Parents' Distrust Damages Kids' Self-Trust: The Real Danger #shorts

the the the thing that I'd also say on top of this and I wonder what you have to say about this you know which is like sometimes when we're like lock up everything for our kids and this goes beyond technology but what is the implied message right which I believe is ultimately can be more damaging the implied messages is I don't trust you and you're not to trust yourself you know so often through osmosis unintentionally subconsciously the message that gets passed down to the child is when everything's tied up and nothing's allowed and it's extremely rigid, you know, or they really can't get their way and really they might need a little bit more leeway in certain areas. The implied message is is I don't trust you and you're not to be trusted. So the child ultimately doesn't learn to trust their self. And I believe that belief that the child uh gains is actually in the long run more damaging and detrimental than the little bit of extra time they would spend or the more certain allowances or leniencies that you would permit. You know, do I really trust my kid or am I always trying to circumvent everything that they're going to be doing? And through osmosis teaching them they're they're fragile. You can't trust yourself, you know, and you're not to be trusted.