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Okay, >> paras vira. There's a very interesting pik and a very interesting lesson that we can learn from this pik. The sayim is when the destroyed the etc. the the wicked cities remembered as light. So the says remembered abro and as a result of that lo his nephew was saved. So Rashi comments on this he remembered we saved lot you know what do the one have to do with each other says Rashi What? What's this? He remembered. So says Rashi Rashi says over here light what the night load had. He knew Rome came down to Mitzim and he said to everybody, "This is my sister." As we all know, it's not his sister. It's his wife. He was afraid they would kill him. So says Rashi. He knew the truth. He knew that Sorrow was not his sister, but his wife. It was the secret and it didn't spill the beans. This is the that load had to be saved from stone and other cities because he had a what was the he knew that Aravine was not telling the truth. There was a secret. He was doing this to save his life and he don't go he didn't go ahead and tell the secret and in that lot was saved. Now this is a uh strange rashi. Why is that? So the including the light the reason saved load is because loved him risked his life for load. Why do you have to go ahead because he kept the secret light with went within is leaving up a person's country etc etc. Lord went with him that's so you have to go ahead and come up to say kept a secret. Why? So that's the Ram's kasha. the moral in the gur goes on this kasha as well and he and he goes ahead and he gives his but the fact say that this is the he kept a secret this is one of the sisra terror. This is one of the the the u the he secrets of the terra the hidden things of the terra. Now the moral goes ahead and explains why he needed this particular but I would like to share with you a interesting from the present treb inim. The point that the moral himself makes is that there had to be a connection between a and lot in order for lot to be saved. What was that connection? As I mentioned, the moral has his mahal. But the wants to suggest the following. The Mishna tells us a famous Mishna. If a person has these character traits, then he's au excelled in these three areas. says the what are they means was generous of spirit he was a generous person when someone else had a was happy you know there's expression in Yiddish hard to translate it into English but there's an expression called farint far body which means you know somebody's had very hot in his I'm struggling but I'm happy for you that's called generosity of spirit was humble as the says he was humble in spite of the fact that He was the prince of the of the of of the country of the region but nevertheless it didn't go to his head means he was he was happy with what he hadim he was happy with whatever he had he wasn't interested in luxuries he wasn't in in he was wealthy this and that but he didn't need that was happy was if you have all of these three meters then you're consider yourself a common denominator between all of these things is it goes against human nature means we are we tend to be stingy we tend to be jealous It bothers us when our neighbor has everything so well and we're struggling. You know that's the way that that's the way human human beings work. So a person to go ahead and to have an eye in ta to be happy with somebody else's success that's controlling your your instincts your innate uh proclivities. We're all born with egos and sometimes we can't control our egos. Most of the time we cannot control our egos. But is a humble person in spite of all of his success goes against human nature. Nephesa we want we want we want. You know the old expression, a person baby's born into this world with his hands flinch clenched and leaves the world with his hands up as if to say I want it all. We can't we can't have it all. But again that's that is human nature. A ravine who excelled in controlling his human nature, the the the less than noble thoughts and and behavior that human beings have. He was humble. He was he was generous of spirit. He was not into accumulating all the wealth. That's a venu. In order for a person to be to be attached off Roma, he has to share those things. Where did Loach show these things? He certainly wasn't a a humble person. He moved to stone in order to get rich. So he did not have these these all these attributes of a Roman venino. But nevertheless, he showed something that he controlled human nature. And you know what that is? Keeping a secret. You know, you think about it. Somebody tells you a secret. Well, don't tell anybody. Well, you can trust me. I'm not going to tell a soul. What do you do? You tell as many people as you can. Why? Because you have knowledge. You have information. And by going and sharing that, hey, I need this guy. This guy is somebody. He's I I I'm, you know, I'm showing I really know what's going on. So the tone reb this is me, you know, points the following scenario. A load comes into in Mitzim, okay? He's of Roma's uh nephew, whatever. He walks into a tavern at night, sits down at the at the at the bar, and people come over to him. Hey, I understand you're you're Rome's note and nephew. Yeah, he's here with his his his his sister. Lord says, I got a secret to tell you. What's that? It's not his sister. It's his wife. Now, Noah Lot could have become a somebody. Everybody would crowd around him. Hey, what else do you know about a Roma? He kept the secret. He was kyish that that tendency that we have to share the secrets in order for us to go ahead and to you know become somebody important at least for 15 minutes. By doing that, by not sharing the secret, load showed I'm able to control my instincts, my emotions, my proclivities, my desires. That made him connected to Afro Ainu. And therefore in the school of afroinu lot was saved.