Life's Detours ARE Your Purpose: Rabbi Reveals Truth Bombes Reveal #shorts

We've certainly had in our life a number of very unexpected detours along the way. And to realize that those detours that's really what life is about. I think I think you also realize over time that it's a harsh reality to realize. My wife says that the only thing she absolutely loved being a rebbetzin in all of the years. And she said that the only thing that she regrets about or didn't like about being a rebbetzin was that she felt a certain naivete, a certain way of looking at the world was shattered over the years. Not because people were bad people, but just because there's so much out there. And when you sit and you face the the shul, the rebbetzin at least faces forward. The rabbi in many of our shuls has to face the shul. And you're looking out and and you just realize I think that there is a learning curve for a rabbi where you realize that crisis is the norm. Crisis really is the norm that that many many families in the shul at any given time are going through a difficult situation. There are so many uh levers or so many potential potholes along the way. That's what life is. And then I think at a certain point in my rabbonus, I began to realize that that's really what life is about. Life is about the particular challenge that each person was given. Um we've certainly had in our life a number of very unexpected detours along the way. And to realize that those detours that's really what life is about. So I think that at a certain point we went from a place where we looked out and we saw all of this difficulty and all of this challenge. And we began to see it as all of these different tough kidim in life. What people saw was something that was taking them away from what they were supposed to be doing was very much as difficult as it is and as little as we understand why we have a certain tough kid and why to suddenly see an army of people in front of us who were given very different tough kidim to try to serve Hashem in those kinds of ways. And I think that over time we moved from a place where we said I wish I didn't know about all of this. I wish I didn't realize how much challenge there was, how much pain there is. To realizing that at at least we're in a position, we're lucky that we're in a position that we can be there. Once we began to realize that the challenges that they were facing, the unique challenge of this household and that household and that household again wasn't something that was taking them away from their avodas Hashem. But was their ikkar avodas Hashem to grapple with this kind of situation in their life and to feel like we could be on that journey with them. So it took a lot of the pain and it sort of gave it meaning. It gave it It gave it purpose. And to feel like somehow we were uh a partner or we were somehow encouraging or supporting someone in the struggle that their life was about. That became very very energizing for us.