Amudim Event 9-11-16 Part 1 Harav Elya Brudny Shlit'a, Intro by Zvi Gluck

good evening and all of you for taking your time for busy schedules to join us at this event good evening everybody my name ISL and I'm one of the founders of amudim which is presenting tonight a set of skills on how to protect our children from danger abuse and becoming victims of predators I thank everyone for gracing us for this event and for the Riva for pushing us to do it and for giving us the BR that we should succeed I also would like to thanked and LCSC for helping to put this event together and we all want to thank the evening sponsors Ravid lonstein of the lightstone group Gourmet glot and Eastern Union we're fortunate today to live in an age that has a very very strong effec of K system which serves all of our children so well when I think of the Ken system today compared to the prior erors I believe we see something that we have never seen before the dedication of AR principles and I also believe that we have access to skill sets that have not been available to Prior generations for this and much more we owe a big debt of gratitude to T miso which leads in helping our most accessing these skills between teacher training the Mas program classroom tools and curriculum they have together with the parent body are working with the Moes to be able to reach each and every child when says we are now in this generation taking that to a whole new level we have a lot of services that are available now that weren't available previously remediation Title One and so much more but this alone is not enough we need to do more we're not perfect and while we all strive to be better at what we do we can use all the tools that are available to us so that we can help reach the heart and soul of all of our children unlock their potential and fill them each with the core values that are so important to all of us tonight we're here for a very important topic one that is not considered to be the most popular but is very very necessary and we're here to help gain that skill set of how to keep our children safe from abuse whether it be at home on the street or anywhere else where they may find themselves we have with us professionals that are Guided by the Torah values who are going to share with us what they know what they've learned that works and what we can do as parents and MIM to ensure that our children are going to be protected and safe as they develop into adulthood and Beyond we're gonna have this to hear from Ria brne SCH from Dr AKA Perlman and from Rabbi Dr a brown where we will hopefully gain awareness knowledge and tools to empower us to bring the change that is so necessary in today's generation I respectfully ask brish the the of Amud to address US good evening say a few short as a to tonight's evening and to give a perspective of why we're gathered here we're gathered here at the invitation at the request of two moim of Lakewood and lclc moas that provide to the IR Services Medical Services mental health services social services that are so vital to a vibrant young community and they asked that bring to Premier clinicians B TOA Aliyah to give their perspectives their clinical anecdotes from their experience each from his perspective to help share with theam help share with the audience their experiences and to make us more knowledgeable more aware to notice things where we might have otherwise not noticed but we first have to be M them where who's coming to present where we're not coming they're not coming to Enlighten the citizens of the era too Lakewood there is no more enlightened community in the United States of America than Lakewood New Jersey the amount of T that's learned and taught and disseminated in this Hal on a daily basis throughout the entire year from through Yesa Katana through missus so many M have their are open in Lakewood so many yeshivas gas in Lakewood and the crown jewel of Lakewood and entire American Torah jewelry is med the Bim the thousands and thousands and thousands of aim learning Megan on this city and Megan on the entire community of the United States of America the and then we have the that learn over here and teach T and learn T and PAs we know the answer to every problem to every malady is is in Torah there nothing that Torah doesn't address and there's nothing that don't find in the Torah the wisdom with which to guide us throughout life the fact that Lakewood and as it evolved through the years as such a sense a communal sense of Civic the partnership between the the Asim and law enforcement canat unheard of in different towns the thereit that a l with has is only because Lakewood is governed by Das T and Das tah teaches us the fact that there's such a wonderful relationship between the community the communal Asim and Child Services and social services and the partnership is so successful to protect and to help and to nurture is only because of the respect that our instill in us our gim instill in all of us to respect to respect the instances of government and to understand that the instances of government are there to help us not to hurt us and that's all because we're a community that abides by T we ask our to to our Ron both the communal Ron the rim that are rim of the Ron has not been invited to Enlighten Lakewood AUD has been invited that the superb clinicians that I'm going to present tonight are going to share Posas information insights from the loving heart of a caregiver who's a and a alah to share with the audience to give them a greater awareness and a stronger awareness it's difficult to say this publicly but someone has to put it on the table and I will speak like one Ben to others and not to get lower ourselves not and not to the language of the masses but suffice it to say that when When We Were Young maybe 50 years ago 40 years ago one could delude himself and thinking that the reason y have chosen the second part of the the the the the para of Aros that that's what a Jew has to hear in sh when he's almost on the level of a Malik when he's an hour before that's what he has to hear him Kipper so we always thought that it was some secret reason why kazal chose that but life has taught us that there is and there exists within every community in Cloud is the of G in all manifestations of that par and therefore living in a world where does exist say there is a minority that's coping and struggling with thean of Aras so those that are exposed to them are less safe than they would otherwise be and that's a reality that we must face we don't have any other language to use we only use language of tah the language of tah is that we lay in on P is a that we lay in on yipper is not a mush it's a reality K felt every in has to hear that and hear that well at the holiest hour of the Jewish calendar I had an occasion a few months ago to speak for an audience of parents and at an Amud event and I want to share a thought that I said at that event being afraid Is Not a Bad Thing afraid and Vigilant and insightful and keep my eyes open and keep look around and make sure when my child when my taled where my relative or my neighbor might be In Harm's Way but yet a part of me tells me n it's not like you think you're just being nervous for nothing but that part of me that tells me that is because it's so much easier to just ignore and brush away than have to face uncomfortable reality sometimes with all that it brings the P says is afraid and it keeps him out of trouble and a is he finds energies to just become oblivious and it's a big ngar because if you're noticing something that very unpleasant if it's true something that could upset the apple cart if it's true something to interfere with relationships if it's true a person is human let's push it away let's subconsciously if I'll be oblivious I'm avoiding I'm avoiding trouble I'm avoiding a very very complicated slippery slope situation but on the other hand if my fears have a basis in fact and I ignore them what are the implications what are the implications foris a child that came into Harm's Way could very easily be helped and things could right away be fixed in a way that she could she or he could go on with life and Thrive and grow he could be a big she could be a to yenes in every High School in every Seminary but if it's not addressed it's a life of geham for the children as they become teenagers and as they become adults and it's a slippery slope to Oblivion that five years later 10 years later as you're going to hear from the clinical experts it's so much it's so much more difficult to turn back the clock not to ignore a signal it's so much diff so much easier and more comfortable to look away but the price the price is there are no wayte no words even to describe the price of ignoring what shouldn't be ignored and we always have to remember the role the role model of parenting of protecting the Youth of protecting children is is like the eagle that thees the arrows should hit the child should hit me and not the child and that was what an that protected Cloud Isel and the go was sending arrows and the arrows went into the Anan a parent a rebi a man G AES it's our children and if it's uncomfortable sometimes to get involved and it's so much easier not to get involved let's remember who taught us what parenting and teaching is parenting and nurturing student is like nurturing whatever brunt I have to take whatever I have to go through healthy any price is worth it should all help us that the awareness alone and the uh enhancement in the awareness alone should prevent any more difficulties and problems with our children happening with our children and so help that tonight's evening should be blessed with and we should be in this and in all and together with the entire to and I'd like to introduce a wonderful b a wonderful clinician tremendous bman to share his experience with the