ever in in one generation probably. >> So we have tremendous and I feel the d is ready for something like this to focus on thank you and thanking Hashem appreciating the good and then we won't need so much of a contrast with >> so what we wanted to go over are these words that I would call a bird's eye view of what the Jewish lifestyle is about. What hashkuff is based on. Hashkov is translated in English as world outlook. How do we Jews view the world outlook? And I took these words from a program that I have in Israel called lifeabout presentations. Person could see it on lifeaboutpresentations.com. >> And designed for who? >> Was designed for English speakers, English speaking students in Israel that after discovering for myself these basic Ashkafus, I wanted to give it over to others. >> And they're not Ashkafus that are emphasized a lot nowadays, unfortunately. But once you know them, they could literally be life-changing. >> Wow. >> And so therefore, I'm involved in this for a number of years. I was able to summarize them in certain key words. And if you want, we'll you'll have the list and be able to show the listeners the actual list as we go over the words. So these 13 words represent what I would call a summary of everything we're living for. And if you can remember these words and practice them and live with them, it's part to me that your life will change for the better. >> Wow. >> Today already is the program has advanced uh now giving over almost a weekly shir in the area. It's called the organization of purpose. The name of the organization is purpose. And the idea is to give over to people what the purpose of life is according to religious orthodox traditional Judaism. Beautiful. We don't have anywhere in the world that really has a platform to give over what we believe in to the world. Almost every other religion in the world has a world platform. They tell everyone what they believe in. But we don't have a platform, at least not in English, that gives over what we believe in clearly in a way that makes sense and draws respect from the world. So, let me just stretch this [snorts] lamush to any time doesn't isn't this what they do? >> Torah any time. Who can who can measure the merits of Torah anytime? But with Torah any time, I would say is different in a sense is that it's not giving over ashk in a way that's one idea built on another. It's people learn ashkaf. As you said, the words of Torah are scarce in one place and many in another place. Sometimes you'll hear this hashkaf, sometimes another, and it's up to the individual to put it together. The idea over here being is that when you see how it all comes together in a structured way, it can be very beneficial. >> Amazing. I think we should dive in. >> Okay, Gavaltic. >> So, what are the words called? >> So, the first word we have is axiom. >> Axiom. What does axiom mean? What does axiom mean in English? So axiom means first premise and I know what your next question is going to be. >> What does first premise? >> What does premise mean? Right? So every time that a person thinks when he starts to think there's a way that he starts to think about something that if you ask him what's this >> table and you go backwards well where did the table come from? A carpenter. And where did the come you go back enough you'll get back to brium and then where did the world come from? Well if a person doesn't believe in Hashem the world was just here. Okay that's not such a good explanation but if you believe in Hashem then you go even further. The point is everyone in the world has a first premise that they build everything they believe on in afterwards they build on that first premise. So it's a it's a uh default belief. >> So here's the thing. It's an idea that a person accepts without any proof which is amazing. >> People build their whole life on things which is without any proof. It's just a first premise. >> Where did he pick it up? >> It's an axiom because everyone could choose whatever axiom they want to have. >> For example, what's an axiom? Most people >> What's an axiom? Well, the natural axiom is or the reason for axioms, which I think what what you're asking is how could a person build his whole life on something without any proof is because we all know that we're physical. We can't grasp everything that's going on in the world. So, if the universe is so large that we can't even see the end of the universe, so how are we going to know how everything started? There's certain things we'll never be able to grasp. So, the only way you could start to think about it is if you have an axiom that you adopted, >> a belief. a belief which is without any proof. Now it makes a lot more sense of course to have the belief all the way at the beginning step that we can't grasp because you can't grasp it. That's why you have an axiom rather to make your axiom somewhere in the middle. >> Like since the world was created there was something in the middle that took place that's just axiomatic. I have no questions about it. Why wouldn't you have questions? We can we're we can understand things that go on in the world. So everyone has an axiom >> and the axiom has no a question will never question his axiom and axiom is where the person's system of thought starts from. So if you want to have a discussion with anyone and get to the truth, you have to first clarify what his axiom is. Because the Rambam says an amazing thing. The Rambam says that if two people have different axioms, they won't reach the same conclusion >> which is amazing. Only when people have the same axioms and they have the same ability at clarity and they work at it will they be able to come to a conclusion which is true which is amazing. Two very educated people smart people starting with the same axiom and have the same ability at being analytic will be able to reach the same conclusion. He says about hill and shama hill and shamokin they had different >> that even though they had different they different approaches there weren't between hill and shama in the gass they agreed on everything except for three places now three places for those who learn shas and you know that there are thousands upon thousands and thousands of three places is not a lot says the ram even if they disagree it will be in very few places because they were so close to each other in their abilities. >> When people's abilities become less, it became more difficult to come to the same conclusion. But the bottom line is the axioms have to be the same, which is very important. Nowadays, people have debates with all types of people, >> right? >> You need to realize you'll never be able to change someone else's axioms. So even if you could prove them wrong in everything you're discussing, it's not going to help really to prove to the other person what the truth is. So, what's a good example of an axiom that you can't move someone away from it? >> What do you mean you can't move someone away from it? >> What is an axiom that someone has and don't even bother? You know, >> I would say I would say that axioms in the world that exist are religious axioms, >> right? If a priest from the [snorts] Catholic religion believes in certain realities about his religion >> that started approximately 2,000 years ago, it's not going to make a difference to have a debate because anything that you say based on your axiom and his axiom is what he accepts. >> So, but there was in history people priests that changed their mind and they came to Judaism. >> Correct. But that was because they were open to even questioning their axioms. >> Uhhuh. But usually no person does that. >> That's what the Rambam says that the axioms need to be the same. So very important. The debate is not going to help. It might help for the listeners because the listeners are more objective but the actual person. Same thing with Islam. Same thing with all the different religions in the world. They have their axioms. It's not going to help to debate with them. What it's going to help is to be clear on what you hold because then you could shine. Then you could radiate what you hold and that will have a whole different effect on people. It won't be I say this is the right way because as we know that doesn't work. >> It's not a debate. It's a it's a what is it? >> What is it really is if this is true and I live with it and I become to know within myself that it's true that energy will be felt by others. >> But there's also a not a good flip side to this. When you say that everybody's based of an axiom, Judaism is also based on an aim. >> Exactly. And that's the next word. What is the axiom that Judaism is based on? So now we're up to word two. >> Oh wow. >> So now what would be the axiom of Judaism? Because that's what we want to understand. >> What is it? >> Okay. And the word is infinite. >> Infinite means endless. >> Endless. I'm going to explain what it means. >> Okay. >> First axiom in Judaism is what Hashem said to us in the >> in the ten commandments. The first of the ten commandments is says the Rambam right in the beginning of it's a mitzvah the first mitzvah first mitzvah said that includes all the other mitzvah to know >> that there's one >> the first cause a first source who brought everything into existence >> that's our axiom that there is a first being who brought everything into existence. Now, we're not going to take out so much time, but for those who know a little more, so they know that this is really an axiom in the Far East as well, but very different than Judaism. In the Far East, they believe that there's a general world energy that controls the world. We believe, yes, there's a general energy around the world, but that energy is a being. We can relate to him. We can build a relationship with him. That's very different than what's in the Far East. >> What do they think it is? They just say it's an energy and they try to use the energy. They try to draw down the energy to reach whatever goal they they believe is the goal. Again, I'm not getting into details. And then in the western hemisphere, in the western world, you have that people believe that >> there is nothing >> or that God is in some way limited because let's say there's some religions that will say, well, there are some religions that will say there's like a sort of partnership. There's a god who brings down good and then there's a power that brings down not good. >> Ah that's what he say. >> So >> they took the concept and made it into a god. >> Very different than what we believe in Judaism. We believe there's only one >> but they have one thing right that he's the makov. >> Okay is a nice but now we're talking about what's the axiom >> right? So that axiom that doesn't change is you're not going to change it by telling the person or by trying to explain it to him. >> So that's why >> you will be able to change it if you live what you believe in and it's working for you because that's the biggest proof. >> So why is Labavich trying to reach out I know any nobody else is trying to reach out to non-Jewish people >> Jews. Okay because you have a concept in the Rambam of Ben Noy and I'll go even further. If you look in the Rambam and say from mitzvah mitzvah, he says that the call out to the world to worship Hashem is part of the mitzvah of loving Hashem. >> Wow. >> If you love God, you're going to call out to other people to worship him. That's what the Raam says. >> Just like an outcome of if you love and believe. >> Exactly. And he actually says au father because he loved Hashem so much. He was called Afro Mohavi. He loved he was in essence a lover of Hashem. He spoke about him to everyone. Last para. >> Exactly. Just like if you love Hashem, if you love anyone, if you love a person in the world, you'll speak about everyone who comes by, you did you know that person? Do you know what he did? >> You're in love with him. >> We see it by balacha a lot. The that first light, that first kufa, the first uh few months >> they feel it. >> Yeah. They go around preaching everyone. >> So that's where we're supposed to be as yeden. Wow. >> Says the raw to do that. So that's why this is important. One of the main reasons why these words are important because we receive the Yiddish from our parents. >> Yes, >> I received from my parents and back and back and back and we do the Yiddish because we do it. That's what we that's the way you do it. That's what we see everyone around doing the communities even more because we believe it's it has a very strong basis. But if someone comes and asks you, you sit next to a non-religious Jew on the plane or even a non-Jew on the plane and he asks you, "Sure, why are you putting on those black boxes, it's hard for us a lot of times to explain what we're doing?" >> Yeah. I tell him, "Go to Wikipedia." >> Okay. But that's an issue because then you missed an opportunity to be able to explain to him what we're supposed to do. If you love God so much, okay, so tell me about him. Well, I do it myself, but I can't really explain it. So, we're not doing everything that we can. Once you know this and you can explain in a sensible way that draws respect, you're doing what did wow doing from the tora. Okay. So now we get to the first axiom of yishkite. First act of your described that there is a mat there is a first cause for everything that we believe that you can relate to who includes everything infinite in English means without borders without limitations in the words of the it's really found more in the zadesh it's found more what does mean >> no >> without a limit usually in our wording is the word of adnas or hashem The name the fourletter name that we use of Hashem in the Tory. But Hashem himself who we believe in as the first cause is much much greater even than what we who we describe that we relate to because the description has a border. >> But Hashem is without borders. We can't even grasp anything from him. >> So how it's it's hard to have a relationship with something that you can't grasp anything. >> Exactly. Okay. So now we go to the next point. >> Really? Mama is taking you to the next point every time. That's great. Right. >> Okay. I'm a good student. >> Okay. >> I I wasn't always a good student. >> I could have told the Rebs that, but I don't know how much they would be. >> They They had a different axiom about me. >> Wow. >> Okay. >> So, the next big rule in don't set up an axiom about a student. >> Exactly. >> Okay. Here we go. So, the question is like this. If we believe as Eden, if we believe as Jews, that all that was before the world was created was God. That's it. And he's infinite, which means he includes everything. >> Yeah. >> He's everything. So why do they have to create us? Why do they have to create anything? >> Right. >> Why? Why this whole world? >> He's everything anyway. >> What What do you need it for? >> What a How do you say that? What a what a big heavy lo luggage. Heavy lift. What a load. >> What a load. Why do you need a load? Oh, this this episode can be called what a load. I don't think they're going to understand. >> Okay, so the next word is good. And the source is in the Ram. Ram Khal was a very great leader in defining hashk for Jewish people about 350 years ago accepted by all the Eden. >> That's right. 50 years >> approximately. Wow. And he writes inev he writes in one sentence the reason that Hashem created everything in the world is in order to give good to the created beings. >> Right? >> That's it. >> So he was the first one to write in a book. >> No, it's actually in the >> Okay. >> But if you learn the result, again, we're not getting into details. So there are a number of reasons mentioned over there. So how do you know that that's the main reason? I can't show you from the result that's the main reason because people bring other reasons. >> So up until the writal it's very clear that that is the reason for creation of the world >> and up until the ramal nobody knew or they knew anyway so he didn't have to write it. >> That's a great question. I'll ask you a question to answer your question. Okay. >> Up until the Rambam counted the mitzvah 613 mitzvah did people know the mitzvah or they weren't sure what the 613 were? H. >> So you have to say that until the Rambam certainly Eden knew what the 613 mitzvah because that's a ske skeletal level of Torah. Obviously they knew 613 mitzvah. Around the time of the it became unclear. So you have a number of moa mitzvah and the raam counts for us the 613 mitzvah who we pasin like. There are other countings of the mitzvah but we pascin like the Rambam. other counting meaning they they took differentim and thought that this is the main and the others are the >> correct and the Rambam gave 14 principles how he decided what's considered a mitzvah he came out with exactly 613 at safer mitzvah so in the same way you could say that there are a number of reasons that the creator of the world had before he created the world and it's actually very confusing one of the big issues that's confusing nowadays between yed and what is the reason that Hashem created the world and people say different reasons And each one has a source. So I'm not getting into the answers for those different reasons or how to relate to them. But what I will say is that everyone agrees that the Ram says one reason. >> So the answer to your question is yes. Before the Ram is possible to get confused and say maybe different reasons for creation of the world. But from the time of the Ramal onwards, everyone agrees that the Ram Khal says one reason >> and that reason is God didn't have any need to create the world. He has no need. He doesn't need things like we need things. He just says the in another it's the nature so to speak. It's the reality of good to give of that good. >> So Hashem wanted to give of his good to others. That's why he created us. >> So he was all by himself, right? Is that's the term. And he was so good that he was looking who to give good to. It's like we're dumbing it down to a cartoon level. And then he had to create these receivers to receive his good. Beautiful. So we did three words already. Axiom, which is where all of a person's thoughts start from that we accept. What is the axiom in Judaism? Infinite, an infinite creator. Axiom, infinite good. Third word is good. The reason he created the world is to give us good. says even more. He says because God is so great, he didn't want to give us only a little bit of good. He's so complete, he wanted to give us the greatest level of good that he could possibly give us. What is that? The same level of good that he has. Now, I'll ask you a question. Before God created anything, there was just God. Where was all this good found? Where was it? >> And what did he do? >> Where where was it? >> It was in him. It was in him. Very good. And how much good would you say there was in the infinite God before he created the world? >> Infinite. >> Exactly. >> Wow. I feel so proud of myself. I'm doing good on the test. >> Okay. So now God wants to give us infinite good. But I have a question for you. Are we infinite? >> No. >> No. What would happen to us if we would receive infinite good? >> We're explode. >> Exactly. So God wants to give us as much as we could take, but we'll still exist. So he always has to play with the levels >> so to speak if you want to call it that. He always has to allow us to have existence because remember if we wouldn't have existence anymore then everything goes back to the way it was before creation. Then there's no point to creation. The point is he wants to give us goods. He wants us to exist to receive the good. >> Yeah. This is where the wow starts coming in. >> Okay. >> It started it's starting to build up and I started to see the beauty in it. when we're still stuck by axioms, I was still confused and okay, we found a sophisticated word in English, but as it builds up, it's starting to be wow. So, he has to work hard so-called. He doesn't work hard, but in our musim, he works hard to feed us his good constantly. Exactly. and to our level. Just like a baby needs to eat a little less soup and a smaller spoon to be able to not be overwhelmed by a but and this is the history of Yiddish kite the more we grow that means we can accept more >> more exactly and that's why it says in that after these 6,000 years is going to be a 7,000th year that's called Shabas and that 7,000 year we receive even more of Hashem's good and then says the is going to be the 8,000th year and says that is going to your 9,000th year. Okay, I'll leave the rest for whoever learns more. But yes, >> which book is this? >> It's very exciting. >> I'm starting to like this book. Which book is this? >> I think it's in dust. I can check again. >> Oh, it's notem. Why do most bacha do the hashem first? >> Hashem is a very good synopsis summary of all the basic in a very clear way >> and it doesn't have >> it's short. It's short. It doesn't have these words because he gave over the axioms that the he gave over the foundations that were important to know in his time. >> These are words that you'll see bring together a lot of ideas for us today. And if you live with these words, it can cause a life-changing effect. >> Gishmak, I'm loving this. Okay. So, so, so he's working hard to give us the greatest good we can possibly handle. And when you say that as we grow we can handle more or we can receive more. and he's glad and excited to give us more. It's not we growing in our body. We're growing spiritually. >> Oh, so now we come to the next point. >> I'M SO GOOD AT THIS. I I I I don't even I don't I I didn't plan this. So I I'm surprised every time it's bringing us to the next point. >> He's come now to come to the next point. >> What is the next point? says Ramal if Hashem wants to give us the greatest level of good from that infinite good that's inside of him that he has himself but it's located within him so how can we possibly have access to that good it's in him how do we have a pathway >> we need like a pipe >> exactly gas pump exactly so says Ram that same perk in that same chapter >> that there's a gas >> says God created a pathway for us to be able to access that which is called >> and he said is which means when we become one with him when we become one with him in English the word is cleave when you attach yourself to him to the point where we become one then we can access all that good that's in him because now we're one so we can get to all that good >> so that's the next that's the next word because I see you're looking at me how do you become one Yeah. >> What does it mean to become one with God? Yeah. >> So, here's the thing that some people have a little misconception. >> It does not mean that our souls will eventually go back into the infinite God. Maybe eventually, eventually, eventually, but for the purpose of receiving the good, we remain ourselves. Because remember, once we go back into the source >> is pointless. >> There's no more us, >> right? >> It's like a drop in the ocean. Is the drop still there? >> No. Even scientifically you would say it's >> it's part of the ocean. >> It's part it became ocean. It's a different word. >> If we would go back into the infinite Hashem then we're again part of the one infinity. We're not we're not us. The way we become one with Hashem is specifically the next word is called relationship. >> That's why that word is so important because in a relationship the two people remain different. They remain different individuals. They're very different. What's the closest relationship we know of? >> A man and a woman. Husband and wife. >> Husband and wife. The two people are very different people as everyone knows. >> But they still have an opportunity. >> We're called one. The Pik says >> Hashem created male and female. >> Wow. >> Yet they're called one being once they get married. We would call today a couple, but it's not really two. It's a couple that's one, right? >> It's one couple. So, in a certain way, becoming one with Hashem is really building the closest, most intimate, if you will, relationship with the creator of the world. It sounds very simple, becoming one with Hashem, but it's not simple at all because he's a spiritual being only and we are also physical beings. So that would be one barrier, one question that I have. The other one is the fact that we have a wife. Is that just so we understand how to have a relationship with Hashem or there's a regular purpose? And to answer your second question first because it's shorter. The answer is yes. The reason we have all the relationships we have is in order to understand how the relationship should be with Hashem. >> So father, mother, brother, sister, an example, father. Sometimes we relate to Hashem as a father. Sometimes we relate to Hashem as a mother. Sometimes we relate to Hashem as a brother. Sometimes relates to us as a sister. So it depends on us. So it depends on him. It depends on us. Whatever level of relationship we're on, we have those relationships in the world in order to have a way to relate. So the ultimate goal is the like the wife to build the closest positive relationship and mutual relationship. We said the word mutual before. Mutual means giving. One gives to one, one gives to the other and the other one gives to the one. It goes back and forth constantly. That's very similar to a marriage. That's the closest relationship. That's why we say in the future And after we leave this world, do we still need the connection to all these mushulim? That's a great question. I don't know. I can't answer that. >> We're going to stay in touch. Hashem, >> I love you, too. >> But your first question is the lead into the next word. You're doing amazing today. I wish this would have been a a for you, a test for you in >> Yeah. >> because then we could have shown how good you are with all the shalas added up >> maybe. >> Wow. >> But now, but this makes sense, I guess, because I'm asking based on what I hear and and it's actually leading up to the next. So, this is a very good >> logical progression. >> Oh, I love that. >> That's what it's supposed to be. >> That's the word logical progression. >> Can I know? I'm learning Mish English today. Okay. So what do we what what's the next word? >> Okay, so your question was if Hashem is spiritual and is spiritual, how can we ever come become one with him? What does that mean? >> It doesn't doesn't look real like how can we understand anything about Hashem? We said we can't understand anything. So here's the next word. The next word is framework. >> Framework. How does that answer my question? >> Okay, remember that Hashem also knows all of this. Shem also knows that he's an he's infinite and we're finite and we can only grasp finite things. So here he wants to give us good but he knows at the same time we'll never be able to understand him or even really get become one with him because how can we become one with him if we can't understand anything about him. So what he did was is he created what's called an in between level a level between and us which is called many of many people know from learning a little deeper it's called the 10 mid 10 traits. We're not going to go into detail right now what the 10 traits are but the traits are limited. We can grasp them. We can understand what they are and through that we can understand a little bit about who the infinite being is even though we know that whatever we understand is not really him. >> So he what's what's framework? It's like a a language. >> Framework is how all the different traits interact into one being that we can grasp. >> Uhhuh. But it's not really him. But it's as much as we could do. So that's okay. >> So if we understand the framework, those 10 midas, we understand how it works >> as much as we can about him. For example, let's say someone would come and say or did you ever meet him? Say no. He's an amazing guy. Yeah. What can you tell me about? Well, he's always so kind. He's always smiling. He's compassionate. He always looking to do something for someone else. you know a lot about who he is already even if you never met him. >> Right? >> So in the same way when Hashem tells us his traits even though we don't know who he really is but we know a lot about him already >> and that would be enough for us to be one with him. >> Yes. Because what makes >> our level enough >> because what makes something one on the spiritual level when it's the same in essence? >> Mhm. It's not when we come close >> physically >> physically because we're not distant from is everywhere. He's right here. He's right next to us. >> We're in him. We're part of him. >> We become close when we design ourselves. When we pattern our midas, when we pattern our traits to be like his >> But if we are anyway carved out of him, we are like him. >> Part of us. Correct. The part >> What's the other part? >> That's a great question. And again, we're not getting into details, but the part that's like him is called as it says in fat, a piece of him, if you can imagine such a thing as in us. And without taking up too much time how to explain that how that could possibly be, we'll just assume that yes, a little bit of him. The whole framework is in us. >> So the other part, how did that come along? Is that part of us or is that an external part? >> Right? That that that's a good question and the answer is is a very great the most that we can grasp of him is for example the way we view light even physically we don't understand how light works in this world. It's like the highest physical reality. So if we want to imagine Hashem a lot of times light is the metaphor the example that's used in this far is light or so you imagine Hashem as being a great light but what does that mean? What does it mean for us? So when we pattern our traits to be like him then we can become one with him. But the part that is from him in us we don't have to work that through. >> Right? So the rest of the parts is when he limited that light. In other words, that part, let's say, is the highest level of light. It's infinite light. The other parts of us have what's called limited light. And that's the idea that's for whoever learned deeper. It's the idea of timum. It's the idea of limiting the light that Hashem limited and created a lot of worlds. What's the Hebrew word for world? >> Alum has the same three letters >> like halem. as helm as cover up >> simply what a world is it's just a cover up of Hashem's essence so therefore but that's our >> so that we have a space to >> exist >> to bring his light into >> no his space even to exist because again if we're with >> oh we couldn't re we couldn't survive in his in in our >> infinite light right >> because it's too much light for us so he created a space for us where the the light is limited kids. It's not really, but it looks >> okay. And you could say at a certain point that becomes our bodies that house our nishamas >> because our body in a certain way and again we're not getting into details. >> Why do we keep saying we're not getting into details? >> Because this place would be another whole podcast to understand how your body really parallels the same framework that Hashem created the 10 midas. What does your body have to do with the 10 traits? So each time you're saying we're not going to get into details, that's a whole another podcast and that might be a part of the series of shimm that you give. Anyway, >> we'll see how much light can take >> that is. Okay, but for for right now for today. >> Okay, so one second. So the body that's housing I I want to go to the next word because we're running out of time. But the body that's housing the shama, our job is to light it up with that little piece of light we got >> and not only our body >> that we have. Exactly. >> Not only our body, light up the entire space as much as we can. >> The entire world >> as much as we can, >> right? And how do we do that? Because we build going back to building a relationship a close closest positive and mutual relationship with the creator of the world. How do we do that at this point? Now that the infinite God creator has revealed to us the 10 traits, we try to pattern our traits to be as much as possible like his. The more you can be like him, the more you become one with him. So you know there's a mitzvah in the Torah, make your traits like him, right? said about his [snorts] they would see he said they would see him do things sometimes and they went up to him what's the where where does it say to do this not said in anywhere he would take out a novi and he showed them a par that this is the way hashem acted in a certain situation that was the makar that was the source >> so he was trying to do everything he can to >> we are supposed to do whatever we can to be like but although Though that peace is already like him, we still have the >> we have the physical we have the physical being >> that we need to bring up to that level. >> Right. Beautiful. >> My mind is blown. Okay. So at this point if you want to just make a summary, we could summarize. No, I want to go further. We promised 13 words. What's the next word? Okay. So the next word is going to be the one trait that will never be able to be like him. >> That's a setback. >> That's a big setback, right? We just said the goal is to become one with him. >> Right? >> Yet there's one trait we'll never be able to be like him. >> Why do we need that one trait not to be like him? So we're still limited and he's still God. >> Like he left like he left something. >> It's not why we need it's a reality. >> Okay. What's the reality? What is it? >> The reality is we'll never be able to become a giver to him in our relationship. We said it should be a two-way relationship, mutual. I can't give anything to him >> because he has everything. I never thought of that. >> We'll never be able to give in the relation. We can have we can show similar traits in other situations and rahim and all types of traits, but I can never give him in the relationship. So the fact that people think they're coming to shul for Hashem, they're not really giving him something. >> That's one of the biggest issues. >> So what what can we does he need anything from us? >> So So here's the word. First, let's get the word. >> What's the >> the word is gives to represent the idea of giving? Giving will always be what's called a makita between us and Hashem. As close as we'll make all the other traits, it's like you have, you know, 10 traits, but one of them is going to be blocked. All of them are white and one is going to be black. What do you do? That's not going to be helpful for us to get to the greatest level of good >> and we're not going to be able to be one. >> Right? So this needs a problem solving. A problem solver who of course the boy creator of the world is the best problem solver. >> There's a greater computer than all computers combined. >> Right? And >> and he figured that out as well. >> He solved that issue >> how >> how he created this world. That's why he created this world because again we asked what can you possibly give to the one who has everything. So here's what the creator of the world did. He created us which means less and less and less and less light until he gets to the lowest which is this world. >> Wow. >> The globe. >> And we're so lucky to be here. >> This world the light is so limited that you can't prove to anyone 100% that God is here. He'll always be able to deny it. No matter what you say, >> it's by design. >> By design, you can never see God clearly. It's always 50/50. And everyone has their free choice. One world above this, the world of the malim, it's obvious Hashem is there. You can't give Hashem anything by showing that Hashem is in that world. Everyone sees it. And this world is the one place that we don't see God clearly. So says Hashem to us, says the creator of the world to us. You know what I want you to do for me? your soul. You go down there and you live in that world 70 years, 120 years and you reveal to all the created beings over there that I'm even over there just like a did that I'm even over there in that darkest of places. And then after 70 120 years, you'll have done something for me. >> You gave something to me and I received. >> What did we give? We showed his name. We explain his name which is which is important for him because if he's really the creator of the world he wants that that to be known in all the worlds in all the places >> but he could have left it known >> he could have left it correct and I'll ask you even more every second that the world exists and he's not known he could make it known in one split second so he doesn't even need us >> right >> but here's the idea if we did something for him it's still considered that we gave to him cuz watch let's say you work for someone you work a whole month and you did work you did whatever it was secretarial work it comes the end of the month and you go to your employer you say okay paycheck you know the employer says you know what you did great work but I don't want to pay you this month why what do you mean you know how many days I worked he says no you don't understand I could everything that you did I could have done myself >> it doesn't help you still have to pay >> exactly so that's the answer >> even though Hashem could do it himself he could very easily reveal himself but he doesn't want to because he wants us to do it once we do it It's considered we gave something to him and he received >> and now we have a mutual relationship. >> Now we have all the traits in sync with the creator of the world and then we can actually access the good. We can become one with him in the form of a relationship the closest positive most mutual relationship and that gives us access to the infinite good that's in him as much as we can sustain it. >> What's that good? Well, let me ask you this. If God would speak to you, if you can imagine such a thing, and he would say, "I want to give you as much as you could possibly take of the infinite good." Do you think that that's a good plan? You think that's a good goal for you? >> No, definitely. >> Why? Why are you so sure? Maybe you'd like something else in the world. H um because I know and I trust that he probably has access or has um enough of the greatest good and as much as I want something that is probably 100 times better or whatever you want is really included already. So watch the depth of this. Everything that people are running after, everything that everyone wants in the world is already included in what God wants to give us anyway according to our belief. Everything that we run after in life, everything that we desire, any good that we think is good is already included in whatever God wants to give us because he wants to give us as much good as we could possibly, it's already included. >> So, it's just it's just a question how you going to get it, >> right? >> Are you going to get it by building a relationship with him and you'll get all the good? don't worry. Or you're going to get it cuz you figured out a way how to get it for yourself. That would be silly because then you're not building a relationship and you're denying yourself a lot more good. So that was a statement against Gillis. >> Um I wouldn't say against Gillis. No, because if it if it helps you to build the relationship, that's good. I would say it's a statement against doing what's wrong, what's essentially wrong. Let's say a person's goal in life is to amass a lot of money, wants to become a billionaire >> and he >> that's his goal, but he he steals from his clients in order to become a billionaire. And he became a billionaire, but he really got the lesser part of the deal, >> right? >> He opted out at a very low level because he's a billionaire in this world, but he missed out on the whole point. The whole point was follow the rules. Go according to greater the world. He'll give you many more times than that. >> Wow. Wow. >> Okay. So now the question is just how do we actually give to God while we're in this world? And the answer to that is the next word which is revelation. We need what we said to reveal him. We need to reveal him. How do you reveal him? The more that we build our positive mutual relationship with the creator of the world and we know that it's true. When you live with this, you start to see in your life how it's very clear. He's here. He's there. He's he exists. These these this system really works. Once you're confident with it, that energy goes over to others. Can you imagine if the entire Jewish nation would live that type of life with total conviction, totally certainty that there's a creator of the world who wants to give us the greatest level of good and we're just always walking around just believing in the good. Even when you see bad, remember if we believe everything comes from one source, then even if you see bad in the world, you know it's ultimately good. >> Says the Malbim that that is the explanation of the verse of the puzz that we say every morning and every evening. Hashem is when Hashem acts good to us. Is when he acts with justice, when he acts strong with us. It's all just for the good. And my mus would say that even if a person goes through the smallest level of the smallest thing, he put his hand in his pocket to take out a few coins and he only took out less than he thought. Even that must come for a greater good. It can't just be equal. Every bad that comes in the world is really to give you greater good. >> Can we imagine what type of good is supposed to come out from all the bad things that went on in history? who were gone in our life. Can you imagine just just just this past week a very young person in the community was just passed away. A mother she's supposed to supposed to marry off her son in two weeks. So how can you reconcile the bad in the world and a Jewish person says Hashem it's all for good even though I can't understand it. And by us believing that as a nation, if we were a nation and we would view everything as good and that God is bringing it about in order to give us the greatest level of good, then that energy would be picked up on by all the nations of the world. Wow. >> The world would change like it was in the time of >> so that's when it will become clear to everyone. Right. Of course. Okay. So, we did a good part of this uh synopsis already. You want to go over the words? >> Axiom >> good, >> infinite, >> good, >> right? So, I read it together as a sentence because it makes it easier to remember. Amf infinite good. Axiom infinite good. >> Makes it easier to remember. Next sentence >> is >> relationship >> framework >> gives revelation. Okay, you ready for the next part? because we wanted really to say a summary. I I know that this is a lot and I would say that this is really from the main parts that Jewish people are not so clear on today. >> Yeah. I feel it's like creating or um carving out a path to make it very clear like okay what's my direction and why am I here? Um >> what's our purpose in life? >> Yeah, >> sure. That's very important because if it's true what everything we believe in then it follows that this type of lifestyle is the best lifestyle to live. >> Yeah. >> Okay. So what you need to know is that there is no other people in the world no other nation in the world who believes what we believe in which means they might have a purpose or a different axiom but their purpose is not the same as what we're saying. No one else in the world believes this what we just discussed but we believe it. meaning that their purpose would be to gain stuff in this world. >> No, it's just it's it's somehow a different approach. >> Mhm. >> And again, you can't prove to anyone what the real purpose is, >> right? >> But I'm just saying if Jewish people themselves would appreciate what they have and that what they believe in makes total sense and it's something that draws respect, then you'd have the same result as time ofu. What happened in the time of our father Abraham? It says, "All the nations of the world came and they accepted him as a mel." >> Wow. >> They made him because they respected him. Because he explained it in a way that made sense. >> If younger Jewish people today would realize that our lifestyle makes the most sense than any other lifestyle in the world, then they wouldn't go looking by other places. >> Wow. >> So that clarity is very important. >> Amazing. So what's the next thing? >> Okay. Okay. So we'll try to go uh the next ideas. >> Yes. >> Which are not directly connected but very important. Okay. So here we are in the world and it comes out that our goal in life is to build the closest most positive and mutual relationship with the creator of the world to become one with him in order to access all the good that he has to give us. >> Yeah. >> Okay. But how does our daily life look? How do you do that on the daily level? >> Okay. >> There's an important word to learn. It's called a spark. And the next two words are called small spark, big spark. Those are the two words. Small spark, big spark. Sounds like a light bulb going off. >> Yeah. >> Okay. So, when is the small spark? When is the big spark? >> Okay. What does spark mean? First, I need to explain why it's called a spark in the far mag. >> A spark, right? A spark is a little tiny piece of fire. >> Okay. >> Now I ask you, if a person makes a spark and it's flying in the air and you put a tissue to the spark, can it catch fire? >> Probably not. >> Okay. If you put it to the spark and it's still burning even >> like when it hits it. Yeah. Because it dies out very very fast. >> It dies out very fast. So I'm saying if you get it before it dies out. >> Yeah, definitely. >> Okay. That tissue when it falls to the ground and it catches on some other paper, will it cause a fire? >> Yes. >> That paper when it catches onto some small branches, will it cause a fire? >> It can burn the world. >> Okay. It could burn a whole forest, right? >> Yeah. >> Where did that original fire come from? >> A spark. >> But watch this. Let's say you don't catch that spark and it flows all the way down to the ground. What happens to the spark? >> It's gone. >> That's it. What a spark is is a little bit of infinity that the creator of the world put into our world and again this is also a 7D mush well we'll see how much of a mush it is right now we're talking about what exists in our life >> right >> according to there are sparks spread throughout the world there are sparks spread throughout the world there sparks spread throughout the that he calls aspects of holiness. What is that spark? A spark is a little bit of the infinite good that the creator has in him. What's called in English an infinite part. Infinite means infinite. Infiniteesmo means infinitely small. >> It's a small little part of the creator of the world. Where does it exist? It's in everything we experience. It's in our food. It's in our pastimes. It's in our relationships. It's that good that you experience is a spark from the ultimate good that we're supposed to get. So when we ask what do you do in our in at life? What are we doing daily in life? We want to what's called elevate the sparks which means you want to reconnect the spark to its source. >> Who is the source? >> But that's only if you catch it on time. >> Exactly. When is the time? The time that it reveals itself is why you're going through the experience. So says the says in the spark in every food is its taste. When you taste a food and has a good taste, what does it make you feel? Amazing. Makes you feel amazing. Why does it make you feel amazing? Remember your tongue has taste buds. Those taste buds can identify what the taste is. sour, sweet, bitter. That's information that goes to your mind. What makes your heart feel so happy when you taste it? I spoke to a biochemist about it. He said it's called endorphins. And according to him, once your mind gets the message, then your mind releases endorphins in the blood system. It goes to your body. You feel But it doesn't take place that way. It doesn't. There's no time lapse. You'll see the second you put the food on your tongue, your heart feels happy. meaning >> the only way to explain is it's a spiritual experience. >> Wow. >> It exists, but there's no physical explanation. >> You're saying that every single physical experience we have here is a spiritual experience. It just looks like >> it's the spark that's clothed in the physical experience. >> Wow. >> Right. >> So, Hashem designed that only when I eat pizza, I feel that spiritual spark. But correct >> it would have >> it's a spark that exists independently. Correct. >> And how do we reconnect it? So the way to reconnect it is when going through that experience you think about the source. >> What where did this taste come from? Why do I love this pizza so much? It has an amazing taste. It's infinitely good taste. I don't know how to describe it. And the answer is it's an infinitemal part of the infinite creator and the good that's in him. >> So just by >> that's what I'm eating when I'm eating the pizza. Wow. So just think about the creator. >> What do most people do? They think they're eating pizza, >> right? >> And I'm with the creator when I'm in the in the shield, right? >> When I'm domining, when I'm learning, when I'm eating pizza, I'm just eating pizza. That's called gullis. And the gil is when we'll be big enough to understand that all the permissible physical pleasures that we have in the world are directly an experience of the creator. And then we'll grow closer to him. Then we'll feel more love for him because now I don't love the pizza. I love the creator as much as I love pizza and more. Wow. We're supposed to be 20 seconds silent after such a statement to allow the listeners to absorb what we just said. You were saying that every single physical experience is a spiritual spark from Hashem himself. >> So actually it says that in regard to food he says taste is the spiritual spark. However, He said that in every experience that we have in life, there's a taste. >> When you go skiing down a mountain, >> there's a taste. >> There's a taste to the experience, >> right? >> When you experience your friend or you do good for someone, >> there's one part I did a mitzvah, I did good for someone, but there's that feeling that comes with it. There's the taste of the experience. Every taste that's in every experience we have is really an experience of that infinite tesma of that infinite good that's located within the infinite creator. >> We by sitting here we're having a taste of a very >> So we need to think about in some way how it's connected to the creator of the world. >> So how do we connect it? Well, what we said at the beginning, we started >> just by thinking about it, just by realizing what I'm experiencing right now is part of Hashem of God >> or is an experience that God is giving me of that infinite good >> because he loves me so much and because he wants to give me good automatically he's like I don't know if this is going to be the right right wording you can correct me. Uncle Sam giving and giving and giving and giving and giving, you're like, you're going to be so in in love with him. So if he's constantly all the positive experiences, not just there's the the the I don't know if this trend still exists, but there was a trend every time I have a flat tire, I put thank you Hashem on status. What about thank you Hashem that the >> Okay, so we need to get to that afterwards. What about all the negative things that happen in the world? >> Ah, so that's the next thing. The general answer, the general answer is going to be what we said that every time that God brings us a negative experience, it's just for the greater good. So, we do have to go through a growth process as we'll see. Maybe maybe that's part of the next the next thing. >> But for right now, now we're concentrating on the positive. Remember, we said at the beginning, let's focus on the positive and thank Hashem. All those positive experiences, if we would connect them to Hashem, >> two things would happen. >> We would love him more. >> Exactly. And two, >> we just elevated light into our experience >> into the world and we would be getting closer in different words to the gula because that is the gula. The gula is when God's light will be revealed in everything in the world. >> So that was the next thing that you said that this is gulas and I was smacked in the face and I wanted to sit with it for a while. Gulas is the fact that we don't realize that all of this is infinite Hashem loving us. It's a gulas. That's what it's called in all >> and you could change it just by thinking. Yes. As it says in simal, there's a well-known sim in racial 231 that says everything that a person does in life that a Jewish person does, whether it be eating, drinking, any physical activity, physical permissible activity, even if you're walking and you have pleasure from it, it's not praiseworthy. You should find some sort of connection in what you're doing to the creator of the world. And that's called know him in all your ways. Connect everything you're doing and the experience becomes a whole different experience just because you're thinking that that's it. And that's just like the is so interesting. He just said I had a story with the I went into him 20 years ago right after my marriage and I asked him about something maybe it was a business decision I should take some kind of job or not something like that and he said and I saw it as a you know used to say I thought he putotted me out and then I went to my >> You doesn't say it to everyone. >> Yeah. I didn't I I didn't make much of it. I didn't have the cycle back then. And I went to my shurim to just pick a I wanted to bring home like a like a piece to hang on the on the wall. And I was I walked into this myim where they have these art pieces big pictures of the co. And I was just looking through them finding a nice spig and I on the floor there was a giant pile like mish half my size like 3 ft tall and I was going through them and I opened one two three and the third one was giant words just that I didn't buy it but I I like wow the just said it to me I see it again probably means something and now you're saying it that this is the essence of gay and if probably all would live this way probably we would would have been in gayla already. >> We would be much much closer and that is the that is the light that brings out the gayla. Yeah. >> Where is small spark big spark? You said there's two differences. >> Exactly. So now we just did what's called small spark. The taste of our experiences is still relatively small. It's still small. >> So what is a big spark? >> What's the biggest spark? Can you imagine? >> No. >> Okay. That's our souls, our inas themselves. M >> because remember if everything comes from the infinite Hashem then our reality as you said before we have a piece of Hashem in us >> right >> how do we connect our very selves to Hashem because that's the goal to become one with him >> right >> so we learn to love him more we build a closer and closer relationship through all the small sparks but what about the biggest spark the spark of ourselves >> so for that we have to understand a little bit about anishamus again we're not going to go into great detail, >> right? That's by the series of uh >> but each person has what's called which means you have a very specific place where your soul started from. >> There's a very >> there are no duplicates. There's an exact number 600,000 souls that we have passed down that today there are more than I I believe I think that there are more than 18 million Jews in the world. So it's all subdivided. It subdivides into smaller and smaller parts. But there are no doubles. The soul or the piece of soul that you have, no one else has. But the peace that I'm connected to, my 600,000 piece, who are am I with? It could probably be it could be my wife. According to the wife of a person and his children are from his >> Oh, wow. That's nice. Don't worry. family is part of your >> that's nice that's nice people to share it with >> and that's why you have those children that you have exactly right now if you want to go even further interesting it says writes in par that if you walk somewhere and you meet someone just randomly you meet a person and all of a sudden you feel a very strong connection I was about to ask >> straight when you meet the person you just understand each other >> that's what I was about to say those two source souls were very close to each other when they supposed to meet >> and that's why when you come down you immediately understand each other >> sometimes somebody gets please say that he really clicks with yeah that's what I was about to ask okay so big spark is the soul itself >> our soul >> our part >> the only way to do it is you have to discover what your point of connection is so what makes my soul more unique or different than everyone else's >> that's a life journey >> not exactly we should it's 2025 almost 26 we should have 26 We should have a machine by now telling you beep beep beep. Your style would be ABC. If you would do ABC, >> I'll tell you I'll tell you bigish. Now we do which one? >> Oh, it's called personality types and personality tests. Every person has certain qualities, but those qualities are very are inborn in him. They're non-changing. >> Character traits. >> Character. Everyone has certain ones that they were born with already that are more complete than the others. The other ones he has to work on. These just come naturally. >> And if you capitalize on those, you if you know what they are, you'll probably be the best in those areas. And that's why they have all these personality tests for big businesses. When you work with, they want to know what you'll be best at naturally. Now, obviously, if a person's good at something naturally, but he puts no strength into developing it, it's not going to be so good. But if he who has the natural ability develops it, he will be by definition better than others in that area. So what we have to do is discover our innate traits and build on our innate traits. Use them to the best of our ability to benefit the world, to benefit others. >> How would I be able to figure out what my best traits are? >> That's a great question. So that's again more detailed. Uh it's uh a lot things that I've been working on for many years. >> That's why it's called purpose. >> Let's let's just say this. I learned from my reb. >> Which one is >> because yesterday in the shell mentioned it was part of the dove. >> Good. >> He explained exactly what is and why it was a straight line and then because they were scared of the go. I never knew. >> Okay. Oh, that was Kyavna in the daf. Right. Correct. But Kyavna the yeshiva today just took the name from that. >> Yeah. Yeah. what I'm just mentioning like it's it's a circle >> right so Raul was from and he taught us a method how a person could discover his innate traits >> which basically if we make it very oversimplified it's and it but it still works take a list of all the traits that you can the most detailed list that you can of traits and go through the whole list and check off the ones that you feel a connection to then go and find from those traits that you checked off the ones that you feel an even stronger connection to let's say you're left with 12. Go to those 12 and hone it down to the six. Then go and hone it down to the three. Then go and hone down. And he says those three or six that you're left with are really your chart of natural traits. >> So I work I work I worked with students with that for many years. >> Amazing. >> What I would say today already is that it's a little more involved and each person has maybe two dominant traits. a natural skill which is more of a physical skill and what I would call a motivating factor which means everyone in the world has one motivating factor that remains the same throughout life that motivates him. It's what gets you up and going when you think about in the morning >> but it's by design everyone is different right so if you can discover your two most dominant traits your natural skill or ability and your motivating factor that will probably explain a lot of what went on in a lot of your life. Wow. So that's what we need to capitalize on and that's connecting the big spark back to the source because when I can use my whole being myself in this world and I use my natural abilities at what I'm good at says explicitly you should choose aa you should choose something that you're naturally good at >> and that should be most of your day and if you're involved in panels that's not what you're naturally good at. So, at least fill in in the in the in in the spare time with what you're naturally good at because that's what you're made to develop. Develop your abilities in the best way to benefit others that others will recognize and praise you for. And that's the way you bring covet to God in the world because you are in essence a piece of his reality being revealed in this world. Hey, well, maybe now is a good time to do a little review from all the words because if it's logical, then it should flow. Should be able to go over it again and again. So that I'm I'm going to cheat and look in not the axiom infinite good >> axiom first premise first foundation >> okay >> in Judaism infinite >> that hashem is infinite >> there's one creator who's infinite before everything right >> he created everything >> and >> why why >> because he's so good he wants to give us the greatest good >> wants to give good to created beings Right. >> Axiom infinite [clears throat] good. >> Okay, >> fair enough. >> How much good does he want to give us? Much as we can get. >> Wow. >> But we have to access it. The way we access it is relationship. We build the closest most positive and mutual relationship with him. And then afterwards, how can we be close to him? Because he's spiritual. He gave us a framework of traits that if we pattern our traits like his, spiritually we become like one. But there's one trait we'll never be able to be like him in the relationship >> to give him back. >> Can't give to him. >> So he created a place that we can give him something. >> We reveal him in this world and that's giving back to him. So the words are relationship framework gives revelation. It's the way I remember it. >> Okay. One second. When you were saying relationship becoming one with him, I was remembering all those uh times that I see like real old rabbis or oldim. A good example is the Babasi. You see a very weaken I I just saw um Zangikim in very very he he fasts from Shabas to Shabas. His body is you know sitting in a chair all >> so how do you understand I used to think >> how do you understand that >> if the relationship is supposed to be the most positive mutual relationship it could be how do you understand that >> so I have something in mind tell me if I'm if I'm correct from the outside in this world with this eyes it looks like oh he's weak he's old he's broken he's he's his body is not even coping you don't really know if his mind is there still. But obviously the people who are close to him and are getting to see the amount of knowledge and the and the whatever goes around and the gusha that they can sense um they see that his body the less body he has the more power spiritually he has and he's having an intimate real relationship with Hashem. Oh, so that's the answer >> that looks from the outside as oh but we should have 1% of that >> correct because he's focused on the goal and his goal is he wants to do whatever God wants him to do. He wants to be close to Hashem as close as possible. So he's willing to give up what's important to him to the extent that he doesn't even take that much like everyone else. But it's all within the context of relationship. So where does come in that he's so fat that he forgets about his body doesn't care about his body anymore. >> Great question. That's the next word >> really. >> But first we wanted to do first we wanted to do a little review. So these are >> so by the small sparks big spark >> exactly how do we grow the relationship? What is most of our day? What are we doing for it? So we're be we're connecting the small aspects of him in our experiences whether we eat or we enjoy physical permissible pleasures. How can we remember this? Because we spoke about this yesterday and I already had several experiences since that I could have mamish think wow this is a gift of Hashem. >> Correct. You need you need to train yourself. You >> and I totally forgot about till now we spoke about it now. >> Okay. So you bring a proof how much these hashkafas are not emphasized nowadays. But >> I'm living proof. [laughter] >> That's crazy. It's crazy. >> But again, if according to what we said is correct, then this is what brings the Gila closer. >> Wow. >> That focus, those thoughts again and again. >> Definitely the Gilapus. It brings right away like the the private what is it called? Gilipot personal personal redemption there's one thing I was trying to tell you yesterday small spark you explained something else >> but I was trying to say that the sparks the fact that there is sparks of fire is only so we can understand what the sparks look like >> correct it's all a mush everything in this world is >> yeah yeah so so I was excited that it's it's it's a good mush >> like he created a he created something That's well understood like sparks of fire. I can understand that there's sparks of kadisha everywhere and we're supposed to and that's why >> okay >> or one one one name like that >> could be >> said that the American is the last America is the last station >> could be or was >> maybe I don't remember rebell said who it was but he said America is the last station because we were making all these we we already obviously were kicked out of some countries is because we finished our job there of cleaning all the sparks and we came to the last station which wasn't revealed a few hundred years ago. >> Correct. >> We didn't even know it exist. >> America was discovered toward the end of history. >> Yeah. So, we're picking up sparks and we're almost ready to pack. Uh >> that's what it looks like. >> Yeah. That's why you told me. >> So, most of our day is small sparks. That's still the small spark. And then big spark is really our own souls, our own is by actualizing our innate talents and abilities in a way that others can benefit from them. We give respect. We reveal Hashem in the world. >> When you say innate talents means nate innate means inborn. >> Inborn. Innate. I never heard of that word. >> You're learning English. >> I thought it's a short for nature like innate. a nature, a natural uh something. >> So, we have natural talents and abilities that come from our source. That's what we have to capitalize on. >> Amazing. So, >> okay. So, if we go over all these words that we did until now, you'll see that there's no really work involved. It's just nice. It's beautiful. You know, the creator made he wants to give us the greatest good. What do we have to do? Just receive the good. So, let us sit on the beach. >> Oh, so you want you need to be close to him because okay, it's a technical issue. We we have to become one with him. So okay, we'll pattern ourselves like him. We'll okay, now we have to give to him. So we'll come to this world. Fine, we'll do you know we'll reveal we'll think about him. We'll we'll do whatever it takes to reveal him. We'll think about him when we go through our positive physical experiences. We'll actualize our innate traits which is not hard because it just means being yourself, >> right? >> So nothing up till now is really hard. [snorts] Question is what's the work? What do you really have to work at? What if if God sent us to this world for a purpose to do something for him? What are we really doing after all? >> We just said revelation revealing. >> But if the revelation comes just being yourself, you didn't do anything that was really very hard. You were born already with those abilities. You just have to not ignore your abilities. But maybe it is hard in this world in to remember and to say his name and to be >> that's certainly true in 25 26 everything gets harder that's true and things are very confused but in general if a person is in touch with themselves and they just give themselves to be themselves and they develop their innate traits and they actually relate to their pleasures and they appreciate have gratitude for what they go through in this world and they realize it's from God. Well, that's it's not so hard. Well, you you just have to think. >> Just you said 20 you agree that 2025 26 becomes things become harder in a way meaning the body used to suffer more all the years used to be the ghoulas used to be more um physical people were very poor. Yiddish were much much more poor, much more hungry, much more like like they didn't have the basics and the mind was okay. The mind was there. There was people were able to focus and be themselves >> to a large extent from the time of secularism which is now Sculla. That's when things started to become confusing because there were people who came and said well if you know more about the world and you have more information and more knowledge it will add toward bringing toward the gula. It seemed like the light was coming down. I I feel like I feel like the the main challenge today although we do have all kinds of challenges but the main challenge is in the mind and the mind is to >> so what has taken place is with all these ideas that came down it became very confusing now people could actually think maybe the best thing I could do is not be myself because if I'm myself it's so easy comes naturally if I'm not myself that's what's hard maybe that's what God wants I shouldn't use my natural abilities maybe God doesn't want me to have enjoyment from the food. Maybe God wants me that I should suffer. Maybe I should suffer for him. >> Yeah. There's also >> all this becomes very confusing. >> There's also this famous quote of Mashim or some people who would say that if it's hard for you and that's what you're supposed to be how how does that fit in? >> That's a great question, but that we can only answer once we go over all the words. >> Okay, I have to get out of my basic one more thing. One more thing. I I just to emphasize Rebelli even said lately there's someone by his you're not going to like this. I didn't like it either. So, I'm going to discuss it on the air and if Rebelli wants, he can message me. He said in his she there's a guy in the Hebrew she that sits third of him his name is he loves guitar playing and he used to play at night for hours and he used to go to sim and speak to the guitarists and try to be on stage and sim and since he started he didn't touch his guitar because he comes those hours he comes to the shield and he's a big part of the sh he lights up the place he drums he sings he he's the one who types the gim like follows the on the screen. Bishas is there. He he adds a lot and sees that as a big thing. Imm he even cried when he spoke about it's like he gave up even a pussik for it that he g he's giving up a he's giving up a part of himself a part he loves guitar he gave up guitar for I didn't like it so much because I as a student of you and I I I would feel it myself that I would think the guitar is part of his hashem and he should be very connected to it if it's a talent that Hashem gave him he should find a way to to combine the two maybe he should bring a guitar to sheir every Okay. But uh sacrificing it totally. I I I was confused with that. >> Okay. So that's a great lead into the next word. Oh, >> now I'm starting to think that you just say every sentence I say it's a great lead into. >> No, because what we wanted to go over right now will answer that question. >> Amazing. Okay, so let's keep going. >> So here's the next word. The question is where's the work? Where did Hashem give us work? >> Right? >> And the answer is one word that divides into two. It's going to become two words, but it really is essentially one word. The word is balance. What Hashem wants us to reach is the point of balance in our life. Let that rest for a moment. What's the source? Source for anyone who wants to look it up is in Rambam. Rambam's which is called the Rambam writes an amazing thing says the is totally complete didn't mention one word about this in other words there's nothing explicit in the you need to be balanced there's no pik that says and you shall be balanced >> right >> or at least not openly not clearly according to that is the mitzvah of to go in his ways. You look in the explains that that is the mitzvah but it doesn't say like explicit you have to be balanced but says the of the and in everything the Torah says is that it wants that a person should live his life according to the middle path and that everything that the Torah describes for us and wants for us to do is that we should train ourselves to move away from extremes and get to that point of middle in our life. That's an amazing statement >> and that's what the says I called it. It's called it's a separate cipher that's known as the eightim that the Ram goes over before he explains what >> and what does he call balance? How does he call balance? It calls balance over there. >> So this is triggering in so many ways because most people around me that I've seen and known would be weighing to one side. Okay. And the Rambam actually writes in permi that no one is born in middle. In other words, we asked before what's going to be the work. The work is because no one is born exactly in middle. Everyone is born with a a leaning toward one or another extreme. It's going to be hard for everyone in the world to get to that most middle point. Everyone's working maybe from a different angle, but we have to get to the middle point. That's the work the tur wants that everyone should work in their own way to get to that middlemost point. >> And it must be very individualized because everybody needs balance somewhere else. >> Correct. >> Everybody finds some things more easy and some things more hard. Then it's >> not only is it individualized, we'll take it a step further. The balance really depends on what situation you're in. So it's not only according to the individual, it's going to be according to each situation. Each situation will need its own balance. >> Each day >> technically like every every kufa where he is right now. >> Exactly. Every moment will need its own balance. And that is again without getting into more details because this itself could take time. >> Yeah. But that is what does mean the way to go. What does making clear what the way is? When I have a situation, I have to weigh the different sides. Every situation pulls me toward one side or another. Should I go more? Should I go more? What should I do? Comes the po who learned a lot of already and he says this is the balance of this situation. That's and that's why you cannot take up that was given to someone else especially with the with the tricky questions which is not just can I put it on the fire or not like not basic some some things which are more individualized of minim or or >> or where's the best place for you to live or what you should be doing in life >> right and you can't copy paste oh du told him I can go also there's no such a thing so you have to That's why is critical. It's not correct. Wow. So, one more thing which I'm going to probably drop a bomb or but we're not going to go into it because it's too long. But that's why cookie cutting programs of people all being the same is not longlasting. The program itself could last, but the people step further. It's incorrect according to the Torah unless we're and we say that the cookie cutter people are trying to do according to the generation what will work for most right >> in order to get to the middle for that generation >> right which for a lot of individuals does doesn't work and that's why one of the things we're trying to do here is feed the individual information that would help them be balanced >> amen that's really the goal Beautiful. >> I feel I'm balancing myself out through this. >> Wonderful. So it fits in with the Rambam because again the Rambam says that is the in giving us the mitzvah. >> Wow. Okay. So that itself divides into two words and this is the work that we have to do. We need to reach what's called selfbalance and then the second word is world balance. So we have to work on both. So let's take the first one. It starts from yourself. Self-balance means we said you have to pattern your traits like Hashem, right? >> But each person is born with their own unique traits. So I have to take my traits which are born off center and I have to take my traits and try to get them as middle as possible. >> The mush somebody who gets very upset very fast. >> Correct. says the Rambam beginning of Hilk's day as per B he has to go to the other >> extreme >> for a little while not get upset about even things that normal people would get upset about in order what he does is called conditioning today he conditions himself >> 40 days >> according to many swarm it's 40 days I think I heard 40 days from it says 40 days of course says 40 So then he evens out. So then what happens is you've conditioned yourself already to come back to middle and your behavior pattern will be in middle and that's the goal which is called by us >> says the beginning of ism. Well, the work that we need to do for Hashem in this world really starts by taking a midas and that's going to be hard for everyone. You could be the richest person in the world. You could be the most gifted person in the world in whatever mida, but all the other midas you're still going to have to balance. No one gets away for free. >> And everybody has an equal amount of work or it's individualized also. >> No. Well, again, according to what you're given, everyone is born in different situations, but that already has to do with more deeper ideas. Why some people are given less of cha less of a challenge, some more of a challenge, and that's called already tikun. But let's just stick with the general idea. I have to reach balance. If I want to know what my goal is, my goal is to reach balance. >> So, that's the selfbalance. And then there's the world balance. >> Well, not yet. We didn't finish with self-balance because there's another part which is very important and that is just like we have to balance our own traits which is the first step >> then you need to balance just the all the parts of your life. A person has four main parts in life. One his physical being your physical body. Two his spiritual being his soul. Three your financial being how you doing financially. for your familial >> reality. >> Your family, how you relate to your family. Wow. So family is a category. >> And it actually says this in the medish. What does it mean? He was complete. Says the medish, he was complete in his body because he healed from what the Malik did to him. >> Yeah. >> He healed in body. He was complete in soul. He was shully. He was shulling financially. He was shaminoi and he was shav familiarly. >> So that's where that's these four >> those are the four groups. Oh, that's what Proctor by the end of his thing. That's what he was saying. Now I understand the it says in it's a medish and the medish has four categories. And what you'll notice interesting thing anyone in the world who doesn't have to it could be a very respectable non-Jew who's really trying to balance out his life. He got it. You need balance in order really to enjoy life that everything comes together and he's balanced. You'll notice he might be balanced, many people are balanced in one area. A number of people are balanced even in two areas and there are people balanced even three areas. But you'll never have a person who's balanced in all the areas unless he has the prescription of Tyra because that's what the Tory does. It gives you the ability to juggle and to balance all those areas otherwise something's going to give. And and that's the most joyful point you can reach in this >> well it's also joyful because everything comes together but it's even more and that's the next word world balance is that that indicates to the world that there's a point where everything meets because what is balance the middlemost point >> in the middlemost point that's the point where everything intersects where everything meets >> right >> you have a circle all the diameters go through the middlemost point, right? So the point of balance represents the point of unity, the point where everything comes together. It's the point where we can reveal Hashem as being the source for everything in life the most. >> Wow. >> So Hashem gave us a Tory reach balance. That will be the way you'll reveal me in the world the most. >> Wow. And these rabbis that are sitting there, they're just sitting on back. Now we go back. What about the rabbis who seem to give up a little bit on the physical? >> Yeah. >> And the answer is they're being as complete with the physical as they can because they're so connected to the spiritual level and they want to build on the relationship which of course is the goal. So they see building of the relationship as giving up on the physical. But remember they can never give up on the physical on a level where it oversteps. what you just said. If the Torah says you have to make sure the soul stays inside your body, >> you cannot >> avoid your body to the point where you're going to kill yourself in Judaism, that's inappropriate, right? >> Even for the greatest sadic. >> So you still have to maintain your body. You still have to give to your body. But it could be that these people have reached already a level where that's enough for them. >> Wow. Would eat, but it was enough for him to eat. >> Minimal. >> Yeah. But it's ne you never give up on one of the parts, >> right? >> You still have to have your financial part in sync which is very important. You still have to have your family part in sync which is very important. It's almost easy to take one or another of the groups and be great in it. >> Right? Person can be su successful financially but he doesn't have any family. Person could be successful financially with family but he he's not healthy. He's not healthy physically. person can be se successful financially with family and also be physically healthy amazing but he doesn't have the spiritual part >> wow >> so I think that that's what Ralli was saying was saying don't emphasize your music or what you're drawn to naturally >> more than the spiritual wow rebell gotfort I hope he makes it to this part I don't know the one who's going to send him the clip of the first part should send him the chie of my father as well. My father says you give up a little on one part to make room for all the part because all the parts need to be equalized >> and if one part is too much balance. If one part is too much you're losing the point. >> So it's all about balance. >> But I would say if the other part becomes too much for example someone who gives up his guitar completely and never touches the guitar again ever even to help others to be connected to earth that's also that would also be unbalanced. So therefore I think what Rebelli is saying is he's using his musical abilities now within the context of the year to be others. >> Yeah. I say bring the guitar please to the now I'm sorry for taking charge. Um okay the one one one thing when you're saying selfbalance and world balance the famous quote of Salante that said I was trying to fix the world then I saw I can't. I was trying to fix my city I saw I can't. I was trying to fix my street. I couldn't. I was trying to fix my house. And then I decided I'll fix myself and that's it. And the vibrational pattern as the would say of a self-centered. >> And what's the word for the financial? What's the word for the physical? >> What's the family? >> Bonov. >> Bonov. Bonov. I always forget. So forget your children. But I forgot the term. Okay. So I don't think Mush mentioned it. Maybe that's why Mush was screaming it. So you can go see the second one of the episodes. I think five. So Sal I understand from Salanta's thing that once you focus on balancing yourself automatically your is going to be more and more balanced. >> Correct. Isn't that everything we spoke about up till now? That's the revelation. When you know in yourself what is the purpose of life and you live that life, you give off an energy of course and you live the life that's balanced, self-balance, great, you're doing it. But we're talking about world balance is when it reaches the national level. That's already not only as an individual salant is talking as an individual. As an individual, the most you could do is to make sure that your life is balanced. Of course, >> so the individual, by the way, it's true that you feel a certain energy. Yeah, I can feel it next to yid that sits and learns and everything. I could feel it next to you all the time when I next to you. There's a certain >> That's a big [clears throat] compliment. >> It is. It is. You're and and I feel a certain um it's also a calmness because you feel closer to your it it it it it it soothes you to sit next to it soothes you. It's a it's a fact in the bri. It's unbelievable. Um so I would say he doesn't have to bother with the world um balance. >> Correct. But we're talking about what's the goal of Judaism. That's where we started today. >> So where do we get together as a nation besides all the work we said we're doing self-centered, self-balanced. How does one go now and be a world balance? >> Okay. So here's next point, but it's included in world balance. An amazing thing. What Hashem did is he implanted in every human being almost like a meter like you have a meter to measure a meter to know what is balanced. >> I like that. >> And the Rambam goes further to say that the word for balance that represents balance and refers to balance in the Torah is the word good. where the Ram at the beginning the first first sentence in the Ram says the good acts are those acts that are balanced and in the middle between the two extremes that are both bad >> both extremes are bad >> extreme is what's bad the middle point is what's good and the whole is really just a lesson in good says I gave you a lesson in to how to reach to. You just need to reach the balance. Now, here's the amazing thing. Since every human being has that meter inside, every person in the world, even non-Jews, will be able to tell when they see someone who's a good person. What does it mean good? He's balanced. >> Okay? >> And that's called beautiful because beauty is created through a balance. This it says in in May. What creates beauty in the world? It's the contrast. When you have two opposite things, let's say if you have over here a table and everything was the same color. The table was black and the cup was black and the mics are black and we're wearing would that be beautiful? No. >> No. It's the contrast, >> right? >> So beauty is when you take the two extremes and you can unite them. >> Mhm. says the Torah, I want you to keep the Tory so you'll be for a praise and for a name and for beauty in the eyes of all the nations. Says, I think it's you shall be recognized as holy when others can perceive that balance in you. Wow. So if we do this as a nation, everyone will pick up on it. It's more than an energetic level. It's the next level in revelation. It's not only an individual doing it. It's the whole nation. All the nations of the world will be attracted to it. It's what we spoke about. It's giving over Yiddish in a way which is not only makes sense, but it draws respect. It's like, wow, I would love to be that. Not that every non-Jew has to convert. He doesn't have to be like the Jew, but he would like to be. He wants to look up to the Jew. Mhm. But that's when the Jewish people follow all the hashkov and they're actually living with a balance. The problem is when you have Jewish people who are not holding there or who give over a message the opposite then it sets off the overall message from the nation. So it's technically when each individual is focused on their selfbalance automatically becomes a world balance and that everything you said correct and what's important to note over here is that even though we have different approaches there are 12vatim and the 12vatim are coming at the middle point from different angles that's why it's 12vatim but each one is really just an approach to get to the same place >> right >> when we make our approach to the main thing >> and our goal the tuffel That's a problem. >> Then we lose our perspective. Right? >> Our approaches are all very good approaches. One could sit and learn to 24 hours a day. And another one could be next to a holy sadic. And a third person could emphasize and a fourth person could emphasize going into the deepest parts of Torah in a hidden way. Whatever it is, each person could be doing different things. But that's not the main way and the only way to get to the middle point. It's just an approach. And what separates us most today as a nation is when we put the emphasis on approach. And then we can't see our brethren for who they are. Because it seems to me like my approach is right. It's right for you and for your whole community. Great. If that's what brings you close to Hashem, I'm overjoyed for you. But that doesn't have to be what brings me close to Hashem. And it's okay. And you could still say hello when you see me. Rabbi Roy said a funny joke about it. He said, "Gabis to someone in Muny on the street." He said, "Do you know me?" Said, "Oh, I thought you're Jewish." So that's that's what we we we got to. And that's the real gulus. That's that's even feel the gulus when he sees another Eid and it's it's it's a buts I don't mean to do this now and it's just going to stay as an open question so everybody can think for themselves where where to go with this. But what happens when someone is in a cases that the approach is very much to I'll say a gam stalin scream by davin which is a very highly approach and and they emphasize a lot of it on it right but he likes more a different approach so what does he do he wants to stay in Stalin as as the benefits of a community but >> my question is what's the goal >> the goal is a close intimate relation with >> and how do we get Yeah. >> Self balance. >> Balance. So you're saying he's in a community. He has to find his balance in his community. >> Yeah. How does one find his balance? That's a whole another podcast. I know. >> Well, or I would say in that case that you're saying if everyone is yelling their loudest and doing and it's hard for him, he should yell a little louder than he can, but not as loud as everyone else. And it's okay because he's balanced within his community. In other words, it's just an approach, >> right? Whatever works for you to bring you closest to Hashem, that's what's important. Don't give up on your community because it doesn't work for you. It's your community. You have to be part of it. So even within your community, you need to balance. There are people who would be more into the approach of the community and people less. But remain in your community. Follow your approach because that's what's going to help you to get to the middle place. >> Right? >> But at the same time, don't ple others who may have a different approach. >> Right? That that's the key. >> Don't throw out the approach of others who have a different approach. 2K. >> Yeah. Okay. So, we did the balance >> and what's going to be next? I I would have go on and on. I have so much topics that are opening and questions, but we're long enough. >> Hashem. Okay. So, just to review quickly, we've done already 11 words from the 13. >> Yes. >> Right. To review, axiom, infinite good. >> Relationship to framework gives revelation. >> Yeah. >> Small spark, big spark. >> Yeah. >> Self-balance, world balance. Yeah. >> 11 words. Now we're up to the last two words. And I would say that these two words are from the most important to get clear in our generation. >> I'm ready. >> This is what's missing. >> Okay. >> The last two words are request and answer. Request. Answer. I'm going to explain what it means. >> Okay. We said that our main focus in life in order to fulfill all of this is to build the closest most positive mutual relationship with the creator of the world that we can. >> Yeah. How do we build a relationship? Similar to the closest relationship that we know of, >> right? >> When people get married, two spouses. They're very different people, but at the same time, they become like one. They're one couple. Mutual means they have a give and take relationship. The one gives to one, the other one gives to the other. Ultimately, the way marriage is supposed to work, the best way it's supposed to be, what we aspire to in Judaism is that what you want is even more important to me than what I want. So, I care about you so much. I love you so much. Where do you want to go this coming Shabas? Who do you want to visit? >> Wow. Ideally, the spouse should answer, "Well, who do you want to visit?" And the main argument should be, "I want to do what you want. I know I want to do what you want." That would be ideal. What do we end up doing? We end up arguing about what I want. Or worse, we manipulate the relationship. So, someone might come and ask his spouse, "Where do you want to go for Shabas?" Spouse answers, "Of course, I want to go to my parents." But you want to get to the right answer that you want. >> Yeah. >> Well, that sounds like a great idea, but we we really can't. We that that's an impossibility because the car, you know, we don't have the car. I think we'll just stay by my parents. >> Yeah. So, >> so what you're doing on a subconscious level is you're in a relationship, but you're really moving the relationship to go according to what you want, >> right? >> That's not the highest level. Although, we're not going to take away Hashem. Thank God those people are still in a relationship. That's good. But we will say that the spouse probably feels that >> when we talk about the closest relationship with God, it's the same way. If we come along and we say, "God, I love you. You're amazing. This is great. I loved it. I love everything you gave us, but I want something." And I try, even the back of my mind, I'm going to try to manipulate this relationship. Namely, I'll tell God I'm doing everything he wants, but because he loves me so much, she should do something that I want. Why? Because I want that's not the highest level of relationship. >> You asked about skoolis earlier in this shia. Skoolis are good if it brings you closer to Hashem in the relationship. But if you're doing the skoolis in order to manipulate the relationship, in other words, God, I want this person to get better. I know you decided he shouldn't be well, but for whatever reason you have, but you love me, right? I want to get better and I do this gula because I want the result that I want. That's not the highest level. What is the highest level then? That's this word request. That means I come to God. We do what we say what we call davening. Come to God. I say, you know, God, we're in this relationship. I'm doing for you. You're doing for me. Can you do me a favor? My best friend is really suffering. I want him to get better. Mosha ben, please. Please, can you send him? I I wish he could come home in the next month. Please, he's he's already in the hospital 3 months. Please help he should come home this month. And you put it out there and then you don't expect any answer. In other words, you don't expect that the answer will be one way or the other way. Because if you go into the relationship expecting, then you already want to control what the answer will be. Mhm. I'll be nicy nicy to to God in order. Please, please, can you let out my friend? Please help him. You could do anything. But really, I want what I want. If it's a real relationship, then that means I put it out there. I want what you want. If this is what you want, fine. I'm okay. Part of what he wants is to dav to him. And this is what daving is about. I just want to express to you what I want and you do with it what you what you understand and that's why it says in the anyone who davins a long davening and waits for it to be answered does not get answered if you're actively waiting for a ding to get answered it will not get answered that's what it says in the question is why not I d in such a nice long doing I had kavana in every word. Why wouldn't it get answered? And the answer is because that's not the purpose of davining. Davin is to create a relationship. It's like communication between two spouses. I'm going to tell you what I need. You do with it what you want. Because I care about you so much and I trust you so much. I'll go with whatever you decide. I'm going to be what's called Das. I'll take my mind off of it. I put it out there. I gave you I gave you my information. I filled out my form. You're in control. You do what you want. And that's a big problem today. I'm going to go a little further. I'll be strong enough to go a little further. A lot of Eden are doing already everything we discussed. You have you have Jewish people all over the world. They're Jewish people who emphasize the relationship. They're Jewish people who are into their physical permissible experiences. They think about Hashem when they're going through the experience. They're Jewish people who develop their innate traits and abilities. They reveal Hashem in the world in a way that benefits others. We're doing already all of this. Why isn't the gula coming? And here's what I think is the key point. Because the gula cannot come if we manipulate it to come. That means the following. Hashem wants us to bring bring the gula. But ultimately, we cannot actually bring the gula ourselves. There's nothing we could do like taking a pliers and tightening the bolt. We cannot do an act to bring the gilla. We are in a relationship and the goal is a relationship. So the only way we could really bring the gula is to prepare, do the groundwork as much as we can, but afterwards turn to God and say, "Okay, I did as much as I could." Is the word surrender. You could use that word, but surrender implies that I'm giving up on what I want. >> No, you have to want what you want, but you have to be in a relationship. And in a relationship, I have to be fully in the relationship, which means I want what I want, but I care about you so much, I'll give you the decision, but for real. And a lot of times, we get such clarity in what we need to do as Jews that we just want to do it for God. I love you so much. I'll do it for you because that's what you want me to do. Right? But here's the key. The key is all you can really do at the end of the day is request. You did all the groundwork already. Now dive into Hashem. We're almost there. Hashem, I did whatever I could. Now you bring it if you want. It's up to you. And then we wait for the answer. That's the last word. Who's going to give the final answer? Who's going to give the final answer to my request? Hashem. Only Hashem. Correct? It's not going to be our decision. It's not going to be because I did something because I wanted to bring it or even if I had in mind certain ideas that it says in this could bring the gula. I can't manipulate it. And so therefore, you see throughout history that even when great Sadikim wanted to bring the gula and they could have brought the gula, but it would be manipulated. It was it was counteracted. It didn't work out and his sons they ded together. It was revealed to them from that if they ded together what they say in D is going to take place. They started the D together and they were coming closer to Mim. If they would have said Mimm it would have taken place. >> Says the Gmorra. Hashem saw that they were diving. It's coming close and they're going to say the words. it's going to take place that said this is not taking place and he sent something to confuse the situation so it should not take place and they had to run away. >> Wow. That's what it says initia because why don't you want to say because even great sadikim what took place is that ali was sent down to the world he would came in the form we know alo has different forms came in the form of a bear and he came into the sh and it became and they had to run away >> so why would hashem have sent alvi to break up their dvening >> it's a matter of milliseconds >> if their doning could actually bring the gula or there was a master from they wanted to bring the gula through cert M fromash throughout history we have was trying to find >> that's also one one >> story >> story in history it's another story in history wanted to bring the so we see throughout history hashem did not let even great sadikim bring the gula themselves because how do you answer that up because the goal is to be in the relationship and relationship means it has to be in the best way which means I'll ask my spouse what you want to do and I'll really mean it whatever you want to do I care about you so much I'll do what you want to do not that I want to do what you want to do because I want to do what you want so I'll feel good that I did what you want it's very real it's a real relationship so what you're saying is kadai should be the most real relationship ship. It has to be that all the Eden will be balanced. It's it's it's almost impossible. Okay, that's a good question. But that doesn't have to do specifically with request. That's what we spoke about previously. Can the yidden reach that level? I would say it's not impossible because if Hashem gave us the Tory, that's the whole point. Shem gave us the Torah and that's all of all of is to find the balance of every situation. It's not impossible. That's what we do when we live a Torah lifestyle. But there's more yeed in today that don't know about Hashem than do know. >> Okay, that's also an issue. But again, if we would be able to give it over and that's a little bit what we started with. If we be able to give over what the Torah wants of us in a way that makes sense and in a way that draws respect. So then they'll also relate in their way to Tyra. And as we know the balance of their situation is maybe they're not expected to become or keeping total keeper of mitzvah. There was once an approach in Israel that said in order for the good to come we have to make all the Jews in the world sham shabas we have to bring them back to all the mitzvah maybe that's not the balance of their situation if a person grew up already for 50 60 years he didn't know anything about it's called >> and he has limited liability on any anything that he did wrong >> it's not judge the way that we judge >> so it's only up to us >> well what it is is to give him a certain message that he should feel a connection to the terror lifestyle on some way he should feel a connection to his Jewish roots. But that's when we explain it in a way that he can relate to it. So yes, it is possible to reach national balance if we would at least give it over in a way that makes sense and draws respect. >> But to a large extent, a lot of these ashkafas are not even emphasized today. [snorts] >> So it's definitely going to help me or everyone that tries to do these 13 steps. But if you if you're talking about g at the end of the day as a goal so it's like you said we start from the individual >> that there should be another one person who does this >> right >> so once again we started this she by saying that if a person knows these 13 that's first we have to know them that's what we tried to go over today secondly if you live with them and you train yourself you condition yourself to live with them you start to feel it more and more >> and starts to become more clear to you. Yes, this is what it's about and this is where we're headed to and this is the goal. And then just like you're able to explain it to yourself, you're able to explain it to your friend in a way that makes sense. I'll mention if someone's interested in reading more about what we spoke about today have two that are available. One is called >> You have to be closer to the mic. >> One is called it's all for the good. >> Yeah. >> If you spell these words out, Google it's all for the good. You'll be able to order it. There's a distributor named Z Berman Books and from what I understand he he delivers to any place in the world. So >> what about Amazon? It works on Amazon. >> I think it's on Amazon as well. >> Very nice. >> And the second book is reaching life's goal in this world. Both of these books discuss the ideas that we spoke about today. >> What's the difference between the two books? >> One talks about some of the axioms, let's say the first seven, and the other one discusses uh the rest of balance. Not in Hebrew yet. >> Not in Hebrew. Okay. So, you would need to Google. >> What about what about the Yiddish? Not yet. >> Not yet. >> Not yet. But we'll see if there's a lot of requests in the comments. Maybe we'll we'll consider that. >> Hashem should help. I'll give a to everyone that first of all, we should be able to get clear for ourselves. I mean, we said a lot of things today and it could be it might be challenging for someone. They'll see, well, I'm living a Torah lifestyle. There some things that you said that I don't see we're living. Okay. If it's a challenge for you, I would say back, I challenge you. Please go and look up some of these things. Try and find the mccurs. You have the sources for all of it in these two books. If you really want to discuss, like we said, any two people have the same axioms, they could discuss and try and find the truth between themselves. That's what Jewish people do throughout the generations. So, let's go for it. Look up the sources. You tell me if you see them differently, but at the end of the day, if you see them the same, then you'll agree that this is what we need to do. >> Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for bringing this immense amount of and so many topics intermingle and build such a nice building that I was blown away the first time. And I'm so glad we could actually record it so more people can enjoy this. And a lot of times it surprised me when especially when I sit down for such a thing how much more there's to learn how much more how infinite tora is. Sometimes I think okay I learned the the par the basic I know the par and there's okay so there's also but that's an outcome of how big is the but then you you dive into such a thing and then this one thing opens to more and more especially when I learned I see like every word is a whole world it's endless and this is there's still there's still okay that's very good to make you excited but at the same time don't despair don't think wow It's so I can't get any of it. Again, if God gave it to us, it must be that we have the ability to grasp. There must be a certain basis of ideas that we can just get and review and feel comfortable with. Like you say, soothing. I'm okay. Now, I could venture if I want and have time. I could go further. I could go deeper. That's what we got for 20 years. So, we get some time to figure this out. First, figure ourselves out and then with a with some balance to start diving into the depths of the Torah. Amen. Thank you so much. Tati, can I give you a hug?