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With that line, you you never have to hug anybody, even Bobby or Zayde, if you're not comfortable. Right. Exactly. Exactly. And And by the way, any grandparents um who are watching this, uh community members, grandparents, I tell, you know, when I when I horse play with our grandkids or I do stuff with them, um I always like I always say something like um if if let let's say for example, I have a thing that I play gorilla with the kids, you know, walk around like a gorilla and they run away. It's a whole big thing. I tell the kids if you don't like if you're not comfortable, if you get scared if you're frightened by this or if you don't want just say stop and I'll stop that second. And they they actually the last couple of years the kids started really became funny. I do it, the kids say stop. Stop. And I think it's great cuz it's giving them agency. It's part of the It's part of the whole gorilla stick, but but what it's telling the children is that even someone we I know you love me and I I get all that, but if you don't like it, just say stop and I and and I'll stop right away. I like to always say whether it's a friend, a relative, or someone you respect. Those are the three three ways that I say it and I'll just add in specifically tickling is something which can be innocent, but I found too many times is a passover for things that become not innocent. So, probably should be avoided in general, but especially the children need to know they can say no, I don't like you tickling me, no matter even if they're very young.