Investing in Your Marriage

Maybe you're getting close to getting engaged already. You want to get her like a small gift, something that shows that you're thinking about her. So, you place on the front seat of the car, two choices. One, a fancy bouquet of red roses. So, when she comes to the door, she opens it and sees these red roses. Wow, it's so sweet, amazing. Or, an ice-cold bottle of kiwi strawberry Snapple. Which one is better? The roses could cost, I don't know, $200 or something like that, depending on where you get them. But, if on the first date you were talking about what's your favorite drink, and she mentioned kiwi strawberry Snapple, and you committed that to memory, and on the seventh, eighth, ninth, whatever date, that's what's sitting on the front seat, it's more meaningful [music] to her than the fancy bouquet of roses. So, it's not about how much it costs, it's not about what other people would look at and see as meaningful, but it's that I'm listening, I'm paying attention. And by the way, to me it's not very meaningful, it's not geshmack, I don't want to sip, no thank you. But, for you, it's meaningful, and it shows that I'm listening. So, that can often be the best way to give over uh our feelings [music] towards the other one, to really think about things from their perspective.