Amudim and Ohel Addiction Awareness Event - Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein 7-15-2017

thank you very very much I'd like to thank go with Lake for doing this most amazing amazing Charlotte that you have done and tonight all the people would like to welcome what's here of course I'd like to thank oh hell everyone here knows the work that they do absolutely amazing and dr. Mandela puts me ahead of it I'd also like to thank a mood in sleepwalking here and I have to tell you that they're very real organization we have a we opened up two months ago a ranch for an inpatient mental facility for Jewish girls right here in nan vessel and there are a few girls that were coming from family that really could not pay at all for their care and I quote see and immediately ammu dim took you the situation and those girls lives are being saved only because he was able to react and take care of the payments that need to be made to the co-directors in this it's a it's a horse ranch so there's a lot of therapy that way and cos reacts abloom always reacts mate what they say they do they really do oh hell but they say they do they really do so as a task force amount I don't really know the counselor that advertised and I want to thank them also so I'd like to talk about addiction I like to talk about prevention I'd like to put my intervention and I like to give you a little bit of an understanding from the tyre of how the total looks at addiction and a famous cover Yasir who was a sod de novo who lived about three hundred fifty years ago wrote a very holy holy safer that the seed of and many other tsadikim always had on their table he actually told the story of addiction which is actually 350 years old but I'd like to try to explain a little bit with a muscle which I have spoken this I was spoken about this in the number one Hospital in addiction in Boston my talk about this in Utah with the Mormons and welcome had been received very very well and can give us an understanding exactly talk about it today with someone so let me explain to you what addiction is so I am very against giving children on forum to drink it's complex don't go people open their houses they give them whiskey that gives them wine it should get drunk in 1314 years old people like to have all steam you got a chill you know a lot of get drunk on poor isn't supposed to get drunk on forum so most of the people are worried in the other type is that you see before for you from all the different organizations is we don't want our kids driving drunk and God forbid killing someone so that can be solved by having the kids being driven around the limo as you see so we could solve that problem but that's not the problem let me explain to you an addiction how it starts so we assuming beings every interaction everything that we go through in life creates a road in our cycle whether it's trauma we know you know that I'm Buddhism stands for sexual abuse and what that does through a child and all the different things that we go through in life create all these different roads so you have this acute 14 years old she's in your house support him and he gets drunk so he creates a road in his psyche oh my goodness I was great I'm not a talkative kid I'm an introvert but when you trade you become an extrovert you're laughing you're chummy you having a good time with your friends you're buzzed you're not in pain and you create this road into psyche called drunk you smoke one joint like rabbi wall think come on I'm just going to smoke once not the end of the world does it make me an addict I'm just going to gamble pronounce Atlantic City once rabbi what is wrong with and the answer is that that experience that you have creates this world the reason that ninety percent a discussion this week with someone who will have a rehab to drugs in Florida there's a hundred bags the objective of that we have is that after 30 days they can send them home and not have them return for 30 days such success 90% of addicts after a 30-day rehab than doing it again why this guy goes to rehab for 30 days he's in groups she's getting therapy in be taught he's clean why 90 percent relapse and success in these therapeutic places is only the amount of time between relapses the first time we was here took 30 day three left the second plan we had them 90 days the third time he's a year and we finally way to get to a point where he won't relapse again it's a great business could you get return customers white 90% they really want to get better why do people get clean for five years six years eight years I ever friend has not smoked in 25 years just started smoking like a chimney 25 years is clean how can you go back to smoking yeah there's a crazy situation with this kid but why would you go back to talking and the answer is now once you create this road in your psyche and then you go to rehab or whatever did you decide I'm not on my gambling anymore I'm not taking anymore I'll ask for whatever that whatever your addiction is so you closed the road okay I looked it up a black in my seat they were always working on the road it was always those those pylons those are things with a board road closed but I would not the blocks I got out of my car and move the pile on I move the orange things I pulled in I put them back to the next guy and I drove up to my house so when you have a world where you have done drugs were drinking gambling all the other addictions you're the world you created you cannot get rid of that world but you can close it because your experiences in your life you cannot erased but you could close that road and we do close Bell Road and the Attic does close that road and it comes home from rehab ninety-degree had he decided he is going to get better the problem is that something in life something happens it is life something happens in business someone dies with very close to a friend Odie's automatically as a human being you go back to the things that made you feel good so when I was drunk and I know that when I'm drunk I feel no pain when I go back into my psyche to get away from the pain that I'm going through right now I come to this row that's close but it's there and it says drunk feel good glass drugs anesthesia and I comforted I rode and I'm in a lot of pain it's so easy for me to move the pylons I'm just going to take one head I'm not going to take another hit I'm just going to take one drink big deal I'm just going to go to AC or Vegas for one day just get away from everything and you move the closing of the road and now the world is over that's relapse but if you've never got drunk I was every drunk in my life sorry say that's all the people I said that's commenting on I feel bad to use a fire that you never felt what if you like to get drunk but I'm a very impulsive person the worst connector have ever happened is if I would go with that fear of life because what I'm going through pressure and I close that road I'm going to secretly move that road and take a drink and feel better I don't know what it feels like so I don't know that it's an expanding I don't know that it making filled with the people that I see that I'm drunk they work silly and they're throwing up and they're nauseous they later with the headache said to me like why would you do something like that I don't have that road so when I'm in pain and I'm avoiding something really bad right I don't have that boat to go to so when I look for a role to get better here I'm not opening a new road at all for that I'm not over here I'm not stupid relegated on new road but I will go back to my old stuff the people from the how of course many of them are Courtney Hill absorbers my mother feelings underwent is a problem they weren't updated - why because during the house it's all they had my mother was not a March well she having a real killer we said all day so her cool - which is in pain is it - Hillman that's for role for the problem is the Wall Street events the case if I everyday drugs or I ever drank or any addiction that I did you're telling me I'm stuck that road there it's closed but it's there so I'm never be able to get better the answer is no you can't get better as you around mom and look at the children and the realm of until Tituba says that a person a leader from inside you want to look it up the price you see given a shot possible she gets my other great girdle that a person could do such a big thing I got coin Robin or consider doing a sin over and over and over until he is not able to do Juba medicine you created such a highway by doing that sin over and over and over and over and me that's sure the minute you need to go somewhere that's your rule is you always going down that road your GPS knows that's the road as well mom says you're gonna wanna magic go to that road you can as you for sure gonna fall if you do such a big of a run it's so big that's such a big highway in your psyche then when you go back in your you're out of the show you're out of you're in trouble you're a situation you're definitely going to go on that highway so what do you do you do the opposite of what the red line was the realm of us talking about a thin you create a mitzvah that's so big now when you're in trouble and you're looking for that out and you're going into your psyche automatically by the way 90 minutes 90 minutes thinking process and you go into the site and you looking for the stuff that used to make you happy or used to make you not feel there's such a big mix were there you had such enjoyment doing that that highway is blacking them with a load that has all the pylons closed ourselves around them if you do a mitzvah over and over it's like a GPS - to a mixer over and over and over and over again becomes part of you so though you're under pressure there guys are under pressure they're going to learn they started learning and learning and learning and some joy or their business they're like you know what I'm not going to do this today I'm going to go sit learn a whole day what does that mean what are you doing we're going to learn because he started learning and every single day he's learning and learning away whatever the mid-foot whatever the midst is if you do it over and over and over it's the opposite of the avera you have to create the only way to fix the road that's closed is to create a new road it's much more traveled and much bigger than the road that's closed I'm talking to you from experience I'm talking to you from experience I'm not getting into it but I'm talking to you from experience who rode in my life are closed I don't go to because of the roads that are open because of our Nava and the things that I do when I on the Miranda pressure I go there I go to my high school to my BCA and I sit with the girls there and I talk to them and I'm like wow what what's going on over here I go believe it or not I think I got more use from the ranch than the growth of their I go to the horses that go to the ranch I go to the plate in and I thought I used to now there are much much bigger than the roads I used to go to that were really no good so to wade through the attic and any anyone will know that the first thing they tell inadequate leads rehab you must change your environment you must change your environment you must stay away from the roads and the dealers and the places and the kids and the hangout that you used to be on because if you're going to be so close to that row that's close you would end up going down that road that is the number what's the number two thing it keeps an addict from and a lot of the sober living homes got this that keeps an addict from relapsing on a good job because of every single day you go to work and you make money and you feel good about yourself and guess what when you're under that pressure you're going to work a little bit harder you may even become a workaholic and that's going to become your role but that much less destroying than the roads that kill us so according to the round on the way to break the roads that you can't break is to create a good road and I tell that to all the guys I'm like if you think you're going to come out of rehab and you should have hang out and after do anything with your life you will move the pylons in the road that's close and the reason that ninety percent relapse is because that road exists and they don't have another road yet 30 days you don't have another one yet so the intervention that we need to create for these kids that we need to give them jobs we can give them something that's bigger than the drug that's bigger that they do all the toilet cause part of it and therefore when they need to do something they shouldn't be doing they go to a positive place that's the intervention I want to read you a colleague uh sure then we'll go to the next speaker it's a very interesting say for the Commission very very holy preciso wrote that he had on his desk all the time that whenever fights over the trouble he would learn from the Kalayaan and they would see Yeshua Yeshua the name of the Amalekites same thing you can read it in the preview so he brings up a very different kind of story and from the story ask me the difference a column insert the father says there was a very very rich man who was a big Monza he could not give sadaqa he could not he didn't come to show Monday and Thursday because Monday Thursday they collected stuff she could not give the government but he did one thing had she was a mile and he was doing risk Mila to anyone for free that was this rich boy and he did it all the time Chris Miller for free in a good way off everybody used to get him one day of if you want to see this as present in the individual contingent listen to you like Alyosha so one day this beautiful tall man comes in and says to him are you the wily suggest he says I need someone to abridge me while my son would you do it is on a percent where you live we said three they traveled in the woods the forest it takes is bismillah k2 gets onto the wagon that's very good-looking and they drive into this jeep far far away from everyone and in this Morris is beautiful city with mansions all over the place the man says to the Mayo listen I'm going to go bring the horses in the wagon into the barn you go in and check out the baby presented for the meal so he comes into the room with or is it where the wife is in the room with the baby the contract on the baby that they did yellow or not and the wife starts women says do you know where you are if you haven't submitted here in the woods you go no my husband is not a human being my husband is a Shindou it a shade of Mallik and this whole town is auction dollars near a big danger she says I mean you in women girl that was kidnapped by then I'm Jewish he married me we had a child and in child needed reasoning love by the way it will replace him from the story past another child from shambhala Hanna Jewish human woman has developed this notice nothing to do with what's before us tonight and he said she said I'm warning you if you take anything from them anything they give you something and you take anything from them you should know and you'll never get out of it you belong to them don't take anything and don't tell them that you know who they are okay he comes to the boil he says why didn't I get tonight was making a bust not for the baby peach pump says I'll tell you the truth and I had a very tough ride I need to lay down I can't I can't work built into the bris tomorrow morning see he works his way out of it and that night he goes to sleep he's shaking and then a city of shaded he's like I'm gonna do this bridge I'm going to get out of here the next morning he comes to show he does the bris on the baby after the bridge the ships in the shade and invited to sit down to the saludo he knows he can't pay anything for them so he says to them listen I had a terrible dream last night very scary dream and I took out a pass : the facts when I dream I can't each other okay sit through the bridge and I gotta get back home so the shin valladon brought up who having them in the head of them all puts him in a way and all the way out of the city he says we have to stop I have a warehouse I need to show you what I have in my warehouse he doesn't want to tell me no thanks okay you want to show me fine very scared comes to the first room in the first room we know from the tomorrow that they steal whatever you're missing something and the boats that go to the bottom to see this is what they collected gumar vote for that machine doll so this room full of crowns and jewels and my face and all kind of stuff and he said to the mile since you did you all my son I have to pay you for - anything you want to destroy absolutely not I don't want anything on the rich guy don't need it take it to the next room is diamond that what kind of jewels take anything from this room I managed the romantic ancient religion comes to the third room I write to me diffusion excitement he come for the third room and he opens the door and the moil turns white and starts to shape from what he saw and this is what it says well cool i got some i alika all of them boiled didn't want anything the Haitians we can't give a lot of flavor to the grounds as well have jewels and money especially mother exhibit a telephone he went through a room and in this room there were millions of keys of tables are they which we mail a table as far as our border they were hanging right now I get my issue my loss of our death and the Maya was wandering rob a house consumer wishing tea because the asset he saw his keys his key from his warehouses in there and his security boxes and everything the Shambala Diocese of Milan she dollars per mile are dining my master his Shiva proclaim doesn't involve you saw all my gold always over and he wears in shock and this light pair of keys minute a metal your shot my Lancer and he met me Ashish edition of paper shall we how do you have my keys with what on earth because the mile for such a Thompson and every time someone active forces other would it give them another he loses his he lose his choice but it had a person who the alcoholic you put white you could whisk me and run ahead that he still have choice every human being has a choice but he wants his choice he stole a human with choice in life or when it comes to alcohol he has no choice you know white says the commotion because he lost his team because when you do something bad over and over and over and over you no longer have the key to change they're hanging by the dark side they've got your teeth you've lost your teeth that's addiction addiction is another one a person who lost his keys he can't have a choice anymore he can't server the door he's won his pie up he's shamed they had his kids and the boy did not want to take anything from the shaylen so he couldn't ask him back for his keys and the shed now it said to him God must be with you because we offered you food you didn't take a look at the go didn't take it have you taken something you have never gotten out of it must be the UFC as of the schmeyer so I'm going to give you back your keys and you don't have to worry because since there's yours we didn't really get a deal so the company laid he came back to his town he took his money people to Shiva's his measures he didn't attempt a shot at this matter in nineteen appending to anyone what are we doing became the biggest italic you over the wall azides race because he got back excuse ladies and gentlemen what was discussed that he got back his keys exactly what I told you in the first part of my speech and the round Ron said he gotta do something good over and over and over and over the good or very big because that's how you get to keep that his middle of this mirror that he never said no to anybody that's what got him back his keys with the covers for only way to break addiction is to create to get your keys back if you create something that sanitation is trimming addiction but something that you do that so big through the head off I don't know what Saddam philosophy if you're a gambler nobody going to give you to that except to a gambler or you doing something that gives you so much the adrenaline rush that you got in gambling in waiting that night that adrenaline rush does so here the adrenaline rush when you save a kid's life when you bring summer clothes pleasure when you make sure wise people to want to talk to each other and you bring them back together that's rush is bigger than any other rush the only way out and around month closes he says although they don't have an addiction feel solid for the ones it to he said at the end of the day of Annabella Pasha Boehner and he brings rightfully saying that the other way out is through prayer as you know in twelve steps there has to be a higher authority without a higher authority nothing works even in twelve steps through the phases of it that you connect to a higher power then I want to close our shared into what a quarter century we know who it is the end of the days of the Rama in Perry she she all our children that are dying all the children are suffering there's so many that you don't hear of stop it to them get their names find out who they are and prison because even if you get locked out of your hotel room Melissa keys on the bed or your booty them in there and you don't have another key there's a master key and the master key belongs to the manager of a hotel and I never understood how that one key opens all the doors purse with you step hotkey they're either open all the doors but there's always a master key so the Rambam and the other day but a personal reasons is key because it is a big shame there is one holding that master key that is God go the manager the hotel and ask him to open your door and bargaining it to it every day that I Shem should give our children and all the addicts that are inclined slower in the whole world a chef should give them back their shoes [Applause]