Zvi Gluck speech from 10-25-2010 Video Credit Vos Iz Neias www.vinnews.com

know how to respond to that other than Thank You mayor and thank you both for coming here tonight it is a really urgent work that we're doing and hopefully we can all work together to make this world a better place and a safer place for the next generation I'm going to get right into it I'm not as energetic as a Marc said but I'll try research clearly shows that when victims of abuse are believed and are given support their outcome is actually very positive sadly the reverse is true as well when victims are not believed and when they are made to be the perpetrators they actually end up in very bad places and that's really what we have to stop what we all really must know as well is that the effect on victims is not just their sexuality but when these things happen that also strongly affects their emunah and our belief in Clairol how is it possible for someone to remain faithful to a religion when they feel they're being betrayed by the leaders in that religion how many people have we taken off the streets how many kids are we buried from overdoses from being untreated victims of sexual abuse at what point is not going to stop and I vote for it to stop right now the truth is when I speak to professionals around the world and I've done it around the world I have one question that's asked to me very often what is it about the Orthodox Jewish community that protects the perpetrators and hurts the victims and the truth is I don't think that question is coming out of anti-semitism I think it's really a question they're curious to understand if they religious backing their what is it so what I've actually found in some of my mentors as well is that when people are defending the perpetrators they're actually doing it out of Ahava a misguided I haven't but I have a nonetheless human nature does not want to allow someone to believe that their friends relative family members someone they grew up with can be doing such evil things they would much prefer to think that the Russia is somebody down the block the one you read about takes days over and they don't want to believe that about people that they know so when they're coming to the defense of people that we consider our monsters sadly they're doing it with good intentions and that's what we need people to understand as we say the road to Anam is paved with good intentions and that's true here as well what we first need to acknowledge and by seeing to turn out here tonight and by seeing what's that happening over the last few years we're starting to get there is we need to acknowledge there is a problem before we can move forward and set up a battle plan of how to solve it and that's really what I'm going to be speaking about tonight what we really must do and it's really you know a two-step process or a multi-step process because we must really educate the parents to be able to educate our children our children need to know that they can be safe they need to know that no one is allowed to violate them they must feel secure and that if someone does hurt them that we will protect them we're going to be there for them the studies show over 90 percent the victims that are treated right away do not become victims again if they get the help that they need they have the strength to move forward unfortunately there's a phrase that I think was coined by a tricia teo which is when the victims don't get the help they needed they get we victimize they become success success success that will sorry about that kick out my tongue to be victimized for many many years and that happens time and time and time again we need to train our children what it is that abuses all bite in the right way and what to do if they feel that they're being abused that they should know they have who to talk to and they should know that they're going to believe children don't lie about being abused they don't don't look like someone did something to them believe them listen to them help them get the help that they need there was a study done in UCLA about a sniper shooting on a playground in which a whole bunch of kids got killed and two nine-year-old survived one of the nine year olds thrived and the other one had a terrible outcome so they did some research to find out what's the difference and what they came up with was the nine year old that survived a week earlier had a disaster planning class on earthquakes and utilized the skills that were taught in that class to duck stay low hide under a slide while this was going on and in his mind he felt safer because he was prepared he had training in reality he wasn't any safer than the next kid but the training kept him safe which is how he was able to go forward we need to create those trainings for our children for this field we must make sure that when someone says they were abused we listen we get them help we get them therapy we do it right away we don't try to figure out did it happen didn't it happen this is what we need to do today I had someone come to me this is true story this morning at another event I was at and tell me an 11 year old girl said something they don't think she was really abused and she doesn't think she was either the family thinking of leaving it alone maybe she'll forget about it and roll out of it that's wrong that's how these trouble starts we need to protect our kids to make sure that if they're molested they can't be molested again and give them the appropriate training to know what to look for talks to our kids from the people that I'm speaking to educational begins as young as three years old we don't have to scare our children there are some very good materials out there some great books to read the kids I myself read it to my kids one of them is uncle Willy tickles my life bought that book home we've been reading it to our kids starting with three years old let's also go back to step let's remember what it's like to be parents has dinner with our kids turn off our cell phones spend time with them show them that we're here for them a lot of times people come and say that the child said something and was incoherent maybe it's not true maybe they made something up I can't tell you how many grown adults professionals who start dealing with this issue sound incoherent when they discuss it that doesn't mean someone's lying they just may not know how to put it into words and that's what we need to do to help them we need to stay calm and remember key point here people that get treated have great outcomes they can leave successful lives that is what we need to do we need to focus on getting the people that help that they need there's a lot of interesting points and a lot of interesting books that are actually coming out in the near future and I strongly strongly urge I actually have another book here that I research today one of my doctors gave it to me let's talk box by Lori staffer and Esther doubling us actually the latest series of books also dealing with all sorts of issues pertaining to this we need to be there for our next generation I have young children I will be honest my biggest fear is my children getting abused and I know that we're living in a society where there's no guarantees how to stop it but we need to take every step possible to make sure that we are doing what is necessary to make sure that we are going to protect our children I really thank all of you for coming here tonight it really means a lot to all of us hearing that I've really put a lot of time into this I look forward to the day when these meetings will no longer be necessary okay [Applause]