Are There Any Leniencies To Marry A Previously Married Women In Less Than 3 Months

Friends, I am out of time. I want to share with you uh interesting Indian this Shabbos during uh the sheer the following question came up and I brushed it off. But, it's worthwhile to look into. The mission and I know of talks about a case of not rush made another and she's not rush. She did Garrison on that day. What does that mean? She did She did Garrison from that and then it's over and she did again even a hundred times. The is that the final could be made for the earlier in the down. So, the question is how in the world did she do on the same day? Don't you have to wait three months? Isn't there a kind of >> [clears throat] >> So, I brushed off by saying well, she's only in a rush. It In other words, what's the reason you have to wait three months? Because you have to determine the the paternity if there's a child. But, if she was in a rush then there's no there's no issue. If she was in a rush, there's no issue. Why is there no issue? Because she couldn't have had a she's not pregnant. But, we'll see that's not correct. There is a even if somebody if a woman previously was only in a rush, if you want to marry her you would have to wait three months. The says ask this question. And the says like this this that it says they did to her on that day the Evan who It's a It doesn't mean they're they're allowed to do to her on that day. It means if they went ahead and they did it anyway. She can't do for three months. The used to be a mess. The says that you have to wait three months. The in Yevamot is on a a maybe says Bala or any woman after me says Bala can marry for three months and the says by Yevamot we're worried. Maybe she is in Bala regime. And there's no bum. And there's a issue of a sock. The other the brings two other reasons. One the means shiny. And because we want we want you like small says We want to establish paternity. That's the opinion of small. And according to it's a rabbinical you might come to mistake regarding a riot. So, the way the deals with this question the obviously feels that it applies even to a woman who's not a rush. And the says you're right really she does have to wait three months. It's talking about where she went ahead and she violated. Anyway, let's take a look in the knock. says this is an Ebenezer I'll say A woman who's divorced or a widow has to wait 90 days before she marries you some you should not marry a woman who's nursing your friend's child. Or a woman who's pregnant with your friend's child. Says the Any woman who's divorced or widowed you're not to marry her. The latest is You can't do to her. The should have done then Saturday I am until you wait 90 days in the sky show I should miss Bala boy. Besides the 90 days is besides the day she was divorced or husband died because and besides the day you marry her. There has to be 90 complete days in between. So, that you can know if she's pregnant or in a moment of rush. The means the rush in the rush of life. >> [snorts] >> To distinguish between the descendants of the first and the last. I will say she do you could have an engagement party. You could make a little or a lot. If you want to waste the money on it, you could make a little or a lot. Rush in the bias. You just can't move in. I mean you see what's I get my name in the rushes. From the day the get was written you count for a woman who's divorced he out tonight. Even if the divorce was stipulated I should like he get the other. Or she didn't receive it after only after many years. We count 90 days. Because he's not going into with her once he writes the get. So, even though technically the divorce is not out. Nevertheless, we'll start counting the 90 days. The brings the money in the scene of the get. The says we count from the day of the giving of the get not the writing of the get. Even though from the day the get was written the is also It's a decree of the sages who ain't no royal laid. That even a woman who's infertile you think a woman who's infertile you can marry her right away I feel in the sky show. Even if she's divorced I miss Alma Harrison. I have to I am. I feel kind of uh Even in a young woman is a kind of a yak or island is I feel about Medina say I am. So, in all these cases she couldn't have been pregnant. I see Adam. Or if the guy is impotent Or let's say a woman just had a miscarriage. I feel my Harrison. Even if not only she had Harrison she's still a solo. You have to wait 90 days. However, there are some leniencies regarding the dinner of it's interesting. If you look in the above over here. The says the that's the No we do here. He wants to say a old woman you don't have to wait 90 days. The he's a kind of a inside of have rush out. That if she's old you don't need to wait 90 days but after she had Somebody in this topic but there the nurse color after That's if she converts and she marries someone else. There's a name of Shaddai be Israel. I will be in the sky and the shower yard. The way she carries the Israel in the rush out. Let's take a look at this. Let's see one second. Cuz I think this is going on a different show. One second. Look in the show. Okay. Cuz the says an old woman you do need to wait 90 days. Let's look look in the show. She show you in the show the show. Let's say you had a maid servant or a convert. And they were married to their Gentile husbands. I got a son. Or or an in the sky show and they both convert and she has a Hampton. I feel give it to the sky show my some Saturday I am having a show and the show I should show you the show. The says like this. Let's say you have a a man and a woman who are going to be and they were living together. And now they both convert. So, do they have to wait 90 days to remarry? So, you say well we need to know who the father is. We need we need to know who the father is. We know who the father is. They were married uh before. So, maybe since they're converting together they don't need to they don't need in such a situation. So, it's here we need have Hana for a different reason. We know who the father is, but we need to know if the child was conceived when they when the parents were gentile or the child was conceived when the parents were Jewish. On this, the Noda BiYehuda says that if in such a situation if the woman was an old lady so by a regular Yisrael, we can't light plug. If the woman's an old lady, we'll still say that if you want to marry her, you have to do uh you have to do you have to wait uh 3 months. But if they're and she's old because and they were married before so what are we worried? By you see by a Yisrael, you want to marry an old lady, we might get confused with a woman who's not an old lady. But by two where it's not a matter of who the father is, it's a matter of whether the child was nizra b'kedusha or not. So, in this case, we know he was uh she's an old lady, so there's nothing to be concerned about because she can't have a child. So, on regarding this, the Noda BiYehuda says, "Nireh lanu estati d'im hi zakaina sacha frasha." When is there a shaila in halacha? That's let's say a Jewish man marries a giyores who's a zakaina, then under those circumstances, there's a tzadz, you would have to wait 3 months. But if they're both niskaia and they remain together where you don't have to be goizer al tui Yisrael because there is no case like this by a Yisrael. It's only a Yisrael who marries a giyores who's a zakaina, okay, then we'll say you should marry you should wait 3 months. But if they were two who were married before and now they're staying together then the Noda BiYehuda says, "And she's an old lady, so she's not pregnant under those circumstances, the Noda BiYehuda is meikel." The Chida has another kula. He says what if this gentile and his wife she's already pregnant. By normally, uh ger and a giyores, they both convert, so they have to wait 3 months because we need to know if there's a child, we need to know whether it's nizra b'kedusha or not. But in this case, we know it wasn't. She's already pregnant. So, there would be no reason right? In other words, a woman a Jewish woman who's pregnant you still have to wait 3 months. But a ger v'giyores where she's pregnant then in that case, you don't have to wait 3 months. So, there are some leniencies by havchana under two cases. Case both of them by are by a ger and a giyores. If she's a zakaina, which doesn't apply stam if a man marries an old woman, you still have to wait 3 months, but not by ger v'giyores or m'uberes, the Chida says in Birkei Yosef siman reish samach samach tes gimmel, "Tzrichin l'hafrish zman mi'zavim ishto k'var hi m'uberes mi'mennu." And he's the father. Meaning if he's not the father You see, what's the what's the reason in these two cases we don't have to be goizer? Because there's no similar case to be goizer to by Yisrael. In in this case, if let's say he's the father and the woman's already pregnant so then we know he was nizra shelo b'kedusha and there's no question about the paternity. Uh the the Chida brings from the Mishneh Berurah that you could be meikel. There's another whole slew of questions regarding well, what if it's going to complicate the giyores if the ger and the giyores convert and now we make them separate for 3 months. That's uh the poskim discuss. Okay, it's interesting topic on daf ayin alef. Have a great rest of the day. Hopefully this week will be kiyara gel. Have a good day everyone. Kol tuv. You're welcome. Kol tuv. All right.