Sometimes we need to say no.

Even in cases of of where like it's objectively like no, we can't allow this. Like the kids saying everyone's getting drunk every day every night. Everyone's smoking pot. Everyone's you know, being super mean to a younger grade or a younger bunk and bullying them. I mean, we can't say like okay, join them, you know, just try not to join them too much. We can't do that. >> That's why I think it's so important when it when it is something that you can give in on, you should. All the more so so that you've you've shown your child I hear you and I understand you and I'm willing to see things your way so that when I do say no, it's me thinking it through and deciding this we can live with, but this is just, you know, over a certain red line that we're just not going to go over. >> Even in the things where I want to run my family in a certain way, and we're not talking about something objectively dangerous or us, or I don't think you need to give in right away. I think there can be some pushback. [music] We're dealing with children after all. There usually is some time where it doesn't have to be within 24 hours we make a decision. There can be some pushback. There can be some procrastination, but watching carefully with potentially guidance, are we crossing a threshold where the kids going to really have a difficult time?