Anger Management The Daily Grind - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (27)

[Music] n always good to be here in Aventura the bre of Center we uh continue to reach more and more people to this uh live Facebook feed last week I think it was uh 3,000 people uh watching it and each week people are watching it they like it um I guess when you're watching it live uh you're more of a by uh part of what's happening at that moment where sometimes if you miss it you could always watch it on tour anytime.com or our website.org uh or YouTube many other places are publicizing the and another way to disseminate Torah to is to all of the righteous Gentiles around the world that are looking to do chuv to get closer to hem some are looking to convert some are looking to become righteous hies and uh Without Really uh you know not going to elaborate on the same things that we've covered in the past or uh you know as far as what's happened over these last few weeks with this uh mamash war against the Satan himself uh where we've had to do everything and anything possible to publicize this uh potential that was happening of bringing a missionary to Bon synagogue bem uh the good news is that anyone that's followed it knows that uh the event was cancelled uh which is purely we'll mention a few things about it here and there but overall wanted to give anyone who doesn't know the good news that the immediate danger is over the problem that we still have today is that the ideology is still there the uh longer term danger is still there and we still have to continue publicizing the truth to am is so we could try to uh wake as many people up as possible uh and we'll try to do another M today to uh to connect it to it to connect it to many other things that hashm wants us to learn um and again as I've mentioned many times in the last few sh that we've talked about it this is not a personal battle against any particular Rabbi any particular the reality of it is aside obviously from the people that uh are still fighting for the wrong side the one that has to lose the most is me I live there it's a uncomfortable situation I can't go to Sho anymore over there I have to change locations move and so on so if I if I was really worried about my own personal convenience or my family's convenience especially with a brand new son then this is the last thing that would be on my mind why would I want to disturb my own life so this is one of the things that we learn in this week's there's many many things obviously we learned from but the begins with this and these are the ordinances meaning the laws that you shall place before them so kazal explains what do you mean before them these are the laws you should give them these are the laws period what do you mean what do you mean before them and one of the sages explains this wonderfully and it's extremely relevant to us today when was the last time that you had a very difficult decision to make where the Satan came to you and he gave you a very very profitable proposition he told you that if you do XYZ against the torat you're going to get a huge amount of money if you do XYZ against the Torah you'll get a huge amount of cavod if you do XYZ against the Tor you'll get the most beautiful woman in the world that you cannot touch but it's against T but at the same token it's satisfies our desires when was the last time that you can truly say you had a serious test test we have every day to wake up in a morning on time was a tough test to put fine on is a tough test to eat kosher is a tough test obviously wherever your level is sometimes it's less tough than others the closer you are to the more meaningless these battles become to you meaning you're such a such a high level that it's no longer difficult for you to do it's no longer diff difficult for you to eat kosher it's no longer difficult for you to do many of the things that are dayto day but each and every single one of us regardless of where you are whether you just started keeping Shabbat in the last week like some of my students or you started keeping Shabbat a few years ago like some of my other students bash or you've been a FR from birth like some other students each and every single one of us gets a test at our level there's a small test day-to-day stuff somebody just cut you off you really want to tell them what's on your mind it's a very tough test sometimes anyone that has a short fuse it's a tough test for them somebody that's very laxidasical lethargic type of Personality monotone type of speech it's not going to affect them like let him pass he's in a hurry doesn't bother them so for him it's not a test even though both of you had the same exact thing it's not a test for you it's a test that's the equivalent of an atomic bomb Dam it's not even a fly it's not even a fly we said in last week's Miami Shure whoever didn't watch it something that thear says that's truly amazing if you really think about it it says that Satan and all the same and this very same is the equivalent of a fly on top of your heart says what fly annoying little creature but hasem obviously created him for a reason almost 2,000 years ago kazal learned ranan told us that we actually already knew from over 2,000 years ago that diseases are carried by flies and mosquitoes modern medicine only discovered it in 1882 if they read they would have saved some money cured some people but nonetheless here we're talking about a different issue about a fly he says kazal says a fly a fly on top of your heart is like the Satan why cuz just like a fly you see if you ever every time you want to eat something delicious you want to have a barbecue outside what happens immediately especially in this desert heat we have here in Florida immediately a fly where's the fly coming no on top of your burger he doesn't come like you know at the end of the table just looking at you hey give me a piece give me a piece no no no he go on top of the burger without invitation Yesa on the burger yes on the steak and you know that two minutes ago he was on poop that's just the reality it's annoying annoying this fly how many times you sh him away what happens he comes back again and again and again he doesn't leave until you kill him or you decide just give him the steak and that's it leave him alone he's not leaving he says the is the same thing yet is on top of your heart non-stop he's never going to leave you alone as soon as you sh him away you beat him okay the guy cut you off you didn't say anything you were sadik fine he's going to go another guy's going to cut you off okay another guy cut you off you didn't say anything you got to work up somebody stole your parking somebody stole your parking spot okay I'm not going to say anything let me go to work let me just get to work let me get to work what do you see somebody stole your chair at the office you have this chair 3 years somebody stole your chair who is it's the new employee and no na cuz you know it's not like so new guy maybe he's a manager he's higher than you but he stole your chair we you going to tell your new manager Hey listen give him my chair back so again he comes back and he comes back and he comes back he give you paycheck and they Short Change you 150 bucks why you have no idea the part that said that what the member was going to say is missing Short change but it's Friday what you going to go to the bus and explain to what's you have to go home shabat but you got to go home less $150 then you get to the house your wife tells you oh listen one of the kids just got broke something cost us $150 like oh the same 15 I now lost 300 so you already feel you're going into Shabbat 300 keeps coming back this fly he keeps coming back he's so annoying he keeps coming back like says that's our job that's our job in the world is to overcome this fly overcome this Satan and there's only one way there's only one way to do it only one way to do it of course on a day-to-day basis you're going to win some battle lose some battles but an overall achievement in your life is by following this week's when you put the will of hem in front of yours you already won once you put the will of the Torah what it says in the Torah before your desire before what the fly is trying to encourage you to do it's the only way you're going to win because as soon as you say wait a minute okay the guy just cut me off I really want to give him a piece of my mind but you know what Hashem says it's not allowed why because we have my little keepa now it's more than a quarter everyone can see it I'm going to go next to this guy I'm going to tell him and then they say oh look at how Jews are behaving so this cutting off situation turns into worst sin in history you just destroyed the bet mikdash why because you cursed at some strange guy that was in a hurry to do whatever he was doing maybe he was driving to the hospital maybe he's a doctor maybe he's a patient maybe his wife is in the back seat and she's about to give birth give him some C and even if you're right even if he did it just to make you angry even if he just decided like you know what I just feel like cutting everybody off like the guy on the way here that's what happened to me he just felt like cutting me off why cuz oh he runs the world still doesn't justify you going and doing whatever you really want to do why because is you have to be all light to the Nations what about the guy that stole your parking lot your parking spot is find another parket SP find another one okay so he stole it okay is it really worth the aggravation the anger when we're going to learn in this Mish what hasem says and the about anger you're going to think twice before you get angry causes loss of money it's considered idol worship it's all the worst things that could happen come from anger to such an extent that kazal says when someone gets angry all of Gom controls him all of the servants that are running Gom come to you and like oh we're going to run the show now they took take over your body it's not a good place to be how do we beat this how do we beat the Falcons $150 the guy short changed me 150 bucks after he stole my chair this new manager okay the chair you can find another chair every time a door closes another one open maybe you'll find a better chair maybe you were too comfortable in this chair you weren't really as productive maybe if you're less comfortable at work you'll actually do more work and get a promotion and become the next manager or you want to be low-level employee for the rest of your life if you want to do that then you should fight for the chair but if you want to be the manager you want to be the owner you want to be the CEO you want to be on television as the next big entrepreneur don't worry about be comfortable at work doesn't serve you any good what about the 150 bucks as as long as you're confident that hasem runs the world you shouldn't be worried for a second why because it's the will of hem hasem decided you're going to be short for 150 bucks to see do you still love me do you still love me do you still follow the T you're going to be angry the whole Shabbat because you're short 150 bucks and what about when you find out when you get home that your kid broke something okay apparently that was a that I deserved that's it's much more valuable that than Shalom My Life why because every time you lose money says it's D it's Bloods it's in replacement of your blood which really means someone that has high high level of if they lose money they should say just like it says thank Hashem as much for the good as you do for the bad thank hasem for as much for the as you do for the good meaning that if you really understood why these bad things are actually happening why you just lost $150 and you say wow amazing Hashem let me live another 20 years for what for another 150 bucks I'll give him 300 so once you get closer and closer to you start understanding why certain things happen but how do you get to all of this the beginning of the is telling you you have to make a decision early on first always make sure that almost comes to the lecture on time so we can turn on the air condition I don't have to melt but more seriously what do you have to do you have to put the laws of hem the will of hem in front of your own can if you can please cuz by the time you actually comes I may actually end up melting listen triple you know blood we're hot blood we get we get hot very quickly so plus I have these candles over here they're warming me up so you have to put you have to put the laws in front of your own will even if it doesn't make sense to you even if you don't like it even if you don't agree with it even if it disturbs your reality even if it hurts your cavod once you decide that you are going to serve hem like a want you to serve him not like you want to like he wants you like he wrote for you to do it everything becomes simpler now this whole debacle with the missionary which for some strange reason some people still claim he's not a missionary even though there's an actual videos that we've showed and highlighted on the internet where he says not only is he a missionary he wants everyone to be a missionary because that's what he trains missionaries but we're going to ignore reality CU let's not let the facts get in the way of everyone's version of the truth whatever their version is today the most difficult part today is the fact that the missionary is the one that actually canel the lecture now even though we know of course this is the will of hem the of how the team tried to do everything and anything possible for the honor of hem trying to make sure that this disaster doesn't happen and that uh we don't have even one Jew in danger it's not for my Cavo it's not for anybody else's Cavo just for the sake of as much as some people like to think that it's for some alternative motive I have no idea what that alternative motive is or what it could be but nonetheless the whole point was to stop a danger before it happens now why is it a problem that the missionary actually canceled it the problem is that be to find out how do we find out we found out from an article that was written where the Rabbi says that uh not only is he upset to announce that the missionary Matthew Kelly is not coming but he cried he cried at the news that he's not coming now I don't know the last time the biggest rabbis in the world came to a certain Town whether it's Florida somewhere or it's in New York or somewhere else and he was supposed to go to a certain Kaya and he didn't go schedule got mixed up he got busy traffic whatever the reason was did you ever see anyone cry because the doador didn't show up in my personal experience never I never even heard of anybody crying because the rabbi didn't come but a missionary didn't come we crying so this obviously shows that the ideology is a little off we're still not sure what's happening here now why am I mentioning this again haven't we harped in this issue time and time again it's against al to bring this guy we we've gone over this what's the the is when you are a rabbi you are going to whether you like it or not you're going to affect and impact your Kaya you're going to affect and impact your followers like it or not you're going to affect them right or wrong they're going to follow you many people going to follow you blindly it's just a reality so what ends up happening is that if you see the comments on this article the worst possible thing that could happen ended up happening forget about the fact that they said that we are we did the the ones that went against it we did the forget about the fact that they for some reason are blaming Rabbi mizi about this anyway I have no idea why they're blaming RAB M even though yes of course he made a little section of his lecture talking about he didn't start the whole thing but for whatever reason they want him to be theban they're blaming him for starting the whole thing and controlling and and manipulating everything no reason whatsoever forget about the fact that they're going against a big someone that helps people do cha forget about the numbers doesn't matter with it's a thousand people did Chua or a million people did cha because of irrelevant if one person did Chua because of rabi he's already something special not according to just me according to the Torah and I know for sure that he's made thousands upon thousands du how I know them my family included but nonetheless let's say it's not the rabbi mrai issue the issue here is the fact that when you have a big Rabbi saying that something that's wrong is right the K believes it so if you look at the comments what did the comments say one Kayla member has been bothering me non-stop for the last few days he hasn't stopped commenting on on Facebook to me and on YouTube and every way he could find me he's sending me comments of how much of a bad person I am and I don't know this and I don't know that and I'm just constant insults best part about it is this guy is a rabbi and his hat is this big he's got one of the furry hats nice nice5 six $7,000 at least but he's telling me now I I provide him sources he doesn't want you read the sources I'm just bad that okay so you have one that's not so bad it's not so bad then you have another guy sends me another email sends me a message on Facebook says it's time to move from Lago he knows my address and he starts you know he sends me a little mini threat that it's time for me to move away say no big deal in person I'm a little bit more intimidating than I am on camera especially when I have AEM on my side no problem fine you want to threaten me I can't what's the worst of it all this is this is nothing all this stuff inconvenience to me who cares what's the worst of it all another guy says oh let's send a public apology let's send a public apology to Matthew Kelly as a Kaa we should send him a public apology for an idol worshiper missionary that steals Jewish Souls every day we're going to send him a public apology but that was wasn't enough another member wanted to top him off he says you know what let's all go and donate to the church you want to believe you don't believe me go look at the comments yourself let's go donate to the church let's go support idol worship meaning if Kelly would have actually come would have been better off already that's how War this ideology is that's how dangerous it is when a leader doesn't take hold and let say listen according to I made a mistake not allowed I didn't know he was a missionary or I knew what it doesn't make a difference I made a mistake as long as you're still fighting for your cavod fighting for whatever reason you're fighting and telling people you cried over it and how we're the Sinners and this and all this nonsense that's going on the Kila is going to follow it and what happens with these comments all the comments that are saying hey look but this says this this says this people that are supporting this didn't happen they erase all of those comments and the comments that say let's go donate to the uh Church they don't erase it's still there probably going to be there for at least another another half hour before they delete that let's go donate to the church what are we doing here are they GNA say that's allowed to it's allowed to donate to the church you go so just put a pesel in the middle of the synagogue and that's it finish it already finish change religion listen with all due respect to everyone that knows Torah everyone that's learned a day of gar not a lifetime of gar a day of gar there's truth and there's falsehood there's nothing in between there's no gray there's yes there's no there's there's K that's it when it comes to a AEM is very very stringent so stringent and so disgusted by it that he says this in the Book of Ezekiel he says to the prophet in chapter 20 from verse 32 all the way to verse 39 I'm not going to read you the whole part but in the beginning he tells us about the prophecy of what's going to happen at the end of times says that you want to be like the go and worship idols but I will roll over you with a a strong force in the end and you'll serve AEM in so many words he's telling am listen you want to be like the go you want to go watch NBA Playoffs instead of go to sh and learn duffi you want to go watch the Super Bowl see a bunch of huge people running against each other trying to kill each other like they did at the Coliseum couple thousand years ago only difference is now they get paid 20 $25 million a year back then if they were just alive it was enough instead of going and learning some musar you want to be the you want to dress like the instead of being modest showing your humility showing that you're a Jew being proud of a Jew and wearing your keepa proudly instead of finding the small one in the store or not wearing it at all because Shalom anyone would see you outside of the shoe with a keeper you want to make sure you spend at least 15 to 20 minutes doing your hair every day front of the mirror doing enough gel instead of looking like an honorable person you want to wear the tightest possible clothes so everyone sees the definition of your body interestingly enough the people that love tight love tight clothes the most are fat people so it doesn't even look good needless to say it's not allowed it's not modest you want to be the go because you're looking at the go all day he say I want to be like them it's what he's telling hasem is telling you want to be at the go but I'm not going to let you I'm not going to let you one way or another you will will serve me before it's over before it's over you will serve me either you're going to come serve me to seminars and a reality check that's light and beautiful I'll force you to do it sickness disease money loss divorces you want more problem that happen every single day that I have to deal with every day just to listen to the messages on my phone is already like a reality check it's like AEM thank you thank you Hashem for not giving me half of these problems one of these problems nonstop P issues people want to kill themselves because they lost some money people are so anxious they start ripping hair out of their arms somebody sent me a text a few the last couple days like listen what do you do if you can't stop ripping te hair out of your arms said you have to work on yeah but how's that going to help you said because you have anxiety oh so how is not going to help like well if you believe that everything is coming from Hashem and you really really believe it you'll have less reason to be anxious even though this all made sense it's very very simple to say it's not necessarily sitting over here like your in the morning sometimes it's sitting over here in the back sometimes in your pocket on a book on the shelf that you never read it's not that no one's ever heard but it's not necessarily sitting over here all the time a woman calls me and says what do I do if I find out if I found out that my husband is cheating on me but not just one time he actually has an affair with the woman already for six months kill him was what I thought also but I couldn't say it but do you understand what these problems that are people are dealing with every single day makes you think thank you Hashem thank you Hashem for the rules that you gave me by following them I'm doing myself a service by following these rules where I think it's like a burden in the beginning when you don't know the rules you think it's a burden so many rules thousands and thousands of rules that you know the 613 mitv that are biblical with seven on top of them that are rabinal break down into thousands of and oh this is too much how could I do and then the next thing you know you startop following him and you follow this one and another one and another one and eventually you start realizing wow few years into it's like my life is so much better due to these rules I don't have problems with my marriage due to these rules rules I don't have problems with due to these rules I have a vacation every week due to these rules I actually keep more of what I make because there's in the money due to these rules I really mean it when I say thank you Hashem for not making me a every morning not that there's something wrong with them I have many friends that are phenomenal go that are amazing people better than many Jews I know that's not who I'm referring to I'm referring to somebody who has no direction whatsoever just lives like the Greeks works on his body works on his pocket beginning and the end of his life that's it he comes from a seed he's going to turn into nothing eventually and leave no stamp on the world doesn't matter if he created Intel it's it doesn't matter if he created Apple no one cares okay so they bought some books so what there's no real imprint on the world his life didn't serve a real purpose because it ended whereas when you live like a Jew you live like a righteous Gentile your life is eternal but Hashem is telling us that we're looking so far away from the Mish from what he says in the Tora we're so far away from it that we want to be like the go he says I'm not going to let you I'm not going to let you because at the end of times before every single one of you will have to be in front of the judge and jury and pay the bill I'm going to give you every single opportunity to do Chua you're either going to do CH by going to t on Tuesday nights for two or three hours and then start listening to CDs then start praying a little bit and then maybe go to a seminar nice way to do Chua I wish I did chuva that way or go through suffering endless suffering and if you still don't do chuva when the day comes after 120 the shame will be the biggest part of the punishment because all you'll see is the opportunities that you've missed for nothing for 5 minutes of pleasure but in this very same section Hashem is telling us something scarier and last week's Miami Shure I went over one of the things that the ram mentions inim many times we've heard that the biggest punishment someone can get in this world is not AIDS it's not cancer it's not some type of disease it's not divorce it's not even death the biggest punishment someone can get in this world is when AEM decides I've had it with you door's closed you you will not do Chua he removes the person's free will he will no longer allow that person to do CH even though it says that always open and even though it says listen to everything hasem says except if he says say meaning leave me don't ever listen to that even if you hear a b call from sh like Alish said he said listen I heard everyone return you little rascals except you're not welcome everyone can do Chu except you say if you remember that Torah that I taught you in you're not supposed to listen to that so even if you hear but call a Heavenly voice saying you can't do chuv don't listen but the RAM says there is a time where hasem says I've had it with you m have had it with you and this is one of the sources verse 39 chapter 20 of Ezekiel it says and you oh House of Israel thus said the Lord hasem let every man go serve his Idol since you do not listen to me and do not profane my Holy Name any longer with your gifts and your Idols says you don't want to listen to me you don't want to fulfill my mitv do you think you have a better way you want to bring a missionary you want to go do idol worship you want to go donate to a church go go serve your idol just stop violating my name stop desecrating my name you want to go worship idols go already go go get out of my face and so many words is what hasm is telling you you want to go do it you want to you want to be part of the church go it says that even though hasem has an extraordinary amount of endless patience he still demands what's his yes he'll be patient for with you 10 years 20 years 30 years 50 years however many years allowed it to you but eventually it's time to close the store eventually it's time to collect all the outstanding bills and the rambam says just the fact that there's a small possibility that a a person would get a punishment where hasem says go worship an idol to stop desecrating my name just the fact that the small possibility small not big we're not saying 50% chance we're not even saying 1% chance we have no idea he says just the fact that there is a chance that hasem can close the store on you and you're not welcome in so you have to do TR on the spot if you really have any what whatever the fact that it's even a possibility for to be closed should scare you to death cuz everyone thinks no no when I get married I'll do chva when I have kids I'll do cha when the kids grow up and they're out of the house then I could do Shabbat and comfort no craziness why I make more money I'll do Chua when I get my car I'll do chuva when I get the new house I'll do chuva chuva chuva Chua later on later on but there's a special mishna for a person like that someone says I'll sin and then I'll do CH they don't allow to do CH just the of saying you know it's a sin you're going to do the sin but later on you're going to do CH like you're doing a favor just that is enough where that that punishment can happen to them so for all of those that for whatever strange reason still think it's it's okay to listen to a missionary talk about anything forget about whether it's motivation or it's JC peny it's irrelevant even if he came to a to talk about Papa Smurf and Mama Smurf and how they have all these little Smurfs around them with the little cat chasing them and gargam in the background you're still not allowed to hear them still not allowed to hear him still not allowed to be within four am of him six feet of him why because shalom like his Papa Smurf and Mama Smurf so much that you go read his JC Penny book too just the possibility that you that you like what he says and you send him an email that's already too much that's already too much how can we overcome our desire to be like Goen because in our world today it's very easy to want to be like a go you turn on a television that it is anyone that still watches television hopefully nobody here but anyone that still watches television 5 seconds into it you want to be like exactly the person on TV even if it's a commercial especially if it's a commercial whether it's the guy that they're shooting at or the guy that's shooting or the guy that's taking a shower or the guy that's eating a Subway sandwich you want to be like whoever's on television you're not thinking no it's not modest it's modest you're not thinking about anything you're just oh yeah I want to eat a sandwich I want to take a shower right now with that Dove soap I want to be like them I want to break out of prison they have a whole show about breaking out of prison I used to like that show I want to break out of prison let me go into prison so I can break out of it immediately you want to be like a go how do we get to a point of not wanting to be like go how if you ask yourself for a moment what is the desire of hasem what is he want for a second already youve beat 50% of your if you're asking that means you care you care what his will is and if you find out that your father in Heaven doesn't want you to do it already kills half your desire the other 50% is your desire as we continue in a two 15z translation they each said three things they is referring to the students of ab we've been talking about for the last few weeks so the first among them is each one of them is said three core foundational things that they would according to kazal base every single one of the based on these three things they came and gave lectures for 20 50 70 years and every single one of their lectures the foundation of the lecture is these three things they said we have a lecture we repeat the same story twice hey hey come on no you're boring me already should have told me I wouldn't have come let me know when you have new stuff new material but here we have the greatest Minds that ever lived holy of holies they repeat everything in every lecture how could this be CU these three things they pick are so vast that you could still use them as a foundation for an endless and infinite amount of lectures especially when you have an extraordinary amount of Torah like they did so Rus is the first one among them that says he starts the list like he did in the last few weeks as well last few Mish says let your fellow's honor be as dear to you as your own do not anger easily repent one day before your death do chva one day before you die War War Yourself by the fire of the sages but beware of their glowing coal lest you be scorched for their bite is the bite of a fox their sting is the sting of a scorpion their hiss is the hiss of a serpent and all their words are like FY cols or fiery cols in the beginning it was relatively simple to understand it became a little bit more difficult to understand as it got to the the end of the mishna but nonetheless a lot of it is self-explanatory first he's telling you honor of your friend should be as important to you as your own honor don't get angry easily repent one day before you [Music] die and develop a special relationship with the tadim with the sages but be careful at the same time be close to them close enough to be have a relationship but far enough where you're not too comfortable that's the grand scheme of things what he actually just said now we're going to delve into some of the details first and foremost if you look at the basics of what he said here it looks like nothing genius it looks actually common sense so if you're going to tell me listen your own's going to give a lecture and he's going to give a lecture about anger like what what does your own know okay she's going to talk about anger going talk about money talk about basic things who knows knows how the heavens work knows knows how hasm created the world knows the secrets knows how to talk to Angel angs to shim knows the ways of the world knows how to speak to trees you're going to teach me don't get angry that's the subject you picked all the knowledge you have can't tell me listen the way the world was created hasm did this and did that all this stuff wow give me cabala make me move this camera with my mind like this one uh that I know in in Jerusalem he's able to bend a uh spoon with his mind cabala that he has teach me how to bend spoons I don't know how much how much that's valued anymore but the point is if I come here and I say show to you guys two hours you 3 hours here about anger or I say you know what let me show you the other option and I bend this candle with my mind you're probably more people going to show up next week the two hours year like ah listen you could have done this whole three hours year in 15 minutes but the candle even if it took me an hour to melt the candle with my mind all places packed next week so is we respect my friend that's the anger don't be angry that's the K first and foremost you'll notice that every single one of the sages did the same exact thing every one of them picked something simple as the foundation to all of their teaching why because the Torah must be relevant to everyone if you're going to learn Torah yourself learn whatever you want if you're interested in it you understand it you connect to it learn whatever you want enjoy if you're at that level now if you just did chuva a year two years five years ago and you're going to start telling me listen I'm going to go start learning cabal aor I'm going tell you you're going in the wrong direction it's not for you you have to be an expert inar you have to be an expert in a lot of Torah that at the very least is going take you 20 plus years before you even touch cabala real cabala not cabala sent of nonsense real cabala real Z are can't touch it it's not for you it's not for me has nothing to do with your intellect power has to do with Kus you have to be a certain level of holy in order to get there to even know what a certain level of holy is you already have have to be a certain level meaning if I tell most people listen you have to be a certain level of holy most people like oh whatever I pray three times a day I learn couple hours a day I'm holy no you're not you're special to hem but to be holy like cabala holy you have to purify your body purify your eyes purify your n do all types of things that are like far far far away from us now you asked the next natural question should be well you mentioned some things that the says from time to time these are very basic things that my teacher would teach me or something like that that are just on liners not that I study the zor or most people that speak about the zor in in in uh lectures they don't actually study the zor most of the time just that you hear from somewhere or you read something basic level you're not going into the delve of the of the deepness depthness of the Zar because why because this zor and this cabala also includes the names of angels and those angels are very very serious where if you say their name and you're not at a level of Holiness to say their name cause a lot of problems for you name the problem it'll cause it it's not a rumor that there's actually a hospital in Israel specifically meant for people that went crazy learning the zor it's not a rumor how do I know it's not a rumor I saw it it's right next to Rober fr's house it's the overwhelming majority of the patients are from Z some of them were holy people just not at that level so you have to be careful but again if you look at the sages they're not teaching you Z they're teaching you basic level Torah why because they want to teach you something that you can take with you forever regardless of what level you are regardless of whether you're a b Chua for a year or two or you're already in it for 25 30 40 50 years you can take all of this and delve into it and go into it deeper and deeper and see that it never ends now how do you know where to learn when we talk so much about how it's very very difficult to find a real Rabbi today you have some rabbis are telling you things that are difficult to hear but are nonetheless in the Torah and some rabbis are telling you you're a sadik even though you don't even keep Shabbat you drove to on Shabbat hey come on sadik I'll give you an Aliyah oh some sometimes they like you so much they tell you listen why don't you give us a okay I'll read the newspaper they let them read the newspaper I know of a place like this they actually let a guy read a newspaper on sud cheet so when you have these these people that kiss up to the wrong people and then you have people that are saying things that are a little hard to hear but are nonetheless true how do you pick also doesn't necessarily mean that every single Rabbi even if he does tell the truth 100% doesn't necessarily mean he's the perfect fit for you he could only have a limit of 40% of your Tor from him and maybe the other 60% spread amongst five other people that are a little lighter but you can't have someone that tells you falsehood so page 15 says you're only allowed to listen to a RAV if he looks like an angel meaning if his behavior is similar to an angel's he could be a r how so an angel doesn't have free choice an angel fulfills 24 hours a day there's no breaks whatever hasem wants that's what they do if your is going to read every part of the including the parts you don't really want to hear especially all the real details of what really happened in Egypt all the real details of what really happened when we left Egypt where 80% of am actually died the real details not oh yeah we went out and the biggest problem was that we had matah instead of bread if he tells you the real details without putting his Rosy color glasses on it you listen to him but if he tells you listen you know the Holocaust n Hashem didn't do that Hashem is only good Hashem couldn't have brought the Holocaust he's only good it says in the Torah is good so how could someone that's so good bring the Holocaust so they explain it in a different way they say no hasem he just left which is by the way 100% heresy to say hem left or hem is not present in any place is 100% so no hasem didn't cause the Holocaust it was uh just that we weren't so good so hasem just let them beat us up as if they had their own choice that overrode hashem's choice Hashem loved us they didn't so therefore he let them beat them beat us up and kill six million of us this is also everything and anything that happens in this world only happens if hasem wills it to happen rule in the Torah to such an extent that the kazal explained to us that even a leaf a leaf does not fall off of a tree unless hem wills it to fall meaning the leaf has to call up says hm can I fall off the tree no no not today tomorrow okay he stays there oh today you fall Falls a leaf tree has tens of thousands of leaves one leaf doesn't fall unless hasem says you're allowed to fall so you think that hasem is going to let one Jew die without Hashem saying it's time for him to die in the most gruesome horrible way there is hasem W it as hard as it is to hear it's what it's written in the tah and it's time for us to take off the rosy color glasses and start seeing a reality that's why said says your ra he has to be like an angel meaning his own personal opinion is meaningless his own Rosy color glasses meaningless what does it say what does he say if the two are a match that's your R that's your but if he tells you you're a sadik despite the fact that you're eating on a regular basis it's not your R it's aan if he tells you you listen come to yeah but I drive on Shabbat you know I don't uh I heard it's not allowed no no no just come just come don't worry we have a different sh park in the parking lot that's 2 minutes from the beess so nobody sees if no one sees you in the k no one sees you park the car no one sees you drive then it's not really the same level of Shabbat this is the new she this is the new ideology that you have in the world people say no no just the parking lot can't be next to the Sho it's somewhere else it's like 2 minutes away like God's not there everyone's scared of the K but they're not scared of God Park two minutes 5 minutes from the Sho if nobody sees you it's not that bad there's no biggest in the world in this sentence first of all God's everywhere second of all as far as a public sin it doesn't mean that 10 people have to see you drive on Shabbat have to see you smoke on Shabbat have to see you play with your iPhone on Shabbat no if you actually look at thear what does it say 10 people have to know that you're doing it you're known as a guy that smokes on Shabbat by 10 people 10 people know you smoke every Shabbat that's 10 people know you drove to someone drives to sh for 20 years everyone knows he's not only that 10 people the whole K and people that don't even go to that Ka everyone knows soal says first and foremost pick someone's going to tell you the truth H as hem wrote it not a uh different politically correct version of it number one second thing is he says your fellow's honor your friend's honor should be as dear to you as your own honor and then right after it he talks about how don't get angry quickly says wait a minute why does it say don't get angry quickly shouldn't it say don't get angry getting angry if you look at the page 152 says that you getting angry it's idol worship I think I brought to come on yeah sorry 105 not 15252 is a different uh story about anger 105 it says this if one tears His Garment in his anger someone gets really upset rips his shirt on Shabbat not allowed to rip or he breaks his utensils and his anger takes the spoon throws it across the room takes the remote control froze it across the room I saw this video one time the wife didn't like the fact that her husband was watching so much TV so she played a prank on him she got a second remote and she was hiding in the background and he was watching this silly soccer game so every saw and as soon as they got close to the net she shut off the TV and the guy's like looking how is this happening what's wrong with this TV and he's losing his mind he's throwing the popcorn on the television flipping the table he's losing his mind eventually after she shut it off like four or five times he takes the TV smashes the TV to Pieces smashes the computer if that's what the TV is going to lead you to you probably shouldn't watch it says you take your remote you throw it across the room did he get another TV probably or is a very interesting one or he scatters his money in Anger what does it mean he scatters his money in anger takes whatever money has in his pocket just throws it in the air who does this who just takes a bunch of money and throws it in the air anyone could think of an idea gam ah now in my sinful days hasem have mercy on me when I used to play poker now poker you don't play against the house you play against another person which as I have mentioned in previous lectures is not allowed and in any condition it's considered while 100% gazel meaning stealing because when you win even though there's rules to the game gambling is not allowed for multiple reasons which we'll cover very very quickly number one reason it's considered gazel meaning that when you win even though there's rules to the game the other party doesn't want to give you the money even though he says listen if I have I know one card and you have inferior cards then you owe me money that's the rules of the game both of you go into with an agreement that whoever has the best card is going to win the reality is that even after he follows the rules and he knows that you have Superior cards and he knows that you are entitled technically to the money he doesn't really want to give it to you it's his money he doesn't want to give it to you so he's giving you the money against his own will which is the definition of stealing so the fact that someone is winning in gambling is actually losing in Shay that's one and there's no thief in ganeden thiefs are not allowed in G they have to come back in and pay it back so that's one two gambling is considered something it's mus means that it's a place of clowns it's a place that is not appropriate for a Jew it's not a place where there is aadim even though some people unfortunately have a keep on it's not a place for tadim it's a place for people that care about this world only and nothing else so that's another thing another point is someone that knows you're a Jew says hey look see Jews are gamblers Jews are good gamblers Jews are bad gamblers whatever he says you have on your hands worst possible sin there is in Judaism you just desecrated hm's name this is a very very very serious problem that the people just don't take seriously they think that n whatever I'm only gambling a $5,000 I'm only gambling x amount of dollars so to give you a little bit of an understanding of how horrible gambling is in page 24 it says these are the ones that are in eligible to be judges or Witnesses someone does you have to have a witness for example two sets of students got married you have to have witnesses you have to have witnesses right these Witnesses have to be kosher people they have to be qualified to be Witnesses not like the Witnesses in a secular Court where it's just any average joke could be a witness they send them uh the uh jury card they send them the witness card they send them all these things where people could be a witness just if you were there you say you were there someone thinks you were there maybe maybe not or you're an expert even if you weren't there as long as you know about it you could be there all types of things about no no in Judaism to be a witness you have to be qualified you have to be someone that is reliable someone that has someone that has a boss in sh that you acknowledge at all times but there are certain things that disqualify you from being a witness so for example if you're Shabbat someone's Shabbat is no longer considered a valid witness why because he's no longer considered part of until he starts keeping Shabbat again the Judaism is on suspension but that's for Shabbat so let's say the guys uh keep Shabbat Rashi goes to Nets every day he has a a that's gives gives 20% not 10 20% no he goes gambling on a regular basis not like once in his life he goes gambling on a regular basis once a month he goes to the casino once a month he has a game with a bunch of his friends of Texas holdam or poker or or whatever other form of gambling the which is even before the one who plays with dice meaning Gambler somebody that's a gambler is no longer valid to be a witness they can't be a witness at a wedding they can't be a witness in a court meaning even if they saw somebody do something you can't take their opinion yeah but I saw him murder him I saw him steal I saw your opinion is no longer valid no longer valid so the Torah says that someone that gambles is a very very serious offender of the Tor also someone that's uh lends money with Reit with interest to another Jew and many several other things so now when you play poker against other people not that I'm trying to teach anybody poker here but just to give you an understanding of how horrendous the ideology is of the secular world the whole point of the game is not to have the best cards don't let anybody fool you the best poker players in the world are not the best poker players in the world because they're the luckiest they're not the best because they always get the best cards bluing they're the best because they make you think they have the best cards especially when you are angry meaning there's a word in in poker lingo called tilt the whole object of the game is to get you my opponent on tilt what's tilt get you off your Norm normally you're calm collected focused you could do the math in your head in a second you're not emotional you're making decisions that are objective you're paying attention to every detail of what I'm doing how I'm moving my eyes how I'm moving my lips whether I'm smiling whether I'm folding my hands whether I have my hands like this you're looking at every single tell every single thing that I can do that you could tell whether I'm telling the truth or not but once I got you angry or someone got you angry or something got you angry all bets are off you're no longer the same you're no longer clear you're no longer able to do anything and you get to a point where you just play out of anger and what do you do when you play out of anger the guy says all in you say all in all right you don't have you don't even know where your cards are but you're so angry that you have no idea what you're doing you cannot control your emotions and you do the stupidest thing in the world and that's what makes the best players in the world the best players in the world they don't necessarily get on tilt very quickly and everyone else does just a better control of emotions so if you ask yourself what is this say somebody scatters money who scatters money someone that's un tilt so now so whoever tears his garments whoever breaks his utensils whoever scatters his money in in his anger he should should be in your eyes as one who is performing idolatry says you see somebody breaking stuff tearing up his clothes throwing his money in the air in your eyes you should view him oh that's Matthew Kelly Idol worshiper that's the idol worship that we've been talking about for the last three weeks that's what they do they pray to a foreign God not the god of Israel why why why okay so he threw his money around what does it have to do with idol worship so he ripped his clothes up maybe he has a new new shirt he wants maybe he has a lot of money just doesn't care why is he what does one thing have to do with the other what is him being angry have anything to do with idol worship for thus is the craft of the evil inclination he says because these things that you do out of anger you're doing them because yet you've got to a point where the yet is controlling you your evil inclination is controlling you today tells you throw the money around tomorrow is going to tell you work overtime to make the money back forget about learning toah today it says throw the remote across the room tomorrow it says go buy another TV and watch TV extra one day the yet tells you this the next day it tells you that all the way to the point where the control somebody to such an extent where one day he's going to get them to go worship an idol and he does it why because someone that lets the control them to such an extent has turned the yet into their Idol meaning they've turned the Satan into their God the Satan is controlling everything they're doing the clothes she she has two things to wear she has one let's say short sleeve not moded short shirt and the other one is long sleeve loose shirt even better looking but yeah but it's hot short sleeve that's loose skirt tight skirt I the tight skirt looks better on me that's or I have this tadik from the UK she always ask me these good question religious woman but she has a lot of different people that come to her and ask her questions we try to help them and she says one of my one a few few of these people have come to me with the same question I don't really know what to answer them he said what does Hashem really care if the skirt okay so says it has to be a certain length beyond the knees meaning the skirt has to be six at least 6 in beyond the knees after you sit down after you sit down not before you sit down after you sit down because if it's before you sit down by the time you sit down it shows your knee in reality it's supposed to be all the way to your foot but if you want to go to the bare minimum of the then you go 6 in beyond the knee that's what the is so she says what's the big deal if she does it 2 in less it's 4 in or not even 4 in it's whatever it's on the knee so what if it shows the knee she's under the table no one sees her knee she under the table what's the big deal hasem really cares really cares about these two inches it's a good question no two inches so let's think about it this way this was my answer and I've mentioned to you guys as as an example before let's you have million dollar deal new customer came says listen as long as you send me the email with all of the information on Monday at 8:00 in the morning you got the million doll deal I already spoke to the board spoke to the CEO you're in just send me all the work by 8:00 a.m. on Monday morning you slave for 3 months get all the work together you finish the job early a week early try to call the guy he's out of town he's out of the country so you know the only way you can reach him is through email you send email a week early returned undelivered problem with the email you keep sending emails every day every day every day keeps sending keeps giving you return email return email return email error error error it's not reaching the destination you ripping all your hair at after a week you've become bold you started as bonjovi you ended up as a sting you have no hair on your head Monday morning at 8:0 five Mr Jones call you he says Steve what happened why did you send the email I thought you were finished says yes I've been finished and I've been sending you the email goes okay what happened he goes it's undelivered goes what email do you have and you read the whole email to him says yes Steve you're right you have the right email there only one problem what's the problem you forgot the dot and.com the DOT not the whole email is wrong not the name is wrong just one dot one dot and you lost the deal one dot in the bet mikdash we had sacrifices only way you can do full chv you have to bring a sacrifice to the BET mikdash assuming that your sin was bash unintentional sin if it was you may get the death penalty someone on purpose gets death penalty there's no CH not like today you can still do CH in the days of the BET mikdash someone has violated Shabbat on purpose and know his Witnesses and he was warned and so on went through the process but he's still violator of Shabbat he gets death penalty there's noot is only for someone that did it unintentional and says the fact that they killed him they gave somebody Shabbat death penalty by stoning they were doing him a favor why they do him a favor because at least he won't be anymore this is Kaz you have a problem go talk to them so this I actually got a the very disturbing video today was posted on one of our groups people ask all the time okay the bet mikdash is no longer around unfortunately saned is no longer able to do death penalty but the gar says that the punishments are still applicable but they're just Heavenly now meaning we can't go give death penalty to anyone there's no but hem still gives the death penalty there's different types of death penalties and he still gives a death penalty so people say okay well how do you get stoning and they sent a video of a guy just walking around with his wife or whoever it was next to him he just walking around in the street just like a regular person and all of a sudden you see I mean this is from a security camera you see that the security it's at least 150 yard away from the highway the highway is on top of a hill there's the highway they're just walking next to some store or whatever Warehouse or whatever it is walking and you see all of a sudden all the way at the end of the camera something shoot into the sky and start rolling a wheel fell off of some truck and gets all the way to this guy while he's walking without seeing and hits him and kills him now we don't know what he did we don't know we don't know anything all we know is as you can see the punishment are still applicable hasem does his will however he wants to do his will not that why want to die or anything like that she said again hasem runs the world if someone's time has come it's come so kazal is telling us that when someone is violating Shabbat someone's violating all of these things they're making a very very horrible horrible sin now when where I someone is an idol worshipper it's the same level it's the same level sin and kazal is explaining to us here that letting the yet control you will lead you to idol worship how he runs your life he's become your new Idol so aside from the fact that any P that was supposed to be given to you and was judged to be given to you on as says your is decided in from is decided but the Mish says that it's also red decided every day how so how you're going to get it how much you're going to get was already decided how you're going to get it is decided every day but one thing can get in the way of it in a very big way is anger anger can change the can change even what you get andar continues where is the source that this is actually in the Torah in Psalm 81:10 it says there shall be no strange God within you nor shall you bow before an alien god so ask who is this strange God that's within you you should say that this Str God since it's saying within you this strange God is the evil inclination the so back to the mishna he's saying don't get angry easily he doesn't say don't get angry he says don't get angry easily because he knows that obviously naturally even mosu got angry there three different stories that are mosu got angry and he got judged for it so not getting angry at all all ever is not a realistic proposition for everyone unless you're who never got angry and as a matter of fact it's even aah to show anger if you see if you see someone violating publicly you're seeing someone bringing an idol worshiper ref to AET you're seeing someone that is desecrating the name of hem you're allowed to get angry a mitvah but even doing that mitvah you have to do it with AEM in mind meaning you're not angry at the guy you're angry at the sin and even the way you show your anger has to be in a certain way so he's telling you first and foremost understand what I'm saying here it's not don't get angry don't get angry easily don't be a hotthead where every time somebody cuts you off you want to kill him or every time your wife says something you don't you can't hear her you want to throw the remote control at her or every time your kids are making noise you want to lock him into a room and see him next week don't be one of these crazy people know how to control your anger why you know how to control your anger because as soon as you stop controlling your anger you will no longer be able to fulfill the mitvah of honoring your friend as much as you honor yourself it's impossible to honor your friend whether that friend that fellow is your wife your husband your colleague your boss your Rabbi anyone as soon as you're not able to control your anger there's no more honor and this is actually one of the foundations of people that have problems with not every couple has a hot head in there some people just don't care some people are lethargic some people are just in a different world there's different problems different couples have different problems but the root of the problem of marriages that have serious serious problems is when there's no longer respect when the husband doesn't respect the wife or the wife doesn't respect the husband marriage is over they could stay married stay married 500 years but it'll be an unhappy marriage as soon as the husband looks at the wife as if she's less than him or the wife looks at the husband as if he's less than her or he's a loser or he's a bomb marriage is over of course you can fix it I'm not saying go get a divorce as soon as you you you have a problem with your husband or your or your wife but it can never be a happy marriage if there's no respect for each other it can never be a happy marriage and one of the things that causes this lack of respect is when people are very easily angered even if they're not necessarily easily angered at their wife even if it takes them a while to they get angry at their wife or it takes them a while to get angry at their husband even if it takes them a while but if they're overall known as a hotthead whenever that one time happens where they're angry at the wife or the husband that one time breaks all boundaries especially in the mind of a woman a guy typical guy gets angry 5 minutes later I'll have a beer with you he'll get angry sometimes you'll even have a fist fight you have sometimes you have these uh crazy UFC fighters they beat the hell out of each other at the end they hug they fight for 15 minutes trying to kill each other or these boxers they try to kill each other for an hour and a half and at the end of the fight they hug each other and kiss each other I never understood it my wife always you know made fun of it but the point is that I understand the mentality of a guy I remember at the end of football games when I was in high school I used to play football even though we try to kill each other for three hours at the end of the game you shake each other's hands you're best friends it's the mind of a man a little but a woman a scorned woman should remember what he did to her in kindergarten oh he pulled my hair when in 1953 yeah he was four years old you were the only girl in the school so that's why he pulled your hair yeah I hate him what was four yeah I don't like him it was 1953 a scorn woman will remember it forever so that one time you have a choice to make yet says look your wife just yelled at you yell back and mention her mother too give it to her is saying uh-uh do not enter do not enter mayday mayday if you listen to the you're chipping away your marriage you do that enough time your marriage will be over sometimes you see couples they're married for 25 years miserable why because in the first 5 years somebody wasn't able to control themselves they chipped away enough at the marriage where the spouse said you know what the heck with him whatever I have a couple of kids with him I'll stay married but there's no love there's no real all happy times vacation with the friends vacation with the family never really any real intimacy never real happiness together all the happiness is somewhere else why because honor was lost at some point so honoring your fellow doesn't necessarily only mean honoring your your buddy or uh your K it also means honoring your spouse now in says that there are three things that you can judge a man by three actions that he does and how he acts under certain circumstances now if I came to you here as a multi-millionaire everything is great I have a couple of kids amazing wife learning toah everything is phenomenal perfectly healthy everything is great it's like yeah whatever of course he's going to say all these wonderful things he has he has this he has that he's got a perfect life if the guy comes he says listen I suffered I this I that you're s you're going through gome in this world and still having a that's worth something so kazal says exactly the same thing nothing that I said is a says you can judge a person by KAS means glass of alcohol how does he act once he's drunk before he had the beer or the wine of course he's a nice guy of course he a nice guy took you out to dinner even paid wonderful guy but how does he act after he had one too many glasses of wine everything comes out how does he act once he had one too many beers is he still only looking at you in the eyes or he's looking at every single woman that moves is he still paying attention to what you're saying or is he become a sewer mouth how is he still acting that's cooo means his pocket if his pocket's full of money is he overly arrogant because he's got money is he going to be the same arrogant person if he has no money what about how does he act under pressure when all of a sudden the 150,000 A month's not coming in but the bills are as he still that nice cordial guy is he still funny at work is he still exciting or has he become a little leper little Gremlin at work yells at everything that moves hey why are you late I came in at 7:59 yeah why not 758 is he like a you know is he like a little Leprechaun is he like what happened to him why because he doesn't have any money so what cuz the bills cuz he doesn't have money how to pay the mortgage is he still contained human being throwing some verses at you from the Torah that he read a you know that he learned from Dai all of a sudden he's like ah listen I got to work yeah but what about the Dai ah leave me alone with this Dai stuff yeah but God oh no no it's God later God if God wanted me to learn the me give me more money what happened cuz you don't have any money you forgot about God so that's K kaso is anger kiso means pocket by the wayo means glass and kaso means anger how is he acting once he lost his cool what happens once something back happened once somebody embarrassed him in public what happens is he going to take revenge into his own hands or fulfill the will of hem where hasem says revenge is mine revenge is mine Hashem says it's not yours to do it's not yours to take revenge on anyone you're not allowed to take revenge it's a sin revenge is aem's leave it to him yeah but the guy just cut me off yeah but the guy just stole my girlfriend yeah but the guy just did something revenges aems Revenge theems if you believe in that you're good you're fulfilling aem's will but if as soon as somebody does something against you you want to fulfill the deed of murder you have a problem now says something good said a nice but it's really common sense when it comes to money very very few people have amuna very very few people when it comes TOA everyone has confidence that everything's going to be okay he tell them listen Shabbat you got to keep Shabbat yeah don't worry about yeah but no won't worry it's G to be fine it's going to be fine hasem is merciful Hashem is patient hasem is great Hashem is good Hashem is all the wonderful compliments in the world they have a dictionary it just for compliments to Hashem about Allah is going to be okay okay what about uh hasem here now what about the fact that uh you ow my paycheck oh no no no listen tight let's can you hold off on a paycheck can I pay you next month what do you mean next month I have bills this month have kids this month yeah but I'm not sure if I'm going to make the same amount of money next month as I did this month so no one has for today everyone has for no one has today everyone is UNC of today of down the road 100 years from now everybody's confident they're going to get to Ala everybody's confident mashia coming yeah everybody cheers mashia oh I can't wait to mashiach to come everyone's excited for mashia to come the reality of it is that most people need to really do serious serious CH you know instead of thinking about oh I can't wait for the mashia to come because it says in the is only coming for those people did chuva he's not coming to help the people just there because they go to Manan a couple times a week or they know if you by heart if you did Serious CH you should be excited for mashia if you're not ready to do cha you should read just for him not to come so one of the things that the Aral says about anger says for one time of being anger you want to do CH and the very next thing that says repent do one day before you die and Page 153 that I mentioned before that's where it is it says the students of excuse me the students of ask him does anybody know when they're going to die they're going to do CH a day before they're going to die if I knew I was going to die tomorrow then I'll do chuva today but if I don't know when I'm going to do when I'm going to die how am I supposed to do chuva a day before I die it's a good question so says exactly since you don't know when you're going to die you should act every day as if you're going to die tomorrow and you must do chuva today and that way you'll spend your entire life in chuva as it is written by live your whole life with white clothes what do you mean white clothes white garments white white garments what what it was a uh the whole year white garments no meaning your soul has to be white has to be cleaned from sins you're doing cha meaning you're repent for sins every day this is also one of the reasons why we do VD all Saars do VD every day twice a day ashkanazi in my for my experience only in Israel I've seen ashkanazi do V do every day in is in in the United States I haven't seen many ashis do V every day that's the this is a uh this is the part where we actually do Chua every day uh but this doesn't count the part that you're supposed to do it also before you go to sleep you're supposed to do but you do it in general you do it twice do it in you do it this is why you do it why because just in case someone's going to die at some point during the day at least they did cha that day now one of the one of the things that somebody told me about why ashkanazi don't do it at least in America uh is because you have to have a lot of kav a lot of focus when you're doing you can't just do and then you know thinking about the baseball game at the same time have to really think about where IU means I sinned without knowing it's shog accidental sinu means I sinned I knew it's a sin but I still did it anyway I couldn't overcome my panu means I sent dka to make AEM angry he didn't give me the contract I didn't eat kosher da three levels of sin so that's how you begin so when you do it and it goes into the details of each sin it says that you're supposed to have a lot of kav where did I sin by sh where did I sin knowing that it's a sin because I couldn't overcome my where did I sin on purpose where did I steal I didn't steal today oh wait a minute I actually ate an apple without doing that's stealing Fromm so and so and it goes into the details once you understand the words of what it says it gives you a lot more meaning in your but nonetheless the Aral says that your chuva real chuva for one time one time of being angry is fasts 150 fasts what is this like what it explain for anyone that saw my the uh the Shure three hour sh or so about wasting seed as I told you guys what kazal says that every time you waste seed you're destroying millions and millions of souls it's a horrendous horrendous sin now the arel says if you weigh seed you have to fast 84 times one time and this just for killing hundreds of millions of souls creating shim being angry once is almost the equivalent of wasting sea twice so I'll give you a little secret I got angry yesterday and B lately I've been working on anger for a while now I used to get angry very very quickly I used to be the hot head that I make fun of all the time I used to get angry like uh woke up angry went to sleep angry in the middle of the day angry that's the only version of me you know have been working on it for years now but yesterday the yet got the best of me and I got angry it's something silly something stupid I didn't break anything I didn't throw anything but whatever wherever I am right now I considered it an anger um and you know what this last month of fighting against this missionary demented ideology people that I thought were like knowledgeable all of a sudden are making mistakes of I mean I don't know how to describe it but fighting it tooth and nail for over for almost a month now no sleeping at night no time to even breathe constantly trying to shed light in the world full of Darkness even barely being able to enjoy the B of my own son it's took it's taking a toll on me it's very very hard and I honestly thought about canceling today's Sho I usually don't like to cancel sh I don't think I've ever canceled the sh yet or maybe once in the last few years since I've been doing it and actually for the last 24 hours I've been trying to convince myself to come have AA 24 hours I'm saying no I don't want to do I can't do this lecture I can't do it talk what I talk about anger I just get angry I'm GNA teach you about anger if I get angry you know says if you're teaching something but you do something else you're teaching about Shabbat but Shabbat you're teaching about not to gamble but you're a gambler thear says it was better that you would have choked to death inside your mother's uterus they're very very critical of hypocrite so I'm saying to myself I just get angry I'm going to teach these people about anger but then I find out it's not the same someone does something with the on regular basis is different than a happen stance something that just happened but still for the last 24 hours I'm thinking to myself I can't do this year I can't do this year so till about 2:00 in the afternoon today V God bless him has been ask him so what are we going to do with this year he's the only one that knew so what we going to do with this year we going to do with this and sunny also we're going to do with this are we're going to do it we're going to do it I'm like no I don't think so I don't think so hold on let me wait I'm convincing myself and then I spoke to my R and he's like oh so you going to do this said I don't think I'm going to do this sh because yeah but that's your Chua and I said what do you mean it's my Chua he said you know that says every time you get angry you have to fast 150 times now unless you want to fast 150 times you have to do a Shure so at least 150 people will watch it if you teach 150 people about anger that's your chba soem provided the Cure before the ailment but nonetheless this Sher is actually making me do tra not only from the what I just said but but also you learn about anger that's how you stop being angry so kazal says here do CH before you die sometimes you tell this to people and like yeah it's nice thank you very much but uh I'm not ready yet I'm not ready yet what is this like the Tells a Story says what is King Solomon teaching in the verse in Ecclesiastes 98 where it says that at all times your garment should be white and your head never lack any oil what is it talking about as I just said talking about how you're supposed to always do chuva always make sure that your soul is clean so ask well what about if people not really thinking about that so much especially in our generation no one exactly is a awaking up in a mind I can't wait to do cha you have to get them to that point have to convince them so you tell a story he said listen one time there was a king and the King said to all of his servants we're going to have a special celebration I want to invite all of you to this celebration so be ready but he never told them when so the smart the wise among them they got their best garments and they wore them every day made sure that it always looked neat always ready always prepared the king's going to show up I'm going to be ready yeah I have to wash my clothes more often than everybody else yes I have to work a little harder to make sure that I'm always neat I'm always groomed I always look a certain way cuz maybe today the king's going to show up the fools among them said listen if the king's throwing a party it's going to take a while he's going to get contractors to build the hall he has to cook all this extra food that means he has to go hunting he has to send people to go hunting to get the meat and then they also have to get the vegetables which means we have to wait till next season maybe it's the fruit is not really that good this year you're going to have fruit from this season you're not going to have a celebration with the fruit from this season probably next season it's going to be better fruit and what about the vegetables definitely not the and they give all the excuses of why it's not going to happen today so every day they walk around like bums they're not ready they're just like ah we're going to know when it's when it's time we're going to know when it's time well one day the king showed up the wise among them were ready with the garments Pure White and perfect and the fools with holes in their clothes asking oh why didn't you tell us and the King says the wise among you that are prepared can come and enjoy the feast with me while the fools that have holes in their clothes can just watch from a distance and suffer this is the parable that is teaching us amongst the people the difference between theim that are doing chv every day are the ones that are saying no no no I'm going to know the day before I'm going to die I'm G to do Chua the day before I'm going to die it says here do cha day before you're going to die I'm going to wait for that day yeah but how you going to know NOA going to be sick for a while everyone thinks that they're going to die in like a slow fashion you know peaceful graceful like the movies you know in the movies what happens either the guy dies in war so it's like instant everyone's in shock and everyone's depressed the entire movie or it's like an old man he gets older and peaceful in his old days and like I love you I love you too and they close his eyes it's like the scene and everyone's sad like oh wow what amazing oh you having uh Titanic took the guy 15 hours to die 15 the movie 16 hours 15 hours the guy's dying you already tou his tire ready all jump on top of the of the uh the door there's enough room for both of you 15 hours the guy's dying poor guy he's freezing in the water oh I love you I love you too oh he's awake again 15 more hours everyone die El in reality life doesn't happen that way no one knows when they're going to die no one knows no one's expected everyone thinks they're going to live to be Infinity that's why you have people like Kirk Koran a multi-billionaire businessman he's 99 years old or 98 years old he's still doing hundred million deals every day Warren Buffett billion dollar deals on a regular basis the guy's 90 something years old Charlie Munger also the partner of Warren Buffett $20 billion deals $15 billion deals as if they're all going to somehow do something with this money all these huge businessmen they're 80 90 70 they they have enough money for Generations but they're still doing business because in reality people say no no no they it's they enjoy it no it's not because they enjoy it number one it's because they have nothing else there's nothing else to do with that time and number two is because I honestly in the deep deep deep deep part of every single one of them they all think they're going to live long enough to see the deal work out even if the deal is for 25 years from now like the railroad deal that Warren Buffett did I know five years ago that railroad deal is not going to work for Le at least 50 years no it's just a real this just the way the deal is going to work it's 50 years is going to take you for it to work out you have to change the entire infrastructure of America which by the way anyone doesn't know about railroads not that it's a railroad education or anything but America is like a third world country in railroads everywhere else you go in the Civilized world there's highspeed railroads highspeed trains America was still in the cowboy days you go on the railroad you're waiting for the Indian to chase you with the horse he's probably faster we're still with her think she's still 3 hours to drive there 3 hours with the railroad same thing so for the railroad deal to work out 50 years from now it's going to take you have to change the entire infrastructure of America he's 90 years old he thinks he's going to see that deal work out that's that's just that's just a real everyone thinks they're going to live forever even if they no I don't know how long going to live no he knows he thinks he going to live forever so now this is the problem since everyone thinks they're going to live forever when they're 80 and 90 so does the 21y old so when you come to the 21y old and tell him come do chuva n listen I'm still young let me get married first then I'll do chuva okay you got married you're 28 now let's do chuva yeah we just got married let us have some fun I want to go to Hawaii I want to go to Canon I want to go to Gom I want to go to this one I want to go to all these places I want to see how it is can't do that if you're in Chua let me wait till I have kids okay now you have kids you're 35 36 40 42 45 okay no do CH yeah but you know what I'm interested in doing CH my wife though she's not going to do it she's already used to the lifestyle she's used to going and you know half naked on in the streets every I tell her you have to cover yourself all of a sudden she's going to divorce me why you want me to be divorced he's he's putting the onus on you like it's your fault you want me to be divorced what kind of person do you want me to be divorced didn't in your Torah right the manipulates his brain to such a way where he thinks he's aad like I give donated last year Hem Hem will judge me favorably he has so muchai in his that his I could do whatever I want I have a get out of jail free card so now when you hear horror stories like my cousin distant cousin that unfortunately at 24 years old I think he was 21 or 24 years old May Hashem have mercy on him just died three months ago one day he was perfectly healthy he went on his scooter I don't know whatever 24y old on a scooter is doing but point is that he went on a scooter on the second day of r fell off the scooter hurt his head went to the hospital they took CAT scans x-rays all this scan stuff said perfectly fine he went home he went to sleep and never woke up now do you think that him his parents his friends his is anyone ever thought that such a horrible horrible thing is going to happen to a 20-year-old to a 25 5y old no no one in their right mind will think this 24y old amazing cute kid it's his clock is over so is telling you something here day before you're going to die he doesn't mean it literally do cha day before you're going to die like you're going to know you're going to die tomorrow the fact that you don't know when that day is going to be means you should spend your entire life doing Chua you did Chua 5 years ago you're doing Chua again today you were born religious with the cish cap on your head you're doing Chua today you're father's a rabbi good fam you do chat today you're a rabbi do chat today you started keeping Shabbat last week do chat today you started keep shabat 20 years ago do chat today everyone has to do chat today that's what he's saying here and the last part of why anger is one of the things that hurts someone's chuva the ran in his commentary on Exodus 13:16 he says the following everything that happens to a man is part of a divine plan there's no such thing as coincidence or accident even when a man is harmed by his fellow it is an expression of God's will with the perpetrator acting merely as a Heavenly messenger that's exactly what we just said about the Holocaust there's no such thing as accident there's no such thing as something happening because hasem just stopped paying attention to it anything that happens in your life that means Hashem is talking to you got a flat tire Hashem is talking to you your wife yelled at you Hashem is talking to you your husband cheated on you Hashem is talking to you someone died is talking to you everything and anything that happen in this world or will happen or happened or is happening Hashem is talking to you just that you're not Moses so he's not talking to you in simple language he's talking to you in actions when one be comes angry with another person or takes revenge on him for a wrong someone cut him off someone hurt him someone stole his money whatever something happened and you want to take revenge this person is assuming that his fellow had an independent ability to harm him in the first place and does not take God's will into account meaning by somebody just doing something to you and you're getting angry at them in essence you're saying that he did it on himself it's not God he did it he stole my money he cheated me he did he did she did no no no my friend God did he just used him as a tool you have a problem talk to him not [Music] him TR they got embarrassed said look we're coming on time at least Indians the Indians it's coming it's coming watch the horse you see so the ram continues otherwise he would look to God as the source of his trouble and would have no reason to be angry with the person who Hur him such anger is a form of idolatry because he assigns independent power to another human being when there is really no such thing therefore we're taught not to become angry easily it is a form of denial of the source of all events in the world there's no such thing as he broke your heart there's no such thing as they're cheating you there's no such thing as anything happening without AEM putting a signature on it including your DNA no such thing this changes if you really take this into serious perspective and like you start thinking about this thought deeply at the Raman just gave it to us there's really no reason to ever be angry if you keep this here if it's over here if it's in your pocket if it's in the books on the show of course you're going to get angry every day but if you constantly keep it here on top of your mind say everything is from hasem just like said at the end of everything that the merciful one does he does for the best meaning there's no such thing as hasem doing something purely to hurt us everything that he does is the best possible Choice including death murder disease Holocaust pgrs the worst things on Earth this of course does not mean that we cheer on when it happens we're definitely not at that level AA on the other hand saw the bet mikdash being destroyed and he laughed why because he said just like the prophecy that hasem promised us that if we don't go his way he's going to destroy the bet mikdash that means that the other prophecy of him bringing the Messiah is also going to come true so he laughed while it was happening cuz he was at that level we're not even a Sho but nonetheless if we can get ourselves to understand that everything that Hashem does is for the good at the very least we can start controlling our anger to a point of not getting angry easily now the last part of this Mish is when talks about the relationship a person needs to have with a sage a someone that he can learn from now first and foremost it says warm Yourself by the fire of the sages merely meaning warm Yourself by the fire of the sages says that simply learning from books like a lot of people try to just learn from books they take a book and they learn from that they don't want to have a connection with aav they don't want to do anything else they just want to learn from books Rashi Shalom says you want friends get books get but he doesn't say you want a get a book he says you want friends because everyone has to make themselves aav they have to be close to aav CU kazal is telling us here that merely learning from books or even listening to the words of the wise is insufficient just listening to some sh here and there or reading a book that somebody wrote that by itself is not enough it's not enough for you to work on your midot by simply learning from a book it's not enough for you to work on your anger by simply watching a lecture it's not enough it's not enough for you to get to a point where you could have Cav for your wife or your spouse in general by never being angry by doing Chua on a daily basis just because you read a really good book that motivated you maybe a motivated you for 6 months maybe motivated you for even 6 years but that by itself is going to be insufficient that's why it says you have to be get yourself warmed up by the fire of the sages because one has to cultivate a more intimate relationship with the sages in order to meaning how do you how do you have develop a warm relation you have to get closer to them so the guy that wrote the book great send him an email develop a friendship with them if he's local go to shures start having a dialogue with him just reading his book is nice listen listening to this CD is nice but it's not enough you have to have a relationship with this righteous person that you have this R perhaps is your K Rabbi you can't say oh yeah I see him every Shabbat you know and I say hi to him on the way in and goodbye on the way out that's not a relationship real relationship is he knows your UPS he knows your Downs he knows what's going on in your life he knows that you're having slite issues he knows you're having parasa issues he knows what's going on in your life you're honest with him so if you're lying to him and you pretend like you're a sadik so he's not going to spend too much time with you like oh he's a sadik I have nothing to do I have nothing to help him with maybe he can help me it's the same thing when you finish a Shure sometimes I finish a Shure I say any questions and there's no questions so I think to myself what everybody knows the entire tah no one has any questions no one has any doubts everyone is complete with their is perfect they know all the they know everything I just said they remember everything I just said it says no questions everyone understands everything that's really what it means you ask people you have any questions they could poent you know if they say there's no questions they know everything but in reality I know it's because I've been talking for 3 hours so you guys are tired you just want to go home so kazal is telling us here develop a warm relationship with the sages but it specifically says make sure that you get close to them to develop a warm relationship with them but don't get too close why don't get too close because your Rabbi is not supposed to be your friend you're not supposed to play basketball with your Rabbi you're not supposed to call your you know your Rabbi hey buddy what's going on he could call you buddy you can't call him buddy he's not supposed to be your friend why CU once he becomes your friend you immediately lose respect for him one of the MIT that we had at the time of the BET mikdash was that you were not allowed to leave from the same door you entered you entered the bet mikash at some point you leave even though it's great it's wonderful it's beautiful it's miraculous at some point you have to go home you're not allowed to leave from the same door you ask yourself what do they care same door different what difference does it make says Shalom that you leave from the same door and start getting used to it like it's the walls of your house meaning every time you enter and every time you leave the bet mikdash should always seem to you as if it's new never get used to it like it's your house cuz it's not your house's [Music] house same concept goes with your relationship with your love yes I know a lot of people like to have good relationship with their Rabbi a good rapport with their Rabbi they like to play basketball with him they like to watch the game with him they'll even learn some D with him but in reality serious serious relationship with a raav can't really hold itself during time during uh during difficult times like that why because if you become too friendly with somebody they're no longer an authority figure if someone is what does it mean you respect the Rob even if you play basketball with him I'm not saying if you play basketball with your rabis you don't respect them you respect them but what kazal is telling you here is beware of their glowing coal lest you be scorched meaning you have to look at your Rabbi like he's a piece of coal with all of the ashes still on it meaning that on the outside surface he's a nice guy very welcoming but in reality be very very careful with the way you talk to him just like you be very careful with touching a coal because even though on the outside it looks like a harmless piece of Rock You know that if you put your hand on this piece of coal the fire from inside decided it was going to hurt you same thing with someone that's seriously around not the guy that's your friend someone that's your friend is your friend if your friend tells you listen I don't think you should yell at your wife you going say listen that's your opinion thank you mind your own business I think you should come to M at 6:30 in the morning thank you very much I want to sleep 8 hours you want to sleep 6 hours congratulations to you mind your own business meaning if he's your friend you don't have to listen to him it's advice it's nice thank you but no thank you but if he's your ra it's not advice anymore he said you do he said you do yeah but that's make sense to me doesn't make a difference says just like it took 40 years to understand the ofu it takes AAL for years to understand their R meaning your R told you something today makes no sense to you whatsoever why does my R want me to learn a mish every day what does he care about mishna why can't I learn this why can't I learn that like somebody came to from Sal and said to I have only one hour a day to learn T what should I learn what should I learn Sal says learn one hour goes no no no for you're not understanding I have only one hour per day I don't I have 24 hours but only one hour per day I could dedicate the so I have to learn something very important I should learn so I don't be I should learn so I remember who is I should learn so I know the details of what actually said says no no no you should learn M says no no you're not understanding only one hour a day I have should I learn says okay I don't understand you go to mosu he says this you go to the how are you saying this doesn't make any sense why should I learn M for an hour he says once you learn M for an hour you'll realize you have more than one hour a day to learn and then you can learn all the things you understand in reality you have 24 hours you said you have an hour you learn M you start developing your character traits you'll realize you have a lot more than an hour because m is the real true foundation of all self-help you never have to pick up a book that's some self-help book if you learn M you never have to worry about any issues if you learn M you never have to worry about anything in regards to lack of if you learn M it's the foundation but if the person that's teaching you this m is your buddy hey what's up brother what's going on you watch the game last night and you're talking to your Rabbi with that that's not a rabbi that's your buddy when he tells you hey by the way your anger is idolatry like yeah thanks you don't take it to heart doesn't pinch your heart you don't take it seriously the guy he says nice things he has jokes once in a while you don't take it seriously it doesn't really change you cuz he's your friend he your buddy you had a couple beers with him last week yeah he tells that to everybody else but to me we have a we have a different relationship he knows me it's like you feel like you have a you have like a special deal with him like he talks to everybody else like that but to you doesn't apply to you what he says what he says applies to the rest of am to you no no it's because you play basketball with him you had a couple beers with him and maybe you spent a at his house everything's okay everything is dandy that's not your R then who's your r r is someone that you have to be shaking shaking before you ask and after he answers every time he says something it means something to you and even if you don't agree you still do he's youru he your mosu that's a real R it's hard to find a a lot of people have this a uh misunderstanding of the significance of a they think anybody that knows a few by heart a few by heart they maybe they know a couple of they think everybody has a keeper be calls himself a rabbi passed a couple of tests he it's not true this is not to disrespect any of those tests or any of the things I just mentioned but that does not make you a first and foremost to's Foundation must be a person without is nothing he's not even the in it's a reality the fact that they have a good memory they spend some time learning doesn't make you one time the Rog chov rabbi huge he's the one that I told you guys the story where they uh had a meeting between him and Einstein and after a few minutes Einstein came out of the room ripping his hair out saying with his brain you can make two Einsteins that's how smart the rogov rabi was but he was also known to be very sharp to the point he wouldn't sway in any way one way or another he was very very sharp and harsh at times but with valid reason somebody would come to him and he wasn't a uh he saw that the person is like slacking or something like that he wouldn't hold his tongue back saying oh why don't you just go become a gardener well you just you learn 10 hours for what would you even bother just 10 hours you call yourself do you know the whole by heart oh you know so what are you what are you doing here like to that extent it's very very sharp very critical but he had some extraordinary students to make extraordinary students they have to go into extraordinary circumstances but anyway one of the stories it's kind of funny but true story there was one Rabbi that he didn't really like too much he didn't and one day this Rabbi came into town and he had a decision to make he's like listen if I go to his house he's probably going to criticize me but if I don't go to his house and I come back to my Isa back at home everyone's going to ask me did you go to you Go To Go's house what did he say to you and said no I didn't go to his house like what do you mean you didn't go to his house what' you even go there for them how do you go to the town of the over and you don't go to his house you don't meet him you don't talk to him like what's the point but if I go he's going to criticize me what am I do what am I do eventually said okay I'm going to go he went he spent time with them and all of a sudden all the students are seeing that they know that the that the the rabbi doesn't like this guy like he doesn't hold him to be a nothing just a he's not too fond of him for whatever reason or another but they say that he's treating him with the utmost respect yeah oh thank you for coming how are you that wow so at the end this Rabbi says to the Rog chover like hey thanks for hosting me I really appreciate that really surprised me because you know everyone says that uh you know when come to you you're very critical of them and very harsh at times so the r says yes understand so when it says and their bite is the bite of a fox their sting is the sting of a scorpion and the hiss is the hiss of a serpent the rogov rabi fit Bill he didn't mess around and that's one of the things that I believe we need more of today I'm not saying that every single person is uh born to be a huge some people are going to be some are not but if we continue to spend most of our life being told that we're and we don't have to do CH we're never going to do cha now kazal asks in this last part says what does it say the their bite that the righteous the sages bite is like the bite of a Fox and the uh sting of a scorpion and the hiss of a serpent so ran the rav explains that the bite of a uh of a um Fox is extremely painful and very very difficult to heal the sting of a uh scorpion doesn't hurt as much as the bite but it kills it's much more dangerous and the hiss of a uh serpent is even something that could affect someone from a distance like a snake that could spit their venom they don't have to necessarily bite someone they could spit their venom like I think a cobra does spits his Venom and other snakes can actually spit their venom and un necessarily just need to bite so they're comparing all of these to different parts of aik meaning that when someone is truly righteous you have to be tread very very carefully real story of someone I know some he uh gives out his books for free writes books and big and uh he gives when he writes the books he does everything for free and he uh gives out the books for free to someone that's going to study these books but of course it costs money just because he gives it out for free doesn't mean that they give it to him for free just because we give CDs for free free doesn't mean that it's the manufacturer gives it Us for free everything costs money so one time in one of his books he was trying to collect money and uh one of the family friends made fun of it and this was a person that was rich that everyone thought okay you know what maybe he's going to contribute a th000 bucks 2,000 bucks $10 whatever he's going to contribute something he's the rich one when he came to him ask you know maybe you want to contribute to the book I put your name in the book for you know it's more important than because this is a book that you actually learn from on a day-to-day basis guys no no no get out of here and started making fun of him started making fun of the book started making fun of him it was very very embarrassing not a week passed by not a week passed by and this rich guy looked at these two these two thugs the wrong way one of them thought that he's making fun of them and decided to beat the lights out of him in the middle of the street and at the end of them beating them up all he can remember is they said don't make fun of us M measure for measure when kazal is telling us here that their sting is a sting of a scorpion Serpent and so on means you have to tread carefully of how you treat real one of the major requirements of a is not just to know knowledge but it's to know how to Value their time if every spare moment they have is for Torah if every moment they have possible is for Torah that's already a good foundation for but if you're def you if if this person that knows a few knows a few stories still spends time watching politics still spends time watching television still knows the score between the San Antonio and I know whatever other team there is and some basketball football or some other sport there is if he knows what's going on in that world it's impossible for him to be considered because one of the requirements of a is to know the value of their time if they knew the value of their time they wouldn't spend it watching basketball and football this doesn't necessarily make it a biggest sin in the world to watch basketball means everyone needs a little bit of stot in their life but you're not going to be you'll know some you'll be a nice Jew you be kosher you'll have a share of the world to come in as long as you're keeping it to minimal nonsense and not a lot of nonsense but you're not last but not least Y page 22 says any Sage who does not take revenge like a serpent is not considered is not considered a true so this is very very interesting because in one way it seems like it's contradicting everything we just set up to this point on one end you're telling us be respectful for your fellow one of the things that's required is to not be angry Revenge only happens if you're angry then it says do Chua if you're doing Revenge you're going to have to do Chua you're not even starting with the jua then it says be close to the but be careful from them but it says here that if you don't take revenge you're not a so this whole thing this this just takes everything we just learned for the last however much time we've been talking and turns it all upside down so what does it really mean a serpent snake was the first thing that was ever created that actually committed the first sin the first sin that ever happened in the world was from the snake the serpent what was the sin against God it wasn't the sin of Adam and Eve eating from the Tree of knowledge that was the first sin that was the next sin the first sin the original sin was the serpent saying to saying to Eve oh God doesn't want you to eat from the Tree of knowledge because he's scared and look he said don't touch the tree look you just touched the tree God never said you can't touch the tree he said just don't eat from it so he said made up stories about God this is the reason whyem cursed them with the worst possible curse in the Torah he called him means cursed this is also something that if you look at the and a few other places in the when we are actually when theim when the tribes are in two different mountains they say blessed is the person that is XYZ and then the other ones are saying on the other Mount saying cursed is the man that does XYZ one of the things that someone gets the cursed just like the snake is by doing a sin in hiding meaning he tells everybody's a tadik but in reality he goes home and watches TV on or he tells everyone's a sadik but in reality stealing from his employees or he's stealing from someone else that person is someone that actually cancel the without a valid reason is considered also so nonetheless being is a big deal the serpent was a the snake was a but part of that curse was that from that moment on not only is he not going to be the king of all the animals because originally he was supposed to be the king the job was then given to the lion but not only is he not going to be the most beautiful animal not only is he not going to be the king of of the animals not only is the woman always going to hate the snake unless she's extremely unusual like in today's generation some women like snakes but in general women hate snakes not only that he's never going to have the pleasure of tasting food for what it is because everything will taste to him like sand that's the real curse so said a Torah Sage who doesn't take revenge like a serpent is not considered a the says gives the p on this says the result of God's curse the serpent tastes everything like dust and he has no pleasure from anything from anything he eats whether it's a rat or it's pizza or it's a piece of metal everything tastes the same a true similarly reacts sharply only when one scorns the honor of the Torah and not out of pleasurable sense of a personal Vendetta like the serpent his hiss is deadly but he derives no pleasure from his bite he seees someone desecrating the Torah going against theem doing something that's M against the Torah he must stand firm he must go against it he can't sit there like a little T waiting for things to stop he sees happening he must fight it every one of us has to be a little bit of P you can't just sit there and say oh no no it's somebody else will take care of it if it's hhm's will it's hm's will what's shem's will hashem's will is to bring a missionary to a synagogue hashem's will is to convert people to Christianity hashem's will is to desecrate the Tor no that's not hm's will that's the's will you have to do something about it so he's going to fight but he's not going to enjoy the fight he's not going to enjoy the fact that there's a bunch of fools saying they're going to donate to a s to a church he's not going to enjoy that people made such a horrible mistake and now anyone that has a little bit of a brain is questioning their overall ideology he's not enjoying this he's not enjoying it but he must do it he must do it because he is a he's not enjoying it because just like the serpent was not allowed to enjoy his food he is being known here and mentioned here as being a uh like a serpent that's the trait of the serpent that has to take not enjoying the fight but knowing that he has to do it any questions amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] a [Music]