And What If Your Issues Come From Me?

the yeshiva dotnet you're asking of accommodation manhoods meerschaum I am how does it work with this I don't think here it's a contradiction because what he's talking about here is mcdougal Morris says series from the Gemara shahuri I see the d8 Sahara was given to a person passion since I could know she aided them how much time of a nutshell kagama life that means that the ability for a person to fall to make mistakes the Kalama is part of the Divine Plan you know step oh they shrunk let's Mira Maya means every moment I have to make a choice but the reason I have to make a choice is because this two choices obokata Reina SOT ela for NASA right I've given you two paths like motion of innocence anus I didn't for NASA this dairy I am and is there a cat toy that there are some offices arabic arabic i am i have to say choose life in other words have placed before you Reina satella furniture stage Rossum so that's the key that is talking about it red that mean that means that that means that that that's part of the possibilities it's one of the equations that a person is going to I think that's the main focus you understand you understand what I'm saying okay good morning everybody will continue it will finish the mind move we started last week while I saw this is the last piece that we didn't finish yet page 65 Lama the gimel column one so we learned that vers mi salmon are mixtures of ah da caparica that for a person to become a manera does the element of mixture which he said is hammering out to the gold confusing its original form which was idea of challenging a person's mid this and not remaining stuck in my original form and format Zahav which explained that length is the concept of war fire erase ashram add Eurasia at pika we're first every type of Joo erases all the way on the bottom the base of the Maneri Topeka is the flowers on the top and perfect from the word Paracas the turn ended filler sores that source because it has wings and all of them are included in the malaria but the person has to have solved our pure gold if the gold is mixed in with other elements it's it's the color changes the Demario says Simon Levay des amis a casaba Simon Levay da Dracon there's a greenish greenness that comes in to the Zahav if it changes a color and the both honey says that means in a person to get rid of all the sediments all the toxicity the negativity which we call sir Mara how so you went into a whole irises a whole length relatively lengthy discussion the person to believe that every morning is a new morning muhammad baba ki kadosh and wap karim to believe that every morning is a new morning every day is a new day in other words not just that it's a new day everybody knows it's a new day but that the world has created a new omaha there's but to void but kali am thomas master bodacious it's recreated from nothing to something it means there's new possibilities new energy new resources the ability to be able to say goodbye to the old and embrace the new that requires already a deep awareness and not only the world with someone else or the person himself not just the world at large the cosmos the universe but he also in other words to be able to experience himself as other Mauritian the way Adam felt the first day that he was created there was something fresh about it there was like it's a new slate a new start it's this is it this is it this is the beginning and that includes every single person the toast of the centrality of the person how dignified how valuable the person is like Adam Adam couldn't dismiss himself is you know a garnish - Matt that's what I do it doesn't make a difference what it does it it's all you yeah you're at the center of creation either you mind to advance it or you're going to move it in the other direction but it's basically you bish really deliver aha I love the the there's something tremendous at stake in your life in your avoid that's our person should feel every morning and that creates perspective assess also you see even with your eyes he said with the physical sense the transformation from night and today but oh you maverick oh it's not just every day it's the whole you I'm looking at everyday looking at the transformation from night to day creates divert how could the goal of Labor beneficial Herschel mayor yet the greatest challenge to this is that people feel stuck that's what he says the greatest challenge person feels that this is true about everybody else besides me why because some things are so rooted as he puts it least Irish some things are so rooted in their so entrenched they were drenched in me as he says I'll join morado a person shouldn't say Shannon its life for him it's impossible Lepore admire ah the hottest Ernest Irishman to separate himself from toxicity or negativity or addictions or habits or cravings or attitudes typhus is a big word and rise a big word includes the whole umbrella of anything that so a person says I'm different because I can't separate myself from all of these habits or attitudes that are deeply entrenched that's why there's the whole section of Dominic where we address this MSB mitzrayim Galton wash Amal okay no I'm a base of Aden PD so know called her a I'm her actor over her face raga Alto what shot it's not just we're saying it's true that it happened ms it's true it's not fiction at this point of Dominic you should hope that the person thinks it happens you only said in Kish Minear shymala case how much I'd say system by the way its MS rather mitzrayim was called eros or it's the Toyota calls it ever saw it's the nakedness of the land meaning as Rashi says that it's it was morally depraved you see even what they did to the Jewish people what does this mean that a person is in mitzrayim not just geographically the Jews were immature I am as he calls it how did book batai vez when somebody is is deeply connected not just connected in a superficial way but really they feel they feel tied up by their typhus in their thoughts it's not just in actions it begins in thoughts not only that he says sometimes a person could feel that the brokenness of the Texas City encompasses him fully and like in mitzrayim you couldn't get out you can't get out you can't divert your mind from it he says that's the real mitzrayim that a person can't escape from only Bharat's inertia there was no way even a slave could leave Egypt sometimes a person is in that state they feel like in that state and as he puts it Masha Masha Lou Bono the Navi says women have ruled over us and it's called women this is because sometimes it's permissible and sometimes it's things different types of addictions and cravings they forbidden I thought some moment you have to be able to know me mr. Iyengar tano Tucker you on your own you can't you have to be able to surrender to the fact that I may not have control I'm on my own may not have control it's fascinating because today this is considered the first step of recovery is when you could surrender and say that I I don't have control he says mama SH that's firstly could they hear that because it's borrow home it's EMM it's right yes to know that our shrimp takes them out of my sight to go a step deep recess because the real question a person asks asks himself is we come today um it's Ryan how does even come there he's a child Bonham lahmacun may I in your very sure sale of Christmas I am how there's a Jew come to miss Ryan Bonham lemak um he's a child of Russian the nature of a child is that a child is always connected to its source a child is connected to a father and a mother innately that's who the child is TACA Seveso you Binaca a child is innately connected to parents the nature of a child is that he wants to be close to his parents or she wants to be the nature of a Jewish the nature is to do the will of their father in heaven so how the cloud those are do end up in Messiah it's completely alien you don't belong there it's not connected to you it's not your place the answer is that also comes some husha like the gomorrah says a sherry i see on the Prosecco sherry I see I have afflicted I have done they rot then a chef puts in the eights ahora to a person just like the original Goldsmith's Raya ultimately came through his plan through a lot of Google and a lot of reincarnations and cycles and journeys and winding roads but at the end through all of the different Google in the different situations and circumstances they ended up in materia that's collectively but individually it's the same thing yeah end up buddy ended up because of this reason that reason that reason but ultimately the reason is because God wanted you gave the power that a person should end up in mid sanaya so you say but I'm how do I the answer is that's a hey look of bonham lahmacun now that's a very very powerful idea because if anybody looks at their life they see they ended up in different situations because of that made this choice and I made that choice and I made this mistake and I made that mistake if I could only rear or rewind the tape recorder of my life you know when I was 10 and when I was 6 and when I was 11 when I was 16 21 24 we all do that and there's of course a truth to that because that's how life develops but he says but ultimately the Jews also had reasons ended up in mid-summer myself with the ISIF and the hunger and they came down and was a whole you know didn't just abracadabra here in Egypt there were a lot of Gil Ghulam but he says ultimately ultimately it's because that's where they had to be that was part of their journey so drew has to know the fact that I could end up here after everything said and done it's not a steer it to my being a child of Russia it's not a contradiction suddenly I lost that status no that's my ETS borough house that also comes ultimately from him the way she felt supposed the way it actually happens in life is through this one that one that one but ultimately it comes from him that means that over there Moe saw a child and if that's the case it means there's no such a thing that it's an irreversible situation there's no trauma in the world there's no addiction in the world there's no situation in the world where the person could say I'm lost I'm stuck how do I even end up there that's the biggest question how do you end up then the answer is it's part of your divine mission and if it's part of your divine mission that you're not stuck you're on a journey and that's why the pasta Kinnear Mia says on moissanite artifice auric cool oi Sarah Emma's I have planted you as a beautiful vineyard all of you remains a seed of truth so the way it's usually interpreted is that was the plan I planted you as a beautiful vineyard and look what happens Hermia was rebuking the Jewish people but he says there's something deeper sometimes you look at yourself and you look like a siding saying it can also be pronounced as asuric you're a crooked you're a crooked line when a person falls down they're not straight anymore they're crooked Okuma meais it's like a sugar soy dick is the same letters like sugar sugar because there's the the the the the could of the vowel of three was three points but they're not straight they're crooked diagonal baku mamas he says that's when a person falls down the matter has four celibate Ivor's person falls down in all types of cravings and habits and aspirations and proclivities that are unhealthy unwholesome addictions and so forth nonetheless even at that moment he says there's a noisy I'm I'm the one who planted you and therefore all of you remains a seed of truth and because it's a seed of truth at any moment you can change and turn the shoe rock into a Sehgal you reformat that very same energy into a Sehgal which means schoola at rather treasures ghulam a column just like originally by mitzrayim it's a noisy area damn hobbits are I move on I feel Hungama why I come I'm coming down with you and I'm going to go up with you and the reason he says are noisy is it's me myself and I see Misha a nicely me myself and my essence even beyond names are noisy is beyond names me myself I'm coming down with you and I'm going up with you so it's not two separate things it's because I'm coming down with you completely therefore I'm also coming up with you because I'm there so here to annoy he is that the pressures are mighty are no thing that I did to say that I planted you in a way that you could become asterik and therefore at any moment you could transform the sugar into a saddle and that's very same energy can be morphed can be metamorphosize can be transformed from Zurich into Sehgal and that's why he says my nicely el Cigala even the guy of life the osos the extras should also have an alia that's what we're saying in Davin e-m-s women I'm Gotham that the person is always in a state of the Navi says cool boys era MS always in a state that he could connect with MS and therefore maybe triumph Alto no if you're always in that state so even if the person looks at themselves and what do they see they see garbage they see filth they see trash they see this function they see problems because this person is stuck all the way in material but he has to remember how did he even end up there ultimately only as a mission as a messenger as an ambassador that's not his or her natural place if it's not your natural place it's not your ultimate destiny now of course if the person would be able to feel this fully wouldn't be in that material that's why I said in the beginning there has to be an element of of Mohammed to appreciate who he is so there's no such a thing I am destined to be a shuriken oh no from the shoe rack you can always make a Sehgal and the practice you don't get rid of the sugar you transform the shirt that's the difference you don't get rid of it you transform the formation in other words the very trauma the very mature Allium the very the very challenge the very obstacle will become a catalyst a springboard that will catapult you face was catapult meant huh when the Romans and the Greeks fought wars yeah they would have these catapults they would use it for their weapons for rocks and Spears catapulted to the enemy so the very the very tension the very sure to catapult that it it becomes the springboard the you that sir kaalia that lifts the person to to a different place it creates an awareness it creates a depth the transformation of negative and the positive energy creates an energy that positive energy on its own can't have that's something else yes sir Nariman equation listen I'm in a fashion the posture can K helis slam I'm Alex SVC an easier system the hospital - it was phenomenal I should have seen that there's an advantage to wisdom over stupidity like flight over darkness friend is over ECI knee Vakula almoloya de la vela who's the only one who knows that light is better than darkness and wisdom is better than stupidity so in today's world yeah senators are Pella smart people can be very stupid but that's what this video ec Annie I saw that it's what wisdom is better than stupidity dance farfalle foolishness like light is better than darkness which does who disagrees that's what desire asks on the pasta can careless step shot the ballot on he brings the chapters very easy on me she assistance awesome Amina circles keys in arm in her fashion it's not there's an advantage to wisdom over stupidity yeah that that work upset some people who agree - Lima not everybody but there's an advantage to light over darkness that's where we put on the light that's why we appreciate sunrise we thank for it light over darkness and it's not just the physical light of physical light vision over blindness the vorticity initiation of cockamamie no syphilis there's a tremendous superiority to hell when it comes from from this transformation of folly the ER that comes from the fascia from the transformation of darkness this is sagol that comes from the Shuren that's a whole different it creates a whole different energy so therefore in every situation you could say Ms I'm in midstream but is still in the hood of a mess a noisy a rhythm come it's rhyme don't know if he didn't leave your part of the noisy body matter much I'm allocation that didn't stop but may limit sir I'm gonna wash Emily Kane what's sad Ghoulie says that hashem should become a like a no Alec a new which means our consciousness may base our Vaadin pity some not just Mitzrayim generally but space above them base of other means a person who's a slave what are you a slave to he says you're mister berlet i've assumed your slave for your own cravings be the son he liberated us what's the how does that happen call pray and my Raptor of her face or gout do you remember what's clear quiet is the firstborn what does that represent in a person's life it represents the first glimmers of awareness hakama is called Clara Reyes hokhmah Hakeem is called racist awareness is always the beginning of everything called cranium I racked up her face auger alta means for there to be able to be it's yes Mizrahim the person always has to allow the program it's ryeom to fall to fall down from their state it says it's very mundane awful mad are geekery miss spiritual death is when a person falls down from them I drink it's a form of death called pro-am her after the pyramid shrine which means done weirdness that's based on myths Ryan the Palladium that are produced by miss Ryan the type of awareness the type of cycle that comes it's it's the mindset of mitzrayim that a person has to be able to allow to die oh Pericles shrug Alto and it's the mindset of his role as he puts it the mindset of Ella course of infinity of godliness that has to be able to be redeemed and that ultimately is what allows Google on all levels it always begins of how a person thinks about things how a person is aware of things the mindset of a person there's a mitzrayim mindset that the person stubbornly clings to his own addictive worm it's Ryan like mindset and he will not get out of it and it becomes a vicious cycle because everything follows we don't always realize how deep that car is that car could be conscious that car could sometimes be chess but it's always the racist you always got to nip the bud you know you got to go back and nip the bud because if you're not ready to do that then it becomes just a domino effect of what your player looks like they say an optimizer that there was a ye'd who was a hell of a either heats from kellerman poland and he decided to go to Varsha he wanted to explore the big city seahorses the big city in Poland he went to worse so he started to travel by foot and it was a long mahalo and there was a wintry season so the earth mostly was mom-ish mud no paved roads so it was a very very difficult journey at some point in the road he sees some metal metal planks and beams in the length that are covering the road then he said oh I'm a higher you could walk on them and that will protect his feet somewhat from the quagmire and the dirt and the mud and the filth and the was getting wet so he starts walking on these metal pieces good wonderful the journey is now much more delightful suddenly he hears from him back of him some noise noise squeak so he turns around and he sees from far he sees from farm something moving as a with a little light and it's making this quick ok doesn't know what it is she continues to walk he hears the noise gets louder and louder the squeak louder turns around he sees something getting a little closer continues walking and suddenly does he hear noise war with beeps and noises and the pressure and intensity is so powerful he flies off the tracks the poor guy he ends up in a ditch it's a broken sahak mm of wounded he's maimed he's bleeding a drew sees never her mother drew in a ditch they comes running he picks him up so fussing ashen he says this thing blew me away let me take to my house and literally takes into his house gives him a change of clothing put some relax I'm gonna make you a nice cup of tea so you could you could relax and he takes a kettle he puts in water puts it on the fire and he puts on the fire a few minutes later mmm so this drew the guest who was wounded she's a bat he takes her body goes over the kettle and he starts whamming it wrapping it until the whole thing is splintered and the whole house is now filled with sheer volume of this of this poor kettle demand will hosts us what what are you doing was to stone so he says listen I have experience you have to get these things when they're young and small because afterwards once they grow into monsters you're done you're dead okay I have experience so I said I set up a mitzvah you know you got to get them when they're young and they're small don't wait till later but it's true enough the verdict it's an antique adult but the voice is true in a very session called cranium or octa there's always the genesis the monsters don't grow at a vacuum there's always the genesis of it once it's already I'm in mitzraim I don't go back to the play that's why there's no you'd see a Smith sir I am until Marcus protists and we sometimes make this mistake you can have nine Marcus the water contained in to everything you could see that mitzrayim is a corrupt place there's nothing there but pyro will still not send out to people the peri in me will not let me go out why somehow I could still remain there Marcus Paris that changed everything so the way we look at it is because it was a blow that a pirate couldn't deal with the economy was shot mela people were killed may the party was still para Marcus purists it was a tremendous blow on a deeper level though we have here than it could what is Marcus Paris a little crazy that's Tom will kill more people in medallion Marquez produce represents the death of the original glimmers of awareness that produced a home it's Ryan mindset and everything comes from that if that pearl can go and the pride of you all can be liberated and emerge its thinking in a different way it's it's setting down your sail in a different way then everything changes called barnea more active Curtis walk out now he continues right so what's the exercise of this what's the practical exercise from this practical exercises now the next time people ask me to give exercises at the serum to give practical exercises for people to do it should remain abstract so the truth is from this moment is a hundred exercises but at least one this is the code there's a very very I think very powerful idea next time you find yourself overcome with a tremendous intense emotion that you're not very proud of yeah a lot of anger or frustration or or depression or addiction whatever it may be everybody knows in their own life you know in the morning a middle of the day or at night or late at night whether it's relative to yourself visa Vee something you're involved in a relative to your spouse or or your children or at work whatever it may be well it's you really ticked off you really ticked off to be able not to deny it that's that's where I am that's rare but to be able to as they say take a deep breath or maybe ten deep breaths and allow yourself to experience what is the original awareness that is producing all of this there's no emotion that doesn't come from an awareness there's nothing that you say or don't say that gets me angry it's my interpretation of what you said to people could say the same thing exactly the same thing one person loses it and the other person retains their equilibrium it's not what you said or what you did it's how I process what you said and what you did your wife could tell you one thing and the same thing at another time one time you lose it internally I'm talking about I know that you're all mentioned less and you don't show it but inside me left inside inside you don't know if you're coming or going and another time it's completely fine there's Elba vet there's the same words it wasn't the words it was who I was at the time because what you say something is processed it's processed by me it's never about what the other person said it's what I heard and what I hear is based on Who I am and who I am is based on who I think Who I am right not who I am it's all I think Who I am if you can go back to that you'll become a very enlightened human being you'll become self-aware and that's the gift that allows all redemption to happen that awareness then allows me to choose it allows me to see things and if a person doesn't do this I can remain crippled for forty fifty years and I'm justified in my eyes I'm always justified you're the culprit I'm the good one look what she said she said it again fussing is like another person wouldn't understand it but for me it's triggering tremendous stuff I'm traumatized by something right every time I hear this line the trauma comes up again I'm not in control anymore I'm not gonna say that to myself because I want to look at myself as an intelligent person so I'll blame you if only you could change if only you could be normal if only you could respect me if only you could like me if only you could cherish me if only you could this everything would be would be different now this doesn't mean the other person also doesn't have to work on themselves we're not saying that sometimes you know in Vega from being a Geffen they're both they're both side X they're both they're both side X they're both Sherlock's they all set that's not the word it's not here doesn't mean the other person is outside the gobbler and you're always guilty don't hear that there's somebody's saying it means you're always empowered you're never a complete victim because your awareness ultimately nobody can control so you're always empowered sometimes other people make mistakes also that has to be dealt with but you're not just in this victimhood state at the mercy of everybody else who's crazy and you're the only you know you're the last normal person walking somebody I once saw an anecdote that there was this fellow he turned 90 so he turned 90 so his wife says what do you want for a birthday gift he says you know I never drove before I think at the age of 90 it's time to drive great he practices he got some lessons gets a license she leases him a most beautiful car and out he goes on his you know bon voyage on his on his first journey to be able to explore the world okay he's on the highway he gets a call of course a car today has to come with a phone so he has a phone he's driving he feels that on i-95 there's one car driving in the opposite direction is that you is that you I knew this was a horrible idea he says one car driving in opposite direction all the cars are driving that misdirection besides me what the cars are driving the opposite direction okay so as funny as it is that's how a lot of people if they don't say it doesn't sound good but the enemy is you know everybody is guilty and I'm the victim that's a hey look of all of this so you always have to be able to go back to the prior Marquez periscope Kraemer actor of her face raga Alto the period of Easter all needs a Googler and the period of mitzrayim needs to allow allowed to fall down that's how he touches her actor allowed allowed to fall down so now let's continue inside the line is Rafi doses of it's almost at the end of the moment I don't know like 10 lines in the bottom the line starts to drift feed the stays obviously gimel column one he's a middle of a long sentence Murphy's Law Walter what's-her-face wrong it's ass a hell of a locust the cycle of mitzrayim is that he has everything has to be according to his understanding Muhammad roots are nowadays circular that he clings to it and partly Searle is a cycle of Eliquis and he says that's what happening is to be able to be aware of God Allah saying Southborough ho the hold of earning is to substitute Kirkham italian with correctly is wrong the perspective of life from a divine vantage point rafi doses off enjoy art says these four sections of Tefila me terminally release a silken does the table does the throne this cheer does the candelabra this demitted is the bed four sections of Dominique told mine Astra which is Mitte the place of intimacy of union between the husband and the wife doesn't get in here to all the four sections but his point is back to the word Rafi dosa is off the bed the bed is made of of gold go out this type of awareness you have redeemed shallow year Denis Nicola the davon Inge and the awareness of Romani shouldn't be up some Akira Makura means a coincidence in other words once in a while every Jew has a good Avenue once in a while that happens you know what I mean they say even a broken clock twice a day it's right once in a while you have a bazaar he says but that means the person is still not in control of their life well yeah that is Nicola it shouldn't be just a coincidence once in a while you have an awareness and the month is Maximus mineus because there's so many mineus mineus means there's so many things that stop us Chaz Ogawa said I am this is still I'm in a state of exile come by coincidence you know I'd a venir davon there something comes in a vault here huh Gulliver hey dismiss abode upon us Ashley government a Mitzvah a person has to make sure every morning that there's no force in the world that stops them from a genuine relationship during Davin II and the biggest forces the ship with a prognosis ship with the burn us include all types of in desirey and stress and worries that people have about prognosis prognosis are both in the limited sense of making a living paying bills and prognosis generally all the needs of a person are included in the word processor and a person has all this stress and anxiety and that keeps my mind stuck and paradoxically that only enforces the condition of godless Messiah so you need to go out to liberation people light Fela officially is survey de without gaveling a person can't be sir made up a statement of Sugden the lights filter without a real darvany he officially is surah marij da vernon is like the fuel it's the inspiration that the gas to give a person the empowerment that whatever comes up during the day the person should be able to respond correctly because Dominique tries to create the mindset of redemption this thinking in a redeemed way you know there's there's thinking happiness there's thinking positivity there's how to think about yourself in a certain way as he puts it here a cycle of Ilocos that is what allows this sir madoff so in the beginning on the hop of the page when he spoke about solved are pure gold without any rah and he said for this after believe like you like other Mauritian you were just created every morning and even if you think you're entrenched in mitzrayim ms mehmet stranglethorn are shambolic enemies of other beliefs ah no cop Karima active herzog alte that's what he finishes here without filler a person can't be sir meera in a consistent perpetual responsible way because ultimately you need the gas you need the inspiration for LaHaye movie do you mahal um it's filler this is also the reason that they were mistaken if we do you V do he means confessions every single day in davenic which we call acronym what's the idea look either you said I'm sorry yesterday I'm sorry again today so he says shequida mad fella before Dominic say his boyish if loose issue permits Ryan when a person it says intrusion origin who kissed fella that before darling I think a Simmons had a class in Iraq I am right before Dominic his bone and Bischoff lucidum oboro-sama circle it's a verdict in substantial tomorrow before Dominic a person should contemplate schifflet Sodom the possible humbleness of a person and godless are killed the truth of God she says when a person can template she flew say his humbleness super mitzrayim or I should say his lowliness that he he may be stuck in Egypt he is Berlin buchdahl the same safe Baraka but then he'll meditate sometimes you feel you're stuck in Egypt and that's to his brain earnest is that's not enough if you only think about how low you are that's not enough some people are very good at that he says you have those two think about the second part medulla Saint Sauveur who do the Saints a vertical means the truth of God's infinity which you're part of that's the Voort but God is big thank you I'm small he's big no no no was that helped me so he's big I'm small the creches as he said before you're born in lovscheim allocate your part of that ain't safe that means even if you're in Egypt who's in Egypt infinity is in Egypt that means there's no trauma that can be transformed don't tell me that you're a crooked messed up case it's infinity that's crooked and messed up if it's infinity that's crooked and messed up it can be transformed they can be reversed never ever stuck there's no such a thing stuck never that's the second part of it shift I have to know that I'm in Egypt if I don't know my ship floss if I think that omits Rahim is Google then it's just denial and denial is not only a river in Egypt right there it's also a river in Egypt but it's not only a river in Egypt it's a river that flows in people's minds and that's what we're talking about to Egypt we're talking about you can't be in denial because if you're in denial there's never a liberation so I have to know the shiftless always but I also have to know do la st. Southborough show that I'm part of that's why it's essential sonarak before darling is born and bacillus are Adam uber a mimosa kale in the lowliness of a person and the greatness of God so on a literal level it means you're pretty low and God is great what does that do to me so now I'm gonna dive in so God is great and I'm low the vert is if God is great you're great thank God is great thank you that means you're great that means you're being in a state of syphilis is not inevitable it's not a inherent destiny a lot of times in people grow up and you're Shiva's and and and Musa schmoozing and this they learned the first part about the ship flows they don't learn about the second part they they'll hear God is great okay fine so it means I'm more garbage so therefore I should dive into the great one and what what happens with me in the process yeah so that's the critical part here that I'm a born Amata my semi location um how did I end up in mid Senayan because annoys vehicles the guy cuz the ain't safe is there if the ain't safe is there then I'm not stuck she says then you started divide them in a row and then the person feels remorse this is not me this is not me I regret that I was fair I regretted ah I regret there are means and ifit's not me you know if you have a beautiful garment you're wearing a beautiful garment and somebody pours chocolate chocolate mousse cake on it and you look at it it's it's not suitable for this garment when a person appreciates who they are so when there's things that are alien to them they regret it that's it's not me I don't want it oh but really if we did for them so the confession of da Vernon is natural what's V Dewey V D is basically I have a remorse for the past and I want to change for the future for Ozzy in manator our cars off toierate the preliminary office this is what allows the person to become a Manoa one piece of pure gold and that means from your rate all the way to peer so from the bottom to the top the person is a manator what's a monoid as we said before he's transformed or she is transformed into an ambassador of light into somebody that brings light somebody that becomes a source of light care but there's one more thing finally that's the Iker now this becomes a new acre what's the EK seriously is a Siddhas gum or as a meze there has to be complete unity complete acidosis one with another shall I yeah BB rasca very vocally you shouldn't look and see and focus on the evil on the negativity of his friend etc and of course this comes back to the word mixture there's no Manoa if it's not made of one piece if the manator looks at the other part of the monarda and says who are you as we're saying you disturb us Tatsuki commoner you're a how do we translate that you're not mr. Luna you're not part of my group then you're not a Maduro son ottoman era because the whole manner is always mixed it's made of one piece so if I look at one piece of the Manila and says let's remember you come from a different stock then I boasts funada manator because the manator has to be mixture it's an indispensable tonight's an indispensable condition and he starts explaining behind new shade ah but for it how does this happen what does it really be to be in unity one with another behind Russia a the person should know so you could think don't look at somebody else's negative don't look and what if you see it and what if you see it shallow Yabut so it could be don't focus on it don't accentuate it don't turn it into you know the main thing well yeah Billy Abbott ha but that means to look well but really what he's saying is something much deeper that's what he's going to explain behind O'Shea a the person has to know th love my laminator just like down here there's a menorah up there there's also a monoid everything down here physical is a spiritual reality that comes into the physical so there's also above herminator and like he said in the beginning of the minor what's this minaret kanessa Cicero kanessa sister all is called the menorah Bizet varnish m/l Zubov old after of bullosa that even if it's mixed up Sarah other Mazetti behavior all the neshamah s-- they could do shots clown the summers is so like we looked in the first year of the manor is a midnight yesterday my lemonade mixture and it's made of one piece what does this mean sure alienated LaMotta about accident Allah my Allah when you have a large what does it call the big pieces in get a huge massive ingot of gold and now you hammer out what's going to happen the part on the top of the higher that the part of the gold the layers of gold on the top will often go there end up on the bottom in other words you're looking at the menorah which part of the gold that the menorah to come from the base which part of the gold that the branch has come from which part of the goal that the flowers on top come from nobody's gonna say oh it probably is and the ingot that's which was all the way on the bottom and probably ended up on the bottom of the menorah and that which was all the way on the top and there but therefore that's how it works when you hammer out the gold where that great account becomes one big tie rivers that which is on the bottom can go up that which isn't pop can go down it can also remain the same but it's inevitable that it all gets mixed in to alien and the tastin gets mixed that which was on top gets up at the bottom that which is on bottom goes on the top tallying areas LaMotta what external lamothe hara yuri did Perelman LaMotta Venetian Espada Mira sometimes there are as something negative something broken goes down below and enters into a person who you're gonna look at this person you'll say a lot of not good in this person Ola HIPPA sometimes it's the opposite I see essays in mid-summer other Mira la poem Oh Lula my love and I tell Arthur the Mitzvah that a person who you would consider Radha's sometimes goes up and is retrieved this goes into another person the how atoms are a little such a sudden boy VAT time shall Oy Shama who may ask Shalala milah a person when you're looking at somebody else you have to be able to entertain the possibility that the floors actually in you and the toy that you have the goodness that you have that you so proud of Shama who may ask her maybe it's actually from somebody else oh Lola my lit went up and came into you Bourassa fear him and the negativity you've seen somebody else and others Schemmel who shall lie maybe it's your own she ordered LaMotta and it went down for us year by Emma second and then you can really have unity how y'all read a map rockin the base the lowest and the flowers could really be one shakaal s coccyx at Smith latina Sierra or lack of a token espera every person could see himself as the base and his colleague as the flower the hovater la hyper and his friend could see the exact opposite so to understand this section I'll tell you a my some of the hillock at son's ear of the debris Shyam okay I'm Hamish Tom I heard this story from his grandson he actually recently passed away where I grew up there was a show laughs you have a few houses away called base dovid garrison on New York Avenue near the 71st precinct the rabbi of that shoulders name was rabbi Higham Reuben he recently passed away a few months ago but hi I'm Ruben was a grandson he was named after the debris hi that sons are over Khayyam halberstrom safest also troopers debrief hyams he's known as a debrief I am and he told me once was mature Shabbos I went to Davin my roof there man kept my roof and he said that tonight is the yard set of his grandfather delivery I am he wants to tell me a story that he heard from his grandmother and his grandmother he told me said it over from her grandmother who heard it from the woman herself that's what he told me the my see goes like this I've heard other versions of the story but this is how I heard it from his grandson a prime room but then it could then all the versions is the same crime halberstrom was one of the goodell he had to run the great holy Jews of the generation did say they used to be then you know you were you Shiva you learned and somebody would come and look for a costume for his daughter so the debris Ryan was in yeshiva he was I think 14 or 15 years old it was learning he had a big mind and Elisha cop and one of the bigger upon him in Poland was a Jew know and as the Boris tom is a safer call trouser Traverse bar of Tom his name was rabbi - oh man who is the Rev of like Nick known as the Baraka Tom he had a daughter and the daughter that I'm gonna quote rabbi Shyam Reuben he says the daughter was the nicest girl in all of Poland her name was Russell Fieger she says she was absolute beauty on within and without and her father decided for his daughter he needs my creme de la creme the best of the best so he goes to the yeshiva s-- goes to one of the biggest Shiva's in Poland and the asteroid Shiva he needs the best Bakker Sai in his heart and Sai in his mind and he says there's nobody like the kayo Halberstam you're not gonna find somebody he's the best the birth town was a very well-known man she goes he meets him he sits down him he speaks Tim for two hours speaks them for two hours he's blown away he's like I can't get better than this and he goes home tells his wife Mazel Tov tells his daughter Mazel Tov if it was that simple and Mazel Tov ever should this good they would write letters to the motown to make a time for the wedding you know it was a little less complicated that a few weeks before the wedding the wife of the borough's come says I'm not so Alice you meet somebody for two hours and you decided that doesn't work that way you have to know more said everybody says unbelievable things about him I am NOT happy and we have to see more I want you to send two of the best bottom two of your best talmidim to check him out and give us a second report so the borough Tom the future father-in-law sends two of his students who were older to go check him up they go they come back and they comment him and they say it's unbelievable person but did you realize his handicap he said I didn't see as a handicap you know that he's the regime was was he was somewhat lame he was a little hunchback yeah he was an invalid in that sense so mark tom says I didn't seek was I he was sitting in my Smedley she was speaking for two hours I didn't see wife hears about it she's a ho figures a tall beautiful girl it's not fair and the bar of Tom couldn't forgive himself to break over this it was already you know to know him with a pleasure now there wasn't a simple thing on the other hand he can do this to his daughter it's not fair so he mama she couldn't forgive himself he he was he was also very big Rob so he felt that the break of the would be very inappropriate but it's not his daughter's fault he's debating back and forth it's already very close to the house and I asked him what do you do do you break of the shindig or not one day there's a knock on the door and a boy shows up who the cousin and now he sees it ready how hard it is for him to walk you know he's bent out bent bent and he right away says I know what you think he when you saw me you didn't see my my blemish so if you want you have a full right to cancel everything cuz it's a mecca catalyst it's not you're not doing anything wrong you didn't know maybe you found that I understand don't feel bad I forgive you completely no hard feelings and you know I don't deserve this I don't deserve this and it's fine Tom got so emotional to see you know the dignity of the boy you know I was just so do whatever you have to do so you know he hugged him and he brought him into the house he says one thing I do want to ask you I want to meet my caller before he before we break up for good I want to meet my caller I want to see the person I was supposed to get married this is fine she goes in with her to a room and there was a big mirror there and they're talking you know was obviously a little it was you know there was a sad component and at some point he tells her let's go over to the mirror and we have to remember that by tsadikim Victor dickham the border between the physical world and the spiritual world is an easy border to pass you know by some of us is like the border between Israel and Syria but by summits like the border between you know America and Canada you show a passport then you go in and some maybe there's no border even saying this as an introduction to understand this story they go over to the mirror and they look in the mirror and she gives us scream what did she see in the mirror and the mirror she sees that he's erect he's standing straight and she's bent she's like hunched back she's sort of what is this voodoo black magic he says no no no no no calm down I just want to tell you what happened and then you'll make a decision it's up to you if I was born I wanted to know who's my de bas ploy Neela Pliny I want to know who's boss play me God says listen we don't start showing things around you know everybody's gonna start making selections I like this I don't like this trust me I know who belongs to him he says you could trust me I'm not going down if you don't show me who so he showed me he showed me my collar I saw that it's a type of soul that's gonna be born in a body that is that's going to be Hunchback so I said to your boy initial oil um I have a big favor to ask you since a husband and a wife are two halves of the same it says plug gopher switch it around for me it's gonna be much easier than for her I'll be able to handle it I'm fine switch we don't do it I'm asking you you want me to be born switch it around I'll take it for her let her have the perfect physique fart if that's what you want that so you want and so I was born with this challenge and the mirror you saw the way it was originally so she comes out of the room and she says Tata mama Mazel Tov he's my cousin and the rest is history and everybody knows Yoko Faga was the first wife of the tongues are of and he indeed had this this physical challenge and he told me Rick I am told me that when his grandmother told him to my sir she said that when her grandmother said to my so that she hurts them heard of mother go figure she said his grandmother was weeping and weeping and weeping CEO so started to stop hi I'm Reuben also started to stop them eyes no but what's the Havanna here what's the havona here that's what mixture means mixture means and this is not it's not always easy to understand I look at somebody whether it's a spouse whether it's a child not even he's not even talking about family another drew and I see something that's really problematic I can't always ignore it you can ignore things well it's but it's a reality so you have to remember mixa mixa means today we're individuals i am i you are you but kanessa sees but all begins is one piece of gold and they bridge the toys muhammad he hammered it out sometimes is a piece on the top that ends up on the bottom sometimes is a piece on the bottom that ends up on the top what does this mean it means that sometimes the goodness that I see in me I'm looking at this and I'm so proud of it it actually is yours I that person looks like on the bottom in the hammering that went up to a person who sees himself on the top and sometimes the other way around they rather I'm seeing may actually be mine I am on the top yeah and the hammering out that went down to the bottom so the husband let's talk it up in this story the husband is looking at the wife or the wife is looking at husband and you see a tremendous floor challenged your spouse has it's very easy to get angry and vindictive I need you I need this you should thank the stars thank God that I chose this that I'm asking to be with this but let's remember let's remember who's who who's on top was on burden by tens as sinister as I push it it could be that this challenge was yours and your wife took it from you well the other way around so it's not when are you gonna become normal when are you finally gonna become normal it actually made me my issue that you're struggling with so I'm looking at you like fair you idiot you no he took a hit me was it called Tucker what's the expression huh took the bullets for me it may be my issue that he's dealing with so you say come on what am I did this this idiotic over the head what's up this with me I'm on top he's I'm bottom he says I make sure it's a nest as I push it so before you doesn't mean that you have to start complimenting there I it just means instead of being vindictive and critical and alienating where we're in this together so the question is how do we help each other overcome the challenge that's a different question there may be a challenge how do we work together to overcome this challenge but what I don't do is I don't a lien ate myself alienation that's the opposite of mixture because when a lien a myself I'm not alienating myself from the other person I'm alienating myself from me if one part of the minutest says accomplish m'dear I'm also not a monoid the my name is miksa you're not in touch with reality so he says that sense of Octus is the real understanding that there's a deeper layer to life that we may not see immediately I could look at there Ryan you and say you know what I'm not sure with that originated and I could look at the toy oven me and say I'm not sure with this originator and you could do exactly the same thing on one level I'm the flower and you're the base and another level I'm the base and you're the flower and it's not a fake thing and I say it and you're saying I were nice to each other it's a genuine idea it's a genuine idea that there is a a a mixture a oneness and integration we're on a conscious and an unconscious level there's a lot of energy that flows in between ourselves and that ability to be able to see that bigger picture allows people to be truly unified that's the mixture to be to be truly as he puts it afters gummer same gesture like yeah baby Roscoe Vader the Baal Shem Tov once said it says a hare to fear Kisame why twice you should rebuke rebuked your fellow so the Baal Shem Tov said before hey after has to beat idea before you rebuke you have to rebuke one more person yourself hi heya before wife yuck one more person you have to rebuke yourself always first you have to ask yourself am i rebuking you from a place of alienation or my rebuking you from a place of connection am i part of it or it's just your problem and we all know the difference try with your child one and try the other one try with your spouse one try the other one if it's oh when are you gonna stop being on meshuggener it's been than a mile I'm always good you're bad the person won't listen usually won't be effective I always have to first rebuke myself and asking me ask myself where is this rebuke coming from it's coming from my own insecurities they're coming from my own issues is it coming from the fact that you're not living up to my expectations and it makes me feel horrible about myself which means I couldn't care less about you I just need you to fit into my puzzle so I should feel good about myself but it's really all about me the effectiveness is gonna be much less because you'll feel like you're gonna get defensive if it's coming from a place of love and connection and understanding and even deeper over learning here is understanding that I may be talking to you about things I really have to talk to me and what this really of course means is that sometimes the best way to correct other people is by correcting yourself because they are projecting they are projecting you imagine if we are if there's like mirrors around me you know and I see something in the mirror and I start breaking the mirror this today the mirror has all this dirt another instead of breaking the mirror why don't you go to the bathroom and wash off your nose and then the mirror will be beautiful very often in life people are projecting us even if we don't see it that way so where's my main focus I mean focus correct yourself go to a deeper place and a lot of interesting things will happen that's the idea of mixture mixture alcazar it's not so easy to live this way but it's a very powerful way of loving living it's a very wholesome way it's a very deep way the main thing is it's true it's true because we're not alienated we are one we are mixture it's nothing we're not disconnected we are connected we may like the feel with disconnected because it's easier but it's not true it's like you're married you say I'm not really met you are I don't care what you feel like you do care what I feel like it's unnatural to say of course you care you have to work it out saying you don't care all apathy is a form of fear you know that right I can't deal with realities I become indifferent you know when teenagers say I don't care I don't care okay you know what that means right I don't care I don't care you know when your 4 year old says I don't care ok they stop making with their shoulders what does it mean they don't care they care too much the only way of dealing with it is saying I don't care of course you care huh whatever whatever whatever well your wife picks up her hands is whatever right not such a good sign whatever it means another hopeless conversation and that also means that when you're having these conversations you have to be able to look at each other because it's mixture don't run away from me you don't have to run away now if I could look at Yura and really believe that this may come from me how am I gonna speak to you about it very different very different so my so with Russia awright you know them I see yeah you ever heard of my son he was in an inn yeah and he's to see people he start talking about himself everything that he needs to fix so we look at it as he was a smart diplomat no no he was he was tuning into the scene yin okay let's just finish the last words here for us year Bama Sephiroth how you're a semi-pro from Chicago said yeah the cosmic initiatic will have available in a span of a vanilla HEPA you see this is how the Baal Shem Tov and his talmidim the ballot Anya all of them they wanted Yeadon to be this is how they wanted there's no coldness here there's no alienation there's no sense of superiority this is how this is the turmeric the the the the forth of Bob Campbell was the Maharaja of small he once asked his father tomorrow said that the Siddhas ADA gevalt what did your grandfather doubt that everyone she said he wanted that Sydenham should experience themselves like Hamish Paha like family they should feel family and were talking in a functional beautiful sense they should feel this in other words what they wanted is that Jews together should feel a oneness should feel a varam Chi towards each other a mixture a sense of mixture doesn't mean there's no criticism it doesn't mean there's no historian as' doesn't mean enough to fix thing doesn't mean to be naive and I talking about naivete but it means how you look at it the sense of alienation of holier-than-thou I'm superior it's completely obliterated it's a you know sometimes we in religious cultures you see it is one person is on the top I mean other people on the bottom and it's very clear I'm on the top you're on the bottom and it's very clear and the boundaries will not be crossed you're a yeah and I'm a para to be stalked era who knows our Paris a Pollock you're a Yannick and I'm a para and it's clear very clear and dr. Emerson this does I Porsha you may be on the top now for a different reason completely and he may be on the bottom for a different reason completely let's put it in perspective and then you could forget also another person's house locker it's not you could forget it's not like huh again they don't have forgetting in English you don't have forget in English for us your saladna korean loudly cache oh now Iren could come and do work now we could light the fire if there's no man no you damn it she can't light once there's a mixture now an could come and light a fire yet scan Brennan a fire without this you can't have a fire without the cage bacala's i inators she who Kohen Gadol ralph Cassatt Kohen Gadol Karina's Cassatt bava bava rectum is ready to Mecca Baraka leash Casa de ha Cohen go to Azarov cast the great cast Chicago Kassadin boy Ralph chasm is all the kindnesses in them Ujala hamsters may average I believe a solo he could bring forth from the lava robbed of the highest love of asylum to the love in the world Vaz Mammalia Toy Fair erupts of a verb is godless liberals pradesh to allow a drew to be filled with love in a revealed way like a glowing fire that's the age of the menorah Iren lights up the light of love in every jew this L by hollow scarce on IRA's irony alloys some you always need the power of Hess of the power of love to light the fire in every Jew I know him I know him I know him he was amid the Hibernians it's a beautiful cover beautiful touch lishchyna I'll get my fresh lime solution Isaiah good it's very good mark with this my mare knew the Baron was acts tough Dalton ever you ever hammered out a piece of gold when you have to make for me when you have to make for Mizzou hava Manila what do you think is gonna happen you think the part that's gonna be on top is gonna pond on top it's gonna go get mixed imagine you have a beauty of gold you have to turn it into a candelabra yeah and wall gets yeah it's a meltdown oh you have to melt it you can't just chop it up you can't just hammer it you melted once you melt it down it all gets mixed I assume not Gold is very pliable its own I'm sure they warm it up no pleasure to have you so this is what the Lakota my ram says they're confute look at the marentina people are very confused they're entrenched in their actions they think they don't have clear and it's not true you do what you want Couty Maharani e annika feud somebody asked him nah c'mon how does Peter work he said it's very simple if you want you do if you don't want you don't do same for it yeah same for ya baba BA sir baba BA sir the Gemara says there was a Jew named Joseph the son of Revere schewe I think right Abbasid our feud he fell ill what we call a near-death experience comatose he came back his father said what did you see he's an oil um-huh for her easy I saw a topsy-turvy world those who were bottom here are above there and those who want top here are below there Olam haba they'll join him here are LaMotta and the dr.nirmala milah same part in other words when you go to a deeper place when you look at the manarola milah he says l'm ila it's mixture and if it's mixture when you hammer out the manner you melt down the goal you hammer it out you you read the far design it it all gets mixed yeah that's what he says l'm ilakaka the Maneri Allah my Allah beautiful this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot the yeshiva net / donate