Stop Bullying: Use 'I Statements' to End It Now! #shorts

Number one. Think to yourself, does this person who's bullying me seem like a person I may be able to talk to to ask him to stop? If the answer is definitely not, which sometimes happens, then we'll have to move on to option two that I'm going to give you in a minute. But if the answer is yes, I think I might be able to tell him to stop, I think it might work, then here's what you want to do. You want to tell him to stop, but we want to start with a concept called an I statement. An I statement means that you focus on your feelings, not his actions. Let me give you an example. I walk up to the bully and I say, "You are being so mean by calling me that name." You've now invited a fight. It's not so mean as opposed to "It's hurting my feelings deeply when you call me that name. Stop." Or if you don't want to make yourself so vulnerable and so emotional, you could just simply say, "I really don't like it when you call me that name. Please stop now." Firm, short, focusing on I don't like it. I don't like it. What's he going to say? "Am a loud." But if you just say, "I don't like what you're doing." You want to add in it's really bothering me or not, but I don't like what you're doing. "I need you to stop now, please." That's 1 second. I'll take questions in a minute. That's the statement, the I statement, and then there are two conditions to make this work. One, you want to be in private and there's a second condition of walk away. So, those are the two things. In private doesn't mean you have to be in a private room when you say this to the bully. It means you want to be out of earshot. You don't want the bully to have an audience because if you walk up to that bully and he has two or three of his close friends around him and you say, "Hey, bully. I don't like what you're doing. Please stop now. When you call me that name, I don't like it. Stop. When you kick my knapsack, I don't like it. Stop. Please now." Clear? Short? To the point?