Care Too Much… and It’s Destroying Me 😢

Hello everyone, Avilanda here to answer some mental health questions. This first question I'm going to address, you can see on your screen in terms of being too empathetic towards others that it has a negative impact on oneself. I think that that's a beautiful thing to have tremendous empathy for others. We find by that it was hard for him to read the newspaper due to reading about the suffering of humanity. We find in the that we want to really be able to develop such a high level of care and concern and love for others that it's starts to parallel that of for ourselves. So I don't want to think the right way to is to squash it. But I think more like a DJ where you have the board with the knobs that you can shift up and down, you can dim, you can make a little louder, a little lighter. At times we want to be able to focus on other people's problems. Say to Hillm with passion for other people and davin for other people and be there for other people. But many times we can't do that. We don't want to do that to the sacrifice of our own mental health, our own sake, as well as those around us who may need us. And perhaps at those times, one just in under two minutes, one idea that I'd share is utilizing mindfulness where we purposely focus on the small minute details around us in the present. A little blade of grass, a little uh small element that we might not have noticed before, and we really start to focus on these little details and it helps ground us in the present. You can look into mindfulness more to see various ways to utilize that method. You know, in the present there isn't much to worry about. There isn't much stress and anxiety. It's in the past we think about what we might have done wrong and in the future we think about oh no what's going to be with this or with that. But in the present it's pretty calm. So in this moment so that's what we want to try to do with mindfulness. It's one idea to try to utilize to bring ourselves to a little bit of a calmer place um at times, maybe many times to help ourselves and those around us, but then at times to kind of raise that bar a little bit when we want to be there for others.