Yisro: All In!

Welcome to all shish and thank you for joining us. One of the most fundamental one of the most fundamental ideas from the yard is this week this upcoming week is on the tells to go up and be there says what does that mean be there you're there just told him to go there what's the says be there is telling you the approach and the idea and the secret to how to maximize any experience be there don't just go up with your body but actually be there. Experience live soak in focus on the thing that you're doing and learning. It's like that with every mitzvah in the Tyra and with every detail and with every in the Tyra to really connect with the thing you have to be there to heard from something is that people don't fold a talis after ding on shabas and they fold shabas they leave it by the shabas right after shabas and it said to be a school of shambias now why is it a school of shambi bias how is folding a talis on m shabas why is it a school of shambi bias so he said why don't you fold your talis on shabas because it's for for the weekday cuz it should be it should be needed the weekday. That's called a hakana. Now, why is it a you're putting it away anyhow? Why should you put it away messy? You know, you're going to use it again. So, the idea is that when you're in a gul, when you're in a place, when you're surrounded by kadusha, you don't see past that. I only see what's in front of me. And right now, I see shabas stick. So, I don't think, okay, I'm putting it away, but when I need I guess I'm all people only had one talis. I'm going to need it on Sunday. So, it should be neat. There's no Sunday. There's only Shabas. there's only where I am. So he said when you fold them shabas what you're doing is reiterating the value of this idea of when you're when a person's in kadusha when they're surrounded by kadusha that's the only place they're at. I'm nowhere else. He said that's bias because I'm not a he is he says when you sit with people you see that if somebody says something not nice to their spouse or vice versa and let's say the offender would say right away I'm so sorry I said that I'll never say anything like that again. Then generally the other person will be okay with it. The problem is when somebody does [clears throat] something that one spouse perceives as a as a flaw or as a fault, they think, okay, you always do that or you never do that. It's the pattern that destroys shias. That means my spouse said this or did this or didn't do this and they never do that. They don't care about me. It's seeing the offending action is defining them way beyond this moment. If we could believe and say right now things are good, then things are good. That means if we could train ourselves to say right this moment things are okay. So they said something bad and they apologized. And I'm not going to say yeah they apologized this time but next time or there's a bigger pattern right now things are okay. They apologized let's live in this moment. If you could bring the into your marriage then you're going to have shias and then and then he said the the the sight of the talis is the moment of contemplation of folding the talis when a person's in a good place they're only in that place which is why you don't fold the talis on chabas. Then you understand how it's the sight of Bas for the new week and like the Katsk is teaching us it's theight of and of the grab.