Unite to Heal 36 hours Live Stream Event

foreign [Music] part of this 36-hour live stream event on behalf of ahmudim Welcome to unite to heal yes it's been amazing the first 33 hours have been entertaining inspiring educational it's been fantastic but now we get into the home stretch we get to the point where we're going to watch you our incredible viewers and listeners and supporters of ahmudim put us over the top get us to the campaign goal right now the five million dollar goal is at 3.8 million dollars which means 77 of the goal has been achieved pretty remarkable huh I would say so pretty incredible and over the next three hours as we continue through the home stretch we're going to get please God to the 5 million dollar goal over 3 000 people 3 000 individuals from around the world have contributed to this campaign so far because everybody watching knows the importance of amudim Knows by The Incredible work that the staff and all the wonderful people are affiliated with the organization are doing on a daily basis can we say we are saving lives yes I think it's one of the reasons why we have a lofty goal and we're almost at that incredible goal because everybody out there understands and realizes that I moved into saving lives on a daily basis have you told your friends and relatives to check in with us at unite2heal.com tell them we have an amazing three hours coming up with some great conversations wonderful videos some fantastic debuts of songs that are remarkable so please tell everybody you know to get onto the web at unite2heal.com and join us immediately while you're at it why not suggest to them that they too should be donors they too should be supporters of this amazing cause at unite2heal.com and remember every time someone donates that donation is quadrupled that means every dollar is really worth four dollars every 100 is 400 every 180 is really seven hundred and twenty dollars get into the bigger numbers we're talking about a five thousand dollar donation really being a twenty thousand dollar donation it's one of the reasons the momentum is so incredible and that people are responding because they know that every time a donation is made a Major Impact is made for the ahmudum organization it's an annual campaign that is worth supporting you've been seeing for the last 33 hours some of the incredible work and some of the wonderful features that I moved them that I moved them is responsible for in terms of this year's live stream the programming's been incredible we'll have a chance to talk more about that throughout these three hours but right now after you've enjoyed all the great presentations all the wonderful entertainments all the great education all the Fantastic panel discussions the comedy the education the discussions about therapy the discussions about mental health and so many other important topics please at this point make sure that we can count on your contribution to ahmudim now is the time unite to heal.com spread the word and let's get to the goal five million dollars a lofty goal right well guess what we're about to hit 3.9 million we're over 77 percent of the goals so far and every time you give a donation it is quadrupled by the generous matchers at amudan so please give and give as generously as possible again unite2heal.com spread the word as this night continues we know the audience is going to grow it's going to get bigger and bigger and it's going to have a ripple effect throughout the international Jewish World more and more people are going to be logging on more and more people are going to be curious if we get to that goal at the end so please help us spread the word and make sure this audience continues to grow simple as that four times quadruple every time you give you're really giving four times that amount please give even give generously right now and support the great work of ahmudim when we kick things off yesterday we had an opportunity to speak to some of the people are responsible for the day-to-day activities that I moved in some of the people that are turned to as therapists and as leaders in their specific departments and areas to help those families and individuals who are in great need and in great pain there are a lot of people who worked very hard to save lives and to get people back on track and to really help the individuals the young adults the adults the kids and of course families to get back on track uhmuda needs your funds needs your support I move them needs your help in order to continue this great and Noble work so please unite2heal.com again unite2heal.com make sure to give as generously as possible enjoy the fact that the impact is great four times whatever you give is what's really being given to ahmudim and help us achieve the goal 3.9 million we're almost there at 3.9 million pretty impressive 77 percent the goal so far so please give and give generously yummy Shafter you've heard his name before in holy in squares and of course referencing some of the people behind the scenes who are responsible with the great programming he is the producer of this great event uh the leader of Charity bids yummy Shafter a pleasure to welcome you to unite to heal great to be here thank you very much first time in three years it's pretty amazing to have you here live and in person we appreciate it you have been coordinating everything behind the scenes uh each and every year until now now it's the third year you know what that means it means a Jewish tradition that we are we are set to do this please God as often as is needed so that I move them to keep on going absolutely um the last 33 hours some of the best and most incredible programming original ideas great panel discussions wonderful celebrities and well-known people people like to see and hear what's it like as you go through these months and wonder what's going to be the final product for these 33 hours or 36 hours total of the live stream it's always very exciting very invigorating and uh it it really you know we have over a hundred personalities that are part of this program and each one of these people have very busy schedules even more busy now that covet's over you know maybe when we start no maybe when we started it was easier to get it done because a lot of people are at home and not traveling as much it was easier but now people are back to their daily lives and to see that over a hundred personalities who are very busy and have plenty of things to do aside for this will donate their time and give of their time to participate in this program because of how important it is to them so it gives us the drive and the strength to keep going because when you get that sort of support and that sort of feedback it makes you want to do what we do can I assume you're much much more familiar with how mood them is work now than when you first had your initial meeting years ago with spieglerock uh absolutely I mean the stories we've heard the feedback we've gotten both from events and from specific segments of the events um I would say that the biggest impact as we all know was probably the Ellie schwabel song from last year which I think we'll talk about more later on um but literally you know this started as you know let's see what we could do for an organization that needs the funds uh badly and have to cancel their in-person event and we got six weeks to come up with something which this is what we came up with Year One you know went from that to uh you know to really becoming a passion project and the more stories you hear and the more feedback you get the more you realize that this is very real I think for for too long you know too many of our communities were brushing these issues under the rug and making pretend they don't exist but we made it our mission to talk about these things and to make people feel uncomfortable because that's our job if people were comfortable we're not doing our job we want people to think we want people to react we want people to understand what's happening under their noses and to support those who are most vulnerable in our community and I think we've effectively done that through this campaign five million is a big number but for the reasons you just mentioned I think there's a reason why we're approaching that goal because people out there understand there's the important the work of the organization is and we've both been involved in a lot of fundraising efforts over the years this is pretty significant that we're at 77 and we're just really starting the home stretch of this campaign yeah over 3 000 donations and as of this morning over what what I heard this morning was five six hundred thousand unique IP addresses that's a very very big statement that's the community saying whether you hear us or not whether you see us or not we stand with a mood and we support our mood and we stand with the victims we stand next to shoulder shoulder with the people who need the help and that's what this is all about and I think you can't get a statement louder than this right this 5 million we're going to hit 5 million hopefully we get over that looks that way and uh those those are big numbers for a campaign especially when covet's over and this is one of the few remaining virtual events that is still going and like you said it's now that I think something like this will continue to go because of the content and how important it is and how much people are thirsty for it there's other impressive data people are staying on this site for quite a while it's obvious that they're they're gripped by the type of programming you've arranged the panel discussions and all the different entertainers Etc and in addition to that the average donation is pretty significant we don't have to say exactly what it is but it's pretty impressive when you see you know the average number of dollars or whatever currency people are using that they're contributing to the campaign we've uh charity bids we've produced over 200 events fundraising events in the past two and a half years this is by far head and shoulders in terms of traffic in terms of response in terms of donation size in every single metric this event just every year has far surpassed every other great to speak to you like this much better than zoom and thank you so much for all your hard work behind the scenes and in front of the scenes thank you I just want to thank we have an unbelievable team behind us obviously Gabby Scholl who did this together with me and Bill Friedman this is the third year that we're both doing it together we obviously have the people who run all the zoom sessions and record them Vadim and Weprin who works tirelessly to edit them all obviously all the video video videographers and editors and and everybody and a special shout out to Tippy from amudim as well as the entire team of from moodum but a specially Tippy who ran the website and all the marketing she's been working 24 7 well hopefully now 24 7. uh Around the Clock yeah around the clock for the past few months to make sure this is a success it is so thank you everyone a pleasure yummy Shafter everybody out there it's 77 excuse me 78 to the goal now 78 at 3.9 million dollars on the way to a five million dollar goal by the end of this live stream please give and give generously every single time you give a dollar to ahmudim it is quadrupled which means if you're giving a thousand dollars you're really giving four thousand dollars and that's how we like to describe the impact that your donation has they have a big budget maybe that's something we'll discuss later on with the right speed luck it's a big budget millions of dollars is a lot of money that's required to keep this operation going and to help people internationally and especially with the bulk of it being here in the New York area and in the United States so please if you're watching in the U.S or anywhere around the world give and give generously right now unite2heal.com unite2heal.com we've got a video coming up yes this is this is all about this is all about Unity it's all about togetherness right maishi tischler's got a brand new video it's produced by Arya Kunstler and it is called actus Unity let's uh let's present this brand new video in honor of amudim here's maishi tishler at unite2heal.com foreign [Music] foreign [Music] I see [Music] okay [Music] foreign [Music] call yourself [Music] call yourself down [Music] this is what we do for young women yeah seriously can't feel my fingers I'll move them warms you foreign [Music] we're back here tonight to heal powered by amudim presented by charity bids and rabbits feed Gluck is of course the co-founder and CEO of ahmudum and he's here with us I'm going to first start off with congratulations because I must say that is a very impressive number we're looking at 78 percent 3.9 million I'm sure with all the difficulties of fundraising we know how big of a challenge it is you must be thrilled that at this point of the night this is where we're at you know so I'm thrilled really the main reason why I'm thrilled is because it's a testament to those that reach out to us for help you know all too often in our community people are always saying the community doesn't care people aren't interested and you know while we still have a long way to go it's definitely a very powerful Testament each person that makes a donation is sending a very clear message to those that are in pain those that are suffering and those that are struggling and that is really why we're here you know I mean people ask me you know you go crazy for two weeks out of the year and you know we don't have a fundraiser at a modem I do the fundraising and I'm the CEO so it's almost like well what's better should I be going probably meetings every month or do I just you know kill myself for a couple of weeks and not literally of course and just do what we can but really this is you know and it's a tough year this year I have to say it is all you know between the economy and interest rates and it's really a tough year which is even so much more so that people are giving and giving generously and we just have to say please keep on giving you know and I'm not going to be happy with 5 million I want to show people that we care and let's raise more but um no this is definitely a good stuff but still it's a big goal five million and you talk about the Testament that the community has shown to the work that I moved them is doing I think just the fact that there's a five million dollar budget and I know the budget's larger but just that for this purpose it's a five million dollar goal tells us just how much uh work that is is being done just how important the work is it's being done all right so you know we have this question a lot and and I was talking to revelia Brittany about this because you know I I like to catch as every director of any Jewish non-profit or any non-profit for that matter will do and I was like oh the numbers and the amount of people that are calling and he put me back in my place and he goes it doesn't mean more people are having problems it means they're finally comfortable to reach out for help so we try to just keep that in mind and we try to just look at the fact that the fact that we're able to have the staff size that we do and we're able to provide the therapy subsidies and the case management and getting people the proper care it's really you know as a result of the community you know we would never be able to do this alone and you know it's just something that is it's just special you know I I never dreamed that it would be like this you know I was watching as you were asking give me shakter who I must say Jimmy forgot to tell you the most important part of the story he had called me like or he I called him or a Mutual contact put us in touch with each other like seven eight months earlier you know before anything was even a discussion and before year one before year one before covet and he was like telling me these ideas that he had and I was just like yeah okay whatever you know llama Club look literally like just leave me alone you know and he's like yeah you don't understand I do this in the non-jewish world and it's real it would be an honor to help I'm with him and I'm like okay you know whatever anyway and then when covet hit I did not remember that he was the same person and he did not remind me he purposely didn't because he wasn't looking to make any waves and when the production got put together you know we realized that I mean first of all yummy is a rock star but he asked something about what has changed in the three years since he's been producing this and I have to say to you that even today alone the amount of emails and requests for help that came in as a direct result of people saying oh I did not realize that ahmudum would help me even if I live in this in this state or this in this country or you deal with this and these things you know and they felt comfortable and that's really a testament to this event because it's not just a fundraiser but it's also about awareness and awareness is what gets people the strength both to be able to do better prevention and to be able to reach out when they need help you know it's interesting you mentioned a moment ago how people are now less hesitant because of the azerbai Bruni pointed out to you um it makes one think that every time the amudum phone rings or an email is received asking for help the number of days or weeks or months that that person young or old has struggled with whether they should pick up that phone and when they should contact your organization just that pain they've dealt with about what to do and should I or shouldn't I Etc all of that is you know coming to a head as they actually finally make the call there's so much behind the story you know that's happening you don't even know what you're saying you don't you don't even realize it because it's not just how many months or years that they've been waiting but it's also having to be extra careful when that phone is being answered it's not just answering a phone and saying hello this is about making sure that you know people call us up and they ask us for things that we don't do and we're very careful not to just say I'm sorry we don't do that it's literally the staff are amazing and they're trained to open that conversation because just because the person's calling for Aid doesn't mean that's really what they need or who says they'll make another call you know if somebody calls up and goes I need this and this and oh we'll go to this in this place but it's really about engaging and you know what so many people have said to us and we get so many messages afterwards of you know I call them because of this but in reality I had so many other issues and the staff really figured it out so it's not just about that it took them so long to make that call but it's to do whatever we can to make sure that they'll continue to get whatever help they need and not just give up because they made that call and they didn't get the response that they wanted even if it's not the response that they thought they would need and the truth is that this may sound a bit complicated but sometimes until they meet your therapist and until they're officially getting help they themselves may not be 100 sure what the exact problem is until it's identified so that is very very true and you know that's why people you know we were a little bit of a statistical junkies and we keep track of the over 14 000 individuals we've helped and we keep track of what they initially called us for and then what the issues actually were and age and gender and marital status and you know where they live and there's a lot of data that we pull and it's almost without fail that the initial statement made what we call the reason for opening the case versus the reality of what's needed are not the same and that's okay and that's why we hired therapists to be the case managers for that exact reason because you know our staff it's not just about saying here this is the right therapist it's about managing the care from A to Z and that means from when the person first calls to dealing with their family to dealing with the programs Insurance Etc and we will learn more about case management coming up a little later on in this show while everybody's here let's take a gander at the big tote board that we have here at the flowmotion studios we are just under 4 million which again amazing I hope the last million is not going to be a big struggle I hope people out there will help us achieve that goal relatively quickly which of course means we're almost at 80 percent of the goal because it is a five million dollar goal and we're asking everybody to keep one thing in mind and that is that every single dollar you give is quadrupled imagine the impact of someone giving a thousand dollars and it's really four thousand dollars that is a real impact for the amudum organization no matter where you're watching around the world no matter when you're watching this make sure to give and give generously unite2heal.com this website is going to continue with amazing live stream until at least 9 p.m eastern time tonight we have fantastic original material coming up and wonderful conversations as well or we're asking you to do is to keep with us stay with us enjoy everything we're doing and to give as generously as you can to unmute them Rabbi go ahead sure please a lot of people often tell us you know we wait to give towards the end we want to see where things are going this is my personal plea to everybody out there that's watching please give what you can as soon as you can right and I'll tell you why because my heart palpitations you know what I'm saying we want to get back together it's a health matter folks this is now a matter of health so please don't wait till the end give what it we're already at the end and we're not at the end we're at the beginning right because this money is a new beginning for so many people that need help right and it's your start also you think about it's a bit of a reset a bit of a you know a restart and it is also a tremendous Boon to the morale of your staff when they see that people around the world in our community are uniting to do this are united to keep you guys going are you United to make sure that your staff is able to continue its work that is a tremendous morale booster for everybody that I move them it most certainly is and you know like I always say in our line of work we need all the morale boosting we can get because unfortunately our staff you know they they deal with very difficult things and I must say you know people don't realize this it's not just the clinical staff but it's everybody you know I mean it ranges from the person you know who's dealing with the finances you know our CFO who's amazing right but like she's not just dealing with money this money is dealing with people's lives and every single employee at a mudum it doesn't matter if they do accounts receivables accounts payables they're involved in marketing if they're involved in Awareness it doesn't matter but every single one is an integral part of the team and they're all seeing things really at a real real heavy point so morale boosting for the ahmudum staff is critical for us because as long as the staff are doing well they can really do a great job in helping those that need it you pointed something out during the initial hour yesterday morning we actually started this entire live stream and that was that people naturally I guess it's human nature focus on the tragedies and focus on the very difficult circumstances that you find yourself in on a regular basis but you thank God have the ability and sometimes it's a necessity to focus on the victories and we want people to know that with all the problems you're hearing about and all the cases that are being opened up to really deal with the pain of individual and families out there there are tremendous number of Victories right so absolutely and that's really what keeps us going you know I mean getting those emails I just graduated college I mean I can't tell you how many of our clients have graduated social work school and they're coming back to us can we help them with a job either by us or someplace else they want to give back you know getting married having children enjoying being away just so many beautiful things that we get to really see that it's really really amazing but I do have to add one more point to what you said as a general rule human nature is when there's a tragedy everybody jumps up but we're really trying to also put a very heavy focus on prevention school-based prevention because why do we need to wait for the tragedy and I'm going to tell something now it's a little bit you know scary but it's human nature it's a lot easier to raise money for an emergency than for having something that can be evidence-based clinically proven to work on a prevention module so it's really something that you know we just want to wake people up to it is that you know it's a lot cheaper to invest early on than to wait for there to be a problem has this begun in schools already oh we have over UH 60 schools this year that are utilizing the program that was developed that we we actually funded the development of the program we're not Educators so I'm not going to make believe but we you know and we partnered with a lot of amazing talent people that are in the education field also mental health professionals meaning people that have both they wear both hats is this uh High School is there even a role in K-8 for this this is fifth through 12th grade it's a very very it's amazing it's really I love it it's a social emotional curriculum developed for the Orthodox Jewish Community completely culturally sensitive that is literally a full curriculum fifth grade through 12th grade 30 weeks a year one class a week you know you can't if I taught you math today right and said hey you'll come back next year we'll continue it right but this is really it's life and it's real life skills healthy relationships healthy decision making you know just so many things that are just important for just to make people a mensch so you know it's really something that we just want to remind people that prevention really needs to be a main focus as well unbelievable uh it sounds to me like a movement just keeps expanding expanding in the areas that they become experts at already and expanding into areas that they feel like the prevention area are going to be key for the future our community all right spieglock and I and everybody that moved them are asking everybody to give and give now remember we're at almost 80 percent of the goal just under 4 million please give and give generously everything you give is quadrupled let's make it a very very successful campaign Ari cubed is the name of our next video feature it's ariboyanju Arya kunsler and Ari etinger in a wonderful song camo Yosef is the name of it and it's done by Hanan benari and here is that song a world debut I believe here at unitedheal.com foreign [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] laughs [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] we're at unite to heal everybody and we're asking everyone to help us get to our goal and I have some amazing news if you look at the screen we're over four million dollars we're over 80 percent of the goal we have a couple hours to get to the five million dollar goal please continue to be as generous as possible by the way speaking of the goal and the um a fundraising system a big shout out to our friends at Ray's Thon raised on responsible uh for the uh the um website Etc that's keeping track of the totals tonight so big thank you to them we have two special guests here in our studio uh Miriam lankery is The Clinical Director of amuddin welcome to the show and devorah pelman is CFO of hamudham you must be thrilled when you see the four million dollar figure up there on the screen I am thrilled and I'm going to be even more thrilled when we hit our five million dollars Amen to that uh Miriam we'll start with you a Clinical Director ramudin means that you are overseeing I would guess thousands of cases that are that are coming across your desk that you are then directing to the right place uh what does that experience like when a new case arrives at amuda that's a great question first of all I want to thank you for being here thank you your your your voice your name your brand is synonymous with great Jewish causes appreciate it so I wanna I really just want to thank you and it means a lot from to be part of that thank you group uh so when a case comes into a mudim it's where each case manager receives this new case and they they they deal with it it's a whole new world they have to get to know the person who's calling whether it's the identified client or somebody who's calling on their behalf and get to know their whole system how do they live what's their reality like uh what are the things that they're struggling with I mean everybody for the past almost 36 hours has been hearing about addiction and abuse and mental health issues there's so much more there's there's poverty there's kids who are struggling in school so many other things that factor in to the the whole system that the case manager may have to deal with so the case manager approaches this new case this new client this new family system with a big heart a lot of curiosity and authenticity and big deep desire to help and starts to ask all the right questions and figure out how do we tackle this new case a case manager has to immerse themselves in the case and sometimes it's hard to do that right I mean you're it could be overwhelming it is sometimes very overwhelming uh I'm fortunate now to work with two case manager supervisors who will help give each case manager we have at least 20 case managers at this point supervision directly on the case I will sometimes supervise the case manager supervisors or the case managers themselves because in supervision there's two different aspects right there's supervising the case you know which Clinic to go to which therapist to see which rehab what what protocol what modality of treatment and then there's also supervising the actual case manager the case manager supervisor what are they going through in this process how hard is it for them to absorb all of the things and then go home and be you know a good sibling spouse a good regular person a good regular person who's not dealing with these crises exactly devorah it must be very challenging to uh to organize and keep organized a financial structure like I'm with them we're talking about an incredible amount of money thank God that comes in from people who like like our our listeners and viewers right now uh you have a tremendous responsibility to make sure everything is you know utilized to the best potential I mean what's it like to be at the helm of that whole system we're constantly having to prioritize um you know given our limited resources prioritize what programs come first prioritize what our clients need you know unfortunately we have such a huge huge need we have so many clients who need help and um you know our focus is always to make sure that we have um our you know that are we have the right staff you know Maria mentioned our case management division that's one of our you know the the highlights of amudim um we're working on so many other programs I know it's Facebook about our our school-based programs which um you know was really really the key to our prevention that we're working on but every time something like this is introduced you have to weigh in whether this is something practical for the organization right um it's not always practical and we do it anyways sometimes really necessary exactly exactly um and we're hoping tonight that we're able to continue to fund these programs and continue to help our clients who reach out to us um there's really you know there's there's so many needs that come up I think you would join me in telling everybody who's watching right now that the more money I moved them has the more they can do for the community it really is as simple as that it's the more we could do for schools the more we could do for your communities for your families there's there's such a such a great need at this time and so yeah we're really asking everybody to to like to be said please don't wait for the last minute help us now help us reach our Finish Line and even get to our bonus round if we can yes and um you're rooting for the bonus room yes I am yes I am um there's there's so much that amudham has the potential to give to give our communities don't let the funds be the bottleneck that holds a back we have such such an amazing staff Miriam and three um and the darkenu team we have such incredible people who have the ability to give so much to our community and so we want to help give them the support that they need to get these programs out and to get them far-reaching in our community Devora Pellman is CFO of ahmudim you can imagine the responsibility that she feels and you hear how every time you give it increases the potential for ahmudum to help all the people around the world with their amazing work and Mary melanchery is The Clinical Director of ahmudim dealing with all these cases on a day-to-day basis and supervising people who are really immersed in every single situation please in honor of these two wonderful ladies and in honor of the great organization give as generously as possible as amudum continues to march on toward the goal we're almost at 4.1 million and we need this to be a success by hitting the five million dollar goal a big thank you to both Miriam and devorah thank you for joining us and I now have for our viewing pleasure we don't have the viewing pleasure yet okay well in that case we'll remind everybody that we are getting toward the goal and we hope that everybody out there is going to be as generous as possible now I am told that um we have a segment entitled from the ahmudim of the duff from the ahmudum of the daf think of the double language there and yasi green performing a tribute to those who study dafyomi here it is at unite2heal.com foreign [Music] foreign [Music] someone needs to him [Music] sometimes [Music] show my future [Music] all the times [Music] there's nothing [Music] it is [Music] foreign [Music] tomato ES [Music] come along is [Music] foreign [Music] families [Applause] [Music] peace [Music] foreign [Music] just another amazing video just another great presentation thank you so much to everybody responsible for that one I want to tell you something the entertainment the inspiration the education that we've been getting over the last 36 hour live stream has been unbelievable everybody out there if you have not yet donated now is the time we're encourage everybody not to wait any longer donate now and make an impact every time you give a dollar it's quadrupled every dollar is really worth four dollars right now at unitedheal.com and tell your friends and relatives around the world to do the same Esther Goldstein is with us welcome Esther she's founder of Integrative Psychotherapy uh she's a trauma therapist an educator a pleasure to welcome you to the live stream yeah I'm really excited to be here thank you very much yeah do people recover from trauma do they recover okay well then we have to Define what recovery means so I think that when we talk about trauma well first I want to just say something because I keep hearing about like send the money in send the money in I can walk around saying guys send money in but from within like please do one of the things that happens well we'll talk about recovery is that when you have the right kind of support and there's conversations um that are happening in the community then people heal and recover a whole lot more and a whole lot quicker so if anyone has the capacity to support or share this in any kind of way I'm jumping on that bandwagon my son kept saying mommy when are you donating I said I like waiting for the last the minute he's like no you're gonna write it time he was like watching it so recovery what I would Define as recovery is that the person has the capacity to function and to enjoy their day-to-day life in a way that they're meant to when people go through trauma or pain or suffering or they're suffering in silence or they have so much shame and they don't reach out for help then it takes them a much longer time to recover or they have symptoms for a very very long time or for a lot of their life so people say oh can you get rid of a memory I actually was in a training today and they talk about like can you get rid of trauma so it's not a matter of wiping out your memory but it is a matter of reducing people's symptoms so they can actually like have the energy and capacity to do the things that we're meant to do in this thing called life life is meant to be beautiful right someone walks into your practice yeah and they introduce the situation to you that they're in are you able to in your own mind judge how long this is going to take or you know what a person like this has to go through in order to get to the point that you're describing really good question um we have our practice manager and people say like could I heal this in three sessions or like am I paying your mortgage and she's like first of all you're not paying any of our mortgages like our goal is to get you out of therapy and into life right like we want to help you build wings and fly um usually between the first one to three sessions of a skilled therapist is going to know okay this could take a few months or this might be a little bit more complex um so yes but any good therapist says I can't promise you how long this is going to take not because a third well a good therapist of good professional Integrity doesn't want you on their couch forever if there's complexity there and I want to talk about amudim and the way that community supports can help heal then there's ways to reduce that and to help people have like really good treatment so they could actually engage in the treatment and then actually drop down and then live their lives the thing of it on medium is this actually amudim has been a community resource for so many of our clients um we have right now seven eight staff we're actually going out tonight for dinner because I think that a sense of community is so important for clients but also for therapists and when I think more Global and that's why we have like our time where we support each other and I think when it comes time we've been one of the important things is I think about their Global impact of somebody is alone at night or feeling overwhelmed or is doing a Google search or texting their friend you want to know the person needs to know there's a community there's conversation about these things these struggles you're not crazy whoever's listening if you have a struggle or there's someone in your family or you have an issue you're not crazy you're not alone I hope that these conversations can open your mind and I hope that all of us even if somebody's not struggling just reduce the shame and the isolation around mental health struggles because that's a huge piece you're asking about recovery if I see in someone's presentation that they have good family support or a community where they acknowledge mental health struggles that person's symptoms and their feeling of isolation or shame will reduce immeasurably and that means they'll show up to certain community events go to school because there's less judgment um than than shame and with shame just to talk about shame what happens when people feel ashamed is either three things they either move towards people they move against people like I don't want to be with you or they move away from people and what we want to do is help people move towards people because when we have other people we're not pushing away against you we're not pulling away but we are joining together as a community then people can actually heal incredibly quicker so yeah so we don't realize how important we are as a support group even if we don't have an art related to that person or don't affiliate with them very often just being part of the community we have a big effect on them just being part of the community and being part of these conversations can be a huge piece of people's healing yeah uh is it uh is it um frustrating when you see the progress in the person you're working with and they just don't realize how far they've come over the last few weeks or months I love that question Graham training trauma therapists and I put in the first module outcomes conversations and basically outcomes conversation is all a matter of therapists and clients starting to more regularly track their progress what's your therapy goal and what what's your progress now the point is not to say oh you're moving along quicker but what happens is that there's something called a negativity bias and we lean towards what's not working then what is working right like oh I still want this I still want this and one of the big pieces in good therapy actually is like excuse me ma'am today we're going to notice how you showed up or how you were more present or how you didn't reach for that bottle of alcohol we're going to notice that so part of tracking progress and little shifts is a huge piece so I think it's only frustrating if the client's also not celebrating because we need them to be energized well the system you just described gives them the chance to celebrate gives them a chance to understand that their eyes need to be open for the progress that they've made and look at it and see it yeah Esther Goldstein joins me and everybody here at ahmudim asking you to be as generous as possible let hurt others continue to help people who are in difficult situations right now unite2heal.com the 81 percent of the goal the big number is at 4.06 million let's keep it going until we hit 5 million and Beyond thanks so much for joining us tonight I remind everybody to keep it coming every dollar you give is quadrupled every single dollar you give is quadrupled please please please be as generous as you can please please please encourage your friends and relatives everybody to give right now A unite2heal.com we have a uh special guest with us live via Zoom uh I am told that Chaya kogan Chaya kogan is joining us live via Zoom a singer and songwriter who has spent months working on an amazing and Powerful song now I do remind everybody that we who are familiar with this presentation and the work of amudim we know that music has a very important role to inspire people to go and get help we know this from past experience kayak Hogan has written a uh an amazing powerful song it's entitled Battle Cry and she is with us live via Zoom from Israel a pleasure to welcome you to unite the heel thanks for joining us thank you for having me tell us the background of this song of going ahead and creating something that's important to you and now no doubt after it's presented will be important to a lot of people who are watching right so almost a year ago I reached out to my followers on Instagram and I told them I was working on some new music and I asked them if there's any certain topic that they would want me to write about um and the answer's really shocked me 90 of the answers were mental illness I mean I know a lot of people struggle with it and I never ever thought that I'd be asked to write a song about it but I understood that so many people you know have that need so I did my research and I sat down and I wrote a song called Battle Cry um no I don't have any lyrics in front of me but the title of the song is certainly intriguing is is this a Battle Cry is this what someone needs to do for themselves or toward others in order to start to get results in this area so I wanted to create kind of like a fight song which on the one hand is very realistic and it does talk about the struggle um not putting fairy dust over everything and saying yeah it's all going to be okay you know hashem's with you I mean hashem's with us always but people struggle with this daily and it is you know an ongoing battle for a lot of people it's a struggle you know and and they have to get the therapy they need and the support and you know it it's a battle claia how long did it take to create this song is this one of those you know one afternoon and it all just came flowing out or is this a months-long project well in the beginning it did start flowing out but then you know you always go back and and make it better and better um but it did take a full year to you know come to to what it is today wow a full year that's pretty remarkable I mentioned earlier how many of us are familiar with just how powerful music can be uh just how a song can really be life-changing I mean do you anticipate that there'll be people listening to this song Who literally are going to be able to undertake that Battle Cry are going to be able to you know get out there and get themselves the help they need that's the goal I wish um I really hope that this song will help women and Empower them and give them that extra strength that they need even I mean I'm sure that from Woman to Woman it will change you know one woman will help her get out of bed that day maybe another woman would help her to get the therapy she needs um that if I could just help in any way with the song then I've done my part I don't have the lyrics in front of me but there must be a line I don't want to put you on the spot but I'm assuming it's great songwriters like yourself there's always a line a Twist a quote from the song that really punches the point home is there one we should be looking forward to when we watch this video uh there are a few lines like that um one of them would be um my scars are proof I'm living or wow that's powerful I'm just letting today I'm gonna make my life a life worth living which actually I found out only after I read the song but that was um something that our modern put out not long ago I mean sometime before um literally that line and I put it in the song without knowing so I guess I was supposed to come together people the 100 there's there's unity in that and the fact that uh uh you went ahead and really hit on such an important point which as you point out others have done before but boy does have to be reiterated repeated for so many people so it's driven home and they're able to go ahead and undertake that Battle Cry that you write about uh okay everybody we are going to go to this video uh obviously those of you who are uh sensitive to the fact that it's a a woman performing you can join us or rejoin us I should say in just a few minutes uh but this is a very powerful video and song and again in the opinion of those who have produced this event it's going to be another one of those selections that's going to be life-changing for so many people especially women out there in the audience Kaya I want to say thank you to you on behalf of a lot of people that know that are going to be getting a lot of strength and a lot of help because of the song that you created and that we're now going to present I love the show I hope so it's called Battle Cry everybody here it is barely can't sleep and all stays I feel like I'm losing the control I barely had it so too much and so confusing they say it can get a lot better in my heart but I can make it work so I'm deciding today [Music] is my Battle Cry [Music] this is my Battle Cry foreign [Music] not going my community will catch me where going down and this is my battle it's a journey and sometimes [Music] up Olympians never feeling all my dreams [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you [Music] foreign board we're at 4.09 million dollars which means 81 percent of our goal has been achieved we have a little bit of time left till 9 pm Eastern Time to get to that 5 million dollar goal and we're asking everybody out there to please help ahmudin help everybody that I moved them continue their amazing work on behalf of families young adults children everybody in our community who benefits from their great work please and every time you give you have an amazing impact quadrupling every single dollar that you contribute so if you're giving a hundred dollars it's really a 400 dollar donation again a 100 donation is really A four hundred dollar donation we're 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moment we're at 81 percent of our goal everybody out there has already given thank you thank you so much for making this a success so far we want this to be a success at the end of this evening if you want to look back and say wow what a great success this has been please we need your help everybody out there who has not yet given or if you know people haven't given encourage them to give and you yourself you haven't given please give it unite2heal.com unite2heal.com and our studio is Lizzie savetsky television star social media influencer and here tonight to talk about the amazing work of amudim a pleasure to welcome you to the show it's an honor to be here and it's great to see you again appreciate that we're uh making a habit of getting together for good causes thank God that's great yeah exactly everyone thinks that when someone like yourself seems to be enjoying the good life and has this incredible career and the unbelievable influence you have is just incredible and wonderful uh everyone thinks it's all Rosy and it's all wonderful can you tell our audience that it doesn't always it's not always what it appears to be I think particularly in this time that we're in where social media has really taken over so much of our brains and so much of people's lives we pers what we perceive is not necessarily reality and this has been my own personal experience and I'm somebody who has always prided myself on my transparency and my vulnerability and being open with my audience but there was a part of my life a big part of my life that even they didn't know about and um you know I think so much of the topics that we're talking about in this 36 hour live stream have such a stigma around them you know abuse mental health addiction for some reason we feel like we they come with a lot of Shame and um and so you know even if I thought I was being open there was still a part of me that subconsciously wanted to hide these things from the world because I felt like they were bad and also if I admitted it to the world then I would have to admit it to myself and so part of my what I was putting out there to the world was this I'm okay I'm good even though inside I was crumbling I didn't want the world to know because I didn't want to know myself just how bad it was when one is crumbling what do they do how do they uncrumble how do they make progress in a positive manner I you know I remember when I decided that I wanted to stop drinking and um I was so embarrassed about the idea of reaching out for help you know it's funny we're not embarrassed to you know get tipsy or even more than Tipsy and you know be a little sloppy here and there Purim or Shabbat dinner whatever it is but we're embarrassed to reach out for help and so I don't know what that says about our society or our culture and I think particularly in the Jewish Community you know we have this image that we want to uphold that we want to put our best foot forward that we don't want to show weakness but when you reach out for help it's really the opposite of weakness it's showing strength and so the first step is to ask for help and um I know with every challenge that I've gone through in my life and I've been through many even though you know my life may appear very shiny and beautiful to somebody who doesn't know me you know I've been through a pregnancy loss I've been through addiction I've been through my own mental health challenges and I would not have been able to get through any of those things and to work through them because it is a constant progress without help and without support because I think our tendency is to just build this bubble of isolation around ourselves um when we're going through a hard time instead of looking outward what would you say to someone watching right now who's been hesitating to reach out for help I would say that you are worth it and your life is worth it and if you don't take that moment that fleeting moment of desperation and turn it into an opportunity to Pivot and turn your life around it could just pass you by and so if there is something inside of you that is saying I I know that I'm worth it and I wanna start fresh then you have to seize that opportunity and don't wait you might add on your family's worth it as well because it does seem based on what I've seen in your posts Etc that you have a very supportive family can I assume that they were a very important part of all of this you know what's funny I think that when you're struggling with for me in particular when you're struggling with addiction it's it almost has to be a solo Mission and I think that your family can be there for you to um to be a shoulder to lean on but it has to come from inside you and I think that you know on some level my family knew that I was struggling for a long time with the disease of addiction for me it was alcoholism but it wasn't until I made that decision that I was really able to make a change and I remember in the very beginning saying to them um I don't want the pressure coming from you and coming from the outside and I I know that I want to be accountable for to myself but I don't want the pressure of what if I relapse or what if you know this isn't a completely straight path because it never is I knew that it had to be my own journey and yes my family is definitely a huge part of my motivation to stay healthy and to keep the work up but um I don't you know I think there are plenty of people out there who are struggling who don't necessarily have that family and support system and I think that's why it's so important that an organization like this exists but when did you first hear about this what was your do you have any experience I I have never worked with them personally and I wish that I had known about them when I was going through my own struggles because it is such a lonely thing to go through and you do feel like you're the only person in the world that's ever gone through it when you're in that dark place and so to just know that there's a resource out there and that you don't have to suffer alone is is a huge thing and you know I'm glad to be able to bring awareness to other people out there that are maybe like me that didn't know about it right A lot of people for good reason look up to you many people want to be like you as the expression goes these days Lord help them so and again they may feel like you know you've got it all and you're living the the best life possible I think it's such an important message that you hear tonight saying that don't believe all the perceptions and certainly don't believe your own perceptions about someone like yourself everyone's got their struggles everyone's got their thing everyone's got their you know the stuff they're going through that they would probably you know that they would probably not give up if they were offered to switch with somebody else as the expression always goes so people need to realize that uh this everyone's got a lot of things going on and this Revelation and I don't know to what extent this is a revelation because I don't know if you've ever discussed this before with your followers Etc you alluded to earlier that you know something you kept us a secret for a long time this Revelation is really important to people that they see that you know somebody who is as with it as you are can go through a really tough struggle and I think I um I really worried about sharing because in the same way that I just told you about how um I this is a solo mission in a sense um the the pressure of feeling like I don't want to let anyone around me down was part of what drove me to drink and so to then compound that with the pressure of now oh I'm like I don't I didn't want to be like the poster child for a sober woman because um you know I'm just a human being who's fighting a daily battle and um you know I wake up every day and I thank God for um you know keeping me sober and for the opportunity to um to share with other people that are going through similar things and to have the support system but it's not a guarantee and it's not a given and the only reason that I have decided to talk about it and to open up about it is because if I had known that there was somebody out there like me it would have maybe made my decision to get help a little bit easier a lot of people don't conjecture that this is a problem that's common with young women frankly yeah you think of alcoholism you think about men and you know people white man's disease exactly yeah and uh and and just the fact that right now there are probably some young ladies who are struggling with this or might be on the verge of struggling with this and hearing you give this type of encouragement to fight this daily battle is amazing and the fact that you call it a daily battle you wake up each morning I'm not worried about tomorrow I'm not worried about next week I'm not worried about whether I'll be sober a year from now I want to make sure to make it through the day in the best way possible and I remember when I was first starting to get sober and I was all I could think about was that you know the Jewish holidays so much of our religion revolves around drinking and if you're triggered by you know it's a Passover state or whatever whatever it is it can be it can be a really hard thing as an orthodox Jew to take this on but what I realize advised was that I would I can't think that far ahead because the things that I think are going to be hard don't usually turn out to be hard you know at the Passover seder I'm very happy to have my grape juice everyone else is falling asleep at the table but then there are other moments that sneak up on me and so that's why it's so important to just take it one day at a time you know one one little 24-hour chapter at a time and sometimes frankly one hour at a time because um you know there have been I've just been to to be very open I've just been through a really challenging chapter in my life this past month has been one of the hardest that I've gone through and I remember when I was first um not drinking and hearing from other people in recovery that I had talked to about hard things in their life that they had gone through deaths divorce all sorts of you know cancer diagnoses and that they had stayed sober throughout them and I just couldn't imagine that I'm like how do you get through these things without the escape and so to be able to now be going through something hard and have support from an organization like amudim or you know people are a support system around you is what really what carries you through these hard times and instead of just drowning your problems you're really coping with them as hard and as painful as it is you're facing it and that takes a lot of strength and I know that I I will have grown a lot through this just by not avoiding it or drowning it out yeah taking it head-on or facing it head on I should say that's the best way only because there are people who will be upset if I don't use the opportunity to ask you are you content with the recent decisions you've made regarding your television career you know I think that it's a very hard time in the world right now and so to say that I'm content would be a lie because I have a lot of fear and I have um but I'm also motivated by that fear um you know I never knew how dark it could be to be a Jew in America in 2022 and I've been shocked by the amount of hate that's come my way but type of Target you've become exactly I never saw it coming maybe I was naive but I know that um I am on a better path for me now I just you know I'm grieving what I thought it could be right um well it's our chance now during the last minute or so of this conversation to really encourage people out there to support I move them you have been outspoken over the last few minutes how if only you knew about this organization you know would have helped you and other people in this type of situation even more uh you've made a remarkable progress thank God how long has this how long has the positive part of the battle been is this month long more than a year I had my I was just speaking to somebody in the Green Room about this I had my last drink on July 31st 2021 oh wow and six and a half a year and a half that's quite a victory it feels um it feels very long and very short all at the same time it's like you know having children and um but you know it's really the day that my life began and I know that sounds so corny and so you know it's cliche to say but that's that's really how it feels like it really was a rebirth for me and um you know if I could just say one thing about about the importance of giving to an organization like this you know there are so many people out there that are struggling and you would never know they have a facade um you know most of the people out there are are not wearing it on their sleeve and you never know when it could just the the floor could fall out from underneath them and you know we're talking about parents we're talking about people that a lot of people are dependent on and so they need help and support and I think just the the idea that there's an awareness that there is help out there and that you don't have to suffer and you certainly do not have to recover alone and there is an amazing family out there waiting for you um if you if you have the courage to seek it out and so you know if there if there's any cause that I could support it's definitely one to to help people on this path I applaud you for what you've said what you've revealed what you've shared with us tonight thank you so much Lizzy savitsky and I are encouraging everybody out there to support amudim and do so as generously as possible right now at unite2heal.com 4.15 5 million that's a great number we want to get to the 5 million dollar goal I thank you again for joining us tonight thank you so much and now we have a very special presentation simcha leiner has prepared a video entitled eyes of glass specifically for us here at amudim simcha liner at unite to heal [Music] foreign [Music] I keep it in its place [Music] we get to be ourselves no filters on release [Music] judgments can't become [Music] show me who you are you hold inside we all have Battle Scars Ours from the things we try to hide [Music] all his plan no need to feel alone [Music] to keep the status quo no one has to know we get to be ourselves [Music] we all have Battle Scars from the things we try to have [Music] stories [Music] let go of your face [Music] you face me I'll face you too I have stories [Music] foreign [Music] what's it like being at 84 of our goal we can tell you but that's exactly where we're at 84 percent of our five million dollar original goal for tonight please please help us move forward and keep on moving them rolling with Incredible programs with great assistance for families young adults kids everybody out there who benefits from the 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can give to their local community the services that are needed so please it's now an international cause and it needs your support unite2heal.com b as generous as possible Elisa tropper is here she is a therapist who works with adolescents and adults who are struggling with anxiety depression trauma emotion regulation and Elisa tropper welcome to the show Hello thank you it's an honor to be here appreciate that a lot of people are dealing with anxiety issues these days huh yeah it's I can't the numbers are just insurmountable you know they say one one in every four adults is struggling with an anxiety disorder that's a pretty startling statistic to say the least yeah and anxiety is a I assume especially for a professional like you is a big area do we know specifically what the largest number of people in our community are suffering from when it comes to anxieties or specific symptom or cause or situation that's leading to all this anxiety in our community I mean there's so much there's so many factors I mean just even think about it for a minute you're sitting down to fill out a paper do some you know paperwork and in 30 seconds your phone dings the next second an email comes in from your computer and then the microwave goes off and says your food is ready I mean how could we not be overwhelmed in a world where there's so many distractions it's so hard to be present so I think today's culture and Society is is creating this you know there's a there's just so much and on top you know you want me to keep going to say we don't realize the stress that we're about to hurt right exactly we're going through what you just described everybody's going yeah right now we're going through this right young adult tried to juggle all of this and you didn't even mention Financial concerns uh what we are worried about regarding our children their education we've got to have the money for a minute just their education in general and the programs we'd like them to get into it's I mean it just it piles up into one big mountain there's it's so much there's the regular just worries of society and then on top of that you know we live in a culture where it's so there's these unrealistic expectations that are being shown to adolescents to adults just you know around the media and it's that creates a lot of anxiety it's so overwhelming and that's because people then go ahead and question their own self-worth or their own ability to be like that athlete or actor or actress or celebrity Etc right it's a tough thing to put on our kids frankly it's really it's it's a really hard time to be you know so how do professionals like you deal with these issues what what can you possibly do or introduce into the lives of average people in our community that helps with all of this I mean there's so much um just helping clients like I think at this point you know it's a lot about managing anxiety and understanding how our thoughts feelings emotions are connected and impact you know ourselves just understanding our triggers understanding you know self-awareness of what how we feel and how we're thinking and what we're doing and you know just helping clients see that we live in a world with so much uncertainty and I think we're and I think because of that you know people are so much trying to get certainty when that doesn't exist we're obsessed with trying to get certainty I mean think about it the news right it's all about predicting the weather and the future the Super Bowl all these things when when we're so obsessed with things being certain and things are so uncertain then of course we're going to be anxious so I think helping clients and helping human as us you know everyone learning to live with uncertainty so you're basically telling a lot of young adults and adults sort of this is normal sort of like you know what you're going through is the way things are today yeah yes there's definitely we all struggle with anxiety at certain points right it's a feeling if we're going through a stressful event but on top of that there's there's then then there's times where anxiety really impacts people in a much greater way where it really starts to impact their functioning their sleep their eating and that's where you know we're looking at people who need maybe extra help but overall I think that everyone at some point in their life is probably going to speak to someone um and that's okay and I think that's what really amudim is they're destigmatizing that that it's okay to ask for help and they're normalizing that and I think that is so important people know I'm not alone not alone in this like right now you know you said to me like oh so this is normal and that's exactly what I'm doing my thing is trying is doing is showing that that it's okay to ask for help it's okay to struggle and you know so that but I think because of all these factors this is why people are struggling but the point that you just made about how all this can affect someone's physical being yeah that is such a key it literally can eat away at your life your physical existence because of everything that's going through obviously someone that's situation really needs to reach out to get help I'm not minimizing those who have not gotten to that stage yet but what you just described in terms of affecting someone's physical being they need to know that they have to whether it's a mudim or someone else who could help them they've got to reach out and get that help and we fit it's we physically feel our emotions in our body and I think that this is part of what people are struggling with is that they think that they shouldn't feel uncomfortable they think that we shouldn't have emotions and because of that this leads to a lot of anxiety but understanding that of course we're going to have emotions of course we're going to go through life experiencing all sorts of emotions and that's okay and I think that the more we learn to tolerate being uncomfortable the more we learn to tolerate to stress then that really helps us manage our lives and helps us really manage anxiety avoidance of sensations of emotions causes general anxiety disorder and I think that that's part of the work that we learn to be doing therapy and I think we all need to know is that it's okay to feel sad it's okay to be upset and I think that the culture though doesn't give that message the culture gives this message of course things needs to be perfect and I think this is what we're getting one message from our culture but then That's not how reality works it's not how human beings work we need emotions to tell us things and I think because of that we're like all over the place you know this is what causes emotion dysregulation well I was going to ask a Lisa tropper to help me pitch for ahmudin but frankly this conversation was one amazing pitch for Ahmed and those of you out there who know that there are people in the community who suffer from this tremendous stress and anxiety and depression to an extent as well some people in very serious situations they need to be able to reach out and ahmuda needs to be there for them when they do reach out so please join Eliza Trapper and me in supporting ahmuda and doing what we can for the organization right now unite2heal.com be as generous as possible and elizae thank you for joining us tonight thank you more coming up we have a special message from this is the video that describes the qualities of a case manager what they go through in a positive manner on a daily basis here it is at unite to heal the qualities of a case manager are very special very unique we need somebody with obviously tremendous amounts of intelligence and insight into psychology addiction abuse mental health issues but also tremendous amounts of compassion empathy in understanding that they're meeting people at their most vulnerable probably the weakest darkest moments of their life at Muslim staff they are smart they're really wise well trained they have clinical training none of them are doing this job for Prestige or money they're doing it because they really love what they do and they really really want to help and better our society you need to be somebody who's empathetic somebody who's a good listener you also have to have like a tough love sometimes I guess organized also because we have hundreds and hundreds of clients and not all of them call like to check in you we have to keep track of who we didn't speak with who we did speak with but I do think that support is probably the number one thing that a case manager needs we have supervisors we have Clinical Director we have this fee when you're calling our moodsam and you get a case manager you're not just receiving that case managers expertise you're receiving a whole team's knowledge resources ideas everybody kind of works differently and we all can bounce ideas off of each other off of our supervisors we have supervision meetings and we have the camaraderie where we're always throwing out ideas how can I help you help her help this so the abutum case managers when they've set their mind to getting something done they'll turn over the world they'll call if they hear that there's a specific rehab that might be a place they've never heard of before but might be the right place for their client they're on the phone they're making calls they're doing whatever they can to make this work the the care that they call me with it's like they're calling for a relative when their client hears the answer that will be helpful to them the caseworker is just as happy as the client is and they really they they have really they're seeing things going and they I see how they celebrate the way things are moving forward but I also see how they worry when things aren't going right and how they're in touch when things aren't going okay waking up and hearing the things that you hear can be very difficult and they're all we're all here for each other there's a lot of peer support that goes on we have a strong team and we rely on each other and we also feel really strongly and this keeps us going we feel strongly that we're helping and I believe we are I feel very blessed that I get to work with such a unique team my case manager my case manager supervisors even the person who is that first phone call into the office are all exceptional people and they don't give up they really they do not give up on the clients and it's it's truly inspiring I'm odd and the people are here choosing to be here because they really care about this mission foreign [Music] 86 of our goal how amazing is that it is really amazing but would be even more amazing is we've got the other 14 let's get there as quickly as possible 4.3 million we're over 4.3 million we're on our way to 5 million we need your help to get there unite to heal spread the word everybody get everybody you know to donate to I move them and how important a cause it is Avi steingard is here psychotherapist social worker specializing in addiction depression and anxiety Avi welcome to the show thank you for having me nice to have you here Isaac Hellman is here also social workers specializing in addiction and depression I moved in refers cases to both of these gentlemen Isaac welcome to the show as well thanks um well the two of you could certainly address some of the concerns that are going on in our community and Avi will start with you um as much as ahmudim does and as many cases they send your way and the way of other Professionals in this field I would imagine that if they had the resources they'd be able to send even more people to professionals like yourself how rampant are these situations in our community well Isaac and I are getting calls almost every day that we're trying to connect it's a two-way relationship with ahmud and mahmudim calls us but we're often calling case managers at amudim to get help with where we could put connect people who are calling us even if it's family members just last week I had a call with uh Sarah Kagan to speak with her about a family member connecting a family member of mine with the case manager it's you know it's it's non-stop whether it's finding resources for financing or the proper therapist or a program for someone we're always trying to find someone Isaac will you trained for this was it much different then has it accelerated like crazy from that period of time that's a good question I don't think you're ever trained for this I think it's something that we're constantly learning and I think that you know I I question what we did before I moved them um just like for example project Hill and of the Wine Garden and you know what they've done for victims or survivors of sexual abuse to me it's it's it's not even a question Abby and I are here not just for ourselves but for support of this place on Lutheran which has done so much for the Jewish Community I don't know what we did before that it's interesting how for so many years certainly when I was growing up the the impression or the Assumption was that these types of situations do not exist in our community and we've gotten to a point Thank God where it's out in the open I don't know is it out in the open to the extent that it should be it's it's definitely in the community that that we work in I think it's uh definitely more seen but I work in some communities where it's not uh it's not as visible there's still work to do getting the message out to realize you know Rob on him and and Community leaders to really understand to take this seriously um I think we therapists like you said we weren't trained to expect all of this but we're definitely seeing it every single day right there are some patients clients that you could spend a tremendous amount of time with where the struggle or the um the process for them is just you could take I assume months or years right absolutely and I think one of the benefits that we've experienced and I speak about myself of working with them with them is having that type of case manager I can tell you that there are clients I've worked with for three four years that I'm still talking to the case manager whether it be Miriam langri whether it be um Susie naftali there are so many really really you know the case managers are almost that that missing piece because we can only do so much if we meet for an hour a week we meet twice a week whatever it might be but that extra piece of support and it's not always therapy sometimes people just need more you know I'm going to ask both of you this question because SV and I speak luck concentrated on this point both yesterday when we started the live stream and earlier tonight I don't know how you are able to end your day after having been inundated with all the problems that are going on in our community because when you see clients really all of the difficulties in our community are encapsulated and these individuals that you're working with right are there victories are there is there tremendous progress that's made on a regular basis that keeps you going in a positive manner for sure for sure I mean Isaac and I are our business partners we we have a very similar style and we're very out of the box working with clients I'll go to clients uh if they're simchas like if they're getting married oh that's nice you know I work with a client for three four years and you know we finished a year later it'll text me for his address and say you know can you come come to my wedding and if you see that success that Victory Isaac what do you think I think the victories are there I think it's are we willing to see them and I think are people willing to invest in them because I think at the same time there are also the stories that are negative and there are stories where people relapse or people fall back to negative behaviors but I think that the victories are on a daily basis and I think for every step that someone's willing to be brave and kind of face those demons and face those traumas I think that Victory is there every day anything shock you at this point anymore or you've seen it all as the expression goes um definitely see seen a lot but there's always you know someone new coming in a new a new person um that are you surprised that so many clients are the I would have to assume this is true and you'll tell me if I'm right but it would seem to me that the the age of the clients continues to get lower and lower is there more intervention necessary because there are kids in really challenging situations these days I I think the exciting thing is that we're addressing it with with kids and so kids are coming in you know earlier if there's uh and their parents recognize the problem yeah his parents are the problem I get it you know but parents recognizing that it's a it's a problem you know as opposed to like you know hopefully they won't do anything hopefully you know things will be addressed um so recognizing that you know people need help help I think a lot of that is just because organizations like the structure of amudim is tremendous is a tremendous benefit to our community we talk about offices worldwide Etc and that's all wonderful but the the nuts and bolts of what they do on a daily basis in all of these places is what's really keeping the organization at the Forefront uh it's there what seems to me this this organized effort they have uh the case managers as you described and following up on on everybody whenever necessary no matter what age they may be if it's a family it's an individual Etc that whole structure that whole system just seems to be working so well yeah that or or you know having uh speeches in the neighborhood in all different neighborhoods to really promote it I've seen even just after some of the videos that move them is dumb I'll get calls and be like my son had a drink this job it says he an alcoholic and I'm like no that's okay you know you should maybe monitor it but at least there's that awareness now and at least people are talking about it or where in the past you know Jewels would just go on and on and on and people would just let things flow people are paying attention now and I think that's really what we need for our kids is just to be paying attention there are certain unhealthy traditions in our culture that it would be a good idea if they changed it up a bit right it would be a good idea if certain things we're eliminated certain things we're tweaked like sometimes when you keep things the way they are I mean the alcoholism obviously is is what I'm referencing here but there are other situations as well I would think that you know if we would pay more attention to the direction that our culture is going in we'd be a little bit more careful and adjust things accordingly yeah I mean I'm seeing that with uh even even marijuana being right so very good example um casual right in our from Community right whether it's teenagers accessibility or even uh adults when kids are around I'm seeing it a lot more so it's kind of like shifted alcohol plus I don't know if that's the same yeah but from the same token I've seen also with like sexual abuse where in the past it would be sort of kind of pushed under the carpet a little bit so to speak I feel like we're finding the right words to say to people and we're actually encouraging them and as opposed to shaming them and you know dealing with it in a healthier way so yeah we have both sides but I do see a lot of progress there has the explosion in online gambling seeped into our community in a negative fashion that that's that's for sure whether it's in the from Community or or outside where uh both of us are getting calls um pretty regularly um you know I have a teenager who lost a hundred thousand dollars in six months um just you know sports betting yeah and it's so so accessible and I don't even know if I could blame them frankly with with what's happened here it's completely deregulated and the way they bring you in they offer you free money yeah and people are just even young kids and you know especially play Fantasy Football so there's not that much of a jump to Fantasy betting and it gets really really dangerous uh yet another thing we should keep in mind uh as we sit here tonight and address parents and leaders in the community rabbis Etc uh just add that add that to the list of things we need to be concerned about the online gambling the accessibility of gambling via Telephone by by a cell phone more accurately uh is really out of control and these two gentlemen have just um have just confirmed that my thanks to both Avi steingard and um and to Isaac Hellman thank you to both of you I know you both joined me in encouraging everybody to support the great work of ahmud and please everybody as we're now at 4.3 million 4.3 million and 87 percent of our goal I don't think at this time last year during the 36 hour campaign we were close to 87 percent of our goal which is really encouraging and really wonderful but we need everybody out there to step up to to give as much as possible to encourage others to give and keep the work about mood them going all the problems that were described just in this conversation just now are being addressed by amudum on a daily basis we want them to be able to address it for more young people out there and for more families and for more adults the only way to do that is to have the resources to do it so please right now unite2heal.com unite to heal.com B as generous as possible we've got slimy Dax and Dove Dax together in a beautiful slow song medley which we're calling the Dax medley keep on giving it unitetheheel.com foreign [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] enough no more [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] these production [Music] foreign [Applause] [Music] and again [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] I'm always [Music] myself [Music] I'll grow myself [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] dishes [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] here we are in the final hour officially we are in the final hour of this 36 hour live stream we've got to step things up everybody we've done an amazing job until now you've been fantastic but now we really got to step things up because we're at 87 of our goal just under 4.4 million we've got about 600 000 to go to the 5 million dollar goal and it's attainable in this hour we need your help to do it please give and give as generously as possible rejoined by Yami shaster who of course is producing tonight's event our friends at charity bids do an amazing job every single year we've pointed out this is the third year very significant of course in Jewish tradition that's now three years running Kane Year Boo as we like to say I'm I'm sure you're impressed we asked you a couple hours ago about being impressed by these numbers I'm sure you're impressed by this tote board now as well I'll be a lot more impressed in uh 55 minutes from now um when when the 5 million numbers up there hopefully please better be more than that okay it's moving it's moving okay good I like seeing that how it continues to roll forward uh marching onto the goal of five million dollars so so great we're our guests tonight I feel like I feel like I'm interviewing you oh what'd you think of tonight's guess I thought so far everybody's very good job I must say uh we have an interesting video coming up next which we'll talk about in a moment uh But first you know you're somebody who who does not spend the bulk of their time in the New York area we know that I moved them's Capital so to speak is in New York do you feel their reach even if you're living hundreds or thousands of miles away yes um for well number one I feel it because they have been expanding and in recent years they've expanded to Toronto and to Canada and they have quite a big case load there so that's number one but number two is since I became aware of these kinds of issues that amudim helps people with I realized you know once it's in your Consciousness you can't get away from the fact that mental health addiction and abuse are international so it doesn't matter where amudum's office is the issues are everywhere in all of our communities and they're Servicing us all wherever we are earlier we featured the song which again is one of those songs that's going to have a Major Impact uh on people coming forward understanding the struggle they're going through music has an unbelievable way of touching one's heart an incredible way to inspire to entertain and isn't it remarkable how when it comes to such a serious issue a three four minute song can make such a difference absolutely I think um you know I was pushed into as a producer at the beginning of covet I kind of stumbled into this virtual event production space um I didn't exactly know what I was doing but I must tell you that the biggest impact we've made for a bunch of Charities even though we've had amazing programming and amazing speakers has always been the musical there's there's some musical number that we come up with there's some musical angle there's some artists exactly and that's what people connect with it's unbelievable the power of music is real that's why aside from the big messages that are involved in some of the songs that are being presented uh just the interesting Concepts that you've come up with the Partnerships the collaborations the UniQue Ideas we're going to talk about the return home one in a moment because we're going to introduce that to our audience uh it's it feels like every time there's a musical presentation here it's a world debut of something yeah you know what it what I found is like we have amazing the content on this program as it has been the last two years has been incredible very original putting a lot of people together who otherwise you might not see together talk talking about a lot of you know having a lot of tough conversations that aren't really had out in the open the way we're doing it here but I I find that specifically for victims themselves or people within the community who are kind of peripherfully involved it's much easier to listen to a song and interpret it in the way in which it speaks to you as opposed to listening to panel discussion if I listen to a panel discussion and there's a therapist talking about how to raise a teen or how to discipline your child or how to deal with sexual abuse whatever they're saying is what it's like I'm sitting in a classroom so it's great content but it's like you you either agree with it or you don't either identify with it or you don't if I tell you let's again going back to Ellie schwable song from last year stand for you if I tell you how many people gave what they thought the song meant or what they thought the lyrics meant no one spoke to Ellie but everyone had it touched them in a certain way it touched them personally they thought they understood what it is based on their own life experiences and that's the beauty of these musical segments and so many of them and that's why once we saw the power of Ellie's video last year that's why we worked on a few more like that this year whether it be Sim kaliner or kogan or uh or or some of the other ones that we're going to see phenomenal all right speaking of music and the original musical presentations you pointed out to me before we went on the air tonight that yishai Rebo is not known for uh singing in English or for English lyrics in fact he likely doesn't know English well based on what I've heard it has a good number of people who listened to his music and enjoys music don't know Hebrew will so you came up with an idea tell us about it yeah so you know when when Gabi and I Gabby and I and I spend a lot of time putting this event together creating you know what kinds of collaborations we want to see what kind of content we want to see comparing it to the year before what can we do differently what can we do new and one of the things looking back over the past two years was how popular yishai rivo was and what's funny to me is that so many of the people who are obsessed with yishai repo can't even order a slice of pizza in Hebrew or ask a taxi to take them to the hotel so I'm wondering I guess they're connecting to the music because you certainly feel his nashama in it sure there's no question about it there's something you said but he's a python right if you don't understand his lyrics then what are you loving other than the Melodies In His voice and kind of the idea was born we called nachman Salman from the Solomon Brothers and we did this collaboration between Nisha Rebo and the Salman Brothers we had someone very talented write some English lyrics and basically it's not a literal literal translation of yishai ribos song which everybody knows we wanted to find the song of is that kind of connects to the amuda messaging theme of returning home of second chances of forgiveness and we thought this would be a very appropriate song to start with where at least although it's not a literal translation let's at least give people the English lyrics to the song that they should at least try to connect to the song in a different way much as we've seen people do over the past you know couple years phenomenal garbage are responsible for reducing this piece the English lyrics David Olsteen is the gentleman right David Olsen's gentleman responsible for their English lyrics and the concept is as yummy just described yishai rerun the Solomon Brothers take Aisha iribo hit and first time yishai does a song in English keep it coming everybody unite2heal.com keep it coming because as you generously donate the funds we are getting to the goal of five million dollars and the Solomon Brothers here they are at unite to heal foreign [Music] down this road before and I know this danger of ahead recalculate and turn around I'm heading home I'm Homeward Bound no I'm not gonna walk that path no more I know I know it's not too late no my past won't steal my feet you'll be there thumbs wide open no matter what I've done wrong no matter how long I've been down you'll be there to let me back [Music] foreign [Music] alone is that Mercy I know you forgive me so please so please show me the way back home I'm wandering blindly and finally [Music] very soon oh my way back home [Music] yes [Music] find my way back home [Music] wake me up it's time to go been down this road before and I know it's danger Oklahoma [Music] I know I know it's not too late though my past won't steal my feet you'll be there thumbs wide open [Music] I take a look at our tote board and we are at 4.47 million dollars 89 of the 5 million dollar goal for ahmudin we've got about 40 minutes left we want everybody out there to be as generous as possible remember the impact you can have it's a quadruple impact every time you give 180 that's really 720 you have two thousand dollars it's really eight thousand dollars because every donation throughout this campaign is being quadrupled please please give encourage others to do this so to do the same rather I'd unite to heal.com uh Sarah and mosha Frankel are here Moshe is director of gobs boys and they work with amudim Moshe Frankel could you tell us what is gob's boys so gaza's um programming focused a lot on the needs of teenagers are main trip is the summer program and that's our biggest thing that was our original program and the goal really is to build these connections and then follow up with them give them a place to be so belong and it really works well with you know the larger within program is because it allows us to sort of create a real relationship with a real connection and then work in unison with the case managers to provide the resources that are necessary for them to heal and grow and continue and Thrive so if it started as a summers and now 12 months a year so guys is the programming um the summer program is generally four to six weeks and it's a traveling camp we you know on the road the entire time there is no base throughout the year is really about the follow-up and maintaining that connection you know we tell the counselors always before the summer that the real work starts when can't bend so throughout the summer is this intensive program and then throughout the year is shabatonum follow-up being in touch with the guys dealing with their needs deal with the crisis we just came back from I just saw we did a a 10-day trip there to visit the guys that are there to see the different programs see how they're doing we had a shavatone I've seen 25 to 30 guys and then during the course of the week probably so another 75 guys from different years um you know we had somebody who showed up who came with us on a program I think he said 17 years ago I was going to ask how long would this summer program start so we've been doing it for 23 years actually are you amazing and changing lives to say the least someone is there a way to describe a typical youngster that's in this program what they're going through what their family experience is like or what they're lacking in their family experience I guess it's hard to pinpoint you know primarily with the old kids who are coming from that religious background but are um let's say on vacation you know they have whatever struggle it is and I feel like they fit in there's certain things have changed over the years there are more places um four guys now and more programs working with them but certainly when we started there really was nothing and and you know guys look forward all summer all year to the seven months and then throughout the year they really hung out in our home and our family really was part of that larger family um so the kids are really looking looking for something looking to belong um looking to be to be a part and that's what we're really you know striving to do is give them that place that they belong Sarah is it fair to say that to an extent you and your husband are like parents to these kids how would you describe it definitely parents we have plenty of kids that call us Emma Abba get my Shabbos texts every week married someone we have grandchildren um not real ones but not real but that's amazing it is amazing our families really big and we love it to say the least and the summer experience is very intense I mean if you're traveling constantly and there's no real home base it's got to be a unique type of Summer experience yeah it definitely is I mean we talk about um you know uh plant spontaneity and organized chaos you know the idea is we are on the road and the truth is I've had guys I've just had somebody just had his first baby and he said you know I learned so much from Camp being able to just you know throw down and sleep back on the hospital floor and they all look at me why are you sleeping on the other room or the car no we just learned to whatever we have and that's where your sort of teach the guys you learn to roll with you learn to be okay with whatever it is and you learn that you really have people in your life so when things are difficult we're in this together whatever we do we do together and you're part of it and we're in it with you wow and and the big thing is is that there's no phones in Camp so teenagers without their phones for four weeks straight As they agreed to those conditions some have a harder time than I imagine it must be a tough adjustment so for today's world it's only gone more and more uh important to maintain that but you know you're talking about guys that are struggling and they're you know often involved with substances and and drinking and get into trouble easy access to stuff now you're on the road for you know over a month no phones no alcohol no drugs the idea is you're in it you're here it's an alternate reality but maybe when they come out they think that the rest of the world is their alternate reality this is this is where they really belong they're really part of it all right motion Sarah uh you have to help me encourage everybody out there to give why would you say that I moved them as a worthy cause for people to support you know I'm with this campaign does two major things one is obviously the financial piece and that's huge it you know what a movement has done in the last few years is just it's just unimaginable in terms of thinking about the way things were 23 years ago we started there really wasn't anybody doing it but I wasn't nobody doing it there's nobody willing to acknowledge that the issues exist and then we want to talk about it it was sort of you know it wasn't the the in Vogue thing to be working with teens it wasn't the involved thing to you know work with abuse nobody wanting to hear about it um and but I wouldn't came on the scene that was really one of the big pushes is that this exists and none of this exists it's real it's present we're going to deal with it so we started the conversation when I look at that board you see that number and it's incredible and it allows I moved them to give people hope to give people resources to give people to return to people their future but more than that number is the amount of donors underneath that when people feel alone and that's such a Hallmark of the issues that a Muslim deals with it's not the issues that people typically want to give to it's not the issue people typically want to come and ask for help mental health abuse addiction these are things we like to say it's your problem it's you know it's a it's a a personality failing you don't and I'm going to say no and not only are we going to deal with it but there's 3 370 people out there that support you stand you recognize it representing a lot of families around the world and you know even a larger group of people and gives them that empowerment more than anything this says you're not alone Sarah what would you say to people out there especially parents who are considering supporting the cause just open your heart and just give give give because it's someone else's child and it takes a community a village to raise a child so if someone else is raising your child then give to that any uh parenting advice are you ever asked by parents what the secret is or what what they should be considering they usually don't or they should be enjoying that they usually don't or anything you ever tell parents that it's a good short tip connection have a meaningful relationship with your child but that doesn't start when they're 15 when they're 16 that starts from the beginning throughout is having conversations at their level when they're one and at their level when they're two and five and ten and fifty find the things that you could connect with build that relationship whatever struggles they go through if they know that that relationship is real and that relationship is firm that's what's going to hold out at the end and they may they may give you challenges that's part of growing up and that's that's them becoming adult that's how they're going to be successful in the in life is because they're going to push those boundaries but if they know you're there for them if they know you care if they know that that relationship is real that that's the greatest thing you can do for your children amazing it sounds simple but uh it's something that parents have to work on that's for sure we're gonna go to the Highlight Reel now uh I want to thank Sarah and mosha Frankel and they join me in encouraging you to help get us to our goal uh do it in honor of gobs boys do it in honor of hamudin do it in honor of someone you love do it in honor of anything but please do it and now is the final hour now is the time to really come forward and be part of this great campaign you've waited till the last minute it's official please and make good on the commitment the support I moved to me if it is at the last minute I glance at the tote board and we're over four and a half million and we're over 90 percent of the goal that last 10 percent may be tough but we're gonna get there we need your help to do so remember every single donation you give right now at unite2heal.com is quadrupled so if you're giving a one thousand dollar donation which is a great donation it's really worth four thousand dollars TAMU then please push us over to goal the clock is ticking it's running we want to make sure by the time we get to nine o'clock Eastern time we are at the five million dollars you know we've been talking about the incredible prior 35 hours of this live stream there was some incredible and wonderful panel discussions a lot of entertaining pieces holy and squares was great we got to have a lot of fun with that game show and so many other things that happened great discussions a lot of entertainment a lot of serious stuff issues of mental health issues that are really serious in our community were addressed we've put together a highlight reel so that you might be encouraged to give and to support amudim just for the 35 prior hours that we provided in terms of entertainment inspiration and education we're going to take a look at the amudim Highlight Reel from this year's unite the heel 2022 and then we're back with more please continue to give and give generously at unite2heal.com thank you Torah is Taurus tools for living it's like there's a mezuzah you're commanded to put one there why to help us before we go out into the world to clarify what Am I Living For to come into my home and stop for a moment and go wait a minute what kind of a home do I want to create if it were not for Shabbat like Joyce said I would be in the penthouse suite of an insane asylum she said you only have two options you either come home then is a myth to be buried in Kevin Israel or you come home as a very old man to kneel down and kiss the lamp I said fine put my name on it and that's what she told the cabinet at the time I've seen over the course of the last 10 years alone and I think people who have been paying attention for longer could probably say the last 20 or 30 years a significant reduction in terms of the stigma around mental health issues winning is when we take away the pain from a victim when we make them feel hurt when we spend money on their rehab when we spend money on the therapy if God can revive the dead but he can certainly revive people who feel that people who feel they have no dream he can do that I made a deal with my wife when we first got married and she knows and be a psychologist that I would never play psychologists with the kids you would leave that uh leave that at the office store there's often this assumption that when people are starting to date they already know all about Tara's mishbacha and that's just not true what do you think of the effort to ban alcohol in our schools I think Rabbi Billet did a big mitza started the trend yeah and it deserves a big yeah for many things that's one of the many things he doesn't he didn't allow any alcohol that's very good A lot of times you get together people in recovery and that the stories you tell are horrible to other people they're frightening I was thinking I was going to do this and they started laughing that's crazy because but it but it's it's helpful because they push us all to be great people and to up our gain in order to be able to figure out how to help them to succeed and how to help them to become incredible adults amazing when you have a child that's struggling academically make time to sit with them sit with their parents figure out strategies to help them to succeed that is your job I had a really good mix I think of religion and real life and um also like I said my mom and dad were always there for me when I needed them and they paid close attention to how I was feeling what is the purpose of life today everybody is haunted by this question the traumatized and anonymous why for what if we can't answer that question we're not stopping the leak everybody else is time that he is he can do something he can do something his neighbor his friends is is familiar he he lives in a place that living he can understand that people needs help and the whole thing about how we control anything the banks the media Hollywood is so insane because if because you know this better than most Jews can't be in agreement on anything there's no way we could control something I would love to bring these anti-semites into a sure board meeting just to see they'd be sitting there going these people can't even control how long the rabbi speaks are you kidding me if the only time we see the Jewish Community is who when they are defending um you know against anti-Semitism um then yeah it does minimize um really how powerful how great how why eyes were rounded and culture that Community really is yes this is for the Jewish people absolutely but this is also for everyone so that this can never we that everyone can never allow this to happen again for the Jewish people yes but also for every other ethnicity as well and race and religion the development directors need to become technology enabled doesn't mean they get replaced it means they get quite frankly up level they get better at their job if they're leveraging technology the right way so in every meeting that you have always think about the other person and think about how this dialogue is going it should not be a monologue if it's a monologue You're Doing It Wrong there was no internet there was no Spotify there was nothing there was no Instagram there was nothing that you could immediately today the minute a song is done it could it could on the other hand there's so much more copying and people downloading and you you make it it's hard to make a living it's an expensive business card today to put out a CD foreign oh [Music] my God [Music] foreign [Music] enjoyed that highlight reel I don't know how you can't enjoy it it really sums up what's been happening over the last 36 hours all the great programming wonderful interviews fantastic musical presentations all the great entertainment inspiration of course the panel discussions and so many serious topics right now we're at 92 percent of our goal over 4.6 million please keep it coming at unitedheal.com Moshe silk is with us he's former honorable assistant secretary for international markets at the United States Department of the treasury a pleasure to welcome you to the show great to be here appreciate that how did you get to know about him and the speed Glock and all the great life-saving work that they do right well I I describe myself as a reforming lawyer I'm not I'm not quite yet reformed now come in prior to the treasury Department I practiced law for 30 years and um I had the great honor and pleasure to run the agudas Israel's pro bono Legal Services Network for 15 years and we had a number of different types of case this is one area of which I took a particular interest was children's cases and I first got to notes V when we we worked together to bring back a uh a child that had been abducted abroad and uh speed Knows No Limits he just gets the job done along with the the greater mudim team amazing uh there are a lot of people out there who may not be familiar with ahmud them certainly not to the to the degree that you are why would you appeal to them to come forward and support our movement this time well ahmudim is a is an organization that that does not know any disciplinary borders it's really I look at it as a crisis response organization and where there's crisis amudim has a role and they deliver success so I really think at the end of the day um it's not it's not just a mental health issue a modem deals with societal issues and they're there when you need them great example was during covid um touched on on everything prior to that during covid people could not get in and out of the country they couldn't move and there were crises for example in Israel and amudim was extraordinarily successful in ensuring that people could move and attend to to important critical Family Matters funerals and whatnot during that time it's a great organization the career directions that you've gone in um it's obvious that you're very familiar with both the Jewish and the secular world it's no secret what the atmosphere is right now here in the United States one of tension when one thinks about the anti-Semitism and some of the statements and actions of celebrities and others when it comes to attitudes toward the Jewish Community as someone who Bridges all these different worlds what's your impression of these and what do you think can be done well frankly I'm I'm scared um we we're at a very uh dangerous inflection point I believe nachem in in this particular area there was just a new article that came out from the New York Times yet again uh and the scope and the tenor of the approach of the attacks that are being waged on our community um is really unprecedented it's unprecedented in scope um unprecedented in uh in tenor and unprecedented in in the approach that they're taking um and I think that our response has to be a concerted one we must push back um we must reinforce positive images of the community and we have to remind people that we are entitled of the same fundamental rights and Liberties that are granted to every other person in this great country of ours under our constitution you've done great work with public officials and we need them to step up at this time and to really including our only leaders but public officials as well drew a non-jew to step up and to really remind everybody that we're an integral part of the community that needs to be respected absolutely right a lot of young people watching tonight and you have an incredible academic and professional background what would you say to the next Generation on an evening like this two simple points one is get involved um a mudim needs people the program that I'm running under the good assist Rule now called project Clarity to deal with the perceptions that are coming on our community based on the narrative that you just referred to um needs people everybody needs people our community is large has diverse needs and there's a role for everybody it's good to be involved and secondly I I always like to make the point and I did this when I spoke last year here I'd like to remind people that the sky is the limit there's no limit to what we can do contribute in in whatever way we can and at the same time we do have to remember that the sky is indeed the limit we are a great people we're governed by uh important strictures and that's what what makes us a unique people great message thank you so much for being here tonight mosha silk and I encourage everybody to support the work of amudim we want to make sure the organization continues and continues strong we have a special video now we call it a PSA a public service video that's called shattered please watch it very carefully continue to give right now at unite2heal.com foreign [Music] thank you [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] thank you [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] powerful video to say the least continue to support the work of almudin we're at 4.6 million dollars 92 percent of our goal and this is the hour that we want to make sure to hit our goal by the time we get to 9 pm eastern time please make sure we're at five million dollars and ramudin has achieved its goal for this year though Friedman is with us Dove Friedman is one of the producers of unite to heal he has been behind the scenes all these years doing an amazing job a pleasure to welcome you to the set thank you nothing yeah it's interesting to be on this side of the uh on this side of the production how long do we know each other Dove we know each other since 1990 I was a camper at Camp masora the first year it opens it's a long time ago I think I was the youngest camper in the entire Camp my parents sent me a year early like let's go well I knew the Brazil's and that's that's kind of I was wondering who made the decision not already thank you for clearing that up for us so um yeah we know each other long time and uh and now getting to produce these mudum events gotten to know you a lot better and it's been a pleasure and amazing and you know during covid I got a phone call from from Yami shakter I said hey dope you still producing and uh he's like I got this Zoom party I it was the first time I had ever heard of it and you know we started producing videos for some rich white dudes you know get that and um as time went on he's like all right we got another one we got this thing this organization called amudim it's a fundraiser I'd never heard of a mood than before um and a lot of the content that I produce on the show aside for the live is Holy it's squares so I really wasn't you know I really still didn't know what a mood then was halfway done producing this event this is two and a half years ago right um and as the material started to come in I started to see what it is that amudum does and how they actually uh save lives um after the first after the first event uh I called up to me to say you know what an honor and a pleasure it was to work with amudim on on this event and you know he was very gracious for everything that the entire team uh Yummy's team at charity bids and everyone who puts everyone at flow motion Studios weapon cannot tell you how long and how many hours weapon is up making sure that everything runs smoothly over here and so I called SV and I said you know this means a lot more than you think it means to me um I myself am a victim of sexual abuse um when I was about six or seven years old I was abused by someone close to the family and I kept it repressed for a very long time I didn't even remember that it happened and my parents were very uh open about the subject and you know anytime we were going away to Camp or going on a trip or my mom would be like it's your body you know you need to if you feel uncomfortable you need to let us know now it had already happened to me at that point in time so when my mother is speaking to me about this I'm like oh my God what did I do this is like I I've done the worst thing that can that can possibly happen um and I I wouldn't say a word and you know it wasn't so much the trauma of what happened to me more so the confusion the confusion about what an intimate relation relationship is supposed to be I mean a six seven-year-old is not supposed to be having that and you know my abuser wasn't um in in public was kind of not cruel to me but not very nice to me and then in these private moments um it was so loving and kind and that was for me as I grew up the more confusing part of of having to deal with that but as years went on and I think probably when I was in high school I started to remember I'm like oh did that I think that happened that really happened and I think this is something about sexual abuse and and I've heard it uh being spoken about on on some of the on some of the um the segments that we produce here I remember last year there was one from Dr pelkovitz and they were talking about the stigma right and you are it's almost as if you're for lack of a better word like punished twice um you have the abuse itself that happens to you and then there's the shame of the abuse and there's I just remember looking at myself in the mirror and saying I can't believe that this happened to me and I can never tell anyone because I was told this is you know this is the worst the worst thing that could ever happen when did your parents become aware of it so my parents became aware of it um I had I got married for the first time in 2004 um and that that first year of marriage was uh that's really when when things started to you know I kept this secret now if we're going back to high school is almost like eight ten eight to ten years that I kept it and you know I I exploded on the inside and you know I uh I have to give a lot of hakar satov to my ex-wife because she dealt with a big you know with that explosion um and it was it was difficult because I had to you know I had to sit my parents down and be like I'm gonna tell you something and they obviously knew this person right and and it was still around I I don't really want to get into details um of of what happened and who and and I'm not out for Retribution or anything like that I've I've made you know I've made peace with everything that happened um you know for for me now I can you know I'm sure as I'm saying this right now I probably have a couple of friends who are like haha that that makes sense though um and I again I can speak about it with some levity at this at this point because because I've done the work um I've been going to therapy for for a long time and last year when uh I told SV I said I think I think that I I think that I want to tell my story and the first phone call I got was from Miriam lankery who's the Clinical Director at a moodin and she's like I don't want you to do this and we started speaking about it and after we had the conversation well one of the things that she said in the conversation was you need to speak to your children about this and I have two older boys I just had another baby the bruises tomorrow and I called my sons and I spoke to them last night and I told them what happened to me and I told them that I'm going to go on and speak about it and I said to I said to my older son what do you how do you feel about this and he's like I think that you should do it and I said yeah but you know how it is on the playground and kids might come over and they might say something this is from my 15 year old son and said dad you're going to help a lot of people know that about that and even last year when uh when I had this phone call with with Miriam and she said you know what you're in therapy you're doing the work you've done the work I think that you are ready to do this um however last year wasn't the right time it wasn't the right time for my family and this year I felt like how else can I help you know I obviously help so much with all this but um uh but how how can I actually how can I make a difference and you know for me it's that stigma right like when I started speaking to people about this in my own private life um you'd be surprised how many people came forward after I said you know what um I'm I'm also a Survivor I also experienced that um and I think that there's an important message for families who are going through this right now and that is it gets better your life is not over your family it's it's not easy it's not tough those were those were some very challenging really really hard years for everyone involved um and you know through time we've you know my family everyone's kind of we've moved forward and um I got remarried last summer not the summer before this one um I have a beautiful new baby and I have a great career and um you know everything that I thought would be destroyed is uh is not the case you know it would be very helpful I think if you described what things would be like without the therapy oh people wonder they should call our mood if they should step forward where would you be without all that that's yeah I forgot the most important thing the most important thing is that I wish that uh I had to move them back then um my parents did not know how to navigate the situation as no one does I mean our family yeah our family was you know went on great vacations and we were in all the right places for pesaches and all the on you know everything was great um and all of a sudden you're throwing this curveball and you know maybe this is why things are happening right this is why and again I'm not going to get into into those details but if we had the resources of we didn't know who to call you know I I remember my father he spoke to a therapist and he's like yes I spoke to a therapist and he said like everything's going to be fine and you know and like that that was that was it right like that was that was the beginning and end and end of it um and you know again when I went back to listen to um that when I when I started watching all of these segments that that we that we produced I was like wow I can't believe it and you know silence silence is a killer when it comes to this because there are people struggling there are people who are afraid to come forward there are people who think that you know I I had the this was this was bigger than any secret or anything that was going on in anybody else's life life this secret was was the most important thing and this you know like I I like to how do I how do I say this um you know I make light of a lot of situations and I think it's part it's become part of my personality a little bit it could be part of the therapy maybe it's part of the therapy but I think it's also um in that I don't think your situation is that important because I have this really deep dark secret that affected me for very for a very long time you know there's um there's lying lying is a big is a big part of it you I I was lying every single day from the time I was six years old until you know I was 20 22 years old because I was leaving out this really really important part of my life though if you've helped a lot of people tonight in these few minutes I hope you I hope you can appreciate that internalize it and uh and understand just how important this is for a lot of people out there who are struggling with the same type of things that you just described yeah I mean that's I I caught I I didn't even have to I knew how I could help more than I was already doing but I I knew I knew that I could that I could speak to people and I'm happy to do it I love working with amudim I love the entire team and I moved them from three all the way down to Zoe and you know people helping schedule all of this it's it's been amazing so Friedman everybody he's one of the producers of this event and the last few minutes have been key in reminding people just how important the workout is you know one of the things that um as I say to Dove that he's helped people tonight and maybe even saved someone's life tonight uh one of the things I remember is what happened last year when Ali schwabel released an incredible song stand for you and that song has been credited with in fact saving lives it's documented people who've been in touch with ahmudin with Ellie with yummy and others who have said that this song was a real game changer for their own life let's take a look back at the song stand for you Ellie schwabel here at unite2heal.com foreign [Music] there was something you were hiding you were holding deep inside you were fighting on your own thank you all the nights you went to bed Undercovers you were crying with his words inside your head he stole your innocence [Music] someone you feel like home is lost and you don't know where to go [Music] I will stand for you we can face the world together if we raise our voice and make the choice to learn to live again I will stand for you when you need me more than ever we will face the truth and find a new way through I will stand for you [Music] long as you remember you had troubles on your mind bottom of the bottle [Music] all you needed was more time but the days turned to years and your promise turn to life [Music] so when you feel like home is lost and you don't know [Music] if we raise our hearts and make the choice [Music] [Applause] [Music] we will face [Music] and I love you enough for you to hate me for this I will stand for you we can face the world together if we raise our voice and make the choice to learn to live again I will stand for you when you need me more than ever we will face the truth and find a new way through we will stand for you foreign [Music] news those of you who've been following the totals know exactly what I'm referring to if you look at our toad board we're approaching 5.1 million dollars which means the 5 million dollar goal has been achieved congratulations everybody that mudim a big congratulations so I might speak luck and his amazing staff will speak throughout my Gluck to three in just a moment and of course to our friends at raised on and everybody who's had a role in making this a successful campaign we say thank you thank you thank you and of course to all the donors it's still climbing the total 5.08 million let's see that number continue to grow we'll call it bonus time why not let's see that number continue to grow Ellie schwabel is here we'll get through by C Gluck in a moment Ellie schwable is here we just replayed the video stand for you made quite an impact why why was it so meaningful to so many people one year ago you know I think that a lot of people thought that they could if you had enough self-control if you just gave it your all you could get over it and you're just it's your fault and you just can't get over it and the shame that comes with that is just it it totally destroys a person and the reason that this song was so powerful for me I wrote this song because I went through something myself um I had someone very close to me who was dealing with addiction and I had to out them and I got I got lambasted by the family and I took on all this all of their denial and it was so painful because I became the evil one and I went home and I wrote this song and then two weeks later Yami called me so I want to say thank you to Yami because without Yami calling me and I mean this was totally Menasha Mayim two weeks before that writing this yummy calls me and said we'd have to write a song from and this song the amount of messages that I get is just I'm what a I'm overwhelmed with the with the beauty that came of such pain and to see how all me Comcast will look at all these people all of these people taking care of all these people this is such a beauty coming from such pain everybody coming together you know before we wrap up with the speed I gotta ask you I I'd be remiss if I didn't ask you could you could you explain why music has that power to pierce the heart and to literally help someone overcome something so drastic and so difficult ah to understand music is to understand God I mean I think I think music is what takes us from ourselves and our self-sabotage and connects us to the entire world it has this power that I don't understand I have no clue it just comes to me and I'm just a channel and I I just I allow it to happen and for me it's Smith the whole thing and I think when people experience music they experience the Oneness of all of us Claudia Israel and of course the entire world so congratulations it is uh it is uh quite an effort to get this done and it's amazing to see that the folks at uhmudim and charity boobs and raisethon and flow motion and everybody together is now in a state of Celebration because if you look at the tote board we are over 5.09 million dollars and that number continues to increase so congratulations to you thank you I must say this is a a very Bittersweet moment the fact that we're needed and we're here when we exist is a very sad piece but the fact that so many people came out and showed support makes this so meaningful but I have to say that none of this would be possible without my wife Aviva who they say behind every great man of the woman that you know make sure he does what he needs to do I'm not going to lie a couple of years ago you know things get very depressing and yes I go to therapy every week and I'm proud of it and I encourage others to but things do get depressing and I said that my wife wants you know this is not for me and she's like you could leave but then I'm gonna ask you for a divorce because if you leave ahmudin then people are going to die and you're going to be a murderer and I'm not going to be married to a murderer that's what my wife strong words but I have to also say that you know them without the legendary men declines and my daughter went to late to his caver and took a picture of it and sent it out and said you know in case you don't know this is a person who did a lot of work and it was very meaningful to me and I'm actually saying that because there's two things I do when I need a boost one of them is I watched the video of my husband from Mendez lavaya and the other one is I listen to Ellie song these are two videos that helped me through my difficult times now being able to do that for so many others and for thousands of others having this that every year we've been able to put out songs that touch the heart I mean you know we're also busy talking about stand for you Ellie let's not forget you did a song video before that also for ahmudim and that was also a very meaningful amazing song you know it wasn't just a but having this and now come you've been part of this ride for for a long time so I have to just thank my wife my kids you know my parents and you know the staff at amudim I mean really you know Zoe who really makes sure that I stay in line you know devorah who you know tries to make sure I stay in line Marion because everyone needs their personal therapist at work you know what's the secret all of the amazing the dedicated case managers the board of directors uh the people that just do so much work I mean you know when yummy first came to us with this idea we thought he was crazy we just ran the numbers right now we had over 1.1 million IP addresses that logged in throughout the campaign to watch this that is unheard of you know we I mean the the three and a half thousand donors coming out and and in a tough economy we had I think close to a hundred thousand I have to look at the numbers it was about 80 something thousand I have to get the exact because I didn't do it for the last few hours because I was trying to raise money because unlike people believe we didn't save money in the pot we really this time I said I've seen you on the phone until the last minute this time I'm going all the way but we had just people that went to the website and and I have to say that today I only got to see about 15 but I'm sure there were more different emails that came in of people that oh I need help and this is what they saw so overall this event is is just successful in so many ways it's successful in the ways that it brings awareness which is something very important it raises money which we need it helps people and you know it's just it's just so nice and it's I don't even have words I'm I'm you know and then having those piece that I mean just yeah that's everything this is this is what the life and I'm with them the roller coaster of amudum really is is just never knowing what the day will bring but doing whatever we can to make sure that before that day ends people are in a better place and I'm can say that tonight as well thousands of people helped out thousands of people around the world donated and we're part of this campaign and now you get to help thousands more over the next year which is pretty remarkable and I also have to say that obviously a big thank you to uh Hashem for giving us the opportunity to do this to help his children and to do so with the support and just the Seattle that we see day in and day out that nothing would happen without it so really thank everybody the production team charity bids slow motion you know we actually have an MVP we have the Amazon MVP this year Zippy who's going to get the amudum MVP award for running the campaign yes we're going to have to do that and and of course even before amudham had fancy Studios when we first ran this out of a mevo camera in in someone's living room we had nakam Siegel I don't remember we had we had Miriam who they because of us they become a contender they didn't know each other before maybe not and Dove and everybody else and Gabby and just everybody thank you Hashem thank you thank you very much thank you to Ellie schwabel thanks all of you we're about to hit 5.1 million the goal was originally of course 5 million and thank God mudim continues and continues strong because we got your support there it is 5.1 million an officially successful bonus round thank you so much don't forget the content is available all through the year the content is available all through the year you can check out all the interviews all of the game shows all the panel discussions all the great entertainment all the serious conversations about some serious issues issues that all aired over the last 36 hours you can do that all year round at the admudum website on behalf of everybody unites a heel 2022 . oh he's always wrapping up we're wrapping up with Joey Newcomb in an appropriate selection to close out I'll move them tonight the hill 2022. my name is nakam Siegel thank you so much for joining us [Music] foreign [Music] Hashem will pay you back [Music] above on Earth [Music] fill the world [Applause] [Music] throw it Shen will pay you back [Music] it is [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] but if you're gonna know about a move there please help them out yeah no you don't have to be supportive [Music] I live [Music] you're the symptoms [Music] foreign [Music]