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Amudim and Ohel Addiction Awareness Event - Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein 7-15-2017
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thank you very very much I'd like to
thank go with Lake for doing this most
amazing amazing Charlotte that you have
done and tonight all the people would
like to welcome what's here of course
I'd like to thank oh hell everyone here
knows the work that they do absolutely
amazing and dr. Mandela puts me ahead of
it I'd also like to thank a mood in
sleepwalking here and I have to tell you
that they're very real organization we
have a we opened up two months ago a
ranch for an inpatient mental facility
for Jewish girls right here in nan
vessel and there are a few girls that
were coming from family that really
could not pay at all for their care and
I quote see and immediately ammu dim
took you the situation and those girls
lives are being saved only because he
was able to react and take care of the
payments that need to be made to the
co-directors in this it's a it's a horse
ranch so there's a lot of therapy that
way and cos reacts abloom always reacts
mate what they say they do they really
do oh hell but they say they do they
really do so as a task force amount I
don't really know the counselor that
advertised and I want to thank them also
so I'd like to talk about addiction I
like to talk about prevention I'd like
to put my intervention and I like to
give you a little bit of an
understanding from the tyre of how the
total looks at addiction and a famous
cover Yasir who was a sod de novo who
lived about three hundred fifty years
ago wrote a very holy holy safer that
the seed of and many other tsadikim
always had on their table he actually
told the story of addiction which is
actually 350 years old but I'd like to
try to explain a little bit with a
muscle which I have spoken this I was
spoken about this in the number one
Hospital in addiction in Boston my talk
about this in Utah with the Mormons and
welcome had been received very very well
and can give us an
understanding exactly talk about it
today with someone so let me explain to
you what addiction is so I am very
against giving children on forum to
drink
it's complex don't go people open their
houses they give them whiskey that gives
them wine it should get drunk in 1314
years old people like to have all steam
you got a chill you know a lot of get
drunk on poor isn't supposed to get
drunk on forum so most of the people are
worried in the other type is that you
see before for you from all the
different organizations is we don't want
our kids driving drunk and God forbid
killing someone so that can be solved by
having the kids being driven around the
limo as you see so we could solve that
problem but that's not the problem let
me explain to you an addiction how it
starts
so we assuming beings every interaction
everything that we go through in life
creates a road in our cycle whether it's
trauma we know you know that I'm
Buddhism stands for sexual abuse and
what that does through a child and all
the different things that we go through
in life create all these different roads
so you have this acute 14 years old
she's in your house support him and he
gets drunk so he creates a road in his
psyche oh my goodness I was great I'm
not a talkative kid I'm an introvert but
when you trade you become an extrovert
you're laughing you're chummy you having
a good time with your friends you're
buzzed you're not in pain and you create
this road into psyche called
drunk you smoke one joint like rabbi
wall think come on I'm just going to
smoke once not the end of the world does
it make me an addict I'm just going to
gamble pronounce Atlantic City once
rabbi what is wrong with and the answer
is that that experience that you have
creates this world the reason that
ninety percent a discussion this week
with someone who will have a rehab
to drugs in Florida there's a hundred
bags the objective of that we have is
that after 30 days they can send them
home and not have them return for 30
days such success
90% of addicts after a 30-day rehab than
doing it again why this guy goes to
rehab for 30 days he's in groups she's
getting therapy in be taught he's clean
why 90 percent relapse and success in
these therapeutic places is only the
amount of time between relapses the
first time we was here took 30 day three
left the second plan we had them 90 days
the third time he's a year and we
finally way to get to a point where he
won't relapse again it's a great
business
could you get return customers white 90%
they really want to get better
why do people get clean for five years
six years eight years I ever friend has
not smoked in 25 years just started
smoking like a chimney 25 years is clean
how can you go back to smoking yeah
there's a crazy situation with this kid
but why would you go back to talking and
the answer is now once you create this
road in your psyche and then you go to
rehab or whatever did you decide I'm not
on my gambling anymore I'm not taking
anymore I'll ask for whatever that
whatever your addiction is so you closed
the road okay I looked it up a black in
my seat they were always working on the
road it was always those those pylons
those are things with a board road
closed but I would not the blocks I got
out of my car and move the pile on I
move the orange things I pulled in I put
them back to the next guy and I drove up
to my house so when you have a world
where you have done drugs were drinking
gambling all the other addictions you're
the world you created you cannot get rid
of that world
but you can close it because your
experiences in your life you cannot
erased but you could close that road and
we do close Bell Road and the Attic does
close that road and it comes home from
rehab ninety-degree had he decided he is
going to get better
the problem is that something in life
something happens it is life something
happens in business someone dies with
very close to a friend Odie's
automatically as a human being you go
back to the things that made you feel
good so when I was drunk and I know that
when I'm drunk I feel no pain
when I go back into my psyche to get
away from the pain that I'm going
through right now I come to this row
that's close but it's there and it says
drunk feel good
glass drugs anesthesia and I comforted I
rode and I'm in a lot of pain it's so
easy for me to move the pylons I'm just
going to take one head I'm not going to
take another hit I'm just going to take
one drink big deal I'm just going to go
to AC or Vegas for one day just get away
from everything and you move the closing
of the road and now the world is over
that's relapse but if you've never got
drunk I was every drunk in my life
sorry say that's all the people I said
that's commenting on I feel bad to use a
fire that you never felt what if you
like to get drunk but I'm a very
impulsive person the worst connector
have ever happened is if I would go with
that fear of life because what I'm going
through pressure and I close that road
I'm going to secretly move that road and
take a drink and feel better I don't
know what it feels like so I don't know
that it's an expanding I don't know that
it making filled with the people that I
see that I'm drunk they work silly and
they're throwing up and they're nauseous
they later with the headache said to me
like why would you do something like
that I don't have that road so when I'm
in pain and I'm avoiding something
really bad right I don't have that boat
to go to so when I look for a role to
get better
here I'm not opening a new road at all
for that
I'm not over here I'm not stupid
relegated on new road but I will go back
to my old stuff the people from the how
of course many of them are Courtney Hill
absorbers my mother feelings underwent
is a problem they weren't updated - why
because during the house it's all they
had
my mother was not a March well she
having a real killer we said all day
so her cool - which is in pain is it -
Hillman
that's for role for the problem is the
Wall Street events the case if I
everyday drugs or I ever drank or any
addiction that I did you're telling me
I'm stuck that road there it's closed
but it's there so I'm never be able to
get better the answer is no you can't
get better as you around mom and look at
the children and the realm of until
Tituba says that a person a leader from
inside you want to look it up the price
you see given a shot possible she gets
my other great girdle that a person
could do such a big thing I got coin
Robin or consider doing a sin over and
over and over until he is not able to do
Juba medicine you created such a highway
by doing that sin over and over and over
and over and me that's sure the minute
you need to go somewhere that's your
rule is you always going down that road
your GPS knows that's the road as well
mom says you're gonna wanna magic go to
that road you can as you for sure gonna
fall if you do such a big of a run it's
so big that's such a big highway in your
psyche then when you go back in your
you're out of the show you're out of
you're in trouble you're a situation
you're definitely going to go on that
highway so what do you do you do the
opposite of what the red line was the
realm of us talking about a thin you
create a mitzvah that's so big
now when you're in trouble and you're
looking for that out and you're going
into your psyche automatically by the
way 90 minutes 90 minutes thinking
process and you go into the site and you
looking for the stuff that used to make
you happy or used to make you not feel
there's such a big mix were there you
had such enjoyment doing that that
highway is blacking them with a load
that has all the pylons closed ourselves
around them if you do a mitzvah over and
over it's like a GPS - to a mixer over
and over and over and over again
becomes part of you so though you're
under pressure there guys are under
pressure they're going to learn they
started learning and learning and
learning and some joy or their business
they're like you know what I'm not going
to do this today I'm going to go sit
learn a whole day what does that mean
what are you doing we're going to learn
because he started learning and every
single day he's learning and learning
away whatever the mid-foot whatever the
midst is if you do it over and over and
over it's the opposite of the avera you
have to create the only way to fix the
road that's closed is to create a new
road it's much more traveled and much
bigger than the road that's closed
I'm talking to you from experience I'm
talking to you from experience I'm not
getting into it but I'm talking to you
from experience who rode in my life are
closed I don't go to because of the
roads that are open because of our Nava
and the things that I do when I on the
Miranda pressure I go there I go to my
high school to my BCA
and I sit with the girls there and I
talk to them and I'm like wow what
what's going on over here I go believe
it or not I think I got more use from
the ranch than the growth of their I go
to the horses that go to the ranch I go
to the plate in and I thought I used to
now there are much much bigger than the
roads I used to go to that were really
no good
so to wade through the attic and any
anyone will know that the first thing
they tell inadequate leads rehab
you must change your environment you
must change your environment you must
stay away from the roads and the dealers
and the places and the kids and the
hangout that you used to be on because
if you're going to be so close to that
row that's close you would end up going
down that road
that is the number what's the number two
thing it keeps an addict from and a lot
of the sober living homes got this that
keeps an addict from relapsing on a good
job because of every single day you go
to work and you make money and you feel
good about yourself
and guess what when you're under that
pressure you're going to work a little
bit harder
you may even become a workaholic and
that's going to become your role but
that much less destroying than the roads
that kill us so according to the round
on the way to break the roads that you
can't break is to create a good road and
I tell that to all the guys I'm like if
you think you're going to come out of
rehab and you should have hang out and
after do anything with your life you
will move the pylons in the road that's
close and the reason that ninety percent
relapse is because that road exists and
they don't have another road yet 30 days
you don't have another one yet so the
intervention that we need to create for
these kids that we need to give them
jobs we can give them something that's
bigger than the drug that's bigger that
they do all the toilet cause part of it
and therefore when they need to do
something they shouldn't be doing they
go to a positive place that's the
intervention I want to read you a
colleague uh sure then we'll go to the
next speaker it's a very interesting say
for the Commission very very holy
preciso wrote that he had on his desk
all the time that whenever fights over
the trouble he would learn from the
Kalayaan and they would see Yeshua
Yeshua the name of the Amalekites same
thing you can read it in the preview so
he brings up a very different kind of
story
and from the story ask me the difference
a column insert the father says there
was a very very rich man who was a big
Monza he could not give sadaqa he could
not he didn't come to show Monday and
Thursday because Monday Thursday they
collected stuff she could not give the
government but he did one thing had she
was a mile and he was doing risk Mila to
anyone for free that was this rich boy
and he did it all the time
Chris Miller for free in a good way off
everybody used to get him one day of if
you want to see this as present in the
individual contingent listen to you like
Alyosha so one day this beautiful tall
man comes in and says to him are you the
wily suggest he says I need someone to
abridge me while my son would you do it
is on a percent where you live we said
three they traveled in the woods the
forest it takes is bismillah k2 gets
onto the wagon that's very good-looking
and they drive into this jeep far far
away from everyone and in this Morris is
beautiful city with mansions all over
the place the man says to the Mayo
listen I'm going to go bring the horses
in the wagon into the barn you go in and
check out the baby presented for the
meal so he comes into the room with or
is it where the wife is in the room with
the baby
the contract on the baby that they did
yellow or not and the wife starts women
says do you know where you are if you
haven't submitted here in the woods you
go no my husband is not a human being
my husband is a Shindou it a shade of
Mallik and this whole town is auction
dollars near a big danger she says I
mean you in women girl that was
kidnapped by then I'm Jewish
he married me we had a child and in
child needed reasoning love by the way
it will replace him from the story
past another child from shambhala Hanna
Jewish
human woman has developed this notice
nothing to do with what's before us
tonight and he said she said I'm warning
you if you take anything from them
anything they give you something and you
take anything from them you should know
and you'll never get out of it you
belong to them don't take anything and
don't tell them that you know who they
are
okay he comes to the boil he says why
didn't I get tonight was making a bust
not for the baby peach pump says I'll
tell you the truth and I had a very
tough ride I need to lay down I can't I
can't work built into the bris tomorrow
morning see he works his way out of it
and that night he goes to sleep he's
shaking and then a city of shaded he's
like I'm gonna do this bridge I'm going
to get out of here the next morning he
comes to show he does the bris on the
baby after the bridge the ships in the
shade and invited to sit down to the
saludo he knows he can't pay anything
for them
so he says to them listen I had a
terrible dream last night
very scary dream and I took out a pass :
the facts when I dream I can't each
other okay sit through the bridge and I
gotta get back home so the shin valladon
brought up who having them in the head
of them all puts him in a way and all
the way out of the city he says we have
to stop I have a warehouse I need to
show you what I have in my warehouse he
doesn't want to tell me no thanks okay
you want to show me fine very scared
comes to the first room in the first
room we know from the tomorrow that they
steal whatever you're missing something
and the boats that go to the bottom to
see this is what they collected gumar
vote for that machine doll so this room
full of crowns and jewels and my face
and all kind of stuff and he said to the
mile since you did you all my son I have
to pay you for - anything you want to
destroy
absolutely not I don't want anything on
the rich guy don't need it take it to
the next room is diamond that what kind
of jewels take anything from this room I
managed the romantic ancient religion
comes to the third room
I write to me diffusion excitement he
come for the third room and he opens the
door and the moil turns white and starts
to shape from what he saw and this is
what it says well cool i got some i
alika all of them boiled didn't want
anything
the Haitians we can't give a lot of
flavor to the grounds as well have
jewels and money especially mother
exhibit a telephone he went through a
room and in this room there were
millions of keys of tables are they
which we mail a table as far as our
border they were hanging right now I get
my issue my loss of our death and the
Maya was wandering rob a house consumer
wishing tea because the asset he saw his
keys his key from his warehouses in
there and his security boxes and
everything the Shambala Diocese of Milan
she dollars per mile are dining my
master his Shiva proclaim doesn't
involve you saw all my gold always over
and he wears in shock and this light
pair of keys minute a metal your shot my
Lancer and he met me Ashish edition of
paper shall we how do you have my keys
with what on earth because the mile for
such a Thompson and every time someone
active forces other would it give them
another he loses his he lose his choice
but it had a person who the alcoholic
you put white you could whisk me and run
ahead that he still have choice every
human being has a choice but he wants
his choice he stole a human with choice
in life or when it comes to alcohol he
has no choice you know white says the
commotion because he lost his team
because when you do something bad over
and over and over and over you no longer
have the key to change they're hanging
by the dark side
they've got your teeth you've lost your
teeth that's addiction addiction is
another one a person who lost his keys
he can't have a choice anymore he can't
server the door he's won his pie up he's
shamed they had his kids and the boy did
not want to take anything from the
shaylen
so he couldn't ask him back for his keys
and the shed now it said to him God must
be with you because we offered you food
you didn't take a look at the go didn't
take it
have you taken something you have never
gotten out of it must be the UFC as of
the schmeyer so I'm going to give you
back your keys and you don't have to
worry because since there's yours we
didn't really get a deal so the company
laid he came back to his town
he took his money people to Shiva's his
measures he didn't attempt a shot at
this matter in nineteen appending to
anyone what are we doing became the
biggest italic you over the wall azides
race because he got back excuse ladies
and gentlemen what was discussed that he
got back his keys exactly what I told
you in the first part of my speech and
the round Ron said he gotta do something
good over and over and over and over the
good or very big because that's how you
get to keep that his middle of this
mirror that he never said no to anybody
that's what got him back his keys with
the covers for only way to break
addiction is to create to get your keys
back if you create something that
sanitation is trimming addiction but
something that you do that so big
through the head off I don't know what
Saddam philosophy if you're a gambler
nobody going to give you to that except
to a gambler or you doing something that
gives you so much the adrenaline rush
that you got in gambling in waiting that
night that adrenaline rush does
so here the adrenaline rush when you
save a kid's life when you bring summer
clothes pleasure when you make sure wise
people to want to talk to each other and
you bring them back together
that's rush is bigger than any other
rush the only way out and around month
closes he says although they don't have
an addiction feel solid for the ones it
to he said at the end of the day of
Annabella Pasha Boehner and he brings
rightfully saying that the other way out
is through prayer as you know in twelve
steps there has to be a higher authority
without a higher authority nothing works
even in twelve steps through the phases
of it that you connect to a higher power
then I want to close our shared into
what a quarter century we know who it is
the end of the days of the Rama in Perry
she she all our children that are dying
all the children are suffering there's
so many that you don't hear of stop it
to them get their names find out who
they are and prison because even if you
get locked out of your hotel room
Melissa keys on the bed or your booty
them in there and you don't have another
key there's a master key
and the master key belongs to the
manager of a hotel and I never
understood how that one key opens all
the doors purse with you step hotkey
they're either open all the doors but
there's always a master key
so the Rambam and the other day but a
personal reasons is key because it is a
big shame
there is one holding that master key
that is God go the manager the hotel and
ask him to open your door
and bargaining it to it every day that I
Shem should give our children and all
the addicts that are inclined slower in
the whole world a chef should give them
back their shoes
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