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Bullying Help: Immediate Steps for Parents & Victims #shorts

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I want to know for a parent that's watching this and their kid they hear is being bullied, what can they do immediately to help their child? From from a parental perspective, the first thing you want to do is just listen and empathize and acknowledge the pain of the child. The last thing you want to do is to ever just try to tell them just toughen up. And this is true for educators as well. Just just don't be so sensitive. the kid's complaining about something that's really hurting them. They're in pain. We have to first acknowledge the pain. So, we need to acknowledge the pain of the child and just listen. And then we need to show them that we're there for them. Uh case that came to my attention. It's actually from a woman, a mother who herself was bullied viciously as a child in school. And her own mother didn't believe her. She didn't acknowledge the pain. She just pushed her, go back to school, don't be so sensitive. And it really hurt this person. She actually tried to uh often hang out at the library to avoid getting into any outside of school interactions with these kids. It even got physical at one point [sighs] where she got into a physical altercation with the bully and she got in trouble, which is often what happens that the bullies are really smart in knowing kind of where the cameras are, where the eyes are, and then all of a sudden you attack the the victim attacks them and that's where the principal walks in and sees. And now on top of everything else, they got in trouble, >> which just is it just can break a person. Well, this woman had a child in school and her child was being bullied. And unfortunately in this case, it was the child, the son of one of the staff. She found this staff member. She went over to him. She told him, "I want to let you know what your son is doing to my child in school." And she was nervous. What would happen? Would there be backlash? The next day, the bullying stopped. So I don't know what she doesn't know what happened behind the scenes, what conversation took place between father and son. But and it's important to not just be vague when you're going to approach a parent like bullying, but it's a art and a balance to never make it sound like it's their fault that the bullying has happened. That has to be couched in many different terms of this is not your fault. That's super important. Like if I could give one message to a victim of bullying, it's that you're not alone.