Protecting Victims: The Truth About Abuse Denial #shorts

In a way, he's worse than the abuser. >> Meaning if you ask any godel in the world today, rav, rebel, rosh yeshiva, mekubal, is sexual abuse a thing? They're all going to say yes. No, they all will, they will, yeah. >> if you say to them, "Do you hear what Yankel did?" No, Yankel would never do it. Why? So, at the end of the day, it's worse than denial. At least when they were in denial, they were they were they were in denial. They were they didn't know. They weren't. Now, there's no excuse. You know it exists. >> This one's They're actually fighting you by protecting the abuser. >> I ever had in this industry, unfortunately, was when a victim went to a rav on their own. So, the rav right away said, "No, the this is the victim." Called me after they went to the rav. I went back to the rav with the victim and with and with the parents. And the rav said, "Listen, we can't believe aid echad." All of a sudden, by the way, everybody becomes the biggest talmid chacham and bakki b'shas poskim and tak. We can't But, if you find another person, then of course, they have to go cuz that's going to be with two people, okay. By the way, mind you, sexual abuse always occurs in private. So, a year and probably 20 victims later, probably, we get another victim of the same abuser. Now, this one wasn't coming for the police. Now, they're coming for help on the abuse side. But, we went back to the rav. We said, "By the way, you made a psak. When there's two people, the I said, "First of all, will you give it to us in writing?" No. I said, "So, this family's going to go to the police because you made the psak, and then they're going to come down on them, and then you're going to be the one to be the first one fighting them." No, chas v'shalom. I said it, I'm going to back it. Okay. But, then he adds to it, "But only one victim can go to the police, not both." Why? Because one victim's enough to get a guy into trouble. Two is going to make it worse and that's more than what halachically would be acceptable. To me, there's no timeline until somebody dies or could be 60, 70 years. So that's how the rav I said, "But you don't understand. If one person goes to the police, then the community is going to say this person's lying, there's only one victim. If two people go, at the very least, the same way you didn't let them go." Not mechanism. Now this family was to me mistaken they followed the guide. And yes, this was the rav who went to them and said, "You have to stop with the police, you have to stop with the case because because that was the story and that's the story in every big case and it's what I hear every single time.