Are You Creating Angels Or Demons. - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (37)

[Music] great to be here in aventur again our weekly continuing our M series I believe today is number 37 so if you can actually the camera closer say um it's too far I reset it and it's a Closer Closer Closer make sure they see the full to keep so says you have to start with you laugh yourself sometimes too uh you want a joke okay but give you a joke so this is is number 37 of the series and uh interestingly enough many people that I know that uh have always been interested in the mystical part of Judaism where they like to learn zoah they like to learn cabala all these different things have found this series very very interesting even though we don't really talk about that much mystical stuff we talk about a lot of things that are pertaining to your day-to-day life I mean in uh in the business World they call this ethics or character development or uh self-help but you know once in a while you throw a story about something mystical so today's sh actually has a mishna that is very very mystical coming from one of the people that was the foundation of all the mystical knowledge we have today now if you ask people today what's Torah most people tell you it's theala tell okay what about what about no that's that's for the Orthodox people that's for the religious people the real Torah is the mystical part by the way it's complete nonsense it shows how little we actually know what Torah is and what's not now of course the mystical part of the Torah is the Torah but you won't only find the mystical part of the Torah in the as a matter of fact you'll find a lot more mystical things in the gar then you will anywhere else you just have to go through the whole thing but today most people you see them they do chuva a year year and a half two years all of a sudden they start wearing white clothes on Shabbat the beard gets longer and long because it's free on sh they're wearing all white you tell them you know so you which which part of the uh sh are you no no no I don't focus on that what you what are you learn no doing something else what are you doing I'm learning z z wow learning off big level do you know how to eat what are those how you say pach pistachios you know how to eat pistachios on Shabbat I'm serious do you know how to eat pistachios on Shabbat they ask you what do you mean how eat pistachios you open them you eat them then what do you mean how if I eat pistachos that way ah something called it's good to know by the way you can't separate the good from the bad so if you're going to eat pistachios you're going to have two piles you going to have the pile of the pistachios that you haven't peeled yet you haven't broken the shell yet you have a problem of of the peel you're not eating the peel unless you're a monkey we're not monkeys here no monkey showed up today we haven't gotten to that market yet so if you are only breaking the peel and you're putting the peel on one side you're violating Shabbat you're violating the laws of you're separating the good from the bad so what do you have to do you have to put a few good pistachi inside the pile of the junk so how you learning how you learning all you don't even know how to keep Shabbat properly you learning Z everybody wants to skip they want to skip 20 years they want to skip all the they want to skip all the they want to skip all the they want to skip everything they want to go straight to the mystical stuff why sounds fancier sounds more M sounds like I'm worried about my kipa they tell me you know the kip what what do you know about you don't even know how to eat on Shabbat you don't know how to eat eat you don't know I'm not telling you you don't know how to pray I'm not telling you don't know how to study you don't know how to eat eat on Shabbat you don't even know what kipa are you worrying about nonsense people have to understand that the basics are so far ahead of us that just to get a good footing on the basics minimum 20 years to get a good footing to get understanding to be comfortable in in your own skin with the basics of Judaism requires a minimum 20 years of studying tah not 20 years of just keeping Shabbat like a robot we have a lot of uh robots that keep Shabbat in the world you know they just don't turn on the phone they don't turn on the TV they don't drive they sleep most of the day they eat chant like they've never eaten before in their life they go to sh that's a robot that keep Shabbat there's many of them we they trying to be a littleit better we know it's the end of days we know that hasem is very very serious about every single detail it's not we don't really have much time to joke around so we have to understand that we can't be robots of keep Shabbat to do a little more so when someone says listen I'm going to skip all this I'm going to go to the mystical stuff it's a very big mistake it's a very big mistake and not to touch the Z the cabala all the mystical stuff until you have an amazing footing an amazing foundation in a Tora and unfortunately many people that are are really really attracted to the mystical stuff mainly because they're being misled there's many babot in the world many people that pretend to be you know righteous people and they come to from far away and say oh listen guys I heard this in my own my own ears I heard this guy comes to the community from Israel guys we're going to go learn 45 minutes only Z half the guys are what are you teaching them Z what Z are you teaching them they don't even know how to spell Z what Z what are you teaching them but that's the thing people are being sold a bag of goods but when they go home which is in sh they're going to tell them oh what do you have in that bag sir you brought it here all the way from the world what do you have in the bag sir oh no no I have something good what what do you have he's going to open the bag biss nothing there's nothing in the bag what is he got he's got a couple of good stories stories don't get anybody into get Ed but I'm G tell you a story anyway so one time there was a guy that was very very scared of of uh cemeteries scared scared and in the old days before cars before planes and all that stuff you have to walk everywhere on a horse on a camel on a donkey but usually they would have the cemeteries at the end of the town so most people that would come into town they would have to pass by the cemetery so this guy had to travel into this new town and he had to go past the cemetery was scared to death pass by the cemetery it's at night what are they going to do I mean that people don't really harm anybody they're dead but he scared me skin what am I going to do he's sitting there shaking shaking doesn't know what to do all of a sudden he sees on the other side of the fence where the cemetery side is a guy shows hey how are you where you going oh I'm going that way what's come with you so they're walking together the guy's on the other side of the fence he's over here he's like oh somebody next to me and they start talking where you from oh I came from this place oh wow you have family you have this not talking to get to the end of the cemetery oh you're not leaving the cemetery goes no no I'm here I'm here goes oh okay he goes why where you going I'm going over there all right I'll see around he goes just out of curiosity why are you so scared of cemeteries CU oh scared of them scared you know with the dead people and everything go oh you know what I agree with you when I used to be alive I was also scared you get that Sunny That was supposed to joke I don't have many jokes sunny I don't have that many jokes you got to laugh at my jokes got to support me for my jok I got one joke every six I material of jokes to say so that's the story you got for today so so oh no I'm sorry this one is a uh no know says the following one who stays awake at night or who travels alone on the road but turns his heart to idleness indeed he Bears guilt for his soul okay so now it's telling you something a little strange listen if you stay up at night which I think everybody stays up at night these days I don't think anybody does goes to sleep at 8:00 like the old generation stay up at night 11 12 1 2 3 usually get most of my emails at 3:00 in the morning you stay up at night or you travel alone on the road at night or you turn your heart to idleness meaning you start doing nothing waste your time he's saying that my friend is putting your life at risk now the last time I checked this generation doesn't go to sleep during the night they go to sleep during the day they go to sleep during the day awake at night everyone's alive and well so what is this Tad this holy T saying he saying if you stay up at night you walk around at night by yourself and you turn your heart to nothing you waste your time your life's at risk so first and foremost we have to meet who is he so the mid and also in and also in talks about a uh story about it says that he went away to study for many years 12 years but not like today study you go study two hours you come home you got 22 hours to do whatever you want he went to study for 12 years not seeing family no kids no wife no nothing and who sent him his wife one day after 12 years he decided to come home studied what did he study studied all of the mystical parts of the Torah ghosts demons what happens in sh what happens before this world what's going to happen after things that are beyond our understanding is that what Z is z talks about different parts talks about things that are not necessarily just that there's many other parts of the zor some parts of the zor are like a mid on a uh commentary on the uh on the five books of Moses or the tanak some parts are going to tell you different uh mystical details like the background story or significance of certain mitv and some of them are going to talk to you about things that are happening in sh like for example uh details of Angels the Angels names and things like that it's different parts of the Z but he was studying the highest level of mysticism which is they call these are two things that the says you're not allowed to teach people not allowed to teach people what happens in sh and you're not allowed to teach them how the world really came to be yeah they say that it's so high that for the most part most people are so far away from understanding it that it's only going to confuse them and lead them away from the Direction That's supposed to go but the question is asks then how is it that these sages learned it and not only that the same says that some of these sages actually taught it to people didn't you just say you're not to teach it so how are they teaching it not only that how did allow himself to write the which is not necessarily but it's definitely certain parts that are very very mystical or even different parts of the talk about things that are Beyond this world Beyond listen you should uh not uh not be angry you know there's things that are very mystical how did you teach those things answer of the is you're allowed to teach it to today now because most people don't even understand what you're talking about so there's no danger the generation is so far they're not going to say what you're talking about anyway it's like talking to a wall they're going understand once in a while they're going to understand a word but in reality today if you're going to learn let's say 10 12 13 hours a day you want to spend an hour a day learning Z you want to spend an hour a day learning fine your Rabbi says it's okay it's okay if you're at that level you're at that level but if you're going to be one of those people you have only one one hour a day to study and you're going to spend it on Z you're going to spend it on cabal spend all mystical stuff you my friend have a serious problem why because you're going to forget the purpose of why you're studying it you have to Lear you have to learn you have to learn Five Books of Moses you have to learn the basics you can't just go straight to the top but went and spent a lot of time learning the mystical parts of the Tor to such an extent that he had many many secrets and thear says that when he came home to see his wife after 12 years his wife was so surprised she got a heart attack and died he saw his wife that's been waiting for him for 12 years that sent him she's the one that sent him for 12 years to study could accept it he started praying to Hashem hem she's the one that sent me and he revived the dead he brought her back to life so when they say that anybody that's mentioned in thear by name anytime you have a and they actually see a name of a sage uh Huna all of these Giants why they named by name and sometimes you see someone said who's someone well you don't have a name of course we have a name but we're not going to mention his name in the G why we're not going to mention his name in thear because he's not at a level to be mentioned in thear because to be mentioned in thear by name you have to be at a level where you were able to revive the dead and this is one of the many many stories you see in where one of the sages actually revived the dead so you had a question um why she was so surprised that he was home yet she hasn't seen him in 12 years she was so surprised her dear husband was uh was back home and surprise no phones back then she didn't text her before uh Hey listen honey I'm on the way home surpr just surprise surprise sad comes back home she's surprised so now why do I tell you this background story of him because if he's at a level of being able to revive the dead after learning all the different mystical parts of the toah then he knows a little bit he knows a little bit about these things so when he's telling you that someone that stays awake at night and travels alone at night and just wastes his time he's putting his life at risk there has to be more meaning than just a simple few words M agrees so was trying to educate us about demons he was trying to educate us about the outcome of each and every single one of our actions one of the things that we have a hard time understanding is that every action has a reaction everything that you do there's a cause and there an effect when someone does something in this world it doesn't matter whether whether it's a big mitvah small mitvah big sin small sin there has to be an impact in the real world has to be before any war begins in the world first it begins in sham because each Nation according to kazal has their own angel that hasem has this Angel supervised he gives him the all of the good goodness all of the decrees all the good the bad everything he gives him the shef to deliver it to the nation so someone that's a heretic would immediately ask wait a minute what so this God needs help what kind of God is this no Hashem does not need help so why does he use these angels why is for example the angel of Egypt which is called MIT in Hebrew the name of that angel is MIT just like the name of the country is MIT so is the angel's name MIT so why does AEM need MIT he doesn't need him but the way of a king is to have servants you're never going to see a king cleaning his own toilet you're never going to see a king cooking for himself the way of a king is to have servants the King of Kings he's GNA have servants so now he's gives these angels the shefa that he gives to the world but now before any war begins here officially the Angels immediately start fighting up there Egypt starts fighting Syria Syria starts fighting Iraq Iraq starts fighting so on eventually that's the Sher that comes down to this world all of a sudden the Syrian guy doesn't like the Iraqi guy they were best friends for 25 years all of a sudden he wants to stab him what happened you guys are best friends you're just playing soccer your kids yeah yeah but he looked at me funny what do you mean looked at you funny you know him for 25 is yeah I don't like him anymore all of a sudden he doesn't like him why start already over there but how did this start why do they start fighting up there because they got the outcome of our actions here the outcome of our actions generate a certain energy if you will that goes up there they got that energy they re act off of that energy that reaction causes an effect over here so it's a circle the same goes with any time we make a sin many people unfortunately especially in the uh in America have gotten used to driving on Shabbat even to betet to such an extent that they don't think there's anything wrong with it not I'm not talking about people that are driving and they don't go to that they reform or something and they give Bar Mitzvah to dogs or they're conservative and the rabbi is gay I'm not talking about those people or the renewal where the uh they have uh you know they're contemplating with they have go start becoming members of the Kila I'm not talking about those people talking about Orthodox Jews they call themselves Orthodox unfortunately this parts of Orthodox there's you know real Orthodox that people actually keep me and there's like some people just call themselves Orthodox because they like to call Orthodox sounds cool sounds serious yeah but you drive on Shabbat Orthodox but you eat [Music] Orthodox yeah but you don't keep any whatsoever you're a thief on top of it you're a really bad guy Orthodox how are you Orthodox I come and I pray Y what for an hour and a half yeah know but also pray in the morning a few hours nonsense but un unfortunately we're very very far away from the destination we're supposed to be but it's gotten to a point that people are at such a level that's so far away from the truth that you see people and I saw this with my own eyes I wouldn't say this if I didn't see this with my own eyes because I wouldn't believe the story honestly I saw people come to sh drive to sh they coming out of the sh I was walking around with my family and they're coming out of the sh I guess they finished they coming out of the Sho they walked to the parking lot now they weren't a black keeper they're not you know listen when you see a guy walking around with you know one of those quarter keas you know the keas is slightly bigger or smaller than a quarter and it's colorful it's like I don't know rainbow colored or something it's like okay the guy is the first time he wore a keepa or he just got it from some bar mitzo or something said what he's he's trying to get in you can't judge that guy M scan he doesn't know anything like we didn't know no judgment you see a guy wearing a black heat for all a atically you think this guy's serious this guy's he's already in the game does he does this this guy's it's good he's going to be part of the third that saved B you see him walking around with his family with a little girl straight to the car with the talit with everything going in the car driving away M I couldn't believe it I couldn't believe my eyes because based on the exterior this guy's been religious his whole life his whole life based on actions he skin the guy has no share of the world to come if he doesn't do chuva not him or his family have a share of the world to come you understand the significance of this do you understand that when he turns the car just turns the car we're not talking about driving for 25 minutes just turns it on there 6,000 atomic bombs going off in his personal so when he shows up over there with his talit bag and the black keeper looking religious like oh sir how are you good good good okay great he's your what do you mean destruction what do you think every time you turned the car Shabbat nothing happened because you didn't see it because you didn't hear it something happened Hashem said don't light fire you turn on the car you lit 6,000 fires you press the gas it's another 6,000 fires you drove for 25 minutes it's another half a million fires each one of those fires is the equivalent of an atomic bomb not a fire like a little fire like a little bonfire little personal fire to burn your kit we talk about atomic bomb Hiroshima Nagasaki with tiny atomic bombs next to the ones we have today that's what we're talking about so because we don't see it we don't think it's happening but it's happening so this is one of the most important things that a person needs to understand everything has an outcome everything as soon as a person starts understanding there's an outcome there's a consequence for his actions his life changes but as soon as he thinks that nothing happens I could turn on the car on Shabbat I could turn on the TV if I don't see anything happen hasm doesn't punish me I'm fine there's 500 other cars in the parking lot why don't you tell them something what do you want from me my friend you're responsible for you he's responsible for him he's responsible for him and all of you are responsible for each other and the serious problem is that you sweet and important people are actually the ones that are affecting sh the guy that's learning it's doing mitv he's learning to all day he's helping us keep the balance but every time you turn on the car my friend you're not doing us any good so when Hashem is angry he's not angry because of the guy that's learning T because that's what he said in t listen you learn T you're you keep you're amazing you work on your midot superhero drive on Shabbat and all these horrible horrible things so you my friend are driving on Shabbat you messing up my life when my nation has people people dying every other day from terrorists Wars all this stuff what do you think it's happening because of the guy that's learning to no it's not happening because of him it's not happening because of him I know no one likes to hear this no but I have a friend he's a really nice guy oh my dad he's a really wonderful person he just drives on Shabbat once in a while I understand everybody has it everybody has somebody in the family it's a wonderful wonderful person I understand but this is why we're here we have to affect ourselves work on ourselves strengthen ourselves get to a point of happy not get to a point of being all being speakers get to a point of happy get to a point where I can see you're happy doing what hasm wants and if I can see you're happy then he can see you're happy if he can see you're happy he's going do what you're doing so you ask what's your secret you don't have to be a speaker to help people do chba you just got to be happy but I'm not talking about the fake happy the guys that are break dancing in the middle of the street saying they're happy taking ecstasy pills that's not happy talking about happy like you're happy with real life you have no money in the bank you're happy you got bill collectors you're happy you got married you're happy everything you're happy why because you know Hashem is running the world as soon as you understand that Hashem is running the world there's no reason for you not to be happy of course there's things that will stress you out will test you will annoy you different things there's ups there's downs but ultimately the closer you are to the easier it is to be happy and it's actually becomes almost impossible to be unhappy go ahead anxiety anxiety anxiety is as a result of lack of am meaning when someone feels like he is responsible for a certain outcome he's responsible to make money he's responsible to find the he's responsible for all these different things that are happening in his life then of course he's going to be anxious the reason why is because his his inside knows the truth his says by the way you think you're gonna make money you're not going to make any money you think you're going to find auk you can't find it you can't find yourself in the bathroom you think you're going to do anything in life you can't do anything it's only hasem so your is telling you you fool stop thinking you're going to do anything look up ask ABA he's the only one that can do anything so as long as your n and your body are in disagreement you're going to be anxious one guy is saying I'm going to do it I'm going to do it the other guy said you don't know what you're talking about you can't do anything we can make money who gives you the money no no I I made I I worked in the stock market I bought this who gave you the brain yeah no but it was my brain but who made the brain work then the sh knows the secret because my friend you don't know what you're talking about you think you can do anything that's why you're anxious you're anxious because there's a disagreement there's a disagreement and you don't want to admit it you want to convince yourself that it's you that's you doing it as long as you think it's you you have a problem you have a serious serious problem so back to our Mish is telling us that if we understand that every single one of our actions leads to a outcome leads to a reaction leads to something Everything Changes Everything Changes because then we understand that there's eyes and ears eyes that are watching ears that are hearing and Hashem is writing everything in a book so now he's telling you in the in the tah it says the foundation of the Tor is to learn the Tor meaning most important part is to learn what it says in the Torah to such an extent that even a person that's an hour before his death he knows he's going to die in an hour he knows but he still is able to study he has to study toah has to study tah everyone is obligated to study tah so if instead of using that time to study T you're just hanging out at night doing nothing watching YouTube videos of uh I don't know Ducks crossing the street watching YouTube videos of a lion chasing a uh uh one of these zebras you want to see the National Geographics Channel you want to see some comedy at 2 o00 in the morning hey Raab I want to cheer up myself I was a little depressed today so I want to watch some comedy I want to watch the guy make fun of the crowd which by the way is the worst possible thing you can do all these Comics by the way I don't know if there's enough space for them in Gayo because their job is to make fun of the public someone who embarass is somebody in public has no share of the world to come it's not a good deal to be comic at least not to that kind of comment so you want to watch some comedy you want to do all those things instead of learning is telling you this is a serious mistake and the reason why is because page 12 says that the only reason why the moon was created was in order for us to use the light of the Moon to study to you those days didn't have electricity not everybody was rich enough to afford a candle so at least there was a light from the Moon you're able to study T night there's a story about they say that part of the reason of why he ruined his vision was as a result of studying at night he didn't have money when he was a kid teenager even young adult very very poor didn't have any money no electricity no nothing and he would study at night with the Moonlight we need coffee some pretzels maybe some cookies a muffin or two nice music in the background to make us relaxed like we're meditating the book on a nice sender can't be more than six months old chair has to be perfect and has to be perfectly cool if it's just one degree hot we have to fix it so why it's so important for us about this Moon what's so important about this night is because the same tells us that as soon as the sun comes down all the demons come out to play all the bad Angels come out to play and come out to run the world it's no secret that all the biggest sins against theem are done at night nightclubs clubs bars all these different things I don't have to tell you I you guys can use your own uh past experience before we do all the CH or doing CH you don't need to be a genius of what happens in his go on their of the world all the worst sins that happen when they happen they don't happen at 12: in the afternoon you just woke up at 12: from the night before it happens at 3:00 in the morning why don't people watch garbage on TV or on the computer at night why don't they go out to these garbage places that ruin Souls marriages and everything in between at night why does everybody have their secret life at night why because the influence of the Demons is at night as soon as the sun comes down yet takes control now we tell people something like whatever yeah it's not good you have to purify your hands okay it doesn't sound like a big deal you tell somebody tell somebody demons you tell somebody evil spirits sounds scary the two are the same leads to Demons they go together it's not that the demons are in clean places you don't find a demon in the wherever he's studying t you don't find he's not there he doesn't study with him he goes to the nightclub you don't find him in a kosher wedding where there's a all the are dancing on one side the on the other side they don't see each other because it's not appropriate or modest for men and women to dance together in public but this say that a person is not allowed to go to parties of mixed dancing and the reason why is because every couple that's dancing together has a few demons dancing with them they can't see the demons all the time but they're dancing with them also and they take him home they don't leave the outcome of the dance the nice little slow dance they teach 12-year-old kids to do they think it's cute I remember I was in public school little kid they like oh yeah look look they're slow dancing and the teacher like wow that's so cute they don't realize they're destroying these people's life so he says hi she says hi they all go home to their own houses but each one of them is carrying like 15 or 20 demons with them they're going to torture them at night why do you think people have nightmares well it's just bad luck they have nightmares why you think people have anxiety was just their nature to be anxious why do you think people always stressed out about absolutely nothing nothing happened he's already stressed out yeah but nothing happened I don't know I don't know I think something's going to happen what what happened I don't I just feel it something's happening yeah something's happening to you the demon is whipping you right now and you just can't see him thear says there's three people that you have to protect they have to have they have to to be with somebody all the time someone that's sick someone that's a groom and a bride they have to be with somebody they cannot be alone why the one that's sick apparently there's a decree in sham there's a decree in sham so the demons are trying to push it over the edge come with us come to the next world go from sick to dead don't leave him alone don't leave him alone he's sick don't leave him alone people leave people in hospitals alone for weeks at a times no good go visit said someone doesn't visit the sick it's like you killed him he died it's your fault fault it's not because of sh it's your fault why he didn't feel his so no one's coming to visit him what's he going to live for well you're only going to visit him when he's Rich successful and happy what about when he's sick what about when he's sick you're not going to visit him kind of friend are you kind of family are you so that's one sick person don't leave him alone second bride and groom why bride and groom demons are jealous jealous we can't do that we can't get married they're about to have they're about to have a kosher marriage which AEM all the sins that they made until this point if they have AEM gives them a wedding present what's the wedding present you start from scratch you start from zero as if you're like a baby yeah but I was a liar baby but I was a cheater baby but I was uh not such a big baby every your account goes to zero everything you can fix you fix for example you stole you have to give it back like somebody does chuva oh yeah but I stole okay so give it back that completes your chuva you can't steal $20 million I'm G to do chuva Now doesn't work like that but my friend you want to get married says I have a wedding present for you m Mish says when is a man and a woman have have the Merit of being together with SCH the comes between them the comes between them why says I want to be part of this this is good this is all but hasem cannot come down to something that's deformed when is was in Mount Si before the came down bunch of people were crippled missing arms missing eyes missing legs we got beat up for 86 years in Egypt we're there for 210 years but 86 of hard years of slavery chopped our legs our arms our eyes beat us up bunch of crippled people blind people deaf people cannot come down and be a part of something that's not perfect so one of the greatest Miracles that ever happened that people don't speak much about is the fact that as soon as am arrived at M in order for the to come down hasem had to perform a miracle first what was the miracle heal everyone the guy that didn't have an arm grew an arm like the starfish the guy that was blind was now able to see the one that was deaf was able to hear without an hearing aid missing a leg now you have a perfect leg like it was never missing everyone healed because the cannot come down and be a part of something that's not perfect H you know where that is so now you have yourself a significant thing a significant gift promised to you from sh when a man and a woman have peace among them the is coming down but she not can't come down if it's not perfect oh you're going to get married you're a baby now I want to make you perfect but the to be there so now if someone is going to have a mixed dancing wedding cuz he wants to make sure everybody has fun everybody has fun want to have a mixed dance wedding can't come down to that so not only is the gift not there anymore the is not there anymore and not only that but instead instead of going back to being a baby instead of going back to being a sadik a t something pure what ends up happening to this bride and groom is that they end up collecting everyone's sins for all the demons they created so instead of leaving the wedding as babies that are pure and holy they left as with million or two million more sins why because they wanted a few people to have fun now let's think about the logic of this because I know that the whole mix dance weddings Bar Mitzvah B mitzvas whatever other Mitzvah there are that people think that they're doing with these celebrations it's a big tun for this generation people think that it's a must to have mixed dense events even people are doing CH no it's wrong they're like yeah but my family is secular my family is not really religious how am I going to have a Kos wedding if nobody's going to feel comfortable because it has a let's think about this logically and understand how the is fooling everyone because really to have a kosher wedding it's e easiest thing in the world easiest thing in the world it's easier than keeping Shabbat it's easier than any but has fooled this generation to believe it's the hardest thing in the world and you have have to be like you have to be like the black and white black and white like you have to be like's grandson to have a mixed dance wedding with kosher people a um sorry a uh a kosher wedding you can't be someone that's doing a kosher wedding if you're not like mikal I know my friends it's very easy it's very very easy first of all is free it's a piece of board you put it it it's a sheet the hall has it you're paying them a few thousand they have it it's free so no more investment you don't have to worry about investing that's one everybody's worried about money for the wedding doesn't cost any money that's one two people feeling comfortable let's think about it whose party is it yours or them if they're coming for them if they're coming to dance because they want to dance there's plenty of nightclubs to go to they don't have to come to your wedding if they're coming to you know do a uh nice show for everyone they could do it with there's more people go to the nightclub you don't have to come to your wedding for night for the show three who actually really dances at weddings let's think about this let's say you have just statistically you have 100 people most weddings have more but let's say you have 100 people out of the 100 people 50 definitely don't dance they sit all day and eat first meal second meal third meal fourth meal fifth meal sixth meal they don't stop eating they don't stop eating and drinking they go to the bar they eat bar eat bar eat they go like this once in a while just to show people like they're actually moving they're still alive that's it they don't dance 50% of the people don't dance the other 50% out of them let's said it's 50 out of them 35 are going to dance for a few minutes just to show some some support and then they're going to go sit down as soon as they have an opportunity and join the other guys that are eating who are the idiots that are dancing all night like 15 people 15 people are doing the whole party and who are those 15 people usually the ones you didn't want to you didn't want to invite It's usually the 15 people like what did I invite this guy for what is he here what this girl is here this is what he brought to my wedding can't believe I invited this guy you regret the minute you see him and he's having a blast day wedding creating demons at will and destroying your so what are you destroying your for what are you destroy therefore for people you don't even like 15 of them you know it's not like there's a 100 people and 100 people dance 100 people not dancing you're destroying your L For Nothing But The convinced you that it's impossible to have a kosher wedding a kosher Mitzvah a kosher bar MIT you this old movie I think I quoted at least five times over the last few years in the um lectures I think his name was the actor's name was Kevin spacy he had a nice line he said the greatest thing the devil's ever done was convince everyone that he doesn't even exist we see this in the reality the greatest thing that we're seeing here with this whole wedding night nightmare all over the world Jewish weddings have turned into nightclubs even for people that call themselves religious all of a sudden the woman that has the whole year for the wedding she has a wig why why are you wearing a wig for the now your whole life you work with with a hat you are nice kosher lady why do you have to be a sh and put the wig on that you know it's not allowed if you thought it was allowed you'd wear it the whole year why are you wearing it now no but everybody else is wearing it so everybody else jumped off a bridge you jump too one day she has to ruin the whole Mitzvah instead of being Kem showing to the world you could look pretty even modest you could look pretty you could look with a you don't have to have a you know a one of these Victoria Secret model hair with the hair over here you have a nice that's it who do you want strangers to look at you why why do you want strangers to look at you your husband doesn't give you enough attention kind of Jew are you if you're secular you're secular fine you're secular that's fine you don't understand why you're even alive but if you're already calling yourself religious why are you acting secular why are you wearing a wig so that's why one problem you have all the kosher ladies all of a sudden many of them fail many of them fail at these events they wear wigs during the events second thing is people have to do this mixed dancing but people don't understand how bad it is it's to such an extent this is considered such a sin that it's this is a sex crime mixed dancing leads to wasting seed leads to promiscuity leads to immodesty leads to a lot of leads to a lot of different major sins in Judaism to such an extent that to go to a mixed wedding it's you're better off dying and not going because you have three sins in Juda Judaism that's better off you ding don't commit them if someone says drive on Shabbat or I kill you you could drive eat pig I kill you enjoy the pig if someone says kill him or I kill you Die someone says worship uh JC peny or I kill you Die someone says make a Sex crime or I kill you Die waste seed or I kill you Die go with this woman or I kill you Die dance with this woman in public I kill you Die go to the beach with all these naked people die I didn't make this up look look at the look at the ra look at everything find a place that goes against it people think that you know we're we don't even know the basics yet to be but the yet has convinced us it's impossible to have a kosher wedding now back to the subject at hand when someone is not having this kosher wedding he has a serious problem because instead of giving his guests a good time instead of having a good time himself they've now created everyone's created five or six new family members to their life they just can't see them and they call them demons those are the ones that are causing you to stress out those are the ones that are causing you to be nervous those are the ones that are causing you to not have an idea of what's going on have tough time learning toah even when you want to they're the ones that are torturing you oh and by the way for all you men out there you know when you have a dream and you see a pretty woman you know that there's always you never actually see like ugly women in dreams it's always like a pretty woman okay it's always the same woman by the way for all of us all of us have the a dream of the same exact woman no she looks different the woman he dreams of or he dreams of or he dreams of is different but it's all the same character who is it Satan's wife to such an extent that you're not even allowed to say her name not allowed to say her name she's more dangerous than him you have to say her name not allowed to say her name why you going to call her for I thought she was foll me anyway you could save the shoi like some was do good luck I stay away from Shino I just on those things I try to run away from them so the woman that you're dreaming about even if she looks like your wife is her because that woman only wants one thing she wants you to waste seed why does this woman get so much power over you that she can cause you to waste without even moving your body someone that's awake has to move their body has to be intimate with his wife in order to have seed released out of his body something has to happen a natural human being can't just have seed come out of his body with nothing but somehow we're able to do it when we're sleeping how it's all those demons you created they now go to work it's at night and for anyone that's still not sure if wasting seed is really that big of a sin or it's not we had a whole couple of really big about it but there's a nice I can give you about it this is only about 70 years old in the 1960s there was a scientist by name of cleave Baxter and cleave Baxter got uh famous he was uh he worked with the polygraph which is the light detected test but he got famous as a result of taking his polygraph and doing something a little different with it instead of just looking to see if people are lying or not you connect the sensors to plants to see if these plants are stimulated in any way if there's any there's anything there and interestingly enough he found out that there's a secret life to the plants to such an extent that the plants are able to communicate with each other with other species and even with human beings they're able to read our minds how do he know this so he connected it with a plant and you see the reaction based on a reaction and how the polygraph moves he Compares it to a human reaction so for example when a polygraph makes let's say I don't just give you a hypothetical example makes a really big you know three lines that's the equivalent of a human being being stressed out when it makes three small lines then it's the equivalent of a human being being happy and again these are hypothetical examples there not actual examples of a polygraph but just for the purpose of understanding so he saw that when he thought something positive about the plant Oh what a beautiful plant the plant actually had a polygraph move in a way where it made it happy but when his friend came in his friend who didn't know what's going on friend came into his office and as soon as his friend came into the office he looked at his plant and the plant immediately started showing signs of serious serious sadness and he asked his friend what are you thinking right now tell me right now what you're thinking CU you want to know the truth I need to know what what you're thinking I just think that my plant's much nicer than yours and the plant was able to read his mind and he was offended by it there a book called The Secret Life of plants interesting book talks about this research that cleave Baxter did in the 1960s 7s did research for 40 years what does this have to do with our subject at hand is that over the next 40 years he didn't just spend his time with plants he also started testing different things to see if other things have any type of reaction one of them was seed semen he wanted to see if the seen of a human being is alive or not and he put that same sensor on Seaman to see if there's a reaction and according to his reports as soon as the owner as soon as the person that wasted that seed walked into the room the seed reacted as if a child sees his father so for anyone that thinks oh no listen is only you know you have 300 million seeds is the average statistically of what comes out of an average ejaculation and only one of them is going to have theot of creating a baby so that means that 299,999 n99 are a waste they're dead anyway no my friend they were all alive they didn't have the SCH of being alive and coming in but now that you wasted them each one of them turns into a demon who is going to join you he going to be right there you can't see him but he's right next to you he's the one that's stressing you out he's the one that's trying to encourage you to make a sin he's the one to try to encourage you to do it again he's the one that's trying to encourage you to be he's the one that's making you TI in the middle of a t he's the one that's telling you to cheat on your wife he's the one that's telling you all the bad things he's the one that's stimulating you but he's also the one that is going to be very very angry to see you bring children to the world and the reason why he's going to be very upset is because why didn't you bring me to the world I was one of those seeds why did you bring me to the world and that's why there's actually a meag still to this day believe it's in Jerusalem that until this day a father that gets buried is not allowed to have his sons carry him and bury him because Shalom he wasted seed even once in his life that means that his children are in danger his living children are in danger so this is both spiritually proven and now you have obviously another scientific proof and if you want more scientific proofs just watch the three-hour lecture that we did in New York had a lot of success and a lot of have uh learned this this lecture and have done CH as a result of it and the reason why I specifically mentioned is because to tell this to a secular person it's a because they didn't even know they were supposed to keep Shabbat in this generation they thought the driving on Shabbat is okay as long as they're relaxing when you're secular you don't know anything but when you're religious but no one's ever taught you that wasting seed is one of the top three biggest sins in Judaism you've been going to yesh your whole life but no one's ever told you that it's the worel worst level in G it's the worst possible thing you can do it destroys you in this world and the next World and so on and so forth It's a pretty big thing to miss but that's I think is one of the things that's missing in his generation is that there's a big separation there's a big gap between the religious world and the secular world the religious World assumes that everyone knows assumes that everybody's just not keeping just because they don't feel like keeping they don't feel like keeping Shabbat they don't feel like being going to the mik they don't feel like doing it in the religious world thinks that the religious people are just doing too much they just doing more than they really need to because they don't really believe that it's really applicable anymore I love God just like him I just don't wear the same clothes so there's a very big gap between the two for the most part and being in both worlds I can tell you from experience but to such an extent that the religious people don't really know how little the secular people actually know I give you an example I think about I think about these things all the time because I think about myself and every time I learn something new first I get excited that I learned k and second I get embarrassed because it really wasn't was very logical so what's the my whole life tell you embarrassing story of myself but hopefully helps one of you so hopefully I wasn'ted for your sake my whole life I believed that I was keeping kosher now I told everyone already the story that I used to eat you know Kosher meat but non kosher every you know like dairy or parve what I would call it so I would eat pizza in non kosher places thinking I'm eating kosher I didn't realize that there's pork inside the cheese I didn't realize that's one of the ingredients but everybody knows this K it's a very very famous video that I made that's not the K of today the of today was something else my whole life I believed that at the very least okay I wasn't a sadik I wasn't this I was that but there was a few things that I was keeping I do I kiss theza I said sh there a few things I did maybe they saved me who knows there's one thing that I thought for sure here I'm perfect food how I don't eat milk and meat together so if let's say for example my mom made us I don't know some type of uh stew or some type of meal and she made it let's say with chicken and I don't know some other stew potatoes and a bunch of other things or meat and pot and a bunch of other things and vegetables and so on but I didn't really want to eat meat right now I want to just cuz I wanted to have ice cream and not have to wait two or six hours back then I was keeping two hours but today six hours two hours I thought was enough already thought six hours is for the so anyway but you should know of really how much time you're supposed to keep that's a story for another day but I thought that as long as I don't eat the meat in the stew I'm fine I'm parve I can have ice cream 5 seconds later I'm not eating the meat in my mind this made perfectly perfect sense you're eating the meat I'm not eating the meat I could have ice cream 5 minutes later this made perfect sense to me now I'm not stupid hasem gave me a brain but in my mind this make perfect sense to me for most of my life most of my life I thought that as long as I'm not eating the actual chicken itself directly or the meat itself directly I am part of and I could eat I could drink milk five minutes later okay I'm not going to eat them together but I'm I didn't consider the fact that it's already in the sauce it's already on the plate it's already in somewhere in a potato just move it to the side okay hold EMA come on I told you not to put a piece of meat okay just put it to the side okay so I put it to the side I didn't eat it so I can have cereal two hours later or an hour later 20 minutes later this made perfect sense to me how did it make perfect sense to somebody that's not stupid if you're stupid everything's gonna make sense to you but if you're not stupid if everybody said you're really smart if you are top student in high school and college and all these other things you consider if you're you're doing for a living is crunching numbers at the highest possible level you can do if everyone says you're really really smart how can you make such a stupid mistake that all of you are laughing inside your hearts right now justy to make me feel better you're laughing inside not outside but how can somebody smart make such a stupid mistake the very same demons that you create will be the same ones that will influence you to make stupid decisions there an action there a reaction one that understands this will understand that the night according to kazal especially what the rambam writes about it chapter 33 he says the following even though one is commanded to study Torah both during the day and at night most of a man's intellectual achievements occur at night therefore one who wishes to Merit the crown of Torah should act appropriately at night being careful not to waste even one night on excessive sleeping eating drinking Idol talk or any other distraction he should occupy himself solely with Torah study and words of wi wisdom the rambam calls nighttime the Blessed hours in so many words the commentators on this are saying the ra R is really telling you that the only reason why we even tell you to study to during a day is because you have to but if it was purely for the achievement of intellect and to get huge wisdom most of your you're going to get at night when everybody else is watching basketball at 11:00 at night you're studying to you're going to be the one they asking for you're going to be the one that's holy when everyone is watching YouTube or you this and you that at 2 o'clock in the morning and playing on Facebook you're studying you're going to be a holy person you're going to be something special you're going to know when everybody else is clueless you're going to become when everybody else is nervous you're going to have a connection with you still have to study in the morning said so he says if my bre if my Torah is not studied day and night the rules of the world will cease to exist cease to exist like destroy the world instantly so that means you have to study at night and in the morning you have to make a time if you could do an hour a day in the morning an hour a day at night more even better less fine at least do something but don't don't have a day where you're not studying you have to make time for studying to now on the other hand just like we learned how significant it is to learn T at night K explains us to the same extent it's just as dangerous not to study Tor to waste the time to such an extent that there's a m written about it right here where is telling you you instead of learning T you're watching YouTube videos you're watching uh Sports you're wasting your life your life's at risk it's not oh no you didn't become a it's not oh no listen he's not a sadik it's not oh no he's uh you know whatever he's he's average no no my friend is telling you your life is M at risk because what's happening is instead of you creating Angels they're going to help your n get to a higher level instead you're creating demons because when are the demons around looking for owners at night they're already looking you're inviting oh come come come watch the basketball with me watch the uh movie with me with the half naked girls go come B sit next to me okay you finished the movie he doesn't want to leave now in the secular World they refer to 12 and three as the witching hours in every in every ideology that's the the commonality the middle of the night nothing good happens between 12 and 3 unless you're studying toah nothing good nothing good he says that when you're actually spending that time instead of studying to you're M destroying yourself you're putting yourself at risk now many people ask me I don't know I guess since I'm the one that actually made a lecture in English about wasting seed they made me like some type of expert in it but it's a very difficult thing to overcome especially for Young Generation so how do you overcome an addiction according to the zad wasting seed is the biggest addiction a human can possibly have more than any drug more than money more than anything else but wasting seed is the highest level of addiction you can get to because the r explains it's in essence the only reason why you actually even have a body if Hashem was not going to need for you or want for you to bring children to the world it would be no purpose for your body which in essence means that one of the ultimate purposes of the body is to to have to generate seed so once someone gets addicted to it it's very very difficult to stop where is this the r I'm talking about right now which we'll go into in a second so now how do you overcome this how do you overcome this huge desire 21 the rambam says the following someone needs to stay away from joking you know messing around doing nonsense these are things that lead in essence and again I'm interpreting it not word for word but in an understandable language these are things that lead to the crime of priscu to the sin of sex crimes so here he's telling you something very interesting don't get your point go don't get to a point of becoming used to this type of behavior and don't empty your mind from Torah and distance your thinking from wisdom because the thought of arot which is a sex crime from MCU immodesty and so on only takes hold of a li P an empty heart the thought of promiscuity sex all of those thoughts that are distanced from from Hashem are only going to enter a mind that's far away from wisdom and what is wisdom we know is toah so in so many words the r is teaching us here secret of how to overcome wasting seed and really how to overcome all sins don't sit there and do nothing learn Tor but to such an extent that you always have some type of or some type of thought Torah related thought thought on your mind with it's you learn that morning or something you learn in sh something going on in your mind because as soon as your mind is empty of any Torah thought it's in essence considered an empty mind once it's an empty mind you're leaving the door open for promiscuity to enter because that's in essence what your body is asking for as soon as soon as your body feels there's a need for him to do something because your is bored that's what the body was doing so the secret learn it's not such a big secret so now I had a couple of and actually a couple of contacted me about this issue and one guy told me listen I learn I learn serious that this that the other thing but I still have this problem so get married I'm married I have kids I have kids and I still have this problem as soon as I have free time benim or my wife goes to sleep immediately I put on something on the TV on the um computer or the phone or something and destroy my life how how do I stop this Ram gave the answer Ram gave the answer he's telling you that the only way you're going to get to a point of actually even Desiring that sin is if you have a meaning is if you have some space you're leaving some space you're not using all of your mind and the answer was that yes you're studying to but not at your level you're studying just to fill a void you're studying because you have to go you have to study that's what you do at a they study you study they study you study you smoke 18 cigarettes a day you make a couple of phone calls here and there you talk with each other you're studying you're there but you're not studying studying you're studying yeah they're studying and they're studying so there's two things you have to do one get serious with study how do something called T when you're studying don't talk about anything mundane it's not easy it's not for the average person but anyone that wants miracles in their life do this for two hours a day for at least 90 days in a row you want to Serious Miracle like I'm not like I'm not a miracle worker not a calist I'm not anything but I know this works you want a serious Miracle you do t two hours serious learning now don't start learning like a uh you know you're learning a uh ABCs learn serious to off for two hours straight two hours every day for 90 days straight you could become something special do it for longer obviously even better but 90 days straight no breaks even if it's yumo so that's one two hours in a row no two hours you spread over a week yeah two hours in a row what what's what's the meaning if it's not two hours in a row if it's not two hours in a row it's not really studying if you're studying 5 minutes in the morning 5 minutes in the afternoon five minutes dead and you can study it over a period of a week if it's two hours on a road that's that's that's a serious study theel actually said said that if you're not studying for 4 hours in a hour you didn't really study but we're not at that level let's go to two hours two hours in a row of serious studying that's step number one two study things that are at your level which for him for this specific a what he was studying was not at his level it's fine studying it's good just grinding water had to do something a little bit more difficult and he did it changed his life marriage got better kids got better life got better everything got better so I know this works go ahead good question is listening to like a the same thing as it is considered T but it's not considered the same level it is considered T if you're a beginner if you're just starting out listening to is great you need to listen to even if you're not a beginning you should listen to some from time to time but um if you are already in for a while then you have to do more you have to do more than just you have to listen plus you know something else if you're then you have to study from the books you're at a level of studying from the books if you're just starting out then it's is fine if you're somewhere in between then you could split it up you could do an hour of and an hour of an hour of you know a uh something something that's stimulates your brain you know don't just read like it's yes it's considered no don't disrespect the or any part of the to all of it is good but if you want miracles to happen pertaining to this 90 uh 90day thing that I'm talking about it has to be Torah that causes you to sweat like I've been sweating for the last hour and a half from theat like that you forgot to turn on the air conditioner today it's we're all cold over here no here because and the back turned it on cuz he was suffering he saw me suffering so he started suffering for me you've been watching me melt over here like an ice cream so where does RAM get his a uh get his from he gets from this m because this Mish says one who turns his heart to idleness person that leaves his heart open to to your to nonsense he's thinking about baseball and basketball games he's thinking about the stock market of what's going to happen tomorrow when the Market opens at 9:30 he's thinking about stock options that he bought and whether it's going to expire on Friday he's thinking about the girl that he met whether she's the one or she's not the one he's thinking about what is he going to do this week can he's thinking about he's thinking about this world he's not thinking about the next World the real world he says him for sure he's going to create demons maybe not now in an hour from now get me maybe not now maybe in an hour from now maybe two hour but he's definitely going to create demons tonight why his heart is empty has no in it there's nothing there he's wasting his life and that's why when someone is wasting their life he's telling you you're putting that life on the line not that you're m going to get hit by a truck that minute but it's that you're creating those same demons that are going to torture your whole life and even if you go with such an extent of T to such an extent that it actually does says people that actually are that are wasting their time it does say that they actually uh are bringing death to their life so for ultimate foundation of the sh we covered but you guys I'm sure have some questions I mean I have a bunch of other things I could talk about but it seems like you guys have more questions than I have answers so let's see let's talk go ahead you talked about the wedding sometimes I go to religious weddings sometimes I go to religious weddings everyone sits together man and woman but the dancing is separate okay is that kosher preferably it you know it's it's a uh should be separate seating but it is allowed it's allowed you're allowed to sit next to as long as your wife you're sitting next to your wife you sit next to your wife you don't sit next to somebody else's wife a lot um but don't dance don't dance together next is wasting SE like the same as adultery or like adultery is being with a uh you know being with a woman you're not allowed to be in whereas wasting seed is you could do it by yourself so is like the same sort of the outcome of adultery is is wasting seed so yes but with adultery you get a couple of sins you get the wasting seed part and the adultery Parts you have double whammy so in essence you said that when you was seed all the like seeds die and become demons right so what happens when you are doing it like in a croser way what happens to the all the seats that don't make it like not the nonchosen one what happens to those so kazal asks if wasting seed is such a big deal then obviously abah ainu who knew the entire Torah much much more than we could even imagine knowing to such an extent that the trct of it's only a handful of Parts handful of sections his was 4,000 sections meaning just his some say 400 some say 4,000 either way it's a lot it's more than our just as one tractate is bigger than our entire so how if he knew that his wife can't bring children to the world he knew it wasn't a secret he knew he's a prophet his wife was a prophet they knew what are you still doing it for what are you trying for you know it's not going to happen it's wasting seed no so explains I believe this is the mid may be actual sour in that all of those seeds that they used for the 90 years of not having children or obviously a little less than that ended up creating the of all the of all the converts which is part of the reason of why every convert says my father's aam he created you 4,000 years ago so what happens to them to like people AR like i't doing it obviously those they you know do they get recycled like do they go back up and then their turn it's simar what you're saying it's uh even for for us let's say what about okay if a woman's pregnant are you wasting seed right no so here's the thing you're responsible you're responsible for effort not outcome in life in general hasem does not punish you for effort he punishes he punishes you for lack of effort the outcome is only in his hands just we're talking about in the beginning of this year we can't do anything really everything is one of the you know these remembrances the 10th remembrance or the ninth remembrance that you have to repeat every day after sh or at any point during the day is that AEM in essence is responsible for everything responsible for youra and so on which is a reminder that not only is he responsible for youra is responsible for everything cuz you as a human being can't do anything you want to believe you can do something but in reality you can't you can you know depend on hem you want to move your hand Hashem has to allow you to move your hand you want to see Hashem has to allow your eyes to see you want to think Hashem has to allow your brain to function and so on Hashem is everything so in essence we are responsible for is for effort for trying for exerting effort but as far as outcome what actually happens as a result of that effort that is something that only hasm can decide you can work not 9 to 5 but 24 hours a day and still be poor there's many many people that work very very hard much harder than all of us put together and they're still broke and there's some people that barely work and a multi-millionaires multi-millionaires why hasm decided he's going to be a millionaire and he's going to be broke the outcome is not because you're a hard worker don't think you became Rich because you're a hard worker don't think you became successful because you're smart don't think your wife is beautiful because you're so wonderful Hashem decided this and hasem decided that in essence getting to the bottom line of your question Hashem is responsible for the outcome we are responsible for the effort you are obligated as a man to try to fulfill the Mitzvah of of bringing children to the world a woman is not obligated but obviously it's a nice partnership so now you're responsible to try whether you're going to have children or not it's not up to you but you have to try and you're not allowed to not try until you at least fulfilled the Mitzvah which means you had at least one boy and one girl this is the reason why there's no to take birth control pills just because you want to have fun you're only allowed to take birth control pills if there's some medical issue if you just gave birth you have to get rabinal approval to do it not just you feel like having fun oh no we're still too young or we want to go on vacation this year and I want to look good in my bikini there's no so you have to fulfill theah because in essence you you have to do it so now if two people fulfill that Mitzvah they try to bring children to the world they do their share there's no kid it's not their problem the's problem either side is not going to be a kid somebody 60 years old 70 years old they can't physically they can't bring a kid to the world she already went through that time she already passed that time his seed doesn't something can't happen physically cannot happen not your problem you're responsible for effort outcome it's his business if someone understands this everything in their life changes same thing obviously goes for for someone that's pregnant obviously if a woman's pregnant she can't get pregnant twice she's already pregnant same thing again it's not your problem number one the reason why sh made an enjoyable is because if it wasn't enjoyable no one would have kids one person in the neighborhood would have a kid everybody see what the headache the kid is bringing no one else would have a kid so hasm made it enjoyable if he wanted you to just be like animals he wouldn't make it enjoyable and then no one would have any kids and the world would be destroyed so he made it enjoyable which means you're supposed to enjoy it but there's a kosher way to enjoy intimacy you don't have to be a lion you can enjoy intimacy but there there's a koser way to do it so hasem gave us certain amount of privileges certain amount of time to spend with our wives certain amount of time not to spend with our wives certain amount of times to be together certain amount of times not to be together certain amount of time that you can be pregnant certain amount of time you can't be pregnant the point is that as long as you are within those boundaries your life will be wonderful your intimate life your you know spiritual life material life everything will be wonderful as soon as you start going out of that Circle and start creating your own Circle that's when problems begin yeah but is that only under the context in which you engage in traditional sexual encounter with SE is sp within the woman yes well as long as long as you are doing you know you're performing Intimacy in a kosher way so that means that the semen has to go in the place it's supposed to go you know otherwise it's considered spilling seed it's considered wasting seed if if it's going anywhere else in the body or anywhere else then it's considered spilling seed we learned this from ER eron Onan which were the two uh children of yudah Judah they both had the same wife and both of them were killed by hasem even though this was before mat this was even before the Torah and the reason why is because they both found Tam to be ultra beautiful she was one of the most beautiful women that ever existed and it said listen if she gets pregnant I'll ruin her Beauty so they ejaculated but just not inside somewhere else said oh okay you don't want to bring kids to the world fine I don't need you either so he killed both of them this is also one of the major strongholds of where we where we learn that wasting seed is also a sin for it's not to the same level of sin as Jews but it is definitely something that Hashem frowns upon and and Views as something disgusting so in essence as far as seed you're supposed to try supposed to the seed is supposed to go in the vagina there's no other place that a woman can get pregnant and as long as it's there you're fine whether there's a baby or not is not your business whether you become rich or not not your business whether you are going to become a or not not your business you are just supposed to try as long as you try they can't complain about you you go up to sh say listen they're not going to say listen why won't you m what do you mean you made me I can't beu oh you know what you're right you have to be that's what they would ask him what are you trying to be your whole life what's your what's your what are you trying to be I'm just trying to Bea what about go no no I'm just trying to be zusa just zusa not Evena just zusa why zusa he goes because when I go up to Sham they're not going to ask me why w't youu why w't you they made me Z I'm gonna be Z I'm gonna be the best possible zusa I can be so you have to try to be the best version of you not someone else but that also means you can't waste time you can't just spend your time with means like just like m stimulation for absolutely no reason whatsoever it's like you know a um there's a word for it in English I keep forgetting uh huh entertainment no no it's not for entertainment yeah I guess it's entertaining but it's not that there something else for whatever you got the message go ahead you have a question I heard that only8 years old and still killed him even though were before yes I mean but the thing is though is that whether 8 years old or not is irrelevant because an 8-year-old 4,000 years ago 4,000 plus years ago is different than an 8-year-old today just like we learned from uh the uh the matriarchs you know she was three years old when uh when when he met her and six years old when they got married you makes the people that think that it's a regular six-year-old of today makes theom look like pedophiles so obviously we know that it's not a six-year-old of today how do we know what's the proof you see that she actually watered 10 camels what six-year-old can lift one bucket to water camel so it's like the duration of time yeah so it's not it's not it was three she was on Earth only 3 years or only 6 years or only years but the body developed differently people were much bigger back then they matured much faster and so on people the the problem with people is today especially really all the time but especially today is that people put permanence on everything meaning that we think that everything is was always like this will always be like this if I'm sad I'm always going to be sad if I'm happy I'm always going to be happy if I'm rich I'm always going to be rich if I'm sick I'm always going to be sick everybody thinks that everything is always going to be always was always will be people were always this big people always this this it's wrong the world is the way it is now but it wasn't always like this we are not smarter than our ancestors just because we have iPhones as a matter of fact previous generations were drastically smarter than us to such an extent that anyone that learns just a little bit about rambam he learns a little bit of ramb I think I told you guys this learns a little bit of rum buom understands within I know learn it for couple hours three hours four hours actually serious learning of rum buum you'll understand that our intellect as smart as you are you can have 200 IQ as smart as you are your intellect is closer to a monkey than the r you're closer just s I'm I'm included in the monkey equation here the intellect of the smartest human being today is closer to the monkeyy intellect than this to the r from 900 years ago so he didn't have an iPhone he didn't have an iPad he didn't have a computer doesn't mean anything technological advancement doesn't mean intellect you know so and also keep in mind that the ones that actually are smart are the ones that create something not innovate Innovation is good but it's not like creation it's not like really inventing something go ahead so let's see we all have probably billions and billions of sh we made how do we kill them off you kill them off by studying tah hard toah every time you sweat like literally sweat from learning T you are destroying all those demons every time you are actually uh learning one word of one word of the Rashi one word of the TOs one word of the all the mid all of those things every time you get yourself to a point of stimulating your mind finding out what what is he talking about here what does he want from you what is hasem saying here I read the same page for three hours I still don't understand a word you know how hard it was for me to learn when I first started it took me six and a half hours on the average to learn one Duff one Duff six and a half hours I wanted to kill myself I'm like what do you mean I was the smartest guy ever and I I'm an idiot I I must thought I was like I'm a re there's something wrong with me I wanted to quit 500 times and if it wasn't for the respect that I had for my Rob I would have quit not once not twice a million times you know how many times I wanted to quit what do you mean I was always I'm used to being the smart guy now I'm all of a sudden I can't figure out what this guy is saying I'm learning it for 6 hours and after this 6 hours I still don't know what he's talking about it's not like after 6 hours I'm like I know by heart 6 and 1 half hours just to read the words what jash his 6 and a half hours and look at the page no clue what just happened here I have no clue what just happened here I just experienced six and a half hours and I have no idea what's going on and what I had to do in the beginning give you guys a little bit of a secret of how much I had to torture myself to learn toah in the beginning I still have to torture myself a little bit I used to study outside I used to study outside a lot and the reason why is because it was hot or really it's either too hot or it's too cold so either way my body was torturing my body is tortured that means I'm staying awake is good old it's not going to kill you demons the guy's good but you need to do more more you need to go out of your nature go out of your nature the biggest thing is learning to learn to learn hard learn hard if it's easy for you it's not enough transcend yourself you got to go you got to purify your you got to purify your body you got to get all the dirt all the animal that you created off all the things that people talk about the forget about that stuff we're far away from that learn Basics learn learn learn basic Rashia with five books of Moses don't go into this mystical stuff but I'm telling you it all exists we talked about all this stuff for the last two hours because it exists but it's not because we're supposed to focus all of our attention on this stuff and oh every time I make a sin I have demons I the point of this talk is not for everyone to start worrying about all the demons that are following them all day the point of this talk is to understand that we have there's a consequence to our actions just because you can't see it doesn't mean it doesn't exist it exists it exists so when you are awake excited and it's only 8:00 at night and as soon as you open a all of a sudden it's like put the uh death on you you have to fall asleep 5 minutes into it what happened how I was awake I just slept for 5 hours I woke up I opened up fell asleep what happened the sins are causing it that means you have to find fight harder study 5 minutes take a rest study 5 minutes take a rest study 5 minutes take a rest choose something move your mouth chew gum don't eat like heavy food because it'll make you tired chew gum uh you know keep keep yourself keep yourself busy helps a lot because gives you gives you saving is going to save you the wasting seed videos he made it kills the help definitely K because that's that's the second strategy first thing is learning T second thing is uh doing K because the reason why but doing K specifically for this sin if you do for it's good but if you specifically educate the public or uh publicize lectures that are talking about wasting seed then that's going to be your tun for that sin cuz if you are causing somebody else to not waste seed then it's as if it's saving you from something that you did same thing with Shabbat you C somebody else you shabbat in the past I was Shabbat in the past now if I help somebody else keep Shabbat it's like I keep two shabbats I keep Shabbat and he's now keeping Shabbat now I kept two shabbats now it's three people keep Shabbat now it's me and two other people and so on and so forth so that means that every Shabbat it could be me and a thousand people keeping Shabbat it counts as as if I kept a thousand shabbatot that's what makes up for all the shabbatot that I missed out on in the past same thing with wasting seed every time you have one two three four five 10 guys that are stopping to waste seed either because they got married or they realize it's really bad whatever it is but it's due to you influencing them that's the biggest form of doing chuah for it so there's two parts of the CH but don't think that one can be done without the other a lot of people think okay I'm just going to focus on K I'll focus on publicizing your own's lecture I'm going to post it share share share five million times every day on Facebook and that's it and I'll be fine no it's not going to be fine the reason why is because in order to do kiru or be part of kiru you have to have Merit in sh because AEM says this to Jeremiah I believe it's in chap chapter 31 or 33 in the book of Jeremiah and he [Music] says if you bring someone precious you make someone precious from from when he used to be Z it used to be like a waste somebody that was wasting his someone that was not righteous you make someone that's wicked into righteous you will be like my mouth what does it mean like you will be like my mouthal explains it is that just like hasem says to theik I created the world and I can revive the dead you will be the same so now if a is telling you you help somebody else do Chua that means that whatever comes out of your mouth it's as if I said it if you pray for somebody I there's a decree in sh Shalom somebody to be sick somebody to die somebody to lose money somebody to something bad supposed to happen but you the the one that does K prays for that person hasem says even though there's a decree that I sign already in sh for something to happen but you prayed you overturned the decree so now for hasem to say listen for me to give you that license that license to be like my mouth I can't just give it to any P to any criminal you have to have Merit so now without learning T how you going to get the Merit because without learning Tor you're R if you're not learning T if you're spending all your time watching YouTube videos about ducks crossing the street and the cop saving them you're watching delim you're watching Smurfs on TV you're watching uh I don't know Britney Spears showing our body naked to the world you're watching all this how you expected to be a sadik how you're taking the diamonds hm gave you and you're replacing them with C you seeing it's a and you want a merit for it too there's no bigger than you do you understand so to do you have to learn one go doesn't go with the the other cin he said the more you have the more people will listen to your Torah and accept it okay that's that's the uh the biggest thing the biggest most important thing for someone that say someone that teaches the public someone that is wants people to listen to the words that are coming out of his mouth has to come from without there's no chance for anyone to listen to you and this is actually one of the biggest problems of this current generation and this is pure you ask me this because I was trying to figure out how to connect to this lecture you asked me this question so I I answer it now most people think that the problem with teaching only began in this generation it's a mistake isant who lived in almost 100 almost 200 years ago started the musar movement and even though he didn't write a book he wrote many letters and his students kept those letters and one of his main Disciples of Blazer put them all together and there a an amazing book unfortunately it's out of publication which kind of shows you how this mistake is continuing it's called is I had to buy this second hand because they don't sell it in the market and this book maybe the next series after we finish okay okay so in essence when someone is telling you don't fear hasem he's telling you don't believe in hem that's what he's telling you because K here is telling you that without fearing hem there's no connection the chapter one says the following he says that there are two verses in the Tor that seem to contradict each other the first one indicates that the Heavenly fear brings a person to Performance of mitv as it says in SE Deuteronomy 10: 12 and 13 it says now Israel what does hasem your God ask of you only to fear ashem your God to observe the Commandments of hem and his decrees so here we learn said what does hasem want from us he wants us to fear Him which R says after that it says to serve to serve his Commandments so in essence fearing Hashem leads us to doing his Commandments but on the other hand the second verse teaches us that we are only commanded to perform the mitv in order to fear hem it's also written in Deuteronomy 6 ver 24 Hashem commanded us to perform all of these decrees to fear Hashem your God so the ram explains what's the so how do we explain this this contradiction on one hand he's telling us fear him so you do the mitv another an is telling him do the so you can fear Him seems like there two opposites which one comes first so he says the following he says the resolution to this contradiction lies in the fact that there are three different tiers of fear the first one is the beginning which precedes the observance of the mitv this is the fear of the king which prevents a person from transgressing his directives this is this is fear of punishment outright saying you're going to do any you're not going to do anything until you're afraid of punishment we'll explain in more detail in a second it is concerning this level of fear that we read in says anyone who fears of sin takes precedence over his wisdom anyone whose fear of sin takes precedence over his wisdom his wisdom will endure the second tier of the of the end is that this is true fear this is fear of His Majesty of his Divine Majesty meaning that a man cannot attain this level until he first performs all of the mitv after reaching this stage a person then shifts to the virtue of love for a person can only love the almighty after first coming to fear explanation in simple English is this ra and and his uh disciple is telling us the following to say that you're going to love hem by skipping is impossible because as soon as you want to love something first you have to identify what it is what it is you can't say I love her and you don't know who her is can't say I love him but you've never met him saw him heard of him or even anything you have to know what you're dealing with there has to be a connection in order to have a genuine connection withm obviously you have to identify him as the Creator otherwise it's not AEM if it's a friend it's not AEM if it's a brother it's not AEM if it's a king of kings that's a once you understand that he's the king of kings the creator of all creations the first and the last there wasn't anything before him there will never be anything after him that he controls everything that there's no outcome in the world that's without him pressing the trigger There's No Leaf that ever gets the ability to fall off a tree without hasem saying allowed you're allowed to fall off a tree there's no permission for your eye to Blink unless Hashem says allowed allowed to Blink as soon as you understand the significance of this king of kings of course you're going to fear him he's responsible for everything unless you're crazy and if you're crazy not really looking to pureem so you're not part of this conversation but thank you for watching he gave us more views on YouTube so the point here is that as soon as you understand who you're dealing with of course you're going to fear him because Shalom he's going to punish you the human creation was created in such a way that we only act most of our actions out of fear you go to work not because you want to make money you go to work because you don't want to be poor people are more afraid of being poor than aspiring to be rich proof why do people that are making $10 an hour still go to work they know that tomorrow is going to be the same thing they're also going to make $10 an hour they're not going to suddenly make $100 an hour they're not going to suddenly invent the next Facebook they're still going to make 10 bucks an hour tomorrow why do they go to work because they don't want to be broke they don't want to be homeless they don't want to starve they go to work because they fear poverty why do people have a partner because they fear loneliness why do people eat because they don't want to starve to death why do people get educated because they don't want to be called stupid and be the guy that's cleaning bathrooms at the age of 60 years old making $10 an hour they want to be the guy that's paying him $10 an hour but owns the building we operate out of fear everything so anyone that tells you don't be afraid doesn't want to be human he wants to be something else so the same thing goes with connecting to it has to start with identifying what you're dealing with as soon as you identify what you're dealing with is is the creator of all creations of course you're going to fear him but your aspiration your goal should be to get higher not to only fear punishment but to get to a higher level like the relationship between a man and a wife when it's a healthy relationship what is the relationship between a man and his wife in a healthy relationship they fear hurting each other they don't fear punishment from the other side the wife is not fearing a husband slapping her and the husband is not fearing his wife stabbing him as long as it's a again a healthy relationship what do they fear they fear that they will offend each other they fear that they will hurt each other they fear that they won't talk to each other or possibly love each other any less that's what a healthy relationship fears that is a healthy fear that's the fear you want aspire to once you get to that level of fear with hem where you are afraid of hurting the relationship you have with hasem you're afraid of him stepping one step away from you because every sin puts a puts a block between you and him every time you make a sin puts a block between you and him every time you make a mitvah you push it away every time you fix a mid you push it away and the ra he says what was the difference between M the prophet of prophets and all the other prophets why does the shade that mosu spoke to Hashem face to face but all the other prophets they spoke to hem through a trans through meditation through sleeping dreams and so on what was the difference R says purified is me do to such an extent that the only thing that was separating him and hasem was like a blurry glass whereas all the other prophets didn't purify themselves to that extent and it was thicker same thing with us we want to get there want to get to a real good relationship with a fear punishment eventually graduate to a point of fearing hurting the relationship once you fear hurting the relationship then is telling you then you're going to start laughing that is the beginning of loving hem meaning the highest level of fear is the beginning of love but you can't get this love by skipping fear because loving hasem without fearing him is impossible it's not me saying it this is everywhere anywhere so how do you explain so much teaching today of all these people with long pay is telling you love hasem love hem yeah he loves you he's your brother he's your father he's your sister he's your everything and all everything you know makes hem sound like a Care Bear oh he loves you you're wonderful yeah yeah but he loves you yeah he loves you but he's going to punish you if you don't do chat you know that right it says it in the books what is this where is this coming from I don't know that I don't know what I do know I know business ran a multi-million dollar firm for 16 years I know a little bit about business and I know that being nice telling people what they want to hear telling people that s telling they don't have to improve that they're all perfect they're all wonderful making them feel good inside making them feel like Care Bears opens wallets makes donations much larger builds buildings even though they're conservative and reform schools so on those they say when you're not allowed to teach t for money that's what it's referring to it's not referring to that you're not allowed to collect Z if you're a rabbi it's teaching T and you don't you're not spending any time working in a regular world you're allowed to collect there's no problem you're you're allowed to live on people give you no problem but when you become a when you change the Tora and you make make it sound like a uh one of these uh fairy tale stories just because that's what opens wallets then my friend on you they say on those such people they call them AR is the worst possible curse there is in the Tor whichever one you want to pick one is worse than the other B one next question so we finished the entire The More We Fear the more people you going affect that works more we fear Hem Of course if you obviously fear hem it's going to project in your voice it's going to project in your character it's going to project in your behavior said even if you don't know how to talk by you fear you will impact people's life if you fear Hashem seriously you don't even have to talk if Hashem gave you the gift of speaking you have speaking ability then obviously you have to use the talent that hasem gave you but if Hashem didn't give you an ability he still expects you to help people do Chua how with whatever gift he did give you you all every one of you has some type of gift that could influence somebody else to do Chua everyone has that gift because there's no way that hasm is going to create you in such a way where he's going to make it impossible for you to fulfill such a big Mitzvah there's no such thing as missing out explains to us that AEM just like he created things that are not allowed he created something that's equally allowed that's taste the same meaning if someone complains bu actually I think it was bu complained to he says to him listen hasem said forbade us from eating pork but I at the same time he told us that we're not going to lack anything in this world so how could it be tells no no there something else that tastes exactly like pork it's called it's a fish called shibuta and I found out from one of my students in Africa that they still have it in Africa have shibuta it's called I don't know if it's called shibuta in uh in African but it's called shibuta Uh it tastes just like pork somehow personally I don't like fish anyway so whether it's pork or not pork I hate it but as far as as far as that it's just one small example where there's no way that you lack anything same thing with K same thing with any Mitzvah is not going to create you with the inability to fulfill such a big Mitzvah it doesn't necessarily mean that everybody has the gift of God not everybody has to become a professional speaker not everybody necessarily has to be very rich but he definitely gave you the ability to be part of K to fulfill this Mitzvah how you obviously have to assess your gift your time and your resources sometimes people have money they donate sometimes people have talent they donate the talent sometimes people have The Gift of Gab they talk sometimes they have uh they're smart they could help others they could write books you do a million and a half things to help people get closer to hasem and every time time you help people get closer to Hashem you will be blessed to expand on what he said there's a there's a thought that um the psyche always recognizes truth so if you're embodying your truth you don't even have to convey a message subconsciously people will just see something within you that resonates within them because inherently we all share that same need for validation from the heavenly father that Eternal fear so you don't have to say anything if you're embodying in your presence people will will it will it'll it'll reflect out it man Us in the business world we used to call it that you you everyone gets clients that are just like them meaning any business it's a rule of thumb you should know that your clients are just like you so if you hate them you probably hate yourself you're they're arrogant because you're arrogant they're cheap because you're cheap you get in essence your customers are going to be reflection of you the people around you are usually reflec them of you that's why there's an old saying you are your friends are that's where it comes from but in essence the same applies in the Torah World same applies in your learning same applies in your kids same applies everywhere the world is your mirror the best Mirror by the way the most clear mirror is your wife your spouse but in essence your surroundings are going to be similar to you so if you did Chua because you heard a certain speaker that's the speaker you got to bring to those people cuz if you are affected by it most likely the people around you like the same type of of stuff you done they're influenced by the same things you are so you like let's say for example RI you bring in RI CDs you like me you bring my CDs you like this one Whatever it is um if it's a book you buy in the book if it's a uh movie you buy him that you know whatever it is whatever worked for you that's the that's rule of thumb that's the first thing you try second thing is which is even more important than the first you have to look in the mirror yourself like a real mirror yourself and assess where you are you can't tell people to be religious if you're a can't tell people oh you know what you really should keep Shabbat and you're driving to go driving on Shabbat yourself or you know really you shouldn't you shouldn't married this girl she's not Jewish but you're dating a new girl every week some are Jewish some are not Jewish you can't you can't be a hypocrite G says things that are very very harsh about people that are hypocrit to such an extent that it says someone that teaches something that he doesn't to himself it was better that he died at Birth better that he got choked during labor the umbilical cord it's very harsh words point being is that the Torah hates Hypocrites so first things first work on ourselves second thing is start looking at our surroundings now again it's important for us to influence the public but how do we do it without speaking a word be happy be happy like look happy when you're doing the mitvah don't be one of those people that's like got again oh why this holiday is four days four days Rabbi can I keep three no can I keep come on I really need to keep four come on I was just an Israel okay just let me keep three if you one of those people don't do kiru do me a favor don't do K you're ruining it you're ruining my job you're ruining it why because you're making the you're making the Torah look so like unhealthy you're looking making the Torah look like so like not fun who wants to be there this is actually part of the problem today where a lot of so-called religious people look miserable they look sad they have no amuna whatsoever they're always stressed out they do things that they're not supposed to and even if they're wearing a hat and they have a beard that's free and they have all these things they don't look good they don't make Jud is M look good so it makes people say why would I want to be that how do I know this I'm one of those examples I saw it that was one of the reasons I didn't want to be religious I saw religious people doing things that I wouldn't do as a secular person who wants to be that but again what you have to understand is that Judaism does not depend on the Jews Judaism depends on the Torah if you follow the Torah you're a Jew you don't follow the Torah your Judaism is on suspension even even if your mom was Jewish and all that stuff doesn't matter Judaism is on suspension go Judaism is on suspension shave with a razor Judaism is on suspension make sins on a regular basis knowing they are sins Judaism on suspension waste seed Judaism on suspension you're putting yourself on suspension you could do Chua instantly point is don't put yourself in suspension so it's important for all of us to understand that if we're going to do kiru we have to get to a point of enjoying it how do we get to a point of enjoying it understand what you're doing first doing understand okay I'm doing it because I want to get punished that's what told us in the beginning of his book do it because bottom line if you don't do it you get punished don't do it because I want I want reward I want ganeden I want a million dollars no no no do it because if you don't do it you will be punished it's very very important for you to know this if you don't do it you'll be punished there's no there's no ail someone that says that hm is just going to let things go they're going to cut them up into small little pieces to show them what they let go like to do it the butcher I'm very serious about bottom line reason of why you do anything if you don't do it you get punished that's the beginning eventually do it because you want to honor your king what lover of a king doesn't want to honor him so you do it because you love your king m King wants me to jump up and down I'll jump up and down I'll just ask him how high my king wants me to put this piece of leather on my head and piece of leather on my thing it looks weird I'll do it my king wants me to not touch my phone for four days I'll do it my king wants me to marry a certain person I'll do it why because I want to honor my king eventually you start noticing that every time you do something little Hashem gives you a lot this King of Kings you do something small you do this little gives you you do this little keep gives you you give he makes you rich doesn't happen instantly but over time you see how your world comes together and all of a sudden everyone around you that has the upside down smile but you're the only one with the right right side up smile you're happy every time you do something little Hashem gives you big how can you not fall in love with him but it has to start with fear it has to start with fear anyone that tells you otherwise to such an extent page 17 a says those people will go to a g that never ends even after the mashia so and this also in rambam also talks about those people so very very careful with who you listen to and what you listen to you want to listen to a speaker speaker to whoever you don't like me great I don't know why you're here for three hours you don't like uh the different Rabbi great bottom line is whoever you are going to listen to make sure they provide proof for what they're saying that does necessarily need to remember every single thing by heart not everybody is a uh a genius but if he's going to tell you something that's different from everyone else if he's telling you that you can be a care Bearer and you could do whatever you want as long as you give Sak okay can you show me proof can you show me in this in thear that I could violate Shabbat I could go with whatever woman I want I could do this I could do that can you show me a source oh the rebi said it where which rebi where where do he say it when did he say this when where where did he write it he write he signed his name on it where where did he say it oh he didn't say it no no we understood it show me proof show me proof of who can cancel out the entire Torah show me proof and even if someone that calls themselves a rabbi wrote a book that says something that's contradicting everything that was written before him like for example this book that came out recently the world of of the G this book is a problem it's a serious serious problem to is it's a bigger problem to the noites because they decide to be their own Pim and it's actually making people that could potentially convert to Judaism and fulfill the prophecy that it says in page 3B there's going to be a lot of converts it's making them say oh listen you can keep the MIT without converting you keep Shabbat without converting learn Tor without converting this is against the Tor not to do that to such an extent to give you guys an extent of how much of a problem this is you guys heard of Elisha Elisha the prophet you heard ofi right heard right heard okay says to the prophet will come three days before mashia comes mashia three days is announced byahi three days beforei had a student had a disciple his name was Elisha Elisha the prophet Alisha the prophet had a assistant G was his name there was a king a great king at the time that was very sick had Sarat they asked Alisha the prophet if he could do something Elisha the prophet saw that this person was a good person and he decided to pray to Hashem to heal him and instantly he healed him even though all the other necromancers and all the medicine workers and witchcrafts and everything else nothing worked Alisha the prophet of course with the power of hasem pray two seconds healed the King was so impressed that he wanted to give him everything not only money but he wanted to convert to Judaism he wanted to become a Jew he's so impressed with the power of Torah that this King was planning on converting himself and his entire nation Alicia says I'll teach you to convert no problem whatever you need will help you but I don't want any money you ever hear Rabbi say I don't want any money Changing Times I don't want any money gives me the is even more impressed he was impressed now now he's impressed times 100 he starts walking away Alisha walks away G is eating his heart it's like this guy's a Millionaire's he's a billionaire take a check from him for a few million why do you care he's thinking to himself how could this guy just let go we just had the bank we're just about to kill it right now buy casinos buy houses buy this buy that this guy just let this go what's going on with this guy what's going on with my boss said you know what let me sneak out he sneaks out he goes back to the King goes yeah you know Elicia is very very humble he very humble so he's not really going to ask you for the money but maybe you can give him a few suits few things a few nice things King says no problem I'm going to give it to you to give it to him but kazal says that that moment the honor that he had for Elisha and for Judaism dropped to such an extent that he still honored him still respected him but he no longer wanted to convert to be a Jew and for that the has no share of the world to come you stop the convert from converting have no sh come that's how bad it is that's how bad it is so now when you are enabling people to do things like you can keep the mitv without converting you could do whatever you want you can pick and choose parts of the Torah keep Shabbat even though rambam says you'll go they get death penalty rambam says a that keeps Shabbat gets death penalty these new two new Heroes say no no you keep shabat he was uh referring to some other people so what they waited 900 years you're the first one that figured it out didn't figure it out all the other giant sages didn't figure it out giant of giants he couldn't figure it out you two figure out between the two of you you have a a few years of T you figured out by yourself no one else figured it out they called no we have so here you have you have to understand there's no such thing as an innovation unless it agrees with the past you will never be right and Rashi wrong you will never be right and rambam wrong never doesn't matter how smart you are doesn't matter anything you can never be right and the previous generation wrong never so this is something very important for you to learn when you're learning Tor because in order for you to learn Tor the first and most important thing for you to do is to understand who you're learning from if you think that the sages are like you don't learn from them because you're clueless why would you learn from another clueless person I'm serious I wouldn't learn from me I don't know anything I learned from somebody bigger than me you understand so if you think thatan is like you don't learn from him you think is like you don't learn from him that's the point once you understand they're not like you they're nothing like you then you start learning from then you understand the significance of what you're dealing with but as soon as you start saying no I think ramb is wrong here there's something wrong with your something wrong with you there's nothing wrong with r something's wrong with you you're not understanding the point here so it's very very important to know who you're dealing with so to go and say Ram is wrong this one is wrong that one's wrong that's a problem and that's the thing so this also has to do with this also has to do with once you have it's not just of it's also fearing of the students his rabbis that's who he put into this world to fulfill his will a person needs to fear his Rabbi like he fears God to that extent so that's important stuff for you guys to understand is that again it's you're not dealing with you and this is anytime you see it at least from my perspective anytime I see a certain Rabbi certain dasan certain speaker like start going in different directions so far 10 out of 10 like 100% of the time every single time somebody went off the somebody started like either becoming a or just start like making their own stuff up it's their opinion their Rabbi never told them this they don't have a rabbi they either don't have a rabbi or they never had a rabbi all problems started because somebody is a disconnect with their there's no disconnect with the previous generation you don't have a rabbi it's better off you don't do cha stay whatever you are if you don't have a rabbi don't do anything serious this is not my opinion this is what the sages of this generation are saying to such an extent someone doesn't have a rabbi better off he doesn't do Chua why because once he does chuva he thinks he did cha he's more dangerous now he's coess he's not dangerous he's only dangerous to himself once he starts doing you know reading some things he has no Rabbi no Direction he can become cause other people to sin it's very dangerous this is why also in the beginning of the lecture we're talking about stay away from the mystical stuff go Basics Basics Basics get bigger else oh yeah I forgot see well the thing is still on this is the um huh a double pack this is a double pack double CDs yeah so we got 50,000 CDs anyone wants they're free I didn't bring all 50,000 here but it's a uh CD number one and CD number two in uh packaging anybody wants to sponsor them no it's the same CD as I had already just a nice packaging you have like 60 hours of to right 60 hours of to wait so is all your lectures this is no it's only 60 hours of the lectures we have a lot more to go [Music] [Applause] [Music]