How I Met The Rebbetzin • Rabbi Yehuda Clapman

I know at a certain point you somehow had a cash with the rabbit. So how did that start? As I said we got married in and then when it came the first which was already of course because so I saw an advertisement about a kit for making candles on yourself by yourself do it yourself candle kit. And I thought that sounded pretty good. Let me get it. I got and I said, you know, let me make the sham candles because I didn't really believe they were pure pure beeswax anyway. So, let me see if I could make it. And I did. They're beautiful long tapered candles and they looked so nice. I said, "No, let me make a set for the rabbit, too." So, I made another set, packed them up, went to the house, knocked on the door. >> You never spoke to the before? >> No. And then uh I heard a very sweet voice asking though who's there. So I said uh Clapman Clapman >> A Clapman. >> Yeah. Somebody Clapman guy. I didn't know what to say. It's me. You know just so Davidson opened the door and I explained to that uh boss in the house we made candles and we like clever sat here. I don't think I said the reba and like clever s here. So she discussed first of all was very icy and she wanted she was concerned about how I made the trip to go down the whole driveway. I don't know if you have about the house the whole driveway all the way to the back of the steps and to get to the door. It was like a long J. So uh she discussed that with me about the difficulty coming through that all that to get here. And then uh she complimented the candles and thanked me and then she wanted me to repeat my name. So you say what was your name again? So she said whose house they make such gorgeous candles. So I took it that she wanted. I said by ask clapman but the way she put it to she repeat my name was very aid very refined. It wasn't who are you? She put it in such a way that it's so beautiful. In whose house do they make these beautiful candles? And then we started going every year. I should say I went every year. >> So every year that became a thing. You would knock on on the door. Yeah. >> And give the rabbits and candles. >> Yeah. >> And then one year I asked, "Could we bring the children?" This is skipping a whole bunch of years. >> So you started this right away when you man. >> Yeah. >> Okay. So many years later you have kids. >> So I asked Davidson if we could bring if I could bring the children when we come. >> Mhm. >> So she said yes. And but the only thing is I need some time to be able to make a party. I have to go shopping. That's what it is. I have to go shopping. >> So I asked her what kind of shopping we have to go shopping for. I have to make a party. >> Exactly. So you called her. >> No. Yeah. >> You called her before? >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> And I she said she she can come anytime you want. I just need time to go shopping. And shopping for what? And she'll make a party. A party? What are you having a party for? I said the visit is plenty. >> Mhm. So she told me you should know that whenever you have children over you have to make a party. >> It became so ingrained in us that later on to have grandchildren. So sometimes you have to differentiate between say za who z which bubba is it? So he used to call us zade and bubby nash because we became famous with we always had a nash closet as big as a candy store. Ever since said whenever you have children over you have to then so we brought the children over and then that became a you know a tradition every year to come with the kids. >> So what would happen when you would come with the children? >> Each year was something else. One particular year I told the first time I told the children that if passes around the candy dish I figure might happen. So you can only take one candy and she'll pass it around again one candy as many times as she just one candy at a time. So Edson took out a candy dish and she hand it to my oldest daughter and then and then each one took one candy and started again. Came to my youngest daughter who was there at the time and she took a candy and then she said that's how sometimes they have candy. She stuck it in handy. She already knew how to take Andy. But after she took it, she realized it wasn't nice. So she started to give it back. So Deson was taking them and putting my oldest daughter's pocket. >> So Debson took it back from her all the candies, >> one candy at a time, whatever it was, and then put in the pocket of my oldest daughter. So So you know the game round robin is. So it's like round robin. This one's passing and taking and giving. And then they wound up in my daughter's pocket. So they went when they went home, they had candy already. Um, another year before Khanek, I brought home a very beautiful heavy big block wooden drreel. Mom was a chunk of wood. It was a beautiful big place with beautiful painted letters on it. So, my son grabbed and said, "We go to them and said, "We're going to give this stuff for a gift." So, they polished it up and they boxed it and they wrapped it with bows and it really looked beautiful. Came to the house and asked and told Evson to have a gift for her. So she took the gift, thanked them and she wanted know you want me to open it now or later and they all jumped now. So she opened up and started playing drreidle and you can almost picture the scene or it's hard to picture the scene. Here's a lady sitting very regally and bunch of kids laying over the table and they're playing drle together and every time she spun the drreel she got a gimbal and after a bunch of gimbals she >> This was before Kaneka though, right? >> A day or two before >> and um >> so every time she's getting a gimbal. >> Yeah. and she said smiled, looked up and she smiled and said, "I'm good at this." So the the picture was awesome. The scene was awesome. A lady said, "Look, mom, it's like a bubby or an elabor sitting and playing with our grandchildren drele. They all laying over the table and somehow when they went they they weren't like tin soldiers, you know, they snuggled up to it." M >> another year we came and uh there was a fearsome dog in the in the backyard and the next door neighbor towards New York Avenue side and uh that dog was b >> a dog in the in the >> adjacent house to the >> in the neighbors on the New York Avenue side, not the Brooklyn Avenue side. >> Mhm. And when the kids came to the back, that dog was like a bear. A poor soul literally like a head kids >> in general. When people would come to the Debb's house, it would always go to the back. That's what it sounds like. >> I don't know. We came to the back. >> And uh cuz my brother used to deliver to them. So he went from the back. So we went to the back also. >> And um >> the brother delivered what? >> He used to deliver for bread, meat. >> Mhm. So, uh, the kids were screaming frantically. Debson opened the door. She didn't have to say who's there. She just opened the kids were running in. It was very interesting when she closed the door. She calmed each child down. She didn't make it. It's nothing, you know, don't worry about it. No. She calmed each child down and then she told them that I don't like the dog either, but they told me that it should be there for security reasons. So, but I don't like it. And then she explained what she doesn't like. She said because the people who come to visit me are scared because of the dog and it bothers me. They're coming to visit me and my guests uh you know are scared. So it was a big muscle that her your pain was her pain. She s yeah dog no didn't make a difference to her but when she sees the reaction of the people who come to her that bothers her. Lessons for us. You can't just say somebody everything will be okay. You know you have to feel for them. And she showed the