Dealing with Bullies: The Power of Indifference #shorts

What should your reaction be when the bully bullies you? This is really important. The way to answer that question is what is What is the reason many bullies bully? Why are they bullying? To get attention. To When cuz he feels that thing about himself, so he tells you He feels that thing about himself. So, in order to shove you down and step on top of you, he raises himself up. But what a cruel, vicious, terrible way to make himself feel better about himself. But we have to understand that's where it's coming from. It's coming from him wanting to make himself feel better about himself because there's something that he doesn't feel so good about inside of himself. Which ultimately means he's trying to grab power for himself. He wants to feel more powerful and get a reaction out of you. This is an incredible idea to think about when you're dealing with a bully. So, we have to think to ourselves, how do we deflate that power? How do we make it that that power just doesn't feel like he's getting that power anymore? What tactic can we take? Look at what you're Right? The right type of ignoring, the word I like to use is more more more called indifference. I'm indifferent. I don't care. I don't care what you say. It makes no difference to me. Indifference. Then he feels like, "Oh my gosh, I'm not getting a reaction from the victim." That is something that's powerful in terms of taking away his feeling of power. So, what would that look like? He calls me a name and I just kind of shrug my shoulders. Okay, whatever you say, and walk away. Like who cares? Let me give you a muscle Let me give you a muscle a visual to help you with this. How do you pretend like it's not bothering you? So, sometimes I want you all to close close your eyes for a second, and imagine the face of a baby. Like a little 6-month-old baby's head. Okay? Picture that head in your mind. Now, imagine there's a person bullying I'm not going to say you, cuz Hashem, but there's a person bullying someone. Imagine that baby head being swapped out on top of the shoulders of the middle school boy's body, and now it's a middle school boy's body with a baby's head on top. Pretty weird visual. Why would I tell you to imagine that? Somebody's calling you names you imagine that baby's head on his body, and that's doing the talking. It means nothing to me. It doesn't bother me. It gives me a little chuckle, even. It doesn't bother me.