That quiet feeling inside that something doesn’t seem quite right ? Don’t brush it off.

Mothers and fathers, but but I've seen it I've seen it more with with mothers, but I'll say it to both, of course, should trust their intuition, their gut instincts. Sometimes, I've just heard too many stories and been involved in too many cases where a mother or father just has this feeling like something just doesn't feel right. And maybe it's like, "Wait, we're about to do the next part of the Haggadah, you know, Eliyahu is here, he'll wait." Eliyahu will wait for you to just go spot-check your children in the bedroom because you have a feeling that it just something doesn't feel right. Listen to those feelings. Again, not to be obsessive, but every once in a while, it could be as much as, you know, every 20-30 minutes, you're just doing a little check in here and there to see how everyone's doing. You mentioned something very important. We keep talking about abuse abuse, but let's also remember that very often there's experimentation. It could even be the same age. So, that's a very important thing as well that, you know, very often we overlook where it might not even be coming from a quote-unquote bad place, but again, these are environments that things like this can happen. Well, thank you thank you so thank you so much for pointing that out because I was taking it for granted that, you know, where it's it's not all the same category. It's a great point. And so many of the cases start with kids experimenting with each other. >> It's not a bad practice for parents to to have like a code word, mean which means I'm feeling uncomfortable. You know, to tell your children that if you use this word, you know, if you use this whatever word you make up, that's a sign that I'm not feeling safe right now. Can you give us an example of one of those? Say something. Use a word that means that I'm just not feeling uncomfortable because there's people around. And the person that's been bothering them or getting in their space might be sitting at the table. You know, and it and it and it I'm saying you you play time. Make make a word. Make a word that the children should know that if they tell you that you'll automatically step in and and, you know, take them aside. I will stand for you. We can face the world together. If we raise our voice and make the choice to learn to live again. I will [music] stand for you when you need me more than ever. We will face the truth [music] and find a new way through. We will stand for you.