Vayeira 5786 - Haoras Panim

we have in the parish starts with being um au and there doesn't really seem to be any particular reason why um it needed [clears throat] to be so we have a malik that heals of we need to heal of a we need to be masser okay and to be mafik's stone but doesn't seem to be any real reason just for the visit doesn't you know it's by a by a person we do it because that's that's what we can do to help someone can heal someone or not heal someone but just having the visit for visit's sake is it's hard to understand what the point is there was no real civ that was intended in in this paint there was no we don't have anything really concrete coming out of it So the Ramban speaks about it and the Ramban says that it's the the para is ex telling us that very point the par is telling us that there was no there was no at this point later on stone and and so on. So he says It is it was there to be and when they finished bring the and then there was a fire came down and so on and so forth. So um Dan explains that this appearance was there only to show them and to tell them who um were satisfied with what they did. So I want to uh explain a little bit this point. It's something that is um is important understanding many of those places of Gilekina and Nissim and so on the um it's actually one of the schmuzen has a whole string of different nissim that are recorded in kazaw that don't seem to be of any significance in terms terms of what purpose they served. So for instance, he has [clears throat] um the uh the the the that Joseph outside they brought him down to Mitim and it was in a wagon that smelled nicely. It didn't have the normally bad smelling stuff. It had some and that's they took him down. Now um that's strange. Um, y sad is being sold as a slave and the harshest worst thing that could happen and it's um and and there's a miler there that it's going to be something that is smells good. It's like imagine somebody I mean I hate to use the marshall but somebody making sure that in the cattle cause that it took a person to Awitz they would have air freshener. I I I mean it's so absurd. It also brought down it would bring down the it says by David [clears throat] says he he shot the sling at him and the stone hit him in his forehead and he fell forward on his head. Now, normally that would be um it's it's not usual. If you would hit somebody on the head with a stone, he would fall backwards. So, it says that because wanted to spare David do the effort to go forward, he have to walk a few more meters to get so he had him flipped over on this side. Now this is something which is I mean the battle with Golas was really really um frightening. It was something that you know he he without and he would have been killed and the miracle happened. it was that that he was the one who would not that's an incredible miracle but now that he's going to have to walk another few meters to be able to cut off the head is is it important and more than that it says that Keshu does not do nim in any way that are not you know that for not kashu quotequote is reluctant to nissim it's something that does not want to be machinist basious and and kazal speak against creating miracles, doing miracles that don't have a very clear purpose. So why would au do all these? I mean, he has a whole list of different n like that where it does not really seem that it is of any um real significance. So Kim said something which I think is really the the meaning of Ramban over here. He he coined the phrase of Arasanim meaning when I help you with something. [snorts] So you can reciprocate by doing something, buy me a very nice gift or or helping me in a situation. I need help. But the most important response is har punim. If I see the look on your face, the smile, the the glint in your eyes, some sign of a satisfaction, then that's [snorts] that completes the circle reciprocating in kind by giving something and so on so forth. It's nice, but the most critical part is to have that. Without that, I don't know. It's one of the reasons why when somebody's caring for um a person who's in a coma or something, it becomes very hard and frustrating because you can't notice uh um a reciprocity on the on the from the person that you're helping. There's no smile, there's no acknowledgement, nothing. So, you assume that what you're doing is being very help helpful. It makes a lot of sense but but you don't get that and it becomes very hard to do it. [clears throat] One of the things one of the reasons why and is so difficult is because there is no sense of reciprocity. I believe that if I do the right things is happy with me but I don't have a way to perceive that. So there's no figure, there's no person and so on and so forth. So therefore um it makes avoda very difficult. It becomes once onesided without having anything to reflect back and and say yes it's it's it's it's uh it's it's it's good because the purpose of all of these things is to fast relationship. who created a system where he can indicate to us that there is rotten um so the um the the the first and foremost reflects that wants me who's interested in me. So whenever this is what Raman says whenever somebody um does something very special very good there there is gushina um you know obviously it's a very great thing he says and I'll quote the the way he phrases it is just like Mishkan when the fire came and consumed everything it said because they worked so hard at building the mishk to perceive the purpose of that was not to tell them anything to instruct them or or or anything like it. It's there as a reward for the mitzah that was already done to inform them. So the fact that was Mr. Ratz in in Yoda he reflected [clears throat] that with with this thing. Um this is probably the the reason this is this is clearly the reason when we when we dive in with say in in the um in in Schwanesser we're we're asking that what we've asked for um find favor's eyes that the bakos itself is something that's ncabatson sometimes we can ask for something that's inappropriate and proper uh frivolous not good and then it would not be all the lurson but we're asking for something that is laren that's why we ask it with ray is a filler for that so Raban is saying over here that at this is point is where um reveal to us a new type of anhagu reveal himself in prophetic vision in order to tell us what to do and and you know to to to to give us civuim and so on to teach us those are all gillium with a purpose. Then the ghillie itself, the fact that the person has this type of ghillie is the feedback from the person's nice. It's something where the person does something and is showing that it that that it was quote unquote well received. It's it's an extraordinarily powerful feedback mechanism that when we see in then we are encouraged to do a lot more all the all of those are aligned with the same point. We want to make sure that what we've done has found favor and that our kajesh will show us in the feedback that favor. I want to add something. So this is this is D Ramban's explanation over here and it definitely is a um is is a very very important point in understanding many times when Kusho didn't need him or appeared for really um no you know for no specific reason for nothing for no action other [clears throat] than just appearing giving our respon we I'd like to add the point to this Raman um we know that we're asked to emulate. We're asked to imitate and to and to and to act with others the way he acts with the world. So are things that we're very well aware of and we've heard it many times so forth. But we've just learned another um and that is haring that in or it is very difficult when we're doing things and we have no visible feedback that the the one who we did it for is Moz has aid of giving feedback of harim and to show that that that that is if that's then it's an appropriate hugger for us to um take on visav our fellow man people um know that you have to thank and give thank thanks Hakarat to that's very wonderful but a much more natural hakarat to is harim. When a person looks at me and sees my gratitude, my joy and things of that nature, it's very very powerful. What the first thing a person looking for is to see did it really find favor in his eyes. Does he really like it? Does it really please him? training ourselves to express that to express with our face with our attention with our focus whatever whatever it takes so that the person sees that we are appreciating is is a is a meditation of a very extraordin that he made him appear by then hoger that made him bring the divine fire in the Mishkan and when brought to us in the beginning and so on. All them are examples of where Kadesh is may upon him. Um, and we should have the same hog being made upon him to people that did for